Future Fathers FF

As men we may not see a support network in our friends but thats just what they are and we need to acknowledge how important they are and what key roles they play.

The English summer is here and the children have been let out of school for about 6 weeks, ( what do we do ? ) its time to get our imaginations flowing and our children smiling, finding activities for them can be hard and expensive but they are out there we just need to look harder.

is a big thing now and getting even bigger, we as parents have to be aware of our children's feeling and their surroundings to make sure the affects of life are helping them in a way that is benefiting them.

Your finances are not suppose to be a joke but it seems like most of us take our finances for some kind of plaything not knowing how important they are to us and to the next generation, being able to provide for your children is a blessing and we need to prepare for when were gone.

So many of us fathers have had no positive influence input in our lives its truly sad but we as fathers have an opportunity to turn that around, and with all the strength i can muster you can trust im going to try and be a positive influence in my sons lives and i hope you will do the same or similar.

A convo which in both of us had a lot to say, remember we've bot got sons and both run discipline in our houses but boys can be hard work as I'm sure dome of you already know.

Milestones come and go but the experience lasts a lifetime...

Is a long list of things we didn't expect and as my bro said its relative to the individual, we all know what kind of dad we would like to be but the reality is we may not be all that all the time but we can try and I'm sure you do I know I do.

I cant be the only person that thinks these things should be taught in school in fact I know I'm not ( I cant be ), but we as parents have not a lot of say what our children are taught only in the comfort of home and if you ask me support from school on finances, job security and personal persuite would help life itself.

Isn't something have to much experience with so I asked someone that dose my bro and he had a few things to say that made me see our children only need skills for life no matter who they are.

Is a big thing for some people and I'm on the side of yes, it keeps them pushing through adversity and going for goals. there are many different ways we can be active with our children and open new doors for them also.

Handling Stress!

However you deal with it is individual but it can make people around you wary of you but our children can always help eleviate it.

is a damn good question, and one that cant be answered easily by any one person but together im sure we can find a round about answer.

Commitment to your Family can change you!

In so many ways you wouldn't imagine, I have seen what its like first hand and its beautiful, not only do you feel better but it can be infectious.

The deeper the Explanation

sometimes isn't the one needed for every situation, sometimes a softer approach is needed. we could all do with some practice explaining things and being explained to as its all relative and can all be enhanced upon by our children.

From a Father to a Father.

What would you tell your younger self, just becoming a father and all it entails, what would you say ? too much and you may push too hard too little and it may not be what you would like, but we as fathers of boys have this to think about all the time a younger us is our sons.

Single Dads On mothers Day!

is a concept ive thought about but can't say too much on as im not in that position but at least i can ask questions and get answers from other dads that are.

Children and Chores

Don't always go hand in hand but on the off chance it dose thank your blessings,  as some of us including myself have some issues with our children completing their household tasks, but I suppose when they finally leave our home they wont have much choice but to do it themselves and we've given them all the tools to clean properly.

How would or do you Deal with Bullying ?

It's such a big thing and it doesn't seem to be going anywhere any time soon as most of us have probably dealt with it in some way shape or form, why are our children still having to deal with aspect of life?

Do your children owe you?

I don't even know how any parent can think this, your child didn't ask to be here and YES you are obligated to provide for any and all children you have.

A good start to the Day

sometimes isn't what we get but it is the best way to get going, its hard for a lot of us just to wake up but we push through anyway. my brothers just keep pushing and we will all get better.

We need to do Better, As parents and yes I'm talking about myself also, the behavior of our young children is only a byproduct of how we live and we can change them even if were stuck.

Influence:

How we influence our children is important but it seems that other social sources have taken the place of the parent in place if important influence.

Showing you child Affection!

Can and has been made hard for dads to do in public but its a natural part of life, some dads are more affectionate than others but its in all of us to show our children some affection from time to time.

How we treat Each other!

Its becoming a serious problem and is seems like we don't really care but I know that couldn't be further from the truth, we have a deep feeling for each other but its not translated well to the wider populous, if only we come together the possibilities are endless and imagine what that means for our children.

Encouragement!

is something we all need at some point but our children might need it a little more consistently, they are growing after all! and mistakes will be made but when their interest falter or you can see they need a push its not bad to encourage them to continue or try something else that is after all how we find what we like and in turn ourselves.

The Significance of Time

Is such a big gift but some of us take it for granted, some of us distance ourselves from it and some even try to avoid it but it catches up with all of us and we need to learn how and who to spend it wisely with.

Coping Mechanisms have Changed!

OH have they, I can remember a time ( I sound so old ) when coping with most things meant having a thick skin, and i feel most of our young generation are soft as heck, you cant say anything to them without offending them or triggering something.

Education doesn't Stop at School

we had a good discussion on this topic, its something that we as parents need to pay close attention to as we have to remember we are their first teachers and their life guides, but we must remember they are like our inspectors and will show us what we might need to adjust within ourselves.

Lines Of Communication!

The lines of communication are important to be kept open as they help up build and keep relationships open, how busy must we be to put off family, loved ones and our cuircle? im still learning how and we can all get better, after all its for the sake of our children we want to be better.

