T&A Talk Sex

There's a lot of sparring on social media over whether the Aziz Ansari story amounts to "just bad sex" or if it speaks to something more about our relationship to sex in American culture, and how we can educate ourselves to practice true consent.  Christina chats with Dating Advice Girl, Erin Tillman, @datingadvicegrl, about the nuances of the encounter, what's really going on in our culture around objectification and dehumanization, the new definition of consent and a generational disagreement, and what Erin's ideal version of a date would look like (healthy communication about respective intentions), and the space for each person to decide.

Get inspired to make a difference! Christina met up with Lauren Stephenson in NYC to find out how she started the organization Women to the Front.  The conversation starts in media res discussing the current feminism movements and how to navigate all the differnt opinions, and launches in to how Lauren went from feeling powerless after the 2016 election, to empowering herself and a group of friends to take action on the specific issues she is most passionate about.  Women to the Front specifically holds fundraisers for the organizations that are already doing the great work Lauren admires.  She discovered they needed PR support, so that's just what her group did!  Feeling like you want to go from powerless to proactive? Listen to this episode to get some ideas on how to do just that! Find more about Women to the Front Here: https://www.facebook.com/womentothefront/?rc=p

John Rosania, founder of Honesty Lab (www.honesty-lab.com) talks with Christina about how to really thrive in your relationship - What if you just said what you're actually thinking in your relationships, during sex, and anywhere else you happen to be? The results are better communication, more intimacy, personal growth, and full bodies forgiveness.  Christina did a workshop with John that was remarkable, so Christina invited him onto the show to share his techniques for healing wounds in relationships (romantic and platonic), and for starting on the right foot with new ones! It's truly an eye-opening conversation!

Some of you may have caught the angry blitz on Christina's social media profile, as well as T&A's Patreon account.  An interesting scenario unfolded where the wife of an acquaintance felt she was a threat due to her work as a professional cuddlist.  T&A talk about the experience of being harassed, and how this person might have approached her frustration differently for positive growth. Meanwhile Christina coaches a friend through confronting her partner on cheating in a constructive manner!

Stephanie (A) shares that she's moving to Boulder! Why? When?! She's ready for a change this fall!  She gets candid with Christina (T) about waiting too long, even when her inner voice said 'it's time'.  How does holding ourselves back hurt us in and out of the bedroom? How can we be more proactive to make those changes necesary in our lives? Christina shares what's new in her life, and how she's had to move on from relationships that didn't encourage growth.  How about you? What changes are you ready to make for your better self?

'A' talks to Deborah Kagan, women's mojo recovery specialist, speaker and author about what exactly female empowerment IS and why it is essential to a woman and a couple's well-being and yes, sex life.   Plus, how we go about empowering the ladies, without forgetting our wonderful men.  Tune in to this backstage interview at the 'Rock Your Mojo Women's Weekend' 'A' recently atteneded, to hear Deborah's philosophy and experience with mentoring women all over the world with finding their mojo. Check out Deborah's Work at www.deborah-kagan.com and follow her on IG @deborahkagan

Women love the alpha male and the 'bad boy', but if you're a conscientious dude, how do you manage to give women what they crave sexually while abstaining from acting like a total douche?  Where's the balance? And what does being a 'bad boy' even mean? T&A are here to set the record straight and share their own experiences.  Plus, men's body hair- so rarely talked about and so much to say!  If you're even wondering what the hell we're talking about - you need to listen as T&A share what works and what doesn't with men's fuzzy nether-regions.

T&A talk with Obi, former men's relationship coach, & creator of Dude Panel, about the Harvey Weinstein scandal that is helping to redefine gender dynamics in America.  What does this show us about our culture, and the ways men and women communicate? How do we shift away from this behavior, and give our youth practical tools to have healthy relationships? Micro-aggressions or low level sexual harrasment is pervasive.  How can men best pursue a woman while creating space for women to use their voices, and still exist in the workplace? It's a thorny topic that T, A, and Obi energetically dive into, with a lot of gems on how to effectively communicate with the opposite sex!

Usher's getting sued for not disclosing he had herpes before sex and passing the STI along.... so much to unwrap with this one! No pun intended haha.  Plus the girls respond to a concerned dad who can't help his involuntary erections when his hot teen daughter wants to cuddle.  For a dad who wants to model a healthy male relationship with his daughter, he can't just push her away- what to do?  Plus, this is the first full episode of the podcast that's going up on video available to all on our youtube channel.  Link below.  Apologies in advance for the sub-par audio as we learned our mics died out only too late.  Head to youtube to watch, and head to Patreon to become a supporter of the show!  Even $1/month helps keep the lights on. https://youtu.be/k2sNpQNx6n8 www.patreon.com/tatalksex

On this month's episode of Ask T&A, a young listener writes in about her concerns entering the casual sex scene.  At 23 y.o and having one sexual partner, she asks her potential lovers to show her paper proof of their STI history even if they're going to use a condom.  Is this too much, or just enough?  Plus, given all the recent hubbub about birth control, what are the best options?  Then - low libido at 23, how can I get more into it and managing pubic hair?  And T&A share their newest sexual adventures! (not together:)  A jam-packed, super honest and hilarious episode- one of our favorites!

While 'T's away in europe, 'A' interviews her insightful friend 'Richard' who looks back on his marriage of just under 20 years to share his key takeaways of what exactly went wrong and shares the major pitfalls and what he would have done to avoid them.  It's always hepful to learn from our mistakes, and the mistakes of others!  And Richard's story is no exception.  A great episode to hear for any human being who might ever be in reationship with any other human being.

Talking about your sex life publicly isn't always easy.  In this week's mini-episode, 'T&A' grab a quick chat with Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson from the hit podcast Guys We F*cked on just that topic.  Listen in as the girls talk shop and share an inside look at how speaking openly about their action has both hurt and helped their sex lives.  Always in support of those raising their voices to change the game on female sexuality, check out their podcast wherever you do your listening and grab a ticket to their live show at www.sorryaboutlastnightcomedy.com

After months of seperation due to 'A's travel sabbatical, T&A are back together and have so. much. to. talk. about.  'A' sums up here travel experience- why she went and what she got out of it and then the girls give a sexy reading in english of the hot lyrics to the latin smash hit Despacito. 'T' shares her latest professional endeavor- Cuddling! Yep, she's a professional cuddler (what could be more appropriate?!) as well as her adventures with the Diva Cup.  Plus, the new summer trend: teen girls in thong bikinis- too much or just right?  And 'A' shares her latest revelations on finding a partner after insights from her little bro's wedding.  And finally, the T&A are launching their Patreon page (finally!) which means if you love the show, now you can show your support and help keep the lights on!  Check it out at www.patreon.com/tatalksex

Ladies, the Period Repair Manual is here! We are not small men, meaning we have our own complex hormone system that has purpose and works in our favor if we maintain it! T talks with Dr. Lara Briden, naturopathic doctor with 20 years experience and author of Period Repair Manual, who breaks it down for us. Tate of Cuddle Domme from ep. 140 guest co-hosts, and shares their experience with endometriosis, allowing Dr. Briden to discuss natural treatments.  Your menstrual cycle is a report card to how you're treating your body and managing stress.  Tune in to learn facts about your hormones, and how to get closer to that goal of "no pain" on your period!

Guest, Tate, a queer cuddle domme, chats thoughtfully and articulately with T (Christina Hepburn) about whether or not "over-analyzing sex kills the beauty of sex?" If it doesn't kill the beauty, why not? How can we avoid monotony with sex? And furthermore, what exaclty is a cuddle domme? Tate explains their work as a cuddle domme, and what they accomplish in a session with individuals seeking their skill set.  T and Tate get personal about childhood gender expectations, and how it impacted them for better or worse.

