Intellectual Erection

On this episode we talk about what the future has in store for the podcast with some fresh talent that will highlight sex positivity from QT BIPOC perspectives. This podcast has been going on for over three years and it’s time that I pass on the baton, so to speak, to some fresh and creative voices from the sex positive communities. Isla Carlisle and Jura Hau have a lot to share from within the sex positive communities as QT BIPOC humans. In this episode we discuss their work, what it means for them to be non-binary, and what they want to bring to Intellectual Erection. Isla Carlisle: @cuddlesluut Jura Hau: @jurahau Kink Poc: @kinkpoc Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectualerection Twitter: @buttplugpodcast FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear volume 6 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.comto be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 6 of an ongoing collection of tales meant to help you feel connected during the pandemic. You will hear stories about sex while travelling, risky adventures abroad, a retelling of a sexy tale from volume 4 from the other person’s perspective, a reminder of sunny days at the sex club, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during the pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual.erection Twitter: @buttplugpodcast FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with actor and writer Evan Spergel about navigating the entertainment industry as a gay man.  Evan has known he was gay since he was four. He has also known his strong pull toward the arts, especially in performance and writing. However, the entertainment industry has posed some obstacles in trying to market Evan’s image as sexually ambiguous, if not straight. These issues have inspired Evan’s writing and ambition to produce his own projects that he tackles with sexual energy. He recommends using sexuality in healthy ways like approaching your passion projects with the same sexual energy as you would a potential conquest. This, along with his dyslexia, makes Evan an unconventional and often poetic thinker, which makes this episode especially pleasant to listen to.    Find Evan Spergel at:  @evanspergel   Support Intellectual Erection at:  patreon.com/intellectualerection   Find Intellectual Erection on:  IG: @intellectual.erection  Twitter: @buttplugpodcast  FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with a panel of sex workers to create a guide for beginners interested in becoming sex workers. I have previously interviewed Lola Cheeks in an episode called “Miss Lola Jean the Sex Machine”, as well as LooLoo in an episode titled “LooLoo Sex working Through Tourettes.” Madison Rexx joins us for the first time on the podcast to create a panel of experienced sex workers providing advice for baby sex workers. We cover topics such as setting boundaries, knowing your worth, maintaining safety on and offline, client hygiene, vetting clients, and money matters. Overall, this episode serves to offer some advice for anyone interested in getting into camming, online content creation, massaging, stripping, and some full-service sex work. Featuring: @the_real_lola_cheeks @the_real_madison_rexx @techincallylooloo Sponsored Toy Review of @satisfyercom by @remedymoore for @redroompleasures Go to redroompleasures.com and use the code 'intellect10' to get 10% off your order.  Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual.erection Twitter: @buttplugpodcast FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Madison Winter about her decision to become an escort and advocate for sex work. Madison went to school for business and finance and began working in investment banking in the financial district. However, being a desk jockey under fluorescent lights wasn’t cutting it—she wanted something more exciting. So she took her transferable skills in client relations into the “bedroom” and began escorting. Today, Madison Winter is an outspoken advocate for sex work. We discuss whether sex work is subversive to capitalism, how the SESTA-FOSTA bills affect Canadian sex workers, and the humanity behind sex work. Shout outs in this episode: @weenerwoman @samanthaxreal Find Madison Winter at: @madisonwinterto Madisonwinterto.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey about her therapy, coaching, and trauma work with sex positive humans. ⁣ ⁣ Dr. Bisbey specializes in trauma care and clients with PTSD, because she has experienced PTSD as a survivor of sexual assault. As a member of the sex positive communities, she is able to address the specific needs of clients from the kink, BSDM, polyamory, and sex worker communities. In this episode Dr. Bisbey discusses how her trauma therapy is structured, and how a restorative justice model operates for perpetrators of sexual violence and their victims, in contrast to a “cancel culture” model.⁣ ⁣ Shout outs in this episode:⁣ @sit_with_kit⁣ ⁣ Find Dr. Lori Bisbey at:⁣ @drbisbey⁣ Drloribethbisbey.com⁣ ⁣ Support Intellectual Erection at:⁣ patreon.com/intellectualerection⁣ ⁣ Find Intellectual Erection on:⁣ IG: @intellectual_erection⁣ Twitter: @intellectual_EP⁣ FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with foot fetish content creator Foot Guy James about creating ethical porn in collaboration with other sex workers. James gets into the origins of his foot fetishism in childhood and how that fetish materialized in adulthood and became a prominent part of his content creation. He discusses how his personal fetish and his hobby for producing porn transitioned into sex work. James also offers advice for men wanting to get into porn, particularly focusing on how to ethically engage with other sex workers for collaborations and general ethical practices in content creation. Overall, James demonstrates that sex work is work even though it can be simultaneously fun and pleasurable. Shout outs in this episode: @the_real_lola_cheeks @technicallylooloo @goddessvainx Find Foot Guy James on: @jamesthefootguy Twitter: @footguyjames Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with the wonderfully charismatic Jaden about their transition during the Covid-19 pandemic. Transitioning during the pandemic and the resurgence of the Black Lives Matter movement has been both challenging and powerful for Jaden. The amount of activism springing from the Black community has created an atmosphere of empowerment to embrace the body as a site of political activism against oppression. We discuss the complex interaction between the sex positive communities and Queer Black Trans bodies, with a focus on the infamous dynamics of race play. Finally, Jaden discusses their recent top surgery and what it’s like undergoing hormone replacement therapy to provide insight for other humans in transition or considering transitioning. Shout outs in this episode: @will.power.lavinia @noxshop @adriennemareebrown Find Jaden at: @jadenunfiltered Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Vanessa Vain about all things sex work, from camming to nude modeling, to full service sex work and porn production, with a focus on the activism in sex work. Goddess Vanessa Vain has done it all—cam model, nude model, full service sex work, porn, and content creator. We discuss what it’s like for her as a woman of colour to navigate sex work while some family and friends provide obstacles and other support, while her online activism dives some white men away and brings other clients in, and how race play comes into the work, which dives the question—Can race play be consensual? We cap off the episode with some dos and donts for clients seeking sex workers and end with a very sexy story. Listener question of the week: Can race play where a white male dom enacts white supremacist power over a BIPOC body ever be consensual? (Answer in comments on Insta @intellectual_erection) Find Vanessa Vain on: @goddessvainx Onlfans/manyvids @thevixenfiles Shout outs in this episode: @misslolacheeks @technicallylooloo @jamesthefootguy

On this episode I speak with Antuanette Gomez, CEO of the sex and cannabis company Pleasure Peaks, about the sexual health and cannabis. Antuanette Gomez is a Toronto based entrepreneur hoping to help humans with vulvas experience enhanced pleasure and decreased inhibitions. Her products focus not only on pleasure but also helping vulva owners with endometriosis, chronic pain, and trauma rediscover pleasure and improve their sexual health. Antuanette delivers on sex and cannabis from years of personal experience in kink, BDSM, and ployamorous relationships as well as the testimonials from her clients on her podcast Pleasure Talks. Her products range from lubricants, sublingual sprays, and topical creams, infused with CBD and THC, which she also teaches classes on using during sex. We also talk about the politics of drugs at the intersections of race and end, of course, with a sexy story. Find Antuanette on: IG: @antuanetteg Antuanettegomez.com PleasurePeaks.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This is a rebroadcast of an episode I published in December 2019 with Mimi. I’m bringing this conversation back to the front because it needs to be heard again. I am also offering my platform (podcast) to BIPOC folx interested in amplifying their voice—interviews, prerecorded audio, podcast episodes—I’m happy to rebroadcast on your terms. From the original episode description: On this episode I speak with Mimi, otherwise known after dark as Miss Storm, about the her involvement in the BDSM, kink, fetish, and burlesque communities. Mimi talks about her complex intersections with sexual identity, BDSM, and her muggle life that certainly doesn’t permit her alter ego Miss Storm to surface. Her compartmentalized life is at times difficult to navigate but we get a small glimpse into her worlds that would possibly combine to form something like a submissive homoflexible dancing sex kitten. In the midst of it we talk about whether BDSM and sex can be cleanly separated, some fun stories, and a dark past. Shout outs in this episode IG: @remedymoore IG: @maisonchardonofficial IG: @tayloroakes IG: @yaz.thehuman Find Mimi on: IG: @_miss.storm Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with pornstar extraordinaire Malcom Lovejoy about the intersections of race, gender, and sexuality in porn and the sex positive communities. Malcom started doing sex work after a career in journalism and hip-hop, but he credits making porn as the best decision of his life. He discusses his experiences as a queer Black man making fem-oriented porn and how race and Black masculinity operate in the sex work industry. We have a long and intimate discussion about race play and racism in general in the sex positive communities toward a more intersection approach in sex positivity. Finally, Malcom ends off with a very sweet and sexy story that captures much of the magic of who he is as a human. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @1marlastewart IG: @taty_k_king IG: @bipoccollective IG: @sit_with_kit Find Malcom Lovejoy on: IG: @mindbenderlovesyou Twitter @mindbendermind Fetlife: lovejoyride Bandcamp: mindbendersupreme Malcomlovejoy.net Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with sex blogger Tatyannah King about race and sex positivity, Black Lives Matter, Covid-19, sex and pleasure, communication, watersports, and a surprise orgy. Tatyannah is working on her Masters in human sexuality while working on sex blogs, an app to support the Black community called Blex, and attending conferences and sex shows to network with sex educators. Together, we discuss how intersectionality could make the sex positive communities more inclusive, especially now that the Black Lives Matter movement has created space for Black voices to be heard. We also talk about how the covid pandemic has impacted Tatyannah’s work, we discuss pleasure, communication, and end with some wild stories involving pee and surprise orgies. Find Tatyannah King on: IG/Twitter: @taty_k_king Shout outs in this episode @1marlastewart @blex_app @satisfyercom @womanizerglobal Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Marla Renee Stewart about the broad range of sex positive work she does in sex education, writing, conferences, therapy, media, and advocacy. Marla’s resume is far too long to list here or to even cover meaningfully in the podcast, but we do dive into key sections of her work on sex education, writing, conferences, lecturing, and how intersectionality plays a role in all of her work. Marla discusses the work that she does with joy and passion, elaborating on her early inspirations and the continued meaning that is revealed in her efforts to enable intersectionality in the sex positive communities. We also discuss how her work has been impacted by COVID-19 and the resurgence of Black Lives Matter movement. Citations in this episode: Montañez, A. (2017). Beyond XX and XY. Scientific American, 317(3), 50-51. Accessible public article: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/beyond-xx-and-xy-the-extraordinary-complexity-of-sex-determination/ Find Marla at: @1marlastewart @velvetlipssxed @sdscon @sexdownsouthatl Velvetlipssexed.com Sexdownsouth.com Velvetlipssexed (youtube) Shout outs in this episode IG: @killermike IG: @lunamatatas IG: @sexwithdrjess Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This is a remastered rebroadcast of an episode I published in June 2019 with Isla & Ruby, discussing sex work at the intersections of race, disability, and asexuality. I’m bringing this conversation back to the front because it needs to be heard again. I am also offering my platform (podcast) to BIPOC folx interested in amplifying their voice—interviews, prerecorded audio, podcast episodes—I’m happy to rebroadcast on your terms. From the original episode description: Isla is young, away from home, and about to get married, when she realizes there must be more to life than this. She’s already been making some money doing online sex-work, when, enter Ruby, she’s introduced to the possibilities available through full-service sex-work. Ruby had been working through an agency and showed Isla the ropes, a sort of mentorship. Eventually, Ruby went off to do independent sex-work and Isla has remained with the agency for the community and experience. They’re both good friends and here to share their individual takes on sex-work. Isla talks about what it’s like being an asexual Black woman and a sex-worker, and Ruby discusses her invisible physical disabilities and how they intersect with her sex-work. Together, they have found ways to help one another and advocate for healthy and informed ways to enter the matriarchy of sex-work. Find Isla on: Twitter: @ittybittyisla Fetlife: cuddlesluut Find Ruby on: Twitter: @ruby_rosegold Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear the second volume of sexy stories from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans that have been on this podcast. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! I am also offering my platform (podcast) to BIPOC folx interested in amplifying their voice—interviews, prerecorded audio, podcast episodes—I’m happy to rebroadcast on your terms. This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from my interviews on this podcast over the last two years. It’s a nostalgic trip down memory lane to help feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about orgies, gay rabbit holes, sploshing, squirting, DDLG, D/S, anal only, backward panties, bi threesomes, bus stop orgasms, making porn, gay threesomes, sex parties, edge play, and fingers in bums. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Tales from episodes with: IG: @charredcoalandgold IG: @will.power.lavinia IG: @ladydelphineto IG: @sit_with_kit IG: @aceallure IG: @ceciliamorrell.tv IG: @house.of.the.hanged IG: @amber_emery_ IG: @existentialcarousel IG: @ryzekink IG: @ryzeonline IG: @technicallylooloo IG: @yogiboyvance IG: @curtmontgomerytattoos IG: @50plusatip IG: @miaschachter Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This episode is a Facebook Live recording of a webinar I did on polyamory for Do More Photographers. I discuss my own experiences and lessons as well as those of the guests I have interviewed on my podcast on navigating polyamory. The title of this talk is “Polyamory: Or, how to love a lot of fucking humans” and it covers some polyam 101 information, such as definitions and types of polyamory, before engaging work on critical polyamory, misconceptions, challenges and rewards, communications, and most of all—Ethics! I discuss particular topics like decolonial polyamory, toxicity in polyamory, bullshit rules, radical honesty, and creating ethical polyam agreements with your polyfam. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @domorephotographers IG: @tinytayloroakes IG: @briannaphelan IG: @bofiguratif IG: tallbear_on_interestingwhites IG: @ihartericka IG: @house.of.the.hanged IG: @yaz.thehuman Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear the first volume of sexy stories from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans that have been on this podcast. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from my interviews on this podcast over the last two years. It’s a nostalgic trip down memory lane to help feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about car sex, train sex, scat play, the ol’ Eiffel tower, rope bondage, domming cis white men, sex with disabilities, an oasis orgy, on stage sub play, Montreal Fetish weekend, how not to anal, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Tales from episodes with: IG: @ceciliamorrellofficial IG: @sonicsensations IG: @theladyhenry IG: @meggwin IG: @freya_mcfarlane IG: @yaz.thehuman IG: @lettereleven IG: @torontodeadpool IG: @nicolledoublel IG: @taramansler IG: @_miss.storm IG: @tinytayloroakes Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear volume 5 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 5 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about sex while travelling, secretly getting off at home, gangbangs, unicorns, sex in nature, bondage threesomes, surprise guests, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @theboundrose (Fet: a-typeSub) Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with intimacy coordinator and fellow podcast creator Mia Schachter about creating intimacy and consent for film and television in the #MeToo era. Mia has been navigating sex positivity through art, performance, philosophy, and most recently in coordinating consensual boundaries around intimacy for film and television. She also offers classes online to help people understand and communicate their own boundaries. We discuss her work and its relevance in the #MeToo era to understand the emergency and necessity for intimacy coordination in media. We also discuss Mia’s podcast, Share the Load, which focuses on the invisible forms of labour diving in relationships. Find Mia on: IG: @miaschachter IG: @sharetheloadpod Twitter: @miaschachter Web: sharetheloadinc.com Shoutouts in this episode: IG: @curtmontgomerytattoos IG: @sho_theaffair IG: @insecurehbo IG: @twentiesonbet Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with (remotely) with Danica Darling, a sex worker, advocate, and fellow podcaster, all the way from Vancouver. Danica has been a sex worker for over 7 years and more recently has become a sex work advocate and podcaster to help destigmatize, decriminalize, and humanize sex work. We talk about her venture into sex work and how she became a regular university guest lecturer on sex worker’s rights after graduating with a psychology degree. We also discuss how COVID-19 has impacted sex workers from losing clients, to moving content online, and applying for the relief fund, which for some sex workers is inaccessible. Find Danica Darling on: IG: @danica_darling_ig IG: @50plusatip Twitter: @danica_darling Book Reference: Bullshit Jobs by David Graeber (2018) Shout outs in this episode: IG: @nicolledoublel IG: @girlswhosayfuck IG: @menwhotakebaths IG: @theorgasmbook IG: @weenerwoman Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear volume 4 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 4 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about sex in the corridors in highschool, poolside spectator sex, teasing for a threesome, stormy beach sex, transforming one person’s moans into genital stimulation, getting creative when you’re poor, scandalous teachers, an all-out bisexual orgy, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @damsel_avamoen IG: @theboundrose (Fet: a-typeSub) Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear yet another collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 3 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about hot tub exhibitionism, accidental double-penetration, sex with the mover, swapping partners at a sex party, a burningman orgy, a kinky wedding, Russian tigers, summer flings, a Tinder date, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear another collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 2 so far of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about shibari, sex club adventures, near-death experience, sybian karaoke, BDSM, bondage, public homoerotic encounter, unicorn erotica, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @damsel_avamoen IG: @spiritsexlab Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear a collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 1 so far of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about magical moments, pervy house guests, birthday orgies, threesomes, ex-boyfriend kinks, first encounters, erotic tales of domination, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @sonicsensations IG: @damsel_avamoen IG: @spiritsexlab Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Insta famous tattoo artist Curt Montgomery about his journey into the sex positive communities, as we isolate and continue to fight COVID-19. Curt Montgomery has been creating fine art for a long time. After partying away his 20s, then going sober for 18 years, he got into the tattoo scene and eventually realized there was a niche for highly sexual monochromatic tattoos. More recently, Curt’s tattoos have come to life as he’s embarked on a journey through the sex positive