Gay Therapy LA with Ken Howard, LCSW, CST

In this re-reading of his November 2, 2016 blog article, Ken revisits an analysis of the Modern American Conservative, Republican/Trump Supporters, on the eve of the 2024 election, and how the 2016 warning is a lesson for today. 

Ken discusses gay men and the need for attention; healthy vs. unhealthy narcissism; inclusion and exclusion from gay groups; and practical tips for meeting guys in gay social settings. 

Ken teaches about the TFID (Type, Frequency, Intensity, Duration) model for managing mental health challenges for gay men such as depression, anxiety, and others, with practical exercises to bring symptom relief. 

Ken discusses Netflix's "Monster: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story" and its themes of notoriety, abuse, and healing, and applies these in the context of gay male adult sexual trauma and abuse survivors. 

Ken provides education on how gay male relationships (couples or polycules) can establish ground rules agreements for Consensual Non-Monogamy using the Who What When Where Why structure. 

Ken teaches about supporting gay men leaving religion and reclaiming their identity with secular alternatives, free of religious abuse and embracing secular solace or an affirmative tradition that works for them. 

Ken gives tips and "modules" for coping with election anxiety in this 2024 election season, and how to cope with anxiety symptoms, increase self-empowerment, and practice compassionate self-support. 

Ken describes how IFS, Internal Family Systems, a model of evidence-based psychotherapy, can apply to gay men to help you integrate the different parts of you into a cohesive, confident sense of Self. 

Ken gives tips for gay men's dating on what gay men complain about their dates to their therapist or their friends, and what to do about them. 

Ken gives guidance on how gay men in relationships can discuss whether to have kids, and their options for doing so. 

Ken discusses the subtle and insidious ways that religious moralism undermines professional mental health services delivery (psychotherapy) for the broader LGBTQ+ community and more specifically for gay men, and how to counter this. 

Ken reviews the psychological, clinical dynamics of money management, planning aspects of your financial life, and how to talk to the people in your life to reduce financial anxiety and support long-term financial stability. 

Based on his 32 years as a gay men's specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and coach, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST gives 21 tips for gay men and how to recover from a breakup. 

Ken gives guidance on gay men and starting your own business, based on his own experience owning a business for over 25 years, and providing career/executive coaching to the Gay Male Solo Entpreneur, a preview of his upcoming e-course. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, gives thirteen tips for gay men on how to be a better lover, based on his thirty-year experience as a gay men's specialist therapist, coach, and sex therapist. 

Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, discusses gay men and wealth: rewards, challenges, how to cope with those challenges, and how to develop a social support network. 

In the second part of the gay men and resilience discussion, Ken lists specific techniques that can help. 

Ken gives tips on how gay men can cultivate resilience to face any crisis/challenge, by adapting certain cognitive/behavioral traits. 

Ken gives tips for gay men for coping with the Coronavirus/COVID-19 pandemic, and takes to task Republican leadership for bungling handling of COVID-19, just like their early mishandling of the AIDS crisis. 

Gay men's specialist therapist and coach, Ken Howard, LCSW, gives 10 ways gay men can cope with interpersonal conflicts that every life has.  

Ken gives tips on how to improve your chances of finding a partner by avoiding the gay men's dating mistakes of emphasizing the wrong things, like his cash, connections, or c--k. 

Ken gives tips on how to manage negative thoughts about yourself, the world, and your future, and how to use positive affirmations. 

Ken discusses how to not only recover from crystal meth abuse, but how gay men can avoid being ensnared by it in the first place, through sex-positive individual and collective public health efforts. 

Ken gives guidance on how single gay men can cope with loneliness and frustration on Valentine's Day. 

Ken reviews how gay men can change their lives for the better, with the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Ken discusses Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" for the risks of relationship breakup, and tips for avoiding them.

Ken gives tips on how birthdays are an especially poignant time for gay men, and relates them to self-esteem. 

Ken describes how gay male couples who choose monogamy can have a hotter sex life without necessarily opening their relationship.

Ken gives a list of tips on how gay men can make the best of the midlife years. 

Ken gives tips on overcoming shyness and social anxiety in gay men, with practical tips on starting, continuing, and ending new conversations in social settings. 

Gay men's specialist therapist and coach (27 years) Ken Howard, LCSW, teaches how to make and sustain desired life changes and meet goals in ways that go beyond just "resolutions". 

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist therapist/coach for over 27 years, gives perspectives on how even the non-religious the world over can enjoy the Christmas holiday season. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, gay men's specialist therapist, discusses the connection between the gym/fitness and mental health for gay men, based on inspirational fitness leaders. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses the role of Thanksgiving for gay men's family of origin, and family of choice. 

Gay men's specialist therapist and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses ""Gay Men and Appearance Privilege: What It Is, What To Do About It"

Ken Howard, LCSW, guides gay male couples on how to achieve relationship satisfaction non-sexually ("the living room") and sexually ("the bedroom"). 

Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses how gay men recover from crystal meth dependence, and advocates for community education on innovative, sex-positive ways to prevent meth dependence. 

Ken discusses how to confront and overcome our fears on the occasion of Halloween. 

Ken discusses jealousy in gay male relationships and how to cope with it. 

Ken gives tips for how gay men cope with a breakup of a platonic friendship and making new friends throughout life. 

Ken discusses a research article by Leah Fessler, "The Strongest Predictor of Men's Well-Being" and how it relates to life/career coaching. 

Ken gives tips for gay men's dating and relationships by using an analogy that refers to the status lights of a computer modem.

Ken gives information on gay men who are sexual abuse, incest, and rape survivors; common characteristics and coping to thrive. 

Ken describes tips for "reclaiming your time" and reducing your stress in our "too busy" modern lives. 

Ken describes how gay male and straight relationships differ, based on observations in over 27 years doing couples therapy with gay men.

Ken gives 12 tips, as an older gay man, to younger gay men, on how to improve quality of life at any age. 

Ken gives a list of tips on why having a f--- buddy or friend with benefits can be an important resource for gay men. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist, gives tips on how gay men can cope with erectile dysfunction (ED). 

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay psychotherapist specializing in gay men for 27 years, gives tips for when there is relationship conflict because one partner feels his partner isn't contributing equally to the relationship. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist therapist for over 27 years, and sex therapist, gives tips for gay men on how to overcome a fear of topping. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, gives tips on how to overcome the 5 most common fears gay men report about bottoming heard in his psychotherapy practice at GayTherapyLA. 

Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, discusses the phenomenon of gay men and "ghosting", suddenly stopping communication for seemingly no reason. 

Ken's associate clinician at Gay Therapy LA, Matthew Allen, MA, APCC, discusses gay men's relationship with social media apps and how to turn stress into success. 

Gay therapist specialist Ken Howard, LCSW, founder and director of Gay Therapy LA, interviews gay therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Associate Clinician at Gay Therapy LA, on religious abuse of gay men and how therapy can help survivors heal and thrive. 

Ken lists the 6 most common reasons gay men cheat in monogamous relationships, and offers a "fix" for each one.

Gay men's specialist therapist, Ken Howard, LCSW, gives four strategies for gay men struggling with depression to get help and relief. 

Tips for problem-solving common challenges that arise in gay men's open relationships. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay men's specialist therapist and coach for over 27 years, gives tips on how to cope with deciding whether to go back into a new relationship with an ex. 

GayTherapyLA is a private practice for psychotherapy and coaching services, with Ken Howard, LCSW, as its founder and director, with over 26 years experience providing services for gay men, as individuals and couples, with offices in Los Angeles and serving others nationwide in the U.S. or guys all over the world via phone or webcam sessions.  Ken and his associates provide help for gay men to achieve their optimum quality of life in both their personal lives and careers.  While a podcast cannot substitute for therapy and is provided as educational information only, these episodes reflect the work done at GayTherapyLA with clients, daily.  Your questions and comments are welcome! 

Gay therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST gives seven secret tips and recommendations for how gay male couples and polycules can enhance their relationship for both longevity and satisfaction. 

Ken describes the emotional benefits of kink play for gay men, with their implications for daily life and personal self-empowerment. 

Ken describes Gender Role Enforcement Rage: what it is, who is doing it, its harms, and what to do about it. 

Ken takes a Mindfulness look at how gay men can enjoy the Holiday Season with the five senses of sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. 

Ken discusses gay men and "Santa Daddy," gay men's approaches to Santa Claus, inspired by the song, "Santa Baby," and inspiration for the holiday season. 

Ken discusses the most common unconscious barriers gay men have to reaching their full potential from 30 years practicing therapy and coaching for gay men. 

Ken discusses how gay men can reclaim their right to spirituality even after abuse by religious institutions. 

Ken gives tips on how to start each day with a strong mental health to give inspiration and focus to meet our goals as gay men.  (To support the show, visit glow.fm/gaytherapylawithkenhowardlcswcst)

Ken describes the Top 10 reasons gay male couples break up, as observed in over 30 years of practice as a gay specialist therapist, and offers a coping strategy to prevent each one. 

Ken describes his role offering Executive Coaching for gay men and its many purposes and functions. 

Ken reviews the most common complaints and challenges from single gay male clients in dating, and how to adaptively cope with each of them. 

Ken discusses lessons learned in writing his full-length, LGBT-themed musical play, "On the Boulevard," its concept album, and its themes for gay men's self-acceptance. 

Ken gives tips for gay male relationships managing the economics of time, energy, money, convenience, space, control, and sex. 

Gay men's specialist psychotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and coach Ken Howard, LCSW, CST provides a self-reflection exercise to know your own sexuality in more depth; your background, hopes, fears, best, and worst experiences to re-empower your sexual self at every phase of life. 

Ken announces that the audio file for "Episode 129: Gay Men and Superheroes as Role Models" has been corrected due to a previous incomplete audio file, and now listeners can enjoy the complete episode.   

(NOTE: This episode was corrected from an earlier recording that was cut off early.) Ken discusses classic superhero characters from comics and movies, who they are, what they mean for gay men, and what we can learn from them. 

Ken discusses traumatic experiences such as child abuse, illness, accidents, crime, and interpersonal betrayals and the long-term coping in life for each of these. 

Ken discusses areas of gay men's relationships that can feel out of balance, and how to re-establish fairness and equality in those areas for the long term. 

Ken discusses some unusual and unique considerations for gay men when discovering a partner has "cheated" or broken an agreement, with tips on how to understand layers of nuances for healing. 

Ken reviews the top six factors for gay men in breaking a monogamy agreement in gay male relationships, and what the "fix" for each one is. 

Ken discusses the history of LGBT civil rights activism and how we can all contribute in our own ways to the movement. 

Ken gives tips on how to navigate mixing a new boyfriend with your existing group of friends or family, and how to cope with the most common challenges. 

Ken discusses the functions and purposes that casual hookups for gay men can be, and the importance of affirming our own sexual self-empowerment. 

Ken gives tips on the life lessons gay men can learn from actors in the entertainment industry, about character, sex, and telling our stories.

Ken discusses how to cope when our mentors have flaws: parents, teachers, professors, bosses, work mentors, and therapist/coaches, and how to cope when they disappoint us. 

Ken discusses how to make positive changes in the new year in how you approach your sex life in your mind, heart, and body. 

Ken attended the 2022 CLAW (Cleveland Leather Awareness Weekend) Conference in Los Angeles, and gives tips from the kink education seminars for gay men he attended there. 

Ken discusses how gay men can cope with the frustrations of being single when you want a partner, and how we can rally our internal and external resources to be at our best. 

Ken discusses gay men overcoming specific traumas related to the workplace, family of origin, political, and social/peer areas, and tips for how to cope with them triumphantly. 

Ken discusses gay men overcoming specific traumatic experiences that can be medical, legal, academic, or criminal, and tips for coping triumphantly with each of them. 

Ken discusses the rewards and challenges for gay men with pets, and some cognitive/behavioral coping strategies for each of them. 

In the second of this two-part episode, Ken discusses more "deal breakers" in gay men's dating, and gives tips for their alternatives. 

In Part One of this two-part episode, Ken gives guidance on six of the most common dating "no-go's" for gay men, how to cope with them and their alternatives. 

A discussion of the mental health and sociio-political impacts of Monkey Pox for gay men, and how to cope with them. 

Gay men's specialist psychotherapist, life/career/executive coach, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gives an overview of gay men and recovering from trauma to reclaim our lives. 

In this Part Two of "Gay Men and Kink: Sensory Enhancements to Sex: Materials, Circumstances, and Fabrics: An Overview", Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, gives information on how leather, rubber, and other materials can be used in erotic play for gay men. 

Licensed psychotherapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, provides an overview for gay men of the materials and circumstances for kink play in a safe and consensual context. 

Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, offers stories about LGBT Pride Season 2022, and the value of the summer vacation romance.