Is the foot fetishist more evolved than the rest of us? T questions what the foot has to offer & if we are overlooking an opportunity for greater connection through our feet & ears by chatting with a foot, hand, and ear reflexologist, Christina Crabtree (https://www.facebook.com/touchbalanceyoga). David Rodwin, guest co-host (www.jadelake.com), storyteller & filmmaker, inquires about her kundalini yoga practice.  How is kundalini defined?  What are the stigmas around our bodies that prevent healing, increase stress, and suppress our sexuality? What is the science and art of reflexology, and how can it benefit all of us? David and Christina share anecdotes and observations around arousal, and stigmas around what is considered sexually acceptable in our culture.  It's a raucous, full conversation that covers everything from the healing affects of reflexology to the concept of pleasure, and how we can experience a rounded healthy life in general!

What weird sexual fantasies are you keeping to yourself? T&A share openly about their sexual fantasies with their guest, Sarah, comedian and writer for DICE, Chelsea Handler's Netflix show, Chelsea, and Comedy Central's The Legend of Chamberlain Heights, coming out this fall! We all have images and ideas that maybe surprise even ourselves.  Do you have shame or judgement around your own fantasies? What if you expressed them without judgment to understand yourself and your partner better? Join us as we explore our own fun, surprising fantasies honestly and openly, as well as our earliest fantasies that have shaped our sexual identity.  We just might activate your imagination! Write us with thoughts & questions at advice@tatalksex.com

Ep. 138, What is a pelvic floor therapist? There's a whole doctor dedicated to my vagina? Sara Chan Reardon, a women's pelvic health therapist chats with T and the hilarious and smart guest host, Lora Somoza, from the podcast Between the Sheets with Lora Somoza, about how we can all benefit from pelvic muscle relaxation, and all the things that could be causing you trouble down there without you even knowing about it! We also get into the challenges that come up after child birth, and how to remedy those issues ...which could be the reason you or your partner doesn't want to have sex post-babies!  It's a fun episode full of great facts & recommeded info! Also don't forget to check out our sponsors' skin care & acne treatment, BIOCLARITY, and use our code TATALKSEX (T's been using all month, and loves it!)

In this episode 137, T has an intimate chat with Dave Booda of the Dude Panel Podcast, a favorite guest, about our personal approach to relationships, how we've handled pitfalls, and grown, and how the way we, as a culture, approach dating is hurting our ability to connect with that person, how more physical touch amongst friends can be good & not creepy (while Booda massages my feet during the show, hooray), and how to manage that guy friend who won't take no for an answer, and may even "gaslight" you as a woman to wear you down. In fact, you can conquer this dude's determination, and survive to still be friends at the end of it!

T discusses the wild new frontier of sex tech with expert, Bryony Cole from The Future of Sex podcast and comedian, Malie Mason, and what that might mean for real life in-person relationships.  Is it good or bad, or neither? What does it say about our society? How can it help us? How can it hurt us? And how do we use the future of sex to our benefit? We get deep, we laugh, learn and have a good convo about VR , our vibrators, and if those genital gadgets can really preserve a long distance relationship?!! A chimes in about her adventures in Europe!

Due to a technical glitch (damn those internet elves!) last week's show cut out at 10 minutes.  Sorry about that!  It was such a good show and we really want you to hear the whole talk given many listerners have written in requesting this topic, so we're repsoting the FULL episode this week.  Thanks for your patience!  T had so many conversations with distressed husbands, and mothers who also felt anxiety about their low sex drive, that she sought out some answers from mothers Heather Brooker of Motherhood in Hollywood podcast and Sheri Winston who have made it through the sex drought. Sheri Winston is also a sex expert-midwife/nurse turned sexuality teacher of Intimate Arts Center.  There's good news, and lots of insight into the actual pregnancy process, the sensual pleasures of it, and how we can still maintain intimate, sensual connection, even after the pregnancy.  How can we best stay connected with our partners and feel appreciated on both ends? These ladies know best!   Don't miss our discount Promo Code 'TATALKSEX' for our newest sponsors, the all natural skin care product, BIOCLARITY that we share in the middle of the episode, either! Episode 135, Because Sex isn't Ever Just About Sex. Find A's sensual massage videos here: www.stephanieallen.com/massage

T had so many conversations with distressed husbands, and mothers who also felt anxiety about their low sex drive, that she sought out some answers from mothers Heather Brooker of Motherhood in Hollywood podcast and Sheri Winston who have made it through the sex drought. Sheri Winston is also a sex expert-midwife/nurse turned sexuality teacher of Intimate Arts Center.  There's good news, and lots of insight into the actual pregnancy process, the sensual pleasures of it, and how we can still maintain intimate, sensual connection, even after the pregnancy.  How can we best stay connected with our partners and feel appreciated on both ends? These ladies know best!   Don't miss our discount Promo Code 'TATALKSEX' for our newest sponsors, the all natural skin care product, BIOCLARITYthat we share in the middle of the episode, either! Episode 135, Because Sex isn't Ever Just About Sex. Find A's sensual massage videos here: www.stephanieallen.com/massage

ASK T&A! T of T&A discusses our listeners' burning questions and biggest problems with guest hosts, Lindsey and Krista from Almost 30 Podcast.  T shares fun tweets from our listeners, all three ladies talk about their own greatest life lessons, then launch into the important questions from our guests! Will the older guy commit to her with all of his post-divorce baggage? and What she can do to show him she's a great partner he can trust! What happens when he cums inside you withouth asking? Do you have to have the safe sex talk after the fact? AND UBER lands in hot water when Susan J. Fowler shares her personal experience of gender discrimination and sexual harrassment while working there for 1 year.  The show gets deep when Krista discusses her own experience with sexual harrassment in the workplace, what happened next, and how we as women can protect ourselves from victimization (how men can play a part in shaping a safer work environment for their favorite women too!)  Don't miss our discount PROMO Code for our newest sponsors, the all natural skin care product, BIOCLARITY that we share in the middle of the episode, either! Episode 134, Because Sex isn't Ever Just About Sex. Find A's sensual massage videos here: www.stephanieallen.com/massage

T of T&A (Christina Hepburn) chats openly with Jacq Jones, about her experiences in reproductive health care and what led her to opening a sex shop.  Jacq Jones is a passionate advocate for a sex positive world, radical consent, sex ed, safer sex and reproductive health care. She has worked in sex education and reproductive health care since 1994. She is the owner of Sugar, a sex positive, education focused, lesbian owned, multi-gender operated sex toy store in Baltimore and online at SugarTheShop.com. *Tune in for a discount promo code to her sex shop*! Ep.133, Because sex isn't ever just about sex!

How do we avoid the Valentine's Day cliches, and create an authentic experience your partner will love? VDay is an opportunity to really say "I appreciate you".  T shares our listeners' stories about the best thing they ever did or received on Valentine's Day, and then T chats with Amy Weissfeld (JoyfulSelfLove.com) and Jackie Meldrum (MakingYourOwnBed.com), 2 accomplished sex coaches, about improving your game with a lover, and walk us through what they teach in their Master Lover Mindset course.  Truly riveting! As we all know, practice makes perfect! You can find A's sensual massage videos at www.StephanieAllen.com/massage and we share a 10% promo code + free lubricant for the SugartheShop.com owned by next week's guest, Jacq Jones, in case you want to spruce up your game on VDAY!