communities, experiencing for the first time in all their glory the erotic and perverse sex scenes that his tattoos depict. Now as he sits in quarantine and occupies himself with his art, his drawings and acrylics are inspired not by imagination but by memory. Find Curt Montgomery on: IG: @curtmontgomerytattoos IG: @sexyacrylics Email: curtmontgomerytattoos@gmail.com Shout outs in this episode: IG: @tinytayloroakes IG: @insideouttoronto Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Vance about the intersexions of sex work, yoga, sobriety, and learning what sex positivity truly means, while the world continues to brave Covid-19. Vance’s story has it all—sex, drugs, and rock and roll. From Go-Go dancing to burlesque to escorting to making porn to yoga. He talks about the importance of therapy and sobriety in finding your sexuality and self as a precursor to living a sex positive life. We spend some time talking about the differences in cruising the gay vs straight community and then go into the nuances of sex work as it intersects with yoga. So, take this time while you’re isolating from coronavirus to reduce the loneliness of social distancing by getting close and personal with Vance’s story. Find Vance on: IG: @yogiboyvance Shout outs in this episode: IG: @kohut.taylor IG: @existentialcarousel IG: @goodspaceto Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with LooLoo about her journey through various kinds of sex work while living with Tourette’s syndrome. LooLoo has been living with Tourette’s and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder for most of her life, which has made it difficult for her to pursue her career as a nurse when college did not accommodate her needs. Growing up in a sex negative household, she was taught that porn is exploitative and causes problems in relationships. Somehow, LooLoo took the plunge and began making porn, camming online, and eventually working as an erotic masseuse despite what she has been raised to believe. In sex work she discovered liberation both from shame and the constrictions of her Tourette’s symptoms, which were nearly everywhere else considered a problem. Find LooLoo on: IG: @technicallylooloo Twitter: @loolooofficial Shout outs in this episode: IG @ceciliamorrellofficial Twitter @ Tweet4nita Twitter @footguyjames IG: @miss.lola.cheeks Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Cyn and J-Ryze from RyzeKink about the intersection of sex positivity with homelessness and addiction. This episode is quite a journey down the strange rabbit hole that brought J-Ryze and Cyn together to form RyzeKink—a clothing line and sex positive brand that aims at the reduction of guilt and shame. J-Ryze tells us his story having come out of homelessness to begin working on social media branding and growth. Cyn examines her past struggles with addiction and how that played a pivotal role in her desire for change, which came along with a sexual reawakening. Together, these two have been through a lot of struggle and now work together to increase sex positivity by challenging guilt and shame around kink. Find Cyn & J-Ryze on: IG: @ryzekink Web: ryzekink.com Twitter: @ryzekink Shout outs in this episode: @ceciliamorrellofficial @sit_with_kit_ @aceallure Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak to an evolutionary psychology class at York University about sex positivity and intellectual erection. This isn’t a regular episode. I’m not interviewing anyone. This time I recorded a guest lecture I gave at York University on sex positivity in an evolutionary psychology class. I put together a talk based on the last two years of recording this podcast and broke the topics down into 7 categories: pleasure, consent, gender and sexuality, polyamory, kinks and fetishes, role play and power dynamics, and worker’s rights. Throughout the presentation I give anecdotes from the episodes and plug away my guests and their social media to further elevate the visibility of their stories, voices, and overall sex positivity. Shout outs in this episode: @alisha.jj.fisher @thebedpostpodcast @pim.lady @nicolledoublel @lavishleather @jacquichilds @nakednews @_miss.storm @bofiguratif @nickatef @existentialcarousel @stephiescarlet @will.power.lavinia @ms.islacarlisle @remedymoore @yaz.thehuman @house.of.the.hanged @srg1 @ladydelphineto @theladyhenry @marlonchaplinofficial @vixenwithclaws @zoeybellexoxo @weenerwoman @maggiestoronto @solaythesun @edendeplume @taramansler @ceciliamorrellofficial @sit_with_kit_ @worstmodelever @therealdahliadee @nikidavisf @lettereleven @kohut.taylor @chantelleivan @torontodeadpool @fatimamechtab @its_erica__ @tinytayloroakes @intellectual_erection Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Lance about what it means to be a polyamorous pansexual or bisexual man. There are plenty of thorny issues in polyamory and relationships, but most of them revolve around communication. Lance and I wax philosophical about polyamory, monogamy, and the ethics of relationships in general. For Lance, not only was monogamy stifling but also his early notions of sexuality, which didn’t allow him to explore his diverse desires. In the second half of the episode Lance opens up about his pansexuality and how he came to terms with it, having battled with internalized homophobia. This is a great episode to highlight an often unheard voice, namely that of a male bisexual/pansexual. Find Lance on: IG: @existentialcarousel Shout outs in this episode: @yaz.thehuman Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode…well, this isn’t an episode! What this is, is a trailer to highlight some of the most fun, sex, touching, and difficult moments on Intellectual Erection. Having hosted this podcast for nearly two years, I figured it was time to bring together a brief complication trailer to showcase some of the most intense conversations on the show. For those of you who have been listening and supporting for years, thank you and I hope you keep on listening and supporting sex positive voices! You can pass this trailer on to friends and share it on social media to help spread the word. It’s a fun little trip down memory lane with many of the wonderful guests that have been on Intellectual Erection, and a reminder why having a platform for voices in the sex positive communities is important. Thank you to all my guests and listeners for making this podcast what it is. Guests: @vixenwithclaws @therealvixenvu @edendeplume @lavishleather @aceallure @sit_with_kit_ @charredcoalandgold @ceciliamorrellofficial @pim.lady @thebedpostpodcast @jacquichilds @weenerwoman @callme_sentimental @kat_kova @spiritsexlab @zoeybellexoxo @fatimamechtab @srg1 @nikidavisf @miss.lola.cheeks @remedymoore @ms.islacarlisle @lauraxdesiree @bofiguratif @theladyhenry @solaythesun @chantelleivan @kohut.taylor @ashley.anthony @stephiescarlet @pastelsupernova @alisha.jj.fisher @meggwin @marlonchaplinofficial @freya_mcfarlane @worstmodelever @therealdahliadee @yaz.thehuman @house.of.the.hanged @tinytayloroakes @lettereleven @torontodeadpool @nicolledoublel @taramansler @_miss.storm @pickles.lavey @its_erica__ @will.power.lavinia @ladydelphineto @amber_emery_ Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Social Media Influencer Amber Emery about her nude modeling and what it’s like managing her brand online. Amber takes us back to @hedonismjamaica where she began nude modeling and her work with Joel Alvarez of the @blacktapeproject that helped her come out of her shell, then her more recent work with @kingvitaly. We discuss body modification and plastic surgery advice and advocacy. Amber also goes into the demands of being an influencer and how it intersects with freedom, authenticity and privacy. I then ask a question that @lauraxdesiree from @nakednews brought up in the interview I did with her a while back, namely, if it’s okay in the @metoomvmt era for a woman to sleep with someone to get ahead? This brings up a tough conversation about sex, power and double standards, especially considering the ongoing Harvey Weinstein trial. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @kingvitaly IG: @vitalyuncensored IG: @hedonismjamaica IG: @blacktapeproject IG: @jacquichilds IG: @nytimes IG: @lauraxdesiree IG: @nakednews IG: @meetoomvmt IG: @opulencia.lifestyle Find Amber Emery on: IG: @amber_emery_ Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with the HangedMan Steve Sanford…again! This time we discuss a polyam agreement he put together and how you can create your own. Steve scoured the depths of the internet for the perfect polyamory agreement, and when he couldn’t find one to fit his darkest needs, he mended the most powerful contracts he could find into one super agreement to rule them all. You too can learn how to put together your own polyam agreement with your partners, metamours, and comets to cover rules of consent, relationship dynamics, values and norms, amnesty and support, and veto power. In this episode we cover all this plus safe words, sexual health testing, the controversial don’t ask don’t tell policy, and growing together through conflict resolution. Find Steve Sanford on: IG: @house.of.the.hanged IG: @faetefetish Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I switch things up and host the first ever panel discussion on Intellectual Erection, featuring Kit, Cecilia Morrell, and Ace Allure, talking about being Littles in the DDGL/CGL communities. Kit, Cecilia Morrell, and Ace, have all been on Intellectual Erection before in independent episodes, but now they’ve joined forces in a panel on one of the most taboo topics in the sex positive communities—DDLG/CGL—Daddy Dom Little Girl, or the more recent and inclusive title Caregiver & Little. We talk about what it means to be a little, what makes a good daddy, we play some games to find out who’s the brattiest of the bunch, and get into some heavy philosophical entanglements with the ethics of age play, incest play, and how to engage these dynamics in a healthy way. Find Kit on: IG: @sit_with_kit_ Web: sit-withkit.com Find Cecilia Morrell on: IG: @ceciliamorrellofficial Web: ceciliamorrell.com Find Ace on: IG: @aceallure IG:@officialpinkmagic Web: pinkmagiccoaching.