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Summary
In this episode of SoberPod, Carl sits down with Andrew to discuss his personal journey through sobriety, focusing on the challenges faced during the holiday seasons, the impact of family dynamics, and the role of relationships in recovery. They share insights on navigating temptations, the importance of support systems, and the realities of relapses, emphasizing the need for accountability and self-reflection in the recovery process.
Sat, 16 Nov 2024 - 1h 05min - 698 - Spirituality
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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl D discusses the often slippery concept of spirituality in recovery. He emphasizes that spirituality is not about subscribing to a specific belief system but rather about finding something greater than oneself. The conversation explores the role of spirituality in the 12 steps, the dangers of spiritual bypassing, and the importance of practical spirituality through actions rather than beliefs. Carl shares personal reflections on his journey with spirituality and encourages listeners to consider what spirituality means for them in their recovery journey.
Sat, 09 Nov 2024 - 22min - 697 - Recovery is Bullshit
Summary - Buy the book at soberpod.com In this episode, Carl discusses the often harsh realities of recovery from addiction, challenging the notion that sobriety is a straightforward path to happiness. He explores the frustrations and disillusionments that can arise during the recovery process, emphasizing the importance of persistence, responsibility, and perspective. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, Carl highlights the value of recovery despite its challenges, advocating for a realistic understanding of what it means to live sober
Sun, 03 Nov 2024 - 18min - 696 - This is fine
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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl D discusses the concept of denial in the context of alcoholism and recovery. He explores the various tactics of denial, including minimizing, rationalizing, and blaming, and emphasizes the importance of honesty and accountability in overcoming these mental barriers. Through personal anecdotes and reflective questions, Carl encourages listeners to confront their own denial and take actionable steps towards recovery.
Sun, 27 Oct 2024 - 28min - 695 - Bedevilments… And Other Things
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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl D discusses his personal struggles with sobriety, particularly the feelings of negativity and depression that can creep back into life after years of recovery. He explores the concept of 'bedevilments' as outlined in the Alcoholics Anonymous literature, which refers to the emotional and spiritual challenges faced by individuals in recovery. Carl emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs and countering them with spiritual principles derived from the 12 Steps of AA. He provides practical advice for maintaining sobriety and encourages listeners to connect with others in recovery, practice gratitude, and engage in daily self-reflection to combat feelings of isolation and despair.
Fri, 18 Oct 2024 - 31min - 694 - F-ing Off!
Summary In this episode of SoberPod, Carl D shares his personal journey through health challenges and the lessons learned from adversity. He discusses the importance of community support in recovery, the need to find joy in life beyond sobriety, and the significance of taking breaks to reflect on one's well-being. Carl emphasizes that recovery is not just about abstaining from substances but also about living a fulfilling life. Buy the book at soberpod.com
Sat, 05 Oct 2024 - 19min - 693 - The Small Bow
Summary
In this conversation, Carl D and A.J. Daulerio discuss the journey of sobriety, the impact of addiction on personal and professional life, and the importance of community and emotional sobriety in recovery. AJ shares his experiences from his career in media to his struggles with addiction and the founding of TheSmallBow.com, a platform dedicated to discussing addiction and recovery. They emphasize the significance of finding a supportive community, the challenges of emotional sobriety, and the ongoing work required to maintain recovery. The conversation also touches on the role of various recovery programs, including AA and ACA, and offers advice for newcomers in their recovery journey.
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Sat, 21 Sep 2024 - 1h 14min - 692 - Sober Curious
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In this episode, the hosts Jersey Ed and Carl D discuss the dynamics of their podcast, reflecting on their time off and the challenges of solo shows. They explore the future of the podcast, the importance of community in recovery, and the rise of sober curious culture. The conversation emphasizes the need for connection and engagement in recovery, highlighting various activities and groups that support sobriety. The episode concludes with reflections on personal growth and the significance of maintaining a supportive community.
Sat, 14 Sep 2024 - 37min - 691 - Look Who's Back
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In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the challenges of maintaining sobriety while navigating major life changes, such as becoming a parent. They explore the importance of staying connected and grounded in recovery, even when life gets chaotic. Chelsea shares her experience of feeling overwhelmed and the need to prioritize her sobriety. They also touch on the impact of sobriety on family dynamics and the importance of self-care as a parent. Overall, the conversation highlights the ongoing work and commitment required to maintain sobriety in the face of life's challenges.
Chelsea and Carl also discuss the challenges of having alcohol in the house while maintaining sobriety. They share their experiences of feeling tempted and the strategies they use to resist the urge to drink. They also discuss the importance of communication and respect in a relationship where one person is sober, and the other is not. The conversation highlights the need for ongoing self-reflection and growth in recovery, as well as the importance of investing in oneself to be the best version of oneself for others.
Sat, 07 Sep 2024 - 1h 01min - 690 - Back to Basics
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In this episode, Carl reflects on the basics of sobriety and shares his personal journey. He discusses the importance of admitting and recognizing the problem, the role of denial, and the need for a plan to overcome addiction. Carl also touches on triggers and physical withdrawal symptoms. He emphasizes the value of reaching out for help and seeking outside guidance. In this part of the conversation, Carl discusses the physical symptoms and challenges he faced during his journey to sobriety. He talks about experiencing auditory hallucinations, difficulty sleeping, and the importance of seeking professional help. Carl emphasizes the need for a support system and the importance of surrounding oneself with people who understand and support their sobriety. He also discusses the significance of changing routines and developing new habits to replace drinking. Carl encourages persistence and consistency in maintaining sobriety and shares his advice for overcoming setbacks.
Sat, 31 Aug 2024 - 48min - 689 - Work Work Work
Summary FREE: soberpod.com/university This episode of Sober Pod focuses on the importance of working the 12 steps in recovery and introduces Sober Pod University as a free resource to complement the steps. Carl shares his personal experience of attending meetings without doing the work and emphasizes the transformative power of the steps. Each step is briefly explained, highlighting the actions and changes involved. The episode concludes with a reminder to stay active in recovery and a reading from 366 F***ing Days Sober about making the most of the present moment.
Sun, 25 Aug 2024 - 29min - 688 - DISEASED!
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Summary
Carl explores the disease concept of alcoholism as framed by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Carl discusses how AA views alcoholism as a progressive, chronic condition that affects the mind, body, and spirit. The disease concept emphasizes that alcoholism is not a moral failing but a condition requiring treatment. He also touches on the ongoing scientific debate surrounding the disease model, acknowledging that it is a complex issue that requires a multifaceted understanding. Additionally, this episode explores the concept of alcoholism as a family disease, highlighting how it can deeply impact the entire family and shape patterns of dysfunction.
Sat, 17 Aug 2024 - 31min - 687 - Politics Schmolotics
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In this episode, Carl discusses why political discussions are discouraged in 12-step fellowships and provides tips on how to avoid bringing divisive topics into meetings. He explores the structure and traditions of 12-step groups that support a recovery-focused environment and emphasizes the importance of placing sobriety as the primary purpose. Carl also touches on the possibility of discussing politics one-on-one with fellow members in recovery.
