Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Comedian Sarah Silverman sits down with Nicole to discuss meeting her boyfriend over Call of Duty, the challenges of dating as a female comic, and how many health studies are skewed against women. Plus, Nicole shares her experience getting hit on at Comic-Con. See Sarah Silverman live on her POST MORTEM tour at sarahsilverman.com.

We're back - and now in video form! Comedian and actress Lauren Lapkus (Newcomers podcast) joins Nicole to discuss why men lie about their heights, motherhood, and her recent trip to Victoria's Secret. Plus, they play a special game of F*ck, Marry, Kill: Newcomers Movies Edition. Watch this episode! Check it out on our new YouTube channel at youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast. Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it on a future episode. Sponsors: Lume: Control Body Odor anywhere with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code DATEME at LumeDeodorant.com. #lumepod Betterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self. Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this best of episode, Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media, and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend. Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches, in great detail, exactly how to do it.  We're starting a YouTube channel! Subscribe at youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast for upcoming full length video podcast episodes. We'll be back next week with a brand new episode!   Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Netflix's The Ultimatum is NOW CASTING long-term couples in committed relationships for an all-new season! Go to theultimatumcasting.com to learn more and apply. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

While we're on hiatus, we're bringing you the best of the podcast – completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) opens up about the challenges of being a single mother to twins, the rising trend of 'co-parenting', and how she uses the Law of Attraction to manifest her dream partner. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment. Originally aired on July 16, 2021. We’re launching a YouTube channel! Subscribe now for upcoming full-length video podcast episodes. We're looking for more dirty message submissions! Submit a dirty message to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: X: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this iconic episode, Gabrus (High & Mighty), Nick Wiger and Mike Mitchell (Doughboys) join Nicole fresh off a power-hour to discuss how they would want to die, their favorite sex positions, and if they're into ass play. They also answer audience questions about post-sex snacks, favorite porn genres, and their craziest sex stories. Plus, Nicole helps officiate a live marriage proposal. We now have a YouTube! Subscribe here for upcoming full length video podcast episodes. Listen to the High & Mighty Power-Hour they recorded here: https://headgum.com/high-and-mighty/212-chicago-power-hour-w-nick-wiger-mike-mitchell-and-nicole-byer This was recorded at Thalia Hall for Headgum Live in Chicago. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

While we're on hiatus, we're revisiting one of Nicole's favorite episodes! Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) joins Nicole to chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how June's wedding ring was stolen from her finger, and why you should never propose in a hot air balloon. June sits nearby, fact-checking Paul's stories. Originally aired 05/21/2021. California! New York! Come see Nicole live in October. Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken. Watch full video episodes of the podcast on our upcoming YouTube channel! Subscribe to Why Won't You Date Me on YouTube. Follow Nicole Byer: Instagram: @nicolebyer X: @nicolebyer See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re bringing you the best of Why Won’t You Date Me?—completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole is joined by Skyler, who she met on Tinder. Things got awkward quickly when they realized they dated the same man. Nicole asks Skyler why she swiped right, why they kept dating despite Nicole's smoking, and whether she would’ve still gone out with her if she didn’t know about her work. And finally, Skyler gives Nicole the cold, hard truth about why they stopped dating. Spoiler alert: things get really awkward. You can check out Skyler's Austin account at @austinunscripted. Originally aired 02/14/2019. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole live at Nicolebyerwastaken.com. X: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As we continue our hiatus, we're bringing back some of Nicole's all-time favorite episodes! And oh boy, BUCKLE UP, because this one is WILD. Nicole is joined by drag queen Meatball and rapper Big Dipper, and things get crazy fast. They share a wild hookup story involving a dirty diaper, talk about how they like to be choked in bed, and swap stories about the times they were paid for sex. By the end, Nicole is convinced to hire a male escort for her next birthday.

Actress Jameela Jamil (The Good Place) joins Nicole to share her most horrifying booty call story. They dive into the wild pressure women face to be sexy, why so many play it small for men, and how the relentless pursuit of the 'bad boy' often leads to heartbreak—and HPV.

We’re taking a short hiatus, but don’t worry—we’ll be back soon with brand new episodes, including more video podcasts! In the meantime, I’m re-releasing some of my all-time favorite episodes of the podcast, completely ad-free. Stay tuned for updates and all the latest news by following me on Instagram @nicolebyer. We can’t wait to share what’s coming up next with you!