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with professional Dominatrix Lady Delphine about her academic paper on pro domming titled “The Labor of Pleasure and Pain: Exploring Intimacy and the Therapeutic Aspect of Professional BDSM Through Emotional Labor” Lady Delphine discusses her Masters paper on the intersections of sex work, emotional labour, and therapeutic elements of BDSM. She discusses the importance of destigmatizing sex work and standing in solidarity with other sex workers as a professional dominatrix to avoid reinforcing a whorearchy. Her paper also theorizes emotional labour in sex work and the therapeutic effects of BDSM with important critiques for treating professional BDSM as therapy. We also discuss issues with race play and then end off with some raunchy stories involving food. Find Lady Delphine on: IG: @ladydelphineto Twitter: @ladydelphineb Web: ladydelphinebelrose.com Shout outs in this episode: @pim.lady @theladyhenry Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with William Lavinia about the social construction of gender, undergoing hormone replacement therapy, and what it’s like to experience life with high testosterone. Will not only challenges the normative notions of gender but also those of biological sex, or what some folks call sex assigned at birth. It’s a difficult task challenging the hegemonic scientific status quo while also feeling like you have to defend your identity—but this is the lived experience of many humans outside the gender binary. Will discusses hormone replacement therapy and the effects of testosterone both on the body and on behaviour. We also talk about healthy and toxic masculinity and how to exercise the taboos of masculinity in BSDM. Find will on: IG: @william.lavinia Twitter: @crewfoxxx Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Nurse Erica about all the sexually transmitted infections, safer sex practices, and misconceptions about sexual health. Erica has been a sexual health nurse for over three years and now works in public health policy as well as working with people living with HIV/AIDS. With a lot of experience and a ton of facts, Erica offers a rundown of some of the most important bits of knowledge you ought to have about sexual health, proper use of barriers like condoms, safer sex practices, and sexually transmitted infections. In the midst of it we throw in some personal stories, laughs, and discuss serious breaches of consent like stealthing—if you don’t know what it is, listen up! For sexual health inquires email Erica (privacy and confidentiality is maintained): SexNurseErica@gmail.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This episode is a rebroadcast of Alisha Fisher’s Inspire Intimacy radio show where she interviewed me back in October about Intellectual Erection. Alisha Fisher has been interviewed on Intellectual Erection (see Alisha Fisher Jacks off all Trades, Sep 9 2019) for her work as a sex educator. In October 2019 she asked me to come on her radio show Inspire Intimacy to discuss my podcast. We talked about how I came up with the idea for the podcast, why it’s called Intellectual Erection, some of my favourite episodes, and some of the other work I do in the sex positive communities like workshops at Oasis. Happy New Year and enjoy! Music Featured in this episode: Marlon Chaplin – Elevation IG: @marlonchaplinofficial Web: marlonchaplin.com Shout outs in this episode: IG: @srg1 Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Pickles Lavey, a sex clown who hammers nails in their nose and eats fire and navigates all aspects of the sex positive communities. Pickles developed a clown fetish early on and then devoted themselves to bringing sex clowns for Satan on stage with burlesque and side-show elements to shock you into arousal. If you’ve ever wondered how hammering nails into your nose is like anal. If you’ve ever wanted to know who Prawn Waters is. If you ever wanted to hear how someone learns to eat fire on a first date—this episode’s for you. Pickles also talks about gender dysphoria, being non-binary, and why using their correct pronouns is important. We also talk about how to deal with misgendering someone and the things you can say to make it less awkward for everyone. Shout outs in this episode IG: @srg1 IG: @mximogenquest Find Pickles on: IG: @pickles.lavey Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Mimi, otherwise known after dark as Miss Storm, about the her involvement in the BDSM, kink, fetish, and burlesque communities. Mimi talks about her complex intersections with sexual identity, BDSM, and her muggle life that certainly doesn’t permit her alter ego Miss Storm to surface. Her compartmentalized life is at times difficult to navigate but we get a small glimpse into her worlds that would possibly combine to form something like a submissive homoflexible dancing sex kitten. In the midst of it we talk about whether BDSM and sex can be cleanly separated, some fun stories, and a dark past. Shout outs in this episode IG: @remedymoore IG: @maisonchardonofficial IG: @tayloroakes IG: @yaz.thehuman Find Mimi on: IG: @_miss.storm Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with holistic nutritionist and pole dancer Tara Mansler about her intersections with the sex positive communities. Tara has been doing pole dancing for over a decade, doing feature performances at strip clubs and instructing the in-house dancers. She also does private lessons and parties to share her love of the pole. We discuss the politics around the #notastripper resurgence and how to stand in solidarity with sex workers instead ( #yesastripper ). Tara is also a holistic nutritionist and an up and coming Gestalt therapist. She shares some insight on how to get your sex drive in gear. For Tara, healthy equals horny and horny equals healthy—and boy is this episode healthy! Shout outs in this episode: IG: @solaythesun IG: @jacquichilds IG: @lauraxdesiree Find Tara on: IG: @taramansler IG: @theflexibilitynutritionist Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with journalist, author, and sexual freedom philosopher Nicolle Hodges about her body of work and the intersections with sex. Nicolle is about to publish the Orgasm book, or more specifically “Oh the Places you’ll go Oh Oh”—a Seussian adventure of dirty rhymes about the female orgasm and its unique power to tap one into the universe. From the mind of a journalist who said fuck it, and burned her past life to the ground to start something fresh, initiated a movement called Girls Who Say Fuck, followed by Men Who Take Baths, comes a new trip into the life giving and death embracing power of the orgasm. This episode juggles sex positivity, notions of masculinity, the taboo of incest, ataraxia, and reassessing existence through seductive philosophical lenses…Oh the places you’ll go… Shout out in this episode: IG: @snake.tiddy IG: @yaz.thehuman IG: @edendeplume Find Nicolle on: IG: @nicolledoublel IG: @girlswhosayfuck IG: @menwhotakebaths IG: @theorgasmbook Web: theorgasmbook.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Farely about his experiences navigating the intersections of love, sex, and polyamory with ADHD. Farely has done some ADHD advocacy in the past and he misses the days when he could talk about his disorder with the aim to help others. He takes this opportunity to discuss the intricacies of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, the diverse symptomology, and how it affects him personally. What is it like having to deal with scattered memory and forgetfulness? What’s it like being medicated? How to deal with being impulsive. Farley opens up about how ADHD affects sex drive and diverse sexual needs. For him, polyamory was a way to better meet those needs in an ethical way without recourse to cheating, guilt, and shame. Book cited in this episode: Tuckman, A. (2019). ADHD after dark: Better sex life, better relationship. Routledge. Find Farely on: IG: @torontodeadpool Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Kae Tran about navigating sex with physical disabilities and what can be done in sex positivity to be more inclusive and less ableist. Kae lives with muscular dystrophy and she has recently begun doing workshops on self-love, communication, and dating for people with physical disabilities. After being featured in an article on her experiences with dating, Kae’s been requested for interviews constantly, and now she’s here for some advocacy and some self-advocacy. With physical disabilities in an ableist world, Kae examines the limitations that also exist when it comes to sex—“that’s the one thing disabled people can’t have, is spontaneous sex,” she argues. To better facilitate an inclusive sex positive world, Kae suggests more accessible spaces, like sex clubs and fetish scenes, consent with disabled folks in mind, and sex education catered to people with disabilities. Find Kae Tran on: IG: @lettereleven Web: kaetran.com A special thank you to Jenn Smith (IG: @jenndoesntquit) and her mysterious husband for supporting Intellectual on Patreon and becoming our Daddy under the Daddy Tier. We love Daddy and Daddy loves us! Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with internet human and photographer Taylor Oakes about the intersections of mental health, kink, polyamory, and art in her work and personal life. Coming fresh off a coffee enema Taylor is perky and ready to share some painful, funny, and also disturbing experiences that are insightful, honest, and at times cautionary. She opens up about her early experiences with kink that later transitioned into her work and have become a spotlight in her personal and internet life. If you know Taylor and her work you will not be surprised to find some very candid explorations of mental and physical health intertwining with kink as a cathartic practice. From her photography and social media, to workshops, scarification, bdsm, art, and chia seeds, this episode is as dynamic as the human herself. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @marlonchaplinofficial IG: @bofiguratif IG: @edendeplume Find Taylor Oakes on: IG: @tayloroakesproductions Twitter: @tinytayloroakes Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak to seasoned polyamorist Steve Sandford about some of the ideas featured in an article he wrote on polyamory hacks. Steve is a radically honest polyamorist and it runs in the family. He grew up around sex work, and sex positivity, and has been in the fetish scene in Toronto for a very long time. When his monogamous marriage ended nearly 15 years ago, he decided to embrace polyamory and has been at it ever since, slowly documenting his experiences over time and coming up with an ever-growing list of polyamory hacks. We cover a handful of them in this episode from deprograming possessiveness, to full disclosure versus don’t ask don’t tell policies, practicing brutal polyamory, developing a jealousy sponsor, to ghosting and stashing. We spend considerable time discussing jealousy and whether you’re polyam or not, you’ll find it useful. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @zoeybellexoxo IG: @madisonrexx Find Steve on: IG: @h4ngedm4n IG: @house.of.the.hanged IG: @faetefetish

On this episode I speak with Yazmin—a newish human to the sex-positive communities with a lot of particular interests and a deep desire to explore them mindfully. Yazmin is a fairly fresh face to kink, fetish, bdsm, and polyamory but in the time she has spent around the sex-positive communities she’s contemplated her involvement deeply and shared her experiences along the way on social media. Coming from a background in yoga, Yaz approaches sex-positivity mindfully—assessing, absorbing, premeditating, and understanding what these experiences mean for her and their formative potential in her life. She’s here to share those experiences especially for other newcomers who may be a little shy or anxious about what to expect from a first trip to a sex club, a first kink scene, and how to navigate polyamorous relationships. We get intimate with stories around BDSM, DDLG, and polyamory that are informative for the newbies and juicy for the veterans. Find Yazmin on: IG: @yaz.thehuman Shout outs in this episode: IG: @srg1 Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with MFC cam models Ryland Babylove and Dahlia Dee. They spill the beans on all the insider info you’ve ever wanted to hear about the life of a cam model. If you want to know how to enter the cam business and what to expect, have a listen to Ryland and Dahlia as they outline the good the bad and the ugly. With experience in camming on various websites, most notably My Free Cams, selling content online, PornHub, and social media, these two have a lot to say when it comes down to the hustle. You’re going to hear tips on how to make a living being a cam model, what challenges you’re likely to face, what the lifestyle is like, and most importantly—how to deal with men! This is a 24hr job where you’re constantly accessible and people expect a lot from you for investing very little. So listen to these badasses as they give you the lowdown on how to work hard and play hard. Find Ryland Babylove on: IG: @worstmodelever Twitter: @rylandbabylove Web: worstmodelever.com Find Dahlia Dee on: IG: @therealdahliadee Twitter: @xodahliadee Snap: @xodahliadee Shout outs in this episode @Vixenwithclaws Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Tantra instructor Freya McFarlane. She discusses sacred sexuality, sacred femininity, eco sexuality, menstruation, and tantric heart orgasms. Take a slow and sensual journey into Freya’s tantric life as she seductively enunciates each word in the Queen’s English to arouse your audiophilia. Her ASMR vocals will tease you along as she describes her erotic self-discoveries in nature—bonding with the earth to find her sacred sexuality. Freya’s life experiences have accumulated a wealth of knowledge in tantric practices, sacred femininity, heart orgasms, and breathwork, among other things. So listen in and breathe deep because this episode will titillate your senses and tantalize your imagination. Find Freya McFarlane on: IG: @freya_mcfarlane FB: @freyatantra

On this episode I speak with porn researcher Dr. Taylor Kohut about some of his studies concerning porn use and well-being, relationships, religious affiliation, and misogyny. Have you ever asked yourself: What actually constitutes porn? What does it mean to use porn? What impact might porn have on your well-being, your relationship, and how might it affect your views on women in particular? Dr. Taylor Kohut has asked himself these questions and an array of participants from North America to Croatia. We discuss Dr. Kohut’s (et al.) studies on pornography and help rethink some of the myths about porn use and its negative effects. His studies form part of a sex-positive move in porn research to indicate that we may be exaggerating or worse, poorly measuring pornography use and its effects on people. Articles cited in this episode: Campbell, L., & Kohut, T. (2017). The use and effects of pornography in romantic relationships. Current Opinion in Psychology, 13, 6-10. Kohut, T., Baer, J. L., & Watts, B. (2016). Is pornography really about “making hate to women”? Pornography users hold more gender egalitarian attitudes than nonusers in a representative American sample. The Journal of Sex Research, 53(1), 1-11. Kohut, T., Fisher, W. A., & Campbell, L. (2017). Perceived effects of pornography on the couple relationship: Initial findings of open-ended, participant-informed, “bottom-up” research. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 46(2), 585-602. Kohut, T., Balzarini, R. N., Fisher, W. A., & Campbell, L. (2018). Pornography’s associations with open sexual communication and relationship closeness vary as a function of dyadic patterns of pornography use within heterosexual relationships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35(4), 655-676. Kohut, T., & Štulhofer, A. (2018). Is pornography use a risk for adolescent well-being? An examination of temporal relationships in two independent panel samples. PloS one, 13(8), 1-20. Kohut, T. (2019). Surveying pornography use: A shaky science resting on poor measurement foundations. The Journal of Sex Research, 1-73. (Submitted, Not yet published). Shout outs in this episode: @alisha.jj.fisher

On this episode I speak with Marlon Chaplin, the first-ever submissive cuckold on this show. This a unique episode from an often unheard voice because submissive men are rarely open about their experiences…at least publicly. Are you ready to get mindfu#%ed? This is important to hear, especially for men. Have you confronted your notions of masculinity? I challenge you to step into Malron’s mentality—listen to his story as he masterfully teases out details interwoven with suspense and visceral vulnerability. Try to find the common ground in his foreign landscape and see where you can identify with his experiences. Can you allow yourself? Are you afraid? Or is this comfortable for you? Then ask yourself why. The nature of the taboo is to provoke the intersections of arousal, fear, and discomfort. Here, you are given that opportunity and you may be surprised at what you discover. Find Marlon on (and check out his music): IG: @marlonchaplinofficial Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Megan, a human who rediscovered herself in the sex positive communities. She continues to explore uninhibited and with devious curiosity. After ending an engagement with a high school sweetheart Megan embarks on yes weekend into an all-out slutty whirlwind that reignites her joie de vivre. She’s not quite sure where or how she fits into the sex positive communities but she knows it’s where she belongs. Megan may be undecided about the labels but not about how sex positivity has brought her out of a toxic relationship and into a world filled with kink, sex, fun, love, and friendship. So just because, she’s gonna marry her best friend. Between all this, we talk about polyamory, love, making love, waterboarding, and nearly drowning three times. Find Megan on: IG: @meggwin Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with the multifaceted Alisha Fisher. She’s an international relationship, intimacy, and flirtation coach here to talk about her plethora of work in the sex positive communities and inspire your curiosity. When Alisha isn’t busy flying around the world talking about porn to squeamish audiences of red-faced adults, she can be found working at sexual assault centers doing workshops for Young Men Leading Change, talking on her radio show, or dealing with clients who need some of their intimacy hiccups addressed. She knows the ins and outs of porn from the demographic changes in porn use to trends in feminist pornography and general porn literacy that she attempts to educate weary folks about. Alisha is sharp, intelligent, and funny in her condensed presentation of an overwhelming amount of experience and information, and though it all we get some flirting techniques in, have some good laughs, and hear a few good stories. So put on the kettle ‘cause this tea is hot! Shout outs in this episode: @sexwithdrjess Find Alisha Fisher on: IG: @alisha.jj.fisher FB:@alisha.intimacy Twitter: @alisha_intimacy Web: inspireintimacy.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with burlesque performer extraordinaire, Pastel Supernova. She whispers some intimacies on the behind the scenes Pastel to arouse intrigue while leaving enough mystery to lust for more. This feline woman weaves seduction into every word as she speaks melodiously about her onstage persona. You get to hear the best of both worlds. The soft-spoken Pastel, who endearingly divulges little hints about her offstage self and the explosive Supernova who wants you to remember her performance for when you’re home alone. Her mellifluent voice will undoubtedly arouse your interest and desire to experience one of her shows—and you will not be disappointed. Not only is her show meant to turn you on, but it’s also Pastel’s foreplay into what she describes as transcendental sex. She blends her dancing with the erotic to infuse herself with an energy that she brings into the bedroom—creating a seamless experience from the stage to behind the scenes, the imaginary to the real, the buildup to the release. Your job is to sit and watch, or in this case listen, and perhaps you’ll also find a transcendental link to the erotic in your life. Shout outs in this episode(instagram): @burlesqueuni @sweetrosiemae @pickles.lavey @lauraxdesiree @thevelvetto @lulalounge @cherrycolastoronto Find Pastel Supernova on: IG: @pastelsupernova Twitter: @pastelsupernova YouTube: Pastel Supernova Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Stephie Scarlet, a triple threat—cam model, porn star and producer, and a full-service sex-worker. She’s here to fill you in…on everything to do with her work and how it will fulfill your fantasies. Stephie got into sex-work because she wanted to explore her kinks, fetishes, and desires with people that were interested in playing with her. As a trans woman, finding ethical play partners isn’t always easy, but for Stephie, sex-work helped her take control and manage the often murky waters of stigma, fetishization, passability, and marginalization. So if you want to fetishize this trans woman, you can, but you gotta pay for it and it’ll be under her conditions. We discuss the politics of trans pornography, sex-work, and identity. Then, Stephie shares some very kinky and erotic stories from her experiences on cam, in porn, and at sex-worker sex parties—that’s right, they exist! And, you can find out how to potentially attend—if you’re good! Shout outs in this episode: Erin Pim (The Bed Post Podcast) @thebedpostpodcast @theladypim1 Jacq the Stripper @jacqthestripper Belle Delphine (Account Removed from Instagram for selling her used bathwater) @belledelphine4life (fanpage) Sue Mischka @enigmatic_sue Find Stephie Scarlet on: IG: @stephiescarlet Twitter: @stephiescarlet Web: https://stephiescarlet.wixsite.com/companion Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Ashley, the curious puppy boy. She’s gender-bending your expectations while living her most authentic life navigating the sex positive communities with the love of her life. Coming out is only the beginning of her story. Since high school, Ashley has pushed the envelope to allow herself the liberty to be who she wants to be. She was the first person in her high school to come out and took on an onslaught of homophobia, but paved the way for others to feel safe coming out as well. Since then, she’s dropped her femme look an adopted a more androgynous appearance, but maintains that there’s still a strong femme submissive inside that needs attention. Her current partner has provided the space for Ashely to explore new relationship dynamics in polyamory, new kinks, fetishes, and fantasies that subvert the restrictions of categorical sexuality. Overall, we discuss liberation and limitations within the gay community, with adopting certain identities, and with exploring one’s sexuality, kinks, and fetishes. Find Ashely on: IG: @ashley.anthony Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with sex researcher Chantelle Ivanski, author of the article Exploring definitions of sex positivity through thematic analysis. Her research aims to define and understand sex positivity. Have you actually thought at length about what sex positivity means? How do you define it? Chantelle has been researching sex positivity in order to get a working definition for psychological studies on the topic. Her aim is to create a sex positivity scale for research. One particular area of interest is whether people can become more sex positive through education on the subject, and this scale would help measure those results. Chantelle and I talk at length about definitions of sex positivity and sex negativity. Where these concepts came from. How they operate historically and now. We discuss her paper, the survey she employed to her participants, and the results. I also took the survey and we discuss my answers compared to her sample from the study. Websites for couples discovering kinks discussed in this episode: www.old.mojouprage.com www.weshouldtryit.com Find Chantelle on: Web: chantelleivanski.