Fri, 09 Aug 2024 - 30min - 686 - Sober Sidekick (With Chris)
Summary: - Buy the book at soberpod.com Download the App at sobersidekick.com Join Chris as he bravely shares his personal story of addiction, relapse, and the journey to recovery. Hear about his lowest moments and the pivotal realization that brought hope back into his life. Carl underscores that this is just the beginning of a long but rewarding path to sobriety. Chris's powerful narrative highlights the importance of taking responsibility, committing to the recovery steps, and the vital role of empathy and connection in overcoming addiction. Discover how Chris's journey inspired the creation of the Sober Sidekick app, a groundbreaking tool designed to support people in recovery. Sober Sidekick offers a unique, supportive community that extends beyond traditional recovery methods, making it easier for addicts and alcoholics to connect and find support. With 24/7 AA meetings and a community where over 60% of new members have less than a year of sobriety, the app serves as a crucial bridge for those hesitant about in-person meetings or facing limited options. Embrace the power of connection and support in your recovery journey. Download the Sober Sidekick app today at sobersidekick.com and take the first step towards a brighter, sober future. Stay connected, reflect, and find strength in knowing you're not alone in resisting that first drink.
Sat, 03 Aug 2024 - 1h 15min - 685 - Resisting Change
Summary This episode of SobperPod explores the theme of change and why it can be challenging for addicts and alcoholics. The host discusses the resistance to change and the habits of control that addicts and alcoholics often embrace. The episode emphasizes the importance of embracing change and offers a daily challenge to sit in a different chair than usual. The host also delves into the concept of fear and its impact on resistance to change. The episode concludes with a reflection on the power of embracing change and the opportunity for personal transformation.
Sat, 27 Jul 2024 - 18min - 684 - Fear, Too, As in Also
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Summary In this episode, Carl continues reading from the ebook on soberpod.com and it focuses on the topic of fear. He discusses various ways to deal with fear, including practicing gratitude, mindfulness, and meditation. He also emphasizes the importance of seeking support from others, whether it's through friends, support groups, or therapy. Carl encourages listeners to have self-compassion and to confront their fears in order to experience personal growth and live a more fulfilling life.
Sat, 20 Jul 2024 - 37min - 683 - Fear - A four-letter word
Summary This episode of SoberPod focuses on the topic of fear and how to overcome it. The host, Carl, discusses the importance of identifying and understanding our fears, as well as strategies for coping with them. He emphasizes the need to focus on what we can control and take action to overcome our fears. Carl also mentions an ebook on fear that is available for download on the SoberPod.comwebsite. Overall, the episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for dealing with fear in recovery. Download the ebook at soberpod.com!
Mon, 15 Jul 2024 - 31min - 682 - Stay active. Stay Sober.
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Carl shares his personal journey of addiction and recovery, emphasizing the philosophy of 'stay active, stay sober.' He talks about the challenges he faced in his sobriety journey and how he found support in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). The episode highlights the role of AA in the host's recovery and the importance of taking action, making commitments, and seeking help. The host encourages listeners to reflect on their own recovery journey and the actions they are taking to stay sober.
Takeaways
- Staying active and sober is crucial in recovery from addiction.
- Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) can provide valuable support and guidance in the recovery process.
- Taking action, making commitments, and seeking help are essential for maintaining sobriety.
- Reflecting on one's recovery journey and the actions taken can help in staying sober.
Sat, 06 Jul 2024 - 26min - 681 - 366 Days Sober Moving! See Links!
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Fri, 09 Aug 2024 - 00min - 680 - Bottom to Bottom
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Summary - The conversation explores the concept of hitting rock bottom in addiction and recovery. It discusses the cycle of hitting multiple bottoms and the denial and false hope of finding an easier way out. The importance of attending meetings and connecting with others in recovery is emphasized. The conversation also touches on the personal experiences of individuals who have hit rock bottom and the different paths they take. The reading for July 1st focuses on the limitations and loss of freedom that come with addiction.
Takeaways
Hitting rock bottom is a turning point and a wake-up call for change. Connecting with others in recovery is crucial for support and guidance. Addiction limits freedom and leads to various consequences. Self-reflection and honesty are important in recognizing the need for change.Mon, 01 Jul 2024 - 17min - 671 - Connections
Summary - Buy the book! Support the Podcast! Carl and Kristin discuss their experiences with addiction and recovery, highlighting the importance of connection and vulnerability. They reflect on their initial interactions on Reddit.com/r/stopdrinking and how reaching out for help and receiving support made a significant impact on their journeys. They emphasize the power of connecting with others who understand their struggles and provide hope and encouragement. Kristin shares her personal story of hitting rock bottom and finding freedom in sobriety. They discuss the role of online communities like Reddit.com/r/stopdrinking in providing support and fostering connections. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the transformative power of connection and the importance of reaching out for help. In this conversation, Carl and Kristin discuss the importance of hope and consistency in recovery. They reflect on their own journeys and the impact they have had on each other. They emphasize the need to fill the newfound time in sobriety with meaningful activities and pursue passions. They also discuss the power of gratitude and the importance of stepping out of one's comfort zone. Overall, they highlight the transformative nature of long-term sobriety and the possibilities it opens up.
Fri, 21 Jun 2024 - 57min - 663 - A.I. Sobriety
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Summary:
In this episode, Carl explores the idea of using artificial intelligence (AI) to help him get and remain sober. He engages in a chat with an AI program, seeking advice and guidance on practical steps to achieve sobriety. The conversation covers topics such as setting a date to stop drinking, seeking support from groups like Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.), removing temptations, identifying triggers, finding alternatives to drinking, and seeking professional help. The conversation also addresses the effectiveness of AA, the concept of "California sober", and the importance of developing a support network. The AI program provides practical suggestions and encourages Carl to take small steps towards sobriety.
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sobriety, artificial intelligence, AI, getting sober, remaining sober, support groups, Alcoholics Anonymous, AA, triggers, alternatives to drinking, professional help, California sober, support network
Fri, 14 Jun 2024 - 24min - 656 - The "Art" of Amends
Summary
This episode revolves around the topic of making amends in recovery. Carl shares a personal story about a past wrongdoing and the guilt and remorse he felt. He discusses the importance of making amends to honor loved ones who have passed and shares his own experience of visiting a grave and apologizing. The conversation highlights the power of facing shame and remorse in recovery and the healing that comes from making amends.
Sun, 09 Jun 2024 - 20min - 652 - Being New
Carl talks about the theme of being new in recovery and the challenges and experiences associated with it. Carl shares personal insights and reflections on the process of recovery, offering advice and encouragement to newcomers. The discussion covers the struggles, changes, and growth that come with embracing a sober lifestyle and also the importance of seeking help and support in recovery, he cautions against charlatans and false promises, and the daily commitment to sobriety. He also emphasizes the the use and availability of free resources for therapy and support. As always! Stay active. Stay sober! Buy the book!
Wed, 05 Jun 2024 - 24min - 640 - Spiritual Malady
Summary Carl reads an excerpt from the book about the spiritual malady. The conversation explores the concept of the spiritual malady and how it manifests in individuals. It delves into the feelings of restlessness, irritability, and discontent that arise from this malady and the various ways people try to fill the void. The importance of examining one's life and identifying areas of brokenness is emphasized, as well as the need for a spiritual healing. The conversation also touches on the role of the 12-step program in addressing the spiritual malady and finding healing. In this conversation, Broken Beth discusses her journey of recovery and the spiritual malady that she believes was present from birth. She emphasizes the importance of actively working the steps and having a spiritual experience to truly understand the emptiness and lack of purpose that addiction brings. Carl D shares his experience of falling in love with the guy at 7-Eleven and how it changed his perspective on life. They discuss the importance of doing the work and not just seeking relief in fellowship. The conversation concludes with a discussion of the promises of recovery and the transformation that can occur.
