Leaving Christian Science

Licensed social worker and former guest Cara returns to answer some questions about mental health posted in our ex-CS Facebook group. Here are some topics covered in this part 1: 2:00 - different types of therapists 23:00 - therapists vs coaches 29:00 - the code of ethics that therapists maintain 39:00 - different types of therapy 44:00 - an explanation of EMDR 59:00 - PTSD and CPTSD 1:23:00 - help for attachment issues - internal family systems, somatic therapy, DBT, CBT, CPT and mindfulness 1:41:00 - where to start Here is Cara's list of resources: Mental health book list for ex CS by topic Understanding shame and moving toward self-compassion Brené Brown, PhD, MSW I Thought it Was Just Me (But it Isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough” Brené Brown PhD, MSW The Gifts of Imperfection: Your Guide to a Wholehearted Life Kristin Neff, PhD Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself Kristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive Addressing CPTSD Arielle Schwartz, PhD The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control & Becoming Whole Pete Walker, MA, LMFT Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving Emotional Intelligence/Maturity Brené Brown, PhD, MSW Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Lindsay Gibson, PsyD Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-involved Parents Workbooks/Self-Help Arielle Schwartz (see above) Patricia Resick, PhD et al Getting Unstuck from PTSD: Using Cognitive Processing Therapy to Guide Your Recovery Nedra Tawwab Set Boundaries, Find Peace and The Set Boundaries Workbook Sonya Renée Taylor The Body is Not an Apology and Your Body is Not an Apology Workbook Francine Shapiro, PhD Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy Karyl McBride, PhD Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers KC Davis, LPC How to Keep House While Drowning Amir Levine, MD and Rachel Heller, MA Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find—And Keep—Love Gary Bishop Unf*ck Yourself Megan Boardman, LCSW The EMDR Workbook for Trauma and PTSD Matthew McKay, PhD et al The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook Leaving Religion Marlene Winnell, PhD Leaving the Fold Daniel Dennett, PhD Breaking the Spell: Religion as a Natural Phenomenon Memoirs Stephanie Foo What my Bones Know Jennette McCurdy I’m Glad my Mom Died About Therapy and Therapists Jeffrey Kottler, PhD On Being a Therapist Lori Gottlieb, LMFT Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Communication Skills Marshall Rosenberg Nonviolent Communication Sharon and Gordon Bower Asserting Yourself: A Practical Guide for Positive Change

In this episode, Sheri discusses childhood ailments and accidents that, left untreated, led to issues later in life, and walking the fine line of maintaining relationships with loved ones still in CS after leaving. The book Sheri references is The Life of Mary Baker G. Eddy and the History of Christian Science by Georgia Milmine

Sarah discusses navigating her mother's medical issues and cognitive dissonance, plus battling her own perfectionism as a result of growing up in CS

In this bonus episode, I compare and contrast the experience of growing up in a religious community and belief, and subsequently leaving it, with ex-LDS (Mormon) Paul

Barbara discusses her boundary-pushing mother, dental trauma, finding empathy for her parents and their own childhood traumas, and finally finding her way out of CS. Below are some resources Barbara would like to share that were helpful to her:

Books:

Mothers Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters by Susan Forward

• Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism by Amanda Montell

• Cure: A Journey into the Science of Mind over Body by Jo Marchand

• Bright-Sided: How Positive Thinking is Undermining America by Barbara Ehrenreich

• Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology and How You Can Heal by Donna

Jackson Nakazawa (and her IG)

• How Doctors Think by Jerome Groopman, MD

• Doing Harm: The Truth About How Bad Medicine and Lazy Science Leave Women Dismissed,

Misdiagnosed, and Sick by Maya Dusenberry

• All three books by Dr. Jen Gunter - The Vagina Bible, Menopause Manifesto, and Blood (and her

Substack and IG)

Podcasts:

Unbiased Science (also a FB page)

Science VS

America Dissected

Emancipate Your Mind

Wendy discusses leaving Christian Science physically but not mentally early on in life, and finding her way out later with the help of a career in massage therapy and embracing science

David discusses growing up in CS with a struggling single dad, experiences at Principia and Adventure Unlimited that made him question, and finding therapy later in life that helped him put the pieces together

In this episode, Joseph discusses his difficult family dynamics, life at Prin, and finding his way to a more authentic self with the help of therapy and independent study

Emi discusses growing up in a dysfunctional Christian Science home, finding a very non-CS career path, and recovering from narcissistic abuse Here are some book recommendations mentioned in this episode: No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz https://www.audible.com/pd/B09GKYDGZQ?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd/B002V5BMPE?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy by Susan McConnell https://www.audible.com/pd/1623176832?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD https://www.audible.com/pd/B01F2M2GDO?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V Emi would also like to extend a welcome to anyone who wants to reach out either to her Facebook profile, Emi Lindlee, or her email, Em.hulen@gmail.com

Todd talks about his Christian Science youth, navigating a narcissistic relationship, and finding help through learning about psychology and attending support groups

From time to time I'll talk with non ex-Christian Scientists as a way of seeing the similarities between these groups and the common pathways out. Today I talk with ex-Evangelical Sarah, who talks about purity culture, fear of hellfire, and balancing relationships with family still in

This week, Emily talks about her Christian Science marriage, her mother's Christian Science death, and how pursuing the arts saved her

Jodi talks about the process of class instruction and becoming a Christian Science practitioner, grieving her dad, and finally leaving Christian Science and belief entirely. The video freezes briefly at about 60:00 for thirty seconds; the audio is unaffected.

Licensed social worker and ex-Christian Scientist Cara talks about the institutionalized gaslighting in CS and how this kind of belief system interrupts healthy attachments with our caregivers, forcing on us an unnatural individualism and inability to resolve conflict

Chandler discusses how being a curious kid was the gateway to leaving belief in Christian Science, a life changing accident that set him on a different path, and how our training as "good little workers" in Christian Science has unintended consequences

Julie talks about navigating the medical system, using logic to explain the fallacy of faith healings, and the importance of mental health care after leaving Christian Science

In this episode, Morgan discusses navigating pain, allergies and the medical world in general after a childhood in CS, and finding our way to more healthy communal experiences without church

In this episode I interview Elizabeth. We discuss her multi-generational CS family, what it was like to go from "all in" to out, the rocky road to medical care, and surviving a measles outbreak at the top Christian Science boarding school

I interview Jeremy, one of the Ex-Christian Scientists Facebook group admins about his multi-generational CS family, his parents' deaths, and how he came to be a non-believer

The first episode of Leaving Christian Science, in which I interview my sister Madeleine as a way to tell our family's story of finding and eventually leaving Christian Science.