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with artist, musician, and stripper extraordinaire Solay the Sun. She’s here to peel away the layers on stripping in Toronto, answer some spicy fan questions, and talk about her art. She’s just a small town girl, livin’ in a stripper’s world. Solay left Saskatoon at the age of 19 to make some money stripping in Toronto and follow her dreams of becoming an artist. She’s young, soft-spoken, but fierce on the pole. An artistic and creative human with a lot of heart, who will present her most genuine self even in the VIP. Solay makes stripping look like performance art—and don’t you always secretly hope your stripper is an artist? She’s got Billie Eilish vibes with that badass Cardi B background to give you ambient music, genuine kindness, and sensual moves. If you have doubts, go see her at the club! Find Solay on: IG: @solaythesun Twitter: @itsfunnysunny SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/solaythesun Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0m9yq82fhFg9xX8tL0lQXg Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Dominatrix Lady Henry, and we get the inside scoop on what it’s like to domme for a living. We also discuss how to book a session, guest etiquette, and some very naughty stories. If you could do anything you want in life, would it be? For Lady Henry that dream was to become a Dominatrix! After spending many years in the kink/BDSM community and building a resume of sorts, she decided to marry business and pleasure. Enter Lady Henry, a bubbly and theatrical seductress with a low tolerance for brats and a memorable laugh. She runs the laundry list of services found at your typical dungeon, tells you how to book, and how to behave yourself in a session. Amidst the intro to Dominatrix course we get some anecdotes that will leave your jaw on the floor, or worse. You’ve been warned! Find Lady Henry on: IG: @theladyhenryx Twitter: @theladyhenry Web: ladyhenry.ca Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Boon Ong of Boon Ong Figuratif Photography, an intimate lifestyle photographer seeking to liberate himself and his subjects by highlighting the vulnerabilities and intimacies that reside at the core of taboo. Boon came to Canada to pursue his parent’s dreams of becoming an engineer. Along his journey he fell in love with photographing nude art, and soon nude subjects. When he began publishing his work, he got a call from his mother in Malaysia, calling him a disgrace. It didn’t deter him, because there was something deeper he needed to expose—himself. Nude photography helped him come out and find his freedom. The exposition of the taboo enables the liberty to live a life often considered taboo. Boon says we all have closets, so maybe what he does is peek inside to bring some light to the darkness. He helps unravel the intimate lifestyles of humans in their sacred space. He doesn’t have an idealistic mission, but he does have a story. Find Boon Ong on: IG: @bofiguratif Web: boonongfiguratif.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Laura Desiree, your local Naked News Anchor. She talks about interviewing porn starts, creating performance art, recording her orgasms, her love of edging, and her deep desire to mount an Oscar. Laura Desiree is a full-blown perv raised on cinematic moments. She’s got the starlight shine of a diva with the soul of a siren—luring you in with erotic aesthetics and edging you to oblivion. From a teen finding her way through the art scene in New York city to a producer of erotic and sex-positive content on naked news, in the burlesque scene, art shows, and porn hub, Laura is all about living at the intersexion of art and sex. She found empowerment through her body and sexuality and encourages you to do the same. Learn to stimulate yourself, understand your orgasms, make poetry of them, and let out those pent up moans you’ve been shamed into silencing. In the end, we talk about how to exploit taboos to liberate yourself from that internalized shame so you can enjoy the art of sex and sexuality. Find Laura Desiree on: IG: @lauraxdesiree Naked News: Laura Desiree Pornhub: lauradesiree Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Isla and Ruby, your friendly neighbourhood full-service sex-workers. They’re here to tell you how they found liberation through sex-work—from toxic relationships and environments to an empowered sisterhood. Isla is young, away from home, and about to get married, when she realizes there must be more to life than this. She’s already been making some money doing online sex-work, when, enter Ruby, she’s introduced to the possibilities available through full-service sex-work. Ruby had been working through an agency and showed Isla the ropes, a sort of mentorship. Eventually, Ruby went off to do independent sex-work and Isla has remained with the agency for the community and experience. They’re both good friends and here to share their individual takes on sex-work. Isla talks about what it’s like being an asexual woman of colour and a sex-worker, and Ruby discusses her invisible physical disabilities and how they intersect with her sex-work. Together, they have found ways to help one another and advocate for healthy and informed ways to enter the matriarchy of sex-work. Find Isla on: Twitter: @ittybittyisla Fetlife: cuddlesluut Find Ruby on: Twitter: @ruby_rosegold Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Remedy Moore, a sex-positive mom navigating polyamory, burlesque, and parenthood. Have you ever felt fragmented, like you live separate lives? Imagine being a burlesque performer with a day job while trying to navigate your sexuality and be a good parent. Remedy Moore has embraced ethical sluthood since high school, realizing early on that monogamy wasn’t going to cut it for her. Since, she’s explored her sexuality, kinks, and tried various kinds of relationships, before becoming a mother. How does a pansexual, polyamorous, burlesquing mother keep all her identities together? Well, for Remedy it was a matter of simplifying. She decided to transition from polyamorous relationships to a more cohesive monogamish partnership, to focus her energies on herself and her burlesque performances, and to raise a healthy sex-positive child. As a mother, she faces constant challenges and has found some support in the sex-positive communities. Remedy hopes to remove the stigma that a mother cannot be sexy and that a child ought to be sheltered from understanding sexuality. Find Remedy Moore on: IG: @remedymoore Shout-out in this episode to IG: @femmesfataleswoc IG: @daintysmith Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Ms Vivi Vex, an up-and-coming icon of fashion at the intersections of sex work and mental health. She navigates the sex-positive communities, full-service sex work, modeling, and fashion with invisible disabilities that she’s not shy to make explicit and visible. What’s it like to navigate sex and sexuality with invisible disabilities? How can the sex-positive communities provide space for people with invisible disabilities to explore and embrace their identity? What’s it like to be a sex worker with autism? Ms Vivi Vex provides insightful information from her experiences growing up with Autism, anti-vax and sex-negative parents, and issues communicating with others while attempting to discover her sex and sexuality. This episode is also a good listening exercise because it doesn’t follow the typical script. Ms Vex explains the issues that people on the spectrum have with communicating while attempting to communicate about her experiences. She asks for patience, instead of pity. Understanding, instead of judgement. Equitable treatment, instead of disregard. And hopefully you gain some insight on how to engage with people with invisible disabilities. Vivi wants to explore healthy and enjoyable sex. To explore her sexuality and to continue doing sex work. She found an outlet to do that in the sex-positive communities and is on her way to world domination though fashion, sex work, and mental health advocacy. Find Ms Vivi Vex on: IG: @ms.vivi.vex Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Niki Daivs-Fainbloom…yes, again! We covered so many interesting topics on the last episode there was no time to cover her expertise in sex-ed and consent, so we made another episode to give you that good dose of what the education system is missing—sex-ed and consent, as part of the ongoing sex-ed series on Intellectual Erection. Niki is back. Well she never really left. You heard her bubbly and charismatic voice on last week’s episode talking all sorts of sexy fun, and now you’re gonna get schooled. She breaks out some interesting consent scenarios for me to decipher and we discuss why consent is or is not present in the given scenario. Then we get into the nitty-gritty of consent. We talk about communication and negotiation before engaging in play, the importance of enthusiastic consent, when consent is coerced, and how it plays out based on context and cultural differences. In the final bit we discuss nonverbal consent and how it plays a pivotal role in consent overall, as well as when it’s important to rely on it in the absence of the possibility for verbal consent. Find Niki Davis-Fainbloom at: IG: @nikidavisf Email: niki.davisf@gmail.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Niki Davis-Fainbloom, original Torontonian visiting us all the way from Brooklyn New York to school us on some much needed sex-ed and consent, and talk about her writing on erotica, fart kinks, Hasidic polyamorous Jews, and world records of squirting, as part of the ongoing sex-ed series on Intellectual Erection. Niki gently eases us into her personal life before going full-throttle on her sex-ed work with young students and adults, and the numerous stories she’s covered in her travels—from fart arousal, to a Hasidic polyamorous Jew swordfighter, to a poly commune with an on-site squirt expert. We then dive deep into the wet and wild world of squirting, from record-breaking squirts, to the mechanisms and FAQs, to the science of squirting. Finally, we discuss Niki’s writing at Bushwick Daily in New York, the White Unicorn, and Fuckbook, before touching on the topic of consent, which we cover in next week’s epsiode. Fact Checks: 32:53—Info on vaginal squirting (schoolofsquirt.com). 36:42—Study on penile squirting (Hara, R., Nagai, A., Nakatsuka, T., Ohira, S., Fujii, T., & Miyaji, Y. (2018) Male squirting: Analysis of one case using color Doppler ultrasonography. IJU Case Reports, 1(1), 19-21) Find Niki Davis-Fainbloom at: IG: @nikidavisf Email: niki.davisf@gmail.com