Sat, 25 May 2024 - 59min - 632 - Wreck the Shop!
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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl reads from his book and discusses the topic of anger and losing control. He shares personal experiences of throwing adult fits and reflects on the consequences of such behavior. Carl also introduces a five-step process from Stoicism to manage anger and respond wisely. He emphasizes the importance of self-monitoring, cognitive distancing, postponement, modeling virtue, and functional analysis. The episode concludes with a call to support Chelsea and a reminder to stay active and sober.
Throwing adult fits and losing control can have negative consequences and damage relationships.
Stoicism offers a five-step process to manage anger: self-monitoring, cognitive distancing, postponement, modeling virtue, and functional analysis.
Practicing these steps can help individuals respond wisely and avoid destructive behavior.
Supporting others in their recovery journey is important and can make a difference.
Staying active and sober is crucial for maintaining sobriety
Sat, 18 May 2024 - 28min - 625 - Hearing Voices
In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the purpose of their podcast, SoberPod, and the importance of one addict or alcoholic helping another in recovery. They introduce their book, '366 Fucking Days Sober,' and encourage listeners to engage with the daily meditations and affirmations. They highlight the significance of emotional sobriety and challenge the critical inner voice that often undermines self-worth. The conversation touches on topics such as setting boundaries, saying no without guilt, and practicing self-care. The conversation explores the theme of the critical inner voice and its impact on self-perception and behavior. The speakers discuss their experiences with negative self-talk and the importance of challenging and reframing these thoughts. They emphasize the need to confide in others and seek support in order to break free from the cycle of negative thinking. The conversation also touches on the significance of forgiveness and self-compassion in overcoming the critical inner voice. Overall, the speakers encourage listeners to confront and address their negative thoughts and beliefs in order to achieve personal growth and recovery. Takeaways
One addict or alcoholic helping another is crucial to building a life in recovery. Emotional sobriety is essential for true transformation in recovery. Setting boundaries and saying no without guilt are important aspects of self-care. Engaging with daily meditations and affirmations can challenge the critical inner voice and promote self-worth. Recognize and acknowledge the critical inner voice and challenge its validity Talk to someone you trust about your negative thoughts and beliefs Practice self-compassion and forgiveness Seek support and confide in others to break free from negative thinking Addressing the critical inner voice is crucial for personal growth and recoverySun, 12 May 2024 - 54min - 617 - Use the Fourth!
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In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the theme of change and the challenges that come with it. They explore the concept of impermanence and the difficulty humans have in accepting change. They share personal experiences of navigating change and the growth that can come from it. The conversation also touches on the topic of pregnancy and the changes it brings. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing change and finding comfort in the midst of it. The conversation explores the themes of change and impermanence, particularly in the context of recovery from addiction. The speakers discuss how everything in life is subject to change and how accepting this reality can lead to personal growth and the ability to adapt. They share their experiences of coping with change and the importance of having a support system to navigate through difficult times. The conversation also touches on the process of grieving the loss of the old life and identity associated with addiction. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing change and seeking support in order to find peace and stability.
Takeaways
Change is a constant in life and resisting it can lead to unnecessary struggle. Embracing change can lead to personal growth and new opportunities. Pregnancy is a significant change that brings both challenges and growth. Accepting the impermanence of all things can help in finding peace and contentment. Change is inevitable and everything in life is subject to change. Accepting the reality of impermanence can lead to personal growth and the ability to adapt. Having a support system is crucial for navigating through difficult times and coping with change. Grieving the loss of the old life and identity associated with addiction is an important part of the recovery process.Sun, 05 May 2024 - 49min - 609 - Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) Talk - Carl D
This is a talk given by Carl D on his experience with Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) and the journey of self-discovery and healing. He discusses the false self and true self in ACA, the 14 traits of ACA, the dangers and lessons learned on the journey, and the promises of ACA. Carl shares his personal experiences and how ACA has helped him find his true self and live a happier, more authentic life.
Key Takeaways
ACA is a program for people who were raised in an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional home The false self and true self are key concepts in ACA The 14 traits of ACA represent the false self and can be overcome through the ACA program Facing the dangers and challenges of the ACA journey leads to self-discovery and healing The promises of ACA include increased self-esteem, healthier boundaries, and a sense of peace and happinessBuy the 366 Days Sober book from Soberpod!
Sun, 28 Apr 2024 - 45min - 601 - 12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety
Summary
In this conversation, Carl and Dr. Alan Berger discuss the concept of emotional sobriety and its importance in recovery. Dr. Berger shares his personal journey of addiction and recovery, highlighting the pivotal moment when he encountered someone who embodied emotional freedom. They explore the idea of emotional sobriety as freedom from expectations and the ability to live from the inside out. Dr. Berger's book, '12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety,' is discussed, with each insight representing a key aspect of emotional sobriety. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and personal growth in achieving emotional sobriety. The conversation explores the concept of emotional sobriety and its importance in recovery. It discusses the different stages of recovery, with stage one being physical sobriety and stage two focusing on emotional sobriety. The idea of radical responsibility is emphasized, highlighting the need to take ownership of one's emotions and behavior. The concept of a spiritual bypass is also discussed, cautioning against using spirituality as a means to avoid dealing with emotional trauma. The conversation concludes with the understanding that emotional sobriety is a practice and a journey of progress, not perfection.
Takeaways
Emotional sobriety is the freedom from expectations and the ability to live from the inside out. Achieving emotional sobriety involves unhooking from demands and expectations and embracing personal growth. Dr. Berger's book, '12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety,' provides valuable tools and exercises for developing emotional sobriety. Emotional sobriety is a lifelong journey that requires self-reflection, vulnerability, and a willingness to let go of old patterns and beliefs. Emotional sobriety is an essential aspect of recovery, focusing on personal growth and the ability to cope with life's challenges. Stage one recovery is achieving physical sobriety, while stage two recovery involves emotional sobriety and learning to make relationships work. Radical responsibility is about taking ownership of one's emotions and behavior, rather than blaming others or circumstances. A spiritual bypass is using spirituality to avoid dealing with emotional trauma, hindering personal growth. Emotional sobriety is a practice and a journey of progress, not perfection.Resources
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Sun, 21 Apr 2024 - 44min - 591 - Power Rangers
The conversation explores the theme of powerlessness and power in recovery. The hosts reflect on their past drinking behaviors and the lack of choice they had while actively drinking. They also discuss the gradual progression of alcoholism and the realization that their drinking was not normal. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing the power of choice in recovery and the potential for personal growth and transformation. In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the concept of powerlessness in recovery and the importance of accessing personal power. They explore the idea that powerlessness does not mean being completely powerless, but rather recognizing the power to choose and make decisions. They emphasize the empowerment that comes from sobriety and the ability to make positive choices in life. They also discuss the importance of having a higher power and accessing power through fellowship and support from others. The conversation concludes with a reminder to stay active and sober.
In active addiction, individuals often lack the awareness that they do not have a choice in their actions and behaviors. Recovery brings the realization that one has the power of choice and the ability to make rational decisions. Recognizing the power of choice in recovery allows for personal growth and transformation. It is important to challenge the defeatist mindset of powerlessness and embrace the power one has in recovery. Powerlessness in recovery does not mean being completely powerless, but rather recognizing the power to choose and make decisions. Sobriety empowers individuals to make positive choices and pursue their goals. Having a higher power can provide access to inner strength and resources. Fellowship and support from others in recovery can be a source of empowerment and encouragement. It is important to stay active and engaged in recovery to continue accessing personal power.Fri, 12 Apr 2024 - 49min - 584 - Coming to Terms
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Summary
• "It's not what happens to us; it's how we respond to it that matters."
In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss the concept of living life on life's terms and the struggles that come with it. They talk about how our desires can be overinflated and cause us trouble when we don't get our way. They emphasize the importance of coming to terms with what we can and cannot control in our lives. Chelsea shares her personal mantra that reminds her of her own strength and resilience. They encourage listeners to create their own mantras and to embrace the challenges and uncertainties of life.
In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the concept of living life on life's terms in recovery. They talk about the importance of accepting reality and not getting caught up in expectations or personalizing events. They share personal experiences of dealing with challenges and how they have learned to respond in a more productive way. They also discuss the idea of overinflated desires and how they can cause trouble in recovery. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of utilizing tools and support in recovery to navigate life's ups and downs.
• Living life on life's terms means accepting the ups and downs, twists and turns of life and coming to terms with what we can and cannot control.
• Our desires can be overinflated and cause us trouble when we don't get our way.
• Creating a personal mantra can help boost self-confidence and remind us of our own strength and resilience.
• It's important to reflect on our thoughts and desires and evaluate what we truly have control over in our lives.
• Embracing the challenges and uncertainties of life can lead to personal growth and a greater sense of peace. Living life on life's terms is a key concept in recovery
• Accepting reality and not personalizing events is crucial
• Overinflated desires can cause trouble in recovery
Utilizing tools and support is important in navigating challenges
Fri, 05 Apr 2024 - 53min - 579 - Help me!
Carl and Chelsea talk about asking for help and the many ways in which to ask for help and how. If you are back and square one again and re-examining things, this is the time. Give a listen and let us know what you think?
Mon, 25 Apr 2022 - 1h 03min - 578 - Basic Pain
Carl and Phil (https://www.h5wellness.com/) sit down to discuss getting physical and being new in recovery. No! Not that, but actually exercising and getting healthy. There is more to it than meets the expectation. Also, Carl gets vulnerable and confesses he just can’t keep up like he used to. Carl is always the last to know.
Fri, 15 Apr 2022 - 39min - 577 - Pain into Purpose
Chelsea and Carl go deep as they discuss turning their greatest deficit (weakness) in their greatest asset (strength). It’s hard to identify, so that’s why we use all the tools at our disposal. The 12 Steps, therapy, friend, sponsor, soberpod purpose ebook. Whatever it takes!
Sun, 10 Apr 2022 - 50min - 576 - Job Loss
Today, Carl goes solo to talk about his job loss, employment status, or lack thereof. Sometimes, this road of recovery is not always pretty and we must be willing to take some lumps now and then. Just because we’re sober does not mean that bad things won’t happen.
Tue, 05 Apr 2022 - 17min - 575 - Accountability Archs
Accountability to ourselves can sometimes be more complicated than being accountable to someone else. The slight degrees and ways we simply do not listen to that inner voice can be confusing. In this episode, Carl and Chelsea open the topic of responsibility to ourselves in the arch of our recovery.
Sun, 27 Mar 2022 - 1h 01min - 574 - Soberversary Dates
Happy soberversary! So, you have a sobriety date! That’s awesome! What does it mean? How much importance do you put on your date? Are anniversaries important to you? So many questions.
Mon, 21 Mar 2022 - 50min - 573 - Maturity - Good Ol' Rick!
It’s been some time since we had an interview on the show. This week was kind of special for Carl as he asked Rick to come on the show. Carl has known rick for some time and has watched him progress in his recovery and he certainly has received a lot of hope to see Rick grow. Sit back as this two old white guys talk about recovery and all that.
Sun, 13 Mar 2022 - 58min - 572 - Hierarchy of Needs
Responding to an ACA question, Carl gets all emotional and starts to cry, thinking… This is something we need to talk about on Sober Pod! What makes good theater? Carl crying again! Not really, but we did think that talking about self-acceptance, self-esteem, and the like would help him. :)
Sun, 06 Mar 2022 - 57min - 571 - Epidemically Speaking
Chelsea and Carl discuss their person as well as the national epidemic of addiction, alcoholism, suicide increased since the beginning of COVID-19. It has taken its toll on a lot of people and our downer of an episode does not make it any better. Listen as we discuss it all… Ugh.
Mon, 28 Feb 2022 - 1h 00min - 570 - Take care out there
Carl shares about his journey (again) in the hospital and how he works towards having that much awareness in his day-to-day life. It’s not always easy to stay in the moment and be mindful. Carl also gives Chelsea a shout out for her soberversary! Happy Birthday, Chelsea!!!!!!
Sun, 20 Feb 2022 - 19min - 569 - Stressin' Out
Carl and Chelsea are both feeling the stress of school, work, and life in general. It’s not easy. Life can take its toll and if you are not going back to basics and reinstituting principles and habits in your life, falling back to old patterns and behaviors can turn up with a vengeance.
Sun, 13 Feb 2022 - 41min - 568 - Two worlds in step two, part 2
This week, we join The Friends In Recovery Podcast AGAIN to discuss more on Step 2. A double dose of all you ever wanted to know for your step 2!
Tue, 08 Feb 2022 - 1h 25min - 567 - One Day at a Time
Join Carl and Chelsea as they talk about going back to basics and rediscovering the saying “One Day at a Time.” #ODAAT as the cool kids are saying on the Twitter-Machine these days!
Mon, 07 Feb 2022 - 43min - 566 - Two worlds collide in step two
This week, we join The Friends In Recovery Podcast to discuss Step Two. Carl, Ed, Sky, and Tif are all up in this and can’t wait to talk about their experiences attempting to work this step for the first time, and how they came to terms with it after being sober. It’s not pretty, but they all seem to manage. Listen in! You’ll be glad you did!
Sat, 29 Jan 2022 - 1h 35min - 565 - Does A.A. Work?
Does A.A. Work? No, really? Does it? It seems that Stanford University, Harvard University, and the European Monitoring Center for Drugs and Drug Addiction (EMCDDA) have something to say about it. Listen as we watch scientists John Kelly (Harvard/MGH) and Keith Humphreys (Stanford/VA) discuss their findings (published 3/11/20 by the Cochrane Collaborative), with commentary from psychologist Gabrielle Jones.
Sun, 23 Jan 2022 - 1h 06min - 564 - The Serenity Prayer
This week, we talk about ‘The Serenity Prayer’! Why we say it, where it came from, all the other variations we found on Wikipedia. Etc. Check the show notes for a lengthy article from AA.ORG and their version of the incorporation of the current Serenity Prayer that’s all the rage with the kids these days.
Mon, 17 Jan 2022 - 46min - 563 - 21 to 22 - And Back Again
Carl and Chelsea meet up on a dry January Saturday to discuss successes in recovery for 2021 and what they look forward to in 2022. Incredibly, we can talk for almost an hour, seemingly about nothing. Or was it?
Sun, 09 Jan 2022 - 53min - 562 - The End is NearMon, 29 Nov 2021 - 06min
- 561 - Get Gratitude
This week, Chelsea and Carl are giving away a gratitude journal download! Visit the site at soberpod.com/gratitude and fill out the form to instantly download a gratitude journal! This PDF will help you get started on a habit of gratitude.
Mon, 22 Nov 2021 - 22min - 557 - HIde and Seek - Paul Summers Jr
Visit PaulSummersJr.com to learn more about Paul's Book, Hide and Seek - A Dad's Journey from Soulless Addiction to Sole Custody.
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Summary
In this episode, Carl and Paul discuss Paul's book, 'Hide and Seek: A Dad's Journey from Soulless Addiction to Soul Custody.' Paul shares his personal journey of recovery and the struggle to gain custody of his daughter. They explore the themes of self-centeredness, rebuilding relationships, and society's perception of dads. Paul emphasizes the importance of being an active and present father, and how recovery has transformed his family dynamics. In this part of the conversation, Paul Summers Jr. and Carl D discuss the impact of recovery on their lives and relationships. They explore the importance of equality and sensitivity, as well as the challenges of navigating financial insecurities and maintaining authenticity in recovery memoirs. They also discuss the value of sharing personal stories and the impact of false narratives in the recovery community. The conversation concludes with a reflection on the significance of Easter and the importance of embracing boldness, audacity, and daring in recovery. In this conversation, Paul Summers Jr. and Carl D discuss overcoming fear, handling confrontation, being bold and audacious, and finding balance in recovery. They explore the fear of being bad and walking on eggshells, the importance of active listening, and the journey of self-discovery. They also touch on overcoming ego and narcissism, embracing imperfection and diversity, and the power of vulnerability. The conversation concludes with words of encouragement for newcomers, emphasizing that it is never too late to start the journey of recovery.
Sat, 30 Mar 2024 - 1h 20min - 549 - Who Are You Now?
Summary In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the concept of identity and the fear of change in recovery. They explore the idea of holding onto old identities and personas, and the need to let go of them in order to grow and change. They also reflect on the question of who they are now and how their identities have evolved in sobriety. In this conversation, Chelsea and Carl discuss the fear of losing friends and identity when getting sober. They explore the process of starting over and discovering one's true self. They also delve into the importance of feedback and how it can help us see ourselves more clearly. The conversation highlights the delusion of self-perception and the role of sobriety in enabling a clearer perception. They discuss the concept of changing identity and stepping into recovery, as well as the idea of a life waiting on the other side of addiction. The conversation concludes with a discussion on trusting in a higher power, letting go of control, and the importance of doing the right thing.
Takeaways
Identifying with old identities can hinder personal growth and change in recovery. The fear of change is common, but it is important to recognize that staying the same can be more painful than embracing change. Who we are is not defined by titles or roles, but by our characteristics and values. Letting go of old identities and embracing change can lead to personal growth and a more authentic life. Getting sober can lead to a fear of losing friends and identity, but it is worth it for personal happiness and growth. Sobriety allows for a clearer perception of oneself and the world, free from the delusions of alcoholism. Feedback from others can help us see ourselves more clearly and challenge our self-perceptions. Trusting in a higher power and letting go of control can lead to a more fulfilling and purposeful life in recovery.soberpod.com
Sat, 23 Mar 2024 - 42min - 541 - Back to Basics
Summary
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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl and Chelsea discuss the concept of going back to basics in recovery. The hosts read from their book, '366 Fucking Days Sober,' and delve into the question of whether they are truly addicts or alcoholics. They explore the effects of substance use and discuss the clinical limits of addiction. In this conversation, the hosts discuss the difference between physical dependence and addiction. They share personal experiences of physical dependence on substances and the psychological aspects of addiction. They emphasize the importance of recognizing the signs of addiction and seeking help. The conversation also touches on the first step of recovery, which involves admitting powerlessness over alcohol. The hosts discuss the benefits of treatment and the need for human connection in the recovery process. They highlight the practical program of action and the importance of reading recovery literature. The conversation concludes with closing remarks and a reminder to stay active and sober.
Sun, 17 Mar 2024 - 47min - 532 - Worry works!
Summary
In this episode of SoberPod, Chelsea and Carl discuss various topics, including gratitude, positive feedback, and worrying. They also read a passage from their book '366 F***ing Days Sober' and reflect on the message. The conversation highlights the importance of staying positive, managing worries, and finding humor in recovery. In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the impact of worry and fear on their lives, particularly in relation to their experiences with unemployment and addiction. They share their struggles with unemployment and the challenges they faced in managing their worries. They also explore various techniques for managing worry, such as breathing exercises and the serenity prayer. The conversation delves into the connection between worry and addiction, highlighting how worry can drive addictive behaviors. They emphasize the importance of acceptance and action in overcoming worry and finding peace. Overall, the conversation highlights the transformative power of sobriety in changing one's thinking and approach to worry.
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Sat, 09 Mar 2024 - 55min - 524 - Leap me!
Summary
In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss the concept of change and its significance in recovery. They explore the idea that change is constant and happening all around us, from the seasons to the passage of time. They emphasize the importance of mindfulness and appreciating the beauty in change. Additionally, they discuss the power of change in recovery and the need to let go of attachments to things and identities. Overall, the conversation highlights the transformative nature of change and its role in personal growth and sobriety. In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the challenges and benefits of change and letting go. They share personal experiences of losing possessions and how it shaped their perspectives on material possessions. They also explore the difficulty of changing behaviors and the importance of changing environments and relationships in recovery. The conversation highlights the continuous process of change and the need to stay adaptable. They discuss the impact of change on relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. The conversation concludes with advice on embracing change and the power of choosing how to respond to life's challenges.
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Sat, 02 Mar 2024 - 48min - 518 - Friends in Recovery - Nature VS Pharma
The FIR hosts start the live video and engage in banter before introducing themselves. They discuss the absence of co-hosts and promote their contact information and book. They joke about Jill's whereabouts and plans to visit Charleston. Ed shares personal stories and the importance of connecting through AA and literature. They discuss the leap year and reading the book. The hosts talk about improving mental health through food, sleep, and exercise, with Dan sharing his transformation and the benefits of exercise. The conversation explores the topics of addiction to food and exercise, the importance of sleep, establishing a night routine, the impact of food on sleep, personal sleep habits, the role of medication in mental health, the benefits of exercise, the influence of TV and electronics on sleep, the challenge of healthy eating, and the importance of individual choices. The main takeaways include the need to find a balance between food, sleep, and exercise, the importance of consulting a medical professional for personalized advice, and the significance of making individual choices that prioritize overall well-being.
Sun, 25 Feb 2024 - 46min - 509 - 9 YEARS! Happy Birthday Chelsea!
Summary In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss their early drinking experiences, the consequences of their actions, and the challenges they faced in their relationships. They reflect on moments of shame and regret, as well as the realization that they had a problem with alcohol. Chelsea shares her journey of giving her boyfriend an ultimatum and the positive changes that resulted from it. They both acknowledge the role of their higher power in their sobriety and the importance of seeking support and making changes for themselves. In this conversation, Chelsea and Carl discuss various aspects of recovery and living a sober life. They touch on topics such as marriages and relationships in recovery, transitioning to a sober lifestyle, identifying with the recovery community, growing up in recovery, living a sober life, discovering personal aspirations, finding fulfillment in recovery, being comfortable in recovery, and overcoming fear and asking for help. Takeaways Early drinking experiences can have a significant impact on a person's relationship with alcohol. Consequences and regrets can serve as wake-up calls and motivate individuals to seek help. Giving ultimatums in relationships can lead to positive changes, but it is important to recognize that not all ultimatums are successful. Isolation and enabling behaviors can contribute to the escalation of drinking habits. Recognizing the role of a higher power and seeking support are crucial in maintaining sobriety. Marriages and relationships can be challenging in recovery, and it's not uncommon for them to end. Transitioning to a sober lifestyle is a gradual process, and there is no specific moment when it becomes a commitment. Identifying with the recovery community and finding similarities with others' stories can lead to personal growth. Living a sober life means not constantly thinking about alcohol and being able to let go of cravings. Recovery opens up opportunities for personal aspirations and goals that were previously hindered by addiction. Recovery goes beyond sobriety and involves finding fulfillment and purpose in life. Feeling comfortable and accepted in recovery is a transformative experience. Overcoming fear and asking for help are essential steps in the recovery journey.
Sat, 17 Feb 2024 - 1h 00min - 501 - Persistence
February 10
Summary
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Summary
In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss the importance of persistence and consistency in recovery. They reflect on their own experiences and share insights on what got them to where they are today. The conversation touches on the challenges of maintaining sobriety, the need for honesty, and the importance of self-improvement. They also discuss the daily challenge of identifying positive behaviors and making small adjustments to stay on track. Overall, the episode emphasizes the ongoing journey of recovery and the importance of staying committed to personal growth. In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the importance of staying active and maintaining sobriety. They also touch on the importance of building a support system. The conversation concludes with some final thoughts.
Takeaways
Persistence and consistency are key in maintaining sobriety.
Honesty and self-improvement are essential in the recovery process.
Identifying positive behaviors and making small adjustments can help stay on track.
Maintaining sobriety requires ongoing commitment and self-reflection. Staying active is crucial for overall well-being and can help in maintaining sobriety.
Maintaining sobriety requires commitment and a strong support system.
Building a support system of like-minded individuals can provide encouragement and accountability.
Taking care of one's physical and mental health is essential in the journey of sobriety.
Sat, 10 Feb 2024 - 40min - 493 - Recovery Elevator
Summary - Buy 366 F***king Days Sober Book.
Or buy "Alcohol is Sh!t" by Paul Churchill!
In this conversation, Carl and Paul discuss their podcast beginnings, the challenges of starting a podcast in early sobriety, the gift of desperation, self-love and self-loathing, the purpose of addiction, creating community and connection, the why behind addiction, and the catalyst for writing a book. In this conversation, Paul Churchill and Carl D discuss the motivation behind recovery, the why behind Recovery Elevator, creating physical spaces for recovery, transcending the ego and connecting with something greater, finding spirituality in recovery, influential books in recovery, and advice for newcomers in recovery.
Takeaways
Starting a podcast in early sobriety can be challenging but also rewarding
The gift of desperation can be a powerful motivator for change
Self-love and self-loathing are common experiences in recovery
Addiction can serve as a catalyst for personal growth and departure from the ego
Creating community and connection is important in recovery
Understanding the why behind addiction can provide insight and healing
Writing a book can be a transformative and fulfilling experience Recovery is a journey of self-discovery and rediscovering your authentic self. Enjoy the journey and give it time.
The motivation behind recovery should be authentic and focused on helping others.
Creating physical spaces for recovery, such as meetups and events, can provide a sense of community and support.
Transcending the ego and connecting with something greater can lead to a deeper sense of spirituality in recovery.
Influential books in recovery include 'Beyond the Influence' by Catherine Ketcham, 'A New Earth' by Eckhart Tolle, and 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle.
Advice for newcomers in recovery is to be patient with yourself, accept where you are in the journey, and enjoy the process of self-discovery.
Sat, 03 Feb 2024 - 1h 05min - 485 - Choochoo!
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Summary
In this episode, Chelsea and Carl discuss various aspects of recovery and sobriety. They start by talking about Chelsea's recent vacation and the challenges of returning home. They then read from their book, '366 Fucking Days Sober,' and discuss the difficulties of early sobriety. They share their personal tools for staying sober, including therapy, meetings, and distractions. They also emphasize the importance of taking care of the mind, body, and spirit in recovery. They discuss the role of therapy in emotional growth and the benefits of alternative therapies like meditation and mindfulness. They also talk about the power of sponsorship and helping others in recovery. They highlight the importance of finding distractions and connections to stay sober. They end the episode by reflecting on their own journeys in sobriety and offering final thoughts.
Takeaways
Returning from vacation can be challenging, and it's important to find healthy ways to cope with the transition back to everyday life. Early sobriety can be difficult, and it's crucial to have tools and strategies in place to resist cravings and stay sober. Therapy can be a valuable resource for emotional growth and developing social skills in recovery. Taking care of the mind, body, and spirit is essential in maintaining long-term sobriety. Distractions, such as hobbies and activities, can be helpful in managing cravings and staying focused on recovery. Building connections and helping others in recovery can provide a sense of purpose and support in sobriety.Links discussed in this episode:
https://www.ted.com/talks/johann_hari_everything_you_think_you_know_about_addiction_is_wrong?language=en
SoberPod Article:
https://www.soberpod.com/member-blog/2024/1/27/curb-the-urge
Guided Meditation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5OCO_GRC80
Sat, 27 Jan 2024 - 52min - 477 - AA-ron
January 20 and 21 - Buy the book! Summary In this episode, Carl and Aaron discuss Aaron's journey in recovery and his experiences with AA. They cover topics such as detox, relapse, the challenges of moving and relationships, and the importance of staying connected in recovery. Aaron shares his story of finding hope and serenity in AA and the impact it has had on his role as a father. They also discuss Aaron's career as a chef and the joy he has found in life since getting sober. The episode concludes with a reflection on the choice to embrace sobriety and appreciate the present moment. In this conversation, Aaron and Carl discuss the importance of meetings in recovery and the role they play in maintaining sobriety. They emphasize the need for connection and the impact that meetings have on newcomers. Aaron shares his experience of finding a path out of addiction through meetings and the support of others. They also discuss the joy of helping others in recovery and the importance of seeking and staying active in the program. Overall, the conversation highlights the transformative power of meetings and the positive impact they have on individuals in recovery. Takeaways Detox and the initial experience with AA can be challenging but provide hope for recovery. Moving and starting new relationships in recovery can be slippery slopes that require self-awareness and a strong foundation in sobriety. Staying connected to the recovery community and doing the work of the 12 steps are crucial for long-term sobriety. Being a parent in recovery can bring immense joy and a renewed sense of purpose. Finding fulfillment in a career and embracing the present moment are important aspects of a sober life. Meetings play a vital role in recovery and provide essential support and connection for individuals in sobriety. Attending meetings and staying active in the program is crucial for maintaining sobriety and avoiding relapse. Helping others in recovery is a rewarding experience and can contribute to personal growth and continued sobriety. Our actions and decisions have a significant impact on those around us, and it is important to strive for positive change and connection.
Sun, 21 Jan 2024 - 1h 00min - 469 - Stupid Recovery
Summary -BUY THE BOOK!
In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss their dislike for certain recovery sayings and unsolicited advice in recovery. They also talk about the concept of being exactly where you need to be in recovery and the lack of structure in the AA program. They share their thoughts on prayer and how it is sometimes used as a quick solution to problems. They also discuss the experience of sharing at meetings and the potential for cross-talking. Overall, they highlight the importance of listening and being mindful of the advice given in recovery. The conversation covers various topics related to recovery, including recovery podcasts, involvement with other recovery groups, being sober influencers, and dealing with urges to drink.
Takeaways
Be mindful of the advice given in recovery and consider the source.
Sometimes it's more helpful to listen and empathize with someone rather than offering solutions.
Recovery sayings and slogans may not resonate with everyone and can sometimes be seen as cliché or unhelpful.
