The Hardcore Therapist

The science behind coregulation is deeply rooted in our biology and psychology, highlighting how interconnected we are as social beings. Let’s explore the scientific principles that explain why and how coregulation works. Then let's talk about how we can help kids coregulate and teach them emotional resilience.

On todays episode I talked to Justin Vela the hardest working 17 year old in Hardcore from the bay area. He is in Silenced, ANGEL, Stand Tall, and Famine. Justin is the lead singer of Stand Tall and plays guitar in his other bands. We talked about the pressures of having a dad in hardcore, high school, and wanting to focus on whats important.

In this second episode, I’ll be sharing my thoughts on supporting parents as they navigate the transition to an empty nest. We’ll dive into the expectations that come with this new chapter, focusing on acknowledging your emotions and embracing the importance of giving space for your kids to grow.

In this episode is with Norman Brannon, musician, writer, and educator in Brooklyn, New York. Norman is best known for his work in bands like Texas Is the Reason, New End Original, 108, Shelter, and Resurrection, and Thursday. He relaunched Anti Matter in 2023. Anti Matter was a fanzine from 1993-95 a compilation album in 1996 and a column that ran in punk planet in the late 90’s.

The Hardcore Therapist. Today, we’re diving into how you can support your child in navigating life beyond high school. From choosing the right path—be it college, vocational training, or straight into the workforce—to developing essential life skills, we'll discuss practical tips and insights to help you empower your child in building a future they’re excited about.

On this episode Sarah spoke to fellow hardcore lover Kula Pradipa about being a Chaplin, Hardcore, working in hospitals during the pandemic, Stanford and Krishna Consciousness.

In this episode I focused on detaching from an appearance-focused mindset can be particularly difficult because their sense of self-worth is deeply intertwined with how they perceive their body and different ways you can change your mindset.

In this episode Sarah talks to Aram bout hardcore and punk in the 80's becoming a therapist, coach and how Hardcore and Punk influenced his life in Business. Aram is the host of One Step Beyond Podcast.https://cadenceleadership.ca/podcast/

In this episode, I talk about grieving over many years since Dennis's death. How art, therapy, Al Anon, and CODA helped me. Today he would have been 52. As a legacy I will continue to do training on Narcan and Harm Reduction. If you are interested in learning more please reach out to me at @thehardcoretherapist on IG

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist Sarah sat down with Chris Zinnel who wrote H-Bomb Rising From The Ashes of Addiction A Memoir. He is an inspiration!

In this special episode The Hardcore Therapist and The Sober Dad Crew talk about life being sober, co-parenting, blended families, music and all things! Stephen is rad and you should check out the @sober_dad_crew Stephen Kimball on IG and on all podcast streaming services.

In this episode Sarah sits down with Sammy asking him about touring at 15 and the differences at touring at 51. Sammy talked about school, his favorite Saturday cartoons, playing drums and what advice he would give his 15 year old self.

This question came up: Why do I intellectually know I'm not a difficult person but my inner dialogue create a negative image of myself?It's common to experience a disconnect between how we intellectually understand ourselves and how we emotionally perceive ourselves. Reasons why were answered and how to make changes.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah sat down with Rich Thurston (Culture, On Bodies, No Graves and more) and discussed South Florida Hardcore, life changes, therapy, and inner work. R

Jeremy and Ryan from Noise Advocate Podcast ask me about being me and what I do. Check it out. Fun Episode with these two fellow Michiganders!

Cameran Sassman author of the book In Between Shows Side A and her second book is In Between Shows Side B. Cameran grew up in New Jersey and lives in Massachusetts where she teaches middle school science. She is a fierce fellow 80’s and 90’s hardcore music lover and Star Wars as well. https://www.inbetweenshows.com/

These are the negative thought patterns or mental habits that undermine our success and happiness. In the book Positive Intelligence it identifies ten common Saboteurs, which act as inner critics, creating self-doubt, stress, and anxiety. Each Saboteur has a specific behavior or way of thinking that prevents us from reaching our full potential.

Colby Mancasola who is the co-founder and drummer of the band Knapsack. He currently lives in the Bay Area and is Digital Experience leader, dad and in the band Colt Wave.

In this episode I discuss how to help parents when their kids are resistance. I work to help parents understand how to stop the power struggle.

Sarah sits down with John to talk about Hardcore, becoming Straight Edge, down time and functional movement. Check it out!

In this episode Vadim and I spoke about grief of losing a dear friend. In memory of Steven Jon. @vadimtaver

In this episode Sarah discusses with Dave about chronic pain, hardcore, art and music. Dave is prolific with his visual, performance and musical art.

In a podcast episode discussing Julie and John Gottman's concept of "Fighting Right," the focus is on how successful couples handle conflict to strengthen their relationships. The Gottmans, renowned relationship researchers, have identified three main conflict styles that couples typically use. Understanding these styles can help couples navigate disagreements more effectively, turning potential conflicts into opportunities for connection and growth.

Jonathan Anastas who co-formed and played bass in the seminal Boston hardcore bands DYS and Slapshot, writing and playing on the DYS records Brotherhood and DYS as well as Slapshot's debut record Back on the Map. Jonathan and Sarah discussed parenting, work, hardcore and risky play for kids.

Chronic autoimmune diseases can have a significant impact on mental health due to the ongoing physical, emotional, and social challenges they present. I discuss tips and real life impacts to people's mental health.

In this special episode of the Hardcore Therapist, Sarah sits down with Hari Kirtana is a yoga teacher, spiritual mentor, author of Journey Into the Bhagavad Gita: A guide to Exploring Timeless Principles of Transcendental Knowledge and Integrating Them Into YOur Life and in search of the Highest Truth: Adventures in Yoga Philosophy. He has been practicing devotional and yogic disciplines for over 40 years and has lived in ashrams and international spiritual communities. He is 800 hour ...

Sarah sits down with Garrett Rothman about growing up in the 80's, his bands, and work. He is the bass player in the band Calling Hours with Popeye Vogelsang. The record that came out is called Say less and he is in a band with Dave Smalley called Don’t Sleep. In the 90’s he was in Junction. Check it out, he is really cool!

The question I explored for the episode was How do you integrate spiritual practice into therapy? Integrating spiritual practices into therapy can be a holistic approach to healing that addresses the mind, body, and spirit.

Sarah sits down with Raghunath and discussed his book Punk to Monk and life including life lessons, advice, and story telling. This was a fun episode.

In this episode I address the question of how to find a therapist that works with sex workers and how to seek guidance and help to address concerns and bias.

In this episode, Sarah spoke to Govardhana dāsa. He is an ayurvedic practitioner, Ironman triathlete, ultrarunner, and bhakti-yogi in the Bhugarbha Goswami branch of the Gadadhara parivar. We talked about, training, hardcore, ayurveda, and moving to Sri Sri Radhakund, India.https://www.prananathayurveda.com/store/p/parikrama-running-as-ritual-retreat

Cutting off friends due to their addictions can be a challenging and emotional decision. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and sobriety, and sometimes that means distancing yourself from people who may negatively influence you or jeopardize your recovery.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah sits down with Gurunistha and discussed, his book called The Recovering Materialist from a Nordic Hardcore Punk to Hindu Monk in California. They discussed Krishnacore, monastic life, and growing up in Finland, listening to anthrax and New York hardcore.

Being in a relationship with someone who struggles with self-love can be challenging and emotionally taxing. The duration you can sustain such a relationship depends on several factors and is a personal decision. Here are some thoughts that might help!

In this episode, Sarah and Jiva talk about New York Hardcore, Recovery, Bhakti and creating the Bhakti Recovery Group.

In this episode Sarah discusses supporting a partner with mental health issues can be challenging, especially when they are reluctant to seek help.

In this episode Sarah and Joe talked about growing up in Philly, touring, how to make changes and This Is Hardcore. Joe was so interesting and thoughtful. Check it out!!!

Recovery and Mental Health at music festivals is a topic I am passionate about. I had a great talk with some members of bands discussing the important of sobriety and meetings at festivals while at Camp Punksylvania this weekend. Check out my thoughts.

In this episode, Sarah talks to Burkey about working out, mental health, forging, metal, and wilderness survival.

In this episode I answer the question, if you recognize your attachment style and you see yourself creating the same patterns how do you self correct?

In this episode Sarah and Balaram Shakti talked about everything from Hardcore to being teachers in the 21st century. Balaram discusses how he got introduced to yoga, how he uses it in his classroom and within the hardcore community and mental health.

On in this episode, Sarah talks to Pandit Dasa about his book mindfulness and the workplace.

In this episode, Sarah sits down with Kira Roessler to talk about growing up punk, being in Black Flag, mental health and what she is working on now. This was a pleasure to record!

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah had special guest on herbalist, educator, podcaster and dear friend Ashley Elenbaas to discuss why is life so hard. In the discussion, Ashley and Sarah talk about personal experiences, raising children, Al Anon and friendship. This is was a fun hybrid episode!

This is part one of a series with Vedic Astrologer Drew Lawrence ( https://www.drewlawrence.com/) He talks about his life and detachment.

In this episode, Sarah talks to Nancy Barile about life in punk and hardcore and how it affected her life as a teacher. We also talked about aging and feminism as elder punk and hardcore women.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah answered part one of a two-part question about exercise, sleep, and diet, and how it affects mental health. The second part will be answered next week on herbal remedies, tinctures, and other holistic approaches.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah talked to Justin Coote about hardcore in the bay area, meeting his wife, horror, and mental health.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah talks about being at TIED DOWN and what her table is all about one at music festivals, Sarah discusses harm reduction and testing of drugs as part of a service to the hardcore community.

In this episode, Sarah talks to Mike Hartfield from Free Will outspoken and furious as well as the founder of New Age records. Talking about DIY influencing his life. Mike has been part of the California hardcore scene going all the way back to the '80s. He is also an actor and producer for Death Toilet 5: Invasion of the potty snatchers, Dark side of the Ring, and Orange County Hardcore Scenester.

A toxic attachment style in a relationship refers to patterns of behavior and emotional responses that are unhealthy, maladaptive, and can cause significant distress to both individuals involved. These attachment styles often stem from early childhood experiences and influence how people perceive themselves and others in intimate relationships. But it's possible to become healthy with effort, understanding, and professional support. Building a stable, trusting, and communicative e...

In this episode, Sarah talks to Daniel Austin, the vegan meathead who is in multiple bands, including Will to live and tooth and claw. He is an author power lifter, athlete, and activist. An awesome conversation about how hard-core has influenced many areas in his life.

Sarah discusses the Sandwich Generation and the difficulties of aging parents and children at home on self care and mental health

In this episode, Sarah and Lori discuss growing up in hardcore and changes we have made as women. We talked art, music, and Women of the Pit!

In this episode, Sarah discusses different strategies to obtain mental resilience. A question about how much resilience affect your life was answered in this episode.

In this episode of the Hardcore Therapist Sarah sat down with Peter Reyes who is a kundalini and vinyasa yoga teacher and a level 2 Wim Hof Method instructor. Sarah and Peter discussed the mind body connection.

Self-regulation involves managing one's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in order to achieve goals, adapt to situations, and maintain well-being. adults play a critical role in helping children develop self-regulation skills by modeling these skills themselves, providing guidance and support, and creating an environment that fosters emotional safety and connection. By investing in their own self-regulation, adults can positively impact the development and well-being of the children in their ...

In this episode Sarah sits down with Vique Martin and discussed 80's and 90's hardcore, growing up in the 80's, the music industry and psychology. This was a fun episode with lots of laughs and stories.

Sarah talks about her school days as an experiential, educator and venture based counselor and how that correlates to homeschooling and nature schools. Remember, these are just opinions. They are not something that you have to do.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah and Krishna Das, discuss hardcore and its influences, and how Krishna consciousness has been an asset to Krishna Das’s mental health

In this episode Sarah explains the differences with types of Eating Disorders and Disordered Eating.

In this episode Sarah and Greg Bennick from the band TRIAL talk about hardcore, art, humanitarian efforts, and books. Greg has a new book coming out August 20, 2024

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah explains what nonviolent communication is and the four step process to use it. Nonviolent communication is great for teachers, parents and in relationships.

In this episode Sarah and Antonio talk about hardcore in Miami in the 80's and 90's, the fitness industry, and public health.

Grief is not a linear path; it's a complex journey marked by various stages that we may cycle through in our own time and order. In this episode, we delve into the well-known Kübler-Ross model, exploring the stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

In this episode, Sarah sat down with long time friend Duncan Barlow to discuss Hardcore, life in Louisville, living in South Dakota, and Mental Health.

In this episode, I discussed what it’s like to end, a relationship with a narcissist, and how to heal and move forward. This is about about the person who needs to heal and not specifically about what is a narcissist.

In this episode, Sarah sits down with Gina from Women of the Pit to discuss hardcore, community building, being a mom, woman and creator!

Helping children with special needs cope when they are emotionally deregulated requires patience, understanding, and tailored strategies to meet their individual needs.

In this episode, Sarah sits down with the Vedic Astrologer Radhikesh discussing karma, birth, charts, and understanding how work is intertwined in your chart. Radikesh gave insight about astrology and mental health.

When children are unable to verbalize their feelings and resort to physical outbursts, it can be challenging but essential to help them cope effectively. Teaching self-regulation to children is a valuable skill that helps them manage their emotions, behavior, and impulses effectively.

In this episode, Sarah sits down with Bill Bellottie to discuss Detroit Hardcore sobriety photography, and working with canines.

In this episode, Sarah discusses what it’s like to be a part of the sandwich, generation and caring for children and aging parents. She discusses different techniques and reasons to understand and work through different aspects of caregiving.

Sarah sits down with Kelly brother Leonard to discuss being a woman in the straight edge scene, sisterhood of straight edge, and the culture of hardcore.

In this episode, Sarah discusses how to find, connect and get the best therapist for you. How to ask questions, and what questions to ask you choose a therapist.

Sarah sits down with Chaka Malik from Burn and Orange 9 mm. The two discussed hard-core spirituality and personal growth. Check out this amazing episode

In this episode, Sarah talks about postpartum depression, and nutrition. I focused on brain health and well as the physical body.

In this episode, Sarah sits down to talk with Kate. 08 from the band 108 about hard-core and being a woman in a band. We talked about Krishna consciousness, growing up in the 80's and feminism.

In this episode, Sarah talks broadly about rebuilding trust, and some ways that she has helped clients rebuilding trust in a relationship.

In this episode, Sarah and Kevin, sit down and talk about movement, grief, Bruce Lee, and what is the difference between a hobby and self-care. Kevin expresses how moving has helped him through grief and anxiety and depression.

In this episode, Sarah answers questions about sober curiosity and how it can affect your mental health in a positive way.

Sarah sits down and talks to Len from Detroit, hard-core bands, earthmover and poison tongues discussing 90s Hardcore and TSD and TBI from being in combat. Sarah and Lynne discuss therapy and working out and how it helps stabilize the both of them.

In this episode, I answer questions about intuitive, eating and mental health. I give a breakdown of what intuitive eating is and talk a little bit about my relationship with food. Check it out!

Josh and Sarah discuss a sick society, hardcore, 11th grade homework, and coming to a consensus!

Sarah had a question, asked about meditation and the brain, and she stumbled through as best she could to explain what she learned about meditation in the brain and some gut stuff as well. Enjoy this episode.

Sarah and Joey sit and talk about skateboarding, Bay Area Hardcore and family life.

Sarah answered a question about why meditate and how to get started.

Sarah sits down with Joe Clements of Fury 66 and HOTLUNG to talk Hardcore, Meditation, and sobriety!

Welcome to the short on learning differences and self esteem. Sarah talks about her story and resources that may help you or a loved one.

This episode I sat with my dear friend Garold Vallie and talked about Hardcore and Sobriety. Stories about growing up in Detroit, music, skating and learning to live a sober life!

This is the completed episode on body image and what I am doing to help myself!

My special guest today is Paramananda Das (John Porcelly) from Youth of Today, Judge, Shelter and so many more great bands. We talked about hardcore, yoga, mental health and social media!

This is Don and my perspective on what a spiritual relationship. We did another episode and held hands the entire time. Check out our thoughts on our marriage.

My personal struggles, body issues and how I have handled this through out the years. Not about hardcore but about my struggles.

Check out this episode with Josh Kane, talking about acting, hardcore, music, yoga, and a sick society.

Conversation between me and my friend Luke from the band Monsters Eat People. Talking about needing a space for men to practice yoga, meditating and mental health. Awesome conversation.... Listen up!

"It's crucial to acknowledge that the holiday season can bring a mix of emotions. While it's a time of joy and celebration, it can also be stressful, especially for those dealing with family dynamics. Expectations, past experiences, and the pressure to create perfect moments can contribute to heightened stress and anxiety."

Trauma bonding refers to a strong emotional connection that develops between a person and their abuser, particularly in situations where there is repeated abuse or harm.

My husband and I discussed our marriage as a long distance couple. Long-distance marriages require effort and patience, but they can be successful with commitment and a strong emotional connection. Keep the lines of communication open, stay positive, and focus on your shared future to make it work.