On this episode I speak with self-proclaimed super freak and Alpha Princess, Geordie, who dives deep into his more than 15 years of experience engaging in and teaching a variety of BDSM practices. We discuss kink, kink etiquette, workshops, intimacy, learning, responsibility, and consent, as part of an ongoing sex-ed series on intellectual erection. Geordie starts us off with a dive into his childhood where this all began, with a sex-positive family, early exposure to kink, and first sexual experience involving kink, along with his getting involved into rope bondage right out of high school, to the full-fledged kinkster he’s become today. Now Geordie runs regular workshops at Oasis Aqualounge teaching the basics of Kink and BDSM, dos and don’ts, proper etiquette, and how-tos. Finally, we discuss the common mistakes people can make in BDSM, how to avoid them, how to engage in proper communication and practices, and the ethics of responsibility and consent. Find Geordie at: geordie@evilinc.xyz Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Oasis Aqualounge Co-Owner Fatima Mechtab about the sex club, the events she runs and markets there, and the porn she’s begun to produce out of the club. We get into the details about sex club events, the Projekt Panties (as seen on Instagram), and how the Oasis porn is different from mainstream pornography. Fatima takes us through some of the history of Oasis Aqualounge, the only water-based (I’d call it a spa) sex club in Toronto, and in fact, really the only sex club in downtown Toronto. Oasis will soon turn 10 years old, and Fatima has been with the club almost since its inception, first as a marketing director, and now also as co-owner. She has helped produce sexy events like mega parties, suits and nudes, masquerade, sapphic aquatica, swordplay, and money shot—featuring sex educators, workshops, demos, and live porn shoots. Fatima aims to create organic pornography with diverse bodies in semi-scripted situations, shot live in front of Oasis guests, and distributed in the club and on PornHub for free. Fact Checks: 6:57 – Licensing and Permits for Adult Entertainment Clubs in Toronto. 41:51 –Definition of Vaginismus. 52:34 – Avant-Garde Porn “I love you” by Brooke Candy. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode, I speak with Professor Lewis…again! We pick up where we left off last time, discussing the intricacies of polyamorous relationships and now diving deeper into the meanings of love, sex, passion, commitment, novelty, excitement, and how these interplay with one’s identity. Lewis is back at it again with the same professorial charm and wit that you enjoyed on his first episode, this time candidly sharing his deepest experiences of sex and pleasure, and how these are informed by his navigation of polyamory and kink. We discuss definitions of sex, love, the body, pleasure, freedom, and novelty, and how these interplay with social media, identity, commitment, and polyamory. Lewis provides a well-ruminated account of his sexual and emotional experiences that have shaped his identity, led him to better understand his body, helped negotiate his role in relationships, and made him recognize his needs and fantasies. Armed with an approachable academic allure, Lewis stimulates the intellectual in our erection and gives us plenty food for thought. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with escort extraordinaire Zoey Belle—your full-service, full-throttle, and full-of-knowledge sex worker! From masturbating since 3 years old, to Masters Graduate, Zoey takes us through the wringer with facts about escorting, its intersections with neoliberalism, and how sex work subverts capitalism. Ms. Belle is handcrafted for sex work, with a passion for sensuality, human touch, and a mastery of squirting—she truly loves her line of work. Having experimented with her body very early, learning about the intricacies of sex, and developing a desire to express her sexual freedom, she decided to enter the escorting industry post-Masters. Armed with experience and academic precision, Zoey unravels the intersections between intimacy, love, sex, market economy, emotional labour, the institution of marriage, and how sex work helps subvert capitalism…but still requires decriminalization! Find Zoey Belle on: IG: @zoeybellexoxo Twitter: @zoeybelle5 Photoshoot Booking: iamzoecampbell@gmail.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

Ok, this episode is different…because I surrender my seat as host and am interviewed by Anima Mea—a new podcaster to the scene about to launch her very own show…Call me Sentimental—a podcast about modern dating, relationships, love, and taboo subjects. So, I’m her guinea pig and you get to know more about me, your host on Intellectual Erection. Anima uses her interrogation skills to drill me gently on polyamory, consent, love, kinks and fetishes, and sex clubs, all while sprinkling in the magic dust of my cynical pessimism on the meaning of life, suffering, and existentialism. Who knew love and death could be gnarled into the same sentence to give meaning to life in an otherwise bleak world?—This guy, that’s who. Anima is genuinely interested in, and curious about the multifaceted sex-positive communities, how we navigate them, where we enter and exist, and what causes us to do so. She prods sensitive topics with well-placed questions to understand my personal experiences as they intertwine with my access, interest, and interaction with these communities. Anima has an empathetic approach that digs at the emotional, while leaving space for catharsis in talking about things like heartbreak and loneliness, which is what you should expect to hear when her podcast comes out in the next couple of weeks. Her show, Call me Sentimental, will focus on love, relationships, and modern dating, in the first season, followed by taboos and secret societies in the second, so stay tuned! Find Anima Mea on: IG: @callme_sentimental FB: @callmesentimental SoundCloud: soundcloud.com/callmesentimental Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Kingpin—local Toronto staple, vintage men’s shop owner, ordained priest and exorcist, and overall lovable weirdo here on the show to test out his collection of anti-hysteria devices on our very special returning guest Edith—in hopes of sexorcising her uterus demons. First thing’s first! We get to know a little bit about this mysterious Toronto local, who’s probably been to your party and you didn’t even know it—Kingpin. He’s been running and curating Kingpin’s Hideaway—not your average vintage store, but a gentlemen’s clothing and accoutrement shop. Before all this he was, and still is a Master’s of Divinity Priest at your ready for Weddings and Exorcisms of the wild wild West, steam punk, star wars, furry, or any other orgy of decorated humans subverting the traditional purity-posturing ceremonies. From his dark and devious collection of antiques, Kingpin has meticulously selected an assortment of devices from the anti-hysteria period—basically archaic vibrators used to calm women down in the 19th-20th centuries when it was believed their emotional volatility would dislodge their uterus. So, when doctors got tired of the manual labour, they opted for mechanical assistance to regulate these out-of-control women by bringing them to climax. Enter Edith…our returning special guest and volunteer for a hysterical exorcise in coming to homeostasis. Find Kingpin at: Shop: Kingpin’s Hideaway, 71 Duncan St, Toronto IG: @kingpin_chic FB: @kingpinsHideaway Web: kingpinchic.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode, I speak Misty, a queer poly unicorn who sprinkles magic from every orifice while navigating around the sex-positive communities, dreaming of horse wangs—not attached to horses—and wanting to be thrown against the walls with hands firmly around her throat (say that 3 times). Misty didn’t have the typical early sexual awakening with odd kinky nuances before puberty that might indicate the future she was about to have. No, Misty didn’t see it coming, but come it did, and she’s been coming ever since with whips and chains and everything in between. She’s a power bottom with an aggressive need to be destroyed…yet, it was through kink that she discovered how to also say no. Misty discusses consent and the importance of taking it seriously despite changing dynamics in a relationship, or changing social climates such as the MeToo movement, which has awakened disturbing realizations for her and altered her ongoing BDSM relationships. Dealing with polyamory, kink, consent, sexual assault, and whatever else life throws at her, Misty opens up before disappearing again into the misty-cal land of the unicorns. Find Misty on: IG: @x. _misty_mist_.x Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

This is part 2 of the interview with Modern Whore extraordinaire Andrea Werhun (or Verhoon if you nasty!) where we pick up where we left off last time, talking about sex work and the law, decriminalization, personal safety, stripping, and then getting into the stories in her sexy book. Andrea’s been through it all, working with the good the bad and the ugly—facing assault, catcallers, breaches of consent, and having to personally deal with these issues that the law refuses to get involved with. She calls for, like most everyone in the sex worker community, decriminalization of prostitution—not legalization! Sex workers have become good at their profession and do not need legalization to standardize their practices, but do require the law to decriminalize their work, protect them from violence, and provide them safety. Finally, Andrea discusses her book, the stories, the backstories, and future plans for this bubbly, charismatic, and witty writer. We dive into the content of the book, how some of these stories were conceived—like microdosing on LSD—and how they’re meant to enlighten, educate, and reveal that seedy underbelly of society that we all hear only horror stories about. Find Andrea Werhun on: modernwhore.com IG: @weenerwoman FB: @modernwhor Twitter: @modernwhore Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Andrea Werhun, writer of the Modern Whore, a book nearly as difficult to describe in few words as its author—from sassy to sentimental, poetic to smutty, this girl will make you believe in the church of feminine sexuality and having you begging for communion. Andrea opens up about her personal life as a segue to writing the book, having had a shame-free entry into online porn from an early age and discovering her sexuality, to posting nudes online that later haunted her—all of which gave her the courage to own her body and decide without undue duress to enter into sex work, because she wanted to. After visiting her first strip club, Andrea was enamored by the