The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness

The media, especially movies and television, are a common source of style inspiration for many men - including our Dandies. But which characters are truly epitomizing the ethos of having an obsession with elegance, and which are merely fashionable, trendy, or even (gasp!) just gauche? Wes and Liam roam through the reels and survey the scenes of recent releases to pick out their favourite (and sometimes controversial) Dandy moments.

Moving abroad is a dream for many people, but the reality of adapting to a new country and culture can be challenging. Wes, who moved to Austin during the pandemic, is joined by James and Liam to discuss their experiences with their respective moves to Japan and Portugal.

The color pink is often avoided, maligned or misinterpreted in modern men’s style. But why, and when did this become a thing? As a color, it comes in such a wide range of hues and tones it can often be deeply flattering. The Dandies are joined by Natty Adams to explore whether men should still be concerned about the preconceptions and stereotypes of pink or lean into it as a bold and expressive option of their individuality and identity … and, of course, delve in the mystery of why red foxhunters' jackets are called “Pinks”.

From hair dye and teeth whitening through tattoos to cosmetic surgery and body modification, there are a plethora of readily available ways for a man to alter his appearance. Mudcat rejoins Wes and Liam to discuss the motivations, opportunities, and challenges associated with procedures for altering or augmenting your body.

Charm is an ephemeral concept which can be a potent tool for success in life. However, it's often misunderstood and for some it’s an old-fashioned idea. So has charm, hospitality, and other good manners gone out of style? Or has it simply gone unnoticed?

Adding accessories to outfits can really boost your style by creating a unique, personalized look. But what are accessories, and how do you choose them? Wes and Liam finally broach a topic they’ve been wanting to discuss since the very origins of the podcast: how accessories fit into your fits.

The Dandies are back, and are returning to the original premise of the podcast to discuss topics relevant to the modern man.

The 90’s are cool, and not “again”. They always were. Without the weird pretensions of the 70’s or the comically over the top materialism of the 80’s, the 90’s brought the world a global perspective of street style, music, and culture. From heroin chic and Nirvana grunge to Afro-pop; reggae, K-pop, and French hip-hop to Euro-trash house and EDM, the 90’s opened up a anything-goes culture of acceptance and experimentation. From the mid-90’s, the first dot-com boom shepherded in both a relaxation of the norms for how professional men dress in a more “relaxed” office to a renewed appreciation of the value of the quality and details for traditional styling. Far from dying out, classic suiting received a reboot, paired with elements of the new, relaxed, fitted forms of the era.

From Natty Adams

- Fashion Sense - https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/fashion--sense-9781350201484/ 

- The Man Who Accidentally Wore His Cravat to a Gymnasium - https://www.amazon.com/Man-Accidentally-Wore-Cravat-Gymnasium/dp/0615800939/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=man+who+accidentally+wore&qid=1573695680&s=books&sr=1-1

Liam and Wes are back for a fourth season of The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness!

Join them as they try to make sense of "trending" styles in open toe footwear, regrettable haircuts, and most importantly... should we stay or should we go?  Take the leap and listen in!

Why - or perhaps when - is religion important? The Dandies revisit the discussion about religion and the modern man, looking at the importance and merits of having an ethical system and its role in helping navigate the challenges of contemporary life.

Outro Song: Hey Believers by Peter Bradley Adams

Liam and Mudcat discuss some of the main topics in the markets, from GameStop and NFTs to housing and energy.

It can be a challenge to be true to your ambitions, creativity, and sense of adventure. Peer groups, media, family and friends can often exert influence on what you wear, do, and pursue. The dandies are joined by Dan Ahern to discuss being your authentic self at any age, so sit back and enjoy a rollicking conversation about  both finding and being your most genuine man.

Many men feel it’s weak or somehow “unmanly” to discuss mental health issues. From stress to depression and loneliness, to insecurities and anger management, men often find it hard to ask for help - or even to admit they need it. The Dandies discuss their views and experiences in coping with mental health issues.

Never be afraid to ask for help, help is there for you

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Sometimes when inspiration strikes you have to run with it ... or just let it pass. Today's guest, Farrah Boutia, had an idea for a product and decided to see how far she could go. Join Liam and Wes as they talk with Farrah about what it takes to be an entrepreneur, and what were the challenges and highs of taking a concept through to being a success?

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The pandemic has been disruptive to all our lives. For many this has been, disrupting, depressing, even paralyzing ... but for some, its also been stimulating, even inspirational. Today we talk with Emily Gregg, who took her personal training and lifestyle coaching business to the next level during the pandemic.