A lot of women don't say no to sex to avoid conflict, or because they actually like the guy and don't want to hurt his feelings.  And a lot of guys are completely unaware they've crossed a line because she didn't say no and seemed into it -so why would they think anything was wrong?   It doesn't take a full-on rape experience for a woman to feel compromised and unfortunately, the fact is compromised sex happens ALL THE TIME.  T&A share their most recent experiences that both, coincidentally, happened to leave them feeling objectified and pretty shitty.  And if T&A can get in that situation- anyone can.  In this must-listen episode, T&A talk with Emily Best and Erica Anderson, co-creators of F*ck Yes, a series that shows ladies and gents how to say F*ck Yes to sex, to break down how our society's approaches and underlying beliefs around sexuality can make even the nicest of guys- actually kind of rapey.  The ladies share for they guys what goes on in their heads that puts them on guard and makes them feel uncomfortalbe, and how to approach them differently so they can say F*ck Yes to having sex.

It’s Ask T&A day, where listeners write in with their questions.  On this month’s episode: ‘Help! We’ve just moved in and can’t stop fighting, does this mean we’re incompatible?’ Then, ‘My girlfriend says she’s too stressed for sex.  I wanna be there for her, but this is getting frustrating, what do I do?’

Sex is a breeding ground for embarrassing moments (no pun intended). Bodily fluids, acrobatic moves, feelings, uncontrollable urges- Anything can happen!  So Tom McLoughlin ((Director Jayson 6, Date with and Angel) and Peter Desberg Phd (clinical psychologist) created The Bad Sex Manual to help us get through the stickiest of situations when having sex with someone new by adding in a little humor to the situation.

In a rousing discussion with Natasha Chandel from the podcast ‘Kinda Dating’, the ladies weigh in on women’s reactions to Trump by trading in their long locks for flat tops.  Is it the end of femininity or just rebellion? Plus some interesting angles on the meaning of hair and how it may affect relationships.  Then the girls discuss the emergence of blow job cafes serviced by female robots.  Be sure to check out Natasha’s podcast @kindadating

Happy New Year!  It's 2017 and T&A love to take stock of an entire year that has now passed, by looking at what they've learned from all their adventures with the opposite sex.  Youtuber Trisha Hershberger from 'The Naked Truth' and actor/comedian Sina Amedson join in this round table chat as the group shares their biggest take aways from love in 2016, and what they will do differently in the brand-spanking new year to come.  Listen in and get ready to take stock of your own 2016 love-life learns and join T&A to set an intention for 2017.

On this month’s episode of ‘Ask T&A’, the girls help a fellow sista’ overcome her fear of the texture of cum so she can happily finish her guy off.  Then a young woman wants to know, ‘how long do I wait for him to get over his ex?’ Plus, after twenty years of marriage, what do you think of a man wearing women’s panties?  T&A share their insights.

We hear a lot about what can go wrong when infants and kids don't ge enough touch, but what about adults?? T&A talk with professional cuddlers, Jean Franzblau and Fei Wyatt (creators of Cuddle Sanctuary in Los Angeles), about the epidemic of no touch in a digital world, our mindset of scarcity, and the negative effects on our health and emotions, and how you can get more non-sexual touch and intimacy in your everyday life, especially as we head into the holidays with ...perhaps those family members who don't always show us the affection we need.  Jean and Fei also offer solutions for creating more touch amongst friends and family.

A has always been  a huge advocate for good posture- because it's HOT!!  In this informative episode, T&A talk about how important posture has been in selecting their mates :) Plus, they share their own journeys through poor posture, and then chat with CEO & Co-Founder of Lumo Lift technologies, Monisha Perkash, to get the inside scoop on how important good posture is.  Monisha shares bad posture trends in men versus women, what may be the cause behind it, the horrible affects of bad posture and how her device can help you fix it!  If this episode doesn't make you sit straighter, nothing will!

What's the deal with fetishes?  Where do they come from, and do they need to be overcome? T&A get inside the mind of a fetishest with a raw and insightful conversation with master storyteller Dylan Brody, who's opened for Dave Sedaris and has been featured on NPR, when he shares the riveting story about the origin of his own fetish- for handicapped women.  Dylan shares what life is like having a fetish, how it's impacted his marriage and wether or not fetishes need to be fixed.

T&A weigh in on audience's questions: In this month's episode of T&A's advice show, how to rebound after a bad first date (on election night!), best car sex positions?  And can too much masturbation hurt your sex life??

It's Thanksgiving week, which means time for T&A to reflect on all the things they're grateful for this year- the not so suitable for the dinner table things.  Lora Somoza from the podcast, 'Between the Sheets with Lora Somoza' joins this roundtable chat which sparks scintilating conversation on vibrators, masturbation, their body issues growing up as kids and even some deeper family issue stuff.  Fun and entertaining, yet always deep, Happy Thanksgiving from T&A!

Inspired by the lush, sexy, and joyous erotic thriller, The Handmaiden, directed by Park Chan-wook, T&A invite Carlisle Forrester (comedian and podcast cohost of 2 Girls, 1 Guy) to discuss the eroticism featured in the film, and what it says about women, our ability to get turned on by each other and our resistance to diving down under.  Then all 3 ladies speak freely about their own sexual encounters with other women, and what we learned about ourselves through it.

Let's be honest, all this 'Consent is Sexy' talk... isn't really that sexy.  But when T&A's friend Dave Booda from the podcast 'Dude Panel' wrote an article sharing his experience of being acused of rape from a lover he thought he had consentual, awesome sex with, it was clear the issue needed addressing for even the most well-intentioned guy.  He thought this chick was totally on board... so how do you know she really does want to have sex with you?  T&A have a lively discussion around Dave's article sharing their own experiences and how at the root of all this consent talk is good old fashioned seduction.  Listen in to find out how to get her begging for you so you never have to wonder if she really does want to have sex with you.  Here's a link to Booda's article published in the Good Men Project.  http://boodaism.com/permission/

Do we bale on our relationships too soon?  Have you ever wondered if maybe you would be better off if you just had some patience and stayed with that person? The idea of sticking through a relationship come hell-or-highwater has become somewhat of a relic.  When an 'insurmountable' obstacle comes along, we chalk it up to incompatability, and skip along to find someone more up our alley now that we're wiser for it.  But is this a modern mindset that keeps us from reaping the rewards of a long-term,  investment?  Should we listen to our grandparents?? In this week's episode, 'T' drags herself from the dredges of her period malaise to share her thoughts as to why it might not have been the wisest decision to leave her most recent long-term partner...  but then again, would she be the person she is today if she hadn't?  It is a rousing topic and lively debate this week as the girls dig in...

It's Ask T&A Day!  In this month's episode, find out what causes a red, irrated and smelly penis, but the scarier thing is how unnoticed this goes by most men!  Then, T&A dive in and give an incredibly detailed play by play of how to make a girl cum from oral sex, and more specifically, them :)  All the insider tips and tricks are in this one! Happy listening...

Wow, we totally had a show topic for this week- and then Jayson Thibault from Punch Drunk Sports happened! Which made for an epic episode.  His candid discussion about all things relationships, sex, family, and growing up with lesbian parents bring us to a higher level of honesty! How does a young boy growing up with all women affect him as a man? How does T growing up with her father affect her as a grown woman? A shares her personal story about her mom's ovarian cancer, and how she handled the experience.  And so much more real talk happens in this episode.  Enjoy!

After T&A attended amateur stripper night in support of their friends, they were seriously thinking about a career change!  Inspired by these regular 9-5 er's struttin' their stuff for the first time on the pole in PUBLIC, T&A sat down with a couple of these brave ladies to hear all about their experience.  They share how they got into taking pole dancing class, their biggest challenges, their partner and friend's reactions, and how it helped transform them into the sensual creatures they always wanted to be.  And yes, this does translate to the bedroom.  Ladies, if you struggle with being sensual or even understanding what that is, and guys, if you want to understand women more, tune in to this fascinating and lively episode.

EP 114! In homage to the fall and the change of season, we're talking all about endings and new beginnings, with comedien Lahna Turner.  'A' shares her relationship revelations from a session with a psychic that changed her romantic life, then Lahna gets candid and raw about currently going through a divorce and we get the full  story of how 'Limeade', her new comedic, visual album from the title parady of Beyonce's 'Lemonade' came into being.  Plus, a lively debate over how to handle the death of intimacy after children enter the picture with a real-life mom, and then we cap it off with 'New Dick', Lahna's HILARIOUS new song from Limeade.

In this month's episode of Ask T&A, the girls tackle three listener's questions... well, two listeners and one very curious uber driver.  A wife writes in wanting to know how she can get her husband to be more romantic with her, the curious Uber driver is dying to know how to get his wife to be sexual with him again, and one listener in transition wants to try a period of celibacy- but can she do it without leaving her relationship?  All this, a load of laughs and a firey debate between T&A over differing views in this months advice episode.  Have a question or comment?  Write in for next month's episode at advice@TAtalksex.com

Obi and Booda, the esteemed dudes of Dude Panel Radio (also for your viewing pleasure on youtube), hijack this week's episode of T&A Talk Sex and turn the hosts, into the guests.  Hear the gang talk about growing up and getting bullied (and kicking ass), Booda's new revelations on the importance of taking the romance out of falling in love, and an in-depth and hilarious analysis of what each of the host's sex sounds actually mean.

Still decompressing from their Burning Man 2016 adventures, T&A hop on air to talk all about it aaaannnd of course, T&A happened to land in the hands of two, savvy lovers who gave each of them sexual experiences that will forever change their sex lives.  Hear about T's first ever tantric massage and what quality in a lover she now refuses to go without! Plus, A has the best sex of her life and shares the secret that made her go from completely sexually uninterested, to the best sex of her life- instantly.  When the man burns... it is no joke.

While T&A make their way back from Burning Man, listen in on secret archived episode #3 where the girls talk with burlesque performer Mona Bella to take a look at the difference betwwen sexuality and sensuatliy, and what impact they both have on our sexual experiences.  Are you sensual? Sexual? Can you be both? How? and Why?

In this month's advice episode, listeners Ask T&A - what's going on that's making the sex I have uncomfortable? Can a relationship survive without sex? Plus a listener's thoughts on gentlemanliness, dating and finances

In this lively episode T&A talk with Dave Neal, comedien and host of the podcast, 'Sex Actually' and rest assured when you get three hosts of sex talk podcasts, there's a lot of sharing going on - like how Dave successfully managed to get out of the friend zone with his now girlfriend(!)  Plus T&A take advantage of having a guy in studio and pick Dave's brain on what might be behind some male behaviors that keep popping up that we women just don't get.  Check Dave out @DNealz and be sure to listen to Sex Actually wherever you do your podcast listening.

As more travel takes T&A out of the studio, we get to play you episode two of our secret archives from when we first started the show all those years ago (2014:)  Get to know T&A so much more as we interview each other and have an in-depth share of our personal stories and what led us to start the show- then called 'Pushing Boundaries with T&A'.

Does the modern march towards equality keep men from being men and women from being women?  And how is that affecting our relationships?  In this riveting and lively conversation T&A talk with two, true gentlemen: John, A's lover- and Stuart, T&A's dear friend, to get their insightful and provactive take on what it means to be a gentleman and why they get turned off by a woman who won't let them treat a lady like a lady.  A fascinating conversation to be heard by any man who's a little lost on how to be a man in today's culture, and for any woman who might be losing touch with her femininity in an effort to be the strong woman of today.

Ayahuasca- that psychedelic drug shamans take to go on spiritutal 'journeys'.  Well, T&A had the chance to take it and what a journey they went on.  Listen in as the girls share their experience from beginning to end- the shamanic circle, the vomiting, confronting demons and the utter bliss.  And despite T being convinced she was dying while A was having non-stop orgasms... it was all worth it.  Listen in to find out why.

On this month's episode of Ask T&A, a listener writes in about his wife's hyper-sensitive clitoris and asks for some suggestions on what else he can do in the bedroom to please her.  Plus, is it OK if she only orgasms in one position?  And, if she has to masturbate herself to orgasm while I'm having sex with her, am I doing something wrong?  Then T&A clarify what STDs you can and cannot get from a sensual massage and the ladies read some listener's thoughtful  comments on last month's advice episode talking about consent.

Due to some technical glitch when moving to their new network, the very first 17 episodes of 'T&A' somehow didn't get aired.  So this week Episode Numero Uno is being made available especially for you from the secret archives of T&A.  Listen in as T&A introduce themselves and talk to 'The Immigrant', an anonymous friend of A's who just recently had her first (and only) experience as an escort- an opporutnity set up by her Dad... ?!?!  T&A were anonymous at the time, and the show was called 'Pushing Boundaries with T&A'.... they also were radio virgins- so be gentle :)   To hear an update from 'The Immigrant', listen to Episode #92: '6 Texting Habits That Will Save Your Relationship'

In this latest episode T&A catch up on the somewhat wild week apart they’ve had when A vacationed in Montreal, took a sexy lover and had the best casual sex of her life so far, while also coming face to face with her lover’s alter, not so good, ‘sex personality’.  Plus, insight into what builds intimacy in daily life with your partner- and what tears it down.  And finally - T gets banned from her lover’s abode! Learn and laugh in this week’s episode with T&A.

T&A share the top things they love and hate that guys do, or don't do, in the bedroom.  After A has another maddening experience with a man and her breast, the girls thought it might be time to share some enlightening tidbits about some bedroom habits that don't work, but somehow still happen- like treating nipples like radio dials.  Prepare to be entertained and enlightened in this lively and informative roundtable chat with T&A's good friend 'Nicole'.

Every month listeners write in with their questions to Ask T&A.  In this month's episode (T&A's 100th show!!) one woman discovers multiple orgasms and masturbation bliss with her new Rabit vibrator, but after a month of using it now has a hard time orgasming with her partner.  Does she need to breakup with her vibrator?  Will she be able to orgasm with her partner again??  Plus, consent.  Consent is all over the media and one guy wants to know if T&A have ever been pushed beyond their limits, and just how exactly a guy is supposed to know if she's playing coy or really saying no?  Get your questions in for next month's episode by emailing advice@TAtalkSex.com

Feminism is a hot topic today! With so much pressure to be a feminist - or be "pro-fem", wearing a "this is what a feminist looks like" t-shirt - T&A had to ask, what does it mean to be a feminist? After an alarming audition for a network TV show, 'A' questioned 'are we going in the right direction?' Listen in as 3 generations of women - Helen (79), Gina, from Gen-x, and Annie (17), all from the same family - discuss feminism.  ...and what does that mean for the men in our lives? These ladies speak honestly and openly about our own experiences, what concerns us most moving forward in our culture, and how we, as men and women, can all self-actualize for more contentment!  Helene graduated college in 1957.  She hosted consciousness raising groups in the 60's, and worked for many years with the League of Women Voters on the Equal Credit Opportunity Act and more! Gina is an award winning filmmaker including films screened at Sundance Film Festival, shortlisted for an Oscar nomination, and collaboration on documentary work that lead to a Pulitzer Prize.  Annie is a Gen-Z girl about to graduate high school. She is already proactive in changing Sex Ed policies in New York and participates in various Civil Rights organizations.

Are you bored with sex? Not getting off like you used to? Maybe it's time to evolve! "How?", you ask?  Listen in as T&A discuss a new way of approaching sex that will keep you alive, invigorated, and in the game.  T gets honest about a profound shift in her sexual desire, and A helps process it with a breakdown of how we evolve as human beings in our sexuality to achieve mastery over our own desires - become the captain of our own ship.  How does our sex life evolve over the years? And why didn't anyone teach us this? We don't have to feel driven by our desires, but rather we can feel empowered by knowledge and experience as we choose the sexual experiences we want to have.. and with confidence.

In this lively and informative chat with Tripp host of the hot podcast, 'How To Talk To Girls', T&A get solid advice from a guy who's learned the hard way about dating and talking to women.  A social scientist of his own accord, Tripp shares some of his fascinating insights that are also- practical.  From key differences in men and women's communication styles, attraction and the friend zone, this is a great conversation to listen to if you want to be more natural, and succesfful, with women without having to follow douchy, dis-ingenuous 'bro' how-to's.  Check Tripp out @Trippadvice

In this month's advice episode listener's wanted to know where it's OK to cum on your partner and our thoughts on creampie eating, kissing after oral and even guys enjoying eating their own cum.  Plus, the rebound relationship, should it be encouraged rather than shunned?  And to top it all off, a great inquiry questioing the normalcy of period sex where T&A weigh in on the good, the bad, the ugly, and how to make it a success.  Email your questions to advice@TAtalkSex.com to get your questions answered for next month!

Leah Knauer - actress & comedian voted one of Twitter's Funniest Women by SMOSH, & appeared on Not Safe with Nikki Glaser and Corporate, both on Comedy Central - talks with T&A about her time in abstinence club, and then the ladies talk openly about how to get over those breakups that hurt our hearts, and the age old problem of guys who don't get the hint that you're just not that into him.  What's the best way to handle all of these?! Leah shares openly, honestly, and with humor.

T&A talk with Scott Barry Kaufman, cognitive psychologist, author, and speaker about his article 'The Myth of the Alpha Male" to better understand what qualities women most want in a man.  Do we ladies prefer Alpha or Beta? It turns out it's a little more complicated and nuanced.  Tune in to better understand how we can attract the perfect mate.  ...and check out Scott's article at The Art of Manliness of you want to read from where our conversation started.  Find more info. about Scott and his other work on creativity and the mind HERE: www.ScottBarryKaufman.com

T&A talk with Jamal Johnson, life coach, sexuality coach and One Taste trained orgasmic meditator, on about the landmines we all carry within that can keep us from connecting more deeply with our partner.  We talk about how to find them, how to disarm them and other tips and tricks from Jamal that will help us all learn how to be more honest, and clear with ourselves, so we can be more available for a deeper, intimate connection with our partner. Find Jamal's work HERE: http://jamaljohnsoncoaching.com/ Join Jamal's team in Costa Rica to reconnect with your body, to grow, and learn HERE: http://www.bewellbeorgasmic.com/costarica/index.php

Obi and Booda from Dude Panel are here!!! And T wants to know- how much is a guy planning the first time he has sex with you? She's had a few sessions that make her feel like they've masterminded the whole thing- is it true??Plus, we talk about touch, our cultural inhibitiions and how we can incorporate touch more into our regular friendships without it getting weird- or can we? Does touch always have something sexual to it?  And if it does, is that such a bad thing, or have we just grown up thinking about the whole thing backwards?  We love the guys at Dude Panel- where they answer girl's questions about guys day in and day out.  They're super insightful, funny and cute to boot! Check out their show at www.DudePanel.com and Dude Panel on YouTube.

Have you ever wondered how other people get themselves off?  We probably think the rest of the world opperates like us, but newslfash-they don't!  In our crazy journey of sexuality, many times the conversations at the party end up on masturbation and what fascinated us was how different each person's self-love sessions were!  In this episode we have a round table chat with comedian and podcaster of the show 'What Did I do?' Ramsey Badawi (@ramsbad) and comedian O.P. (@swankyop) about why we masturbate, why O.P. doesn't masturbate, what each of us does to get off, the role of fantasy and even a fun little hands on exercise that EVERYONE SHOULD DO if you really want to know how your lover likes to be touched.   Show Notes Do you masturbate? (2:30) Yes, women can have wet dreams (6:40) Oh the Guilt! (10:32) How has it affected your sex life? (11:41) What's important when you masturbate? (18:10) vs. Fantasy (The Good Ol' Imagination) (24:11) Sex vs. masturbation (31:10) "A" gets curious about guys and their technique (36:35) Closing Thoughts: "T's" vote is that it's actually good for you, in healthy amounts.  It's only addiction if you're not getting things done as a result.   Links from Episode: What have I Done? podcast: http://www.whathaveidonepodcast.com/#omidandramsey Ramsey Badawi: http://ramseybadawi.com/ & Ramsey's Twitter/Instagram: @ramsbad Opie's Instagram: @swankyopie Book:  Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan)

T&A talk with profesional matchmakers Adelle Gomelsky Kelleher and Karen Law from the national dating service 'Three Day Rule', (www.threedayrule.com) and get a fascinating  look into the dating world- Why aren't people finding their mate? What are the biggest mistakes men and women each make when they meet a potential partner?  PLUS, Adelle and Karen share their insights into why dating in the modern day is so difficult, and what we can all do about it.  This is a must listen for anyone out there looking for a partner- either for a night, or for your life!

Relationships are all about communication, and texting adds a whole new level to the dating game.  How many times have you huddled around your phone with your friends at the coffee shop drafting the perfect text to a love interest's comment after finally deciphering what you think they meant?  Yep, we've been there too.  So we came up with our top six texting rules that will keep your relationship- or booty call- alive and kickin' while hopefully making your life a little bit easier.

T&A's first official advice show!  Listeners wanna know, 'How can I get better at deep throating?  Do I need to?'  'How do I get my husband to be more sensual after ten years of marriage?' and 'I'm thinking about becoming a sugar baby... what do I need to know?'  Listen in as T&A dish their perspective, and some hilarious stories on hard lessons learned in the first edition of 'Ask T&A'.  Have a question?  Send an email to advice@TAtalkSex.com  Advice shows air the last wednsday of every month.

Kim Kardashian took a nude bathroom selfie and everyone had something to say.  Pink even called Kim out for sending a disempowering message to young women.  Is our automatic distaste for KK's photo just another form of slut shaming? In this episode T&A have a lively round-table discussion with Mark W. Gray of youtube sensation Professor Hans Von Puppet and comedian Courtney Banks on wether or not we should all be taking a nude selfie or two.

In today's world of sexual liberation, Tinder, and hook-ups is it worth waiting before jumping in the sac with someone?    Join T&A as they dive into their personal experiences of promiscuity and share why they wait and why they don't.

Let's change the paradigm on orgasm inequality, and understand why women aren't cumming, so that we can all cum more often in the future!

T&A talk with Jessie Kahnweiler, creator of the boundary-pushing web series, The Skinny, that deals with bulimia, sex, and other sordid topics.  Jessie shares what she wants her audience to get out of her new show, as well her earlier short films, such as "Meet My Rapist" and "Jessie F*cks A Vet", and chimes in on T&A's convo about what our parents did or didn't teach us about sex. The Skinny is produced by Jill Soloway, premiered at Sundance, and can be found on the platform, Refinery 29. Jessie's IG @JessieBethKahnweiler / Twitter @JessieKahnweiler http://jessiekahnweiler.com/ http://www.refinery29.com/jessie-kahnweiler-the-skinny SHOW NOTES:  Jessie obsessions inspire her work (2:30) Jessie discusses how her rape experience still impacts her life (3:07) Jessie discuses the subtleties of an eating disorder and how it's influencing her new web series (6:16) So you're a "feminist comedienne"? & "Don't read the internet comments!" (13:22) Let's talk about blowjobs: what did you learn about sex from your family? (18:30) How our parents affected our sexuality (27:30) People Mentioned Jessie Kahnweiler http://www.imdb.com/name/nm3142059/ Eckhart Tolle: https://www.eckharttolle.com/ Other Links:  "Meet My Rapist": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bAAPkqn8Q0 "The Rape Girl":  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uXoC9Jk-r3A Jessie Gets Arrested: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJ2b7woDYnw Jessie Fucks a Vet: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fucv9JRolI

T shares a lesson from a recent ,family tragedy then the girls dive into the day's topic and T&A share their inner decision processes on what makes a guy a friend versus a lover.   Are their absolutes? checklists? What makes the cut and what doesn't... or is it a little more complicated than that?  T&A share their stories and deeper insights into what makes a guy a yay or a nay?

T&A talk with Jennifer Fink, producer of the Sundance Grand Jury winning short film, Thunder Road, and a romantically saavy male model for top brands like Ralph Lauren and Nautica on the subject of Valentine's Day, what is romance, and how can we create real intention that makes your paramour feel special.  Get on board with our failures, successes, funny stories, and good advice, born from personal experiences!

Why is sex with him or her so damn good?! Is it real love or is it a distraction from the truth? Listen in as T&A reflect on the best sex they've had and what was really motivating it.  In a culture that portrays sexual addiction as love,  T&A question their most powerful sexual experiences and discover what was really behind them.

A woman's period is largely resented by both men and women, one of the 'downsides' to being a woman.  But can a woman's cycle be a missing key to greater sex and intimacy- for men and women?  T&A talk with author, midwife and sexuality teacher, Sheri Winston, founder of the Intimate Arts Center to learn about the cycle in a whole new way.  Hear how to shift your perspective, and your approach to you or your partner's period, and most importantly, why.  Plus, why having sex durring a period is a great thing! Show Notes The words moon, menstruation and lunar all come from the same root.  Before the advent of light, a woman’s cycle was literally dictated by the stage of the moon (7:45) If we think about that lunar cycle, it makes it easy to understand why our energy also waxes and wanes in tune with the fullness of the moon.  When the moon is full, we ovulate, and our energy is at it’s highest because Mother Nature is telling us it’s time to procreate  (9:15) Find all relevant links & FULL show notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/the-period-how-can-it-work-for-me-instead-of-against-me-wsheri-winston-ep-66/

After T's dive into female domination, the girls explore the other side of the coin and report back on their experiences with submission when T goes to a female sub party and A meets up with a Dom from Fetlife!  It's easy to toss it off as 'kink', but listen in to find out why we don't.

An Open Marriage is one of the most fascinating anomelies of modern society.  Typically judged for being weird, bizarre or too 'out there'... arent' you curious about what it can really be like?  We are!  And that's why we brought on Little Ralphie of Lily Vonschtup's 'Monday Night Tease',  who shares his experience as a male burlesque performer and bravely gives us an intimate look inside his ten year marriage to the love of his life... who also has a boyfriend... who lives in their home with them.  Not an effort to convert you, but a fascinating opportunity to understand a different way of looking at love and life.  Happy listening!   Also- check out Little Ralphie and team's conversation comedy podcast www.Midnight BreakfastPodcast.com

H. Alan Scott, comedian, writer for Vice, Fusion, and co-host of the Golden Girls podcast, Out On the Lanai, offers the gay male perspective with anal play and sex to help T&A untease this challenging sex act.  'A' shares her frustration with lovers who are eager to play back there, but don't know what they're doing.  Do you want to have anal sex with your partner, but they don't? Are you curious & don't know where to start? Do you do it, but feel like it's an unpleasant chore? Take the time to learn the art of anal play, so that you both can have fun trying something new!

What if sex really was as important as eating, drinking, and sleeping in our every day lives? Amy Jo Goddard, accomplished sexpert and author, chats with T&A about how she got into this line of work, her own sexual education, and the lens of sexuality through which she sees the world!  A true honor to have this leading expert, speaker, and workshop educator join us with her honesty and enthusiasm around this topic.  She also explains the detail that went into making this book, based on her experience with clients and their personal journeys, and her commitment to accurate drawings of genital anatomy!  Show Notes Our culture devalues sexuality all of the time for many reasons (9:42).  We learn to treat sexuality as something that we only pay attention to when we want to fix it, not something that can be used throughout our lives for growth. (10:32) For most people, they learn sexuality from partners, so it’s luck of the draw what you learn. (13:20) Is sexual energy the same as creative energy? Why is that so important? (14:30) 2016 is going to be a ‘Power Year’ for ‘A’.  What’s that all about? (51:08) Let’s redefine sexual empowerment. (19:40) What does it mean to be ‘at home with ourselves’? (20:09) Is sexual energy a matter of simple physics?  How?  (21:35)  What is one of the best ways to ‘fuel the flame’ of sexual energy? (22:16) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/blog/

The first FDA approved female , Flibanserin(aka Adyii), will be available for consumers this October, 2015!  BUT, before you jump on the band wagon there's a few things about the creation of this drug you might want to hear about...  T&A talk with Liz Canner, director of the documentary film 'Orgasm inc.' about the race for the pharmaceutical's holy grail, how the 'need' for this drug even came into being, and big pharma's influence on our sexuality.  Fascinating, informative and uncomfortably eye-opening. Watch Orgasm inc. on Netflix, iTunes and everywhere else: www.orgasminc.org And, check out A's blog, 'Female : A Cautionary Tale'  for a deeper look at Flibanserin's story Show Notes In clinical trials, the subjects kept a daily diary and across the board, they recorded no significant daily increase in sexual desire (03:47) Who started the rumors of sexism and injustice at the FDA?  (05:09) Flibanserin was originally developed as an SSRI to treat depression, but it didn’t work as an anti-depressant  (05:40) What is ‘Conditioned Branding’?  (08:05) What is HSDD and is it real? (08:50) Drug companies have to have a clearly defined disease to start testing.  (09:45) The doctors that came together to define Female Sexual Dysfunction had ties to 22 drug companies. (10:28) Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/need-female--think-twice-before-you-pop-that-magic-pill/

'A' got a surprising diagnosis that threatens her reputation with her lovers...A bad smelling vagina can totally happen to you, but let's talk about it, so you don't feel ashamed, and you know what to do when it happens to you.  How the common medical recommendation of "have less sexual partners" just won't cut it anymore for the modern woman!  And guys, as awkward as this might sound, you want to listen up, because the more you know about vaginas, the better you'll be able to love them.  Show Notes Bacterial vaginosis is caused by E. coli in your vagina      (07:00) The mouth also carries the E. coli bacteria        (07:51) What are the popular themes and stigma surrounding female problems? (09:05) Can you get bacterial infections without being sexually active? (09:21) Bacterial vaginosis is NOT an STD and one of the major contributors is actually nylon underwear (11:30) What is the “Boric acid trick”?  (16:20) Vaginal problems can happen in times of high stress because the nervous system is tied to the lymphatic system (18:43) How can your period and sexual intercourse change the normal pH of your vagina? (20:00) The still ever-present overwhelming and subversive advice that less sexual partners means you won’t get vaginal problems (20:55) Did you know that men can get a pill to kill yeast that they might be carrying to their partners? (22:10) (the pill mentioned is Diflucan) Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/is-your-smell-down-there-normal-ep-63/

**Sorry for the technical difficulties and 3 min of empty space!  HERE is the REAL episode:)  growing pains UGH. While 'T' is away and working it at a comedy fest, 'A' shares some 'strange', sex practices from around the world.  From ritual cheating to adolescent love huts to wife stealing, it all sounds kind of out there... but is it really?  Maybe there is more to learn from these 'backward' countries than we think?

T&A examine the need for fidelity and explore when boundaries can hurt us and help us.  Plus A shares her experience with being the 'other woman' and the girls offer a new definition of fidelity in this fresh look at cheating. See Esther Perel's TED TALK here

T&A host an all women’s round-table discussion with Carie Belin, nurse practitioner and creator of online magazine, The Valorist (http://www.valorist.com/),  and Melissa Macedo, actress, musician (https://m.soundcloud.com/musicmacedo), and creator of the live show, Dirty Talk (http://Www.worldkinensemble.com), on the real motivations for female-on-female cattiness and how this attitude towards our own sex may be holding women back in the workplace.  And If so, what on earth can we do about it?

T&A talk with Lucky Mor, creator of F*ck, I love You, and filmmaker, Sean S. Bloch, on the Buddhist perspective of love and monogamy from Zen practitioner, Fabrizio Chiesa's new blog, A Buddhist’s Insights: Sustaining Love In Relationships, on the film Monogamish &... is how can sustained love be possible for me?

Giselle Jones, a sex therapist at The Center for Healthy Sex, mindfulness facilitator, yoga instructor, and licensed pyschotherapist (phew!), talks with T&A about how to clear our minds and connect with our bodies for better sex! She's left no stone unturned in all the factors that contribute to a stymied orgasm.  She shares her wisdom, common issues that come up with patients, and most importantly, how we can all solve this problem with a few practical tools.  She even guides a mini meditation at the end of this episode.  Her voice is so soothing, your tension melts when she says 'hello'!  Show Notes We are bombarded with sexual images that are not realistic that can affect our sexuality. (09:10) What is the definition of mindfulness? (9:48) What is the enemy of enjoyable, juicy sex? (11:30) Listen here for an interesting description of the UCLA MARC Institute’s secular study program for mediation. (15:12) On an evolutionary level, our brains have not advanced that far from prehistoric times when it comes to the ‘fight or flight’ response. (15:50) What are two approaches we can take when looking at orgasm? (17:31) What are some things they do at The Center for Healthy Sex?  (19:55) It can be difficult to get people to ‘buy into’ the idea that sexual ‘problems’ are more emotional-based than they believe. (21:29) What common problem and response do women face that keeps us in a heightened state of anxiety? (22:34) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/in-your-head-during-sex-try-this-w-giselle-jones-sex-therapist-mindfulness-facilitator-ep-73/

In all this talk about gender equaity in the workplace, T&A tackle the deeper equality issue of approaching work and success with feminine qualities versus masculine, and how both men and women can benefit from ditching their old paradigms and finding a new way of approaching success.  The girls talk with Lisa Marie Jenkins, professional coach, speaker, & author of 'WAKE UP, BEAUTY! It's Not About the Prince' on how exactly we can go about this,  why it's so important and how this affects our male/female relationships. Show Notes Historically, men were protectors and providers; women were compassionate nurturers. Both sexes were playing very specific roles (11:40) The 70’s moved women into the angry, bra burning stage which was necessary to get the ball rolling but that is NOT what feminism is about (11:51) The year 1985 is a benchmark-that’s the year when women started earning 50% of all college degrees (12:12)  Today, we earn 60-65% of all degrees, Bachelors and Masters’ combined and we’ve been in the work force since the mid-80’s (12:16)  Can a woman be nice and competent in today’s workplace? (15:15)  Despite the higher numbers for advanced degrees, women only represent 4.7% of CEO’s in Fortune 500 companies and at major tech companies women only represent 20% of employees in all roles (18:30)  Where and how do women struggle the most in the workplace?  (21:00) What is ‘tentative speech’ and how does it hurt women?  (21:52)  Find Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/she-doesnt-want-sex-could-be-her-work-place-w-lisa-marie-jenkins-ep-68/

With a new year ahead, forward motion means we have to stop and take stock of where we are and where we've been.   In this episode, T&A share some of their most important insights, and question some of their dating & relationship habits that may be holding them back in life.  Listen in and get inspired as the girls have an in-depth and honest conversation about balancing love and career, evaluate their compulsions and desires in life, and come up with some new habits for 2016 to help them reach their goals.   Show Notes What are T’s mantras for the year?  (1:35) What’s been A’s theme for the year? (2:18) What prompted A to do a 5-year review of her life?  What one thing did she see that was consistent all the way through?  (8:05) Is there safety in the drama of relationships that is keeping A from focusing on what she really wants to be doing? (10:35) What pattern has T noticed in the men that she chooses? (11:17) What realization did A have about herself and the men that she dates? (14:51) What feelings are motivating A in taking action in her career? (18:52) Do men have the same conflicting sentiments regarding work vs. relationships? (19:47) What moment of clarity did A have regarding her own talents and success while on vacation? (23:03) It’s a natural human trait to surround yourself with those you admire.  Was T taking it one step further, though? (27:54) When you have sex with someone, is there a subconscious desire to take on some of their qualities? (29:25) FULL Show Notes and Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/are-we-sacrificing-our-career-for-men-ta-review-our-2015-dating-habits-ep-75/

It's time to take stock, and make sure our ducks are in a row, as we close out 2015 and begin a new year!  Comedians and Roast Battlers, Rena Hundert, Sarah Afkami (Comedy Central tv writer), and Robbie Kirkhuff (featured on The Todd Glass Show), join T&A to reminisce about 2015 - the good, bad, and the ugly! Robbie's Halloween takes an interesting turn with his first threesome, Rena masters the art of sexting, and Sarah gets honest about finding her focus in 2016! T&A share their personal journeys, what they gained from their lovers, and push this gaggle of comedians to consider what they really want for 2016. + You can Instagram or tweet us with the hashtag #2015sexcount or email T&A with a photo of your sex count number displayed, and the best entry wins a destiny card reading from yours truly, 'A'! Beware: this episode is a rollicking good time & may send your holiday hot toddy shooting through your nose with laughter!  Show Notes What is ‘spit roasting?’  (5:49) Out with it-who had the highest ‘number’ for 2015!?  (8:22) Listen here for the juicy details of Robby and Omid’s threesome.  (10:17) If everyone on the show was a monkey, what kind of monkey would they be? (18:10) Does online/smartphone sex count toward your numbers for the year? (20:03)  Wow-what was Robbie doing when he climaxed SIX times in one night!? (27:02) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/2015s-sexy-time-in-review-happy-new-year-a-comedy-roundtable-chat-ep-74/

T&A talk with Mark W. Gray, the man behind 'Professor Puppet' on sex as a mature man, the choice of wether or not to have kids, and how to make the holidays special wether you're single, alone, married, or divorced.  PLUS, Professor Hans Von Puppet tells us how to spice up the romance for the holidays. Show Notes Why should men masturbate before a date?  (08:31) If you see something, say something!  Speaking up about what’s bothering you in your partner is essential to your relationship. (21:43) A lot of things can change our perspective on life, but the nice thing about having a child is that it’s another person that you are connected to for life. (27:00) He’s found that having two children is almost easier because it takes the pressure of the single child. (29:03) Can we make ourselves change our outlook on having children? (33:00) We are pulled in two different directions because we’re taught to have a career at the same time as we’re being societally pressured to have children. (34:40) Are we selling ourselves short by not aggressively pursuing parenthood? (35:35) Can caring for a child become a crutch, giving us an excuse to stop caring for our own selves? (37:11) There’s an illusion that we’re in complete control of where our life is going and sometimes the derailment can be as important as the path. (37:35) FULL Show Notes & Links HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/an-older-man-convinces-ta-to-have-kids-w-professor-hans-von-puppet-ep-72/

So many factors out there in the world affect our sexuality and ultimately, our ability to orgasm, including media, myths, education, mis-education, , on and on...  In this episode we talk with Sheri Winston, author of 'The Anatomy of Female Arousal' and founder of the Intimate Arts Center, about the myths and the realities of the female orgasm, how to orgasm with your parnter and perhaps even during penetration.  While romance novels and say we should be having mind blowing orgasms while riding a horse... in the rain... on command and with no foreplay, the reality is quite different- and it doesn't mean we're broken. SHOW NOTES: Quick Note:  Stay tuned through this episode to hear about our special holiday discount codes.  Information at end of show notes!   Do you feel broken because you don’t orgasm in a certain way, or even at all, with your partner?  We get some pretty bad ideas about orgasm from media and culture and many women think that there’s something ‘wrong’ with them if they’re not having the ‘Big O’ with their partners.   So, many women only achieve orgasm through masturbation and, even worse, fake orgasm with their partners, a strategy that leaves both partners at a disadvantage both now and for the future-   LINK FOR FULL SHOW NOTES HERE : http://www.tatalksex.com/female-orgasm-myth-vs-reality-how-to-get-it-right-w-sheri-winston-ep-71/

Reid Mihalko joins T&A to answer a question that has been on the minds of our listeners: How can I get my partner to open up sexually? or at least, how can I even get my partner interested in sex, and hopefully its exploration? Reid guides us through the larger picture of why we might be having sexual roadblocks in relationships, and how we can create clear communication with those whom we desire to have great sex! From there, T and Reid role play a common scenario of how a husband can approach his wife about reengaging in active intimacy and more enriching sex for both of them.  We get nuts & bolts, along with a deeper understanding, and how to find resources from here! Find Reid at www.ReidAboutSex.com and find more about our specific discussion at www.ReidAboutSex.com/TATalkSex Find our Holiday discount codes on site: www.TATalkSex.com Show Notes Our culture does not teach us to assess if someone is actually a good fit for us so we end up with someone who may be ‘nice’ but may not be on our same sexual wavelength. (09:05) We are not given the permission to discuss sexual ‘bottom lines’ b/c our previous generations didn’t look for sexual compatibility-they looked for stability & safety.  Duration was the metric of success and the way you showed that you ‘cared’ is that you put up with more.  (10:21) Find Resource Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/how-to-open-up-sexually-can-i-get-my-partner-to-go-there-ep-70/

T&A talk with somatic sex educator and relationship coach Charlie Glickman, co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure” on masculinity in the modern day and prostate pleasure- our resistance to getting it, our resistance to giving it and how to make it the hottest (and most pleasurable) thing you’ve ever done in the bedroom. Show Notes What is Somatic Sex Education?  (26:09/30:32) Just as in all other areas of our lives, our sexual tastes change as we get older. (27:20) So many of us tune out or ‘go inside our heads’ during sex-that will inhibit the experience you are able to have. (31:05) How can working with a Somatic Sex Educator be a totally different experience than exploring sexuality with your partner?  (32:25) When speaking on Masculinity, Charlie starts with a brainstorm exercise that asks the group to describe the aspects of a ‘Real Man’.   (33:10) Over the many years he’s been doing this exercise across all spectrums of society, the results are pretty consistent regardless of the specific group.  (33:47) Find Links, Resources & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/?p=274

Comedians, Ester Steinberg (@esterk) & Matty Goldberg (author of Brain Humor), join T&A to reflect on this Thanksgiving about past sexual regrets and what we've all learned about love, life, relationships, and how we could of handled that one night stand a little better.  We all share intimate stories, and laugh along the way - A feel good episode about those cring-worthy moments! Show Notes What are the top 5 things people regret on their deathbeds?  (7:09)  “I wish I had lived truer to myself and not what other people expected of me” (7:59)  What type of guys was Ester into?  Did that work out for her?  (9:40) What scene from movie ‘Sideways’ makes Matty think of his biggest sexual regrets? (12:15)  Does it really help to say that you’re sorry for being a dick after the fact?  (15:04)  One of Ester’s pet peeves is men assuming she wants a relationship just because she’s female-can’t she just have meaningless sex too?! (15:34)    Find Refs & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/sexual-regrets-what-have-we-learned-happy-thanksgiving-roundtable-ep-69/

T&A, both diagnosed with HPV at varying points in their lives, get to the bottom of why there's so much conflicting information around HPV out there.  Expert, Dr. Diane Harper, who has been heard on NPR, Katie Couric, CNN, and other sites, fills us in on the 101 of HPV to the research and why it's important to have regular checkups for healthcare and prevention.  How does HPV work? Why is it so common? How can I prevent it? Do the vaccines work? Why don't they test men?! All of your questions are answered in a clear, concise way, thanks to Dr. Harper!  We know you'll feel as relieved as we do after listening to this episode.   Show Notes HPV is a tiny virus that has been with us forever-literally since the time of dinosaurs! (4:15) It literally bounces around on skin.  It does not live in blood or other bodily fluids (5:53) What are the avenues of transmission for HPV?  Hint: it’s not only our sexual organs (06:04) It’s definitely a survivor.  The way  it infects the skin cells allows it to hide from the immune system (06:54) Find relevant links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/hpv-should-i-be-afraid-of-it-the-truth-behind-the-std-with-dr-diane-harper-ep-66/

T&A chat with Joe Praino, super dude, and host of both the Dirty Sports and Kooks of Komedy podcasts, about women and when the ladies cross the line at a bar or in the bedroom! Do women take liberties that men can't and is that okay?  Where do we draw the line? T&A also interviewed prominent podcasting men at the LA Podfest about their experiences with feeling violated by a woman. Interview SoundBites at LA Podfest from: Walker Uhl of The Deeper Dive Podcast , Mike Siegel of Travel Tales Podcast, and Murray Valeriano of Road Stories Podcast        Show Notes For a typical guy, if a girl is coming on super strong, then he’s probably going to be into it. It has to bepretty weird and over-the-top to scare a guy away.  (2:50) There’s a perception by some women that you can’t ever really cross a line because men stereotypically are ‘game’ for action (5:51) The most attractive to a guy is the woman who wants him  (6:22) But, coming on so strong that it jumps normal steps in the process can throw everything off (6:52) Find Relevant Links & FULL Show Notes HERE: http://www.tatalksex.com/can-a-woman-be-too-sexually-aggressive-w-joe-praino-of-the-dirty-sports-podcast/

'A' reads her blog post on the film, Suffragette, starring Carrie Mulligan and Meryl Streep, directed by Sarah Gavron.  A's experience of the film screening at Telluride Film Festival provoked emotional turmoil, and brought up many of her own frustrations with the current state inequality in America.  While Suffragette follows the story of women fighting for the right to vote in the early part of the century, 'A' felt the impact from centuries of oppression for the female gender to present day - how insecurity and fear have been deeply embedded in our psyche as women, and how we might go about eradicating these hindrances slowing us down, and how we as a society, including men, can find a balance in allowing our feminine energies to exist without shame.  .