women goddesses owning their bodies on stage, and immediately she knew that’s what she wanted to do. This eventually led her to enter into escorting, which she did for two years and which sets the premise for the book…which we cover in part two of the interview, so stay tuned. Find Andrea Werhun on: modernwhore.com IG: @weenerwoman FB: @modernwhor Twitter: @modernwhore Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Evguenia from Spirit Sex Lab, a sexual healing, book writing, sex educating, polyamorous, kink and sex party tour guide giving, spiritual healing, and energy orgasm giving bundle of a human. You’ll get an earful of tantric, spiritual, sexiness and more…maybe a transcendental orgasm. Evguenia shares in the Eastern Bloc sex shaming that repressed her many kinks to those unconscious recesses that eventually found a way to express themselves much later in life, into a blossoming polyamorous, spiritual, sex positive, and kinky human. She has since invested in learning the techniques of spiritual healing and combined it with her sex positivity to enhance her sexual experiences to tantric levels, offering her clients those seductive energy orgasms that you can vicariously enjoy on her social media. This is Evguenia’s birthday week, and thus, a great time to promote her book Alice in Polyland—a sexual guidebook, erotica, and visual art piece with professional photos highlighting the art in BDSM, kink, love, and polyamory. So for her birthday, go check out the Kickstarter for the book at the link below, her website with her professional healing services, sex education, and sexual guidance session (including those energy orgasms), and listen to the episode for the sexy details, stories about possible worlds, and transcendental orgasms. Find Evguenia at: aliceinpolyland.com spiritsexlab.com FB: spiritsexlab IG: @spiritsexlab YT: spiritsexlab Twitter: @spiritsexlab Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

This is part 2 of the interview with Jacqui Childs, we continue from our previous discussion and dive into the darkness of her past (CW: rape, suicidal ideation) where you get to hear the human side of a brand called Jacqui Childs…but what happens when the human side feeds the trolls, the creepers, the fanatics? We talk about the ups and downs of social media, microdosing, and overcoming the past. In part two of the interview we continue where we left off last time, just about to get into Jacqui’s unsettling story of rape and how it affected her trajectory as a person. She then shifts gears to discuss microdosing on mushrooms and cannabis as a therapeutic alternative to antidepressants, and an overall therapy for her Chron’s disease, depression, anxiety, and the residual anger and hate from her past, to the person she is today, having learned empathy, forgiveness, and good sex. Finally, Jacqui talks about what it’s like being a social media influencer and living as a brand, dealing with safety concerns, death threats, and creepy fans who obsess over her in severely unhealthy ways. Find Jacqui Childs on: FB: @jacquichildsmodel IG: @jacquichilds Twitter: @JacquiChilds Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Jacqui Childs—social media influencer, cannabis activist, model, naked news anchor, sex positive human, best-selling author, and an overall do-whatever-she-wants badass!You’re not even ready to hear this episode…grab a pipe and a drink, find your favourite chair, and prepare to have your mind blown. This is only part one of a two part interview, so get ready for a listenathon, an auditorgy, an eargasm that will leave you wanting more, you insatiable pervs. Jacqui Childs takes us on a rambling rampage of fun, laughs, and curiosities about her multifarious life, like how she learned to get sexual attention as a child by putting balloons under her shirt, to stripping, modeling, and being discovered by playboy photographer David Mecey. Jacqui opens up about her family life, marriage, cheating, divorce, parental alienation, to rediscovering her authentic self at the age of 39 in a new non-monogamous relationship, embracing sex positivity, living the swinger life, working as an anchor on Naked News, and how these things affect her role as a mother. She realized she hates being boxed in, restricted, controlled, so she took control of her life, her body, and her sexuality to slay on social media as an influencer with over 2 million followers. Find Jacqui Childs on: FB: @jacquichildsmodel IG: @jacquichilds Twitter: @JacquiChilds Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with fellow Podcaster Erin Pim of The Bed Post Podcast and Bed Post Sex Show about Catholic schoolgirl shame, Barbie doll menstruation humiliation, slut therapy, Pro Domme’ing wrist deep in butts, and double fisting, because…why not? Erin digs deep into her childhood sex shame and early dom/sub dynamics with Barbie, and needing to put Ken in his place. These experiences later blossomed into the wonderful sex positive, poly fam embracing, sweet-eyed-husband-having Erin Pim that you know and love. We go beyond her award winning podcast and stage show (3rd Friday of every month at the social capital theatre,) her erotica writing, and her lap dance classes at Oasis Aqualounge (2nd Friday of every month), to talk about her most recent exploits into Pro Domme’ing at the Ritual Chamber. Erin gives us wrist deep details of fisting, topping subs, and a lesson on some much-needed Domme etiquette and soliciting rules. Just listen and say “Yes Mistress!” Find Erin Pim at: Pro Domme: theritualchamber.ca/lady-pim IG: @thebedpostshow IG and Twitter: @theladypim1 Podcast: The Bed Post Podcast FB: Bedposterotica Support Intellectual Erection at: https://www.patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Cecilia Morrell, a young and determined woman who embraces sex positivity in so many forms, from doing web camming, modelling, naked news, working at a sex club, and of course, as the title states, doing porn. Cecilia discusses her very early introduction into the sex positive communities, attending Oasis Aqualounge on her 19th birthday to have her first drink at a sex club, which she eventually ended up working at as an Aquaflirt. She discusses the frustrations of coming from a conservative family and small town where anything outside monogamous heteronormativity was not only shamed but often violently assaulted, leading her to embrace her body, sexuality, and sensuality to promote sex positivity for herself and be an example to others who may be feeling marginalized, oppressed, harassed, and invisible. Cecilia’s sex work includes webcam modelling on MyFreeCams and Chaturbate, nude modelling, working on Naked News, and creating pornography with her partner as a duo called The Khaleidos. Ultimately, Cecilia talks about her experiences, her kinks and fetishes, identifying as a Little, embracing her body, and her future plans to help create a charity for people with Autism. Find Cecilia Morrell on: Instagram: @CeciliaMorrellOfficial Twitter: @CeciliaMorrell ManyVids: CeciliaMorrell.manyvids.com PornHub: pornhub.com/users/TheKhaleidos Link for coinage of Noetisexual: https://medium.com/@neal_michon/an-alternative-to-sapiosexual-671dc1bdf86a Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Brett Nails, a former escort, webcam model, custom video producer, and overall gratuitous slut who shares his multifarious and exciting experiences without compromise, guilt, shame, or reservations. Brett talks frankly about his early sexual experiences, the kinks and fetishes that emerged throughout his budding sexuality, and how those experiences shaped the variety of interests he has pursued. He discusses having been a blunt slut in early adulthood, moving into escorting, smoking fetish, bimbo play, and domination. Then, later on discovering his submissive side through a relationship with a fem domme who introduced him to forced feminization (or sissification), anal play, anal stretching, and fisting. Finally, Brett identifies as a hard switch, willing to dominate or submit so long as the engagement with the person feels authentic and good, allowing him to safely and securely explore his wild and sexy kinks and fetishes. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Elva, who shares her experiences of slowly emerging out of her shell from an environment of sex negativity and her need to destroy her former self in order to find authenticity and create the life she wants to live. Elva discusses having been brought up in a religious and cultural environment that made her feel ashamed about her desires, pushed her to conform, get married, only to finally come to a breaking point and force a change through affairs and infidelity, effectively destroying her past. She then began to explore her sexuality, relationships, sensuality, and the importance of meaningful relationships of love and sex inspired by Tantra. Elva talks about her cathartic experience coming into the sex positive communities and being part of a thruple with former Intellectual Erection guests Greg and Edith. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Hailey and Chris, a couple who share their experiences of having come from very different backgrounds, ethnically, culturally, and geographically, and have endured different forms of adversity that have strengthened them and brought them together to share their joy of liberation and sex positivity. If you want to hear what strength over adversity sounds like, listen to Hailey’s story of overcoming cancer and thereafter using that experience to take charge of her body and identity and forge who she wanted to become. Listen to Chris’s story of growing up in a conservative-minded small town, being bullied and shamed to eventually leave for the big city and find a source of liberation and welcoming support in Hailey. Together Chris and Hailey found authenticity through each other, open mindedness, and loving support. They had differing experiences of adversity, but have both become strong, humbled, and loving humans as a result of their past, and now share a bond together that is open to navigating the sex positive communities. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode Alice takes us down her academic S&M rabbit hole where she discusses her work in women’s studies on the phenomenology of sadomasochism. Through the academic discussion we find incredible humour, playfulness, some seriousness, and even an uncompromising ethics. Alice discusses her academic writing and her thesis that the taboo of sadomasochism derives from the existence of latent sociopolitical power relations that are made visible through the exercise of S&M. She argues that the erotic lies at the core of these unequal power relations because of their danger, thus making them exciting to play out in our sexual fantasies and more so in our sexual lives. She also discusses notions of identity, consent, and polyamory in a very playful and humorous style that lightens up the seriousness of these dense and sensitive topics. Overall, we get a translation of some academic work in women’s studies focusing on S&M from a fun and bubbly human. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection