Psychologists Off the Clock

What if the relentless push for productivity is actually standing in the way of a truly fulfilling life?  Join cohost Michael Herold and guest Ross White, author of The Tree that Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive, as they redefine balance and purpose, challenging societal pressures to stay constantly “on.”  Using the wisdom of nature and the anatomy of a tree, Ross explores how psychological flexibility—grounded in rest, resilience, and self-awareness—can empower us to find strength in slowing down.  And discover how “relenting” can open doors to a balanced, purpose-filled life. Listen to the full conversation to uncover how embracing rest could be your greatest asset! Link to Survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeCtaljb-QMHXl6651OdUrK6Zwt5QeDckw6dCoDYszC-0XpyA/viewform?usp=send_form Listen and Learn:  Are mantras like 'no limits' actually harming us? Hear from Ross why relenting, not relentless, may be key Finding a balance between 'get,' 'threat,' and 'reset' mode—are you tuned to your true needs?   Is purpose found or formed?      Small steps that could lead you closer to your purpose The 'reset' formula to shift from burnout to balance by cultivating mental flexibility How you can thrive amid the ‘uncontrollables’ in life with the mindset shift high performers swear by What price would you pay for emotional well-being against mastery? How you can balance strong intention and light attachment in pursuit of a purposeful life What is the distinction between confidence and self-efficacy in high performance?  Resources:  The Tree that Bends: How a flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive The 'Strive2Thrive' webpage: https://www.strive2thrive.co.uk/ Instagram: @RossGWhite - https://www.instagram.com/rossgwhite/ X: @RossGWhite - https://x.com/RossGWhite LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/prof-ross-g-white/ About Ross White Professor Ross White is an award-winning clinical psychologist who specializes in supporting the mental health and wellbeing of adults working in high-performance environments, including elite-level athletes in football, rugby, track and field, and tennis. He has collaborated with the World Health Organization and the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees on projects to reduce distress experienced by refugees and other populations in the aftermath of humanitarian crises. He is currently Professor of Clinical Psychology at Queen’s University Belfast, and is a director of Strive2Thrive, a clinical psychology consultancy firm that provides interventions and training to help individuals and organizations thrive. Related Episodes 378 - The Happy High Achiever with Mary Anderson 363. Worrying Is Optional with Ben Eckstein 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg 301. Seven Daily ACT Practices for Living Fully with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen 284. Things We Love with Aaron Ahuvia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stuck in the never-ending grind but still feel like it’s not enough?  Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and author of Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out-- and How to Break Free breaks down how hustle culture and wellness fads can mess with our sense of self-worth and add to our stress.  She talks about how perfectionism and the pressure to constantly achieve can leave us feeling anxious, and why it’s so important to tune into what you need, not what society tells you is right. Dr. Paula shares ideas like intuitive eating and flexible living, encouraging us to prioritize our own values over external expectations. She also touches on the importance of setting boundaries and using social media mindfully, so it doesn’t drain us. Her hope? To help people-pleasers and over-achievers find more balance, self-compassion, and ease in their lives. Listen and Learn:  How the pressures of perfectionism and toxic striving can manifest in every season of life from childhood to adulthood The harmful impact of hustle culture and how society glorifies relentless productivity and ties self-worth to achievement The fine line between healthy ambition and toxic striving and how burnout, perfectionism, and societal pressures intersect How wellness culture ties our worth to shifting health trends and body image, making people feel like they’re constantly chasing unrealistic ideals instead of real wellness Blending intuitive eating and ACT helps break free from toxic striving and find balance How rigid rules around food, time, and behavior quietly shape our lives Shifting from rigid rules to self-compassion can transform habits like sleep, exercise, and eating How shame can fuel rigid behaviors, toxic striving, and the liberating power of self-compassion  Embracing pleasure, rejecting guilt, and recognizing that enjoying life enhances our well-being and the value we bring to others  How reclaiming your intuition and setting media boundaries can transform your daily life Resources:  Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out-- and How to Break Free Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfuldrpaula/ About Paula Freedman-Diamond:  Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D., is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the owner and clinical director of HumanKind Psychological Services in Chicago, IL and the author of Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out-- and How to Break Free, and The Addiction Recovery Workbook. Dr. Paula specializes in perfectionism, anxiety, and eating disorders. She enjoys helping high-achievers and people-please rs learn to stop chasing external approval and start living according to the wisdom of their own bodies and minds. Dr. Paula is on a mission to take down the toxic systems that make people feel like they're not good enough, no matter how hard they work. She is especially passionate about making healthcare more welcoming and respectful for all bodies. She provides education and supervision for clinical psychology doctoral students. She is a strong advocate for size inclusivity in health, fitness, and wellness spaces. Dr. Paula has been featured in the New York Times and is a featured expert for Reebok, Bark Technologies, and A Sweat Life. She is on the advisory boards for Medical Students for Size Inclusivity and Fat Torah. You can follow her on Instagram at @mindfuldrpaula.  Related Episodes: 358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis 378. The Happy High Achiever with Mary Anderson 230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin 326. Weight Stigma and Body Image with Sarah Pegrum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does happiness fuel productivity and success? Join Michael Herold in an empowering chat with Mary Anderson, the author of The Happy High Achiever, who gives her expertise on how high-achievers can turn the tables on stress and anxiety, unlocking powerful tools that can lead you to greater success and fulfillment in life.  You'll discover how to identify cognitive distortions, including what Mary coined the 'Troublesome Trifecta,' learn techniques to challenge those pesky, unhelpful thoughts and uncover personalized strategies for building your confidence, tackling perfectionism, embracing your authentic self, and forging meaningful connections with others. If you want to learn how to become a happy high achiever and unleash your full potential, listening to this episode and getting your copy of Mary’s book is a step in the right direction! Listen and Learn:  What inspired Mary to write a guide for high achievers struggling with anxiety Redefining achievement and optimizing mindset to reach your best self  The "Troublesome Trifecta" of thoughts that can sabotage your progress and fuel anxiety Why striving for excellence, not perfection, could unlock your potential without all the stress Embracing your mistakes to achieve true excellence and balance high achievement  Why celebrating victories fuels your success and happiness Resources:  The Happy High Achiever: 8 Essentials to Overcome Anxiety, Manage Stress, and Energize Yourself for Success--Without Losing Your Edge Website: https://maryandersonphd.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Dr-Mary-Anderson/100063517721186/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_maryanderson/ Link to POTC Listener Survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeCtaljb-QMHXl6651OdUrK6Zwt5QeDckw6dCoDYszC-0XpyA/viewform About Mary Anderson Dr. Mary Anderson is a licensed psychologist and sought-after speaker with over a decade of experience helping patients become happier, healthier, and sustainably high-achieving. Dr. Anderson earned her PhD in clinical psychology, with a specialty in health psychology, from the University of Florida and completed her internship and post-doctoral fellowship at the VA Boston Healthcare System, with appointments at Harvard Medical School and Boston University School of Medicine. She currently lives in Boston, Massachusetts.   Related Episodes 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are kids learning enough about how the world really works? This week, Emily hosts Lindsey Cormack, a thoughtful political science professor and author of How to Raise a Citizen (and Why It's Up to You to Do It), to talk about how we, as parents, can play a big role in raising engaged citizens.  They delve into Lindsey's experiences and research, demonstrating how schools frequently fail to teach students the fundamentals of government. They also look into what it means to be a 'citizen' and how we can encourage our children to be interested in politics.  You’ll hear tips on having age-appropriate political discussions, tackling misinformation, and helping kids feel empowered to participate.  This conversation is a heartfelt reminder for all of us parents to step up and help guide our kids into becoming informed, active voters. Listen and Learn:  Lindsey's journey to writing a parenting book that empowers kids to understand politics Why young adults struggle with politics—and how family conversations can change the future Raising politically empowered kids with the autonomy to shape their communities How you, as a parent, can shape future citizens to strengthen democracy in an age of political disengagement Protecting your kids from misinformation by helping them understand politics better Developing non-cognitive skills through civic engagement and how this can empower your kids for life Can engaging in politics boost your kids' college prospects and help them become impactful leaders? How engaging in local politics can boost kids' mental health and empower them to create change Ways you can engage your kids in politics positively and navigate tough discussions about leaders How to model open-mindedness and flexible thinking for kids in political discussions! Should more states have the constitution test for kids? Nurturing political understanding in your kids, from ages 5 to 18 Why equipping kids to navigate politics is crucial for a better future, not just party loyalty Resources:  How to Raise a Citizen (and Why It's Up to You to Do It) https://www.lindseycormack.com/ https://twitter.com/DCInbox https://www.instagram.com/howtoraiseacitizen/ About Lindsey Cormack Lindsey Cormack is an associate professor of Political Science and Director of the Diplomacy Lab at Stevens Institute of Technology. She has authored two books, How to Raise a Citizen (And Why it’s Up to You to Do It) and Congress and U.S. Veterans: From the GI Bill to the VA Crisis. She created and maintains the digital database of all official Congress-to-constituent e-newsletters at www.dcinbox.com. She earned her PhD in Government from New York University. She currently serves as the Secretary for Manhattan Community Board 8. Her research has been published in Political Behavior, Congress & the Presidency, Legislative Studies Quarterly, Political Science Research and Methods, American Politics Research, Politics & Policy, Politics Groups & Identities, Politics & Gender, The Journal of Gender Studies, Energy Economics, The Legislative Scholar as well as in popular outlets including the Bloomberg Businesswire, The New York Times, The Washington Post, FiveThirtyEight, ProPublica, Roll Call, The New York Post, NBC News, the LSE USCentre, and The Hill, The Conversation, The San Francisco Chronicle, and more. Related Episodes: 371. Uniting Toward a Better Future with Diana Smith 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Emily Edlynn 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer https://offtheclockpsych.com/273-a-more-just-future-with-dolly-chugh/  https://offtheclockpsych.com/values-fulfillment-theory/ https://offtheclockpsych.com/205-thrivers-with-michele-borba/ https://offtheclockpsych.com/howtobeanadult/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill takes on the dynamic blend of science and art in therapy with our amazing guest, Dr. Michael Alcee, a mental health educator and the author of Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist. Michael sheds light on the vital balance between left-brain logic and right-brain creativity that makes for effective psychotherapy, shares thoughts on the power of humor, metaphor, and emotional connection, and reveals how therapists can embrace their creative side while staying rooted in scientific principles.  With fascinating examples from Miichael’s professional experience, he presents practical strategies to help therapists enhance their intuitive skills, boost their therapeutic presence, and build stronger connections with their clients. Please join us for an intriguing discovery of how blending science and art can elevate your therapeutic practice and transform the outcome of your client sessions! Listen and Learn:  How the art of therapy and music intertwine to create healing conversations that inspire growth The surprising encounter with Irving Yalom that revealed profound insights into the art of therapy and led Michael to write his book  How therapy becomes an art, blending science and creativity to help clients find their true selves Embracing intuition, creativity, and improvisation as a therapist to enhance your practice Understanding left and right brain dynamics and how it enhances therapy, fostering creativity and insight  How the concept "mindsight" and "wise mind" blend logic and emotion in therapy How therapists can embrace metaphor and intuition for deeper client connections and transformative outcomes  Resources: Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist https://michaelalcee.com/ https://michael-alcee.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-alcee-14417755/ https://www.instagram.com/mike_drop_/ https://www.facebook.com/livelifecreatively2/ Mentioned in this episode: The Courage to Create: https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Create-Rollo-May/dp/0393311066 About Michael Alcee Michael Alcée, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in Tarrytown, NY, and is a Mental Health Educator at the Manhattan School of Music. In his first book, Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist (Norton, 2022), Michael demonstrated how all clinicians are artists, reading the changes like well-versed jazz musicians, finding the poetic turns in their client's stories like skilled writers, and reveling in the creative act that emerges in the humanistic encounter of psychotherapy. His forthcoming book is entitled The Upside of OCD: Flip the Script to Reclaim Your Life (Rowman & LIttlefield, 2024) and aims to add depth to the exploration and understanding of the OCD experience. Michael has been a TEDx speaker and organizer and is a regular contributor at Psychology Today along with contributions to NPR, The Chicago Tribune, and The New York Times, among others. You can also find him on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman and on Shrink Rap Radio. Related Episodes 82. Therapist Self Doubt with Jim Lucas 106. Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Robyn Walser 158. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 366. Psychologists ON the Clock: Getting Experiential with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you in the midst of a midlife transition, grappling with big questions about purpose, change, and self-discovery? For this week’s episode, cohost Debbie Sorensen celebrates her 50th birthday with a discussion on the transformative period of midlife with her friend, Dr. Meg McKelvie.  A period rich with psychological shifts, existential questions, and challenges in finding deeper meaning, they get into acceptance and commitment therapy, emotional, psychical and cognitive changes, ways to overcome people-pleasing habits, and much much more.  With practical exercises and writing practices, this episode is a gift to anyone navigating midlife transitions and relationships, offering insight, reflection, and a path toward deeper understanding and fulfilling connections. We hope you enjoy this heartfelt and poignant conversation!  Listen and Learn: Opportunities that midlife brings for deeper understanding and transformation Confronting body changes and the aging process  How your relationships can become deeper in midlife; letting go of surface-level bonds and embracing genuine honesty and shared experiences The myth of the midlife crisis and how, contrary to what stereotypes lead us to believe, it frequently involves a sharp internal existential shift rather than a dramatic upheaval Living with unanswered questions and learning to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty Ways you can cultivate a personal space that nurtures self-reflection and self-sufficiency The lessons that regret can teach us The value of sitting with challenging emotions such as anger and grief, and how these feelings can provide critical insights into your life  The difference between body neutrality and body positivity and how stepping back from the internal debate about your body can lead to a more peaceful relationship with yourself Resources: Meg’s website: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/ LInk to the “Soul-Searching Questions” handout on Meg’s website and Debbie’s website.  More writing resources from Meg and Debbie:  Meg’s writing workshops: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/workshopsgroups Debbie’s Instagram for journaling prompts: https://www.instagram.com/drdebbiesorensen/ Debbie’s Guided Journaling substack: https://guidedjournaling.substack.com/  345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock A Substack essay Debbie wrote on her 50th birthday A commentary on the Surgeon General’s recent advisory on parental stress, by co-hosts Debbie and Emily, and former co-host Yael Schonburn!  Books mentioned in the episode:  Finding Meaning In the Second Half of Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781592402076  The Heroine's Journey: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611808308 Related episodes:  199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn  291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy  257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are craving deeper, more meaningful connections in life then you're in for a treat with our latest guest, Dr. Adam Dorsay. Adam, also affectionately known as EnthusiAdam, is a licensed psychologist and executive coach who walks us through the core ideas from his upcoming book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, set to release on October 1st (mark your calendars!).  We touch on the essential connections we need in life—to ourselves, others, the world around us, and something greater. Throughout our chat, Adam offers plenty of practical, heart-centered tips on how to break down barriers like FOMO, embrace vulnerability, and start building truly meaningful connections.  From shared learning experiences to local adventures, we talk about ways to actively foster those deeper bonds we all long for. Please join us for an inspiring and actionable conversation that’ll leave you feeling more connected than ever! Listen and Learn:  The true meaning of connection—beyond relationships The hidden barriers to connection—why FOMO, distraction, social media, and conformity are keeping us apart Using Adam’s Driveaway Test to reveal the true impact of your connections  How creating a must-haves list can lead to lasting, fulfilling connections and relationships Examples of how you can strengthen your connections and build lasting bonds through shared experiences and learning together Resources:  https://dradamdorsay.com/ Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/adam-dorsay-san-jose-ca/47721 https://www.instagram.com/dradamdorsay/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-dorsay-psy-d-a582a2/ About Adam Dorsay Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and executive coach in Silicon Valley where he serves high-achieving adults. Adam is a TEDx speaker and the host of SuperPsyched, an award-winning podcast with over 200 episodes which we at psychologists off the clock love. And his book by the same name, Superpsyched: Unleash the power of the 4 types of connection and live the life you love will be available on October first and is what we are here to discuss today. Adam has provided keynotes and trainings to multiple corporations and organizations, including Microsoft, Linkedin, and the California Psychological Association. He is happily married, the father of young boys, and he has a hypoallergenic 33-pound Australian Labradoodle therapy dog named Raffi, who lives at his home and works at his office. Related Episodes: 254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay 288. The Fun Habit with Mike Rucker 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you feel like you are constantly on an emotional rollercoaster with your children?  Get stuck into this lively chat with Dr. Carla Naumburg, a licensed clinical social worker, and the mind behind 'How to Stop Losing Your It with Your Kids'. Carla introduces us to her new book, 'How to Stop Freaking Out', which is written specifically for kids, and talks about how a mix of compassion and humor can make all the difference.  Whether you're a parent looking for ways to stay calm or a kid trying to understand your own feelings, Carla shares practical tips and fun mindfulness techniques that you can learn and introduce to your family in a gentle and impactful way.  Give it a listen and discover how you can bring more calm and connection to your family. You never know—you might just find the perfect strategy to make those daily challenges a little easier! Listen and Learn:  How Carla turned her hit advice for parents into a playful, illustrated guide for kids Why kids’ emotional freakouts are not only normal but essential for their development The four core features of a freakout using Carla’s FART acronym The "Safety Squirrel": a playful way to explain the brain’s fight, flight, freeze, and freak-out responses How the simple act of "noticing" can gently guide your mind out of a freakout How to help your child recognize their emotional "buttons" and guide them with compassionate strategies to navigate their big feelings Playful strategies that you as a parent can experiment with to turn challenging moments into opportunities for growth and connection Self-compassion for kids and how this can help them handle tough times better Clara’s clever way to introduce her book 'How to Stop Freaking Out' to your kids without them feeling pressured and making them eager to explore it Resources: How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent Website: www.carlanaumburg.com Email: carla@carlanaumburg.com Instagram: @carlanaumburg Facebook: Carla Naumburg About Carla Naumburg Carla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW is a clinical social worker and the author of five books, including the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids and its forthcoming middle-grade companion How to Stop Freaking Out. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives in Massachusetts with her husband and two daughters. Related Episodes:  344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 337. Puberty is Awkward with Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Emily Edlynn 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance 149. How to Not Lose It With Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if there's more to happiness and fulfillment than what you've been taught? Speaking about her book The Art of the Interesting, Lorraine Besser questions accepted notions of what constitutes a fulfilling life. She doesn’t just explore happiness and meaning; she challenges their dominance, exposing how chasing these ideals can sometimes leave us feeling empty and disillusioned. Lorraine invites us to consider a different path: pursuing a psychologically rich life. This isn’t about endless joy or a sense of fulfillment that’s always just out of reach. It’s about diving into experiences that are novel, complex, and challenging—experiences that make us think deeply and feel intensely. Drawing from her own life and philosophical reflections, Lorraine shows us how to find interest and meaning in the every day, and she offers practical advice on how to weave psychological richness into the fabric of our lives. This is more than just a conversation; it’s an important call to rethink what it means to live fully. Listen and Learn:  Challenging the traditional notions of happiness and meaning as the sole keys to a fulfilling life  Why the pursuit of constant happiness is unrealistic and how understanding the limits of pleasure can lead to a more fulfilling and realistic approach to a good life. The elusive nature of fulfillment and why achieving your dreams often leads to unexpected feelings of emptiness The historical evolution of the concept of individual purpose The roles of philosophers and psychologists in exploring happiness The concept of "the interesting" as the third pillar to a fulfilling life How embracing unexpected moments of curiosity and novelty can subtly enrich your life Distinguishing "Mindfulness 2.0" from traditional mindfulness  How embracing "psychologically rich moments" can turn your everyday struggles and mundane tasks into powerful opportunities for personal growth and deeper insight Finding "psychologically rich moments" to help you engage with and grow from challenging situations in life  How being open and honest in your friendships can transform your connections The biggest misconception about achieving a psychologically rich life  Resources:  The Art of the Interesting: What We Miss in Our Pursuit of the Good Life and How to Cultivate It https://www.instagram.com/lorbesser/?hl=en https://lorrainebesser.com/ https://twitter.com/LorraineBesser https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/lorraine-besser-ph-d/the-art-of-the-interesting/9781538743201/ About Lorraine Besser Lorraine Besser, PhD, is a professor of philosophy at Middlebury College, who specializes in the philosophy and psychology of the good life and teaches popular courses for undergraduates on happiness, well-being, and ethics. An internationally recognized scholar, she was a founding investigator on the research team studying psychological richness. She is the author of two academic books (The Philosophy of Happiness: An Interdisciplinary Introduction and Eudaimonic Ethics: The Philosophy and Psychology of Living Well) and dozens of professional journal articles on moral psychology. Related Episodes 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the key to healing our fractured society lies not in silencing our differences, but in harnessing them? In this conversation with Diana M. Smith, a renowned thought leader in conflict resolution and organizational change, we're not just talking about the pressing issue of political divisiveness—we're talking about the power to reshape our society by rethinking how we engage with one another and transform conflicts into constructive forces for societal progress.  Drawing from her extensive career, including her newest book, 'Remaking the Space Between Us,' Diana touches on compelling insights on how collaboration across groups can solve today's complex problems.  Tune in to explore practical steps individuals and communities can take to foster understanding and unity in a polarized world and learn about the importance of shifting from an outrage mindset to an engaged mindset. Listen and Learn:  How Diana’s journey from grassroots political activism and organizational learning led to groundbreaking insights on resolving lateral conflicts and preventing the rise of authoritarianism in a rapidly changing world How the media's focus on extremes distorts our perceptions and fuels division and what we can do to transform our fractured democracy The rise of solutions-focused journalism and how the shift from outrage to engagement can reshape the way we consume news and empower communities to tackle real-world problems The evolutionary history of in-group cooperation and out-group competition and how it has shaped today's divisive world The inspiring groups leading us towards a new evolutionary step in building a multi-group democracy—one that could finally bridge our divides and meet the challenges of the 21st century America's deep-rooted identity crisis, shaped by the historic tension between equality and liberty Actionable steps to bridge divides and foster meaningful connections across groups, overcome isolation, challenge biases, and collaboratively address societal issues Focusing on changing patterns rather than blaming individuals to transform adversaries into partners Resources:  Diane’s books:  Remaking the Space Between Us: How Citizens Work Together to Build a Better Future For All Action Science  Elephant in the Room Divide or Conquer Find Diana online:  https://www.remakingthespace.org/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/diana-smith-bb8b505/ https://www.instagram.com/dianamclainsmith  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555850530104  Referenced in this episode:  The Old Man Who Saved American Democracy. Twice by Jonathan V. Last: https://substack.com/@jvlast/p-147892467 Solutions Journalism Network: https://www.solutionsjournalism.org/ https://onestepinc.org/ https://startswith.us/ https://storycorps.org/ https://braverangels.org/ https://citizenconnect.us/ About Diana McLain Smith Diana McLain Smith is a renowned thought leader who has led change efforts for thirty-five years in some of America’s most iconic businesses and cutting-edge non-profits. A former partner at the Monitor Group and a former chief executive partner at New Profit, Smith developed an approach to conflict and change called Leading Through Relationships (LTR)TM. Related episodes:  262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen  234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler  96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you truly living the life you desire, or are hidden patterns holding you back?  Challenging us to rethink our understanding of freedom and personal fulfillment, we bring you a fascinating conversation with Dr. Emma Seppälä, a renowned psychologist, bestselling author, and Yale lecturer who introduces her latest book, Sovereign, which delves into the profound concept of sovereignty—not just as a political term but as a personal journey toward breaking free from the self-imposed barriers that keep us from reaching our fullest potential.  Combining cutting-edge research with practical wisdom, she guides us in uncovering the often unseen obstacles that prevent us from living our best lives. You’ll hear how to overcome mental and emotional traps and about the transformative power of stepping into your greatest self. Join us for an enlightening discussion that is jam-packed with insights that could change the way you approach your daily life. Listen and Learn:  What it truly means to be sovereign  How a bound self can sabotage your success and how cultivating a sovereign self can transform everything The key difference between self-criticism and self-awareness and how it could be impacting your resilience Techniques to transform bound emotions into creative energy and reclaim sovereignty The meditation session that helped Emma transform bound emotions and break a destructive habit Are hidden imprints shaping your life? How to stay sovereign and resist imprints and unhealthy messaging at work and in life  What is “positive relational energy" and how can it transform your relationships and work? The ways food, sleep, nature, and intuition profoundly impact mental health and decision-making Resources:  Sovereign: Reclaim Your Freedom, Energy, and Power in a Time of Distraction, Uncertainty, and Chaos emmaseppala.com iamsov.com https://twitter.com/emmaseppala https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCB4RsignHJRDo8r4IWW1Glg https://www.facebook.com/emma.seppala https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaseppala/ https://www.instagram.com/thehappinesstrack/ About Emma Seppälä EMMA SEPPÄLÄ, Ph.D., is a best-selling author, Yale lecturer, and international keynote speaker. She teaches executives at the Yale School of Management and is faculty director of the Yale School of Management’s Women’s Leadership Program. A psychologist and research scientist by training, her expertise is the science of happiness, emotional intelligence, and social connection. Her best-selling book The Happiness Track (HarperOne, 2016) has been translated into dozens of languages. Her new book is Sovereign (Hay House, 2024). Seppälä is also the Science Director of Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education. Related Episodes: 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette 341. Self-Forgiveness with Grant Dewar 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine seeing teenagers not as a bundle of challenges but as a wellspring of untapped potential. That's exactly what our guest Ellen Galinsky, President of Families and Work Institute, invites you to do in this episode, through her book 'The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens ' which challenges the negative cultural narratives about teenagers by presenting a new scientific framework that underscores teens' strengths and capabilities.  Guiding us in understanding adolescent brain development, Ellen talks about the advantages of positive risk-taking, the role of executive function skills and offers a fresh perspective on adopting an approach to problem-solving that promotes autonomy. You’ll also hear how to navigate the turbulent waters of social media. Curious about how you can make the most of your teen’s toughest years? Tune in to learn some game-changing wisdom that could totally shift your perspective—and theirs! Listen and Learn:  Challenging the negative stereotypes of teenagers Insights from the "Breakthrough Years" study on teens’ voices and development Why risk-taking in adolescence is crucial for growth How risk-seeking in teens fosters bravery and examples of how you can encourage positive risk-taking  Using autonomy-supportive caregiving to transform parenting and problem-solving with teens Why shifting from an adversity mindset to a possibilities mindset can transform your parenting How executive functioning—focus, working memory, reflection, and self-control—shapes success Finding a balance of autonomy and structure in social media use and how this can support healthy teen development Resources:  The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens Ellen Galinsky: https://ellengalinsky.com/ The Great Rewiring of Our Lives: Have We Ruined Childhood Forever? https://iai.tv/video/the-great-rewiring-of-our-lives?time=420 Connect with Ellen on Social: https://www.facebook.com/ellen.galinsky/ https://twitter.com/ellengalinsky https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellen-galinsky-2512a95 About Ellen Galinsky Ellen Galinsky is President of Families and Work Institute. She’s conducted research on child-care, parent-professional relationship, parental development, work-family issues and youth voice. She also serves as senior science advisor to AASA, the School Superintendent Organization and as senior advisor to the Immediate Office of the Assistant Secretary of Youth Mental Health at the Administration for Children and Families, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Ellen is the author of the best-selling Mind in the Making, more than 100 books/reports and 300 articles.  Other highlights include serving as a parent expert in the Mister Rogers Talks to Parents TV series; as child care expert on Dr. T. Berry Brazelton’s TV series What Every Baby Knows; being the elected President of the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC); and being elected to the National Academy of Human Resources. In 2018, the Work and Family Researchers Network established the ongoing Ellen Galinsky Generative Researcher Award. She holds a Master of Science degree in child development and education from Bank Street College of Education and a Bachelor of Arts degree in child study from Vassar College.  Related Episodes:  342. Youth Sports and Raising Athletes with Kirsten Jones 337. Puberty Is Awkward with Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour 253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover the keys to mastering any skill with Scott Young. Bringing us his latest book, Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery, Scott retells his fascinating journey of self-studying MIT's computer science curriculum and breaks down the essential process of learning: seeing, doing, and receiving feedback. You'll find out how learning from others, effective practice, and receiving feedback can accelerate personal and professional growth. If you want to enhance your own learning journey, we invite you to hear Scott’s inspiring story and unique perspective and gain actionable insights from his book.  Listen and Learn:  How Scott self-studied MIT's computer science curriculum in a year, transforming a personal challenge into a widely recognized success story Mastering any skill by seeing, doing, and getting feedback  Debunking the misleading learning myths that could be holding you back Learning a skill from the ground up  How to identify the most effective and credible resources for mastering new skills Is it true adults have a harder time acquiring skills compared to kids? The process of unlearning  Is AI helpful or a hindrance to learning?  Strategies for empowering your young child's learning  How exposure therapy could transform your fear into confidence in just two weeks Resources:  https://www.scotthyoung.com/ Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery https://www.facebook.com/AuthorScottYoung/ https://www.youtube.com/user/ScottHYoungVid http://twitter.com/scotthyoung/ https://www.facebook.com/AuthorScottYoung/ https://ca.linkedin.com/in/scott-h-young-867ab21 https://www.instagram.com/scotthyoung/ About Scott H. Young Scott H. Young is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Ultralearning, a podcast host, computer programmer, and an avid reader. Since 2006, he has published weekly essays to help people learn and think better. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Pocket, and Business Insider, on the BBC, and at TEDx among other outlets. He doesn’t promise to have all the answers, just a place to start. He lives in Vancouver, Canada. Related Episodes 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you feel overwhelmed by chronic disorganization, struggle to maintain focus, or wonder if your adult challenges might be linked to ADHD, we’re sitting down with Michaela Thomas, a brilliant clinical psychologist and the mastermind behind The Thomas Connection, the author of "The Lasting Connection," host of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, and a leading expert in ADHD support.  Through Michael’s extensive and personal understanding of ADHD in adulthood, you’ll discover why seeking a diagnosis can be transformative, how ADHD manifests differently across genders, and the benefits of understanding your neurodivergent brain for your relationships. Trust us, she's a powerhouse of knowledge and empowerment! Want to find out how to navigate your own ADHD journey with clarity and confidence? Tune in with Debbie and Michaela! Listen and Learn:  The myths about ADHD, why professional assessment matters, and how it impacts attention, energy, and motivation Why ADHD in women is frequently overlooked and how it presents differently in girls and women Michaela speaks about her own journey of being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how it has allowed her to live authentically The reasons why Michaela sought out an ADHD evaluation Why getting an ADHD diagnosis has advantages and disadvantages, as well as how developing self-awareness can improve your relationships and general wellbeing Why the ADHD assessment process is far more complex than many think Is ADHD really overdiagnosed? The distinctions between ADHD and autism in women and girls and why understanding these differences can affect both diagnosis and support The paradox of hyperfocus in ADHD Resources:  The Thomas Connection Pause Purpose Play The Lasting Connection Instagram @TheThomasConnection About Michaela Thomas  Michaela is a Senior Clinical Psychologist and managing director and lead psychologist of The Thomas Connection. As well as her role as managing director and lead psychologist of The Thomas Connection, she is also the author of couples and compassion book called The Lasting Connection and the host of the podcast Pause Purpose Play. She posts on Instagram under The_Thomas_Connection. Michaela specialises in perfectionism, helping high-striving women let go of the pressure of perfection, to find the balance to burn bright, not burn out. She offers online courses, and ADHD evaluations and support. She lives in London. She  Related Episodes:  254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas# 344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley 358. How to Keep House While Drowning with KC Davis 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re unsure about life's big decisions and tired of making endless pros and cons lists, we’ve got a bonus co-host episode just for you! We’re helping you break down complex decisions into easy-to-follow exercises that you can do right along with us or on your own time. From understanding your comfort zone to making tough choices based on values rather than fear or external pressures, we've got it all covered. It's like having your very own therapist in your earbuds. So join us, grab a pen and paper, and let us guide you in living a more purposeful life! Resources: Jill’s Newsletter archive:https://jillstoddard.com/newsletter-archives Go with Your Gut:  https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/e/BAh7BjoWZW1haWxfZGVsaXZlcnlfaWRsKwhzfBVgAwA%3D--474f34703358236832a89a99e3d07f24cb493f21?skip_click_tracking=true Decision-Making:https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/e/BAh7BjoWZW1haWxfZGVsaXZlcnlfaWRsKwiOXf2cAgA%3D--fe7bdba30eb4f5f3cf33c61f944ca6a6fc5b1458?skip_click_tracking=true Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 218. Off the Clock with Us 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Money talk can be a real minefield in relationships, especially if you and your partner or spouse have totally different spending habits. If this sounds familiar then you’ve got to check out our latest episode with Dr. Scott Rick, a behavioral scientist and the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts. We tackle questions like whether tightwads and spendthrifts can actually find harmony together and uncover insights from his original research on the psychology of money management in relationships. Tune in to discover how your financial mindset could be impacting your love life and get actionable tips to transform your money management anxieties! Listen and Learn:  How our psychology not only influences how we handle money, but the way we handle money also influences our psychology  Defining tightwads, spendthrifts, and unconflicted consumers Does research suggest who is more likely to be a tightwad or spendthrift, and are there differences beyond how much money they make?   The most harmonious versus more conflictual pairings among Tightwads and Spenthroots Are couples with joint accounts and some financial translucency more likely to have higher marital satisfaction than full transparency? Scott’s strategies for both tightwads and spendthrifts to manage their spending anxieties Why letting the tightwad parent handle toy purchases and the spendthrift plan vacations can lead to lasting family happiness How to teach your kids about money and responsibility while balancing their hobbies and preparing them for real-life financial decisions Resources: scottrick.com Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships https://www.instagram.com/likelyshopping/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottianrick/ https://twitter.com/scottianrick About Scott Rick Scott Rick is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business. He holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon University, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. He has published research in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, economics, and neuroscience. At the University of Michigan, he has won awards for both research and teaching. Rick's research has been covered extensively in outlets such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and NPR. His first book, Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships, was published in January 2024 by St. Martin’s Press. Related Episodes:  182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with Patrick McGinnis 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy 284. Things We Love with Aaron Ahuvia 296. Money and Love with Abby Davisson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you want the best guidance for your GI issues without exclusive access to a top-tier medical team, join us in this episode with Megan Riehl, co-author of Mind Your Gut: The Science-Based Whole-body Guide to Living Well. You’ll discover how this book brings science-based strategies, and exercises straight to your home, offering tools rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy to manage GI symptoms effectively. Learn about accessible resources and the profound impact of a multidisciplinary team on your health. Tune in to unlock these valuable insights and improve your well-being! Listen and learn:  The expansive scope of the gastrointestinal (GI) system and the spectrum of GI conditions Why the gut is often called the second brain, and how its powerful connection with the brain influences our health in surprising ways How stress and anxiety fuel GI symptoms and create a cycle of worsening health The "Dream Team" of GI care Treating GI with cognitive reframing and decreasing behavioral avoidance Is clinical hypnotherapy effective for treating IBS and how does it work?   How a "gentle diet cleanup" can transform gut health—before you dive into restrictive diets The risks of gut pseudoscience on your gut health  How the gut microbiome could revolutionize precision medicine Resources: https://www.drriehl.com/ Mind Your Gut: The ScienceBased, Whole-body Guide to Living Well https://www.instagram.com/mindyourgutofficial https://x.com/DrRiehl The Gut Health Podcast Kate Scarlata and Megan Riehl Nerva: IBS & Gut Hypnotherapy  https://opbmed.com/ About Megan Riehl  Dr. Megan Riehl is a clinical health psychologist, an Associate Professor of Medicine and Director of GI Behavioral Health at the University of Michigan. Her research and passion for education have resulted in numerous peer-reviewed publications, leadership roles, and lectures. This year, together with digestive health expert Kate Scarlata, they co-authored Mind Your Gut: The Science-based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well with IBS and launched The Gut Health Podcast.  Related Episodes:  222. Living With Food Allergies with Tamara Hubbard 260. Health Anxiety with Karen Lynn Cassiday 30. Nutritional Psychology (Part 2) – Eating for Brain Health with the MIND Diet with Diana and Debbie 29. Nutritional Psychology (Part 1) – How food impacts mood, cognition and brain health with Diana and Debbie 39. Chronic Pain with Adrianne Sloan 170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release) 177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne 334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If worry is your constant companion, take heart—you're in good company. Let's clear something up: worrying is as human as breathing. Everyone does it, and sometimes it even helps. But when worry transforms into a monster that steals your sleep, scrambles your thoughts, and holds your decisions hostage, that's when we’ve got a problem. If this sounds familiar, you’ll want to hear this conversation with Ben Eckstein where we unpack his book, Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck. Tune in to learn how to navigate the cycle of worry and find a balanced approach to life's uncertainties. Listen and Learn:  The fundamental distinction between "worry" and "worrying"  How did worrying become part of our human operating system, and when does it stop being helpful? Why don't our brains dismiss anxiety and focus solely on problem-solving, instead of reinforcing fear patterns? How to master the skills to coexist with anxiety and thrive despite it Unexpected insights from "Legend of Zelda" to explain the nuanced approach needed to treat anxiety The importance of having compassion for the future version of you Resources:  Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck Website: www.bullcityanxiety.com Instagram: @bullcityanxiety Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bullcityanxiety About Ben Eckstein Ben Eckstein, LCSW is a therapist specializing in the treatment of OCD, Anxiety, and OC-Related Disorders. Ben honed his specialty in OCD while working at McLean Hospital's OCD Institute in Boston. He's now the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety & OCD Treatment Center in Durham, North Carolina. Ben is the vice president of OCD North Carolina, the NC state affiliate of the International OCD Foundation. In addition to his clinical work, Ben is a speaker, trainer, and author. His first book, Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck, was published in 2023. Related Episodes 313. ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety with Brian Pilecki and Brian Thompson 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 212. Stuff That’s Loud: OCD and Anxiety with Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever had to deal with someone who just seems impossible to reason with? You know, the kind of person who always blames others and seems to turn every minor disagreement into a conflict? If you've been there, you’ll want to check out this episode with Bill Eddy, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and an expert in understanding high-conflict personalities and dealing with adult bullies. We talk about the characteristics of high-conflict individuals, the psychological impact on their victims, and effective strategies from his book Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them -- How to Stop Them to navigate these relationships. Tune in and empower yourself with concrete tools and expert advice to diffuse high-conflict behavior effectively and change how you handle bullies in your life! Listen and Learn:  Identifying the four main traits of high-conflict personalities  Do all individuals with personality disorders fit the high conflict profile? How to identify if you have a relationship with someone with a high-conflict personality The differences between adult bullies and child bullies What is the primary motivation for bullying behavior?  The surprise attack tactic bullies often use and how you can be less vulnerable to them What is a negative advocate, and how do people end up in that role? Using the BIFF method in communication to avoid blame cycles and maintain constructive dialogue Why you should never label the behavior of a high-conflict person or bully?  Combating bullying in political and online realms and why this demands societal action through education and setting boundaries Resources: highconflictinstitute.com Connect with Bill @highconflictinstitute on socials: https://www.linkedin.com/company/high-conflict-institute https://twitter.com/highconflict?lang=en https://www.instagram.com/highconflictinstitute/ It's All Your Fault! The High Conflict Institute Podcast Psychology Today Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life Bill’s books:  Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them -- How to Stop Them 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities Biff: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder About Bill Eddy:  Bill Eddy is Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists throughout the United States and a dozen other countries in managing high-conflict family, workplace and legal disputes. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals and has a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com. Related episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We know how demanding fatherhood can be and how often your mental well-being takes a backseat. For this episode, we bring you the practical advice and encouraging perspectives of Dr. Danny Singley, an award-winning psychologist, to discuss the often-overlooked topic of men's mental health and fatherhood. Danny, who is the director of the Center for Men's Excellence, helps us understand the unique mental health challenges men face, especially during the transition to fatherhood. Expect valuable insights into men's help-seeking behaviors, the importance of addressing emotional needs, and strategies for fostering deeper male friendships. Whether you are a man, a father, or simply want to learn how to support the men in your life better, tune in to learn how we can all take steps toward promoting mental well-being in men. Listen and Learn:  Why discussing men's mental health, challenging stereotypes, breaking through societal expectations, and promoting a more inclusive understanding are crucial in today's cultural climate How men's mental health presents differently The balance between independence and interdependence for adult males and the challenge of seeking emotional connection beyond their partners How societal expectations influence men’s reluctance to seek help until prompted by others How today's fathers are pioneering new ways to be engaged parents despite lacking role models and battling societal standards and cultural norms to be more present and engaged parents The surprising hormonal changes in new fathers, the realities of postpartum depression and anxiety, and why paternal mental health deserves much more attention Resources:  The Center for Men's Excellence APA Division 51 Chat with an Expert | Postpartum Support International (PSI) https://twitter.com/menexcel https://www.facebook.com/menexcel https://www.instagram.com/men.excel/ The Postpartum Game Plan Man Park SNL About Daniel B. Singley, Ph.D., ABPP Bio: Danny Singley is a San Diego-based board certified psychologist and Director of The Center for Men’s Excellence. His research and practice focus on men’s mental health with a particular emphasis on reproductive psychology and the transition to fatherhood. Dr. Singley won the American Psychological Association’s 2017 Practitioner of the Year Award from the Division on Men & Masculinities. He is Past President of the APA’s Section on Positive Psychology and is currently the President of the APA’s Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinities and the President’s Advisory Council for Postpartum Support International. He conducts trainings and presentations around the country to assist individuals and organizations to enhance their level of father inclusiveness and founded the grant-funded Basic Training for New Dads, Inc nonprofit and Padre Cadre social networking application just for dads in order to give new fathers the tools they need to be highly engaged with their infants as well as their partners. In his free time, Dr. Singley likes to cook, surf, read, and trick his two teenage sons into activities so they can’t escape his annoying shrinky questions.  Related Episodes: 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’Antonia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling disconnected in a world that's more connected than ever? Then our guest David Robson's insights couldn't be more timely. Through over 300 high-quality studies, he uncovers the scientific explanations behind building strong social bonds. Join us to hear about the shared realities that truly bond us, discover why authenticity is key to forming genuine connections, learn practical tips to navigate the complexities of social interactions, and how to overcome the fear of sharing too much. Tune in for a deep exploration of building a strong social network as we uncover David’s book, The Laws of Connection.  Listen and Learn: How David’s outgoing nature conflicted with his shyness, hindering his ability to make new friends, and new research on optimizing connections motivated him to write a book on social connections The concepts of shared reality and the liking gap, and how these phenomena form the foundation of effective communication and connection Moving beyond superficial conversations to forge meaningful connections through intentional shared realities Embracing "defocusing" to improve interactions by recognizing external influences beyond your control Balancing curiosity and self-disclosure in conversations for genuine connection The dynamics of requesting help and the mutual benefits of genuine altruism Resources:  https://davidrobson.me The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network https://www.instagram.com/davidarobson https://twitter.com/d_a_robson https://uk.linkedin.com/in/david-robson About David Robson David Robson is a science writer and author based in the United Kingdom. A graduate of Cambridge University, he has worked as a feature editor at New Scientist and as a senior journalist at the BBC, and his writing has appeared in the Guardian, the Wall Street Journal, the Atlantic, and many other publications. His previous book, The Expectation Effect, won the British Psychological Society Book Award for 2022. His latest book is The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network (Pegasus) Related Episodes 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the meaning of life? And what role does evolution play in our search for purpose? Join us in a conversation with Dr. Samuel Wilkinson, author of "Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply About the Meaning of Our Existence." We cover some big, philosophical questions that don't have clear answers but are so important to ponder. Our modern fears, our overactive stress responses, and the age-old struggle between good and evil—all these layers make up the complex human experience. Sam’s take on how our evolutionary history impacts our present-day lives is fascinating. So, wonderful listeners, tune in and reflect on these big ideas, and as always, we invite you to share your thoughts and takeaways.  Listen and Learn:  How Sam’s personal struggle with the meaning of life intersected with scientific inquiry and ultimately led to him writing Purpose Can you believe in evolution while maintaining religious or spiritual faith? The importance of understanding genetics in the context of evolution Exploring multi-level selection by redefining "survival of the fittest" across genes, individuals, kin, or groups, and discussing the implications for social traits and human nature The tension between altruism and selfishness How much of human aggression is rooted in biology versus culture? Do environmental factors and expectations influence testosterone levels? Compelling evidence from psychology that our thoughts influence our behaviors  The significance of family relationships in shaping our sense of meaning and purpose Resources:  SamuelTWilkinson.com Samuel Wilkinson, MD - Yale School of Medicine Connect with Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samuel-wilkinson-1863875a About Samuel T. Wilkinson, MD Samuel T. Wilkinson, MD, is Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Yale University, where he also serves as Associate Director of the Yale Depression Research Program. He received his MD from Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. His articles have been featured in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and the Wall Street Journal. He has been the recipient of many awards, including Top Advancements & Breakthroughs from the Brain and Behavior Research Foundation; Top Ten Psychiatry Papers by the New England Journal of Medicine, the Samuel Novey Writing Prize in Psychological Medicine (Johns Hopkins); the Thomas Detre Award (Yale University); and the Seymour Lustman Award (Yale University). He is the author of Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply about the Meaning of Our Existence (Pegasus; March 5, 2024). Related Episodes:  234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 63. The Ape That Understood The Universe With Steve Stewart-Williams 57. Evolution and Behavioral Science with Steven Hayes and David Sloan Wilson 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Burnout from endless household chores? Meet KC Davis, the brilliant author behind How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing who we had to get on the podcast to share her wisdom with you! Most of us constantly juggle house cleaning, personal grooming, and what can feel like a million other responsibilities. It can feel like a relentless backdrop to our lives. But KC, who you may have seen making waves on social media, gives us a whole new way of looking at domestic labor. Her insights are transformative and so much more than just chores—they're about life-changing perspectives and even touch on social justice issues. If you’re overwhelmed by endless household to-do lists, this episode and KC’s book are invaluable. Tune in and revolutionize your approach to household tasks. Trust us, your future self will thank you! Listen and Learn:  Balancing a normal daily life with the unexpected recognition and success of her new book, How to Keep House While Drowning Why did KC make her book so accessible and simple to read? Why basic self-care like doing the dishes or taking a shower is often overlooked  KC recalls her daily struggles as a new mom facing postpartum depression during the pandemic, with escalating exhaustion and an unmanageable household The common feeling of failure when overwhelmed by basic care tasks and why these challenges don’t reflect one's character How mainstream self-help often leads to initial motivation but ultimately causes shame when people can't sustain the impractical systems Navigating domestic work and fairness in shared living spaces and making sure that everyone gets time to rest and recharge Resources:  https://www.strugglecare.com/ How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing Listen to KC’s Podcast: https://www.strugglecare.com/podcast-rss  Follow KC on social media:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strugglecare Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StruggleCare/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters  Article on scruffy hospitality referenced by Debbie: https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485 About KC Davis: KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. KC’s compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has drawn over a million followers on social media in less than a year. Her book, How to Keep House While Drowning, has sold over 300,000 copies and is currently an Amazon bestseller.https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485 KC Davis began her therapy journey at 16 when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction in roles such a therapist, consultant, and executive director. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.  Learn more about the radical philosophy of Struggle Care that’s changing lives here. Related episodes:  176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin 348. Sustainable Exercise with Michelle Segar 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve ever pondered questions like, "Should I follow my passion or chase after money? How can I strike the right balance between work and life? What legacy will my work leave behind?" then this episode with the insightful duo of Christopher Wong Michaelson and Jennifer Tosti-Kharas, coauthors of the terrific book Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work, will not only challenge your perception of work but also spark an exploration of deep introspection into the role of work in your life. Listen and Learn:  The story of how Christoper and Jen merged their backgrounds in psychology and philosophy to come together to coauthor Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work What Christopher and Jen learned about the meaning of work through studying The New York Times Portraits of Grief  What are the lasting effects of COVID-19 and how are they shaping how we work?  What are the traits of work and how does social construction come into play? Fairness in work Are there downsides to working in a field that's a “calling” and what toll might that take on a person?  What would we do if we weren’t working?  Resources:  Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541703407 Christopher’s Website: https://www.christopherwongmichaelson.com/ Connect with Christopher on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-wong-michaelson-41b85611/ Connect with Jen on: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jentostikharas and Twitter: https://twitter.com/jentosti (@jentosti)   About Christopher Wong Michaelson  Christopher Wong Michaelson is co-author, with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas, of Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work. He is a philosopher with 25 years of experience advising business leaders pursuing meaning and providing work with a purpose. He is the Opus Distinguished Professor and Academic Director of the Melrose and The Toro Company Center for Principled Leadership at the University of St. Thomas and on the Business and Society faculty at NYU’s Stern School of Business. Christopher lives in Minneapolis with his wife, three kids, and two dogs. About Jennifer Tosti-Kharas Jennifer Tosti-Kharas is co-author, with Christopher Wong Michaelson, of Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work. Jen is the Camilla Latino Spinelli Endowed Term Chair and Professor of Management at Babson College. She teaches, researches, and coaches others about what it means to craft a meaningful career, and appreciate the risks and rewards of work as a calling. Jen lives outside Boston with her husband and two kids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we talk about a topic that touches so many of our lives: caregiving. Whether it’s something we’ve already experienced or might face in the future, caring for a loved one with an disease or illness is a profound journey. Allison Applebaum, who is the founder of the Caregivers Clinic and Author of the beautifully titled, Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving comes on board to enlighten us about the realities of caregiving—the stress, the work, the emotional burden—but also the unexpected rewards. She talks about discovering strengths you didn’t know you had and finding deeper connections with those you care for.  Allison’s perspective is holistic and empathetic, offering a well-rounded view of caregiving. We cover everything from the emotional impact to practical tips and the broader societal issues like ageism and bias against those with neurocognitive challenges. It’s a conversation full of perspectives that you may not have even considered before. Let’s dive in! Listen and Learn:  The Allison Applebaum definition of family Caregiving  How Allison founded a clinic to support caregivers, cared for her father, coped with her mother's unexpected death, and dealt with the challenges of illness and loss in the healthcare system The moving tale behind the title of Allison’s book, Stand by Me   Recognizing the significance of a person's identity and dignity in healthcare  Combating ageism and elder speak in the health system  Tips for beginning the caregiving journey for a loved one facing a health decline Navigating through conflicts and disagreements within families regarding care for a loved one What is caregiver burden? How can we prevent or address it? And, is it the same as caregiver burnout? The challenge of uncertainty for caregivers and helpful strategies for dealing with this  Can meaning and suffering coexist?  Resources:  Allison’s website Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving Connect with Allison on Instagram and X About Allison Applebaum Dr. Allison Applebaum is an Associate Attending Psychologist in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (MSK), and an Associate Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine. She is the Founding Director of the Caregivers Clinic at MSK, the first program of its kind in the United States to provide comprehensive psychosocial care to family members and friends of patients who are in the caregiving role. Dr. Applebaum is also the author of the recently published narrative nonfiction book, Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving. Related Episodes: 354. A Family Guide to Dementia with Brent Forester 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) 327. Thriving on Overload with Ross Dawson 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman 338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie! 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You may have heard whispers about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy, which has gained popularity for treating symptoms of trauma, anxiety, and depression. Although the eye movement component of EMDR is still not fully understood, it involves stimulating the brain through bilateral eye movements, sounds, or taps. Despite several studies finding no evidence that bilateral stimulation improves therapy, anecdotal evidence suggests that EMDR can be very effective in certain cases, and has been a real game changer for some. Here to chat with us and shed some light on this form of therapy, we are excited to have Jamie Marich, a leader in trauma recovery. Curious about EMDR therapy's transformative potential for healing trauma and mental health challenges? Tune in! Listen and Learn: The origin story of EMDR  The skepticism around EMDR  Are trauma and PTSD related?  Distinguishing between "big T" traumas and "small t" traumas  Why might talk therapy not work well for treating trauma and/or PTSD? What are the phases of an EMDR session?  Can EMDR be done through video therapy? Resources: Jamie’s website: https://jamiemarich.com/ Visit Redefine Therapy https://redefinetherapy.com/ EMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches for Using EMDR with Every Client EMDR Therapy & Mindfulness for Trauma-Focused Care Connect with Jamie on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/drjamiem/ https://www.facebook.com/drjamiemarich https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiemarich/ About Jamie March Dr. Jamie Marich (she/they) inspires people and systems to heal the wounds that keep them stuck, allowing for authentic transformation free of shame and stigma. A TEDx speaker, clinical trauma specialist, expressive artist, lay spiritual director, short filmmaker, Reiki master, yoga teacher, and recovery advocate, she unites all of these elements in her mission to redefine therapy. She is a woman in long-term recovery from an addictive disorder and lives with dissociative identities. As a queer woman who survived multiple spiritually abusive experiences in childhood and adulthood, Jamie is passionate about helping people to recognize where religion and spirituality may be causing harm in their lives so that they can chart a course for personalized healing. Marich is the author of EMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches for Using EMDR with Every Client (2011), Trauma and the 12 Steps: A Complete Guide for Recovery Enhancement (2012/2020), Creative Mindfulness (2013), Trauma Made Simple: Competencies in Assessment, Treatment, and Working with Survivors, Dancing Mindfulness: A Creative Path to Healing and Transformation (2015), EMDR Therapy & Mindfulness for Trauma-Focused Care (with Stephen Dansiger, 2018), Process Not Perfection: Expressive Arts Solutions for Trauma Recovery (2019), Healing Addiction with EMDR Therapy: A Trauma-Focused Guide (with Stephen Dansiger, 2022), The Healing Power of Jiu-Jitsu: A Guide to Transforming Trauma and Facilitating Recovery (with Anna Pirkl, 2022), Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Life (2023), and Trauma and the 12 Steps: The Workbook (with Stephen Dansiger, 2023). Her long-time publisher, North Atlantic Books, is releasing her memoir of spiritual abuse and recovery, You Lied to Me About God, in October 2024. Related Episodes 210. Strategies for Becoming Safely Embodied with Deirdre Fay 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After Difficulty with Debbie and Rae Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dementia is a complex topic that requires a delicate balance of understanding, compassion, and expertise. With the prevalence of dementia on the rise, healthcare providers, caregivers, and individuals themselves must have a solid grasp on how to navigate these challenging conditions. Our guest Brent Forester is an expert in geriatric psychiatry and dementia care, bringing almost three decades of experience supporting individuals with dementia and older adults facing mental health challenges. Discussing his co-authorship with Tom Harrison of "The Complete Family Guide to Dementia: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Parent and Yourself", we hear about his proactive approach to caregiving and education for families and his journey into geriatric psychiatry. Through his insights into the nuances of dementia care, early diagnosis, treatment, the importance of distinguishing between various types of dementia, and grief in caregiving, Brent guides us in developing resilience and adapting to the emotional complexities of caring for a loved one with dementia.   Listen and Learn:  The admiration for his role model grandmother and fascination with problem-solving in medicine that influenced Brent's career in Geriatric psychiatry  The process of diagnosing dementia and the benefits of early diagnosis The difference between the clinical syndrome, which we call dementia, and the disease of dementia What are the causes and symptoms of dementia?  The multifaceted challenges dementia presents and the need for comprehensive healthcare approaches that consider these complexities Goal setting and the importance of self-care for caregivers of people suffering from dementia  Resources:  More about Brent: The Complete Family Guide to Dementia: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Parent and Yourself About Brent P. Forester Brent P. Forester, MD, MSc. is the Dr. Frances S. Arkin Professor and Chair of Psychiatry at Tufts University School of Medicine, Psychiatrist in Chief and Chairman for the Department of Psychiatry at Tufts Medical Center and Director of Behavioral Health for Tufts Medicine.  Dr. Forester spent a quarter of a century of his professional career at McLean Hospital and Mass General Brigham where he served as the Chief of the Division of Geriatric Psychiatry at McLean Hospital and Senior Medical Director for Value Based Care Solutions in the Population Health Management department at Mass General Brigham. Dr. Forester is an expert in geriatric psychiatry, specializing in the treatment of older adults with depression, bipolar disorder, and behavioral complications of Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias. He is a Past President of the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry (AAGP), a distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, and has previously served on the board of directors of the Alzheimer’s Association of Massachusetts/New Hampshire and chair of their Medical Scientific Committee. Dr. Forester’s research focuses on novel treatment approaches to manage the disabling behavioral complications of dementia, such as agitation and aggression. Dr. Forester’s work also includes the implementation and evaluation of collaborative care models for comprehensive dementia care within primary care medical settings Related Episodes: A Family Guide to Dementia 338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie! 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill 204. Ageless with Andrew Steele 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever think about how powerful asking questions can be? It's kinda mind-blowing when you think about all the insights, knowledge, and experiences we can tap into just by asking. So in this episode, we’ve got Jeff Welzer on board to talk about his book ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life. Jeff enlightens us on how asking thoughtful and well-crafted questions that seek to learn can unlock a treasure trove of wisdom, ideas, and deep understanding. And it can even help you achieve your goals in both your personal and professional lives! You have to check out this awesome chat! Trust us, it's packed with gems that'll shift how you connect with others and enable you to grow as a person! Listen and Learn:  Are you missing out on valuable insights and hidden wisdom by not asking questions? How asking well-crafted questions can help you achieve your goals and benefit you both in your personal and professional lives Why do we withhold information?  Tips to navigate speaking up when you might fear the reaction you could get How Jeff’s ASK Approach can help you tap into other people's knowledge, thoughts, wisdom, and ideas Ways you can make it safer for someone to open up more  Transforming crummy questions into quality questions that promote meaningful discussion and insight How you can get better at listening to learn How can we pass the skillset of curiosity onto our kids  Resources:  Jeff’s website: https://www.askapproach.com/ https://transcendeducation.org/ ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306832697 Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250235374 About Jeff Wetzler  JEFF WETZLER is co-CEO of Transcend, a nationally recognized innovation organization, and an expert in learning and human potential. Wetzler combines unique leadership experiences spanning more than 25 years in business and education, as a management consultant to the world’s top corporations, a learning facilitator for leaders around the world, and as Chief Learning Officer at Teach For America. Jeff earned a Doctorate in Adult Learning and Leadership from Columbia University and a bachelor’s in psychology from Brown University. Based in New York, he is a member of the Aspen Global Leadership Network and is an Edmund Hillary Fellow. https://www.askapproach.com/ Book: ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life  Related Episodes:  329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen  276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 165. How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine Kinzler 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado  302. Say the Right Thing with David Glasgow  185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith  299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley  168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our 20s are a time of great change and transformation. But many people overlook this and label them "snowflakes" for not having certain things, like partners, houses, mortgages, big jobs, or kids. The truth is that trying to achieve all those milestones at once without any guarantee of success can leave us feeling insecure and stressed. For this episode, we bring you guest, Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist who joins us to chat about her new book, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age. Her insights are valuable for anyone in their twenties, about to enter their twenties, or even in their early thirties. Even If you are a parent with young adult children or a therapist who works with young adults, her book offers a solid foundation to help you understand the experiences of individuals at this developmental stage. Listen and Learn:  Are we being too hard on twenty-somethings?  What do evolution and science tell us about the role of uncertainty for humans? The impact of technology, particularly the internet and social media, on the difficulties faced by individuals in their twenties Is medication always the best medicine?  Your default mode network and your task-positive network  Why your twenties may not be the best years of your life (and why that's okay!!) Is work the leading cause of stress and anxiety in 20-somethings? Finding your purpose as a 20-something  Resources: Meg’s website: https://megjay.com/ The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781668012291 Connect with Meg on social media:  https://www.threads.net/@drmegjay https://twitter.com/drmegjay https://www.tiktok.com/@drmegjay https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-jay-phd/ https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay/ About Meg Jay Meg Jay, PhD, is a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings. She is the author of The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age, Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero and the cult classic The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok.   A recent New York Times profile called Dr. Jay “the patron saint of striving youth, a prophet-like figure for a generation of young people buried under mixed messaging,” and her TED talk “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” is among the most watched to date.  Dr. Jay earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from the University of California, Berkeley. She is on faculty at the University of Virginia and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville.  Related Episodes 347. Job Changes & Career Pivots with Paula Brand 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo 74. Mastering Adulthood with Lara Fielding Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As humans, we face this dilemma of wanting to live life to the fullest, but also taking everything for granted, including time. We often only realize the importance of time when we have little time left. Don’t let that be you! In an episode with Jodi Wellman, we dive into her phenomenal book, You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets. We have about 4,000 Mondays in our lifetime, and if we're halfway through, we have roughly 2,000 to go. The good news is that you are in charge of how you spend those days. Drawing upon principles of positive psychology, practical tips, and research-backed data, Jodi's book will provide you with a fresh perspective and renewed appreciation for life! Listen and Learn:  The impetus that made Jodi aware of her deep-seated fear of dying with regrets and inspired her book, You Only Die Once  Why do we only realize the importance of time when we have little left? How the Grim Reaper is a prominent character in Jodi’s book and message  Regrets of commission vs regrets of omission  What is death reflection? Ideas for gaining vitality in your life  Finding meaning in life  The value in pre-savoring and savoring the things that bring you joy in life   Resources: Visit Jodi’s website: https://fourthousandmondays.com/ You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets Connect with Jodi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fourthousandmondays/ Connect with Jodi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fourthousandmondays/ If you are interested in working with Michael: herold.coach/book About Jodi Wellman Jodi Wellman is a former corporate executive turned executive coach. She has a Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she is an instructor in the Master’s program and a trainer in the world-renowned Penn Resilience Program. She is a Professional Certified Coach with the ICF and a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach from CTI. She has coached and spoken with clients like American Express, Fidelity, pwc, Royal Bank of Canada, BMW, and more, and runs her own business, Four Thousand Mondays. She lives between Palm Springs and Chicago with her husband and cat, Andy. You can watch her inspirational TEDx Talk on how death can bring you back to life. Related Episodes 157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you seeking effective strategies to help your anxious child thrive and grow? In an interview with clinical psychologist and best-selling author, Regine Galanti about her book, "Parenting Anxious Kids, Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage", we talk about the importance of differentiating between "normal" and problematic anxiety in children, spending one-on-one time with kids to build self-esteem, and the use of praise. Regine also describes how parents can focus on changing behaviors rather than controlling feelings. Her book is an incredibly empowering resource and offers many strategies and guidance on creating realistic parenting goals for anxious kids. Whether you're a parent, work with children, or plan to have kids in the future, this conversation is full of valuable tips and science-backed insights! Listen and Learn:  What inspired Regine to write Parenting Anxious Kids: Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage Why our brains are wired to feel anxiety as an emotion and why it can be a good thing  How have cultural shifts informed parenting, and what role does anxiety play in this?  Examples of typical parental worries and fears at different ages and stages that don't mean a child has an anxiety problem What behaviors cross into problematic anxiety in children? Explaining accommodation, a fundamental concept in childhood anxiety and parenting What is reassurance giving, how can this be a problem for your child's anxiety, and how can you respond differently to interrupt the loop? If a magic button made your child's anxiety completely disappear, how would your child's life be different? How would your life and your family's life be different, if at all? Introducing the principle of special time and why it's so key to parenting anxious kids Are anxious kids more sensitive to experiencing shame?  What is the HALT acronym, and how is it helpful? Parental strategies for dealing with frustration tolerance issues in the 6-10 age group Supporting middle and high schoolers with anxious thoughts  Resources: Long Island Behavioral Psychology: https://www.longislandbehavioral.com/team SPACE Treatment: https://www.spacetreatment.net/ Connect with Regine on:  https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.galanti?lang=en https://www.instagram.com/regine.galanti/reels/ https://twitter.com/reginegalanti?lang=en About Regine Galanti Regine Galanti is a clinical psychologist and best-selling author with expertise in anxiety and OCD in kids and teens. Dr. Galanti started writing in order to share the tools she teaches families in therapy with a wider audience. She also enjoys speaking to parents, schools, and media outlets to share information about effective mental health information in children. She has been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Buzzfeed, and other sources. When she's not working, or writing, she lives in Long Island, NY with her husband and 3 daughters.  Related Episodes:  344. Differently Wired Kids with Deborah Reber 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Veronica Raggi 14. Mindful Parenting 212. Stuff That’s Loud: OCD and Anxiety with Lisa Coyne and Ben Sedley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to change your relationship with food? This incredible interview with Judson Brewer, a pioneer in the field of habit change and author of The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry and How to Stop, will not only deepen your understanding of your eating behavior patterns and triggers, but you'll also learn how to completely shift your habits with kindness and curiosity. Listen in for a slew of actionable tips, modern science, and ancient wisdom from Judson; discover which foods are best for your body while still enjoying the foods you like; and strengthen your understanding of how your brain works and how to make permanent changes in your life based on that knowledge. Listen and Learn:  How his struggle to help patients with binge eating and overeating led Judson to write The Hunger Habit What's the issue we're facing as a society and culture with eating and food in general? Why keeping a healthy diet by measuring what you eat comes with its own set of challenges How our food consumption instincts have evolved and gotten mixed up in modern times Identifying the patterns that bring us to eat How you can practice kindness to facilitate openness and learning from experiences  Recalling past experiences before engaging in habitual behavior to make better decisions and avoid repeating negative experiences in the future Resources:  Visit Judson’s Website: https://drjud.com/ The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry and How to Stop A simple way to break a bad habit | Judson Brewer | TED Connect with Judson on Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, and Facebook About Judson Brewer  Judson Brewer M.D., Ph.D., is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He is a professor in the School of Public Health and Medical School at Brown University. His 2016 TED Talk, “A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit,” has been viewed more than 19 million times. He has trained Olympic athletes and coaches, government ministers, and business leaders. His first book, The Craving Mind, was published in more than sixteen languages. His second book, Unwinding Anxiety, was an instant New York Times bestseller. Related Episodes: 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis 264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson 31. DBT for Binge Eating with Debra Safer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you prioritizing quick fixes over lasting joy in our pursuit of health and wellness? With a focus on promoting long-term health behavior changes rather than short-lived fitness programs that quickly lose momentum, we welcome award-winning researcher and sustainable-change coach Michelle Segar. We are honored to interview Michelle, who is the author of the acclaimed book, The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise. Her thirty years of expertise and science-backed research are sure to inspire and enlighten anyone looking to make positive, sustainable changes in their health and lifestyle. Listen and Learn:  The main reasons people give for wanting to engage in exercise and health behaviors and why they can get us into trouble Reasons that would be more effective in helping you get active The limitations of habit formation when it comes to changing complex behaviors like exercise Permitting yourself to prioritize self-care How perfection can become problematic  Practical strategies for incorporating sustainable exercise into your life  Resources:  Michelle’s website: michellesegar.com The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness Online beginner ballet: https://brocheballetonline.com/  Connect with Michelle on X and LinkedIn About Michelle Segar Michelle Segar, Ph.D. is an award-winning, NIH-funded researcher at the University of Michigan with thirty years studying how to help people adopt exercise and other self-care behaviors in ways that can be sustained within the unpredictability of the real world. Her research on creating sustainable change is widely recognized as uniquely pragmatic for real-world applications. An advisor to the World Health Organization on their global physical activity initiatives, Michelle was also selected to be the inaugural chair of the United States National Physical Activity Plan’s Communication Committee. She consults with leading organizations, including Kaiser Permanente, Walmart, WW, Anytime Fitness, Adidas, and Business Group on Health. Michelle’s synergistic combination of academic research with real-world sustainable-change curriculum design and coaching permit her to create engaging and practical sustainable-change systems for digital health and individual coaching/counseling. She certifies professionals in her sustainable-change methods and licenses them to large organizations. Michelle is frequently interviewed about how to help consumers and patients change their mindsets, cultivate lasting motivation and sustainable physical activity in major media outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Prevention, Real Simple, and TIME. Michelle’s training and experience is uniquely comprehensive, including a doctorate in Psychology (PhD), a master’s degree in Health Behavior/Health Education (MPH), a master’s degree in Kinesiology (MS) and fellowships in translational research and health care policy from the University of Michigan. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympics in Barcelona. Related Episodes:  132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal  124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 283. Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee-Baggley (Re-release) 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin  135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick  72. Committed Action with DJ Moran  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Almost all of our quality of life is impacted by our careers because we spend so much time at work. As psychologists, we see a lot of anxiety-based patients in our practice. Often, the root of stress or anxiety is having a lot of struggles at work and knowing that something needs to change, but having no idea how to go about it. Here to help you understand and effectively transition in your career no matter the reason, is career coach and author of The Purple Parachute: A Woman's Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change, Paula Brand. If you could benefit from some soul-searching and structured guidance around decision-making as you transition into a new career or even if you want to make some changes in your current career, this interview is an empowering listen! Listen and Learn:  A glimpse into the ASTER model: Access, Seek, Test, Execute, Repeat  Why your values are important to the assessment phase of a career change and what you can do to clarify them How are interests different from values and how you can start identifying what interests you? The distinctions between the types of professionals who can help you with career transitioning  Discovering your exceptional qualities Why your time is better spent uncovering your strengths and finding ways to put them to use, than wasting your energy trying to mitigate a weakness  How to identify and prioritize your skills Looking for themes within your VINES (Values, Interests, Natural disposition Exceptional Qualities, and Skills) to help you pursue new roles Resources: The Purple Parachute: A Woman's Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change You can access my webpage at paulabrand.com or www.brandcareermanagement.com which shares more information about my services and book.   Specifically to purchase and find out more about my book, visit landing page for The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change is http://www.purple-parachute.com/. You can download a free copy of The Purple Parachute workbook that contains all the exercises and questions from the book. https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/the-purple-parachute-free-work-book/ If you go to the bottom of my homepage at https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/, you can enter your e-mail to gain access to a PDF download to Uncover Your Work Values. For BCM: YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/c/BrandCareerManagement LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/brand-career-management/ Twitter: Twitter.com/brandcareermgmt Facebook: Facebook.com/BrandCareerManagement For the book Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula_purple_parachute/ LinkedIn.com/in/paulabrandcareers About Paula Brand  Paula Battalia Brand, founder of Brand Career Management, is a Global Career Coach & Consultant, LinkedIn Expert, Speaker, Trainer and Author with a background in human resources, workforce development, training and career counseling. She speaks to groups and provides individual career coaching on using LinkedIn effectively, managing a successful career and navigating through career transitions with a focus on empowering mid-career to executive women to achieve career satisfaction. Organizational clients have included the World Bank Group, the Caribbean Development Bank, and the Executive Educations programs at Johns Hopkins University (JHU).     Paula released her first book in November 2022 on navigating career transitions titled The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change.  Related Episodes 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 293. Quit with Annie Duke 296. Money and Love with Abby Davisson 299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg 333. How Work Works with Michelle P. King Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you criticize yourself? Whether you torture yourself with negative thoughts about body image, career goals, or parenting, our conversation with guest and former cohost Diana Hill is sure to change that! Drawing from mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy, and compassion-focused therapy, Diana shows you how to liberate yourself from harmful self-criticism by cultivating forgiveness and kindness. We are grateful to Diana for her work in shifting the way people think about self-compassion, and we know you’ll take a tonne of wisdom from this conversation and her latest book, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, to help you live a fulfilling and impactful life. Listen and Learn:  What is self-compassion?  How does the inner critic evolve within us? Why you might have fears of giving, receiving, or self-compassion and how these fears can interfere with your ability to cope and be resilient during difficult times How you can practice self-compassion   Is there a way to know which response is the most self-compassionate for yourself? The three half-truths of self-compassion  Turning self-compassion from a momentary thing to a lasting trait Resources:  Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Podcast: Wise Effort: Wise Effort Podcast  Website: drdianahill.com Instagram: @drdianahill Facebook:@drdianahill YouTube: @drdianahill LinkedIn: @drdianahill Email: diana@drdianahill.com Learn how to practice Process-based Therapy with Diana Hill, Joseph Ciarrochi, and Steven Hayes Mindful article: A Love Letter To Yourself Psychology Today: Three Half-Truths About Self-Compassion Self-Compassion and ACT Meditation with Diana on Insight Timer 3 Half-Truths About Self-Compassion About Diana Hill:  Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and author of ACT Daily Journal, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. She is on the board for the Institute for Better Health, and blogs for Psychology Today and Mindful.org. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. Related Episodes 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 334. Our Polyvagal World with Stephen & Seth Porges 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are someone who finds comfort and healing in writing, you’ll already be familiar with the therapeutic benefits of journaling. But, have you ever thought about exploring memoir writing? You may think, ‘What have I got to write about?’ or wonder if your life experiences are worth sharing. That's where our guest, Maureen Murdock, is here to prove you otherwise. In an episode where we talk about her latest book, Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, Maureen inspires and guides us in discovering the untold stories of our lives through the craft of memoirs with the help of original writing advice and creative prompts.  Listen and Learn:  How can writing be therapeutic and help us with healing and growth? The difference between memoir writing and journaling  Mythological themes and archetypes: How do they come into play with individual memoirs? What was it like for Maureen to study under American writer Joseph Campbell?  What is the heroine's journey, and how is it unique and specifically important? Where to begin with memoir writing  Resources  Maureen’s website: www.maureenmurdock.com  Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, Connect with Maureen on social media: https://www.facebook.com/maureenmurdockauthor/ https://twitter.com/murdockmaureen Jill’s essay about her brother: https://www.scarymommy.com/brother-pedophile-oblivious-trust  Writing groups, workshops, and communities:  Maureen’s upcoming memoir workshop in Santa Fe in April A writing group (You Belong Here, Now: A Wholehearted Writing Group) offered by our previous guest, Dr. Meg McKelvie Writing Down the Soul International Women’s Writing Guild Writing Class Radio About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D. About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D. is the author of her new book Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir and the author of the best-selling book, The Heroine’s Journey, which explores the rich territory of the feminine psyche and has been translated into twenty languages. Maureen is also author of Unreliable Truth: On Memoir and Memory; Fathers’ Daughters: Breaking the Ties that Bind; Spinning Inward: Using Guided Imagery with Children; and The Heroine’s Journey Workbook. She is the editor of an anthology entitled Monday Morning Memoirs: Women in the Second Half of Life and teaches memoir for the International Women’s Writing Guild and in Pacifica Graduate Institute’s program, Writing Down the Soul. Maureen was Chair and Core Faculty of the M.A. Counseling Program at Pacifica Graduate Institute. She has written pieces for the Huffington Post on the criminal justice system.  Related episodes  199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie  336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius  274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock  37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie  195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parenting neurodivergent kids can be a unique journey full of challenges and triumphs. For this discussion, we have the pleasure of being joined by Debbie Reber, the author of a book that is breaking the mold! Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope takes an innovative approach by focusing solely on the parent's experience and empowering them with the tools to take care of themselves while responding to their neurodivergent child in ways that are better for everyone involved. Debbie breaks down why nurturing a foundation of understanding with your child makes it so much easier to work through the challenging times and shares an important message: being neurodivergent is a difference that's worth celebrating.  Listen and Learn: The philosophical shift Debbie has encouraged from viewing neurodivergent kids as a problem that needs fixing to a difference worthy of celebrating What does being differently wired encompass? How learning more about her neurodivergent child has transformed Debbie's parenting Self-conscious versus conscious parenting in the context of raising differently-wired kids  How to become better attuned to your kid and use this deeper level of understanding to capitalize on skill development and learning opportunities  Meaningful ‘conscious maintenance’ for parents to shift their thinking mindset and expectations How mainstream parenting guidance can be frustrating for parents of differently-wired kids and where Debbie feels they could do better? Resources: Debbie’s website Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope Tilt Parenting  Tilt Parenting Podcast  Connect with Debbie on Twitter and Facebook Connect with Tilt Parenting on X, Instagram, and Facebook Parenting, the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety by Dr. John Duffy (referenced in this episode)  About Deborah Reber Debbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the CEO and founder of Tilt Parenting, a resource, top-performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. Her most recent book, Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope, came out in June 2018. After living abroad in the Netherlands for five years, Debbie, her husband, and differently wired teen moved to Brooklyn, NY in 2019. Debbie is an avid runner, traveler, and hiker, and claims reality shows as her guiltiest of pleasures. Related Episodes:  194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley 14. Mindful Parenting A Conversation with Dr. Emily Edlynn on Raising Autonomous Children, TILT Parenting podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heartbreak, a universal experience that can leave us feeling lost and questioning ourselves. We've all been there. It's a painful journey, that's difficult to process and navigate. In a conversation everyone can relate to, we bring in the author of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey. Florence Williams reflects on her personal experience facing divorce and draws upon science to explain the negative impacts of rejection, loss, and loneliness. We also unravel the mystery behind our actions during heartbreak-actions that seem to defy our values and norms. Whether you are a therapist treating clients going through heartbreak or experiencing heartbreak yourself, Florence will transform your understanding of health and love by combining scientific research with self-discovery. Listen and Learn:  What transpired in Florence's personal life that led her to write Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey Tapping into the fundamental human emotion of awe The healing properties of nature, and its integral role in Florence's journey  Is divorce diabetes a thing? Do men and women have different experiences recovering from divorce? Can Takotsubo syndrome (also known as broken heart syndrome) be linked to postmenopausal women? How nature immersive experiences can lead to transformation, connection, and healing, and Florence’s recommendations in your area! Resources:  Visit Florence at her website Get your copies of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey and The Nature Fix: Why Nature Makes Us Happier, Healthier, and More Creative Connect with Florence on X, Facebook and Instagram About Florence Williams:  Florence Williams is a journalist, author, and podcaster. Her first book, BREASTS: A Natural and Unnatural History received the Los Angeles Times Book Prize in science and technology and the 2013 Audie in general nonfiction. The Nature Fix was an Audible bestseller and was named a top summer read by J.P Morgan. Her latest book, Heartbreak, was called “show-stopping” and “courageous” by Publisher’s Weekly. She is a contributing editor at Outside Magazine and a freelance writer for the New York Times and numerous other publications. A fellow at the Center for Humans and Nature and a visiting scholar at George Washington University, Florence’s work focuses on the environment, health and science. A certified forest-bathing guide and experienced workshop leader, Florence loves leading groups through nature-immersive experiences and watching the transformation, connection, and healing that results.  Related Episodes 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 225. Psychedelics with Brian Pilecki and Nathan Gates 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and Debbie 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Children nowadays have the luxury of being able to choose from a wide range of athletic activities. Though this is fantastic for their long-term development, youth sports have become more intense and competitive than ever before, which can pose a risk to our kids' mental health and overall well-being. So, how can we raise happy, healthy athletes while nurturing them into kind, compassionate, confident, and well-focused young adults who are empowered to passionately pursue their goals? Introducing Kirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach and author of ‘Raising Empowered Athletes’. Packed with actionable advice, this episode is the ultimate roadmap if you’re a parent trying to navigate the challenges, decisions, and pressures of youth sports! Listen and Learn:  What are the advantages of our kids engaging in sports? What are the biggest pitfalls of our modern-day youth sports culture? How can we support instead of pressure our athletes? Ways to help increase internal motivation in your kids How to identify if your child is participating in sports solely just to please you?  Resources:  Kirsten’s book, Raising Empowered Athletes: A Youth Sports Parenting Guide for Raising Happy, Brave, and Resilient Kids Please sign up to receive updates, hear the podcast, or schedule a call at kirstenjonesinc.com @kirstenjonesinc (Facebook and X) @kirstenjonescoach (Instagram and LinkedIn) About Kirsten Jones Kirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach, is a co-host of the #RaisingAthletes Podcast (with Susie Walton) and a motivational speaker. Her first parenting book, Raising Empowered Athletes, launched August 8, 2023 from Triumph Books. Kirsten, a Hall of Fame DI volleyball player from William and Mary and fifteen year NIKE executive, clients include teen athletes (and their parents), where she helps them learn how to reach their goals by releasing their limitations. Kirsten and her husband are raising three athletes themselves (ages 23, 20, & 17) in Los Angeles. Her boys are both DI basketball players and her daughter plays high school volleyball. Kirsten also coaches club volleyball and enjoys traveling anytime she gets the chance. Related Episodes:  324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg 293. Quit with Annie Duke 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba 194. How to Be (and Raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey 17. Sports Psychology with Elizabeth Boyer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Self-forgiveness doesn’t come easily. For some, the shame and withdrawal that come with holding incredible bitterness and animosity towards oneself can take over for years, and in some instances, a lifetime, if left unaddressed. In an interview with Grant Dewar, psychologist and author of The Self-Forgiveness Workbook, he describes real-world examples of how to develop mindfulness and compassion skills to overcome self-blame and find true self-acceptance. We hear of Grant’s personal history with guilt and come to understand why self-forgiveness is not a simple decision but rather an ongoing process that requires training.  Listen and Learn:  Grant’s journey to self-forgiveness and why he is using his own experiences to help others overcome self-blame and find true acceptance  What is the opposite of self-forgiveness?  Indicators that self-forgiveness could be called for How self-forgiveness can illuminate the things that are important to you Resources:  Get your copy of Grant’s book, The Self-Forgiveness Workbook: Mindfulness and Compassion Skills to Overcome Self-Blame and Find True Self-Acceptance Connect with Grant on LinkedIn About Grant Dewar  Hi, It has been good to spend time with you, as a son, brother father, partner, I have found throughout my life that we need tools to rid ourselves of unnecessary burdens that life is always ready to heap upon us. As a work health and safety professional, trainer and now author I have learnt that while we are all unique and precious beyond telling we also share a common humanity, which comes to us as this incredibly complex gift of life that is always giving but sometimes not in a way we understand. From this experience of assisting thousands of people to navigate the complexities of their working and private lives, I have found consistently that the skills of self-forgiveness assist us face all manner of challenges, both defeats and victories, mistakes and successes, setbacks and even smooth running. Every turn we take every choice we make , brings us new challenges, new decisions and new risks. Our ability to face those experiences with clarity and our full capabilities is enhanced when we are able to do the work of self-forgiveness to deal with the unexpected consequences of following our life’s calling. I have had many twists and turns in my life pathway and have faced my own mortality and the loss of loved ones. My career has been dotted with both success and failures. In each of these challenges I have been able to apply the sorts of skills that I have researched to my own pathway. I have then been able to help teach others the skills I have discovered through my studies in Work Health and Safety, a Masters Degree focused on Adult Education, and a Doctorate in researching the science of self-forgiveness as a tool for lifelong learning. Related Episodes:  320. Anger and Forgiveness with Robyn Walser 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Russell Kolts 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's time to have a no-BS discussion about something that all of us have struggled with at some point in our long-term relationships: maintaining a sexual connection. If this speaks to you and you feel like you’re stuck with poor advice on how to navigate the situation, meet our guest, Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and author of Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. With scientific evidence, wit, and compassion, Emily joins Jill on POTC to debunk the myths we've been fed about sex, show us what real great sex can look like, offer a fresh outlook on what might be blocking us from enjoying sex, and explain how to communicate our sexual desires more effectively. Her insights are sure to revolutionize the way you think about sexual connections and give you a newfound understanding of yourself, your body, and your relationship. Listen and Learn:  The myths versus the science of sustaining satisfying long-term sexual connections What distinguishes spontaneous and responsive desire from pleasure? Discussing sexual intimacy and desire more effectively using Emily's accelerator and brake metaphor How care, curiosity, and play can help you move closer to lust The significance of the "third thing" in a relationship Having a clear understanding of you and your partner's "emotional floorplan" to find your way back to sexual desire The importance of following the sexual rules that work for you and your relationship Resources:  Visit Emily's website and subscribe to her newsletter to have your questions answered! Emily's books: Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections and Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook SNL’s ‘Pound Puppy’ (referenced in the episode) About Emily Nagoski EMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling book Come as You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She is here today to talk about her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Emily earned an M.S. in counseling and a Ph.D. in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist. Related Episodes 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 248. Let’s Talk About Sex & Intimacy with Zoë Kors 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn 318. Your Path to Personal Change with Michelle Drapkin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Research shows that somewhere between 2 and 6% of the population struggles with BFRBs at a clinical level, which can include behaviors like hair-pulling, skin-picking, and nail-biting (among others). What differentiates BFRBs from other self-grooming behaviors, though, is the unintentional harm they cause to the body and the lack of successful efforts to stop them. To gain a better understanding of these difficult-to-control behaviors that can have detrimental effects on mental and emotional well-being, Michael interviewed clinical psychologists Marla Deibler and Renae Reinardy. If you're looking to recover from body-focused repetitive behavior, Marla and Renae, who coauthored The BFRB Recovery Workbook, are here to provide up-to-date behavioral science and evidence-based tools specifically tailored to meet your individual needs and help you transform your life for the better! Listen and Learn:  What are body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs)?  The stigma and dismissive attitude surrounding BFRBs How prevalent are BFRBs?   WTF: What is the function of BFRBs? The importance of viewing change as a process rather than a final outcome  Techniques for experiencing shame, emotional avoidance, and response prevention How to deal with inevitable setbacks Resources:  Order your copy of The BFRB Recovery Workbook: https://a.co/d/5pFMEGM Marla’s Links: Website: https://thecenterforemotionalhealth.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecenterforemotionalhealth Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ceh_philadelphia/ "X": https://twitter.com/DoctorDeibler LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marla-deibler-psyd-abpp-a220851a/ BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doctordeibler.bsky.social Renae’s Links: Lakeside Center for Behavioral Change: https://lakesidecenter.org  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/r.reinspi Courage Critters: https://couragecritters.com Related Episodes:  167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1) 5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's disheartening to see how burnout has become increasingly widespread. We understand how overwhelming it can be, and we're here to support you in finding ways to overcome it. For this very special episode, all four POTC cohosts come together to celebrate Debbie's new book, ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. This incredible resource can teach you so much about burnout, its dimensions, and how to manage it effectively. You will also learn how this book can be a valuable tool in preventing burnout from happening in the first place. If you’re experiencing signs of burnout, this is an episode you won't want to miss!  Listen and Learn:  What inspired Debbie to pen a burnout book? Understanding the three dimensions of burnout  What are the risks and impacts of burnout? How does capitalism influence individual burnout? Why may attempting to fix burnout worsen the situation?  The cohosts guess each other's burnout subtypes  When work is causing burnout, how do you know when it's time to quit? Why is acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) a good approach to addressing the problem of burnout? Resources:  Debbie’s website Explore Debbie's books: ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Connect with Debbie on Instagram  Use the code “BURNOUT20” for 20% off of ACT for Burnout on the Jessica Kingsley Publishers US site! Link here to have the code pre-applied at checkout: https://us.jkp.com/discount/BURNOUT20?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fact-for-burnout  About Debbie Sorensen  Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is the author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. And of course, she’s a long-time cohost of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast! She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. When she’s not busy working or podcasting, she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, traveling, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains! You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com. Related Episodes 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne  207. Burnout w/ Jill & Debbie 211. Subtract with Leidi Klotz 246. Burnout and Boundaries with Tammie Change 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 293. Quit with Annie Duke 305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Puberty can be a very confusing and transformative time, full of physical and emotional changes that can be both exciting and challenging to navigate. As your children go through this phase, they may need your support and guidance more than ever. Joining us for a conversation all about all things puberty are Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, the coauthors of national bestseller, This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained. If you are the parent of children who are approaching or already going through this time of rapid growth and development, Cara and Vanessa's science-based explanations, compassionate and realistic advice on talking to tweens about difficult topics from mood swings to pornography, along with in-depth knowledge on understanding teen culture are sure to validate and empower you in your parenting journey.  Listen and Learn:  In Cara and Vanessa's expert opinion, what are the biggest obstacles that parents face during puberty? How are the early emotional and physical changes of puberty different for boys and girls?  Why is modern-day puberty different than before?  The importance of self-forgiveness when you mess up as a parent during the stormy stages of puberty  How to approach the topic of pornography with your kids How much are parents affected by the social messaging around gender, and how can you bring that into your parenting? Why teens in puberty feel emotions differently than adults  Are empathy and showing a way forward your best moves when your kids are at the mercy of their hormones? Can hunger sometimes be a major culprit for pubescent mood swings? Resources: Order of Magnitude website This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained The Puberty Podcast Follow Cara and Vanessa on Tik Tok and YouTube @spillingthepubertea About Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett Cara Natterson, MD is a pediatrician and New York Times bestselling author; Vanessa Kroll Bennett is a puberty educator and writer. Together, they host The Puberty Podcast; run Order of Magnitude, the leading brand dedicated to flipping puberty positive; and are co-authors of the bestselling This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained (Rodale Books, Oct 2023). Cara and Vanessa can be found on Instagram and TikTok @spillingthepubertea. Perhaps their biggest cred, however, is that between them, they parent six teens. Related Episodes: 332. Middle School Superpowers with Phyllis Fagell 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with Emily Edlynn 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is wellness something you would like to bring into your life this year? Then our first POTC episode of 2024, featuring Sharon Salzberg, a pioneer of meditation and world-renowned teacher, is a gold mine! Going deep into Sharon's many years of experience practicing and teaching mindfulness, we unpack principles from her work and latest book, Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation. One of the most empowering lessons from Sharon is that mindfulness is not just a practice but a trainable quality. She affirms many paths to building the quality of mindfulness, which goes way beyond the traditional formal practices. It's so refreshing how she describes the practice and benefits of mindfulness in a realistic way and doesn't promise a magical cure for eternal happiness. Having Sharon's voice on the podcast is an honor; her message and outlook on life will undoubtedly bring you heaps of value.  Listen and Learn:  What does it mean to live your life in a constricted way? How to get out of a constrictive place of living and live more expansively  Can we experience more awe in our day-to-day lives? How can mindfulness be helpful if you feel trapped or are struggling? The realistic challenges of achieving a state of mindfulness Sharon’s ‘breath, not breath’ technique  Tips for busy people who want to practice mindfulness more or are having trouble making it a regular habit How to sprinkle less formal mindfulness practices into your life The ways mindfulness can support the Buddhist concept of right action Transforming anger into courage Resources:  Visit Sharon’s website Sharon's books Real Happiness: A 28-Day Program to Realize the Power of Meditation, Finding Your Way: Meditations, Thoughts, and Wisdom for Living an Authentic Life and Real Life, The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom. Sharon’s Just Sit article for O Magazine  For more insight on mindfulness, listen in to Sharon’s podcast, The Metta Hour Follow Sharon on LinkedIn, YouTube, X and Instagram  Check out Sharon’s posts on Check out Sharon’s posts on Medium About Sharon Salzberg Sharon Salzberg is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness and lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture nearly 50 years ago, inspiring generations of meditation teachers and wellness influencers. Sharon is co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, and the author of thirteen books, including the New York Times bestseller Real Happiness, now in its second edition, and her seminal work, Lovingkindness. In 2023, Sharon is releasing two new books. The first, Real Life, is now available from Flatiron Books in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook formats. The second, Finding Your Way, is a small gift book now available from Workman Publishing in hardcover and ebook formats. Sharon’s podcast, The Metta Hour, has amassed six million downloads and features interviews with thought leaders from the mindfulness movement and beyond. www.sharonsalzberg.com Related Episodes:  80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren  75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer  122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin 171. Compassionate Mind Training with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1) 140. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 2) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As yet another incredible year comes to a close, the POTC cohosts, Debbie, Jill, Michael, and Emily, gather for the final episode of 2023 in a cozy fireside chat. Kicking off the episode, they reflect on some of the obstacles they faced this past year as well as share some of the valuable lessons they’ve learned along the way. Looking optimistically into the year to come, they get pumped about their aspirations for 2024 and wrap up the chat with a spirited speed-round. Intrigued to know their holiday season pet peeves, what dirty little secrets they’ve been hiding, and the game-changing buys they’ve made that cost less than a Benjamin?! Make sure to listen all the way to the end of the episode! Happy holidays, off-the-clockers! See you again in the new year! Resources:  The Love of My Life, by Rosie Walsh  I'm Glad My Mom Died, by Jennette McCurdy The Anomaly by Le Tellier About Emily Edlynn  Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. About Debbie Sorenson  Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. drdebbiesorensen.com. About Jill Stoddard  Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. About Michael Herold  Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He’s helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they’re mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Related Episodes 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy Connection 218. Off the Clock with Us 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 300. Celebrating 300 Episodes with Us 323. Introducing Our New Cohosts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Since we were introduced to Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges in the early nineties, the concept has revolutionized our understanding of the connection between safety and well-being and transformed trauma interventions and therapeutic interactions, inspiring researchers and clinicians to approach things in new ways. Here to enlighten us through real-world examples and themes from their book, Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, are father and son, Stephen and Seth Porges. Tune in to gain a whole new outlook on what our body does based on how safe we feel and learn practical ways in which we can help one another feel safe. Listen and Learn:  What is polyvagal theory? What effects does it have on our physical and mental well-being to live in a world where signals of threat are all around us?   The science of safety  What role does cognition play in polyvagal theory? Clearing up misconceptions about our freeze response to life-threatening or traumatic events Breath, the vagus nerve, and feeling safe—and whether there's even an ideal way to breathe to stimulate or activate those feelings of safety Are hormonal changes impacting the vagus nerve, and is that why we experience mood changes during puberty and menopause? What makes us seek out the thrill of being scared? Resources: For more insight on polyvagal theory, visit Stephen and Seph’s websites  Order your copy of Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us Follow Stephen on Instagram, Facebook and LinkedIn  Follow Seth on Facebook and X About Stephen and Seth Porges Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a Distinguished University Scientist at Indiana University where he is the founding director of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium. He is Professor of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina, and Professor Emeritus at both the University of Illinois at Chicago and the University of Maryland. He lives in Atlantic Beach, Florida.  Seth Porges is a journalist and filmmaker. He directed the critically acclaimed documentary Class Action Park (HBO Max). He lives in Atlantic Beach, Florida, and Brooklyn, New York.  Related episodes 131. COVID-19, Anxiety, Cultivating Safety, and Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges 139 & 140 Neurodharma with Rick Hanson Parts 1 & 2 177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne 210. Strategies for Becoming Safely Embodied with Deirdre Fay 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The fact is that, next to sleep, we spend the most hours of a lifetime in the workplace. It's true, even though it is a bitter pill to swallow. That's why Michelle P. King argues the idea that we can only find fulfillment and purpose outside of work. Having a job takes up so much of our day-to-day lives, so we must strive to find meaning in it and understand the unspoken rules that lie beneath the surface. Discussing Michelle’s book How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself, we shed some light on the path to achieving our career ambitions without compromising our identities. Listen and Learn What was Michelle's motivation for developing a framework for how to feel seen, heard, and valued at work? The evolution of the work environment as a result of economic changes  Why is the need to fit in inherently problematic, and how is belonging different? The steps to building an informal network to future-proof your career success How establishing meaningful connections and investing in self-awareness can help you get ahead at work without losing your authentic self  Resources:  Visit Michelle’s website Get your copy of How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself Check out Michelle’s podcast, The Fix Follow Michelle on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn and X About Michelle P. King Dr. Michelle P. King+ is an award-winning academic and globally recognized expert on inequality and organizational culture. Her second book, How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself, publishes internationally on October 10th, 2023 (HarperCollins).  Related Episodes: 299. Leadership and the Changing Workplace with Chris Shipley 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 270. How Am I Doing? with Cory Yeager 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Middle school can be such a stressful experience for kids, their parents, and educators alike. It's a time of change, pressure, and uncharted territory that can be extremely overwhelming. In this conversation, Emily Edlynn speaks with the author of Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times, Phyllis Fagell, who has crafted a science-backed and compassionate resource for parents and educators to support middle schoolers through the most challenging situations. You will learn why this particular age group has the capacity for remarkable growth and resilience and why adults should not be afraid of this stage of life—instead, concentrate on the strengths and skills that can be cultivated during it. We invite you to listen to this episode for actionable strategies and skills to help your tweens thrive and become more resilient in a world that can be chaotic and anxiety-inducing. From managing rejection, friendships, and self-regulating emotions to academic performance and recovering from setbacks, Phyllis’ advice is invaluable.  Listen and Learn:  What Phyllis enjoys most about working with and writing about the middle-school age group Why Phyllis wrote a book to help parents better understand and support middle schoolers Tips to help provide a foundation of security for kids in these chaotic and scary times Common parenting concerns during middle school and how using different superpowers can help with such challenges  How being a middle school counselor, writing about middle school, and being a parent at the same time has been a gift and a liability for Phyllis Resources: Phyllis Fagell’s website Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times About Phyllis Fagell  Phyllis Fagell is a practicing school counselor, a psychotherapist who works with children and teens in private practice, and an author and journalist. She is the author of "MIDDLE SCHOOL MATTERS, The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond – and How Parents Can Help," and her most recent book that we’re discussing today: "MIDDLE SCHOOL SUPERPOWERS, Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times." Phyllis is a frequent contributor to publications such as The Washington Post and CNN, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Chicago Tribune, and The Atlantic. Phyllis has three children and lives in Bethesda, MD. Related Episodes: 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 213. Back To School! How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson 293. Quit with Annie Duke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inequality is a pervasive problem in society that leads to individuals and entire communities feeling undervalued and neglected and can have adverse impacts. We excitedly welcome acclaimed Harvard sociologist Michèle Lamont for this discussion, who joins Debbie to impart wisdom and discoveries from her powerful book, Seeing Others: How Recognition Works and How It Can Heal a Divided World. As they explore the complicated topic of recognition in society, Michele draws from almost four decades of research and interviews with young adults, cultural figures, and advocates for change to highlight the differences in treatment given to certain groups, the impacts of denied recognition, and the role of narratives in shaping societal and cultural norms and values. We also get Michele’s informed perspective on the social changes needed for us to cultivate a more compassionate and inclusive society. If this topic speaks to you, please join us for this very meaningful discussion and be part of the change we want to see in the world! Listen and Learn:  Michele explains how certain groups within society are valued and recognized, while others are left feeling devalued and overlooked The denial of recognition and dignity to marginalized groups and how this negatively impacts their well-being and sense of value within society Why psychology may not be able to capture the concept of worth comprehensively How internalized cultural narratives perpetuate and become embedded over time, and what is being done at a cultural level to change them What is normal universalism?  Is there hope for a more inclusive future that values and includes all people? If Michèle could change one narrative related to the concept of worthiness, what would it be? Resources:  Find out more about Michèle by visiting her website Michele’s book, Seeing Others: How Recognition Works--And How It Can Heal a Divided World The Ford Foundation referenced in this episode  Follow Michele on Twitter About Michele Lamont  Dr. Michèle Lamont is a Professor of Sociology and of African and African American Studies and the Robert I. Goldman Professor of European Studies at Harvard University. An influential cultural sociologist who studies boundaries and inequality, she has tackled topics such as dignity, respect, stigma, racism, class, and racial boundaries, and how we evaluate social worth across societies. Her most recent book is Seeing Others: How Recognition Works and How It Can Heal a Divided World (forthcoming with Simon and Schuster, September 2023). Her other books include: Money, Morals, and Manners (1992), The Dignity of Working Men (2000), How Professors Think (2009), as well as the coauthored Getting Respect (2016). After studying with Pierre Bourdieu and others in Paris in the early eighties, Lamont emerged as a pioneer in cultural and comparative sociology, helping to define these fields as we know them today. Her many awards include the C. Wright Mills Award from the Society for the Study of Social Problems for The Dignity of Working Men, the 2014 Guttenberg Award, the 2017 Erasmus Prize, and honorary doctorates from six countries. She served as President of the American Sociological Association in 2016, was a Carnegie Fellow in 2021-2022, and was inducted into the American Academy of Arts & Sciences in 2023. She co-chaired the advisory board to the 2022 United Nations Human Development Report, “Uncertain Times, Unsettled Lives: Shaping our Future in a World in Transformation.” Related episodes:  325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet  324. Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace   256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley  230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price  281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this bonus episode, Michael leads Jill, Debbie, and Emily in a hilarious round of Dungeons&Dragons. If you just tuned into our episode with Megan Connell on Dungeons&Dragons in Therapy, you’ll understand that tabletop role-playing games can only truly be understood by experiencing them in action, and who better to demonstrate it than the POTC cohosts? And, for those interested in trying it out themselves, we also provide some free resources. Welcome to Psychologists Off the Clock and Dungeons&Dragons! Resources: Begin your Dungeons&Dragons adventure at dndbeyond.com A Wild Sheep Chase by Winghorn Press Critical Core by Game to Grow Michael’s roll4confidence Website Related Episodes: 330. Dungeons&Dragons in Therapy with Megan Connell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many clinical professionals all over the world are incorporating tabletop roleplaying games (RPGs) into therapy. They offer diverse benefits and can be a game-changing way to introduce enjoyment and creativity into therapy sessions. For this conversation, we are thrilled to be joined by Megan Connell, author of Tabletop Role-Playing Therapy: A Guide for the Clinician Game Master, to talk about the advantages and potential of RPGs in therapy. Using the wildly popular Dungeons&Dragons as the primary example, we look at how coming together to solve problems, face conflicts, and overcome obstacles through collective storytelling can provide a safe and creative environment for individuals to explore without real-world consequences, while also building on skills such as social and confidence development. Listen in and elevate your therapy game with a perfect blend of fun and learning! Listen and Learn: Megan gives an introduction to therapeutically applied tabletop role-playing games and how they're played The many benefits of tabletop role-playing games in teaching therapeutic skills  The limitless possibilities of Dungeons&Dragons How Megan approaches character creation for her clients The overlap between the ACT Hexaflex Model and role-playing games Resources: Visit Megan's Website Order your copy of Megan’s book Tabletop Role-Playing Therapy: A Guide for the Clinician Game Master   G33ks like us Geek Therapeutics Healthquest Innovative Therapeutics Clinical Roll Psychology at the Table Follow Megan on X About Dr. Megan Connell Dr. Connell is a Licensed Psychologist and a Therapeutic Dungeon Master. She graduated from Argosy University Hawai’i in 2010 and served as a psychologist in the US Army for seven years. While in the Army she received specialty training focused on trauma and PTSD. In 2016, she left active duty and started her work in private practice. There, she has focused her work primarily on challenges related to anxiety, panic, changes in life, depression, trauma, and helping women on the autism spectrum. Through her work with Leyline Geek Therapeutics, she has helped train other mental health professionals on what geek culture is and how we can use geek culture to lead to better, more fulfilling lives.  Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 288. The Fun Habit with Mike Rucker 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 239. Edit Your Story, Change Your Life with Lori Gottlieb 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is curiosity one of your greatest superpowers when it comes to making meaningful connections, healing, and growing personally? This episode features Scott Shigeoka, an expert on curiosity and the author of Seek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the World. Join us as Scott draws from personal experiences and extensive research to teach us about the power of deep curiosity and how it goes beyond mere knowledge-seeking to revolutionize your well-being, relationships, and even the world around you. Listen and Learn:  The spectrum of curiosity Scott shares his encounters with deep curiosity and how it changed his experiences Can deep curiosity help cure the global loneliness epidemic? The three directions of curiosity - internal, external, and beyond The downside to curiosity What's stopping you from getting curious? How to cultivate deep curiosity using the DIVE model What sets a weak question apart from a powerful question? Resources:  Visit Scott’s website Connect with Scott on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram Scott’s book Seek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the World About Scott Shigeoka Scott Shigeoka is an internationally recognized curiosity expert, speaker, and author. He is known for translating research into strategies that promote positive well-being and connected relationships around the globe, including at the UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and through his groundbreaking courses at the University of Texas at Austin. Scott implements his curiosity practices in the public sector, Fortune 500 companies, Hollywood, media organizations, education institutions, and small businesses. Related Episodes:  325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 302. Say the Right Thing with David Glasgow 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are all affected by change in some way or another. Whether it is an economic crisis, a career change, a global pandemic, or having children, change is unavoidable. In this episode, we welcome back best-selling author Brad Stulberg to talk about his new book, Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing - Including You. Brad shares a new model for defining change and draws upon principles for developing a renewed mindset around change that is supported by modern science, ancient wisdom, and daily practice. Brad's insight serves as a powerful reminder to embrace change with a fresh outlook and is a beacon of inspiration for every individual navigating life's constant changes. Tune in and discover how to reframe your perception of change and explore new avenues for growth and self-discovery. Listen and Learn:  Brad summarizes our current relationship with change as a modern society Are we functioning with change differently now than in the past? The concept of rugged flexibility The risks of too much fusion between identity and pursuit Taking skillful action to have the change shape you as well as to try to shape the change The concept of rugged and flexible action The importance of understanding rage versus pathways Resources: Visit Brads website Brad’s book, Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing - Including You Follow Brad on Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn About Brad Stulberg Brad Stulberg researches, writes, and coaches on health, well-being, and sustainable excellence. He is the bestselling author of The Practice of Groundedness and co-author of Peak Performance. Stulberg regularly contributes to the New York Times, and his work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal and the Atlantic, among many other publications. He is on faculty at the University of Michigan’s graduate School of Public Health. In his coaching practice, he works with executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, and athletes. He lives in Asheville, North Carolina. https://www.bradstulberg.com/  Related Episodes:  232. Grounded to Soar Into 2022 with Brad Stulberg 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After Difficulty with Debbie and Rae 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is astounding how much information we are exposed to on a daily basis. But how can we transform information overload into opportunity? For this episode, we invited internationally recognized leading futurist, entrepreneur, and author Ross Dawson to the conversation to share valuable insights from his new book, "Thriving on Overload: The 5 Powers for Success in a World of Exponential Information" Ross gives his take on the challenges of information overload in today's digital age and provides a detailed roadmap for navigating the noise and making better-informed decisions about the information you engage in by harnessing five essential powers - Purpose, Framing, Filtering, Attention, and Synthesis.  Listen and Learn: What is at risk if we don't train our brains and gain the habits, approaches, and behaviors that serve us well in this age of information overload?  The power of understanding your purpose  How to get more clear on what your purpose might be when making choices around engaging with information The power of filtering to decipher which information is most useful to you The power of framing in connecting information into meaningful patterns that build knowledge and insight How to harness your attention to maximize productivity Tips for becoming a better ‘synthesizer’ Using the five powers to go about mining and attending to information Reframing your perception from one of overload to abundance Resources: Find Ross at rossdawson.com or amplifyingcognition.com Thriving on Overload: The 5 Powers for Success in a World of Exponential Information Follow Ross on Twitter, Facebook or LinkedIn About Ross Dawson  Ross Dawson is globally recognized as a leading futurist, entrepreneur, keynote speaker and strategy advisor.  Ross is Founding Chairman of the Advanced Human Technologies group of companies and Bondi Innovation Alliance.  He travels the world helping business and government leaders think about the future, having delivered keynotes and strategy workshops in over 30 countries across six continents.  He is the bestselling author of five books, including Thriving on Overload: The 5 Powers for Success in a World of Exponential Information.  Ross frequently appears in the media, including on CNN, Bloomberg TV, SkyNews, ABC TV, USA Today, the Today and Sunrise shows, and many other programs. Related episodes 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 307. Navigating Social Media As a Parent with Cara Goodwin 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The topic of weight and body image is more prevalent in today's society than ever before. Every day we are bombarded with messages that convey the thin ideal and encourage us to strive for certain body types. Sadly, what is often overlooked is the harmful impact of these societal expectations, especially on people who don't fit the narrow definition of beauty. Our guest for this episode is Dr. Sarah Pegrum, a clinical psychologist, ACT peer-reviewed trainer, and author of the groundbreaking book "Break the Binds of Weight Stigma." Sarah provides an insightful perspective into the role of weight stigma and anti-fat bias in our culture, as well as how the wellness and health industries perpetuate these prejudices for their own gain. We discuss how this, in turn, leads to shame and consequent unhealthy behaviors and underline the importance of analyzing the "obesity epidemic" narrative more critically, as it is often more complex than it is often portrayed. Tune in for this empowering conversation on breaking free from body image struggles using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and start embracing life to the fullest! Listen and Learn:  Sarah’s experience putting this book out into the world and her fears of being a voice on the topic of weight stigma and body image  How weight stigma manifests itself in the media and everyday conversation Weight stigma and the negative impact it has on mental and physical health How does the sense of belonging and fitting in pertain to weight stigma? How our personal learning history may contribute to issues surrounding body image How we get into patterns of avoidance and control and how that can be problematic The emotional impact of weight stigma How important is it to feel positive about your own body to have a healthier relationship with it? How to apply the acceptance part of acceptance and commitment therapy when we aren't feeling so positive about our bodies Sarah’s words of wisdom for people consumed by thoughts of body criticism What needs to change at the cultural level in terms of weight stigma and discrimination? Resources:  Sarah’s website Order your copy of Sarah’s book, Break the Binds of Weight Stigma: Free Yourself from Body Image Struggles Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy   Related Episodes:  68. Body Image and Eating Disorders with Emily Sandoz 151. Intuitive Eating with Evelyn Tribole 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer Webb  231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis 264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unseen, unheard, undervalued - have you ever felt like that? As our guest this week, Dr. Janina Scarlet, a licensed clinical psychologist, points out, these feelings, while understandable, can be overcome. In Janina's mission to de-stigmatize loneliness and help people connect and support one another, she authored the book 'Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued: Managing Loneliness, Loss of Connection and Not Fitting in’ which serves as the backdrop for the conversation in this episode. You'll hear how to combat loneliness by understanding its dimensions, talking more about our experiences with loneliness, and seeking emotional support and self-compassion. Janina also offers many helpful tips, from finding and cultivating a ‘chosen family’ who truly sees, hears, and values you to transforming how you feel and react to shame. Don't miss this enriching conversation with Dr. Janina Scarlett! Listen and Learn:  What inspired Janina to write a book that de-stigmatizes the experience of loneliness Why psychical loneliness and the feeling of loneliness are not the same thing  The components of loneliness - to be unseen, unheard, and unvalued  How to change the way you respond to shame  How loneliness can be addressed differently The significance of forming relationships with people who see, hear, and value you  How to speak about and address your own feelings of loneliness using Janina’s ‘journaling in two parts’ exercise Using ‘savoring’ as a practice to experience being fully present    Finding your ‘chosen family’  Resources:  Find out more about Dr. Janina Scarlet at her website Order your copy of Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued: Managing Loneliness, Loss of Connection and Not Fitting in Follow Janina on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok About Janina Scarlet  Dr. Janina Scarlet is a licensed clinical psychologist, an award-winning author, and a full-time geek. A Ukrainian-born refugee, she survived Chernobyl radiation and persecution. She immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Dr. Scarlet is the recipient of the Eleanor Roosevelt Human Rights Award by the United Nations Association for her work on Superhero Therapy. Her work has been featured on Yahoo!, the BBC, NPR, Sunday Times, CNN, CW, ABC, The New York Times, Forbes and many other outlets. She regularly consults on books and television shows, including HBO’s The Young Justice. She was also portrayed as a comic book character in Gail Simone’s Seven Days graphic novel. Dr. Scarlet is the Lead Trauma Specialist at the Trauma and PTSD Healing Center and the Lead Creativity Coach at Creative Community in San Diego, California. Related Episodes: 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Students in high-achieving schools across America are facing increased rates of anxiety, depression, and self-harm due to intense pressure to succeed. This leads educators, parents, and community leaders to grapple with a difficult question: how can we encourage excellence while avoiding overwhelming our children? In this episode, co-host Emily Edlynn interviews award-winning reporter Jennifer B. Wallace about her book, 'Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It'. Jennifer draws importance to the framework of “mattering” as a healthy way to motivate success and shares key findings from her three-year investigation into the root of anxieties and fears parents have regarding their children's success in today's world. Additionally, she sheds light on the impact of economic scarcity and intensive parenting and offers practical strategies to combat a toxic achievement culture at home. This is a conversation not to be missed!  Listen and Learn:  Why The Varsity Blues scandal inspired Jennifer to write about toxic achievement culture  What is toxic achievement culture? What Jennifer learned from spending three years with families struggling with achievement culture while researching for her book and how it affected her on a personal level The risks that toxic achievement cultures pose for children and teenagers  How to buffer against achievement culture at home by using the Puppy Dog Principle to minimize criticism and prioritize affection The ways in which economic scarcity contributes to achievement pressures The impact and experience of achievement pressure on families of color versus white families How to lead with mattering in your parenting to give your kids healthy, sustaining motivation The consequences of sacrificing your own mattering for the sake of your children's needs How Jennifer sees intensive parenting contributing to toxic achievement culture and what we can do about it Understanding grind culture and how it intersects with what Jennifer calls an ‘increasingly narrow definition of success’ What you can do to prioritize rest and moderation over productivity and achievement Resources:  Visit Jennifer's website Go check out The Mattering Movement  Order your copy of Jennifer’s book 'Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It' Follow Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram About Jennifer Wallace  Jennifer Wallace is an award-winning journalist and author of the New York Times bestselling book Never Enough: When Achievement Pressure Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It.  She is a frequent contributor to The Wall Street Journal and The Washington Post and appears on national television to discuss her articles and relevant topics in the news.   After graduating from Harvard College, Wallace began her journalism career at CBS “60 Minutes,” where she was part of a team that won The Robert F. Kennedy Awards for Excellence in Journalism. She is a Journalism Fellow at The Center for Parent and Teen Communication at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia. Jennifer serves on the board of the Coalition for the Homeless in New York City, where she lives with her husband and their three children. Related Episodes 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The secret is finally out! We’re kicking off an amazing new chapter for POTC this week as we reveal our two latest additions to the cohost team - Emily Edlynn and Michael Herold! It’s going to be a blast having them aboard, and we can't wait for you to discover all the invaluable wisdom and ideas they have to offer in the realm of psychology. With Emily's insight into science-based parenting guidance and Michael’s background in confidence and social skills training, they bring such a refreshing and relatable perspective, and we feel privileged to have them join the team. Listen in to get to know them better and hear what our team is most looking forward to as we start this new journey together! Listen and Learn:  Introducing our new cohosts! Getting to know Emily and Michael on a personal and professional level In a quick-fire round of questions, find out who worked on a Sean Connery movie, who got an email from author Bonnie Garmis, and who would like to be a hip-hop dancer in an alternate reality. What the team are most excited about as they start this next chapter of POTC Resources Visit Michael’s website Watch Michael’s TEDx talk, ‘What if I Had a Time Machine?’ Follow Michael on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn Visit Emily’s website Follow Emily on on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter Order your copy of Emily’s book, ‘Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children’ About Michael Herold Michael is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He's helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they're mostly fun for him) He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. He is the scientific advisor and co-producer of their large podcast with more than 250 million downloads.  As a member of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), Michael is the current President of the ACT Coaching Special Interest Group with nearly 1,000 coaches worldwide, and the co-founder of the ACT in Austria Affiliate of ACBS, a nationwide meetup for ACT practitioners in Austria. He's a public speaker who has spoken at TEDx, in front of members of parliament, universities, and once in a cinema full of 500 kids high on sugary popcorn. About Emily Edlynn  Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. Emily lives with her husband, three children, and two rescue dogs in Oak Park, IL where she can see Chicago’s skyline from her attic window.       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a bittersweet episode of POTC, we say farewell to our dear friend, Yael Schonbrun, who, after six cherished years on Psychologists Off The Clock, is stepping down from her seat as cohost. We take this opportunity to express our deepest gratitude for Yael's brilliant contributions, chat about decision-making tips, reflect on some of Yael's most influential episodes, and discuss what Yael will miss most about her role as cohost. Plus, we give a sneak peek at some exciting new developments within the team! Yael, we are so honored to have had you on this podcasting adventure with us! We can’t wait to have you back on as a guest soon! Listen and Learn:  Yael walks us through her tough decision to step down as cohost and also imparts tips for navigating your own decisions in life  What new ventures lie ahead for Yael as she embarks on the next chapter of her career? The POTC guests and episodes that had the most influence on Yael Jill and Debbie express their gratitude for Yael and reflect on the beautiful relationship they have all developed over the years  What’s next for POTC? Resources:  Visit Yael’s website  Sign up for Yael’s newsletter Relational: The Art and Science of Connections Grab your copy of Yael's book, Work Parent Thrive  Follow Yael on Twitter and Instagram Mary Louise Kelly’s book, It. Goes. So. Fast. About Yael Schonbrun Yael Schonbrun, Ph.D. is a practicing clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, relationship specialist, and a mom of three. She is the author of Work, Parent, Thrive, and her writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, and Tricycle, among others. Her newsletter, Relational, releases bi-monthly and shares science-backed ideas and practices to grow connections. She is also newly retired from her post as Psychologists Off the Clock Co-host. Related Episodes:  24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Yael Schonbrun 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 232. Grounded to Soar Into 2022 with Brad Stulberg 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 293. Quit with Annie Duke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever experienced the unsettling feeling of not being good enough despite all of your achievements? Do you fear being exposed as a fraud in your professional life? Prepare to be enlightened as we discuss the uncomfortable reality of imposterism with our extraordinary cohost, seasoned psychologist, and eminent author, Dr. Jill Stoddard.  Jill has dedicated her professional career to helping people reach their full potential, a quest she is celebrating with the release of her latest book, Imposter No More. With her profound understanding of imposterism and her own journey to overcome self-doubt, Jill joins us for a candid conversation about defeating your inner imposter. Diving deep into the phenomenon of imposterism, Jill shares her own stories of overcoming imposter thoughts, explores its evolutionary roots and its prevalence across genders, and underscores the importance of cultivating psychological flexibility. She also guides us through practical exercises to set ourselves free from the cycles of experiential avoidance. Tune in to learn how to conquer your own imposter thoughts and take courageous steps toward your fears and insecurities to lead a more fulfilling life!  Listen and Learn:  Jill's own story of imposterism in joining POTC The difference between Jill’s book, Impostor No More, and other professional success books How imposter thoughts might be trying to help or protect you  Who is most at risk of imposter thoughts? How do imposter thoughts affect men and women differently? Why the term imposter syndrome is no longer used  Imposterisms opposite - The Dunning-Kruger effect How to know when to listen to imposter thoughts versus when to shift your attention away What is experiential avoidance, and how does it contribute to problems caused by imposter thoughts? How to combat imposterism with the Four P’s How Jill overcame the fear of giving a TED Talk by asking herself, ‘what would Oprah do?’ Resources:  Learn more about Jill via her website Find out your imposter subtype by taking Jill’s quiz Get your copy of Jill’s latest book,Imposter No More: Overcome Self-Doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career Join Jill for her workshop titled Use Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) to Help Clients Overcome Imposter "Syndrome" at the Innovations in Psychotherapy conference on October 12th-15th in beautiful Anaheim, CA.  About Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.   Related Episodes:  189. Imposter Syndrome with Jill and Debbie 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael Herold 107. Playing Big with Tara Mohr 1. Taking a Leap Into Something Meaningful Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s natural for us to have feelings of anger as we navigate the obstacles of life, but if left unaddressed, they can easily consume us and negatively impact our lives in more ways than one. Forgiveness, on the other hand, can help us let go of anger, improve our mental health, and maintain healthier relationships.  To explore these closely connected topics, we are thrilled to welcome back therapist Robyn Walser, who co-authored The Act Workbook for Anger alongside Manuela O'Connell. Through Robyn’s pool of expertise and her own learning history with anger, we discuss the significance of identifying the root cause of anger, in addition to how social messages, context, and cultural influences can contribute to the way we perceive and manage it. Robyn also shows us how to react to and express anger in ways that are more effective and aligned with our core values, and how, through forgiveness, we can restore relationships and pave the way to deeper healing. Join us to glean wisdom for Robyn and embark on a journey of self-discovery and a more fulfilling life! Listen and Learn:  Robyn’s learning history of anger as a child and the impact it had  How social messages, culture, and context affect how we understand, express, and perceive anger Why do we experience anger, and why is the emotion itself not necessarily problematic?  How to recognize anger through feelings, physiological sensations, thoughts, and actions The power of expressing anger effectively What does it mean to forgive others and yourself? Resources:  Learn more about Robyn’s upcoming training on ACT for Suicidal Behavior Robyn’s Healing Trauma with A T Training The Act Workbook for Anger by Robyn Walser and Manuela O'Connell TLConstulation Services Follow Robyn on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook  About Robyn Walser Robyn D. Walser, PhD, works as a consultant, workshop presenter, and therapist in her private business, TLConsultation Services. She received her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Nevada, Reno. During her graduate studies, she developed expertise in traumatic stress, substance abuse, and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). She has been doing ACT workshop trainings, both nationally and internationally, since 1998, training in multiple formats and for multiple client problems. She is the author of several books, including The ACT Workbook for Anger, Learning ACT, The Heart of ACT, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for the Treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma-Related Problems.  Related Episodes:  309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson  106. Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Robyn Walser 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 190. ACT for Suicide Prevention with Sean Barnes  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all want to raise our children to be self-sufficient and to explore their own identities, but it can be difficult to strike a balance between control and support. For this episode, we enlisted the guidance of Clinical Psychologist Emily Edlynn, who, through her book ‘Autonomy-Supportive Parenting’, provides parental strategies that encourage your kids to have autonomy while also establishing boundaries.  We love how Emily’s compassionate, very non-judgmental approach alleviates some of the responsibilities that parents take on. You'll get so many helpful on-the-ground tools for instilling independence in your children and fostering motivation without imposing control. She also touches on questions about giving children allowances, navigating privacy, and how to reward your children in a positive way. Listen in to find out more about Emily's powerful parenting framework! Listen and Learn: How Emily's book stands out by translating evidence from parenting research into a digestible practical guide The internal and external factors that might contribute to controlling parenting Adopting autonomy-supportive parenting as a way to step away from controlling behavior without giving up the responsibility of engaging in parenting that helps shape your children in healthy ways? Strategies for encouraging active participation in chores Why academic achievement has become a real pitfall for controlling parenting Are there advantages to giving your child an allowance?  Navigating privacy from an autonomy-supportive parenting perspective when you might be concerned about your child’s safety Resources: Emily’s website Emily’sbook Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children Emily’s substack The Art and Science of Mom  Ask Your Mom Follow Emily on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn  About Emily Edlynn Emily Edlynn, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice with specialized training in pediatric health psychology. She's the author of parenting blog The Art and Science of Mom, as well as the upcoming book Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children. Dr. Edlynn has worked as a pediatric health psychologist in two large urban hospitals and was previously an assistant professor at University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. She's currently the Director of Pediatric Behavioral Medicine at a private practice in Oak Park, Illinois. Dr. Edlynn writes a parenting blog, The Art and Science of Mom, and has penned the advice column, Ask Your Mom, for Parents since 2019. Dr. Edlynn has been featured as a parenting expert across national outlets and is the author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children. Related Episodes: 14. Mindful Parenting 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud 94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear with Kim Brooks 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de Marneffe 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne 149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla Naumburg 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy 258. How to Have a Kid and a Life with Erika Souter 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’Antonia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are struggling to make positive changes in your life, our interview with Dr. Michelle Drapkin is full of inspiration on prioritizing and being compassionate with yourself, even when facing setbacks.  As we dig into research-proven strategies from Michelle’s new self-help book, The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change, you’ll learn how motivational interviewing works and helps you move in the direction of what's important to you and your values. If you feel stuck or unsure about where to start, Michelle's tips on identifying targets for change and how to get unstuck using change talk will help you gain clarity and momentum. Tune in to learn how to harness your intrinsic motivation so that you can understand the "Why" behind your journey and make changes that last!  Listen and Learn:  What is motivational interviewing? The stages of change and why they’re not linear  Is Michelle’s book, The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change, suitable for everyone, no matter your stage of change? Is there a more skillful way to identify targets for change and goals? Change begins with the DARN CAT Sustained talk vs. change talk  Michelle's top tips for creating behavioral change What to do if you encounter a setback   Resources:  Visit Dr. Michelle Drapkin’s website Get your copy of Michelle's book, The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want The CBT Center  Follow Michelle on LinkedIn How to Change by Katy Milkman About Michelle Drapkin Dr. Michelle Drapkin has been working in the area of behavior change for over 20 years. She is the Owner/Director of the CBT Center and previously held roles as a Senior Behavioral Scientist at BetterUp, where she worked to advance the science and practice of evidence-based coaching in the workplace, and at Johnson and Johnson where she led the development and deployment of behavior change interventions, including an intervention for wellbeing and mindfulness. She held a national position at the Department of Veterans Affairs and was on faculty at the University of Pennsylvania. She is a board-certified Clinical Psychologist who sees patients in her private practice, consults with healthcare tech startups, and delivers trainings and workshops on communication, motivation, health, and well-being at work and in life. She is the author of The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want. Related Episodes:  297. School of Hard Talks with Emily Kline 243. Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this age of technology, our children are more exposed than ever before. As parents, it falls upon us to educate and mentor them in responsibly navigating boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation.  For this episode, we bring you Devorah Heitner, who, in her most recent book titled Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in the Digital World, touches on many important strategies for guiding our children to live in a digital world where privacy is nonexistent and judgment is unavoidable.  Devorah's book could not have come at a better time and is a tremendously valuable resource for parents, kids, and community members to draw from because she offers so much advice on having meaningful conversations with your kids that foster trust and create connectedness.  Listen and Learn:  What motivated Devorah to explore the idea that our children's childhoods are much more public than ours? What impact do constant surveillance and digital exposure have on child development? Tips for guiding children to make thoughtful decisions in the digital age Why a fear-based approach to protecting your child's safety can breed increased secrecy and distrust How to move from monitoring to mentoring when teaching your kids how to wisely engage with technology  Educating your children when it comes to exposure to sex and pornography online Why it’s important to talk with your kids about the risk of sexting and practicing safe-sexting  Devorah shares her recommendations for kids' educational resources What is intrinsic motivation, and how does it relate to our modern world's omnipresent grade apps? Resources:  Devorah Heitner’s website  Devorah’s books, Growing Up in Public, Coming of Age in the Digital World and Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World Scarleteen and Girlology Devorah’s Substack - Mentoring Kids in a Connected World  Follow Devorah on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter  Books referenced in this episode:  Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your Lgbtqia+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond by John Sovec It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained by Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett  About Devorah Heitner Dr. Devorah Heitner is an author who specializes in helping kids navigate tech using practical, research-informed approaches. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. Her work on mentoring kids in a connected world has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She is a mother of a teenager of her own and the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World which we are here to discuss today.  Related Episodes: 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud 61. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Leahy 194. How to Be (and Raise) an Adult 297. School of Hard Talks with Emily Kline 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers 307. Navigating Social Media as a Parent with Cara Goodwin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Addiction is a frightening disorder with complex root causes, affecting a staggering one in every five people over the age of 14. To explore the intricate nature of addiction, we invited Dr. Judith Grisel, a renowned psychology professor at Bucknell University and the author of Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, to the conversation.  What makes this conversation so powerful is not only Dr. Grisels wealth of knowledge but also her ability to explain complicated ideas in such a relatable way. And what’s even more remarkable is her own history with substance abuse and how, with effective treatment and understanding, she embarked on her own thirty-plus-year road to recovery.   Combining science-based understanding with learned experience, Judith explains how addiction affects the brain, the social, psychological, and genetic factors that play a part, as well as the value of de-stigmatization, support, and early treatment. Whether you or someone you love has been impacted by addiction, her insights, and transformational story are sure to provide guidance and hope. Listen and Learn:  Judith details her own experience with substance abuse and explains what it did for her on a psychological level What is the link between genetic liability and substance use during adolescent years that makes individuals more susceptible to addiction? Why the use of drugs is not a moral weakness Can even moderate use of alcohol be detrimental to your health and well-being?  The neurological process that happens when it comes to addiction  The turning point that motivated Judith's road to recovery Why support, early treatment, and curiosity could be the keys to your recovery  Are some drugs harder to quit than others?  The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety; it's freedom What can society do to combat the underlying causes of addiction? Resources:  Learn more about Judith  Judith’s book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction - TED Talk by Judith Grisel About Judith Grisel Dr. Judith Grisel is a behavioral neuroscientist with a particular interest in addiction. Her research attempts to identify psychological and genetic factors that lead some people to develop drug addictions while others in similar circumstances do not. Grisel’s work is inspired by her own personal experience with addiction, a struggle she chronicled in her book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction. The work, which appeared on the New York Times bestseller list for science books, established Grisel as a leading expert on the science of substance abuse. That reputation earned her an invitation to speak on addiction panels at the 2020 World Economic Forum. Related Episodes: 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher  286. Not Drinking Tonight with Amanda White Episode 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery Episode 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams      Episode 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey  Episode 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time to talk about menopause. Despite being such a pivotal stage in a woman's development, it does not always receive the acknowledgment it deserves. And with half of the population affected by menopause, it’s about time we started talking about it loud and proud! Helping us unpack the whirlwind of physical and emotional changes women experience as they go through this transition is Jancee Dunn, columnist, perimenopause warrior, and author of Hot and Bothered, who shares her insightful thoughts.  As we laugh and learn about the ups and downs of menopause, you’ll hear about the 30+ symptoms (yep, you read that right!), and we've got you covered with intimacy tips, the best treatments to ease the discomfort, and even some surprising positives about this stage of life. No matter your gender identity, we welcome everyone to join us for this refreshingly hilarious and eye-opening journey! Listen and Learn:  The experiences Jancee went through with menopause that inspired her to write Hot and Bothered Why Jancee advises confiding in loved ones—even your kids—when going through menopause Some well-known and lesser-known menopausal symptoms  Understanding estrogen and progesterone through the lawnmower metaphor Why you should avoid blood tests to determine menopause  The fascinating link between hot flashes, sleep, and weight gain How menopause can impact sex and intimacy, as well as tips for a more comfortable experience!  Does menopausal hormone therapy treat all symptoms of menopause, and what are the risks and benefits? The upside of menopause Resources:  Jancee Dunn’s website  Hot and Bothered: What No One Tells You About Menopause and How to Feel Like Yourself Again Follow Jancee on Instagram and Facebook For trained menopause specialists, visit The North American Menopause Society (NAMS). About Jancee Dunn Jancee Dunn is the New York Times bestselling author of nine books, including a memoir and a biography of Cyndi Lauper. Her essay collection Why Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo? was a finalist for the Thurber Prize for American Humor. Her last book, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids, was published in twelve languages. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times, Vogue, and Health. She was a sex columnist at GQ and had a column that addressed ethical dilemmas in O, The Oprah Magazine. She lives in New Jersey with her husband, the author Tom Vanderbilt, and their daughter. Related Episodes: 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de Marneffe 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal 175. How to Sleep Better with Rafael Pelayo 204. Ageless with Andrew Steele 248. Let’s Talk About Sex & Intimacy with Zoë Kors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you enjoyed our most recent episode, Episode 314, Munchausen by proxy with Andrea Dunlop and Marc Feldman on Munchausen by Proxy syndrome, you won’t want to miss Andrea’s podcast, Nobody Should Believe Me.  In this special bonus episode, we are bringing our listeners the very first episode of Nobody Should Believe Me. Andrea shares how she first became captivated by the story of Hope Ybarra–who spent ten years in prison for Munchausen by Proxy–and begins to unpack the many similarities between Hope’s case and Andrea’s own family story. About Andrea Dunlop Andrea Dunlop is the host and creator of NOBODY SHOULD BELIEVE ME, an investigative true crime podcast that is consistently in the top 20 on the Apple True Crime charts. Andrea is the founder of Munchausen Support, an online resource and non-profit that supports survivors and families. She is a member of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children’s Munchausen by proxy committee where she serves alongside some of the country’s foremost experts. Andrea is the author of four novels: Losing the Light (Atria; 2016), She Regrets Nothing (Atria: 2018), We Came Here to Forget (Atria; 2019), and Women Are the Fiercest Creatures (Zibby Books; 2023) Her work has been featured in places like Vanity Fair, People, Entertainment Weekly, ABC News Live, and elsewhere. She is currently working on a non-fiction book based on the podcast, co-authored with Detective Mike Weber that is forthcoming from St. Martin’s Press in 2024. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome (MBPS) is a psychological disorder that you may have heard whispers about in the media in which a person, usually a parent, fakes or induces a medical condition in another person to gain attention. In most cases, it is the mother of a child who pretends or even causes medical symptoms the child does not actually have. To shed light on this highly complex topic, we brought in the expertise of Andrea Dunlop, founder of Munchausen Support, and Marc Feldman, a renowned specialist in factitious disorder, Munchausen syndrome, and Munchausen by proxy. Through personal experiences, real-life cases, and scientific research, they educate us on the underlying motivations behind this behavior, including the desire for attention and emotional gratification. The conversation also touches on the range of behaviors associated with Munchausen by Proxy, from subtle forms of overmedicalization to extreme cases involving active induction of illness. Andrea and Marc stress the need to acknowledge and address these behaviors, as well as provide support and resources for survivors and their families. Find out how we can support people affected by these complex disorders by tuning in. Listen and Learn: Andrea shares her personal experience with the topic after her sister was investigated for medical child abuse The distinctions between Munchausen syndrome and Munchausen by proxy  Are Munchausen syndrome patients, or Munchausen by proxy perpetrators, deliberately deceitful? What kind of satisfaction does Munchausen syndrome cause to motivate such pathological behavior? Can factitious disorder behaviors occur in both real life and online? How do we recognize the signs of Munchausen syndrome, or Munchausen by proxy? Does Munchausen behavior always lead someone to be the perpetrator? Where to find resources and information about Munchausen What we can do to prevent abuse inflicted by Munchausen by proxy  Are we bad at recognizing female violence?  Is rehabilitation possible? Resources:  Website for Dr. Marc Feldman  Websites for Andrea Dunlop’s writing and Munchausen by Proxy advocacy work with resources Follow Andrea on Instagram Nobody Should Believe Me Podcast hosted and created by Andrea Dunlop  The Spectrum of Factitious Disorders and Dying to Be Ill: True Stories of Medical Deception by Marc Feldman  Munchausen syndrome by proxy. The Hinterland of Child Abuse an article by Roy Meadow  APSAC: American Professional Society Abuse Children Munchausen By Proxy Warning Signs Psychological Treatment of Factitious Disorder Imposed on Another/Munchausen by Proxy Abuse by Mary J. Sanders and Brenda Bursch Related Episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg  263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the treatment of anxiety, panic disorder, and OCD, exposure therapy has long been recognized as the gold standard. But what if there was an even more powerful approach to confronting your fears or trauma? For this episode, we welcome two esteemed guests, Dr. Brian Thompson and Dr. Brian Pilecki to uncover the transformative impact of blending traditional exposure therapy with the principles of ACT. Through practical examples from their groundbreaking book, ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety, we learn about the significance of acceptance, values, and how clinicians can incorporate ACT concepts into exposure sessions, emphasizing the power of creativity and psychological flexibility in the therapeutic process. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of cutting-edge anxiety interventions. Tune in for an experience that could radically change your relationship with anxiety forever! Listen and Learn:  What is traditional exposure therapy? Why choose ACT-informed exposure therapy over traditional exposure therapy? The impact of psychological flexibility  How those who experience anxiety disorders may get caught up in rule-governed behavior  How rule-governed behaviors are undermined by ACT-informed exposure What exactly is creative hopelessness, and how is it applied to ACT-informed exposure for anxiety? Is there a structure to ACT-informed exposure? Examples of how exposure therapy incorporates ACT principles The common obstacles that can show up for a client or therapist when doing ACT-informed exposure  Resources:  Brian Pilecki, Ph.D. Brian Thompson, Ph.D The Cruelest Cure - New York Times article by Lauren Slater Act-Informed Exposure for Anxiety: Creating Effective, Innovative, and Values-Based Exposures Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Brian L. Thompson, Brian C. Pilecki and Joanne C. Chan  Altered States of Context Podcast Related Episodes:  77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 287. Think, Act, Be with Seth Gillihan 212. Stuff That’s Loud with Lisa Coyne & Ben Sedley 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 181. Stop Avoiding Stuff with Matt Boone 121. Be Mighty with Jill Stoddard 309. Language of Emotions with Karla McClaren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever considered that, while being super focused can be a positive quality, it may also have its drawbacks? Think about it: when you channel your attention so intensely on one thing, you could be neglecting a whole realm of valuable information and stimuli out there. Embark on a journey with us into the mysterious world of illusions! Piggy-backing off of the previous episode on the science of deception, we are taking you back in time to revisit an eleven-year-old conversation between Debbie and Christopher Chabris for the New Books Network about, "The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us ".  Through this captivating book, you’ll discover how to view the world through the lens of illusions and how our perceptions can be deceived. From the illusion of attention, flashbulb memory, and The Mozart Effect to the illusions of confidence and knowledge, challenge your assumptions and gain insight into how our brains can be tricked and our decision-making influenced. Listen and Learn:  How was The Gorilla Experiment conceived, and what were the key findings?  What did the experiment reveal about attention in particular? How the illusion of attention can affect our daily lives Why do we not notice significant changes in our visual world when our attention is distracted? Do we actually pay attention to our memories? The illusion of knowledge and how it pertains to investing Why do we think we know cause and effect better than we actually do? The Mozart Effect: is it really beneficial to our cognitive abilities? The illusion of potential and why we have the tendency to believe that there are quick and easy ways to achieve dramatic results How to change your environment to make you less prone to falling victim to these illusions Resources:  Christopher Chabris The Invisible Gorilla: And Other Ways Our Intuitions Deceive Us by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons  Follow Christopher on Twitter  Original interview on New Books Network  About Christopher Chabris Dr. Christopher Chabris is a cognitive scientist who has taught at Union College and Harvard University and is a Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science. His research focuses on decision-making, attention, intelligence, and behavior genetics. Chris received his Ph.D. in psychology and A.B. in computer science from Harvard University. He is a chess master, poker amateur, and games enthusiast; for three years he wrote the “Game On” column in The Wall Street. Related Episodes: 311. Nobody’s Fool with Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal 20. Phones, Games, And Screens: Sustainable Technology Use 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Deception is everywhere. Fake psychics, dodgy investment deals, cults, and pesky scam calls can be hard to detect, even for the smartest or most vigilant individuals. This poses the question of what makes us vulnerable and what precautions we can take?  Joining us for this episode are two exceptional cognitive scientists, Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons. Through studies and findings from their highly anticipated book, "Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It" they provide us with valuable insight into how to navigate the treacherous world of deception.  In this fascinating conversation, Christopher and Daniel unveil the cognitive biases that plague us all while offering practical ways to safeguard ourselves from being duped. Drawing upon real-life situations, they come equipped with an arsenal of tactics that can be incorporated into your daily life and that won't breed paranoia or leave you in a perpetual state of vigilance—quite the opposite! Their goal is to provide you with the knowledge to navigate life confidently, cautiously, and securely. Listen and Learn:  Is everyone susceptible to being duped? How have Daniel and Christopher become savvier at recognizing scams as a result of writing and researching their book, Nobody’s Fool? Daniel's clever suggestion for protecting your family from scam calls   How ‘truth bias’ can make us more vulnerable in day-to-day life  Why do we often fail to see something that's right in front of us? Even something so glaringly apparent? Principle of focus: what does it mean, and how is it used as a means to deceive? How our beliefs and expectations can deter us from seeing what is actually there and how to avoid falling victim to the trap Why it's crucial to consider all of the information that you're missing when interpreting information or data that is presented to you How can we protect ourselves from being fooled when the risk is high? The “illusory truth effect”: why do we have a tendency to treat familiarity as a sign of fact? How can we find that balance between accepting the truth bias and being cautious? Resources:  Christopher Chabris Follow Christopher on Twitter  Daniel Simons Follow Daniel on Twitter Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us Gorilla Experiment Influence: Science and Practice by Robert Cialdini  About Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris: Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris are the authors of the 2010 New York Times Bestseller, The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us, which has been translated into 20 languages. They have collaborated on research for more than 25 years, and they jointly received the 2004 Ig Nobel Prize (given for research that "first makes you laugh and then makes you think"). They have contributed to The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Slate, and other national publications, and their work has appeared in science museums worldwide. They spent nearly a decade researching and writing Nobody’s Fool. Related Episodes: 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin    255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman 305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick  186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab:  276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our expectations can shape how we navigate life in more ways than one. Expectations help us prepare, but not just through action; there are actual physiological changes that occur when we're anticipating certain things. David Robson, "an award-winning science writer who focuses on the extremes of the human brain, body, and behavior", joins us for this episode. Through practical takeaways founded on scientific theory from his book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World, David opens our minds to a fun and transformative look at the fantastical power that the mind has in making expectations a reality. Learn useful tools that you can use to your benefit, both in terms of increasing positive experiences and better managing the harder experiences that are unavoidable. Tune in for this game-changing episode that will shift your perspective and day-to-day experience in some fascinating and surprising ways.  Listen and Learn:  Why David describes the mind as a prediction machine  Unpacking Alia J Crum’s "Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect" study and why it propelled David to write The Expectation Effect  Finding the ideal level of optimism and pessimism with regard to expectations How can people's perceptions of the same events differ so widely from one another, and why might this be a strength rather than a point of conflict?  The power of context in directing our expectations and impacting how we experience the world Is willpower depleting or self-perpetuating, and does mindset play a role?  The placebo vs. the nocebo effect  The three different mechanisms for The Expectation Effect What is the best way to set up The Expectation Effect when we are experiencing sadness or depression? How researching The Expectation Effect changed the trajectory of David's depression The parallels between The Expectation Effect and other disciplines like Buddhism and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy  Resources: Visit David's website Follow David on Twitter  The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect Another White Christmas: fantasy proneness and reports of ‘hallucinatory experiences’ in undergraduate students About David Robson  David Robson is an award-winning science writer specializing in the extremes of the human brain, body and behavior. He’s written for the Guardian, the Atlantic, New Scientist, Men’s Health and many more. His first book was The Intelligence Trap and his second, discussed in this episode, is The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Transform Your World.  Related Episodes  209. The Art of Managing Pressure with Hank Weisinger 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirksy 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd 266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready to tap into the power of your emotions, because they hold invaluable wisdom! From guilt to panic and everything in between, each emotion we feel has a story to tell. And who better to guide us through this emotional journey than Karla McLaren, an emotion and empathy expert? With more than a decade of research under her belt, Karla has mastered the intense power of language in identifying and regulating emotions. Described as an ‘emotional guidebook’ for navigating the highs and lows of your feelings while heightening your intuition, enhancing your relationships, and broadening your self-awareness, we’re here to dissect the latest edition of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You.  As we break down anger, envy, forgiveness, anxiety, and even some lesser-known emotions that you might not even realize you're feeling, you'll discover how emotions can be instrumental in healing trauma and why having a negative approach to emotions can be problematic. If you’re looking to have your mind truly blown, join us as we explore the exhilarating world of emotions and learn how to decode them like a pro! Listen and Learn:  Between the first and latest editions of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions, what has changed in the world of our understanding of emotions? What's the harm in viewing emotions as something that's a problem? Toxic positivity bias: what is it, and why is it especially problematic in the workplace? How is Karla’s approach of using emotions to understand ourselves more intricately and channeling them effectively more beneficial? Why having a valence to emotions can be problematic How emotions can be useful in healing from trauma The relationship between the process of forgiveness and anger The function of shame and how it might actually be a helpful emotion to be aware of Why does Karla refer to envy as our “interactional radar” and how apathy is a mask for anger? The confusion between anxiety and panic Resources:  Learn more about Karla and her work  The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You Follow Karla on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube The Empathy Academy  Lisa Feldman Barrett The End of Trauma by George A. Bonanno About Karla McLaren  Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, educator, workplace consultant, and social science researcher. Her work revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy. She is the founder and CEO of Emotion Dynamics Inc. She is also the author of many books, including The Language of Emotions, The Power of Emotions at Work, and Embracing Anxiety, and she is the developer of the online learning site EmpathyAcademy.org. She is online at KarlaMcLaren.com. Related Episodes:  183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts  240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2)  241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2)  244. What You Feel Is Not All There Is with Aprilia West 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you familiar with the term "gaslighting"? It’s been a popular topic for discussion in recent days, but how many of us actually understand its true meaning and, perhaps more importantly, how to identify it?  Join us for this thought-provoking interview with Psychoanalyst and co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, Dr. Robin Stern, who gives us a fresh and detailed perspective on the subject. Shedding light on decades of research and heaps of knowledge as the author of The Gaslight Effect and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide, Dr. Stern offers guidance on how to recognize the different stages of the gaslight effect, indicating who is most susceptible and offering strategies to escape from it.  Don't tole­rate emotional abuse in silence any longer; tune in to learn how to spot the signs of gaslighting while moving forward toward a brighter future filled with kindness and respect—which you deserve! Listen and Learn:  The fascinating origin of the term gaslighting  Robin’s definition of gaslighting from her book Can gaslighting happen in both romantic and interpersonal relationships?  Is gaslighting socially learned?  The correlation between gaslighting and narcissism  The three stages of gaslighting and how to identify them  Are there certain traits that make someone more vulnerable to becoming a victim of gaslighting? How do you determine whether you should leave a relationship with a gaslighter? The type of person who would benefit from Robin’s workbook, The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Resources:  Robin Stern’s website  The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse: A Gaslighting Book The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life Follow Robin on Facebook (@drrobinstern), Twitter (@RobinSStern) and Instagram (@educatorhealer) The Gaslight Effect Podcast Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence (YCEI) Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success About Robin Stern  Dr. Robin Stern is the co-founder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and has 30 years of experience as a licensed psychoanalyst. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse. She hosts the Gaslight Effect podcast. Related Episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The journey of parenting requires a unique approach for every family. Don’t get discouraged by claims that there is one right way to raise a child; this is simply not true. Dr. Cara Goodwin, an experienced child psychologist, author, and mother, was amazed at the volume of misinformation shared online by self-proclaimed 'experts'. To combat this, she created the “Parenting Translator”- a source of trustworthy, science-based research and information on parenting and child development.  As a well-known voice in the online parenting world, we are super fortunate to have Cara join us to help us learn how to recognize pseudoscience, interpret research accurately, and use social media more strategically. Her message is clear: No single approach to parenting fits everyone, and we should be mindful of research that does not take individual differences into account. Listen and Learn:  Cara’s mission with her Instagram account, Parenting Translator? Is there an ideal age gap between your children? Why you should be wary of online research that references brain studies The importance of being mindful of how you feel when interacting with social media The types of unsettling research articles Cara is sent and why she uses them as inspiration for her posts Why Cara crafts a peer review process to validate and inform the research in her social media and newsletter  How to create a social media feed that engagingly highlights research  Should you make your child apologize?  Cara’s approach to correcting misinformation sold as science on social media, while also maintaining diplomacy   Resources: Visit Cara’s website: http://parentingtranslator.com What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers: https://parentingtranslator.org/book Follow Parenting Translator on Instagram (@parentingtranslator) Subscribe to Cara’s newsletter: https://parentingtranslator.substack.com/ Parenting Translator Podcast: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 Parenting Translator - Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-translator Messengers: Who We Listen To, Who We Don't, and Why: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 The Invisible Gorilla: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780307459664 About Cara Goodwin  Cara Goodwin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and a mother to three children. She received a Ph.D. in child clinical psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, a Master’s in Developmental Psychiatry from Cambridge University, and a Master’s in Child Psychology from Vanderbilt University, and she completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Duke University. She specializes in child development and has spent years researching child psychology and neuroscience and providing therapy and clinical services for children of all ages. She has published 18 research articles in peer-reviewed academic journals, written two book chapters, and completed numerous conference presentations. She also recently wrote a children’s book titled What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting which gives children evidence-based strategies to use when they are dysregulated. Goodwin translates recent scientific research into information parents can access and implement in their everyday lives through her Instagram account @parentingtranslator and her website. Related Episodes:  Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster Episode 149. How Not to Lose It With Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Episode 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s end the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers and give them the freedom to make choices that benefit themselves, their children, and their communities. Join Debbie and Jessica Grose, a writer for The New York Times, as they jump deep into the systemic and cultural challenges of modern motherhood. Through highlights from her book, “Screaming on the Inside”, Jessica offers insights backed by science on how to navigate the tough journey of parenting and answers the big question of whether there is hope for a better future for mothers. With engaging discussions about societal expectations, generational differences in motherhood, and the importance of validation and compassion in the process, Jessica brings a treasure trove of valuable information and guidance. Whether you are a new mom or an experienced parent, this is a thought-provoking conversation that will leave you feeling supported and empowered. Listen and Learn:  Before motherhood, what were some of the ideal stories, norms, and expectations that Jessica internalized? What we're seeing at this current cultural moment in parenting and what it means to be a parent that might be different from a couple of generations ago. How the standards of motherhood are embedded in a history of racism and classism. How the COVID pandemic impacted women specifically.  The challenges working mothers face and how the pressure to be the “ideal worker” is incompatible with caregiving responsibilities.  Why are we not seeing the whole picture when it comes to the way that motherhood is portrayed on social media? Is it time to establish more rigorous limits on our social media usage? What if the bar for being a good mother was simply that your children felt safe and loved? Jessica's personal experience with mom guilt and her tactics for responding to this feeling. Is there hope for sustainable motherhood, and what are some of the positive changes we are already seeing?  Resources:  Jessica’s website: https://jessicagrose.com Follow Jessica on Twitter @JessGrose, Facebook @Jessica-Grose and Instagram @jessgrosewrites Subscribe to Jessica’s NY Times Newsletter Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063078352 About Jessica Grose  Jessica Grose is an opinion writer at The New York Times. Her new book “Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood” (Mariner Books) is out now! Jess was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of the pandemic. Her second novel, SOULMATES, was published in 2016. It’s about a broken marriage, a spiritual awakening, and a murder at a yoga retreat. Soulmates is “delightfully sly” according to Elle, “a killer read” per Cosmopolitan, and “compelling, funny, painful and wry,” says the Globe and Mail. Her debut novel, SAD DESK SALAD, came out in 2012. It takes place at a women’s website and Jess refers to it as “the devil wears sweatpants.” Glamour called it “Dishy, zingy, hilarious.” She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters. Follow her on Twitter @JessGrose and Instagram @JessGroseWrites. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all been there: saying yes when we really wanted to say no. It happens all the time, from work requests and invitations, or favors for friends. Saying no can result in offense, awkwardness, and sometimes even trouble with relationships and reputations, so we often choose yes instead. However, in this episode, our guest encourages us to change our mindset. Saying no can actually empower us and should be seen as a valuable skill. Author Vanessa Patrick graces this episode to teach us the ins and outs of effective no-saying in her book, The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life. With experience, research, and sage advice to offer, Vanessa emphasizes why mastering the art of "no" is crucial and how to use our own values to make the right decisions. Listen and Learn  What fueled Vanessa to research and write about the topic of saying no?  When it comes to saying no, why do we find it so difficult? The main drivers of saying ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no’. The Acquaintance Trap. Why saying yes can actually backfire sometimes.  The Spotlight Effect and how you can better manage this when put on the spot. How to use The ART of Empowered Refusal to say no that does not invite pushback. How the two-by-two framework can be used to help categorize an ask and decide if it should be answered with a yes or a no. Tips to manage pushback when we say ‘no’. Do people in power receive fewer consequences for saying no than those from marginalized groups? Resources  Vanessa’s website: https://www.vanessapatrick.net/ Follow Vanessa on LinkedIn (@vanessapatrick23), Twitter (@sourcebooks / @vpatrick23), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Instagram (@vanpat23) Follow Sourcebooks on Twitter (@sourcebooks), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Facebook (@sourcebooksnonfiction) The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781728251523 Pinkcast 1.17: Why you should say “I don’t” instead of “I can’t.” How to Say No, Resist Temptation, and Stick to Your Health Goals How Saying “I Don’t” at Work Can Change Your Life A Policy of Saying ‘No’ Can Save You Time and Guilt “I Don't” Beats “I Can't” for Self-Control This Simple Trick Makes Breaking Bad Habits Up To 8 Times Easier About Vanessa Patrick Vanessa Patrick, PhD, is the Associate Dean for Research, the Bauer Professor of Marketing, and lead faculty of the Executive Women in Leadership Program at the Bauer School of Business at the University of Houston. She has a PhD in business from the University of Southern California and an MBA in marketing and a BS degree in microbiology and biochemistry from Bombay University in India. Patrick is a regular speaker at both academic and practitioner conferences. She lives in Houston, Texas. Related Episodes  130. Working Less with Alex Pang 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 293. Quit with Annie Duke 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Teenagers naturally experience a rollercoaster of emotions, making everyday pressures and transitional changes overwhelming for parents and adolescents alike. Our guest Lisa Damour, a clinical psychologist, and best-selling author of ‘The Emotional Lives of Teenagers’ emphasizes the integrality of validating teenagers' emotions while also providing a framework on how to understand and support them.  In this episode, Lisa reveals what to expect from teenage emotional development, and why we need to change the way we approach adolescent mental health. Learn effective ways to maintain open lines of communication, clearly articulate values, cope with common challenges such as too much gaming time and disengaging at school, and foster deeper bonds. With research-informed explanations and real-life examples, this episode gives parents the tools needed to support their teens through this difficult stage in life. Listen and Learn:  From where does the reputation of teenagers derive, and is it justified? Why do teenagers experience such powerful emotions as they transition from childhood to adolescence?  The distinction between hot and cold cognition, and how parents can use this knowledge to help their teenagers prepare for situations where they may become overwhelmed or not be able to think clearly. Is it a myth that difficult emotions are damaging or should be avoided?  How to help teenagers with expressing their feelings. Why distraction can be an effective coping strategy for teens to regulate their emotions. How communication and a sense of safety can have a meaningful impact on adolescent behavior.    Why do teenagers find their parents so ‘annoying’? Are there gender differences in emotion?  Resources:  For more on Lisa’s work, visit her website: https://drlisadamour.com/ Check out the Ask Lisa podcast: https://drlisadamour.com/resources/podcast/ Order your copy of Lisa’s books:  The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593500019 Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780553393071 Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780399180071 Follow Lisa on Facebook (@lisadamourphd), Instagram (@lisa.damour) or Twitter (@LDamour) About Lisa Damour  Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News. Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being. Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life is an incredible journey full of paradoxical demands that can sometimes feel overwhelming. But what if we could embrace both sides of the equation and turn these tensions into opportunities for growth? This is exactly what our guest Marianne Lewis teaches us in the groundbreaking book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems that she coauthored with her colleague, Wendy Smith. Delving into the risks of either-or thinking and the vicious cycles that can arise, Marianne and cohost, Yael discuss how binary thinking affects our lives. Packed with tools and lessons that will help you see the world with fresh eyes, you’ll learn tips on how to reframe questions, embrace paradoxes, as well as navigate complex tensions. If you're interested in exploring new ways of thinking and solving tough problems, this episode is for you!   Listen and Learn:  Why do we have difficulty escaping "either/or" thinking, and what impact does it have? Why is it important to understand and embrace paradoxes in order to move away from binary thinking? Question framing with the word 'how' Negotiating conflict in a constructive way The ways in which identifying a higher purpose can lessen friction between opposing factions A few tips for setting guardrails to help you do your job and all your roles more sustainably The impact of shifting from a scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset Tools for responding to tensions in a positive way Resources:  Learn more about Marianne: https://business.uc.edu/faculty-and-research/departments/management/faculty/marianne-lewis.html Follow Marianne on Twitter @mariannewlewis Order Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at our bookshop: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647821043 A piece written by Yael that includes a quote from evolutionary psychologist on conflict: https://tricycle.org/article/working-parenthood-conflict/ About Marianne Lewis Marianne W. Lewis is dean and professor of management at the College of Business, University of Cincinnati. She previously served as dean of the Business School at City, University of London. A thought leader in organizational paradoxes, she explores tensions surrounding leadership and innovation. Lewis has been recognized among the world’s most-cited researchers in her field and her work has appeared in media outlets, such as Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, and Newsweek. Her latest book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems is co-authored with her colleague, Wendy Smith. Related Episodes:  Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's world, society is more polarized than ever before. With people taking positions on issues related to identity, diversity, and justice, engaging in these conversations can seem like a daunting task. Yet, this is precisely what we need to do if we want to build a more just and equitable society.  In this regard, our latest episode where Jill Stoddard interviews author David Glasgow is a must-listen. Glasgow's book, "Say the Right Thing: How to Talk About Identity, Diversity, and Justice" provides valuable insights on how to approach these sensitive topics in a way that fosters understanding, empathy, and positive change. The discussion delves into the controversial "cancel culture" and the need to show compassion and understanding towards those who make mistakes. Additionally, he emphasizes the importance of embracing a growth mindset and illustrates strategies to overcome conversational traps and navigate disagreements respectively. Take advantage of this opportunity to learn how to engage in challenging and compassionate conversations. Listen to the episode now! Listen and Learn:  How David’s background as a lawyer and personal struggle with belonging influenced his interest and career in social justice, equality, and inclusion. What makes conversations surrounding identity so difficult and why do we shy away from having them in today’s society? Why we should welcome the democratization of discomfort in social conversations.  Cancel culture - why we should use this as an opportunity for growth, not villainization.  How to respond to conversational traps.   What privilege is and is not? Why misunderstandings arise in identity conversations.  How to ‘right-size’ feedback in relation to privilege or bias.  Tips for respectfully disagreeing.  How to apologize effectively using the Four R’s.  Is cultural sensitivity helping or hindering the conversation around diversity and identity? Resources:  Learn more about David’s work as a diversity and inclusion specialist by visiting his website: https://www.david-glasgow.com/ Get your copy of Say the Right Thing: How to Talk about Identity, Diversity, and Justice at our bookshop: bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982181383 The Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging: law.nyu.edu/centers/belonging Follow David on Twitter (@dvglasgow)  Find out more about Deconstructing Karen referenced in the intro of this episode: deconstructingkaren.com Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well  The Apology About David Glasgow  David Glasgow is the executive director of the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging and an adjunct professor at NYU School of Law. He has written for a range of publications including the Harvard Business Review, HuffPost, and Slate, and served as an Associate Director of the Public Interest Law Center at NYU School of Law. Please visit him at david-glasgow.com.  Related Episodes:  76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew Skinta 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join host Debbie Sorensen and former co-host and guest Diana Hill as they discuss the power of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and introduce their new resource: The ACT Daily Card Deck. Through personal anecdotes and examples, they emphasize the importance of living in the present moment and taking committed action that aligns with personal values. They also touch on the concepts of self-doubt, impermanence, and the role of emotions in our lives.  With their creative exercises, like visiting their younger selves and the watering seeds exercise, they help listeners break down complex therapeutic concepts into everyday language that is easy to understand. Discover practical tools for leading a more fulfilling life that bridge the gap between theory and action. Listen now and learn how you too can benefit from ACT and become the master of your mind. Listen and Learn:  Diana and Debbie update us on what they’ve been up to and why they are joining forces for this special episode. The importance of making ACT more accessible in our daily lives.  Debbie and Diana demonstrate the six processes of ACT through examples of skills from their new ACT Daily Card Deck - from choosing thoughts, controlling your emotions, and the power of impermanence, to taking committed, value-based action, compassion, perspective taking, and mastering the art of being present. Resources:  Order your ACT Daily Card Deck: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648481239 Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more Visit Debbie’s website http://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/ for more information and resources  Follow Debbie on Twitter (@debbiesorensen) or Instagram (@drdebbiesorensen) About Diana and Debbie  Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and co-author of ACT Daily Journal, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can take wise action toward fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana blogs for Psychology Today, and guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian.  Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults experiencing burnout, chronic stress, and anxiety. Debbie has a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University, and a bachelor’s degree from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She is a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. She speaks and gives workshops nationally and internationally to mental health providers, schools, and organizations. She loves living in her home state of Colorado and enjoying the Rocky Mountains with her husband, two daughters, and dog.  Related Episodes:  77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen 237. Farewell to Diana Hill: Appreciations, Regrets, and Hopes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's raise a glass to Debbie, Jill, and Yael as they reach a milestone of 300 episodes on the fabulous Psychologists Off The Clock podcast! Can you believe it? Six-plus years of incredible conversations, phenomenal guests, mind-blowing ideas, and moments have uplifted us all. As they share their reflections on this journey, we get a glimpse of how POTC has transformed their understanding and application of psychology, impacted their lives, and connected them with listeners from all corners of the world. And can we stop to appreciate the wisdom, dedication, and passion they bring to this amazingly valuable show? We are so grateful to be part of this incredible community, and we know Debbie, Jill, and Yael share the same gratitude for all of us listeners who have supported them along the way. Listen and Learn:  Yael, Debbie, and Jill marvel at the profound impact the podcast has had on their personal and professional lives  The early beginnings of POTC From guests to co-hosts, Jill and Yael share their story Debbie, Jill, and Yael rave about their adoration for the POTC Book Club  Stories of positive changes POTC has brought to both listeners and co-hosts A look back at some of the most memorable and meaningful episodes The time Debbie invited Michelle Obama to the podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to this exciting bonus episode where POTC co-host Yael Schonbrun joins the incredible Child Psychologist, Cara Goodwin, for an empowering conversation exploring the artful science of working parenthood on Cara’s podcast, The Parenting Translator. Discover how to use parenting science to guide healthy choices and transform guilt into a powerful tool that aligns with your core values. You'll also gain insights into developing self-compassion and cultivating a growth mindset. Get ready to be inspired to take your parenting journey to the next level. Don't miss this incredible opportunity to learn and grow! Listen and Learn:  The concept of work-family enrichment The different pathways in which your competing roles as a working parent can feed each other How an exotic dancer’s experience negotiating with her own children helped her deal with her clients at work Is it possible to achieve the perfect work-family balance? Yael's tips for managing guilt as a working parent Intentional activities that can improve your life as a working parent Does working parenthood get easier as your children grow older? Resources:  To learn more about Yael, visit her website: http://yaelschonbrun.com/about/ Visit the Parenting Translator website: https://parentingtranslator.org Tune in to the Parenting Translator Podcast: https://parentingtranslator.org/podcast Follow Yael on Instagram @yaelschonbrun and Twitter @dryaelschonbrun Follow Cara on Instagram @parentingtranslator About Cara Goodwin Cara Goodwin, is the founder of Parenting Translator, a mother to three young children, and a licensed psychologist with a PhD in child clinical psychology. Before she had her second child, she spent her days doing research in child psychology and neuroscience, assessing children for developmental problems, doing therapy with children of all ages, and training parents on how to use the most recent scientific findings to help their children. After taking some time off to be with my own children, she became desperate for an intellectual outlet so, on the brink of the COVID-19 pandemic and pregnant with a third child, she decided to start an Instagram account (@parentingtranslator) and website (www.parentingtranslator.com) with the purpose of taking recent scientific research and translating it into information that parents can use in their everyday lives. That IG account has taken off, with considerably over 100K followers, a newsletter, a podcast, and she’s also the author of a kids book titled, What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers. Related Episodes: 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the past few decades, the workplace has undergone tremendous changes. With the rise of technology and globalization, companies operate in a more complex and interconnected world. This has created new challenges for leaders, who must now navigate a wide range of cultural, technological, and economic factors to succeed. We are privileged to have Chris Shipley as our guest on this episode. As a Technology Analyst and Future of Work Strategist, she has honed her expertise in developing effective leadership strategies in today's rapidly evolving and unprecedented workplace. Her recent book, The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce, provides valuable guidance for leaders at all levels. From how to cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence, build trust, and lead a diverse, and multi-generational workforce.  Whether you're an entry-level manager or a seasoned executive, her insights are invaluable for anyone looking to improve their leadership skills. We're delighted to have her share her wisdom with us, and we're confident that you'll be left feeling empowered, inspired, and resilient.  Listen and Learn:  Some of the significant shifts we're seeing in the workplace The relationship between psychology and leadership Why driving performance rather than productivity builds more economic value The psychological importance of autonomy and flexibility in the workplace  How to keep employees engaged and sustain retention in our 'new normal’ The unique challenges younger generations face when entering the workforce What can be done to help different generations work together better  The qualities of an empathic leader The changes needed to build a quality team Resources:  Learn more about Chris by visiting her website: https://www.cshipley.com/ Order your copy of The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781394155514 Follow Chris on Twitter and Instagram About Chris Shipley Chris Shipley has documented, influenced, and predicted the impact of technology on business and society for more than 30 years. As a journalist, she covered the tech industry for leading publishing companies. As an analyst, she identified innovative startups and gave them a stage to launch their market-making products. As a catalyst, she has advised hundreds of early-stage companies on positioning, business modeling, and innovation practices. Today, Chris focuses her work on the human and organizational challenges in the face of technology-and economically-driven disruption.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dysfunctional family relationships can be complicated and extremely challenging to navigate, but it's essential to remember that we have the power to change the narrative. Whether you’re dealing with overbearing or abusive parents, toxic siblings, or any other form of unhealthy behavior, it can be difficult to know how to break free from these patterns and create more positive connections. This is where our guest Nedra Tawwab, a renowned therapist, New York Times bestselling author, and relationship expert, comes in. We are thrilled to welcome Nedra back to Psychologist's Off the Clock to discuss her latest book, Drama Free. A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. With her relatable and practical guide, Nedra provides valuable tips on identifying and managing unhealthy family relationships that may be causing distress and turmoil in your life. Her expertise will empower you to take control of your life, move away from toxic behavior, and build stronger, healthier connections. Remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome any obstacles. Don't let your past define your future! Listen and Learn:  Nedra introduces us to what unhealthy patterns of a dysfunctional family can look like  How to identify dysfunctional patterns within your own family  How childhood dysfunction can impact people and their adult relationships Why trust issues commonly result from dysfunctional family relationships The importance of boundary setting, especially for those who come from dysfunctional environments The line between enabling versus helping The most common obstacles to making changes within dysfunctional relationships Strategies for boundary setting Nedra’s advice for people handling the guilt and the grief that comes with change within a family system  How to handle pushback when dealing with unhealthy patterns of behavior  Resources:  Visit Nedra’s website: https://www.nedratawwab.com Order your copy of Nedra’s book Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593539279 Learn more about Group Therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling: https://www.kaleidoscopecounselingpllc.com/ Follow Nedra on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter - @nedratawwab About Nedra Glover Tawwab  Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.  Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect.  Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Good Life Project, Sofia with an F, and Therapy For Black Girls. She runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you find yourself struggling to connect with the adolescents in your life, don't worry, you're not alone! The truth is, building relationships with teens and young adults can be challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible. Get ready to be inspired by our guest, Emily Kline, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has written a practical and research-backed guide called "The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids". Whether you're a parent, teacher, mentor, or just someone who wants to connect better with the younger generation, this book is a must-read for improving communication and building stronger relationships with young people. So, let's dive in and explore some of the key insights and tips that Emily has to offer. Listen and Learn:  The guiding principles of motivational interviewing for adolescents  How is motivational interviewing helpful What we know about expressed emotion and how it can empower parents Why adolescents are often more willing to follow the advice and direction of supportive parents than those who demand obedience Emily breaks down the foundational skills needed for hard conversations with young adults using clinical scenarios Resources:  Visit Emily’s Website: www.dremilykline.com Order your copy of The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781632174703 Follow Emily on Instagram and TikTok @learnaboutmilo Psychology Today Blog:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-school-of-hard-talks A Minor Revolution: How Prioritizing Kids Benefits Us All by Adam Benforado: https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-minor-revolution-how-prioritizing-kids-benefits-us-all-adam-benforado/18501375?ean=9781984823045 Influence is Your Superpower by Zoe Chace: https://bookshop.org/p/books/influence-is-your-superpower-the-science-of-winning-hearts-sparking-change-and-making-good-things-happen-zoe-chance/16987804?ean=9781984854339 About Emily Kline: Emily Kline is a clinical psychologist and writer who has held faculty positions in psychiatry at Boston University and at Harvard Medical School. She created a simple motivational interviewing curriculum for family caregivers and The School of Hard Talks Online free e-course, and her book, The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with You Almost Grown Kids is now available.  Emily lives with her husband and children who graciously beta-test her experiments in family communication and a dog who can’t be reasoned with at all. Related Episodes: Episode 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo Episode 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud Episode 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to money and love, the two are inextricably linked. Whether it's choosing where to settle down, starting a family, or taking that new job opportunity, our financial situation and our relationships always come into play. Thankfully, with the expert guidance of our guest Abby Davisson who co-authored the brilliant resource, "Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions" we can navigate these tricky waters with grace, ease, and confidence.  Using Abby’s 5Cs framework, she offers guidance on how to strike a harmonious balance between love and money. With research-based insights and real-life examples, we learn how to holistically make value-driven decisions that are both financially sound and emotionally fulfilling. So let's dive in and discover the easy and practical steps to make strategic decisions that yield better results, without having to compromise your professional or personal life.  Listen and Learn: How money and love are so intimately intertwined and why this was the catalyst for the book Abby co-authored with Myra Strober  The 5Cs framework for big making decisions that involve money and love What is mimetic desire and why you should be aware of this  The importance of identifying your core values in helping you to align your decisions with those values Examples of when it is a good idea to get input on decisions you are making and when is it not  How to fairly decide who does what in a relationship using the 5Cs as a guide  Resources: Visit Abby’s website for more information: https://www.abbydavisson.com Purchase Abby’s book, "Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions": https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063117518 About Abby Davisson  Abby Davisson is a social innovation leader and career development expert. Most recently, she spent nine years at global retailer Gap Inc., where she served as president of the Gap Foundation and co-founded the company’s employee resource group for parents. You can find more information on her book “Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions” at https://www.moneylovebook.com. Press information is available at https://www.moneylovebook.com/press-kit. Related Episodes:  142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with Patrick McGinnis 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 291. Finding Freedom from Regret with Robert Leah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When it comes to self-help, it's important to be cautious of information that seems too good to be true. Especially, in today's world of digital wellness influencers where there is a lot of misinformation out there that could cause you more harm than good. Subsequently, it's essential to thoroughly research products and services before making any decisions or commitments.  To raise awareness about this issue, we (Debbie, Jill, and Yael) got together to co-host an episode dedicated to this very important conversation. We also invited Pooja Lakshmin, a board-certified psychiatrist and author of the book ‘Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness’ to discuss the nuances of pseudoscience and what it means to practice real self-care. Expect evidence-based self-care methods, in addition to tips on how to do your due diligence as a consumer.  Listen and Learn: What led Pooja to make some pretty drastic decisions in her own quest for self-care The differentiators between faux self-care and real self-care The idea of using ‘pauses’ when making decisions and boundary setting  Pseudoscience and the challenges it poses to the field of psychology Examples of scientists behaving badly  Red flags for identifying faux self-care Suggestibility: we can be easily influenced in ways that are problematic Resources:  Guest Learn more about Pooja and her work as a psychiatrist, author, founder, and speaker: https://www.poojalakshmin.com Order your copy of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included): https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593489727 Articles Controversy Over Ego Depletion/Decision-Fatigue Books Quick Fix: Why Fad Psychology Can’t Cure Our Social Ills by Jesse Singal Gospel of Wellness: Gyms, Gurus, Goops, and the False Promise of Self-Care by Rina Raphael American Detox: The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal by Kerri Kelly  Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Paul Bloom Podcasts Maintenance Phase  Conspirituality The Daily: Women Have Been Misled About Menopause About Pooja Lakshmin Pooja Lakshmin is a psychiatrist, New York Times contributor, an assistant professor at George Washington University, and a leading voice at the intersection of mental health and gender with a focus on helping individuals escape the tyranny of self-care. In 2020, she founded Gemma, a physician-led women’s mental health platform centering on impact and equity. She also maintains a private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout and perfectionism, as well as clinical conditions like depression and anxiety. Her new book which we are here to discuss, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths not Included) is out now. Related Episodes: 65. Self-Care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the magic that is improvisation, or what us cool kids call "improv." It's an art form that's all about unleashing your creativity and performing without a script or plan. Sure, you may have heard of it as a side-splitting comedy act, but improv goes a lot deeper than that. From acting to business to mental health, improv skills can be applied in various areas of life.  Enter Kelly Leonard, the VP of Creative Strategy, Innovation, and Business Development at the infamous Second City in Chicago. Kelly, who over the decades has produced hundreds of original revues with comedians such as Stephen Colbert, Tina Fey, and Seth Meyers (to name a few) has a unique understanding of behavioral science through the lens of improv.   Regaling us with lessons and stories from his career and book, ‘Yes And’, we learn how to utilize improv to help us adapt, empathize, communicate, trust, and collaborate better. We are reminded that saying ‘yes’ to new ideas and experiences sparks creativity and can lead to beneficial outcomes. From deepening our relationships with others by practicing active listening and learning to accept and appreciate new ideas, regardless of their origin. It also teaches us to think on our feet and work together to create innovative solutions to problems. Listen and Learn:  How Stephen Colbert came to write a blurb for Kelly’s book, Yes, and: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration Why so many successful comedy performers have an improv background  How improv skills can help us to empathize, communicate and collaborate The idea of the ‘Yes And’ exercise  Why Kelly prefers to use the word ensemble vs. team  Improv's positive impact on caregiver burden and depression An introduction to the ‘I Am Somebody Who’ exercise Why adopting a Yes And mentality helps create a psychologically safe environment How improv can be applied in therapy  If improv were an animal, what animal would it be?  What’s next for Kelly’s work in science and the arts  Resources:  Learn more about Kelly: https://www.secondcity.com/people/kelly-leonard+ Get your copy of Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062248541 Check out The Second City website: https://www.secondcity.com/ Listen to Kelly’s podcast, Getting to Yes And: https://www.secondcityworks.com/podcast About Kelly Leonard  Kelly Leonard is the Executive Director of Learning and Applied Improvisation at Second City Works. His book, “Yes, And: Lessons from The Second City” was released to critical acclaim in 2015 by HarperCollins and was praised by Michael Lewis in Vanity Fair who called it “...an excellent guide to the lessons that have bubbled up in Second City’s improv workshops.” Kelly is a popular speaker on the power of improvisation to transform people’s lives. He has presented at The Aspen Ideas Festival, The Code Conference,TEDx Broadway, Chicago Ideas Festival, The Stanford Graduate School of Business and for companies such as Coca Cola, Microsoft, Twitter, Memorial Sloan Kettering and DDB Worldwide.  Kelly co-created an initiative with the Center for Decision Research at the Booth School at the University of Chicago, The Second Science Project, that looks at behavioral science through the lens of improvisation. He also hosts the podcast, “Getting to Yes, And,” for Second City Works and WGN radio that features interviews with academics, authors and leaders such as Brene Brown, Adam Grant, Michael Lewis, Lindy West, Ash Carter and Amy Edmondson. For over twenty years, Kelly oversaw Second City’s live theatrical divisions where he helped generate original productions with such talent as Tina Fey, Stephen Colbert, Amy Poehler, Seth Meyers, Steve Carell, Keegan Michael Key, Amy Sedaris, Adam McKay and others. In 2019, Arts Alliance Illinois awarded Kelly and his wife Anne Libera with their Creative Voice Award.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quitting is often viewed as a sign of failure, but in some cases, it might be the best decision. Whether it's quitting a bad habit, a job, or an unhealthy relationship, it is always important to know when to call it quits. Annie Duke, an expert in decision-making and author of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, inspires us to feel empowered and proud when we choose to quit. She encourages us to embrace the freedom and opportunity that comes with knowing when to let go and move on to something better. So, let us be bold and confident in our choices to quit, and relish the journey of growth and self-discovery that follows. Listen and Learn:  Annie’s thoughts on Tom Brady's repeated retirements Why is there such a stigma around quitting Defining expected value decisions How to wisely use expected value decisions  The sunk cost fallacy and some ways that we can manage this Asso Teller’s monkeys and pedestals tool for quitting  Growth mindset and quitting goals Resources:  Learn more about Annie’s work on her website: https://www.annieduke.com/ Get your copy of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593422991 Alliance for Decision Education: https://www.annieduke.com/the-alliance-for-decision-education/ Connect with Annie on Twitter or Instagram About Annie Duke Annie is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, and a former professional poker player who is the only woman to have won the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions and the NBC National Poker Heads-Up Championship. Annie’s previous book, Thinking in Bets, is a national bestseller, and her latest book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away is, in our humble opinion, nothing short of transformative. We are here to discuss Quit today.  Related Episodes:  211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one's sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned. Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve’. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms.  Listen and Learn:  Stephanie’s experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers The core features of narcissism How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic  What does gaslighting look like How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit  The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother Resources:  Visit Stephanie’s website: https://www.drstephaniekriesberg.com/ Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648480096  About Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve. Related Episodes:  98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson  274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair. Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn't control your life! Listen and Learn:  What is regret? Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions  How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret  How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively Existential perfectionism and regret Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times The negation exercise The importance of risk assessment in managing regret Resources: Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/dr-robert-leahy/ Watch Barry Schwartz’s, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO6XEQIsCoM Grab your copy of If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462547821 About Robert L. Leahy Robert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book is If Only...Finding Freedom from Regret.  Related Episodes: Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang Episode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 232. Grounded to Soar with Brad Stulberg Episode 242. Four Thousand Weeks with Oliver Burkeman Episode 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To make our world a more harmonious and equitable place, we must take the time to build bridges across the divides of race and gender. This can be challenging, but it is an essential step to take in order to remove bias, reduce tensions, forge deeper connections, eliminate disparities, and create respect, trust, and greater understanding among all people.  Dr. Tina Opie and Dr. Beth A. Livingston, co-authors of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work, join us for this episode to discuss how they are driving gender and racial equity in organizations. Their groundbreaking book provides leaders and individuals with effective guidance and tools on how to establish a safe, and equitable work environment. Learn why gender equity cannot be realized without also striving for racial equity, and how we can move beyond individual solutions toward collective action to effectively bridge the gap. Hear first-hand stories and get practical tips on how we can work together across challenging divides and develop collaborative approaches that can transform the workplace and our lives.  Listen and Learn:  What brought Beth and Tina together as friends, colleagues, and co-authors  A history of the divide between black and white women Inauthenticity surrounding the conversation on racism  The shortcomings of feminist movements that white feminists should be aware of The overarching goal of the shared sisterhood approach and what it has to offer  The three-step process for individuals to build Shared Sisterhood Resources:  Grab your copy of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647822835 Learn more about Opie Consulting Group: https://www.opieconsultinggroup.com/about-tina-opie Check out Tina’s website: https://www.drtinaopie.com/  Visit Beth’s website: https://bethalivingston.com/   Connect with Tina on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook  Connect with Beth on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook  About Tina Opie and Beth A. Livingston Dr. Tina R. Opie is an associate professor of management at Babson College, and an award-winning teacher, researcher, and consultant. She is a sought-after speaker and has advised large firms in the financial services, entertainment, media, beauty, educational, and healthcare industries. Her research has appeared in such outlets as O Magazine, the Washington Post, the Boston Globe, and Harvard Business Review, and has been published in multiple academic journals.   Dr. Beth A. Livingston is an Associate Professor in Management and Entrepreneurship at the University of Iowa’s Tippie College of Business. She is a researcher, speaker, and consultant, working with large companies and nonprofits. Her research has been highlighted in the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and on NPR and has been published in several top academic journals. Together, they have co-authored the book Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work. Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Shepard Payne 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It can be hard to find feelings of happiness in our lives. After all, life is unpredictable and we’re all facing our own unique challenges. Nonetheless, it is possible to find happiness, even during difficult times.  Specializing in the science of well-being, Clinical Psychologist, Jonah Paquette is dedicated to helping us understand the significance of positive psychological principles in achieving happiness. Drawing from learnings in his book, Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak, Jonah offers us practical exercises to strengthen our 'emotional fitness', reduce suffering and build resilience even amid challenging times.  Whether you’re facing a challenging situation in life, or simply want to know how to cultivate more happiness and peace, this episode will provide you with actionable steps on how to do just that. Listen and Learn:  How can we expect to build happiness in the face of hardship, heartache, or heartbreak Why Jonah uses the term ‘emotional fitness’ and how this skill can help you in challenging times Distinguishing between happiness and toxic positivity Practices to help you cultivate emotional fitness What is awe and how it relates to happiness How can we access the experience of awe in times of hardship Creative ways to find connection when you feel the most isolated  Resources: Get to know more about Jonah: https://www.jonahpaquette.com  Subscribe to Jonah’s newsletter: https://www.jonahpaquette.com/site/contact Check out Jonah's books: Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak and Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Jonah Jonah Paquette, PsyD, is a psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in the science of well-being and emotional fitness. He is the author of four books including Happily Even After, Awestruck, The Happiness Toolbox, and Real Happiness. Jonah’s writing aims to provide readers with practical, research-backed strategies to foster greater well-being and connection in our everyday lives. In addition to his clinical work and writing, Jonah offers training and consultation to organizations on the promotion of well-being and conducts professional workshops for clinicians around the country and abroad. He is a sought-after media contributor, having been featured regularly in print, online, radio, and podcast outlets. To learn more about Jonah and his work, visit www.jonahpaquette.com.  Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKay 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 251. Wonder with Frank Keil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all want to live a fun and fulfilling life, but the hustle and bustle of everyday life can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. That's why it's so important to make time for fun, even as an adult. From reducing stress to better relationships and improving mental and physical health, carving out time for fun activities can have a transformative impact on many aspects of our lives.  Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist, is here to share his best practices for incorporating fun habits into our day-to-day lives. Illustrating scientific evidence from his book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life, we discover why fun is beneficial and what fun habits you can create to make life more enjoyable. So, let's dive in and learn why fun isn't just for kids—it's an essential part of adult life too. Listen and Learn:  Fun: what is it all about? What makes fun different from happiness Why is it beneficial for us to prioritize fun as busy adults? Finding time for fun  The importance of reminiscing on fun experiences  The question of friendship or parenting How to create and maintain fun habits The Rucker-PLAY model  How to incorporate more fun into our friendships Resources:  To learn more about creating fun habits, visit Mike’s website: https://michaelrucker.com/ Visit https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982159054 to purchase The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life. Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Mike Rucker  Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association whose work has been published in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management and Nutrition Research. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Fast Company, The Telegraph, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, mindbodygreen, and more. Named one of ten digital changemakers by the Healthcare Information and Management Systems Society, he currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness. Related Episodes: 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam 130. Working Less with Alex Pang 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful practice that has been proven to effectively reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. But, while CBT can help bring us relief in the short term, it doesn't always create lasting change. That’s why many mental health professionals are now combining CBT with another technique - mindfulness. By combining the two practices, we can start to create long-term improvements in our behavior, thoughts, and attitudes. Here to discuss research-based practices from his recently published book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, A Simple Path to Healing, Hope and Peace, is best-selling author and psychologist, Seth Gillihan. Seth offers a model of fresh and practical strategies that build upon traditional techniques of CBT to transcend our capacity to control negative thinking and take the right steps to live in the present and enjoy life. Tune in to learn how these powerful practices can unlock a new path to healing.  Listen and Learn: Seth's experience sharing so much of his personal mental health struggle in his book What mindfulness can do to help transcend the limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy Why mindfulness has lost its essence and how we can use mindfulness in a way that's beneficial An introduction to mindfulness for someone who might be resistant  Acceptance vs. passivity Seth’s thoughts on psychiatric medication as a form of mental health treatment The relationship between cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy Resources: Learn more about Seth here: https://sethgillihan.com/ Check out Seth’s podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/ Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Seth Gillihan Seth Gillihan, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in mindful cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). He was a full-time faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania from 2008 to 2012, and taught in the Psychology Department at Haverford College from 2012-2015. He has been in private practice since 2012. Seth completed a doctorate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of multiple books on mindfulness and CBT, Therapy Advisor with the self-therapy app Bloom, a medical reviewer for Everyday Health, and host of the Think Act Be podcast. Related Episodes: 80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren 257. The Gift of being ordinary with Ron Siegel 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption.  Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol.  Exploring practices from Amanda’s books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle.  Listen and Learn:  Amanda’s own journey with alcohol  Why people don't have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol Why Amanda’s books are geared toward people who don’t necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties  Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking’ How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking  What to do if we think a loved one’s relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don't agree or they don't see it Resources:  Learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://amandaewhite.com/ If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women: https://therapyforwomencenter.com/  You can buy both of Amanda’s books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306925856 and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781683735519 Follow Amanda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/ About Amanda E. White  Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda’s unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more.   Related Episodes: 27. Alcohol and the Brain with Lara Ray 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher 243. Motivation to Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taking the time to reflect on our values and goals is an essential practice for living a meaningful life. By considering what is most important to us, we can gain a greater understanding of our place and purpose in this world. It can help us to determine what direction to go in and how to prioritize our time and energy. Reflecting on our values and goals can also help us to stay motivated and inspired as we work towards achieving them. Valerie Tiberius, Professor of Philosophy, is here to provide us with a practical look at how to define and fulfill our values and goals. Through illustrative examples from her book, What Do You Want Out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters, Valerie guides us in finding our true purpose in life and how to get there. With her wise words and actionable advice, you’ll unlock the power to create the life you want and overcome obstacles to achieving it. Don't let this opportunity pass, take the chance to define your aspirations and make the most out of life! Listen and Learn:  How psychology and philosophy intertwine to improve well-being An introduction to values fulfillment theory of well-being and what it has to offer  Defining values and goals from a philosophical perspective Are some values better than other values? Managing conflict between competing goals Reinterpreting values When is it time to give up a goal that is important to you?  Strategies for figuring out your values and what you want out of life  How our moral values harmonize with our other values Real-world barriers that prevent us from realizing our goals  Resources:  Learn more about Valerie: https://www.valerietiberius.com/ Get Valerie’s book, What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780691240688 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Valerie Tiberius Valerie Tiberius is the Paul W. Frenzel Chair in Liberal Arts and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Minnesota. Her work explores the ways in which philosophy and psychology can both contribute to the study of well-being and virtue. She is the author of The Reflective Life: Living Wisely With Our Limits (Oxford 2008), Moral Psychology: A Contemporary Introduction (Routledge 2015), Well-Being as Value Fulfillment: How We Can Help Others to Live Well (Oxford, 2018), and What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters (Princeton University Press, 2023). She has published numerous articles on the topics of practical reasoning, prudential virtues, well-being, and moral psychology, and has received grants from the Templeton Foundation and the National Endowment for the Humanities. She served as President of the Central Division of the American Philosophical Association from 2016-17. Related Episodes:  116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices