Happy Mum, Happy Teen

Do not listen to this whilst driving or operating machinery. 

Hi, this is a powerful Visualisation, using breath work to anchor in feelings and thoughts of Hope. You can use it at anytime throughout the day and as many times as you need. I believe you will feel a shift in your perspective and energy levels. If you have any questions, feel free to either message me below or email me: esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

Hi guys, LB Anne has written over 50 books, she has also had several completely different careers! Enjoy listening as she talks with Lara (aged 11) about what inspires her, keeps her motivated and feeling hopeful. LB's books are a real pleasure to read (for adults as well as teens). Enjoy listening. xxx

Hi guys, Demi was very gracious with her time and she talked to Cara (aged 12) about he time growing up and why football was so important for her. Demi plays for the England team as well as Manchester City. Demi shares how and why believing in children & young people is a gift that not enough people have. I hope you enjoy listening and learning more about this amazing pioneer. 

Hi guys did you know there was such a thing as "Hope Theory"? 

Dr Andrew wrote a paper on this theory a few years ago. He is excellent at simplifying and teasing out the various emotional strands which can make us feel helpless and hopeless. Roshni (16), is the lead in this conversation and she very naturally reflects back the bones of what Andrew says in a way which helps solidify the points he raises.

This is a podcast I will definitely listen to again, as I feel there are more gems to be collected, after I've put into practice a few of his suggestions.

If you have any questions, please email me; esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

Hi all, this is a slightly different slant on podcasting. The young people I know have expressed their feelings of helplessness and hopelessness for some time now; so I decided to help them see that they are powerful and that there is light at the end of the tunnel, by asking them to help me organise this mini series. 

I want them to know that most of the content I produce can be listened to by anyone, as there are nuggets of truth for people of all ages and from all backgrounds.

Thanks for listening and showing your support.

Esther xxx

In this episode, Albert, (who's also a psychotherapist, university lecturer and much much more), shares his personal journey from his head to his heart, in order to become the best father he could be. Albert talks a lot about reflecting on the parenting you received, it's effect on you and questioning the gaps. He say's you don't have to be perfect, as long as your heart is facing your child/ren, they will know you care and that you're doing your best. Albert and Leonida have written "A guide to everyday parenting: Connect with your teenager." which can be brought online.

In this episode Allan fields questions regarding LGBTQ+ teenagers, he provides a number of useful questions we can ask (ourselves and our teenagers) in order to show acceptance and support. Allan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Alamitos California.  He practices as an openly gay therapist and finds meaning and purpose by helping LGBTQ+ children, teens, and adults figure out their own journey towards healing, acceptance, and self-love.     Allan is also the author of Parenting Your LGBTQ+ Teen – A Guide to Supporting, Empowering, and connecting with Your Child.

In this episode Karen guides us through a number of conversations we get to have with our children and teenagers. Karen provides practical tips on how to create a safe, positive places where young people can talk about sex. Dr. Karen Rayne has worked in education for the past two decades with a speciality in sexuality education across the lifespan. She is the founder and executive director of UN|HUSHED, where she writes and edits books and lifespan comprehensive sexuality curricula, trains sexuality educators, and builds collaborative coalitions. She is also an Assistant Professor of Instruction at The University of Texas. Karen has worked with local, national, and international organizations. Her recent books and curricula include TRANS+: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You, An Introduction to Sexuality Education: A Handbook for Child Welfare Providers, and UN|HUSHED: The Elementary Curriculum.

In this episode Lana helps us understand the power of our thoughts and teaches us how to be present in the moment.  Lana is a certified life coach, speaker and author who, for the last ten years, has helped her clients move beyond insecurity by helping them understand what is truly coming between the freedom they desire and the limitations that they feel. She is the co-author of Women & Confidence; The Truth About The Lies We Tell Ourselves (2019) and co-creator of two on-line programs, “Confidence in a Box” and “The Confident Coach”. Lana holds a Bachelor's degree in psychology and a Master's degree in Industrial Relations.  Learn more at Lanabcoaching.com.

In this episode Dr Anisha teaches us about Shareting, how as parents, it's imperative that we ask our kids and teenagers for permission before sharing their photos and comments. Anisha goes on to say that when we do this, we role model responsibility, thereby helping teenagers to understand positive and negative consequences of sharing images and info.  Dr Anisha also answers many other questions, including perceptions of reality, screen time/ green time and the 3 C's. Anisha is a paediatrician, with a specialty in teen health currently on faculty at Children’s National Hospital in DC. Her book “Raising Global Teens: A Practical Handbook for Parenting in the 21st Century” was published in 2020.   Over the last 25 years, Anisha has served in a number of roles, including as Chief of Adolescent Medicine at Georgetown University Hospital, as a Lieutenant Colonel in the US Army and on faculty in the School of Public Health at Chinese University of Hong Kong.   As a clinician, Anisha treats young people with high risk health issues. As a speaker and health consultant, Anisha works with organizations, schools, parents and teens on preparing kids for the future.

In this episode, Claire answers the most asked questions around raising boys and establishing young men. Claire explains various ways we can cultivate and encourage the best from the male energy and characteristics.  

Claire Gillman is an experienced journalist, editor and writer. She has written over 25 books, including The Healing Therapies Bible, Best of Boys: Helping Your Sons through their Teenage Years and You and Your Ageing Parent: How to Balance Your Needs and Theirs. She is an editor and mentor for Jericho Writers (formerly the Writers' Workshop) and has enjoyed helping many aspiring writers to realise their dream of becoming a published author. Claire is also the editor of Kindred Spirit magazine. She's written on alternative health, parenting and spirituality for many women's magazines, The Times and other national newspapers. She was the editor of a number of consumer women's magazines including Health & Fitness magazine. 

For more information, please contact me at: esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

Hi guys, this is the 5th episode in the Calm and Confident Mum summit.  In this video Erica shares her scientific knowledge and decades of experience around why teenagers behave the way they do; as well as why Lockdown has given parents another chance to build stronger relationships with their children/teenagers. Erica Komisar, LCSW is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia University and The Contemporary Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to schools, clinics, corporations, and childcare settings.  Erica is also author of the book Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and has appeared on major media networks such as CBS, ABC, FOX and NPR. She is a regular contributor to the Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, New York Daily News and FOX 5 NY. She is a contributing editor for the Institute for Family Studies.

This is the 4th episode in my summit. Fiona explains that teenagers still say their first point of call for information around substance use/misuse is you- their parent. Fiona talks shares different ways we can talk to our teenagers about drugs and alcohol.

If you want to donate to The Drug Education Charity, please copy and paste this link: www.dsmfoundation.org.uk/  Available for purchase,  Fiona's new book for parents & carers  "I Wish I'd Known"  https://www.dsmfoundation.org.uk/more...

Fiona Spargo-Mabbs is Director and Founder of The Daniel Spargo-Mabbs Foundation, a drug and alcohol education charity which she set up in 2014 in response to the death of her 16-year-old son Daniel having taken ecstasy. Her book for parents on young people, drugs and decisions, ‘I wish I’d known’, was published by Sheldon Press in May 2021. Fiona brings to this work a wide range and depth of experience from many years of working in education at operational and strategic management levels locally and nationally, specialising in work with parents and families.  The DSM Foundation aims to support young people to make safe choices and reduce harm, through increasing their understanding of the effects and risks of drugs and alcohol, and improving their life skills & resilience. They work with young people, parents, teachers and professionals, in schools, colleges and communities across the UK. Fiona’s passionate commitment to do all she can to prevent what happened to her son happening to anyone else drives everything she does.  

For more information see www.dsmfoundation.org.uk

Hi guys, welcome to the 3rd episode in this summit, today Danny walks us through his 6 steps to building and maintaining confidence.    

Danny is offering a free gift: Discover your Confident Communicator Score now - Take the test, go here: https://dannygreevescoaching.scoreapp... 

Danny is a coach, physiotherapist, hypnotherapist, author, and speaker. His mission is to help empower people to confidently express themselves and feel inspired to share their value with the world. He is the winner of the Prestige 2021 Life Coach of the year award in London and South East England. He is the author of ‘Six Steps to Self-Confidence’ and ‘The Best Advice for Speakers' book alongside global influencers such as Dr. Demartini and Bob Proctor. He has presented at the London ExCel Centre and the Birmingham NEC discussing the workings of the human mind. Danny is a regular on BBC Radio Norfolk, speaks on a wide range of podcasts, and writes expert contributions for various online media publications. He is the founder of the Speak Up Stand Out Accelerator, a 12-week programme infusing best speaking practices and confidence-building coaching. 

For more information, please contact me at esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

Leonida believes that the utmost importance in her life are her roles as mother and wife.  Helping others has always been a priority in her life. After having spent many years practicing reflexology, she and her husband Albert began working with families and couples and continue to do so 25 years later. They offer individual therapy, organize workshops for parents and can often be found on stage lecturing.   Leonida’s innate abilities to look at even the most devastating of stories from a different angle, to develop empathy and always find new ways to invite the necessary change, make her special. Her methods are non-confrontational and simple, often very creative and imbued with humor.   For more information, please message me at: esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.ukHi guys, in this episode Leonida Mrgole shares how having a deeper connection with your child can help you interpret their behaviours and  increase your ability to help your child/teenager through the rough times. This is the foundation for the joy of parenting. Leonida and her husband have co-authored two handbooks for parents. The handbook entitled Connect with Your Teenager is available in English at https://vezal.si/en/connectwithyourte...

For more information, please message me at: esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

Hi guys, Cai is the first speaker in my "Calm and Confident Mum" summit. In this video she explains why self-care is so important and shares various strategies for improving our own self-care practices. Cai is a NLP Master Practitioner & Parenting Expert, she believes her mission is to equip parents and teens with the tools for navigating adolescence. Cai is a Parenting & Teen Coach, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. She specialises in supporting families overcoming obstacles; including communication issues, loss and trauma, so that they can enjoy a brighter future. ► Her MISSION? To Support Parents and Teenagers through Adolescence;  so that together we can Build a Mentally Healthier and Happier Generation of Young People.   For more information please contact: esther@jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

In this episode Luca presents his case for why young people should come together to effect change. Luca has been passionate about people's rights, the state of the environment and much more since he was a teenager and feels he must play an active part in communicating this to other young people.  For more info on joining a union, please visit: https://www.tuc.org.uk/joinunion

Hi guys,  In this episode Claire shares with us, the journey from having such serious OCD, where she couldn't leave the house and therefore had to leave mainstream school, to being kicked out and having to forge a new life on her own. Claire tells us how she found out what her triggers are and what lead her to lead the amazing life she has now, as a wife and mothers to 3 beautiful children. Ps sorry about my poor sound quality, thankfully Claire is loud and clear.  If you need help here are some links you can access: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/your-stories/overcoming-ocd-as-a-teenager/ https://www.verywellmind.com/how-do-i-cope-with-a-teenager-with-ocd-2510570 https://evolvetreatment.com/parent-guides/ocd/

Hi guys, in this episode, I talk to an amazingly gifted teacher called Christianne who has worked in numerous education settings for nearly five decades. She is a grandma who enjoys teaching her grandchildren, especially over lock down, and she has a degree in Politics and History, an MA in Behavioural Management and a Postgraduate in Dyslexia.

Today Christianne shares keys in how to build deep mutually trusting relationships between adult and child/young person; how we can help them take further responsibility for their actions and how and why the skills they learn by applying themselves to studying are transferable to the workplace, relationships and achieving their dream lives.

This is a video/podcast which is designed for both you and your child.

Here are where the 10 keys can be found:

1) 6min: Give them an “aha” moment, where they realise the need to study, for themselves.

2) 7.12:   Hone the skill of: Listen…Hear…Understand and discuss.

3) 8.54:  Life is about negotiation.

4) 13.42: Armour your child to overcome the fear of being judged, so they can know they are definitely “Good Enough”.

5) 17.49: Perspective. See tests and exams in their wider context.

6) 18.36: Revision techniques.

7) 21.40: Transferable skills.

8) 24.00: How to answer exam questions.

9) 27.42: Special Educational Needs consideration.

10) 31.26:Creating a timetable for individual study.

In this episode, Sam shares her thoughts around completing her dissertation, her struggles with motivation and wellbeing, and why the phrase "Finished not prefect" is her current moto for life.  

If you are struggling with any of the issues Sam has talked about, please Google your nearest NHS, Mind, Better Health, Samaritans support centre.

NB: One of the many jobs Shelia has done is as a shepherdess, hence the lambs.  :) 

In this episode Sheila shares her stories of overcoming; from being bullied and not having any friends to being pigeonholed by her careers advisor simply because of her gender.  Sheila tells us how she has helped young people explore their own path, when it comes to jobs/careers. Sheila is an inspiration because she has continued to reinvent herself, adapting to all the changes throughout the decades.

In todays conversation, Jody and I talk to Alex and Evie about dreams and their meanings.  Alex and Evie have been dream interpreters for over 16 years. Today, they not only share their knowledge and amazing insight into how to understand the language our our heart, but also provide questions which we can ask our hearts and mind, in order to decode our own dreams.    Will you take part in the challenge: record your dreams (one word or one sentence) and gain a better understanding of your inner/emotional world.

This is a downloadable audio for you child to listen to before they go to sleep at night. Specially designed for the strange times we are living in. 

If your child is having trouble sleeping or focusing or believing in themselves or finding it hard to relax, then this was created for them. I enjoy writing stories, and hope this offering will help your child to feel more positive, secure and have more energy. 

For the best results, listen for 21 nights.

For more info about who I am and what I do, visit: http://jijivisha-therapy.co.uk

In this video Holly tells us why she believes experiencing "enjoyment in movement" is the key to building and maintaining a physically healthy lifestyle.  Holly shares her story of how she fell head over heels in love with exercise, to the point where she became an amateur MMA fighter! She also shares her top tips for what to do when we have limited access to gyms and  community exercise classes. Holly also reminds us that how we move-or don't move NOW, impacts our future health and mobility, even if it is decades in the future.  

Personal plans to help you get started: https://builtpro.co.uk

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/the-eatwell-guide

For tens of thousands of years, humans have lived side by side with animals. However, today we are often unaware of the full extent our fury and feathered friends help us maintain a healthy sense of wellbeing.  In this conversation with Jennifer Geach and Graeme Green, we learn how to reconnect with our feelings and sense of self "in the moment".  Graeme tells us how animals help us build non judgemental relationships and teach us about compassion, kindness and community. While Jennifer helps us understand more about self regulation: how pets and other animals help us to recognise, accept and process our emotions.   For more information about Athena Herd, please see links below. 

 https://athenaherd.org.uk

https://www.horseheard.com/author/gra...

The times we are living in, challenges our ability to successfully look after our mental and physical health; so to help you, I've created a free therapeutic resource, which you can listen to, when you're ready. Originally it was created with NHS staff in mind, but as others requested it, I thought I'd share it with everyone.

If you've not seen or heard the intro to this audio, please go back to the previous episode, as it will set you up nicely for what is to come.

Also please listen to this audio, whilst in a relaxed position, either sitting comfortably or laying down and never whilst driving or operating any machinery. 

For the best results, please listen for 21 days, either first thing in the morning or just before you go to sleep at night. It doesn't matter if you fall asleep before it finishes, your subconscious mind will still be listening to and understanding what is being said.

Need more information, check out my website: http://jijivisha-therapy.co.uk/

Please listen to this short episode (which is part A)  all the way through, before you listen to the last episode (part B) of this season.

This is especially for you, If you would like to feel more peace and calm (basically less stress) at work, it will explain how to use the free downloadable 16 minute therapeutic audio: part B.

Please do not listen to the next part whilst driving, only whilst you are sitting or lying down and you have 16-20 minutes where you know you are unlikely to be disturbed.

In this podcast, Jenny and I discuss the difficulties in expressing ourselves during this time of heightened sensitivity. Kindness and compassion are the most important things she would like to see and experience more of in "life after lockdown" and the Maya Angelou quote best sums up her hope for the future. 

Jenny has and continues to work with young people and adults within the drugs, alcohol and sexual health fields for the past 20 years. She remains positive in her belief that together we can and will make the necessary change for future generations.

In this podcast Stephen Lew (founder of the school of positive psychology) shares numerous tips and techniques for improving our emotional resilience. From mindfulness to inner body scans. 

Stephen explains how and why we need to express our emotions in-order to teach and help others (especially our parents). Whether you're experiencing emotional/mental challenges or not, these practices are great ways to look after your daily wellbeing. 

Selection of Mindfulness apps: Calm, Headspace, stop breathe & think. Colorfy, Dare, Mood Gym.

 if you have any questions, feedback or ideas for topics i can cover, please message me on Instagram: Younglimitlesspodcast or https://www.facebook.com/JijivishaTherapy

In this video Dan tells us how he is coping with not seeing his friends, how he's keeping himself occupied and shares the questions he is pondering-working through; his future, how to cope with an intense parent and ways he can keep his mind 'healthy'.  Remember guys, please stay at home and keep yourself and others safe,  its only for a little while longer. x

Today Jodi tells us what it's like to be a year 12 student, living and studying during one of the strangest and toughest periods of modern history.

Remember these restrictions are only here for a short time. This too shall pass.

After many conversations with young people who were worried about their grandparents, i decided to interview my mum and find out how she had cope with her period of self isolation. In this episode mum provides us with many tips and practical solutions which can help us in the days ahead.

On today's episode Gloria's shares her harrowing story: from being the victim of domestic abuse and being kidnapped to now being a strong independent woman. Her mission is to help others who've suffered abuse, depression and anxiety.

If you identify with her story, one of her key points is that you should "constantly reassure yourself, that you are a good person and that what's happening to you isn't your fault." Your suffering is because the person hurting you doesn't know how to deal with their own pain/trauma. It's their stuff/S***, not yours.

Her last message is to SPEAK UP and keep speaking up and TRUST that YOU WILL BE HEARD.

If you need support and help please click the links below:-

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/crime-info/types-crime/domestic-abuse

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/gender-violence/domestic-violence-and-abuse-organisations-which-give-information-and-advice/

If you want to hear more from Gloria, she can be found on 9 different platforms, including:

https://open.spotify.com/show/6Fr1xEUYCsCkMUrsrw21mE

Today's episode might make you uncomfortable, however taking about the essence of being a woman, appreciating our curves and the way our body functions and moves, is a vital part of self care and self love.

My guest today is Valentina Leo. Hear her tips for how to connect your body, mind and heart/soul/spirit and how to avoid being the object of someone else's desire, by owning and standing in your own power (inner connectedness).

Today I talk to K'lo, an amazing lady. Her story is eye opening and layered with stories within stories. K'lo gives us a glimpse of the horrendous consequences she underwent as a child and young person, because her parents were drug runners who used illegal substances and later alcohol too. 

This conversation will inspire you to be brave and believe and that you absolutely can get through what ever it is you are going through. The journey may be a long one, but it can actually lead to you being stronger than your peers, more self-aware and a powerful voice for supporting&healing others.

For support around issues highlighted in this episode, here is a starting point:

 https://youngminds.org.uk

https://www.talktofrank.com/

In today's episode, Lucy (24), shares her very personal journey; from being hospitalised to being a happy, secure young woman, who knows her worth and inner (&outer) beauty.  Lucy tells us how painful it was to watch friends pass away, how grateful she is for her family and friends and why she believes the stigma of having an eating disorder is so hard to overcome in today's society.

You can contact Lucy on IG@ Hemmings_lucy

If you or someone you know needs help or would like to help others, here are some useful links:-

https://www.recoveryshoebox.org/

https://www.giveusashout.org/

https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/recovery-information/help-treatment

In this episode, we hear a mothers side of the story; not only how Maria advocated for her child, but how she dealt with the feelings of shame, thoughts that others might judge her and/or her son and of course how they overcame the initial illness and continue to keep on top of it.

There are plenty of tips and great advice laced throughout this conversation, however if you only take two things away from listening, know that talking to people who genuinely care, really does help you and that you are never really ever alone.

https://thekelee.org/

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Kelee-Meditation-Free-your-Mind-ebook/dp/B009EE2J84

https://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mental-health/parents-and-young-people/information-for-parents-and-carers/eating-disorders-in-young-people-for-parents-and-carers

https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/feelings-and-symptoms/eating-problems/

Maria's IG: _millennial.mom

In this episode, Hayley shares what is was like to be a tall and slim teenager and young woman. In this open and frank interview, Hayely talks about how she over came the gossip "you're too skinny, You need to eat properly, Get more meat on your bones, Are you anorexic?" and shares her tips for how to deal with other peoples insecurities and envious feelings.

If you need support with body/face dysmorphia, you can Google: "Mind.org" or "Kidshealth.org" (they help teenagers as well as children).

In today's episode Ed provides us with a number of interesting ways we can let go of feeling unhappy about the things we have/haven't done. He takes us through a range of positive and negative states and suggests we get our lighters out and symbolically burn-get rid of thoughts which are weighing us down.  

During this solo podcast, I briefly explain the benefits of meditation and take you through a 15 minute guided visualisation, which will leave you feeling full of love and joy.

If you've never done a visualisation before, give it a go.

If you didn't "see" anything, that's OK because the act of sitting still and listening means that you are 80% there.

In this episode, we gain insight into the life of a highly experienced Shiatsu practitioner and find out how this technique can be used to create a feeling of deep relaxation and sense of wellness. We will also learn how to use a few of these pressure points in everyday life. 

Find out more about Shiatsu at: www.shiatsusociety.org 

In today's episode Louise Eldridge provides great advice and insights on how to approach someone you think you are attracted to. Her central messages is to "have confidence in who you are", regardless of whether someone likes you or not. Louise speaks from her heart as a mum and mentor to younger business owners, you can find her at louise@signalbordon.org

This is a brief introduction to who i am and why this podcast is important to me and to you. Enjoy listening.x