Freedom from Attachment

When I was a child, I attracted life based on fear. I was rarely able to have fun, always afraid of what lay ahead. I spent a lot of my time playing fantasy as an escape from the present. In my mind, if I could dissociate from the present moment, I was okay. Or so I thought. But I was only looking for safety. Running and hiding from anything which would trigger me into having to deal with reality. If you have a deep sense of fear that you hope will somehow go away, but you focus on being in a fantasy or not dealing with reality and you're continually fighting yourself and struggling, nothing will change. In today's episode, you'll learn how to change your relationship with fear and manifest less of it into your life. What You Will Learn from this Episode: * How fear acts as a magnet, attracting more of what you're trying to avoid * The connection between childhood experiences and adult patterns of fear * Why avoiding fear only amplifies its power in your life * How to shift from fear-based living to love-based choicesPractical exercises to identify and process your fears

I used to feel this is it–”this is as good as it gets,” feeling empty and unfulfilled in my relationships. Even bored at times [when not feeling anxious]. Do you find yourself constantly trying to be the happiness fairy?, Only to end up feeling lifeless and disconnected? Let’s look at the hidden causes behind these patterns and how to be your own happiness fairy. Pay attention to the silent energy drains you allow in your life. It’s not your circumstances, it’s all in your assumptions. They keep you stuck, believing it’ll never change (whatever it is you want to change). Tune in to get some tools to help you set your wings free so you can fly! In this episode, you'll learn: How attachment styles shape people-pleasing behaviors. *Ways people-pleasing sucks you dry. *Why assumptions destroy everything. *Tiny steps to set boundaries and build self-love. "You want to feel full. You want to be filled up. You want to feel a sense of personal power. So it means you're going to get uncomfortable." ~ Tracy Crossley

Are you tired of feeling like an accidental jerk in your relationships? Do you find yourself oscillating between anxious attachment and avoidant behaviors? You're not alone. In this episode, Tracy candidly shares her personal journey as an anxious-avoidant, exploring the complex push-pull dynamic that many experience in relationships. Struggling between the desire for connection and the fear of vulnerability, she dives deep into the root causes of anxious-avoidant behavior, offering relatable insights and practical advice to help listeners break free from these self-sabotaging patterns. Tracy also provides a roadmap for those navigating this challenging attachment style, highlighting strategies for healthier relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or committed, this episode equips you with tools to stop pushing people away and start building the connections you truly desire. Key Insights from this episode: * How childhood experiences shape adult relationships * The role of guilt and shame in fueling attachment patterns * Strategies for challenging emotional unavailability and self-sabotage * Techniques for practicing radical honesty and staying present * Building genuine self-acceptance and lasting relationship change "The most freeing thing you can do as an anxious avoidant is to be honest about your emotional space right at this moment. Stop telling stories and start telling the truth about yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Have you ever felt torn between your true passions and the expectations of others? In this episode, Tracy sits down with frequency healer and quantum coach Paget Kagy, who shares her inspiring journey from aspiring actress to spiritual guide. Paget opens up about her childhood dreams of being an artist, the pressure to pursue a "practical" path, and the family tensions that arose as she tried to follow her heart. She recounts the challenges of navigating her "dark night of the soul" and the powerful moment of realization that transformed her life: "You are the creator of your reality." This profound shift led Paget to embrace her true calling as a healer, helping others clear energetic blocks and align with their higher purpose. Tune in for an uplifting and transformative conversation about breaking free from limitations and stepping into your authentic self. Key Insights from Paget's Journey: * The struggle of balancing creative passions with societal expectations * How hitting rock bottom can lead to profound spiritual awakening * The importance of taking full responsibility for your life circumstances * Discovering your true purpose through inner work and self-reflection "Most people think life is happening to them, but the real shift comes when you realize you are the creator of your reality—everything changes when you take responsibility for your energy and your life." ~ Paget Kagy

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in an endless cycle of personal growth, constantly facing new challenges? You're not alone. In this episode, I share my recent experiences with multiple "dark nights of the soul" and how they've shaped my understanding of attachment and personal development. I know that spiritual awakening isn't a one-time event, but a continuous journey. It's like progressing through levels in a video game, with each new stage presenting tougher obstacles. By sharing my own vulnerabilities, I hope to inspire you to embrace your journey, no matter how difficult it may seem. Remember, no one is coming to save you - and that's a good thing. Your journey is uniquely yours, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Are you ready to face your own dark night of the soul? Key Insights from this episode: *Understand that multiple "dark nights" are normal and part of growth *Recognize attachments to outcomes and ideas of "arriving" *Learn to be present with uncomfortable emotions *Take emotionally risky actions and what it means for success “Nobody is coming to save you, and that's a damn good thing.” ~ Tracy Crossley

Ever wondered why some relationships feel like a constant uphill battle while others seem effortlessly smooth? Join Tracy and she sits down with dating coach and author Evan Marc Katz to explore the intricacies of modern dating and relationships. Evan shares his journey from aspiring screenwriter to becoming a renowned dating expert, offering a unique perspective on finding love in the digital age. We discuss the common pitfalls of online dating and how to navigate them effectively. Key Insights from Our Conversation: * The truth about "easy" relationships and why good partnerships shouldn't feel like hard work * How our attachment styles influence our dating choices and relationship patterns * The importance of expanding your vision when searching for a partner online * Why consistency and progression in communication are crucial indicators of a healthy relationship * The role of self-worth in attracting and maintaining healthy partnerships Whether you're navigating the complexities of online dating or seeking to improve your current relationship, this episode offers valuable insights to help you find and nurture a loving, lasting partnership. Don't miss out on Evan's free gift - a special report on "Seven Massive Mistakes You're Making in Dating" available at evanmarckatz.com (use the code "freedom" to access). "The best relationships are marked by a lack of anxiety. It's not about finding someone perfect; it's about finding someone who makes you feel safe, heard, and understood." ~ Evan Mark Katz

Ever feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of caring too much about things that don't really matter? You're not alone. In this episode, we're going to explore the fascinating world of attachment and how it impacts our relationships, self-worth, and overall happiness. I'll share my personal journey from being consumed by attachment to finding true freedom. We'll discuss why caring about attachment is a waste of time and how to shift your focus towards self-love and compassion. Key Insights You'll Gain: * The root cause of attachment and its impact on your “entire” life * What is self-responsibility and how it helps you break free from attachment * How to stop giving others control over your emotions * Do you know how to sit with your feelings without judgment? Listen in. * Ways to build true confidence and attract healthier relationships "Attachment is a distraction from the lack of love you have for yourself." ~ Tracy Crossley

Someone makes an off-handed remark and you bristle. Or they criticize you and you go into full-blown defensive mode before you dissolve into a million pieces. Why does this happen? Why are you so sensitive to some things while others slide off your back? You react when there is some truth in what was said; a truth you don’t want to admit to yourself, let alone have it pointed out by another person. When they call it out you become awash with shame. Shame is a VERY uncomfortable emotion to deal with so instead of feeling it, you deflect, attack, avoid or blame. Maybe your friend says you can’t be alone, which is why you’re always jumping from one bad relationship to the next. If that’s not true, there would be no reaction. Nothing would be triggered inside of you. But if you strike back and/or want to crawl into a hole… that’s a sign. Shame is talking and it’s time to listen. In this week’s podcast we’re talking about how to deal with criticism and shame. It’s hard to see the unsavory or unlikeable parts of yourself, but acknowledging those parts is the road to self-love, self-acceptance and emotional freedom. When you own your actions and feel the shame, you open the door to healing. No one likes criticism, but it can be an incredibly powerful tool for growth. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Put on your cape and open yourself to all sorts of criticism. Own what’s yours and let it flow through you. Remember you have your magic cape!

Do you choose love, or are you waiting to be chosen? Maybe you believe love has forgotten about you, or it’s reserved for other, more “deserving” people. Instead of opening yourself up to it, you ruminate on what you don’t have, believing you’re being punished by some mysterious force. That, my friends, is playing the love victim. Love is actually a choice, but to get there, you have to see how your actions are working against you to create what you don’t want. Shame around being single, negative beliefs that say you’re not good enough and fear of abandonment all contribute to feeling like love isn’t available to you. And when that’s what you believe, you’ll pick partners who support that belief; it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. In this week’s podcast I’ll challenge you to look at your situation as an observer to zero in on what you’re choosing to create. Yes, CHOOSING. Having love starts with owning your choices and deciding to make new ones. If everything is a choice, why not choose love?

You consider yourself a strong person. When a challenge presents itself, you tackle it head-on. People come to you for answers because you always seem to have them. You pick others up when they fall. You’re reliable and trustworthy. But to be that pillar of strength, you push your emotions aside because you can’t be someone else’s hero if they see a crack in your armor. And therein lies the problem. We have been brought up to believe that giving is strong and receiving is weak. But that’s backwards. Asking for help and being able to receive takes courage. Allowing others to see you as human is what strong people do. In this week’s episode I’ll challenge you to explore why being “strong” is important to you, and where you struggle to receive. Because you can’t give or receive love freely if you’re emotionally shut down. When you open your heart to others and allow them to see your vulnerability, you radiate strength. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) The hole in your suit of armor is inside of you. Allow it to exist without being strong so you connect with yourself and others.

How much time do you spend complaining about problems and/or fixing them? You finally join the country club, but you can never get the tee-time you want, the food is bland and all the members are annoying. Or you criticize your co-worker for doing a project “wrong,” then take it over and do it yourself because no one can measure up to you. This, my friends, is classic avoidance. When your focus is on problems outside of you, it lets you off the hook to address what’s happening INSIDE of you. When you don’t trust life or other people, you work harder to control things, including solving problems that don’t exist. And when you criticize everything under the sun, you are resistant to change and growth. These are signs of unhappiness. In this week’s episode we’ll look at your expectations of others and why they exist. You will also be challenged to stop solving problems for one day to see what happens when you allow life to unfold without judgment or control. Problems are everywhere, but they don’t have to become your problems. Instead of focusing on them, you can learn to trust that things will work out without your interference. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can be a martyr or problem-solver, but neither will open you up to happiness.

Join Tracy as she dives into an inspiring conversation with Katia Stern, a transformational speaker and bestselling author who redefines what it means to live a bold, audacious life. Together, they explore how to let go of societal expectations, embrace your true self, and live a life that makes you say, "Wow!" Whether you're looking to make a big life change or simply want to feel more empowered in your everyday decisions, this episode offers the tools and mindset shifts you need. Key Takeaways: * Embrace audacity: Learn how to make bold decisions that can lead to life-changing experiences. * Redefine failure: See every experience as a lesson and redefine what success looks like for you. * Prioritize self-love: Understand the importance of setting boundaries and focusing on your own growth. * Empower your presence: Discover how to show up confidently and powerfully in all areas of your life.

People always want to know if they should leave their job or their relationship or whatever situation they are unhappy with. Shouldn’t they cut their losses? Isn’t it better to chase the next bright shiny object? The problem is, when people DO make that change, they tend to repeat the same pattern in their next job or next relationship, and they become increasingly frustrated that nothing ever changes. So what’s the solution? Stay longer than is comfortable. Your inability to stick with situations or relationships long enough to learn from them is what keeps you stuck. Without standing still and being present, you just perpetuate the pattern of cutting bait too soon, chasing what’s next, then convincing yourself this is just who you are. It’s a false story. In this week’s episode I challenge you to stay just a little bit longer than you want to. Because getting excited about the next possibility will eventually wear off and you’ll be in this same spot once again. When you’re curious about why you’re here and why staying is so uncomfortable, you get to some deeper truths that open the window to change. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Give up the bright shiny object to stay with the old socks until you are deeply moved to grow by knowing what attracted you to the old socks in the first place.

Are you feeling unfulfilled or stuck after a major life change? Join Tracy as she speaks with fashion designer and entrepreneur Tara Marino, where their conversation will reignite your passion and help you rediscover your wholeness. In this episode, Tara shares how embracing all aspects of her identity transformed her pain into purpose. You'll learn how to shift your mindset, align with your deepest desires, and live more authentically by shedding societal expectations. Tune in for insights and inspiration to overcome adversity and fully embrace who you are. Here's what you'll take away from this episode: * How to embrace your multidimensionality instead of compartmentalizing yourself * Tara's mindset shift for transforming pain into profound growth and purpose * Insights on aligning your actions with your deepest desires, even when they don't make "logical" sense * The freedom of shedding societal expectations to live more authentically "Stop asking why and start asking how. How are you going to allow this experience to affect the rest of your life?" – Tara Marino

Think about something in your life that you continually complain about. Maybe it’s a partner who won’t commit, or your inability to get past a first date. Do you feel defeated and/or concerned you can’t have what you want? As with many things, it boils down to a lack of self-worth. If you believed in yourself, you wouldn’t worry so much. By contrast, look at the things you don’t sweat. Maybe it’s constructive feedback at work or squabbles with a family member that happen over and over, but don’t get you down. Whatever it is, if it’s something you do well or aren’t afraid of losing, you’re usually not concerned about it. The areas where you DO get wrapped up in concern are what you want to pay attention to. In this podcast we’ll look at what you get hung up on, believing it’s elusive, and why. Awareness will help you stop the behavioral patterns that can lead to self-sabotage. Because you ARE capable of handing life, even when it doesn’t go the way you want.

Ever feel like you're just going through the motions, disconnected from your true purpose? Join Tracy, as she speaks with Chris Cirak, an author, speaker, and meditator with over 25 years of experience in design, tech, business, and entrepreneurship. Chris vulnerably shares his journey from a life of external success to a profound spiritual awakening that shattered everything he knew. You'll hear how he courageously navigated the "dark night of the soul" to emerge as a guide helping others react less and thrive more. With an eclectic background spanning design, psychology, and tech, Chris masterfully translates ancient wisdom into accessible experiences. His unique perspective reminds us that our challenges can become the very gifts we have to offer the world. In this episode, you’ll learn: *Practical tips for bringing mindfulness into your daily routines through attention to detail *Insights on embracing your authentic voice and connecting with your true calling *A glimpse into Chris's transformative retreats cultivating inner shifts through conscious living

Do you say to yourself (or others) that you are the prize, and your partner is lucky to have you? And do you actually believe it, or is it just false bravado? Maybe you overcompensate for your true feelings that you don’t measure up by working hard to “be the prize.” Or you go the other direction and withdraw because deep down you not only believe you’re NOT the prize… you feel completely worthless. Whichever road you take, you’re causing drama and sabotaging your relationships. In this week’s podcast we explore what’s behind this diminished sense of value and how to build yourself up so you feel worthy and deserving of love. It starts with unraveling your shame and self-judgment, then feeling it instead of minimizing it (yep, you’ve gotta there). I’ll walk you through a few steps to get you started. Shame is a tough emotion to allow, but you are more resilient than you think. And it’s worth this deep work because once you start believing you really are a gem, you’ll attract someone who believes it to. Here are just a few key insights you'll gain: * How to stop creating unnecessary drama and chaos in your life * Techniques for treating yourself with kindness and self-compassion * Steps to take empowered actions that align with your self-worth * Ways to overcome the fears holding you back from living as your best self

Join Tracy and she speaks with Amina Altai, a holistic business and career coach. Amina shares her journey that prompted her to shift her focus to wellness marketing and develop a unique coaching program. Amina discusses her upcoming book, "The Ambition Trap," the conversation highlights societal biases, the power of intuition, and the transformative experience of pursuing one's true passions. What you’ll learn in this episode: * How to align ambition with purpose * The hidden biases impacting career choices * Overcoming burnout and chronic illness * Insights from Amina's upcoming book 'We have one life to live; let your soul speak when it comes to work. Give yourself permission because it changes life for you and has a ripple effect on your family, community, and the whole world.' ~ Amina AlTai

Attachment impacts your life, everyday and in ways you may not realize. Drawing from personal experiences and client stories, it’s all about YOUR beliefs, you weren’t born insecurely attached. Learn what it means to be self-aware, rely on your inner wisdom and change how you feel and the state of your relationships. Let’s break free from limiting beliefs and embrace personal empowerment. Get ready to question your feelings, uncover the root causes of your emotions, and move towards authentic living. What You'll Learn in This Episode: * The impact of attachment on your relationships and daily life. * How to distinguish between reactive beliefs and true inner wisdom. * Techniques for managing and understanding visceral emotional reactions. * Become self-determined, build confidence, and respect yourself. * The importance of curiosity and openness in personal growth. * How to break free from limiting beliefs and embrace personal empowerment.

Allana Pratt, an intimacy expert joins Tracy, where she shares her transformative journey from a small-town Canadian girl to a renowned coach! She recounts the profound impact of losing her best friend at 16, which set her on a path of spiritual awakening and self-discovery. Allana also discusses overcoming abusive relationships and the importance of healing trauma. As you listen to Allana's resilient journey, you'll gain: • Insights into befriending your body and emotions • Understanding true intimacy - with yourself and others • Your breakthrough to thriving relationships is inevitable • Doing the courageous inner work to become radiant and whole "Our bodies are conscious, divine, and beautiful, and we need to honor them as such." - Allana Pratt

Feeling trapped in the same day on repeat? You really want so much more, a healthy relationship, work, and a feeling of peace in being alive. But, perhaps you go through the motions, but never truly break free from what feels like a prison.I lived there for years and kept waiting for things to change, but they didn’t, til I did. Join me as I talk about the profound shift that allowed me to manifest a life of freedom, joy, and authentic alignment. Discover how four simple words—"I don't have to"—unlocked my prison door, and then the HOW for my next steps. In this episode, you’ll discover: * Exercises for getting out of your head, the gateway to miracles * Get rid of fear-based choices and trying to control what you can’t * My path of overcoming attachments and becoming curiosity * Stop forcing things from lack and allow the universe to support your desires

Join Tracy as she chats with Summer McStravick who opens up about her early dreams of opera, a health crisis that rerouted her career, and her foray into publishing. Despite setbacks, including a failed literary magazine, Summer's resilience shines through. She candidly shares her journey into personal growth coaching and the creation of Flow Dreaming, an emotional strength-building technique. From working with Louise Hay to authoring "Stuff Nobody Taught You," Summer's story is a testament to adapting and thriving through life's pivot points. What You Will Learn: * Recognizing and embracing life’s pivot points. * Techniques for manifesting and achieving your goals using Flow Dreaming. * Using emotional strength and inner wisdom to overcome obstacles. * Real-life stories on reinventing yourself after setbacks. Life will continue to support me. It always has. I can't cherry-pick this and say the good things support me and the bad things betray me. It just supports me, whatever I do. ~ Summer McStravick

Ever notice the nightmare stories in your mind are not a fairy tale, but you somehow attach a “happy ending” to them? Let’s get into the profound impact of these narratives on our lives. She talks about the path of the fairy tale shaping our expectations and leading us into a skewed fantasy world. Tracy shares her own experiences, and what to do to have a REAL happy ending. What You Will Learn: * How personal fairy tales create unrealistic expectations and a victim mentality. * The impact of societal narratives on personal relationships and self-worth. * Learn to rewrite the stories we tell ourselves. * Being curious and vulnerable to get what you want.

What is your truth? It’s talked about by so many of us and it seems elusive. Executive Coach Liz Tran shares her insights, and how to get off the wheel of following someone else’s idea of you being your authentic self. In this conversation Liz gets real about her own winding path from poverty and trauma to outward "success" that ultimately felt hollow. You'll be moved by her vulnerability in sharing how she overcame a scarcity mindset, tuned into her inner wisdom, and summoned the courage to blaze her own trail. Here's a glimpse of their dialogue: * How human design awakened new levels of self-awareness * Liz shares overcoming self-doubt and societal conditioning * Simple exercises to build a relationship with yourself * Inspiration for taking your own terrifying-yet-liberating leap of faith * A refreshing reminder that you're worthy of joy

Freak out mode, ever experienced it? Emotional outbursts or shut downs, the ol’ silent treatment sound familiar? I know for years when things didn’t go my way–I was great at being a stone wall and ignoring. Just like most conditioning, the way we react when triggered may not have changed too much in those moments of stress or conflict. I know the feeling of fight, flight or freeze mode would automatically without thought propel me into a reaction. And then I’d feel bad afterwards or even while acting in this way, wanting to control the situation (yes, control). In this episode, Tracy Crossley explains why emotional maturity often lags behind intellectual maturity, tracing these reactions to early attachment patterns and unmet needs. She shares her own journey and offers a three-step process for emotional growth: awareness, feeling your feelings, and taking emotionally risky actions. By embracing discomfort, you can respond from a grounded, adult state instead of a triggered, childlike one. Tune into this episode to: • Learn why you still react like you are five when upset and the root causes • Gain actionable advice to grow up emotionally through self-work • Hear Tracy’s personal examples of her emotional immaturity and growth • Understand how to show up emotionally mature with difficult people • Get the 3 steps to end relationship intensity and anxious/avoidant patterns

Tracy hangs out with Dr. Karin Luise, an award-winning author, speaker, and spiritual guide on this episode. Together, they dive into personal evolution, spiritual awakening, and overcoming life's challenges. From unraveling childhood traumas to navigating spiritual gifts, Dr. Karin shares her story with humor and wisdom. Check out how to shed limiting beliefs, embrace your intuitive power, and step boldly into your most authentic self. Tune in to uncover: * Release guilt, destructive conditioning, and limiting beliefs * Signs from beyond that indicate your loved ones are trying to communicate * Why everything that happens is meant to lead you to radical self-love * How to tap into dormant inner wisdom when you feel lost or overwhelmed * The keys to recognizing your core essence as energetic “light” vs the heavy conditioning imposed on you

Sometimes we don’t realize our only issue is our patterns. We fight to stay where we are, even while saying, “nooooo I want out or to change.” You can break free and feel totally different in the process. In this podcast, listen to the familiar trap of avoidance and emotional neglect that we are used to but may not be aware we are creating. Not only is it about drilling deep but what to do with your feelings as signposts for change. This episode is not just a listening experience but an opportunity to surrender and stop fighting to stay. In this episode, listeners will: * See how you cling unconsciously to situations that don't serve you * Pay attention to what an avoidance pattern looks like * Yes, your wisdom is tied into your feelings, so don’t suppress them * Why courage aligned with your highest self matters Feelings are not just emotions; they're signposts, guiding you to what’s buried deep within. ~ Tracy Crossley

Tracy brings back Robbie Kramer, the mastermind behind revolutionizing the dating scene for men without the gimmicks. Robbie shares insider tips on turning simple interactions into a relationship while growing your inner confidence without the fluff. In this episode, you will be able to: * Master the art of building a social circle for dating success and expand your opportunities for meaningful connections. * Overcome avoidant attachment in dating and be ready for more fulfilling relationships. * Craft irresistible online dating profiles * Become a host for parties to create an environment for genuine connections * Becoming emotionally available and what it looks like

Everyone talks about how to value yourself. So how do you do it when it matters? Explore the liberating journey as Tracy breaks down your barriers of expectations and needing validations. Are you ready to dig into your feelings, wrangle deep-seated beliefs, and learn self-importance that doesn't rely on others? Then listen in today. In this episode, you will be able to: *Embrace fulfilling relationships (first with yourself). *Breakthrough barriers to love and for growth. *Attract and maintain healthy relationships. *Elevating self-importance for personal growth “You want to get to the point of feeling important because you breathe” ~ Tracy Crossley

Most of us have periods in our lives where it feels like everything is a shit show. You feel like the universe is conspiring against you and no one is on your team. Even when people do try to help by offering advice, it annoys the crap out of you. Then, on top of it all, you feel wrong in your feelings because you think you should be able to rise above it. Society says to buck up and be positive! When life happens and you start going down the rabbit hole, it’s ok to stay there for a moment, but you do not want to get stuck there. Wallowing for weeks (or longer) is a victim pattern you need to look at because YOU are the one keeping yourself there. Your active participation in your life matters. When you blame other people, or the universe, for what’s happening, you stay buried in that hole. In this week’s podcast I share my personal experience with loss and my husband’s illness. During the last 18 months I have been challenged to surrender and find happiness even while surrounded by tragedy. It is not easy, but you can choose to accept what’s going on, take responsibility for your part, feel what’s happening and move the heck forward. It really is a choice, and I’ll show you what worked for me. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can be an action-taking victim, or you can decide to be an action-taking authentic human being who is happy.

Are you caught in the relentless pursuit of perfectionism, tirelessly trying to meet others' expectations at the expense of your own well-being? You're not alone. This podcast dives into the common struggle many face: the battle against the compulsion to please everyone but ourselves. It's a struggle that often stems from past traumas and the deep-seated need for external validation, which, in turn, obstructs our path to genuine emotional freedom and self-worth. Tracy offers insight, guidance, and support to those yearning to break free from these restrictive patterns and embrace a life of authenticity and emotional liberation. Let’s uncover the challenges of what it is to live authentically with emotional freedom and break free of perfectionism and people-pleasing. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace freedom from attachment to unlock your true potential and live a more fulfilling life. * Overcome perfectionism and discover the joy of embracing your authentic self. * Cultivate self-worth and confidence to create positive change in every aspect of your life. * Understand the dynamics of relationships to build healthier and more meaningful connections. * Experience personal growth that empowers you to live a life aligned with your values and aspirations. The more "you" you are, the easier and more profound your whole life becomes. ~ Tracy Crossley

Jaime Mahler, MS, LMHC, is a New York-based psychotherapist behind the popular Recollected Self brand. Jaime shares her transformative journey from a turbulent young adulthood to finding her true voice, embracing self-compassion, and empowering others to do the same. Discover how facing one's past with courage can illuminate the path to authentic living. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace healing from trauma and toxic relationships for personal growth and empowerment. * Discover mental health education's impact on social media for a more informed and mindful approach to well-being. * Recognize the profound effects of cult-like experiences on mental health to understand and address their lasting impact. * Implement strategies for personal growth and self-compassion to foster a positive and resilient mindset. * Embrace critical thinking in therapy and coaching to empower informed decision-making and personal development.

Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're tired of constantly chasing validation and want to experience greater self-acceptance and inner peace, then keep listening. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace self-acceptance and inner peace for a more fulfilling life. * Explore the impact of not feeling enough and unlock your true potential. * Begin your journey towards self-love and find inner contentment. * Address limiting beliefs for personal transformation and growth. * Discover the importance of emotional exploration and awareness for a more balanced life. "You're here to take up space, meaning to be you, to be with who you are right now in this moment. Why? Because you're opening your future up to be amazing then, because that is how magic happens." ~ Tracy Crossley

Listen to a cancer survivor and former corporate employee who found her purpose through personal challenges. Join Tracy as she sits down with Courtney Elmer, the visionary behind The Effortless Life and the Antifragile Entrepreneurship podcast. Courtney reveals how she went from silencing her voice to reclaiming it, and how she leveraged entrepreneurial antifragility to create positive change. But here's the twist - she discovered her true calling in a way that you wouldn’t expect. In this episode, you will be able to: * Gain valuable insights on leveraging podcasts for business visibility and growth. * Discover the power of entrepreneurial antifragility in overcoming adversity and thriving in business. * Learn effective strategies for navigating career transitions and making a successful shift to entrepreneurship. * Uncover the transformative potential of finding purpose through personal challenges in your entrepreneurial journey. * Explore innovative strategies for increasing podcast audience engagement and building a loyal listener base. "When you're going through something difficult, we want answers. We want clarity. We want definitive yes or no. So we know how to move forward. It brings us relief. But a lot of times, the reality is we don't have that answer." - Courtney Elmer

It’s that time folks! Tracy dives into a deeply personal journey of self-discovery and resilience. From unexpected life events to emotional struggles, Tracy shares her raw and unfiltered experiences, unveiling the surprising impact of stress on her life. While Tracy reveals her stuff around guilt, inner peace, and transforming her business, she will also lead you through an exercise in relieving yourself of stress. Join her for a newfound perspective on personal growth. In this episode, you will be able to: - Explore the depths of emotional well-being and relationships for a more fulfilling life. - Uncover the impact of stress on your well-being and how to effectively manage it. - Learn effective strategies for coping with life's challenges and emerging stronger. - Build resilience through the power of emotional processing for inner strength. - Embark on a journey of self-awareness to foster personal growth and empowerment. I don't need to be married to the stress just because shit is happening doesn't mean I need to be stressed by it. ~ Tracy Crossley

If you're feeling the nagging sense that something is missing in your life, like you're stuck in the same old patterns and stories, then you are not alone! Maybe you're telling yourself that your life is good, but deep down, there's a yearning for something more. You might have been seeking advice from others, asking for their opinions on decisions like dating or career choices, only to find yourself stuck in the same place, unable to break free from the obstacles you've created. It's time to uncover what's holding you back and take the courageous step towards authentic growth and relationships. In this episode, you will be able to: * Explore the complexities of human emotions and relationships for deeper understanding and meaningful connections. * Unlock the importance of self-awareness and personal growth for a more fulfilling life and authentic relationships. * Overcome self-deception to uncover your true potential and live a more authentic and purposeful life. * Cultivate courage and self-love in relationships to foster genuine and lasting connections. * Discover the power of soul plan readings for gaining self-understanding and clarity on life's purpose. So stand up and be in your own two shoes and commit to yourself. Because every time I'm vulnerable, I'm committed to myself. And that means that if I commit to myself, I can commit to other things as well. - Tracy Crossley

Join Tracy as she welcomes Marni Battista, a powerhouse entrepreneur, author, transformational coach, and radical truth seeker. Marni's captivating stories of triumph, paired with her unique ability to drop wisdom that's as profound as it is humorous, will not only entertain but also deeply transform your perspective on life. With experiences ranging from heartwarming essays in prestigious publications to appearances on shows like Dr. Phil and Loveline with Dr. Drew, Marni shares her journey of radical living alongside her husband and two cats, Simon and Fergus Katz, as they traverse the globe. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that's bound to inspire you to stop merely existing and start living a life beyond your wildest dreams.

If you're feeling like you're constantly blaming others for your unhappiness and not taking control of your own life, then you are not alone! Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-punishment and unfulfillment, despite your efforts to work on yourself? It's time to break free from this pattern and take extreme self-responsibility for your own happiness. Let's explore how you can transform your life by embracing self-responsibility and finding inner peace. In this episode, you will be able to: * Cultivate happiness and self-responsibility for a fulfilling life. * Embrace vulnerability and self-reflection to unlock personal growth. * Release blame and excuses to reclaim empowerment and control. * Prioritize personal happiness and improve decision-making for a more fulfilling life. * Accept help and support to enhance well-being and success.

Listen in to hear more about the nuances of intuition, the obstacles of ego, and the transformative power of love in our daily lives. Tracy speaks with Dr. Helané Wahbeh, a renowned naturopathic doctor and the Director of Research at the Institute of Noetic Sciences and an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Neurology at Oregon Health & Science University. Discover how Dr. Wahbeh's personal experiences and intuitive explorations led her to a career that seamlessly blends science with spirituality. They dive into shedding light on how our intentions can influence our physical world and well-being.

Stories, we all got them. How many of your stories are about you being the hero versus you being the loser? A lot of the stories that play as background music in our minds tends to be of the negative sort. What if she shows you how to dig deep into the power of self-validation? Tune into this episode as she talks about our focusing on problems, stops us from our dreams, and our potential. Let’s challenge the norms, and discover the joy of living a life that truly matters. Whether it's breaking free from unfulfilling jobs or toxic relationships, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your self-worth and creating a life filled with purpose and happiness.

Join Tracy and Dr. Garret Yount, an expert in molecular neurobiology and consciousness research, as they dive into the fascinating intersection of science and the mind. Dr. Yount recounts his teenage clairvoyant experience that ignited his passion for exploring consciousness and its mysteries. The discussion navigates through the realms of gene expression, epigenetics, and the profound impact of emotions and thoughts on our health. Dr. Yount also sheds light on his research into external qigong healing and the intriguing concept of vibes. The episode wraps up with insights from his book "Why Vibes Matter," offering a beginner's guide to understanding and influencing vibes. Join this captivating journey into the depths of consciousness and its influence on our biological being.

Some people equate numbness with happiness. As long as nothing is poking at you screaming for your attention, you think all is right with the world, and you work hard to maintain this state. But when something triggers you, you can’t handle being out of control, so you scramble to get back to that safe space you THINK is happiness. Nope, it’s numbness, and it’s not where you want to live. Many people say they aren't control freaks, but their internal feelings tell a different story. If you feel anxious whenever you let loose, have fun or feel attracted to someone, that’s a sign of control. In this week’s podcast I challenge you to become more aware of this paradigm because many people delude themselves into thinking they’re happy when in fact they are just numb and trying to avoid being triggered. Happiness is not to be feared, but you need to let go of control in order to let it in. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can pretend numbness is peace and happiness or you can challenge yourself to lose control and have FUN, emotional intimacy and vulnerability! Uh yeah happiness!

Join Tracy as she interviews Joan Sotkin, the founder of Prosperity Place and a renowned author. Sotkin shares her intriguing journey from aspiring ballet dancer to a successful businesswoman and coach. She dives into her unique coaching approach, her experiences with healing, and her evolving understanding of health and diet. Sotkin emphasizes the importance of self-understanding and inner peace, offering valuable insights and resources from her website. Tune in for an episode filled with profound lessons on personal development and prosperity.

Did you grow up feeling you were too much, not enough, too nice, too cold, too sensitive, too shy, too annoying, too inquisitive, or too ANYTHING? Basically, instead of being loved for your whole self, did you feel like you were simply tolerated? Maybe you wondered, throughout your life, if people even liked being around you because those too much/not enough beliefs were always with you. So, to move from tolerance to love, you worked hard to prove yourself worthy of someone else’s company. And did those people (intimate partners, friends, family members, etc.) treasure you for the wonderful human you are? Probably not. Why? Because you didn’t treasure you. Self-love isn’t simply about spa visits, eating healthy, working out, or treating yourself to a new outfit. It is attention, connection, and awareness to yourself. And you cultivate it by slowing down, feeling your feelings, and choosing what makes you happy. When you love yourself, you have compassion for who you are, what you are, and why you are. And that is where true love with someone else begins… because love from another person won’t feel good unless you feel it for yourself first. As the new year approaches, it's the perfect time to reflect and embrace this journey of self-love. In this week’s podcast, I’ll share three questions to ask yourself to shift from external “give-it-to-me” love to true self-love. You deserve more, but to get it, you have to step up and show yourself some love. Let's make this new year a turning point for embracing and celebrating your true self. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Self-love comes from all the in-between moments, not the pinnacles! Let this new year be your catalyst for a journey of self-discovery and genuine self-appreciation.

You have spent your life doing for others, worried that if you don’t put them first, they’ll leave… or at the very least they’ll be mad at you. It’s exhausting, however, so you want to start prioritizing yourself and your growth. You know you’ll feel better, shed the resentment and have more energy, but what if the people in your life think you don’t need them anymore? What if they think you’re being selfish? It is NOT selfish to want to feel good. You are actually doing the world a favor by taking care of yourself because a happier you means a more pleasant person for others to be around. When you focus on how you feel, what lights you up and what you want, everyone benefits. How different would it feel to make decisions based on what you want rather than what someone else wants? How much lighter and energized would you feel? If you wait for permission to say no to someone else so you can say yes to yourself, you’ll be waiting forever. Stop believing people will leave in droves if you “selfishly” take care of yourself. The ones who do are a negative in your life, not a positive. You’re a kick-ass person who deserves to be happy. Decide you deserve your own love and attention. Do it selfishly and others will reap the benefits.

Join Tracy and Arnaud Delorme, a pioneering scientist in brain dynamics and spirituality, step into the intriguing world of consciousness, discussing how meditation and psychoactive agents impact our neural pathways. His research explores the complex relationship between the brain and consciousness. This episode also highlights Delorme's innovative work in neurofeedback and its transformative effects on meditation practices. Get a sneak peek into his latest book, 'Why Our Minds Wander,' offering practical strategies for managing the wandering mind during meditation.

Imagine what it would be like not to beat yourself up all the time, or to stop shaming yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. What would it be like to tell your inner critic to shut up, and instead make choices that feel good to you? I’ll tell you what it would feel like: it would be fabulous. I know this because that’s where I live now… although I used to have a very different address. I used to think my best life hinged on my partner. If things were great with him, my life would be peachy. Well, that’s not called fabulous; that’s called attachment. If you are making (bad) decisions because of the person you’re attached to, you are not living your best life. Those decisions come from fear of losing the relationship, not from love. They come from scarcity, not abundance. When you stay in attachment, your world becomes very small. In this week’s podcast I’ll help you identify what you actually want and start making decisions that feel good. Because you deserve fabulous!

Join Tracy as she interviews Maz Dela Cerna, a bestselling author and energy healer. Born into poverty in the Philippines, she faced unimaginable hardships, including homelessness, abuse, and addiction. Despite her traumatic past, she found hope and strength through spiritual experiences. She discusses her personal growth, her discovery of the law of attraction, and her work in helping others overcome their limiting beliefs and energetic blocks.

Ever feel overwhelmingly drawn to someone that the physical attraction is just insane? Where you know you are powerless to stop the descent into what is probably going to be complex and messy, but that magnetism to them has you out of your mind? Tracy dives deep into the complex world of attachment styles and how each one - avoidant, anxious, and more - uniquely intertwines with our sexual lives, often in ways we don't consciously realize. Tracy also explores the misconception that anxious attachment is purely emotional, revealing how it often manifests in the heightened intensity of sexual encounters. This episode is a journey into understanding why we may feel a magnetic pull towards certain partners and how this attraction can be misleading, mistaking intense physical connection for emotional depth. Yeah, sorry about that…as much as you might want him or her to be your soulmate, it might just be a physiological response to your conditioning.

Lynn McTaggart, an internationally recognized author and journalist known for her work on the intersection of science and spirituality joins Tracy. They take a deep dive into her journey from investigative journalism to spirituality, and her groundbreaking work on the power of group intention and consciousness. In this episode, she speaks about her experiments with scientists from various universities, which have shown significant positive effects. Lynn highlights the healing power of group intention, the importance of altruism, and the physiological effects of love. In addition to this insightful discussion, Lynn is launching a program called the "Intention Masterclass." It teaches intention mastery, by harnessing the incredible potential of intention in their daily lives. If you're intrigued by the idea of harnessing the power of intention and want to learn more about Lynn McTaggart's Intention Masterclass, you can visit her website at https://lynnemctaggart.com/courses/intention-masterclass/the-power-of-eight-intention-masterclass-2024/ .

Tracy and Jamie Scrimgeour, the host of the chart-topping "The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast, tackle the nuanced realities of step-parenting. It’s all about setting boundaries, when to disengage, and the long-term commitment required to forge strong family bonds. Jamie shares her own experiences, around her blended family. Tune in for a conversation that's as real as it gets, and discover why Jamie's voice has become a leading one in the step-parenting community.

The key to everything you want is that “spark!”It’s time to put disappointment on a shelf and not wear it like a sweater. Whether it's a relationship that's lost its spark or a job that is dragging you down, Tracy will show you how to break free. The beauty of this episode is that the power to have what you want is in your hands, it’s not up to others. Start living from that spark inside, so you sparkle and shine everywhere you go no matter who you are with. Tracy shares real-life examples and actionable steps to shift your focus inward.

Need inspiration? Nicole Walters, a former corporate powerhouse turned multi-million-dollar business owner and author of the upcoming memoir 'NOTHING IS MISSING: A MEMOIR OF LIVING BOLDLY,’ sat down with me to talk about juggling. Juggling roles. Challenges women face in the entrepreneurial world, from work-life balance to money mindset are no joke. Nicole shares her game-changing tips on how to 'ask boldly,' monetize your gifts, and why you should never, ever work for free. Don't miss this empowering conversation leaving you ready to conquer your world, your way!

For many people who are stuck, pain is what drives them to seek change. It could be a toxic relationship or yet another holiday spent alone. Maybe it’s wanting to finally escape not feeling good enough. But when anger and frustration are your only motivators, change isn’t very effective… and it doesn’t last. Especially if you’re changing yourself just to get someone else to change. Instead, you need to know why you’re not where you want to be, and have a deep desire to grow your self value. When you complain, blame and compare yourself to others, fear is running the show. And wanting to run away is often a sign that you need to stand still. In this week’s episode, I’ll share different questions you can ask yourself to evaluate your readiness for change. If you’re not there yet, that’s ok! Accepting where you are is an important first step. Once you are clear on what you want to change and why, you can start taking action in that direction. And THAT’S when meaningful change happens because there is a big difference between moving toward something you want, and moving away from something you don’t want.

Do you notice judgment in your life? Whether it's a complicated relationship, a challenging work environment, or your own inner critic, judgment is the block to true happiness. It keeps you stuck while eroding your self-trust and confidence. It comes from a deep-seated sense of lack and fear. You can break free! Tune in to discover actionable steps to dismantle the judgment that's holding you back from happiness. Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll uncover in this episode: [1:25] Dive into the concept of breaking the cycle and discover how letting go of judgment can unlock your true happiness. [3:25] Learn why your judgments are keeping you stuck in dysfunctional relationships and clouding your clarity on what you truly want. [10:06] Explore the interconnectedness of fear, lack, judgment, confidence, and happiness, and how they shape your life. [12:09] Understand your soul's purpose: to have fun and expand, not contract out of fear. [14:09] Get real-life examples of how judgment impacts your relationships, business decisions, and dating life, and why awareness is the first step to overcoming it. [20:14] Trace back the roots of your judgments to your childhood and see how they're holding you back from your desires. [21:13] Realize that you often don't truly know others or even yourself, and learn the power of speaking your truth without blame. [22:05] Receive encouragement to let go of judgment, find the fun in life, and take actionable steps toward a judgment-free existence.

Anxiety isn’t the enemy—it sounds the alarm when fear comes up!. It provides a clue to your internal life. Where you lack trust, what you fear, what you don’t accept, etc. Forget solving it externally, it won’t work.  Even if the situation stops causing anxiety, that sleeping bear still lives inside you.  Anxiety grows when you hate it, disown it, try to reason with it and push it away. What’s the answer? Instead of running from it, sit with it. Check out this episode and in the meantime listen more deeply to what anxiety tells you.

I wonder if you know you’re in a ferris wheel cycle of problem-solving? Wonder why you're always focused on issues that get in the way of enjoying life? “He won’t commit, my job sucks, no matter how hard I try–something always gets in the way and so on.” In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the trap of living in "Problemville," where you're constantly seeking solutions but never finding peace. What's the real answer to all your problems? It's not another quick fix or strategy; it's a radical shift in perspective. Tracy challenges you to move from a state of lack to a state of abundance, from control to true awareness. Stop looking for problems and start living the life you truly desire.

Do you believe trust must be earned? Like your partner showing you their texts to prove he/she is dedicated. Trust isn’t about controlling what another person says or does, and it’s not something to be exchanged, like money. In fact, trust isn’t about other people at all—it’s about you. When you don’t trust yourself to handle a situation, you decide the other person is the problem. Trust occurs when words and actions match, and trust is broken when they don’t. You expect that from other people, but do you practice it yourself? In this episode we’ll talk about how to become the trustworthy person you expect others to be. And how it’s better to trust that you can handle life than to expect other people to change. Here’s a glance at this episode… [01:25] Trusting Yourself is Huge: Focus on trusting yourself rather than worrying about trusting others. [02:27] Words and Actions Must Match: Understand that trust is built when your words and actions align. Emphasize the need to match your own words and actions. [06:11] Being Emotionally Resilient: Trust yourself to be emotionally resilient and handle disappointment, rather than constantly blaming others and feeling victimized. [10:57] The Importance of Self-Trust: Realize that trusting yourself is crucial for building close and bonded relationships and avoiding unnecessary anxiety and control. [12:44] Taking Responsibility for Trust Issues: Recognize that building trust is not about the other person, but about your own choices and actions in a relationship. [18:13] Choosing Yourself Over Attachment: Examine why you cling to someone who is not ready to commit and realize the importance of choosing your own best interest. [20:52] Trusting Yourself and Accepting Circumstances: Emphasize the importance of loving yourself and making choices based on feelings rather than intellectualizing, and accepting circumstances in relationships. [21:47] The Way to Trust Yourself: Understand the importance of trusting yourself to handle situations, being responsible for your own feelings, and making better choices in relationships. [22:52] Being in the Present Moment and Learning from Mistakes: Highlight the significance of being present, taking responsibility for your feelings, learning from mistakes, and building self-trust.

Ever daydream? You know where you find yourself the superhero or some other fantasy? It’s called escapism. By looking at what is a fantasy you feel powerful rather than the humdrum of focusing on what is missing from your life. This episode dives deep into the invisible chains of avoidance that hold you back from living your fullest life. Using your imagination as a visualization is not to be discouraged, but using it to stay stuck in wishful thinking never changes anything. What's the big secret to unlocking your superpower? Stop avoiding and start living. For those ready to elevate their consciousness and escape the clutches of "attachment hell," this is your roadmap to freedom. Your superpower isn't a figment of your imagination; it's the key to a life well-lived. Activate your superpower today and change your life forever.

Join us in a riveting discussion on relationships, self-love, and personal growth with two exceptional women. Sherry Gaba, a licensed psychotherapist and life coach, is renowned for her expertise in codependency, love addiction, and trauma. As the author of "Love Smacked" and a frequent face on Vh1’s Celebrity Rehab, Sherry's dedication to mental health and recovery is unparalleled. On the other side, Carla Romo, a Professional Certified Coach and co-host of The Love Fix, transformed her life after overcoming toxic codependency at 24. With a passion for pushing individuals past their limitations, Carla's coaching has been recognized globally, from BRAVO to Cosmopolitan. Dive into their shared wisdom on modern dating, self-awareness, and the art of intentional relationships. Whether you're seeking love, understanding, or a fresh perspective, this episode promises enlightenment and empowerment.

Join Tracy as she engages in a riveting conversation with Steve Q. Wiltshire, a former Mr. Oregon Body Building champion who battled and overcame a life-altering autoimmune disease. Discover the magic of produce, and the transformative power of customized wellness plans. Steve, founder of Body Temple Health & Wellness, shares insights from his three-decade-long journey prioritizing fitness, health, and mindset. From personal tales of resilience to actionable health advice, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone looking to reclaim their health and power. Tune in and be inspired by Steve's story.

Heather Allison, a mystical guide and creator of Transformative Mystery Schools, joins Tracy for an enthralling conversation about embracing feminine and masculine energies and finding one's true self. Heather's remarkable journey takes us from the struggles of a toxic relationship to the awakening of her inner wisdom, redefining her life's trajectory. Dive into the mystical realms of your inner sanctuary, spiraling towards expansion and enlightenment. Join Tracy and Heather on this enlightening journey, unlocking your inner dreamer and embracing a life filled with authenticity and purpose.

Avoidants have feelings, but they may not be what you expect. This episode shines a light on the complex world of avoidants, revealing how fear and control can mask genuine emotions. You ever notice how avoidants act nice but push others away? You ever notice that you could be one? Do you build walls when triggered? Yeah, it's not coldness (and if you’ve been accused then you know how that feels), it's fear. Tracy dives into the psyche of avoidants, sharing insights into why they behave the way they do and how they can break free. Whether it's understanding your own avoidant tendencies, learning how to interact with an avoidant in your life, or seeking a path to real love and connection, in this episode, Tracy provides practical steps towards self-awareness to navigate these challenging dynamics. No more confusion or frustration—embrace a sincere journey towards empathy, understanding, and growth. Tune in to find the path to recognizing and addressing avoidant behavior, unlocking the potential for healthy, happy relationships.

Join Tracy Crossley and guest María-Victoria Albina. From her own battle with codependency to an unexpected shift from medicine to life coaching, Maria shares her unique insights and personal experiences. Listen as María-Victoria dives into the challenges and lessons of her life, from her struggle with perfectionism during college to her journey through an emotionally abusive marriage. Regardless of where you are in your personal journey, this episode offers valuable takeaways for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and the transformative power of love. Learn more about María-Victoria here: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaalbinawellness/, https://www.facebook.com/VictoriaAlbinaWellness, https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaalbina/

Having your soulmate may seem impossible or that it could happen, but with conditions. This episode shines a light on how the ego gets in the way because of its fierce pursuit of survival while spinning illusions of specialness. You ever notice how you make someone special when you are attached to the idea of them? You ever notice how you need to be special too? Yeah, its not love, it's ego. Tracy shares her personal journey to taming the ego, revealing a path to genuine love (not attachment) and inner peace. Whether it's a fulfilling love relationship, financial prosperity, or internal harmony you seek, in this episode, Tracy provides practical steps towards self-awareness to redirect your energy towards your true north star. No more hiding or forcing—embrace a sincere journey towards self-discovery, freedom, and joy. Tune in to find the path to having your soulmate through your authentic vibe to attract your desires.

Olesya Wilson, a certified nutritionist and holistic healer, joins Tracy as they dive into a captivating conversation about overcoming health issues and discovering the path to holistic healing. Olesya's incredible story showed how she broke free from limiting beliefs and unlocked her inner strength. Olesya challenges societal norms, redefining confidence as an inner essence and emphasizing the significance of self-love, self-care, and living in the present moment. Uncover the principles of self-value, self-care, and self-observation, shaping your relationship with money and overall well-being. Immerse yourself in the transformative power of the present moment, cultivating gratitude and contentment. Join Tracy and Olesya on this immersive journey, unlocking your inner power and embracing a life of holistic well-being. Learn more here: Website: https://olesyawilson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindoverbody.me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindoverbodyme/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@olesyawilson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olesyawilson/

Join us as we sit down with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, co-founder of Mindvalley, for a thought-provoking conversation that will inspire and empower you. We begin by delving into Kristina's childhood dreams and how her journey into adulthood was shaped by the transformative events of the fall of the Soviet Union. Furthermore, we explore the transformative impact of everyday decisions. Discover the profound impact that seemingly small choices can have on our lives. Gain practical strategies to overcome decision fatigue and streamline your decision-making process, freeing up valuable mental energy for what truly matters. As we conclude our conversation, we explore the transformative practice of letting go. Get a glimpse into Kristina's new book, "Becoming Flawesome," which offers guidance on releasing what no longer serves us, leading to a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life. Tune into this illuminating journey with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani and unlock the keys to embracing your fullest potential. Learn more about Kristina here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/ Website: https://kristinamand.com/

Your attachment to that person or finding yourself hitting repeat on the kind of relationships you attract? Perhaps it's more than just conditioning? Let’s uncover the hidden gems within attachment issues— they're not just conditioning, —they're actually opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Once we release the idea that attachment is everything, a whole new world of emotional and spiritual freedom opens up to us. Picture this: your soul contract is like a guiding light throughout your entire life, presenting you with contrasting situations that are designed to help you grow and discover the true essence of love. It's time to move beyond blame and shift our perspective. When we do that, attachments start losing their hold on us, and love becomes the ultimate game changer. Listen into the podcast to learn more. Ready to embark on this life-altering journey? Start by nurturing your awareness and consider exploring our mind-blowing metaphysical breakthrough sessions. They're like a compass, providing you with invaluable insights and guidance along the way. Come join us on this adventure of attachment and unlock the incredible power of soul contracts to create a life that's truly fulfilled, happy, and overflowing with love. Let's do this together!

In a world filled with external expectations and obstacles, it's crucial to tune into your inner desires and follow your "yes." Join Tracy in an enlightening episode of "Moving On" as she interviews Ken Bechtel, an acclaimed author, speaker, and mentor, who shares invaluable insights on the transformative power of following your divine guidance. Ken emphasizes the importance of embracing unexpected outcomes and trusting that every piece of the puzzle is there for a reason. During their conversation, Ken and Tracy dive into the topic of shame and its role as a catalyst for change. Rather than viewing shame as something to be healed, Ken urges listeners to identify its source and take proactive steps to prevent its recurrence. Discover how recognizing and working through shame can provide clarity on your next steps towards personal growth and self-discovery. Ken's book, Follow Your Yes provides further exploration of the concept of following your inner guidance and offers practical advice on navigating life's obstacles. Immerse yourself and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery. Let Ken and Tracy's empowering words resonate within you as they guide you towards staying true to yourself and fearlessly embracing life's intricate puzzle. By following your "yes" and embracing your inner guidance, you'll unlock the door to profound growth and fulfillment that await you. Learn more about Ken here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/followyouryes/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KenWBechtel Website: https://www.kenbechtel.com/

Join us as we dive into the world of spiritual awakening with Rachael Jayne Groover, founder of The Awakened School and bestselling author of "Powerful and Feminine." Rachael takes us on a transformative journey, recounting her path towards inner peace and outer purpose. Discover the pivotal moments that led to her multidimensional seeing experience, as she courageously surrendered her image and followed her instincts. Through profound insights, Rachael unveils the profound ways her life has been reshaped since her spiritual awakening, and how she now guides others on their own spiritual paths through her work at The Awakened School. Unveiling the power of awakening to purpose, spirituality, and potential, this podcast will inspire you to become more receptive to the present moment and embark on your own awakening journey.

Most everyone on the planet has heard of the law of attraction. How about the law of attraction and insecure attachment? Well, you are always attracting the people, places and things to your life that you currently are experiencing today. Looking at who you are attached to or fear being engulfed by gives them more power over you, than you have of yourself in making choices that you want. Your attachment style may say “yes” to pain and “no” to happiness. Who you attract and how you act are reflected in why you magnetize what you do. And for some of us we look at the person we are attached to and feel some magic brought him or her to our lives. Join Tracy as she unveils the secrets to changing your attachment style and attracting the love and fulfillment you truly desire. If you're ready to break free from the patterns of insecurity and create a life of love and abundance, tune in to gain invaluable insights, practical strategies, and the inspiration to transform your attachment style.

Discover the path to financial harmony and genuine happiness in this captivating podcast episode. Tracy sits down with Ken Honda, a revered money and happiness expert and best-selling author from Japan, to explore the transformative power of reshaping our relationship with money. Through heartfelt childhood anecdotes and personal experiences, Ken shares how his father's wisdom molded his views on finance. He unveils the key to a fulfilling life: adopting a positive and grateful attitude towards money. Ken's philosophy is centered around using money as a tool for happiness and fulfillment, rather than a source of stress and anxiety. He empowers listeners to prioritize self-fulfillment, finding joy in their own lives before extending generosity to others. In his vibrant community, "Arigato a Living Community," individuals from 20 different countries gather monthly to explore the intertwined nature of money and happiness. Join Tracy in this insightful episode as Ken Honda guides you on a journey towards financial well-being and lasting contentment. Uncover the profound truth that money is not happiness itself but a means to unlock a more harmonious and fulfilling life. "Money is a tool for happiness. It's not happiness itself." "Life is to be enjoyed. You can spend money in a happy way, you can receive money in a happy way. If you focus on your relationship with money, you can change your life. So start appreciating both money coming in and going out.”

This episode dives deep into the topic of exchanging anxiety energy for love. Tracy sheds light on how anxiety is born from fear and signifies an insecure attachment, and she offers powerful strategies to shift that energy towards love, generosity, and happiness. Discover the importance of real feelings and effective communication in relationships, as Tracy guides you towards becoming free from the grip of anxiety. If you find yourself repeatedly attracting the same types of relationships, Tracy's expertise can help you uncover the root cause and manifest a healthy, happy connection. In addition to Tracy's insightful guidance in this episode, she offers transformative programs and coaching to support individuals on their journey to overcoming attachment anxiety and finding true fulfillment in relationships. Tracy's programs are designed to provide personalized support and tools tailored to each individual's unique needs. Whether you're seeking one-on-one coaching or prefer the dynamic of a group setting, Tracy's expertise and compassionate approach can help you break free from the grip of anxiety and create the loving, harmonious connection you desire. To learn more about Tracy's transformative programs and coaching offerings, be sure to visit tracycrossley.com. Take the first step towards a happier, more secure future by exploring the resources and guidance available to you through Tracy's empowering programs.

Attachment and love are opposite countries. Embark on a transformative journey as Tracy delves into the profound nature of attachment in this captivating podcast episode. Drawing upon decades of experience in dealing with insecure attachment, energy work, and psychic sessions, we explore the spiritual side of attachment and how to get out of its clutches. Discover the power you hold to break free from the cycle of pain and insecurity and create a life filled with love, abundance, and joy. Through emotionally-provocative examples, we unravel the connection between attachment and karma, showcasing how releasing attachment can lead to profound personal growth and fulfilling relationships. With insights and guidance, you'll gain awareness and tools to speak your truth, liberate yourself from suffering, and embrace the love that you truly deserve. Are you ready to break free from attachment hell and embark on a journey towards emotional freedom and self-discovery? Tune in now and start your path to an empowered and meaningful life. (Note: This podcast episode explores the spiritual aspects of attachment and provides guidance on breaking free from pain and insecurity. It is recommended for those seeking personal growth, transformative experiences, and a deeper understanding of the self.)

In this episode, Tracy speaks with Erin Pash, a successful therapist and business owner, who shares her journey towards discovering and utilizing her emotional intelligence. From her classic teenage childhood to switching from science to psychology in college, Erin has always had a talent for emotional intelligence and helping others. Join us as we explore the nuances of empathy and emotional intelligence, and how they can impact our personal and professional lives. Erin also shares valuable insights about the spectrum of emotional intelligence and the importance of setting boundaries when helping others. We also delve into her personal experiences, including her blended family and navigating the challenges of marriage and divorce. As a therapist and business owner, Erin offers her perspectives on bad therapy as well as the importance of reflecting on mistakes and growing from them. Whether you're interested in mental health or looking to improve your own emotional intelligence, you won't want to miss this inspiring and insightful episode. Discover the power of emotional intelligence and how it can change your life for the better.

In this captivating episode of the "Moving On" podcast, Tracy introduces us to the incredible Dr. Fleet Maull. A renowned growth mindset teacher, meditation guru, and social entrepreneur, Dr. Maull's journey of self-discovery and transformation is nothing short of awe-inspiring. From his childhood to his spiritual journey, Dr. Maull shares how he overcame numerous challenges and developed an unwavering sense of discipline, focus, and inner strength. His time in prison was a pivotal moment, where he embraced a disciplined life of a prison monk and devoted hours each day to meditation, study, and service. But Dr. Maull's journey didn't end there. He has developed a groundbreaking approach to healing attachment issues using neuro-somatic mindfulness and regenerative self-parenting. He believes that true healing begins with reconnecting with our hearts and becoming more heart-centered, a mission that he carries out through his Heart Mind Institute. Join Tracy as she dives into the life and teachings of Dr. Fleet Maull, and discover how we too can cultivate a growth mindset, transform our lives, and find our inner strength. This is an episode not to be missed!

Join us as Tracy delves into the complexities of spirituality and non-attachment. Tracy shares insights on how to manifest the life you want by removing the layers of attachment that prevent you from reaching your full potential. Discover how projecting your own energy onto others can lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications, and how the ego can keep you trapped in familiar suffering. Through relatable examples, Tracy highlights the importance of self-awareness and understanding where attachment comes from. Learn how to read energy from a place of love and expand your heart to embrace a whole new way of being. You'll gain valuable tips on how to become aware of your own ego, and how to distinguish between attachment and genuine connection. Tracy also offers a simple experiment to help you cultivate a deeper understanding of your own energy, and how to use it to build better relationships. Tune in to discover the transformative power of letting go of attachment and embracing love.

Join us for a captivating episode where we sit down with Dr. Jessica Higgins, a psychologist and relationship coach with over 20 years of experience, as we delve into the intricacies of human connection and the importance of emotional growth and vulnerability. In this interview, we explore Dr. Higgins' own personal experiences with relationships and trauma, and how they have informed her approach to therapy and personal growth. We discuss the challenges that people often face when seeking help for their relationships, and why it's crucial to prioritize emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and differentiation in any healthy partnership. Dr. Higgins also stresses the importance of striking a balance between togetherness and autonomy, and why confronting past pain and trauma is essential for growth and healing. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just curious about the dynamics of human connection, this episode is a must-listen to discover the keys to building strong, healthy relationships. Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @drjesshiggins Shifting Criticism guide: https://drjessicahiggins.lpages.co/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication/ Empowered Relationship Podcast: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/

Lovebombing. Ladies and gents–you want empowerment, you want emotional freedom and you want to feel you can choose better, this only happens when you let go of someone else having power over you. It’s what happens when we make others responsible for our emotional state and our own choices. Sometimes it's scary to give up the idea that someone else is to blame, because it feels like you have power or control. But it is the opposite, it leaves you a victim waiting for someone to come along who controls your emotions, because you made them responsible. This is part and parcel of our conditioning, so you aren’t purposely thinking this sounds like a day at the park! In this episode, we dive into the world of love bombing and explore how you can break free from its negative effects. Tracy shares valuable insights on taking personal responsibility, building self-worth, and growing emotional maturity. By examining your own contributions to the relationship and understanding any unconscious patterns or traumas that may be influencing your behavior, you can gain personal power and inner peace, paving the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Join us as we explore the transformative power of personal responsibility and the importance of building self-worth. And if you're struggling with love bombing or insecure attachment, we've got you covered with resources to help you on your journey.

On this episode of the Moving On podcast, join Tracy as she sits down with the accomplished Christina Flach, a renowned celebrity makeup and hair artist, the driving force behind Pretty Girl Makeup, and a dedicated philanthropist. As a mother to five children, Flach opens up about her journey in balancing her various roles, her commitment to charitable endeavors, and her remarkable ability to bounce back from personal hardships. She highlights the significance of prioritizing self-care, cultivating gratitude, and giving back to others. Tune in to hear her empowering advice on discovering your passions and turning them into a career, as well as valuable insights on makeup, wellness, and fitness. Follow Christina on IG: https://www.instagram.com/christinaflachmakeup

Married and attached to someone else? Ring the drama bell! Being attached to someone outside of your committed relationship isn’t all others may think its cracked up to be. Often, the people who are attached to someone who is not their mate, find themselves going through a tough time. Whether the attachment is acted on or not, it can feel as though you are quite alone unless engaging with this person. Join me as two of my clients in this situation share their stories and we do a bit of Q&A on taking steps to feel they can make a loving decision for themselves.

“He said he loves me! Okay, so why doesn’t he act like it!!” Oh man, the pain and agony of insecure attachment, even when your partner says those three little words. In this episode, we dive into the idea of attachment and unrealistic expectations that come with it. From focusing on struggle to telling ourselves stories and little white lies about what "I love you" or any meaningful statement, “I love how you drink your beer!” means, so that we can continually be in a state of pain and yearning. This episode will challenge your assumptions and help you take responsibility for your choices in relationships. By becoming aware of your thoughts and questioning your expectations, you can break free from the conditioning of attachment and start loving yourself. Don't miss out on this eye-opening discussion about the power of what your partner or date says and what it really means.

You wish you could be calm, cool and collected. Other people seem to do it—they can pull off being mysterious while your facial expressions always give you away. You feel like the weird emotional one, trying to tame whatever is brewing inside while everyone else stays calmly in control. You’re afraid if anyone knew how you really felt, they would judge you. But following the rules of what other people deem as “acceptable” will leave you disconnected from yourself and your life. If you want to be comfortable in your skin, you need to value your own truth and stop seeking outside approval. In this week’s episode I’ll show you how to pay attention to your insecurities, and identify which situations provoke them. From there you can practice showing up in those situations however you feel, and not expecting yourself to be different. Gauging how you’re supposed to act by watching the body language, words and actions of others is the opposite of authentic. Instead, take action from an internal desire for happiness and wellbeing. Over time your insecurities will fade and your confidence will grow! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Valuing your truth makes it easier to find true connection. Letting go of that fear changes your life.

Brian Nickerson is the Co-Founder and CEO of MagicLinks, an award-winning full-stack influencer marketing platform and the global leader in social video commerce. Built with over $1B GMV in eCommerce transactions across 25k+ video influencers and 30B views, Match IntelligenceTM, MagicLinks Secret Sauce, accurately predicts which influencers will drive the best outcomes for brands based on sales and reach goals. Nickerson earned his MBA from Harvard Business School and graduated from Dartmouth College with a Bachelor’s of Arts in Engineering and Economics. Prior to helping brands win big with influencer technology innovations, he helped the Los Angeles Dodgers win big as their third baseman in the minor leagues. In this episode, Brian shares his journey as a former professional baseball player turned entrepreneur, the importance of embracing failure as a learning experience, and the significance of delegation and scaling. He also gives insights on how to use high-performance index exercises to improve company culture and shares three key tips for business success. "I think great things aren't achieved unless you're willing to be bold." "Most change starts with awareness. If you don't know or don't understand that there's an issue, it's pretty hard to change it. But once you are aware of something, then the energy starts to flow in a way that can change." Learn more about Brian & MagicLinks here: MagicLinks: https://www.magiclinks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magiclinks LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/magiclinks/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@magiclinks Twitter: https://twitter.com/usemagiclinks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/usemagiclinks

I never thought I could be chosen, I thought I always had to be the one performing, showing I was worth it....until I chose me. Are you tired of constantly waiting for someone else to choose you? Do you feel like you're always stuck in the waiting game, hoping and praying that the other person will finally pick you? In this episode of our podcast, we're diving deep into the difference between commitment and attachment, and exploring how waiting for someone else to choose you can leave you feeling empty and in pain. But the good news is that you don't have to wait for somebody to choose you. You can choose yourself and start making healthy, happy choices for your life. We'll also explore the role of self-awareness in making positive changes in relationships and provide practical tips and tools for listeners who are ready to take control of their lives. So if you're tired of feeling stuck and want to start choosing yourself, tune in and join the conversation!

Jaime started dieting at age 11, was hospitalized for an eating disorder at age 15, had kidney dialysis at 17 and finally recovered at 24. It wasn’t until her recovery that she realized how much her childhood contributed. Before Jaimie was born, her father was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s disease, so she grew up with a father who loved and supported her, but couldn’t walk, talk, or breathe on his own. Food and exercise were two things in life Jaime could control, so she doubled-down on both. Join me for an uplifting conversation with Jaime who turned her scarlet “A” (for anorexia) into a way of inspiring others to find synergy between mental and physical fitness. As a coach and Instagram influencer, she helps women overcome overwhelm and reduce anxiety through fitness. “You can integrate your mental health into your physical health, and your physical health into your mental health.” Learn more about Jaime here: Website: Jaime Filer Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaim91/

You think love is hard work, you are so used to it being unequal, unfair and down right frustrating at times. In fact, you might be tired of feeling like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of drama and pain in your relationships. Do you feel like you're always searching for love, but end up attached instead? If so, you need to tune into this podcast episode about Attachment Drama and The Great Equalizer! In this episode, you'll learn about the crucial differences between love and attachment, and how attachment can be incredibly unfair and draining for the attached person. You'll gain a deeper understanding of the world of pain that attachment can bring, and how to recognize the signs of attachment in your own life. But it's not all doom and gloom! You'll also discover the power of choosing love over attachment, and how to take baby steps to get there. You'll learn about the importance of awareness and taking action, and how to start living a life of love and fulfillment. With engaging anecdotes and practical tips, this podcast episode is the perfect guide for anyone who wants to break free from attachment and start living a life of love. So don't miss out – tune in now to discover the great equalizer and how to choose love every time!

Are you holding yourself back from receiving the love you want and being your badass self? Or does your need for control and “giving to get” keep you stuck in the same paradigm? Let’s be clear: a badass is not someone who struts around, pretending they don’t need anyone. That’s a victim wearing a suit of emotional armor. A badass when it comes to love is open-hearted, trusting, courageous and vulnerable. A badass takes care of their own emotional wellbeing, and when they’re in a situation where someone doesn’t respect them or their boundaries… a badass removes themself from that situation. A badass is the REAL you. So how do you stop people pleasing and playing the role of the “good” partner in order to be comfortable as your badass self so you can receive love freely? First, look at what you say you want, and how your actions work against it. If you’re not sure what you want, tune in to today’s episode for a writing exercise that will help you identify your disconnects and help you uncover the motivation behind your actions. Receiving love requires clarity, honesty and openness. There is no magical genie who can grant you “badass” status. The only power capable of doing that is you.

Kute had a rather unconventional upbringing. His dad was a spiritual leader who built 300 churches in Ghana and led a huge congregation in London. Everyday Kute would watch his dad, dubbed the “Miracle man of Africa,” heal people. Then, at the boyish age of 14, Kute was ordained as a minister and instructed by his father to take over. Although he was an empathetic kid and wanted to help people, this wasn’t what he wanted. After four years of depression and inner turmoil, he left the church and followed his soul to the US. What he would do there, he had absolutely no idea. He was 18 years old. Join me for Kute’s inspirational journey to understand life and listen to his inner wisdom (even when he didn’t know where it was leading him). He’ll share why, after incredible persistence and determination, he turned down an opportunity to realize his dream. Instead of following his ego, he surrendered to life…and he tells us how we can do that too. Today Kute is an inspirational speaker, author, teacher and next-gen personal development leader who inspires people to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose. “Life tends to unfold in ways that are way better than we could ever plan for ourselves.” —Kute Blackson Learn more about him here: Website: Home page Facebook: kute blackson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/ Twitter: kuteblackson YouTube: Kute Blackson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kute-blackson-35755519/

Settling, and the fear of missing out, is a reflection of not feeling good enough as you are right now. When you search for perfection—or even just better than you have—you’re looking for something that doesn’t exist. Many people who are attached struggle with this “not good enough” belief, driving them to sabotage their relationships and create obstacles to happiness. If you second guess your relationship whenever your partner tries to get close to you, listen in. In this week’s podcast I’ll share the secret to feeling enough so you stop freaking out about settling. It starts with two questions to ask yourself each morning. Do this consistently and you’ll start building your sense of value. Because the thing is, when you chase that greener grass, you bring yourself (and your belief of not being good enough) with you. Then the fear of settling starts all over again. Let’s break that cycle, shall we?

I see this happen a lot: someone finally gets into a healthy relationship after struggling with insecure attachment (through a lot of work on themselves, of course), and they miss the intensity. They watch a passionate love scene on TV or hear about their friend’s romantic escapade and momentarily lament their “boring” relationship, wondering if this is what a healthy relationship is supposed to feel like. But then they realize, “Hey, I’m not constantly in pain! My stomach isn’t tied up in anxious knots. I can relax and be myself with this person!” Attachment is like a drug with extreme highs and lows, so giving up the lows also means giving up the highs. When we equate love with intense chemistry, then realize that’s not real love, it can be an adjustment. If this happens and you find yourself craving intensity in a healthy relationship, listen to this podcast. I’ll tell you what you can do to fill your emotional tank and focus on what you have rather than operating from a place of lack.

In this episode Tracy sits down with David Perry to discuss the secret to his meteoric success. Perry is currently the CEO of Carro, a new e-commerce partnership network used by over 30k Shopify Brands. Prior to Carro, Perry had established himself as one of the best-known video game veterans in the industry. His previous company, Gaikai, was acquired by Sony PlayStation. He was also the Co-Founder & Chief Creative Officer of Acclaim Entertainment, and founded the game development company Shiny Entertainment, which was first acquired by Interplay, then again by Atari. Perry has spoken at TED, E3, Digital Hollywood, Stanford University, MIT, USC, UCLA and many others.

You’re in a heated argument with someone. Maybe you have unresolved anger from an earlier situation so it escalates quickly. Harsh words are exchanged, the jabs get personal, then bam—your feelings are hurt. You feel wronged, victimized, and unfairly attacked. You might assume they set out to hurt you and it’s all their fault. But how do you know their intention? That’s what we’re talking about this week. When someone says or does something that hurts your feelings, and you expect them to “fix” it because it’s their fault, you are at their mercy. It sounds harsh, but no one owes you anything…and it takes two to tango. Instead of putting all the blame on them, look at how you contribute to the situation and what you expect from them. YOU are responsible for your emotions, your actions and your reactions. And that’s good news because it means your emotional wellbeing is in your hands, not someone else’s.

Are you searching for a unicorn? I’m talking about someone whose specialness makes everything in life seem amazing. Someone you are (and forever will be) attracted to, who will never upset you or trigger you, who you’ll always have a deep physical connection with. Like unicorns themselves, this romantic idea you’re invested in is a fantasy. Love exists with another human who is flawed by nature. In this week’s episode we’ll look at what keeps you searching for unicorns (if you’re an Avoidant or Anxious Avoidant, pay particular attention). The kind of “perfect” love you’re looking for is only in the pages of a fairy tale. It’s a place where pain doesn’t exist… which is where many Avoidants like to live. You can continue searching for what is unrealistic, or you can look inside and deal with whatever emptiness, pain, and anxiety you’re feeling. Because unconditional love does exist. It’s just different from what you’re looking for.

Kieve is the founder and CEO of Engager Brands, where he combines music and cannabis to create authentic lifestyle brands like Heavy Grass, Neon Roots, and Clown Cannabis. Each has roots in music and resonates with the communities that align with them. With more than 25 years of experience in the music, cannabis and tech industries, Kieve leverages his knowledge and industry relationships to create these unique, cutting-edge brands. He was one of the founders of the leading cannabis media company, PRØHBTD Media, which built the first multi-platform video network. Join me for a spirited conversation about mindset and motivation as Kieve shares the secret sauce for his unique brand of success. www.engagerbrands.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/kievehuffman/

Labeling someone as a narcissist (or dysfunctional or whatever) often comes from a place of pain and lack. They hurt you, so you want to feel superior, but blaming them for the way they are and the way they treat you doesn’t boost your self-worth. It may temporarily feel good, but that puts you in the position of victim, and victimhood is powerless. In this week’s podcast we’ll look at how to let go of the idea that they’re a monster and you’re their victim. “Diagnosing” them gives you a sense of control, but you do yourself a disservice when you look for fault in others instead of taking responsibility for the decisions you make. It can feel crappy to admit you CHOSE this person, but it’s also empowering because that means you can make a different choice. You can make small, loving choices toward you.

Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And it certainly doesn’t mean it’s your job to make those red flags go away; to shine that diamond in the rough! When you tell yourself what an amazing person you are for seeing the good in someone, that’s your ego talking. It’s the false part of yourself seeing the false part of others. And it’s totally rooted in insecure attachment. Emotionally healthy people don’t sacrifice their own wellbeing for others. When you believe this martyr story and ignore or excuse red flags, you sell yourself short. You do NOT deserve a “broken” person who needs rescuing. That road leads to unhappiness because it’s an impossible journey, and you’ll never find what you’re looking for. Focusing on the other person means you’re avoiding yourself. In today’s podcast we’ll explore this story we tend to create, and how to change it. Ignoring red flags doesn’t make you noble. Let’s dispel that belief so you can shift to the real work: the work that begins with you. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You are your own red flag. Surrender to reality, stop the story and be that hero for yourself.

Go ahead, buy that car. You’re worth it. Your well-earned promotion will finally show people you have arrived. How do you measure your worth? Is it by what other people label as important, or what you feel inside? Will chasing money, fame and success make you feel worthy and valued? Of course not. Some of the most successful people in the world have an enormous sense of lack, believing more accolades will eventually fill them up. Intellectually you know fulfillment doesn’t work this way, yet your subconscious still searches for validation over the next mountain. So where does your internal value come from? Much of it is learned in childhood from your parents’ feelings of worthlessness. Yep, it’s passed down, so to speak, through the generations. Of course you didn’t know this as a kid; you simply modeled their behavior and emotional responses. And instead of seeing the problem as theirs, you believed something was wrong with you. In today’s podcast we’ll look at how we search for worthiness externally, and how to cultivate it internally. Everything you avoid takes away your worth, so start by accepting where you are right now—even if you feel utterly worthless. Then, let resistance be your guide. What you most resist is often the pathway to a more fulfilling life. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt

As a self-proclaimed late bloomer, it took Treva Brandon Scharf longer than most to find her direction in life. After attending multiple colleges, Treva moved from Beverly Hills to New York, then back to LA, racking up a string of relationships she was never fully committed to. It wasn’t until she hit her 40s that she realized she forgot to get married and have kids (oops). Join Treva as she shares her unconventional journey in love and life, going from copywriter to personal trainer to life coach, and from single to married for the first time at the age of 51. After years of trying to find a partner, Treva reveals what eventually led her to her husband. Today she writes about surviving singledom and finding love later in life on her blog, The Late Blooming Bride. She is also a dating coach, speaker, and podcast host. “Here is the key to the kingdom; this is the magic: surrender.” —Treva Brandon Scharf Learn more about Treva at: Website: https://trevabrandonscharf.com/ Instagram: @trevabme Twitter: @trevabme Facebook: http://facebook.com/treva.brandonscharf LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/trevabrandonscharf