Emily can be reached at her website

https://www.purposedrivenmotion.com/ 

or by email:

emily@purposedrivenmotion.com

Welcome to Season 3 of The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness.  Liam, Wes, Mudcat and Josh welcome each other to 2021 and check in on their sanity as the pandemic continues and share what they look forward to in the months to come.

He's lived on three continents, speaks multiple languages and absolutely does NOT work for the CIA.  Join Wes, Mudcat, Josh and Liam as the Dandy's host the final installment of Season 2 and the last Dandy Origin story "Who's your Dandy?"  In this edition we learn about our favorite Tasmanian, Liam.  His love of the outdoors, people and the cultures of the world.  And ballet!

Outro - Fig Jam by Butterfingers

How do you handle a disagreement with a good friend? Whether business or personal, people will have their differences of opinion, and resolving them is an essential part of friendship. Wes and Liam share an example of resolving disagreements around something very tangible: this podcast.

Special thank you to Bethany Wrede of ARRIVED for being our Narrator

Outro - 2CELLOS Thunderstruck

As we close out Season 2 of The Modern Dandy, Wes and Liam give a quick review of their highlights of the past year and look ahead to 2021.

A very special thank you to our listeners, our guests and our families!

Natty Adams can be found at: https://www.nattyadams.com/

Outro: F2020 by Avenue Beat

Going on dates might seem a wistful ambition from the past, but the Dandies feel it's even more relevant now. Wes, Mudcat, Josh and Liam provide their thoughts on why dating is an important Dandy skill, how to be a good date, and why dates are not just for dating.

Having a sense of humor is an essential element of being a dandy. One of the most famous dandies, Oscar Wilde, was famed for both his scripted humor and  quick cutting wit. We're not even going to aspire to that ... but we do have jokes for days.

A death in the family, whether of a parent, sibling, grandparent, or close personal friend is one of the most traumatic experiences someone can face. With the recent death of Liam's mother, the Dandies discuss how they deal with the passing of a close family member or friend.

Part 2 in our conversation with Rebecca Tweed; Wes, Mudcat, Liam and Rebecca continue to discuss how politics and society today are impacted by the ability (or lack thereof) to listen to each other and hold back preconceived notions and judgement based solely on party lines.

In our discussions on religion and politics the Dandies raised the importance of establishing your own credo - the principles you deeply believe. Part of that is respecting and being open to discuss the viewpoints of others, even if they don't necessarily match your own. Wes, Mudcat, and Liam are joined by Rebecca Tweed to discuss how this is playing out in politics and society today.

Even Dandies need to have an outlet for their foils and frustrations. So when and where is an appropriate time to lose your cool and go large* with your emotions? Josh, Mudcat and Wes discuss the need to venti and its importance in staying otherwise frappe, while Liam tries to take a more philosophical approach. 

* See what we did there?

In the face of so many global and national issues, individual contribution to change can seem overwhelming. So how can a Dandy do something to better the world they live in? Join the Dandies, Liam, Josh, Mudcat and Wes as they discuss the role of Local Government and how it impacts the world around you. 

Why is story-telling so important? Communication is so critical in all aspects of modern life, but the simple statement of facts in a chronological order would bore even the most analytical clerical worker.  Join The Modern Dandies Josh, Liam, and Wes as they explore the elements of authentic and effective story-telling in both personal and professional life

Mudcat and Liam warmly, if not begrudgingly, invite Wes to join the Southerners in a beloved conversation about breakfast.  What's your starter meal? Sweet? Savory?  How about a healthy pour of Bollinger (not a sponsor... yet) and Eggs Imperial?

They say there's three topics to never bring up in polite conversation: Politics, Religion, and Money. However what to "they" know, anyway? The Dandies discuss what's shaped their views on religion and how they see it fitting with being a modern man.

Closing Music by Elvis Costello - Peace, Love and Understanding

Where have all the Dandies gone?  If you have been missing the Dandies as much as they have missed you, fear not.  Your favorite bespoke conversationalists return AUG 3rd with new episodes.

The Modern Dandies first LIVE episode opens with a special Birthday edition of "Who's Your Dandy?"

Join in the fun while Liam, Josh, Mudcat dive into the awkward dating and "odd" style choices of the Birthday Boy himself, Wesley Watchcat!

Saturday May, 30th at 6pm Eastern the Modern Dandies will have their first LIVE event.

got to themoderndandy.life to get the event link (ONLY accessible from a computer running CHROME browser.  Your phone or tablet will NOT work)

Mudcat, Liam and Wes attempt to record a podcast...  They attempt a discussion on appropriately dressing for business and friends on internet events. but then... well...

Sometimes you just have to release an episode because it's scheduled :)

With his two wonderful books on Dandyism, Natty Adams has both captured and refined what it means to be a dandy. Wes, Liam and Josh chat with Natty about how he became fascinated with Dandyism, the creation of his books, and what he sees next in his continuing obsession with elegance. 

(Find Natty’s books, I Am Dandy and We Are Dandy, at good booksellers.)

Natty makes mention of the musical group The Frightnrs - Our closing song is "Gotta Find a Way" from the "Nothing More to Say" album

As the coronavirus pandemic rages around the world, the Dandies discuss how they're coping with isolation, cohabitation, and preparation for whatever comes next.

Josh's Webinar series can be found here:

www.ampersandstrategies.com 

An alternate title was Giving Good Head, but ... no. Matthias, a Modern Dandy listener from Germany, joins Josh, Wes, Mudcat and Liam on a discussion about how hats can set you apart, promote your personal brand, and be practical all at the same time.

A divorce is one of the most life-altering, soul-crushing, confidence-destroying events most men will face. Using it as an opportunity for reflection and re-invention can seem impossible at the time, but every life change is also an opportunity. The Dandies are joined by James to talk about how they each have handled the challenges of divorce and the need to reinvent themselves.

A divorce is one of the most life-altering, soul-crushing, confidence-destroying events most men will face. Using it as an opportunity for reflection and re-invention can seem impossible at the time, but every life change is also an opportunity. The Dandies are joined by James to talk about how they each have handled the challenges of divorce and the need to reinvent themselves.

If you really, really, really want to be good looking* then it's time to up your accessories game. From rings, bracelets and pendants to pens, watches and cufflinks, a touch of bling can elevate your look and refine your personal style. So why do men wear jewelry, and are there rules? 

(* Yes, this is a tribute to Zoolander. Expect more throughout the episode.)

In the immortal words of who-knows, "shit just got real". The stock market has been tanking, unemployment is rising, oil prices have crumbled, and borders are closing. The Dandies chat about their thoughts in making financial and other important life decisions amongst this uncertainty.

A lot has changed in the past 6 weeks. Due to the coronavirus many people are now forced to work from home or under shelter-in-place instructions. Business and personal travel is cancelled. Gyms, bars, and restaurants are closed. Social distancing directives recommend avoiding gatherings and staying 6 feet or more from other people at all times. 

So how can we stay healthy and sane? Ems, Liam’s Dandy Lady, joins us to discuss some of the do’s and don’ts of maintaining your fitness and wellness in these trying times.

Need more Ems in your life?!

Check out her company, Purpose Driven Motion - https://www.purposedrivenmotion.com/ to find out about booking sessions or just to learn more about health and nutrition

Find all her awesome videos on Instagram - Emily_PurposeDrivenMotion

We love the cinema, the characters, the action and of course... the costumes!  Join Liam and Wes as they discuss their list of Best Dressed Film Characters in this two part series from The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness.

Anyone to add?  Email us@themoderndandy.life

Part 2 Characters:

- Luther from Luther (Edris Elba)

- Johnny Quid from RocknRolla (Toby Kebbell)

- Morpheus from The Matrix 2 (Laurence Fishburne)

Notable Characters of Teenage Influence:

- Conor MacLeod from Highlander (Christopher Lambert)

- Tyler Durden from Fight Club (Brad Pitt)

Part 1 Characters:

- John Wick from John Wick 2 (Keanu Reeves)

- James Bond from Casino Royale [2006] (Daniel Craig)

- Indiana Jones from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade (Harrison Ford)

We love the cinema, the characters, the action and of course... the costumes!  Join Liam and Wes as they discuss their list of Best Dressed Film Characters in this two part series from The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness.

Anyone to add?  Email us@themoderndandy.life

Part 1 Characters:

- John Wick from John Wick 2 (Keanu Reeves)

- James Bond from Casino Royale [2006] (Daniel Craig)

- Indiana Jones from Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade (Harrison Ford)

Part 2 Characters:

- ?????

Making a major career change can be equal parts terrifying and exhilarating. Joy joins the Dandies to share her experience of making the transition between two very different industries, and Liam shares a story of his first - and most dramatic - career move.

Wes and Liam speak withBethany Wrede,the host of the podcast "ARRIVED: Bringing your A-game home", about what led her to focus on interior design and why she's dedicated her podcast to helping single young men make the first moves in creating unique home spaces for themselves. 

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The term "toxic masculinity" frequently comes up in relation to everything from the #metoo movement, the rate of college sexual assaults, to school and mass shootings, Silicon Valley corporate bro-culture, and the socio-political "war on women".  But if that is "toxic masculinity", then what is "healthy masculinity", and how do we achieve it?  How can that contribute to creating a better society?

Men's scents, including cologne, aftershave, and deodorants, can be a pretty daunting challenge. So why should a Dandy care, and what goes into choosing, using, and hopefully not abusing the smelly stuff?

Traveling abroad is one of the most foundational of experiences. As Mark Twain said, "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness", and thus something the Dandies believe should be pursued. But why can it be so transformational, and what are the ways of doing it well?

Join Mudcat, Liam, Josh and Wes as they begin Season 2 of The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness!

The Dandies ponder over what song best captures their year and send us off on our journey to 2020

As the first year of The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness draws to a close, the Dandies discuss what they've learned over the past year and what they'd like to achieve in the year ahead

The Modern Dandies are off on Holiday and wishing you and yours a lovely Thanksgiving.  And for our listeners around the world, Happy Thursday!  So enjoy this unreleased second half of Talking Timepieces with Liam, Wes and our Dandy Guest, Kyle as we discuss complications, beautiful whiskeys and the infamous 1986 Chrysler LeBaron!

Liam, Josh and Wes fall into their favorite seasonal styles for Autumn.  Learn about balancing your layers for color, pattern and fabric to the delight of all in your general sight line; just don't cuff your chelsea boot!

Josh joins Wes and Liam to discuss the idea of the "Alpha Male" - the so called "leader of the pack," the dominant force of masculinity who all men want to be and all women want to be with - or do they?  It's persistent presence in culture, media, and history... is it true, or even desirable?

WARNING: This is NOT the episode you think it is...

Wes, Liam and Mudcat discuss "incels"- involuntary celibates - and their presence in modern culture.  Who are they, why ahve they gained such prominent coverage in the last few years, and what, if anything, can be done?

Liam and Mudcat host their own episode in this week's The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness.  Listen in as they pontificate on the origins of this humble podcast, macro-economics, and of course the choice of becoming a better human being.

It's because we don't ask for directions...
Josh - briefly back from his travels - joins Wes, Liam and Mudcat to talk about why some men are feeling lost among the changing social landscape, and how this can evolve into toxic behavior.

The first in a series about our Dandies, Wes and Liam chat with Mudcat about his upbringing in rural Mississippi, how he ended up in college, and the life experiences which shaped his views on manliness.

With josh jetsetting and Mudcat grinding, Liam and Wes take a few minutes to chat about what's next for the dandies, what feedback has been, and then kinda ... just ... ramble ... ?

Cars, motorcycles, trains, buses, bicycles, even rollerblades... wheels help Dandies get from the Art gallery to the Zoo.  So how much emphasis should a Dandy place on style over function when it comes to transportation?

A well-made cocktail is a pleasure for all the senses, whether sipped by yourself or with friends.  It can send a message about how you feel, who you are, and whether or not you give a damn.  Simple or complex, boozy or mild, what are some of your favorite cocktails?

Your grooming routine extends beyond your person (and your pet) to your house, car, office, and yacht.  It's not just "manscaping", but how to maintain your appearance, home, and life.

Wes, Liam and our guest for the episode, Kyle talk about their appreciation for classic timepieces (a.k.a. fancy watches), why they got started, and what they see as important when choosing one.

Wes, Liam, Josh and Mudcat discuss taking weekend breaks, why they're so valuable in a busy life, and share tips on making the most of a short vacation.

Letting go of juvenile habits can be hard, but retaining them can be limiting to your career, friendships, and romances.  The four Dandies (welcome back Mudcat!) share their perspectives on why (and when) it's important to be more mature.

Wes and Liam chat about classic cocktails, what they think are some of the most iconic action scene soundtracks, and style nevers.

Josh and Liam rejoin Wes to talk about the ins and outs of business casual, somewhat of a safe, comfortable topic after the Dandy Ladies' contribution.

Wes hosts the Dandy Ladies, Aubrey, Joy and Emily in an open discussion on their perspectives on manliness, dandiness, and contemporary culture.  This doesn't go as planned, and is all the more awesome because of that

Emily joins Wes and Liam as our first female guest for an open discussion on why she chose this topic as the most important aspect of manliness, why receiving oral sex is important for women, and what benefits it has for couples. Warning: Some sexual content and descriptions of people enjoying themselves. 

Wes, Liam, Josh and Mudcat have a wide-ranging discussion around how manliness is also about your behaviour around others, with examples of responding to and handling different situations... like introducing yourself as the devil and getting thrown out a bar window.

In the second part of this topic, Wes, Liam, and Josh are joined by Mudcat and lift the conversation back to sartorial basics and tips on how to find clothing that fit your body, lifestyle, and situation.

Jumping straight into the first topic of developing a strong personal style by understanding the different meanings of fit, the conversation between Wes, Liam and Josh descends to the pavement and stays there.

Wes, Liam and Josh open up about why they're producing The Modern Dandy's Guide to Manliness, what they hope to achieve, and who they want to listen.