Relationships!

The relationships we form over our live our children see closely and they emulate what they see, we as their parents must remember that the relationships our children form will be based in how they see us relate to out loved ones friends and acquaintances.

Experience and Life

Our own experiences in life help us navigate the waters of parenthood and most anything else in our existance so why do some of us not lean into our experiences more and pass on the information we have that can help more than just ourselves? 

Its time to let the experience show.

Drugs and our Children!

Something we all hopefully avoid but some have to endure this everyday with their children, those of us who have experienced this have the knowledge have the advice for those of us who have never been through it or are entering into this murky part of life.

Your the Man!

This one id for the dads by the dads , don't forget yourselves as we can do or just  focus on ourselves, the experience is to be lived, so live it!

Helping Our Children Know who they are 

Is an important part of us as parents being able to guide our children and help them find who they are.

Extra Curricular Door Openers

As I'm sure most of you know how important it is for our children to have activities to occupie their time but extra activities that inspire them to go further in a profession or hobby can help them excel in all aspects of life.

We're not connected like we used to be!

Is true in so many ways, our children so much time online and we as parents do also but time spent together doing things can be just as important.

Real life isn't on a screen!

I think the title says a lot, and the youngsters of today rely on that screen for validation and so much more but we need to keep them and their minds full of opportunity and life.

Confidence!

Is something some of us don't gain until were older but building it starts in the home with US the Parents so be sure the confidence you give off id the kind of confidence you want your child to emulate.

Dads Are Important!

Despite what many may think dad has a very prominent role to play in his Childs life and it is imperative that we make sure the next generation of fathers knows this and have to confidence to raise their children without thinking I'm not what they need, because they need us as much as they need their mums.

Trying to keep our Children on the straight Path!

Is not an easy task trust me! we all have our own struggles and so do our children but we are the ones who have experienced life just a little more than them so its up to us to show them a better existence.

Summer Holiday & Teenage Guidance

A convo with my Bro about general teenage advice and dealing with our children over the summer holidays.

Don't forget yourself!

my brothers we need to take care of ourselves just as much as our children otherwise who will look after them?

Money Management!

Should be something we teach our children from a young age and when they are able to start earning for themselves.

How much we spend on our Children vs Ourselves!

Its not a joke that we may spend too much money on our children but for some its the only way to know we have made their lives better than ours were.

Pets!

Should be a part of a young Childs life as it is an opportunity to teach them about responsibility and expressing love amongst other things.

Relationship with Dad!

is something to be proud of and most of us don't even have that, well build it yourself! life is too short and fleeting to let one of the most important relationships go.

Beating Vs Talking

is a topic I know much about as i took a couple beatings as a child and had to shell out a couple as a parent myself, but is there a need ? in some cases Yes and some not at all, you as the parent have to judge your Childs situation.

Family Time!

Isn't just for Sunday's Christmas Or gatherings, they need to be something we incorporate into our everyday lives as much as we can because that's what I understand will help build a strong Family unit.

The Connection between Brothers and Sisters

is something as parents we don't think about even as children we don't question it but we don't do our best to nourish it either and we should.

Learning vs Being A Dad!

Has to be one of the most, I'm not quite sure which one would be, i suppose being a dad is hard enough without all the extra it comes with especially if we dont have a model to follow or is it the model you don't follow is better 

Do you Job!

we go to work to get paid, and do! but expect our children to be good people without putting in the work, Dose it make sense ?

Taking a Back Seat!

is not meant to be us as parents doing nothing but doing our best to guide our children by giving them the opportunity to explain themselves and if that means that we have to take a back seat by giving them time ( not too much ) then as parents we should at least be open to trying for our children.

Education with My guy ( Fingers! )

A discussion about education with one of my long time friends, ranging from ages 4 upwards into the work environment.

Reflection!

Shouldn't be something we wit our whole lives to do it should be something we do in stages, and I've started and it feels good. some of us may not be able to move past the past but for our children's future it may be what's needed.

Passing On Information!

Is as essential as giving someone help, ( at least i think so ) so how come were only just starting to do that in the 21st Century ? i would like ant and all fathers to reach out so we can have a convo as we all have valuable info for each other.

Missing Achievements!

should not be something we do it can happen, it's how we as parents deal with what comes next!

Helping!

should be like second nature to s but its almost like we don't see each other, but that has to stop and teaching our children is the best hope for breaking  that cycle and creating a whole new one!

Praise:

Can be one of the most important things to help a child gain confidence but it can also give them inspiration to pursue great things and achieve brilliant things.

Coping with Problems!

Stepping away from our children for just a second we have to evaluate our own mental and physical health, making sure we are in the best condition we can be to look after our children the best way we can, giving them the best we have to offer them.

Inspiration:

Is something we all need in our lives and most of us get it in many forms, so why should our children be any different ? they're not! we need ton inspire them as much as anyone they watch or listen to, and we need to be able to take inspiration from them as they are the generation that comes next.

Music!

Should be something we can all share and experience together but we dont, music is a n aextention of our emotions and should be seen as that not as a way for our young people to get rich quick and loose it even faster, we need to keep them listening to great music for their own development and nourishment as humans.

