No Deep Dives by FlexMami

Normalcy? In 2024? Are you sure? I’m trying to unpack how niche behaviours, trends and belief systems have exploded into the mainstream, making everything feel ‘normal’ and yet totally strange at the same time. Australians online are becoming hyper aware and paranoid of cool in a way that feels uncharacteristically American.  We’ll also dive into the mental gymnastics of trying to be aware of what is popular and important to people (thus cool) and the ever shifting standards. Also!! Didn’t Carl Jung teach us about individuation for a reason. The belief that knowing and celebrating the chosen self is far more important than confirming.    Timestamps 00:00 intro + iphone notes 01:30 the elusive concept of normalcy 02:43 Australian coolness and American takeover 06:09 the sisyphean pursuit of normal and cool 15:32 don’t deny what is happening in the shadows 17:49 light + shadow = individuation 24:02 creative practices and wrapping up   Links Carl Jung Shadow Work

Ok, hold on tight because in this episode we’re getting intimate with this sometimes strange concept of ‘doing the work’! Examining through various lenses including philosophy, personal growth & astrology (naturally).    Posing the question - how profound can our daily routines and disciplined efforts be in our lives? We’re getting juicy as we delve into philosophies like Carl Jung’s shadow work, Brene Brown and more!   Dipping into vibes of the Sixth and Tenth Houses in astrology we reflect on how these houses are all about mastering yourself, giving back, and shining in the public eye. We’ll chat about how to juggle your everyday tasks while staying true to your bigger goals, shake off old biases, and break free from what society expects. It’s all about boosting self-awareness and making real, meaningful changes in your life! Timestamps 00:00 it’s me again 00:33 what even is doing the work 04:17 what we do in the shadows; Shadow Work and Self-Examination 07:51 therapeutic and healing work 14:55 perfecting the process; thank you sixth house 21:43 hello tenth house giving us every day maintenance 24:21 the essence of Leo in the sixth house 24:40 is it what’s inside that counts? Balancing validation and internal work 27:00 the natural zodiac and sixth house rulership 28:34 the sixth house is deep 31:57 Mercury's influence on the sixth house 33:29 let’s get to understand the tenth house 35:16 GO TIME: Societal Expectations vs Personal Ambitions 40:44 we love synergising energies in the Birth Chart 41:59 shadow work journal prompts 42:52 you know where to find me

I love being a statistic. Mindfulness and routines are actually working for me. As in, I don’t wake up with a pit in my chestgood  and a looming sense of Iike that later is validated by the horror’s on my timeline.  Who knew that structure can equal freedom, they should teach us this in school , or maybe they did & I wasn’t listening! I’m chatting about some of the things that make up my regular routines, yoga, massages, and morning pages. I’ll break down the sticky, tricky world of discipline and how those vexatious thought loops can hold us back. I’ll also share some thoughts on why traditional talk therapy might not tackle the bigger picture. With a sprinkle of wisdom from the Gita and my counselling studies, I’ll talk about syncing your values with your actions, consciously uncoupling from overthinking, and making choices that help you grow. As always, astrology is linked to EVERYTHING so you can hear all about how the sixth house connects to this discussion. This episode really has it all, listen immediately! Here's my Instagram 🧿 Timestamps 00:00 sweetie pies, it’s me 01:13 talk therapy woes 04:34 neoliberal influence on self-optimisation 07:13 I feel so ME with my somatic and daily routines 14:43 action vs. intellectualising 17:11 soft muscles = emotional growth 21:12 getting out of your mind to get into yourself; breaking intellectual thought loops 23:47 taming perfectionism and self-doubt 25:11 action vs. inaction: lessons from the Gita 28:09 the pleasure of simple mindfulness practices: disrupting the mental loop 31:32 bridging the knowing and the doing through embodied values 32:25 final thoughts and farewell, miss you dearly

In this episode of the No Deep Dives podcast, I’m excavating my brain to discuss themes such as community, cisheteropatriarchy, and the concept of ideas as relationships. I like to personify my thoughts to understand them so I’m delving into how attention, focus, and creating mental space influence creativity. Plus I'll share my experiences with acupuncture, yin-yang energy balance, and the significance of integrating mind, body, and spirit for holistic well-being. As I think about my path to avoid burnout, let me stress the need for practical self-care and the importance of sharing knowledge to evolve and regulate emotions collectively. We'll wrap things up with a call for engagement, somatic suggestions, and an invitation to keep the conversation going - yes I'm talking to YOU!!   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hello sweetie pies 01:09 the art of personifying ideas to understand them 08:08 you won't believe how I'm draining my yang energy 13:57 what my body trying to tell me uncovered through acupuncture and somatic practices 20:01 if you're thinking too much in meditation you're not meditating 26:15 please don't burn out 33:36 bye, mwah

In this episode of No Deep Dives, I’m getting into Ikigai, the Japanese philosophy about finding your life’s purpose. Honestly, at first, I thought it was one of those buzzwords you'd find in an airport bookstore and kept it moving. But once I actually started applying it to my life, things started to click. I’m breaking down the four key areas of Ikigai: what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can get paid for—because we love a good paycheck! Along the way, I’ll chat about why multitasking is a myth, how social media is wrecking our attention spans, and why doing things that take actual brainpower matters. Expect my usual mix of personal stories, some astrology realness, and wellness hacks like acupuncture and journaling. If you're looking for a holistic chat on finding your purpose (without the fluff), this is for you. The video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F1mK8Hts5HA&list=WL&index=1&t=1s   Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi i missed u 01:54 astrology update 03:08 "how do you say??" 04:52 locking in (a lifestyle) 06:48 airport bookstore philosophy 09:29 ikigai!!!! 17:01 a strong foundation 23:25 miss u bye

WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON!!! I'm tempted to say it's because Mars moved out of witty and superficial Gemini, into sensitive and self protective Cancer. This episode brings me to the eternal question: does passive aggression ever get the job done? From a surreal confrontation with strangers demanding silence by the river to deep dives into emotional intelligence, we’re exploring how our demons often sneak up on us sideways. Is passive aggression a form of self-protection, or just emotional avoidance? And how does the astrological vibe of Mars in Cancer intensify this sneaky behavior? Along the way, I reflect on lessons from yoga, breathwork, and astrology, as we unpack how to turn our emotional triggers into conscious action instead of passive stand-offs. Plus, we explore philosophical insights from the Bhagavad Gita and how it challenges us to reflect on the deeper distinction between self-awareness and self-knowledge. We also break down how over-intellectualizing our emotions can lead to dissociation, particularly during yoga and other mindfulness practices. We’re drawing from ancient philosophy, yoga insights, and that cosmic question, “Is it better to speak or to die?” Tune in for a mix of wit, wisdom, and just the right amount of chaos. Rate five stars—don’t make me ask twice! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!   Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi am i better now? 00:24 pass-agg river confrontation 08:51 mars is in cancer!!! 15:35 emotional processing update 27:42 self awareness vs. self knowledge 30:49 i fear discipline works

AHHH! WE HAVE DONE IT AGAIN. Genius insights, but this time with philosopher and TikTok creator Jordan Stacey (@jordstac). Despite battling a scratchy throat, we explore Jordan's fascinating journey from science enthusiast to spiritual seeker and unpack how those two worlds collide in unexpected ways. We discuss the dichotomy between nakedness and mess when revealing our vulnerabilities and reflect on how dreams can be a tool for subconscious processing. Together, we critique the limitations of short-form content in building genuine empathy, diving into how the internet's binary narratives fall short of replicating the depth of real-life interactions. 🪐 How studying science ironically led to a spiritual awakening 🪐 The tug-of-war between creativity and aesthetics 🪐 Why dreams might hold the key to subconscious processing 🪐 The anxiety trap of constantly evolving your self-concept 🪐 The struggle between leading with your nakedness vs. your mess 🪐 How short-form content might be killing real empathy 🪐 Why real-world chaos beats curated online peace We emphasize the importance of embracing chaos and unpredictability in a world obsessed with curated peace. Tap in for a conversation that’s full of sharp insights, deep laughs, and more questions than answers. Rate five stars—don’t make me ask twice! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you! Jordan's TikTok Jordan's Podcast   Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi, missed you 01:33 science to spirituality pipeline 07:06 creativity is spirituality 13:14 challenging self concept 18:23 dreams for subconscious processing 34:04 masking & personal intimacy 34:47 high school social experiments 35:13 racism 36:11 the layers of friendship 38:16 pursuing knowledge is a xxxx 54:11 empathy, sympathy, and pity 01:03:05 online vs irl  01:06:39 bye!!

In this episode, I dive into the shifting nature of time and how novelty (or lack thereof) impacts our perception of it. From the thrill of trying new things and expanding life’s horizons, to the monotony of routine that makes the days blur together, we explore how to break free of that Groundhog Day feeling. I also touch on the double-edged sword of celebrity gossip, over-empathizing with Bruno Mars, and the wild ride of Blink Twice, Zoe Kravitz’s unsettling new film. Plus, I reflect on the subtle manipulation tactics in wellness spaces that can disarm even the most self-aware among us. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi sweetie pie 01:08 slutty for yerba mate 03:42 time perception paradox 06:58 celeb culture monsense 10:00 movie review for 'blink twice' 19:07 wellness spaces and informed consent 21:25 the odd water roleplay activity 24:05 authority and consent 24:25 mama, mami and baby 26:17 cult focused 30:41 fear vs danger 37:54 false modesty and manipulation

In this episode, I dive into the chaos of balancing life’s highs and lows—from the perfect alignment of life’s stepping stones to the draining effects of my period. We explore how I’m using my birth chart as a practical guide (not just an excuse for bad behaviour) and my revelation during an intense Iyengar yoga session in Bali about staying present with discomfort instead of dissociating.  We also explore the sneaky ways social media mimics a casino, hooking us into endless scrolling for that next dopamine hit. And then when things couldn’t get weirder, I got hit with a $1,715 jury duty fine (in a state I don’t live in)?? HELP!! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!!   Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 hi sweetie pie 00:40 I'm a cartographer 02:19 astrological experiments 04:48 iyengar yoga ... why did you warn me 06:50 ok feeling emotions again 14:46 digital detoxing? 17:25 analog vs virtual 21:36 always processing 34:11 see you next week

Is this just what the Algorithm Overloads ordered? Another high-energy episode exploring the cultural underpinnings of 'Little Red Riding Hood,' and the socialisation of children (prompted by me, Flex, wearing a red veil to yoga). Learn about the weird origin of children's literature and unlock new trauma responses (long story). Plus, get a taste of Chinese metaphysics, (we *just* entered a new 20 year period!!). This episode is a must-listen if you love deep, analytical yet playful discussions! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you!! P.S: This episode was recorded during Mercury Retrograde in Virgo. Forgive me if I misspeak or misquote xoxo. P.P.S: WE FOUND A NEW PODCAST EDITOR!!   Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Hi!!!! 01:44 blame it on the bean juice (soda) 02:08 daily routine epiphany 05:52 a trip down (someone else's) memory lane 08:49 remember little red riding hood? 13:09 wait ... what's the moral here? 23:25 NEW (20 YEAR) ERA UNLOCKED 26:52 hotties research Chinese metaphysics 35:04 more about period nine 38:42 bye bye bye bye

I played '7 Things' by Miley Cyrus and felt like I REALLY HEARD IT FOR THE FIRST TIME. Shout out to transforming mental dialogue. In this episode we're doing what we do best: asking questions to ask more questions.I'll be attempting to ask the age old question: "why are you studying counselling?", then take you through some of the insights. Like why asking why is usually the wrong question to ask (excuse ME??), person-centered therapy, paraphrasing, Carl Rogers' unconditional positive regard, and the challenge of maintaining empathy without enabling. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now! 💖   Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 01:06 Stop Asking Why (*scary*) 02:20 Ok but wHY THOUGH? 03:49 The Art of Paraphrasing 07:43 Person-Centered Therapy (so sexy) 10:06 Unconditional Positive Regard (processing tbh) 11:29 Ethical Dilemmas in Counseling 12:34 The Need for Practical Skills in Conflict Resolution 14:41 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Is it possible for our brainwaves to sync up with people we like? 🧠 Or how many virtual hangouts it takes to match a real-life four-hour dinner? 🍽️ We'll get into the nitty-gritty of why technology can't quite replace face-to-face interactions (I discovered this during my VOGUE CODES panel: Technocopia). Plus, let’s clear the air on my Instagram sermon about the supposed death of chivalry – hint: it might not be feminism’s fault. 💡 I also take you through some historical detours, like the concept of courtly love. Expect some enlightening exchanges about the ever-evolving social norms and how patriarchy is like a house with serious structural issues – yep, it’s leaking!  ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now! 💖   IMPORTANT LINKS https://www.vogue.com.au/vogue-codes/news/lessons-from-the-vogue-codes-2024-summit/image-gallery/1486dcbfe6b33350025d6f011a8001ac https://www.instagram.com/p/C720M1ihtzj/?img_index=1 https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/brain-waves-synchronize-when-people-interact/   DIVE DEEPER No Deep Dives TikTokNo Deep Dives InstagramNo Deep Dives SubstackNo Deep Dives SlackFlexMami Instagram   TIMESTAMPS 00:11 Natural High?01:08 Synchrony Is Sexy (and REAL!)03:02 VOGUE Codes Panel Gossip03:59 Virtual vs. Physical Connections15:09 The PR Problem of Modern Relationships21:31 Patriarchy, Feminism, and the Struggle for Power26:52 Closing Thoughts: Patriarchy's Cracks and Future30:08 The Evolution of Chivalry and Romance

If you like someone’s content, you can invite them to come onto your podcast and chat. On this episode of No Deep Dives, I chop it up with Jaliessa Sipress – Astrology, Wizzard and MossPerson™️ about the pitfalls of being alive, the beauty of the birth chart, the joy of internet mutuals and the reality of practising esotericism.

The more you watch people think without adding thoughts, the harder it is to remember that you also need to think to have thoughts? And other thoughts that are crystallising in real time, like, did a week of apples and peanut butter cause my constipation?

The wordsmith yapper jumped out. In this episode we’re talking about friendship sustainability and social portion control. I would elaborate but that’s what the podcast is for.

Sorry to stress you out!!!! I’ve had an epiphany spurred by flashbacks of Year 10 Religion classes. Didn’t we learn in Buddhism that desire is suffering? So, the pursuit of joy is riddled with pain? Maybe the ”bad” stuff we experience doesn’t exactly mean that our lives are deficient – perhaps they’re just symptoms of being a person.

The softboys are fighting! The Pick Me(n) are turning on each other! The timeline wants to know, is the man content creating painting his nails, talking about the glass ceiling and lipsyching to Hozier a feminist or misogynist in sheep clothing?

Considering I only figured out the difference between emotions and feelings in 2023, it makes sense to revisit values. Words mean things and I’m determined to understand them!!!!!

What happens when violence BY MEN against women is documented in real-time by said women on TikTok? What if this caused such severe outrage that the perpetrator was found and apprehended in days? Have you heard about the femicide in South Korea and the 4B Movement created in response?

Well, at least now it’s abundantly clear that I really do take my dreams seriously. Why did I shave my head? It came to me ... in a dream (literally).

I’m microdosing an official book club by keeping you in the loop of what I’m reading. It spans from spicy to existential, but surely that doesn’t surprise you.

Live Nation just dropped about Gen Z trends and culture in 2024. Is it accurate?

Can a titanium piece of smart jewellery really help you meet your wellness goals? Or is the Oura Ring the latest micro-trend gadget nobody needs? Here's my Instagram 🧿 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome to No Deep Dives: Acknowledging the Land00:10 Flexmami's Oura Ring Journey Begins00:52 The Oura Ring Experience: Expectations vs. Reality02:03 Diving Deeper into the Oura Ring's Features and Claims02:46 The Oura Ring Review: A Personal Experiment04:29 Pros, Cons, and the Verdict on the Oura Ring07:40 Reflecting on the Oura Ring and Broader Wellness Tech10:51 Closing Thoughts and Community Engagement   In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex provides a semi-comprehensive review of her two-month experience with the Oura Ring. Despite initial excitement about the gadget's promise to track sleep and overall wellness through various metrics, she ultimately does not recommend it. Flex discusses the Oura Ring's features, including its ability to monitor heart rate, blood oxygen level, and provide 20 different biometrics. However, she critiques the usefulness and accuracy of the data provided, expressing confusion and disappointment over the lack of actionable insights derived from the statistics. She also mentions the need for a subscription to access full app functionalities. Flex expresses concern over the potential for developing a dependency on the device for health and wellness insights. Overall, Flexmami's review is mixed, highlighting the novelty of the Oura Ring but questioning its practicality and effectiveness in contributing to a better understanding of one's health.

Who knew the answer to all my problems was talking to myself first thing in the morning? I took a month-long social media hiatus, then returned as a JOURNALING MONSTER. Now, according to you, I’m glowing differently, my attitude has improved, and I have a way better understanding of who I am, what I want and what I need.

Do you live in the UK, the US or Australia? Has your emotional, mental and social well-being been on a steady decline for ages? I KNOW WHY!!!! This episode might validate you.

Is a feminist utopia the fairytale we've all been dreaming of? Though not all unicorns and fairy dust, Tineke Willemsen says it's "a place where at least women would like to live". DOES THAT SOUND LIKE SOMETHING THAT INTERESTS YOU? Send this to your best friend, family group chat and your situationship. 2024 and beyond is the year of Matriarchy propaganda, hehe.     Here's my Instagram 🧿   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgement00:17 Understanding Matriarchy and Patriarchy00:55 The State of the World and the Need for Change02:00 The Concept of a Feminist Utopia02:18 Understanding the Difference between Matriarchal and Matrilineal Societies02:36 The Journey Towards a Matriarchy03:17 Understanding Patriarchy and its Impacts04:24 The Struggle with Patriarchy05:07 The Definition and Implications of Patriarchy06:07 The Reality of Patriarchy and its Effects09:07 The Vision of a Matriarchy09:32 The Resistance to Matriarchy10:14 The Potential of a Matriarchy10:42 The Power Dynamics in a Matriarchy14:48 The Concept of Privilege in Patriarchy15:54 The Fear of Losing Power16:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Why is every hot, sexy and cerebral person drawn to spirituality? Is it leading us to eventual enlightenment? Or just a creative coping mechanism for the symptoms of being a human?

Is there even a difference these days? What is it about our compulsion to slap inflammatory labels on things? Is it an accurate summation, misogyny or a secret third thing? Here's my Instagram 🧿 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction and Acknowledgement 00:38 The Controversy Around Nara Smith's Content 01:44 Exploring the Mormon Connection 02:37 The Shift in Audience Perception 04:41 The Trad Wife Debate 06:43 The Role of Appearance in Content Perception 07:17 The Misogynoir in Content Critique 08:36 Comparing Nara Smith and Ballerina Farm 09:23 The Propaganda Argument 10:34 The Impact of Appearance on Perception 11:11 The Bigger Picture: Patriarchy and Misogyny 11:37 The Role of Religion in Content Creation 12:28 The Danger of Borrowed Takes 17:50 The Intersection of Media Consumption 18:02 Conclusion and Call to Action

What if you were the gatekeeper of a divine realm? Would you turn into a power-hungry egomaniac or an empathetic assistant?

In this episode of No Deep Dives, Flex chats about MAFS and how it might be the gateway drug for arranged marriages in Australia.

Join Logie-Nominee, best-selling author, and award-winning podcaster FlexMami in decoding the riddle of life. Each episode is earnest, optimistic, opinionated, sometimes superficial and never judgmental. Perfect for ruminators, over-thinkers and serial generalists searching for meaning (never resolution!).