Actress Garcelle Beauvais (The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills) joins Nicole to discuss dating the likes of Michael Jordan, Larry David, and Eddie Murphy. She shares her experience working at a Playboy club under a fake ID, and the time she accidentally spent $6,000 on a dating app, without landing a single date. Nicole and Garcelle fantasize about a world with Yelp-style reviews for dating.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Riki Lindhome (Garfunkel and Oates, AfrAId) joins Nicole to discuss her harrowing fertility journey, dating someone new just two weeks before her baby was due, and what it means to "soft-partner" or date a "scrap." Meanwhile, a man tries to move into Nicole's house, leading her to seek relationship advice from WikiHow. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and actress Chloe Fineman (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss orgasmic meditation and the strange men behind the practice. She shares stories of attending a “slutty” theater school where her friends ended up in a crazy gangbang, dating a 700-pound man who used meth to lose weight, and dating another guy with "school shooter vibes." Chloe also talks about the most ridiculous arguments that have led to her breakups and offers advice on the best dating app.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sophia Stallone (The Family Stallone) shares what it's like to date when your dad is Sylvester Stallone. Sophia recounts cringey dates where the guy was more interested in meeting Rocky than getting to know her, the challenges of navigating her dad’s overprotective nature, and how she’s worked to overcome the anxieties that come with dating in the spotlight. Nicole and Sophia also reminisce about being dummies on the set of Are You Smarter Than a Celebrity.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and "ho-fessional" Akeem Woods joins Nicole to share his crazy sexcapades. He tells the story about his first Pride parade where he hooked up with a dozen guys in a single day, his experiences having sex with pornstars, accidentally attending an orgy, and having sex with a stranger in a Staples bathroom. He looks back on the time he was still in the closet and made a MySpace account for his fake girlfriend. Nicole gets fisted.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Ryan Beck (Girl Code) joins Nicole to discuss the worst places to be broken up with and debate when it’s acceptable to end a relationship over text. Nicole shares her experiences with threesome requests at meet & greets and the time she and her friend hooked up with long-lost brothers on a set of bunk beds.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Luenell (Borat, Hacks) joins Nicole to discuss the decision that led her to start an OnlyFans, dating a man who slid into her DMs, and her experience robbing $50,000 from a bank.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actor/TikToker Boman Martinez-Reid (@Bomanizer) joins Nicole to discuss the pitfalls of launching your relationship on social media, witnessing his ex compete on a TV dating show and become a fan favorite, and his advice on why we should all forget about the "icks" when dating. Meanwhile, Nicole has started bargaining with her house spiders. Got a dirty message for Nicole? Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Lala Kent (Vanderpump Rules) joins Nicole to reveal why she chose a sperm donor for her pregnancy and explain the tier system of sperm options. She shares the reasons she background checks all her dates and spills some of the craziest discoveries she's made. Plus, Lala opens up about her experience co-parenting her daughter and dating while pregnant.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress Poppy Liu (Hacks) joins Nicole to discuss how she accidentally dated a cult leader, her exhausting year as a dominatrix in the BDSM lifestyle, her queer awakening watching Titanic, and her experiences doing experimental nude theatre in New York. Nicole shares the story of the time she was fingered by a dishwasher. Check out Poppy Liu's new movie, Space Cadet, on Prime Video. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Clark Jones joins Nicole to discuss a wild hookup after a drug-fueled comedy show, the experience that turned him onto dominant women, and the story of performing stand-up naked. Plus, he shares his scheme of joining a ballet team in order to lose his virginity. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Keith Robinson has faced two strokes that have affected half his mobility and speech. He shares with Nicole how he experienced a stroke after taking Viagra on an airplane ahead of a date, his crazy run-in with the police,  and his advice on why every relationship needs a song.  See Keith Robinson's new special, Different Strokes, on Netflix.  Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actor Tony Hale (Veep, Arrested Development, Inside Out 2) joins Nicole to discuss how he accidentally themed his marriage proposal around a play about suicide, how he overcame his anxieties in a relationship, his experience working as Beyoncé's 'assistant', and provides Nicole with some heartfelt advice on dating.  See Inside Out 2, now playing in theatres.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian David Gborie (voice of Comedy Central, All Fantasy Everything, My Momma Told Me) joins Nicole to discuss the hottest porn, why two comedians can't date, how women improve the lives of men, and looking like a pervert at The Nutcracker. Nicole daydreams about what she would do if she had a dick for a day, and shares the story of hooking up with a coworker, which led them to quit. Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Relationship therapist and star of 90 Day Fiancé: Love in Paradise, Alex Roshon, is here to answer all of Nicole's burning relationship questions. What's it like to apply for 90 Day Fiancé? What's her foolproof method for approaching someone for a threesome? Alex shares her terrible dating stories that led her to date overseas, and her experience dating a man who loved to wear women's panties. Nicole tries to find love at the Sonic The Hedgehog-themed cafe. Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This season of MILF Manor takes a wild turn as MILFs date young men and their fathers at the same time. Nicole sits down with MILF and celebrity makeup artist Crystal Jennings to discuss how she got cast on MILF Manor, her preference for dating younger men versus their fathers, and to answer all of Nicole's burning questions about the show. Plus, she shares her expert sex tips for giving 'pornstar head.' Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drag queen Mistress Isabelle Brooks (Finalist of RuPaul's Drag Race S15) joins Nicole to discuss her dating life as 'The Hookup Queen,' their body counts, and what she items she stole from the set of Drag Race. Mistress shares the story of the time she broke her ankle on stage in front of 1000 people. Nicole remains horny.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actor Jesse Tyler Ferguson (Modern Family) joins Nicole to share his proposal story and how it was hilariously overshadowed by Sofía Vergara. They chat about food as a love language, their shared love for musical theatre, and the aftermath of the "Take Me Out" Broadway show nude leak. Jesse reflects on the challenges of working on Modern Family during a time when there were no gay writers. Plus, the wild story of getting hit by an accidental squirting. Watch this episode here:  https://youtu.be/LJq7jZHB5ao?si=Y9bUJrs9eMbC9piN Check out Jesse's podcast, Dinner's On Me.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Writer Jessica Gao (She Hulk: Attorney at Law, Rick & Morty) joins Nicole to discuss male friends who are "single for a reason", the pressures of dating in the Chinese culture, people sticking in bad relationships in order to avoid dating again, and how hormones from an IUD can significantly affect your attraction levels. Plus, she shares her experience writing Rick and Morty's iconic 'Pickle Rick' episode, and the targeted backlash she received from fans.    Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kamie Crawford (Host of Catfish: The TV Show)  joins Nicole to explore the most bizarre catfishing schemes she's witnessed, and reveals the tricks catfish use to deceive you. She shares how being crowned Miss Teen USA immediately affected her dating life in a creepy way, and discusses her frustrating experiences as a plus-size model.  Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746     See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Craig Conant joins Nicole to discuss how sleeping with a chucklefucker led to him to become a baby daddy, his experience winning MTV's hit dating show "Next", and having sex at the movies on a first date. Plus, his many tales of farting on authority. Check out Craig's tour dates here: www.craigconant.com/#tour See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WNBA superstar and Olympic gold medalist A'ja Wilson joins Nicole to discuss how her 6'4" height shapes her dating experiences, what it's like to be single and mingle amongst Olympians, and the special treatment of being a WNBA icon. Meanwhile, Nicole is enjoying her own singledom.  Check out A'ja's new book, Dear Black Girls, wherever books are sold.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actor William Stanford Davis (Abbott Elementary) joins Nicole to share how he met his wife in an improv class, the unique dynamic of her managing his career, and the importance of finding a partner who truly invests in you. William also offers a glimpse into his unconventional teenage years DJing in adult clubs and reflects on his experiences with segregation growing up.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and writer Moshe Kasher chats with Nicole about being a ho, going to a 12-step program for sex addicts, and his experience going through therapy 8 days a week. Plus lots of dating horror stories, including the tale of the biting blowjob. Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Franchesca Ramsey (iCarly) joins Nicole to discuss what she's learned after going through an expensive divorce, finding singles in the wild, queer speed dating, and how dogs can sense when the end of a relationship is coming. Nicole tries to flirt with an older man on a bike. Check out Franchesca's new podcast, Black History, For Real. Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Zach Woods (Silicon Valley, The Office, In The Know) joins Nicole to discuss shooting your shot with your crush, having vulnerably romantic encounters on airplanes, and the time he professed his love to a recording of Moonlight Sonata. Plus, Nicole receives a very special "dirty message" to the podcast.  Stream In The Know, on Peacock. See Nicole's in episode 3! Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and writer Asha Ward (SNL) joins Nicole to share her wild roommate sex drama, reflects on being raised by a gay dad, having her first kiss after karate lessons, and discusses the dynamics of having 'fuckboy' energy.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Musician LU KALA joins Nicole to discuss why the dating world feels so broken after COVID, the skill behind a good kiss, planning what should happen to your sex toys when you die, the stigma around dating a plus sized woman, and roleplay flirting with each other. Plus, Nicole receives an unexpected large black dildo to her door.  Check out LU KALA's new single, Looking for Love.   Nicole has a new crowd working special! Watch it on YouTube.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Rory Scovel joins Nicole for a chat about their Valentine's Day experiences, dealing with horny audience members, his cute proposal story, and the ways parenthood has transformed his relationship dynamic. Nicole shares her fun time smoking weed before performing.  Check out his special, Rory Scovel: Religion, Sex and a Few Things In Between, on Max.   Nicole has a new crowd working special! Watch it at youtu.be/OMrZshGJORg?si=5de666DSXrnlKfBU   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Lamar Woods (New Girl, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to discuss their 2024 vision boards, taking yourself on self care dates, the best ways to manage anxiety while dating, and how to be open about your sensitivities to a potential partner.   Check out Lamar's new album, Highly Sensitive Person at lamar-woods.com.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Nicole has a new crowd working special! Watch it at youtu.be/OMrZshGJORg?si=5de666DSXrnlKfBU   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Laurie Kilmartin (Conan) joins Nicole to discuss all things Valentine's Day - the gifts, their dream dates, and Nicole's regrettable Valentine's Day experience. They open up about their most regretful hookups, the time Laurie's date called her out in a YouTube comment, and Nicole's experience sleeping with a member of her audience. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole live! Tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Rashida "SHEEDZ" Olayiwola (Jury Duty) joins Nicole to discuss the best places to go for singles mixers, the time she learned her date was homeless, and the struggle of finding men who can listen to your basic needs. Plus, Nicole realizes her birth control is making her depressed.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Stavros Halkias (Fat Rascal, Stavvy's World) joins Nicole to discuss hooking up with audience members, why he believes he would be perfectly cast for 90 Day Fiancé, and faking an orgasm during a disgusting fling just to be polite. Plus, is the golden age of dating apps over? According to Bustle, it is.    Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and writer Garrick Bernard (Rick & Morty, Solar Opposites) joins Nicole to discuss finding love at BuzzFeed, the awkwardness of audience members hitting on him while on stage, and why homecoming was the worst day of his life. Plus, they explore their mutual obsession for cars. Vroom vroom!    Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and friend Mark Rennie (The Onion) joins Nicole to share his experience attending a gay meetup on a Star Trek cruise, and being invited to an orgy. Nicole shares her idea of a dream orgy to attend, plus the plans for her funeral which involves inviting all of her ex-lovers to talk about her pussy. They also discuss determining your needs in a relationship, their goals for 2024, and Nicole's recent attempt to date a redhead in Dublin, which didn't quite go as planned.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Lisa Ann Walter (Abbott Elementary) joins Nicole to share her unique marital experiences, from a husband who eventually came out as gay to another who was an absolute man-ho. She shares the struggles she's faced touring as a mom, comedy clubs now allowing her to work "blue", and reflects on her time in the industry being recognized as "The Body". Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Liz Barlow discusses breaking up with a boyfriend who doxxed people, her challenging experience dating women, the story of a stalking chucklefucker, interracial threesomes invitations, and unravels some jaw-dropping baby daddy drama. As an exercise, Liz and Nicole roleplay talking to men.    Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Katrina Davis joins Nicole to discuss holiday gift giving, the delicate process of home decorating when moving in with a partner, and her experience being cock blocked by racism. Plus, the story of a forced double date that lead to a car theft.     Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drag queen mother Sasha Colby (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S15) sits down with Nicole to discuss the unique challenges of dating as a trans woman. Sasha shares her experiences of dating in the closet during high school, recounts where she's had heartwarming meet-cutes, and delves into her personal interpretation of what it means to be a ~Woman~. Nicole pays for the Raya feature that shows who's liked her.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Lisa Gilroy doesn't want you to think about her little tiddies, okay? So she shares her adventures in surprise dating, complete with tips on how to execute your own fun surprise date for your partner. Lisa reflects on her journey as a 'teenage bride,' recounting her marriage to her high school sweetheart. She pitches an innovative concept for a live dating show to help Nicole find love, and Nicole opens up about her humiliating experience on Celebrity Dating Game.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedy icon Kathy Griffin sits down with Nicole to tackle the burning question: Is she still cancelled? She discusses her relationship with her tour manager, who supported her through a tumultuous five-year period marked by FBI investigations and a struggle with pill addiction. Kathy shares stories of her past relationships, including dating Quentin Tarantino, lying about her age to date Joey from NSYNC, and sleeping around with her students at the Groundlings. Plus, get the scoop on what it was like living next door to celebrities Kim and Kanye. Is Kanye as weird to talk to in person? The answer will not shock you.   Get tickets to Kathy's upcoming tour at kathygriffin.com/tour.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Kel Mitchell (Kenan & Kel, Good Burger) joins Nicole to explore his evolution from teen heartthrob to youth pastor. They delve into the merits of building romance on the foundation of friendship, the transformative impact of three years of celibacy on his relationship, and the art of mastering conflict resolution in partnerships. Kel recounts an unforgettable wingman adventure, plus, Nicole dishes on a juicy juicy couple's argument she overheard.     Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress & TV personality Alesha Reneé (Grand Crew, Girl Code) joins Nicole to delve into the world of 'hobosexuals,' revealing her experience dating one and offering tips on how to spot if you are too. She opens up about a past partner's breach of trust, when she found out he had been secretly reading her diary. They review the "worst" places to go on a first date, and Alesha shares the bizarre story of how she got robbed by a clown. Plus, Nicole opens up about her first attempt at cooking for a man, and let's just say, it didn't quite go as planned.   Check out Alesha's new series, Unleash for Love, available on Audible!   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder what it's like to have your tarot cards read? Witch and intuitionist Sutton Crawford gives Nicole an on-air reading regarding her love life. Sutton shares her journey to recognizing her own intuitive gifts, and chats about the mystical effects of eclipses and the cosmic influences you might be feeling. Plus, she shares a chilling ghost story and teaches how to set firm boundaries with the spirit world to keep those unwanted ghostly visitors at bay.  Meanwhile, Nicole opens up about establishing new boundaries on dating apps.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to chat about her perfect engagement story, getting over the nerves to say "I love you", and learning how to enjoy the beauty of being single. Meanwhile, Nicole is living her "horny for love" era. While some of her manifestations are starting to come true.... the question remains: can she manifest the partner of her dreams?   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hairstylist and icon Jonathan Van Ness (Queer Eye) shares with Nicole an unforgettable and horrifying story about his first foray into the kink of watersports, what it was like to have his wedding over Zoom, and consults Nicole on her Instagram page, offering savvy tips on how to up her dating game on the app.   Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public eye, how dating reality TV shows are normalizing abuse in relationships, and the common manipulation tactics to watch out for in your love life. Plus, they share horniest they've ever been in their life, and what it's like to write horny music. Check out E.R.'s new EP, VIOLENCE, out today.   Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Kenny DeForest joins Nicole to explore how an amicable split after 8.5 years can transform someone from a 'fuckboy' to a 'boyfriend without a girlfriend'. He shares how being an only child can lead to challenges entering the dating pool, the extremely addictive nature of dating apps, and tackles the ethical dilemma many comedians face: should you give your ex a heads-up if they're the subject of your latest stand-up routine? Check out Kenny's new special, Don't You Know Who I Am?, now streaming on YouTube.   Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram (Sexology, Lovers & Friends) joins Nicole to teach her how to radiate better vibes on dates, master the art of life goal prioritization, and explore the intriguing concept of marriage pacts. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be the intimacy coordinator on 'Too Hot to Handle'? Shan spills all the beans on that and more. Plus she gets personal, revealing how she turned a fuckbuddy into a spouse, and shares the guidelines governing her non-monogamous relationship. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is it worse to break up with someone, or get broken up with? Comedian Eric Andre (Bombing with Eric Andre) joins Nicole to delve into the heartache of breakups, including the time Eric was dumped via note. He also shares the nerve-wracking story about losing his virginity, talks first crush, first boner, and hard drugs. Plus, they answer your submitted questions, from awkward run-ins with exes to how to get your partner in therapy. Have a question of your own? Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Leslie Jones (SNL) chats with Nicole about the challenges of adjusting to a new relationship, strategies to eliminate negative self-talk, and offers Nicole advice on her latest breakup. Plus, Leslie talks about the married chucklefuckers approaching her after shows, and reveals the dating app that's been a game-changer for her. Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wondered what lies behind those picture-perfect 'couple goals'? Action star Michael Jai White (Black Dynamite, Outlaw Johnny Black) joins Nicole to spill his secrets to a happy, argument-free relationship. He shares why he doesn't believe in 'dating' and offers a fresh perspective on building a relationship with a partner.    Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wondered what it's like getting intimate with a clown? Deep dive as comedian Maria Bamford (Arrested Development, Big Mouth) unravels her experiences as sex and love addict, the relationship tools she's learned in her 12 step programs, and her mental illnesses. Plus, for those seeking lasting love, Maria shares the 4 behaviors to avoid divorce.  Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Emmy-winning Uzo Aduba (Orange Is The New Black) chats with Nicole about how her dating app DMs changed after booking Crazy Eyes, finding love at a mixer, the deep connection between her personal grief and art, and the importance of honesty in relationships. Plus, Nicole fails to hit on a cashier.   Recorded July 13th 2023. For more information on the SAG-AFTRA strike, see sagaftrastrike.org. Consider donating to the Entertainment Community Fund to assist struck entertainment workers.    Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Broadway star Naomi Rodgers (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical) opens up about secretly dating her co-star while on tour, and offers advice how to grieve and get over a breakup. Nicole shares her latest European dating mishaps, including an unforgettable visit to the Red Light District.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's episode 300! But how is Nicole STILL SINGLE?  On this milestone occasion, she's joined by her best friend Sasheer Zamata (co-host of Best Friends) to get to the bottom of it. In this special retrospective, they explore: How Nicole's dating life has evolved with the podcast The highs and lows of her love life Their favorite dates they've been on The best dating advice they've received Their new favorite sex toys they've been using And they answer your questions about whether you should call out cheating in other people's relationships, dating someone with a bad social media persona, and their thoughts on Tinx's Box Theory. We're back in the studio, and folks, the energy is unhinged. You don't want to miss this one.   Be sure to check out Sasheer's new special, THE FIRST WOMAN, available at 800 Pound Gorilla.     Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Broadway superstar Zurin Villanueva (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical)  joins Nicole for a discussion about the awkwardness of working together with a past hookup, safety precautions when dating abroad, and the best grocery store to find a good man. Plus, don't miss Zurin's recounting of a date gone awry when her phone rang, and on the other end? Her date's ex.   Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The hilarious comedian Jay Jurden joins Nicole to talk about his secret relationship with a frat boy, working at Abercrombie & Fitch during its peak era, the best app for threeways, and what goes on at a gay orgy. Plus, Nicole gets hit on by a 911 responder.   Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drag queen Gigi Goode (Drag Race S12) joins Nicole for a supersized live episode of the podcast! They talk about her trans journey during the pandemic, how the type of people who are attracted to her has changed since transitioning, making friends through Tinder, and shares her experience being in a long term relationship with a partner who's asexual. She also tells just so many, bad, no awful, date stories.   Plus, an audience Q&A: Do queens get cozy on the set of Drag Race? Is it possible to date someone you're not attracted to? What's the best one-liner for a dating app? Dive in to find out! Recorded live at The Elysian 4/5/2023.   Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drag queen Robin Fierce (Drag Race S15) LIP-SYNCS TO THIS VERY PODCAST! She talks about remixing Nicole's comedy in her drag performance, opens up about her relationship with Drag Race contestant Amethyst, shares the new subtle way to look for a sugar daddy on dating apps,  and speaks out on how people are using Grindr for their own personal meet & greets.  Robin gives us a exclusive look at her Snatch Game audition as Nicole Byer (and why it didn't help her book the show). Plus, the haunting tale of a Grindr date with a catfish.    For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Nicole wants to hear from you! Need dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drag queen Bosco (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss their long-term relationship with a fan, recounts her most enchanting full-day date, and tells how to spot chasers vs. genuine men. She shares how catfishing on Craigslist for attention ignited her trans journey, plus spills the tea on the severe highs, lows, and trauma shooting Drag Race.    For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode.   Follow Nicole Byer:  See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and friend Matteo Lane returns to the podcast! They reminisce about his love life since his last episode, getting kicked off Grindr and Tinder for "catfishing" as himself, and why men are intimidated by successful women. Nicole wins the orgasm contest at the Thunder from Down Under Vegas show. Matteo hooks up with a dancer from Magic Mike. Plus, a whole lot more.    Watch Matteo Lane's new special, Hair Plugs & Heartache, free on YouTube.   Have a question for Nicole? Submit it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com to have it answered on a upcoming special.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Now on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken. Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian & actor Jermaine Fowler (The Blackening) joins Nicole to reminisce on their time working on Guy/Girl Code, his joy of being a unexpected father, and discusses what makes a great dick pic. Nicole is now horny for them, but before you go sliding one into her DMs, she shares her criteria on how to take a tasteful pic.   See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Jay Pharoah (Saturday Night Live) dives into how a messy breakup ended up saving his SNL career, and the bizarre role Donald Trump played in his escape from a toxic relationship. Jay shares the impressions he's been asked to do during sex, and how developing self-confidence saved him from a bad situation. Plus, what's it like to have your photos used by a catfish?   See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and actor Melvin Gregg (Vine, American Vandal, The Blackening) opens up about his unique romantic path, where pretending to be a couple turned into the real deal. He takes us on a trip down memory lane, tracing his roots from being a Vine sensation to earning the badge of an early verified Tinder user. Plus, he shares his pro tips on sealing the deal at the end of any date or encounter.    See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress and activist TS Madison (judge on RuPaul's Drag Race) is here for a heartfelt chat on her journey from being a viral TikTok sensation to a vocal advocate for trans rights, and all of the unseen struggles she faced in navigating systemic biases. She discusses doing sex work for survival, shares real examples of the transphobic harassment she receives to this day, and her relentless efforts to forge a better future. This episode is a raw exploration into the battles and victories that come with being Black, trans, and unapologetically visible. Content Warning: This episode contains audio clips featuring transphobic harassment which may be disturbing for some listeners.    See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Sam Taggart (host of StraightioLab) is here to spill some juicy insights on gay relationships and why they often swing open. Have you ever thought of Kevin James as a bear icon? Neither did Nicole, but Sam gives us a whole new perspective! He also tells the crazy story of a strange threesome he had with 2 cops from Boston. Plus, a candid chat about all things anal, and why we need to break the silence and start talking about our holes.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Twin drag queen icons Sugar & Spice (RuPaul's Drag Race S15) join Nicole for a conversation about why you can't skirt around the law of attraction, to spilling the tea on the sugar baby lifestyle and how to shine as a high-value woman in today's dating scene. And if you've ever wondered what it's like for twins to audition for Drag Race, Sugar & Spice pull back the curtain on their journey, talking about their impressions of Snatch game, including the unforgettable meltdown Spice had on-set after Sugar's unexpected elimination. Plus, Nicole reveals a sweet tip on how to score free drinks on a bad date.    Hungry for more drag queen interviews? Check out our drag episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The hilarious Bridget Everett (Somebody, Somewhere) joins Nicole to discuss the hot porn searches they've been into, the need for increased privacy on dating apps, Bridget's experience hooking up with a go-go dancer at a gay bar, and her stand-up routine where she has audience members motorboat her huge titties. Plus, the story about the woman whose breast implants started to grow mold.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress Holly Robinson Peete (21 Jump Street, Queen's Court) opens up about her experience being in a relationship with someone who is "monogamously challenged", dating around Paris in order to learn to speak French, and being very publicly proposed to on the set of Hangin' with Mr. Cooper by NFL quarterback Rodney Peete. Plus, the challenges single people now face in today's social media-driven world, and how it affects relationships in ways both big and small.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actor John Leguizamo (Encanto, Moulin Rouge!, Ice Age) chats with Nicole about his secrets to a long, loving marriage, how he balances work and relationships, and his efforts to boost Latin representation in media.    Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring and tribbing, having secret girlfriends in high school, and the details of her open relationship. Ashley also shares her experience being the first openly gay comedian on Carnival Cruise Line, and the homophobia she encountered on the job. Nicole witnesses a bouncer get stabbed at a lesbian bar.  Watch Ashley's new comedy special at: youtube.com/watch?v=Ay6jUYPH644&   Submit your dirty message for Nicole!  Send it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress/writer/director Zoe Lister-Jones (Slip) shares her experience opening and closing her "don't ask don't tell" poly relationship, what she's learned after exiting a 17-year marriage, and delves into the empowering nature of "dating to fuck". Nicole really wants to crash the cool teen party down her block.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actor James Marsden (Sonic The Hedgehog, Hairspray, Jury Duty) joins Nicole to talk about his new singledom, remaining friends with all of his exes, his romantic side, and reviews Nicole's latest Tinder profile. Nicole teaches Marsden about bussies and scat porn.    This episode was specially recorded in-person at Team Coco's studios. Thank you engineer Rich and the whole team for putting this together!    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drag queen icon Sasha Velour (winner of Drag Race S9) chats with Nicole about coming out to their dad at a TGI Fridays, the challenges of working with their boyfriend, and speaks out on the current backlash against drag.    We just recorded a fabulous LIVE episode of Why Won't You Date Me with Gigi Goode! It's available on video on demand until April 19th. Stream it now at moment.co/dateme.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and writer X Mayo (The Daily Show, American Auto, Swarm) chats with Nicole about her success making friend connections on Raya, how she positively re-framed her outlook on dating, and her life changing experience shooting a nude scene in Swarm. Plus, a PSA on pussy health and why you should go get a transvaginal ultrasound.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and actor Jeff Hiller (Somebody Somewhere) reunites with Nicole to share how he met his husband on Chemistry.com, his experience acting on a reality TV dating show, and how a fight on Fire Island saved his marriage. Plus, Nicole reads the DM that lead her to deactivate a dating app.    We're live streaming a new episode April 5th!  See a live video recording of Why Won't You Date Me? with VOD available for 2 weeks after. Tickets at moment.co/dateme   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and actress Gabrielle Dennis (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Luke Cage) chats with Nicole her philosophy as to why falling "in like" with your partner is more important than being in love, opens up about her experience dating a pedophile, and her love for writing Yelp reviews. Plus, the story of the murdering Disney dad.    See a live recording of Why Won't You Date Me?! April 5th in Los Angeles. In-person tickets: elysiantheater.com/shows/nicolebyer. The show will also be live-streamed worldwide, and available on VOD for 2 weeks after. Get the livestream tickets at moment.co/dateme   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Writer Bridger Winegar (host of I Said No Gifts!)  joins Nicole to discuss his experience being closeted to himself until the age of 26, being raised Mormon, and the thrill of setting people up on dates. Nicole reads some nasty messages she's received from the Bahamas.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Adam Pally (101 Places to Party Before You Die, Who Invited Charlie?) chats with Nicole about why an easy relationship is a often sign of a good one, marrying his high school sweetheart, and how the both of them broke Steve Harvey on the set of Celebrity Family Feud. Plus, what's it like filming with Sonic the Hedgehog? Nicole is dying to know.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Michael Cruz Kayne's dating strategy involves being the only guy left available. He joins Nicole to explain the approach and the success that's come with it.  They also discuss how race affects relationships, moving on from them, and his experience getting hit on by the rich kids and moms he was private tutoring. Nicole wishes she was a ~woman~. Season 2 of A Good Cry returns March 9th. Listen to Nicole's episode here.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Steph Tolev joins Nicole to discuss what it's like to date a groupie, getting matching tattoos with her partners, her experience dating a 60 year old, and shares SOOO many crazy awful dating stories. Plus, is it weird if your parent keeps in touch with your ex? The answer is YES.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Jordan Firstman (Big Mouth, Ms. Marvel) joins Nicole to talk about his experience being involved in a threesome where everyone had COVID, having real sex on-camera for a movie, and finding love in Berlin after a drug-fueled bender. Plus, Nicole shares why sucking dick is so joyful.    Disclaimer: This episode contains discussion of homophobia, including some strong language, such as the F word.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Nicole to discuss her experience being single and celibate for 18 years, importing her current boyfriend, and shares what it was like to date a feeder.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,  Dan joins Nicole to respond to some of the comments they've received about their relationship, discuss their kinks, and reflect on their decision to hard launch the relationship.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Actress Ilia Isorelýs Paulino (The Sex Lives of College Girls)  joins Nicole to chat about her sex life at Yale, being 6′2, growing up brainwashed by her pastor dad, and Curvy Wife Guy's new rap career.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Punkie Johnson (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss how the pandemic lead to her divorce,  learning to love her partner's ugly feet, and tiddy pain. Nicole reports on the unhappy couples she witnessed while in the Bahamas.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian and Nicole's opener Christi Chiello joins the podcast to discuss having 5 of her ex-boyfriends come out as gay, why theatre kids are so horny, and crazy stories from touring together. Nicole reminisces about the time she fell down a man's staircase.   Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka returns! She chats with Nicole about dating her community college teacher for 7 years, exploring the world of swing parties, and discusses whether hoe phases are overrated.    Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.     Follow Nicole Byer:  Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.