Cooking:

Can be a doorway into lots of other experiments and flavors for you and your child/children, or just a simple way for you to connect with you child over a learning experience or doing something you love, and we all love food.

Choices & Upbringing:

gives us a chance to look at the choices our children make and how informed they are in making them.

Conversations:

Are the things we tend to avoid, sometimes even if our children want to talk we don't want to! but something I've found to help me immensely is talking to my boys about their days and giving them some of the information they desire when asking me questions, ( but I cant give them everything ) it also makes me want to talk to them just to see how they are doing.

My Brothers it helps!

Peer Pressure:

We know it can be a detrimental thing to our youngsters as it can put them in some very unsafe situations that can either lead them down a winding road of destruction, but we must show them it can also be a path to extremely great things in life, and following your instinct or intuition is one thing that will help us and then decide what is right for us.

Rules:

I was always told were there to be followed, and this is the TRUTH! Speaking as an adult I now know the importance of rules and having them, Implementing them is another thing entirely, children like to bend and break the rules as natural enquirers' but its up to us to show them the importance and value of them.

Health and Hygiene! 

Needs no introduction at all, we need to instill this in our children for their own self development and their social interactions.

Our Elders:

Are the ones who came before us and those who have the wisdom and experience to pass on, we are the one who have lessons to learn and in the future will be the ones passing on wisdom through our own experiences, and our Grand parents are the Elders in our lived who can give us incite into ourselves.

Manners & Behavior 

Is an episode close to me as I had a hard mum who made sure I showed my manners, and now I see why, they show a good upbringing, good character and cost nothing, our children deserve to show the world the manners they have in abundance but only if we give them the right tools to do so.

Support for your Child!

Is a look at how we as parents support our child/children through the different stages in their lives that may and can arise, for some of us its a natural thing to give support and for some its a thing that has to be learnt. Never the less we strive to make their better and more fulfilled and fruitful than ours.

Indoor Events!

Is a look at how we can improve the quality of enjoyment we have with our children indoors, not to be funny but a lot of us don't utilize our children's willingness to imagine their surroundings and how they interact with them, we can all do more to have a little fun while making it educational and exciting for us and them!

The Connection with your Son!

Is my insight into how the connection between you and your son is detrimental to how the grow as men, form lasting relationships with their peers and loved ones and how you and they grow as people together.

Tiss the Season of Christmas!

This episode is just to highlight how important this time of year is when spending it with your children, the presents aren't the most important thing neither is the food, ( Guess what ) its' the people!

spend it with loved ones and drink responsibly.

It's Sir Lewis Hamilton now!

What a race that was, and if you didn't see it then maybe you should go watch it and formulate your own opinion because mien is straight forward, he was definitely robbed of his title, but now you fools have to call him SIR.

Our Daughters, Nieces and young Women!

This episode is about the relationship between us and our daughters, as I don't have any daughters I can only comment on my nieces and how I've seen them raised and learn to deal with the world on their own and are still learning, I can say proudly they are growing into women of great will.

This is for my you my Nieces, I love all of you!

The fact that our children are not being taught about their past in school should bother all of us, to the point of teaching our children ourselves bout their vast heritage and potential!

Always try give your children what you didn't get in the way of knowledge, it strengthens them and the generations after! 

Going back to school can be real hard and some of us know this first hand, get to know how your child is doing at school and the environment their in as well as who is around them, then coach them through how to deal with the return to education!

Preparing our children for the troubles that life holds for them is a struggle in itself and some of us know that struggle all too well, but putting our children in a better position than we were is essential for the betterment of our young ones.

Most of us don't know how to deal with being a dad so we knock ourselves down for things we don't understand but that is something we need to get past, and over with the help of other brothers in the same similar or previous situations, together we can change the narrative.

Most parents wouldn't even help other children in times of need but this needs to be a thing of the past, as most of us use the facilities of others to help our own children.

Today I just wanted to big up all the new fathers out there and let you know this is going to be hard at times but just #keepgoing find the strength to persevere and show your child a strong man!

Talking to another person is always helpful, even if its only in the slightest it still matters, which is something plan bringing to you guys more often.

enjoy the conversation I had with a friend of mine and let me know what you think should be the next topic!

The Journey of taking your child to school is a daunting task for black fathers, as questions can arise about their involvement and presence in their child's life, this is wrong!

Being a young black father isn't an easy task to take on but there are helpful words in every walk of life that you can gain from, especially those young black males that have gone before!

The task you have been given isn't one to be taken lightly, your now a father and responsible for the life of another, Be the Dad you never had but be the Dad that they need.

This episode is just a breakdown of my week and how i dealt with too much on my plate, How do you deal with this in your own way?

This episode was based on the code of conduct you have as a parent while your child is Gaming. 

Just another day in my life that i wish to share with all of you, enjoy

Another day of me talking to you about whats been happening in my life and how i deal with things!

what is it that made your morning or day great? let me know and we can talk about it together, im D this is future fathers Coffee and a Smoke !

This Episode comes after starting to upload videos of myself cooking and preparing different meals for and with my younger son.