Love and Sex Unfiltered

I'm back!! I can't wait to start sharing with you the lessons and tips I've been using to feel healthier and work on my relationships. In this podcast I'll be sharing the foundational tools that I am using to get to know myself that I think everyone can benefit from. As always you can follow me on all social media platforms @thesonyajensen or sign up for my weekly newsletter and by visiting my website www.SonyaJensen.com

Saying goodbye is never easy, but this comes from a place of love. So, in this episode Sonya says her goodbye to her amazing listeners for personal reasons. She values you so much, she wanted to say this personally. ----more---- Moreover, she talks about burnout in this episode. Sonya emphasizes on people knowing what burnout is but not doing anything about it. She also gave tips on how to spot burnout and what you can do about it. Vulnerability and genuineness is what this episode entails. Listen to this short episode to know why Sonya decided to put this podcast to an end and how burnout should be treated. ----more---- Despite ending this podcast, you can still connect with Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen and get a free ebook by visiting her website https://sonyajensen.com

Do you even remember the first time you ever saw porn? When that happened, were you embarrassed about watching it? In this episode, Sonya and Ophelia tell us why porn shouldn’t be much of a taboo. Instead, it can be educational material. ----more---- We all know that when we were growing up, most of us were scared or embarrassed to even talk about porn and how we like it in the bedroom. Because of this lack of knowledge, there are people who get sick, hurt, or unsatisfied. Sonya and Ophelia further elaborates on how optimizing porn can be helpful in the long run. ----more---- They also shared their experiences and how they came to discuss this topic. Just like you, Sonya and Ophelia went through puberty and weird stages wherein they were not encouraged to explore their wants and needs. Also, they talk about the importance of porn and understanding it when it comes to building healthy and happy relationships. ----more---- Listen now to know all of these in detail! ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Do you have moments wherein you worry too much about everything and anything? That might not be a simple worry, it might be anxiety. If you are experiencing that, this episode is perfect for you. ----more---- In this episode, Sonya and Ophelia talk about anxiety. They discuss how it affects their daily lives and how they cope up with it. They may have different ways of coping up, but they agree on one thing- compromise. ----more---- It’s that middle ground in any relationship that is important to understand the other party. Sonya and Ophelia also talk about the role of their partners in battling and living with anxiety. ----more---- Listen now to learn how these two amazing women see and cope with anxiety in their daily lives. ----more----  Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen or visit www.sonyajensen.com to know more about her.

Let's be real, faith and sexuality often do not go well. In most religions, we are taught that there is a correct way of living and anything other than that will result in eternal damnation. ----more---- In this episode, Sonya talks about her journey towards exploring and understanding sexuality and balancing faith. It is not an easy thing to do and she talks about how there is no one way to do it. We are all affected differently by religion towards our sense of self and sexuality. Hence, we have different learning curves. ----more---- By accepting this diversity and having that openness to different things may get messy. Sonya emphasizes that being messy is okay. She is still learning how to be more at peace with her sexuality. There is definitely a deep psychological brought by these societal and religious standards. So, it is okay to spend your lifetime unlearning and learning different virtues and beliefs. ----more---- Tune in to this episode to learn more about finding the balance between faith and sexuality. ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia are joined by their guest Isiah McKimmie, a couples therapist and sexologist in Australia who helps couples create a more harmonious relationship and aids women in feeling more confident about their bodies. This episode empowers women to give themselves permission to explore and love their own bodies and discover what is pleasurable to them so that they could communicate these to their partners. Tune in to find out how masturbation can help women be more attuned to their body's wants, and how at least 45 minutes of foreplay could improve a couple's sex life! You can connect with Isiah on: Instagram @Isiahmckimmie.sexologist Her Website: https://www.isiah-mckimmie.com

Self-care is often neglected due to a woman’s busy schedule at work, as a wife and as a mother. In this episode, Sonya and her guest Kandice Crow discuss the importance of self-care and how it affects a woman’s confidence, body image and sex life. They talk through simple self care habits such as getting botox, taking care of one’s skin, getting a massage, plus delve into topics like what it means to be “over touched” and how much sex an average couple should have. ----more---- Kandice Crow is a nurse injector and co-owner of the Aurora Medical Spa in Georgetown, Texas. Visit their website at www.auroramedicalspaatx.com ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia chat with Jens Petter, one of the creators of the Handy, a high-tech sex toy for men. This episode unlocks the stigma and taboos of male masturbation, and how sex toys like the Handy, a smart handjob machine, could be healthy tools for men to explore their bodies, feel more confident in their sexuality and even enhance a couple’s sex life. ----more---- Learn more about the Handy on https://www.thehandy.com/ ----more----Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia interview Erika on today’s episode. Erika is a confidence and sex coach who has been featured in Cosmopolitan and is making waves in the online world. She teaches how to gain confidence inside AND outside of the bedroom. ----more----This conversation gets heated, they talk about things most people don’t want to talk about and teach you that pleasure is not, and should not only be experienced in the bedroom.----more---- Find Erika on Instagram @erikasconfidenceco ----more---- Follow Sonya @thesonyajensen

Sonya, her husband Erik, their son Gavin who is 15 years old, and family friend Andrew talk about what it is like to grow up around parents who talk about sex openly. ----more---- Growing up in a home where sex was taboo the only place to learn was through porn, friends or experience. Sonya hopes through this episode to give you the courage and or permission to have the sex talk with your teens and make it something that they are comfortable to come to you with.----more---- Being brought up to think sex is bad, sex is wrong, it’s not something you should enjoy unless you are married then how does that translate once you get married? Now sex is supposed to be great, frequent and comfortable. ----more---- Teaching your kids that there are dangers and boundaries around sex but it is important to install in them truths around sex for example what consent is. ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Joining Sonya on the podcast today is her husband Erik, and their friend Andrew. Andrew is 25 years old and is currently dating. He went 2 years single and not dating trying to find himself.----more---- In this episode, they discuss the polarities of "finding yourself" while single and how that looks differently while married at a younger age. ----more---- Erik, Sonya's husband was raised in a cult (Jehovah's witnesses) and when and at first when he started dating Sonya he let her take the lead. They married young and instead of taking time alone to find themselves, they had to do it together. They got messy and did it together not allowing it to be an option to not do it together. ----more---- At some point, you will get to a crossroads. Find the courage and really listen to yourself. Show up for yourself and make the decision that feels best for you. ----more---- They dive into this and so so much more. This is a podcast your going to want to hear. ----more----Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Coping with the loss of someone you love so dearly is one of life’s biggest challenges. In this episode, Sonya will share with you her journey of losing multiple pregnancies and how guilt enveloped her. This episode is very emotional and personal, but something Sonya feels needs to be talked about more, because it is ok not to be ok. ----more---- Why do we need to take time to grieve? Why do we need to acknowledge that grieving is important? How do we grieve?----more---- “But what I will tell you is that the more you try to push down those feelings and pretend that everything's okay, the bigger and bigger and more out of control that grief becomes”. Sonya Jensen ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya's first solo episode is one you are not going to want to miss she opens up and shares vulnerably about her life.  ----more---- She met her husband when she was 16 and discusses her upbringing, as well as how she envisioned her marriage in the first few years of her relationship with her now-husband how their life played out (having a baby at 18 years old), and ultimately the reason why she became a love and sex therapist. ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya with her friends Ophelia, Wendy & Michelle discuss having their needs met within their relationships. ----more---- Are you and your partner both getting what you need from the relationship? Why do we need to love ourselves first? What are our needs? Why do we need to understand our needs and our partners to have a happy marriage? Tune in to hear the answers and how before we dive into some key emotional needs in our relationships, prioritizing our own is key.  ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

There is no greater feeling in this world that is fulfilling than to love and be loved.  ----more---- In this episode, join Sonya and her best friend Ophelia with Guests Michelle and Wendy as they tackle the most exciting and pleasurable experience for men and women during their happiest hours. Meet Michelle and Wendy together as they share with you their stories of love, relationship, and sex. Love, as intriguing as it is still, we find it in many forms and meanings. ----more---- In this interview,  we will discuss the concepts of love in three points. 1) Gottman’s Love Mapping 2) Love Language 3) Biblical Love  ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia talk about one of their favorite topics: Conflict. Conflict can and is very healthy and constructive in a marriage. Unfortunately, many couples have no tools on how to address conflict and it ends with no resolution. Using the methods that Sonya discusses in this episode can show you how to address conflict in your relationship and change the way you communicate.  ----more---- Gottman blueprint of Gottman Rapoport----more---- Research four horsemen of the apocalypse link: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/   ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia discuss sexual expectations and what it is like if your partner has different needs than you. Have you ever thought: my husband wants more sex than I am giving him? What do I do when the expectation of how sex should be in the relationship is not being met? Well, then you are going to want to listen to this episode!  ----more---- There’s a lot of orgasm shaming. Like, “Did you have an orgasm” or “That took a really long time”. Girl, know your body. ----more---- Follow Sonya Jensen on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Are you having the same typical Tuesday sex? 85% of women have an orgasm 15 minutes into some sort of manipulation of their genital or erogenous zones. You need to look at your body as something that is deserving of being explored and deserving of pleasure. Do you want to learn some Unidentified erogenous zones you may not have thought of? Make sure to listen! ----more---- Book mentioned: Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by A. Dana Ménard and Peggy J. Kleinplatz   ----more----Follow Sonya on Instagram @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia discuss turning towards your partner and how you can communicate your needs with your partner in a way that they will be able to understand and listen. When you understand what is happening in your partner’s inner world and you are tuned into each other it will be easier to communicate your needs. Sonya gives many tips and tools on how you can work with your partner to feel understood and connected with your partner.  ----more---- Soften your startup tool: https://www.gottman.com/blog/softening-startup/ Stress-reducing conversation tool: https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-stress-reducing-conversation/ ----more---- Book mentioned Not Just Friends by Jean Coppock Staeheli and Shirley Glass ----more---- Follow Sonya on Instagram @TheSonyaJensen

Sonya and her Husband Eric discuss what burnout looked like in their marriage and how they were able to make changes in their lives to accommodate different points in their marriage where one or the other was dealing with burnout.  Follow Sonya on Instagram @TheSonyaJensen

Sonya and Erik get really vulnerable about their marriage. They share the intimate details of getting married at a young age with different backgrounds and experiences with marriage. They share tips on how they were able to strengthen their marriage over time and ultimately get on the same page.  Follow Sonya on Instagram @TheSonyaJensen

One of the main things couples don't talk about is sex. Sonya and Ophelia discuss making sex be a pleasurable experience and embracing your sexuality. Learn how not to be afraid to explore with yourself and with your partner. What does it mean to embrace your sexuality? Listen now to find out!  Follow Sonya on Instagram @TheSonyaJensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia dive into discus Love Mapping. What is love mapping? It is a fancy way of saying how well do you really know your partner's inner world. Love mapping is 2 things: curiosity and rituals of connection. Learn how to implement these into your life and improve your relationship in this episode.  Follow Sonya Jensen on Instagram @thesonyajensen  View the Gottman Sound Relationship House here:

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia discuss the second layer of the relationship house in the Gottman Method called building fondness and admiration. She teaches how to reevaluate negative narratives you have about your partner and teaches you to learn how to look for the good things your partner does. Sonya opens up about a personal situation where she was able to implement some key tips. You will not want to miss this episode.  Follow Sonya @thesonyajensen

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia discuss how the quarantine has affected sex lives. Sonya explains why your sex life may have suffered even though you saw your partner more during quarantine. Then she gives tips on what to do to get your sex life back and even better than before.    Download the Gottman Card Deck Apps here: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/ Follow Sonya on Instagram here: @thesonyajensen More information about Sonya: https://sonyajensen.com

Sonya and Ophelia talk about all things self-pleasure. Let's lose the shame around women pleasuring themselves. Sonya dives into discussing all the benefits and there are many! Yes, it's ok to do, even if you are in a relationship. Tune in to learn more.    Follow Sonya @thesonyajensen

Sonya discusses how to keep a healthy relationship. Life has many ups and downs, how to grow with your partner vs. leaving them. Sonya gets into describing the "Sound Relationship House" and understanding how to assess your relationship so that you can prioritize it. For any long-term relationship, the first thing that really goes is curiosity, it can cause a problem down the road because the person may feel pigeon held into old narratives.  If your ready to uplevel your relationship and have a fun relationship this episode is for you.  Follow Sonya on Instagram @TheSonyaJensen send her a DM if you like this episode.

Sonya and her best friend Ophelia chat about how Sonya decided to get into counselling and why she wanted to work with couples. They discuss what this podcast is about and what you will get going forward by tuning in. At the end of the day, no matter who you are, relationships are messy, and we all need someone to trust and talk to. The average couple waits 6-7 years after the onset of issues to seek help. After that length of time not only are you exhausted but nothing is working. Sonya wants to give you the tools and permission to seek a counsellor even if your marriage is doing well! No matter who you are life is constantly changing on you, if you don't have any tools you are going to struggle. If you have a counsellor you have a relationship with, when things get hard you have someone to call right away.