The concept of being exactly where you need to be in recovery can be both comforting and frustrating.
The lack of structure in the AA program can make it challenging for newcomers to navigate and find support. Integrity is important when it comes to recovery podcasts and spreading the message of recovery.
Involvement with other recovery groups can vary, but it's important to find ones that align with personal values and beliefs.
Being a sober influencer is not the goal, but rather sharing personal experiences and offering hope to others.
When dealing with urges to drink, it's crucial to reach out to someone and not hold it inside.
Sat, 13 Jan 2024 - 52min - 460 - Get Fucking Real
Full-Length Episode: Congrats on your great news! CHELSEA!
BUY THE BOOK Summary
In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss their personal updates, including Chelsea's pregnancy. They reflect on the beauty of sobriety and how it has allowed them to achieve their goals and dreams. They also discuss the challenges of Dry January and the importance of honesty in recovery. They share personal experiences of denial and lies, emphasizing the need for self-reflection and growth. The episode concludes with a discussion on functional alcoholism and the societal perception of functionality versus true well-being. In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the importance of honesty in recovery. They explore topics such as denial, self-discovery, and living sober. They emphasize the need for inner honesty and the benefits of surrounding oneself with honest people. They also discuss the power of journaling and setting goals for personal growth. Overall, the conversation highlights the transformative power of honesty in the recovery process.
Takeaways
Denialand identity play a significant role in addiction and recovery. Inner honesty is crucial for personal growth and transformation. Surrounding yourself with honest people can support your recovery journey. Journaling and setting goals can help foster self-reflection and growth.Fri, 05 Jan 2024 - 1h 03min - 455 - 366 Book - January 1
January 1
So, this is the first day of the year. It’s just another day, don’t make such a big-ass deal about it. If your New Year’s resolution was to get sober and you started today, you might want to get shit-faced right now. It never works when we “put X’s on calendars.” It’s been repeatedly proven that if you have not reached your “bottom” (or close to it), you probably aren’t motivated to follow through. How many times have you made these bold gestures in the past? When was the last time you promised (yourself or someone else) that you wouldn’t do this anymore?
Reflections
Are you getting sober for yourself, or was it someone else’s idea? Are you staying sober today out of fear, habit, joy, or happiness?
Daily Challenge
Say “Hi” to a stranger today. The crossing guard, the mail carrier, or your neighbor. But do it with a huge smile on your face! See how it changes your day to add light to someone else’s.
Fri, 01 Dec 2023 - 02min - 454 - 366 Book - January 1
January 1
So, this is the first day of the year. It’s just another day, don’t make such a big-ass deal about it. If your New Year’s resolution was to get sober and you started today, you might want to get shit-faced right now. It never works when we “put X’s on calendars.” It’s been repeatedly proven that if you have not reached your “bottom” (or close to it), you probably aren’t motivated to follow through. How many times have you made these bold gestures in the past? When was the last time you promised (yourself or someone else) that you wouldn’t do this anymore?
Reflections
Are you getting sober for yourself, or was it someone else’s idea? Are you staying sober today out of fear, habit, joy, or happiness?
Daily Challenge
Say “Hi” to a stranger today. The crossing guard, the mail carrier, or your neighbor. But do it with a huge smile on your face! See how it changes your day to add light to someone else’s.
Fri, 01 Dec 2023 - 02min - 439 - Merry Christmas 2023
Summary
In this episode of SoberPod, Chelsea and Carl discuss their experiences with Christmas and sobriety. They read from their book, 366 Fucking Days Sober, and share their thoughts on life beyond sobriety. They explore the challenges of Christmas for those in recovery and the importance of gratitude for family during the holiday season. They also discuss their mixed feelings about Christmas and the process of participating in Christmas traditions. They share coping strategies for staying sober during Christmas and the joy of non-alcoholic drinks. The episode concludes with closing remarks and a message of love and support for listeners.
Chapters
00:00
Introduction to SoberPod
03:02
Reading and Discussing the Book
06:14
Life Beyond Sobriety
11:10
The Challenges of Christmas
21:03
Gratitude for Family on Christmas
23:08
Mixed Feelings about Christmas
24:06
Participating in Christmas Traditions
26:22
Finding Joy in Christmas
27:00
The Magic of Christmas with Kids
33:14
Coping Strategies for Christmas
36:44
Interacting with Others at Christmas
40:56
Appreciating Non-Alcoholic Drinks
45:04
Closing Remarks
Mon, 18 Dec 2023 - 51min - 430 - Imperishable good stuff
December 8 -Buy the fucking book
Summary: In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss the power of quotes and wisdom in recovery. They share their own favorite quotes and reflect on the importance of connecting with others and taking responsibility for one's own recovery. They also discuss the role of consistency and action in maintaining sobriety and the value of having a sponsor. The episode concludes with a discussion of a quote from Fred Rogers and the imperishable good stuff that comes from genuine connections with others. In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss their perceptions of Mr. Rogers, the connection Fred Rogers had with children, dealing with grief, the importance of sponsorship in recovery, and attending recovery meetings.
Takeaways
Perceptions of public figures can change over time as we gain a deeper understanding of their intentions and experiences.
Fred Rogers viewed the connection between television and children as sacred ground.
Grief can resurface during significant dates or events, and it is important to talk about it and seek support.
Sponsorship plays a crucial role in recovery, providing guidance and support in everyday life situations.
Attending recovery meetings can be beneficial for maintaining sobriety and finding a supportive community.
Chapters
00:00Introduction and Book Overview
07:03The Power of Quotes and Wisdom
08:33The Desperation of Addiction
18:23Taking Responsibility for Recovery
25:38Consistency and Action in Recovery
34:23The Role of a Sponsor
37:46The Wisdom of Fred Rogers
38:18Perceptions of Mr. Rogers
39:13Fred Rogers' Connection with Children
41:13Dealing with Grief
42:08The Importance of Sponsorship
43:06Recovery Meetings
Sat, 09 Dec 2023 - 45min - 416 - Ranklement
November 25
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The past will always be the past. You can’t change it. What happened for whatever circumstances will be what it is. We cannot change what happens to us, but we can change how we respond. Be honest about it. Face the adversity and the situations for what they were and for what they are currently. You have a choice today to use the courage you have cultivated and make better decisions about where to apply your energy and time. The past and its hauntings can seem overwhelming, but don’t let it steal your time today. From deaths to abuse, from infidelity to mental torture, we can relive and replay those memories and continue to be torn up from our past. On the other hand, we can also seek to create new memories in the here and now. It’s not easy. We must process what has happened. Some things take more time to digest and sink in than others. But we can and should try to move toward the best we can accomplish at this moment. Right here. Right now.
Reflections
What will you do today to better manage your feelings about the past?
Daily Challenge
Pick that emotional scab a little more. Clean those wounds as needed.
Sat, 25 Nov 2023 - 57min - 402 - Fuck your feelings
November 11
Fuck! I hate feelings! What is it about feelings? Why do we have them? What good do they really serve, anyway? They are always coming out at the wrong times. Emotions can make us say and do some fucked up shit! People are doing life in prison right now because they felt something and then acted on that feeling. We even have a murder defense of “heat of passion” or “sudden quarrel” that can reduce your charge to voluntary manslaughter (don’t tell them I told you). That’s how much feelings can affect your rational mind. So, it’s no wonder that when you sober up an addict or alcoholic, they will have a hard time adjusting. It really is okay to have a bad day. It's not okay to kill someone because you had a bad day. Each day you can spend without thoughts of homicide or suicide is a good day. But bad days and shitty feelings will happen! Today we are learning to not act on them.
Reflections
When was the last time you lost your shit?
Daily Challenge
If you are angry today, be angry. Just don’t kill anyone else or yourself.
Sun, 12 Nov 2023 - 51min - 396 - AAAcronyms
November 5
Some helpful acronyms are always a reliable staple in recovery. False Evidence Appearing Real (F.E.A.R.). Fucked-up Insecure Neurotic and Emotional (F.I.N.E). Etcetera. All these things are fine and fucking dandy, but I have found that they aren’t nearly as helpful as the acronym T.H.I.N.K. I have used this acronym in many situations. It applies not only in talking with others but should not be overlooked when talking to yourself (that “inside voice”). Are you ready? Of course, you are. The acronym is used right before you are about to say something. Pause and ask these basic questions: Is it Thoughtful? Honest? Inspired? Needed? Or Kind? If what you’re about to say can be one of these five things, you have a good chance of not harming yourself or others with your words. It takes practice, but try this one for a while before discarding the practice.
Reflections
Are your words always thoughtful, honest, inspired, needed, or kind? Maybe you can stop and THINK about that?
Daily Challenge
Put this into practice with how you talk to yourself starting right now.
Sun, 05 Nov 2023 - 47min - 390 - Grief in recovery
October 28
Grieving any loss is hard. I have never experienced the thought or topic of grief more than in recovery. We mourn the loss of our former selves, the loss of alcohol, the loss of childhood, the loss of friends, and right now, for me, the loss of my friend and sponsor. In the last eight years, I have enjoyed watching a natural leader guide and nurture people with love, kindness, and an overwhelming show of empathy and compassion. I have witnessed the principles of our program in action up close. Expressed through the heart of one of the most endearing men I have ever met. It’s not easy to love and lose someone close to you. An overwhelming emptiness surrounds the thought and expression of love I once had for that man. They say, “Grief is just love with no place to go.” And I understand that today more than I would care to.
Reflections
Am I grieving the loss of something?
Daily Challenge
Don’t be afraid to name it if you feel a sense of loss. It’s called grief, and it’s okay to feel it.
Sat, 28 Oct 2023 - 43min - 388 - October 19 - Hearing voices
October 19
The other day I was talking about the voices on my shoulders. You know the ones. The angel and devil? One on each shoulder? For me, there is the classic little devil character that whispers in my ear to make a joke at just the right moment, and I love that little fucker! He is playful and not mean-spirited at all. But then his brothers, uncles, dad, and grandfathers join in. They are all certifiably crazy-ass mofos. But, on the other side are all the people that stood in opposition to all of that craziness. Those people who tried to help and who hung in there with me all those years ago. The old guy down the street, a teacher I had, a boss, a coworker, friends, my sponsors, etc. All those people. They are all on the other shoulder. I hear them, too. Those are the times when I am at my best and doing all the right things; when the choices I make are for others, and the actions I take are for the greater good. I love the guidance of those voices. But most of the time, I’ll say whatever that little devil tells me to. Why? Because it’s funny as hell!
Reflections
What voices do you hear? Who do you listen to?
Daily Challenge
Try to meditate again today. Listen for that loud, big voice.
Sat, 21 Oct 2023 - 48min - 387 - October 14 - Defect Looking for Character
October 14
Remember when you wanted what you currently have? I sure do. When I was growing up, all I wanted was a home. I wanted a stable place to lay my head. Eventually, I got that. Then, I wanted to marry my childhood sweetheart. I moved back to my home state to be with her, and that, too, happened. Then, all I wanted was a job. I wanted a career where I could learn and apply my talents and be successful. I felt like I got that too. Then, the fog sets in. Every day repeated as I drank. I became ungrateful and wanted more. I wanted a bigger house and demanded more love and respect for things I did not deserve. I wanted more recognition than what I felt I received for my efforts. My ego demanded more from these things, and eventually, I ended up resenting the life I once wished for and deeply desired. As we say in recovery (and sometimes too much), expectations are only premeditated resentments. Watch for those seven deadly sins of Pride, Greed, Lust, Anger, Gluttony, Envy, and Sloth and the “instincts gone awry” and see if you can temper your desires today.
Reflections
Am I living in the seven deadly sins?
Daily Challenge
Memorize the Seventh Step prayer in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous whether you believe in God or not.
Sat, 14 Oct 2023 - 36min - 385 - October 7 - I don't know
October 7
You will not always be the man (or woman) or the one with answers. It’s perfectly okay to say, “I don’t know,” when asked a question. You don’t need to always have an answer. No, really. Here’s another scenario where you can recall the loving words of my new sponsor, “Shut the fuck up!” You may want to have the answer. You may want to be seen as the man with the answer, but that doesn’t mean you actually have an answer. Sure, it can feel terrifying to not have an answer, especially when you desperately want to impress someone. Sure, they will move on and ask someone else. Better to say nothing than lie or to flap your jaw and look like a fool. Put down the front. Surrender your ego a little and give up the bullshit.
Reflections
Are the above statements true for you? If so, what do you think you should consider today?
Daily Challenge
Have you lied recently to someone? How about considering an apology to that person?
Sat, 07 Oct 2023 - 43min - 383 - Sept 30th - ... just don't understand
September 30
Hands down, getting sober is the hardest thing some of us have ever had to do! It takes so much goddamn courage to do what we are doing and to continue to carry it through. It may look strange to people without the disease of alcoholism and addiction, the importance we place on our sobriety. The fact is that without it, nothing else is possible. Those who have never had to wrestle with this disease up close simply say, “Just don’t do it if it’s that bad for you.” Or “Why can’t you have just a couple and stop?” These are the types of statements that come from a lack of awareness and inability to put themselves in the alcoholic’s/addict’s shoes. Our significant others or parents may even say these things simply from the point of ignorance. But these things should not deter you from placing sobriety at the top of your priorities. You know the truth about yourself, and that’s all you need to know.
Reflections
What is at the top of your priorities today?
Daily Challenge
Put a symbol around the door you use to exit your home to remind you of your priorities today. What symbol did you think of?
Sat, 30 Sep 2023 - 35min - 382 - Sept 23rd - Give a fuck!
Give a fuck! Give all the fucks you can give. We all need a helping hand, and we all certainly need a smiling face in our lives that is willing to show that they care. Remember that person in your own life? When everyone ran the opposite way, the only person running toward you gave a fuck. Those good-hearted angels, godsends, and altruistic superheroes gave/give all that they could provide. Looking back, it's easy to see those people's impact, the seeds they planted, and how patient and loving they really were. They gave of themselves with no promise of success. Instead, they gave their fucks freely. Giving without expecting a thing in return. No recognition or reward.
Reflections
How many fucks can you give?
Daily Challenge
Try to give a few fucks today.
Sun, 24 Sep 2023 - 51min - 381 - September 18 - Maybe Tomorrow
There is no good time to get sober. How often do we put off trying to get sober and say, “When my job is better, I will stop then. I am just too busy right now!” Or, “After the holidays, I will stop then.” We put it off and put it off. There is never a good time to change your entire existence. But! For some of us, it must be done as soon as possible! For some, it means the difference between life and death. Honest-to-goodness death and not the kind we exaggerate about. The real kind. The type that the doctor pulls you aside and says, “If you continue to drink like this, you will die.” And yet they say, “Tomorrow. I will stop tomorrow, doc.”
Reflections
Is there a better time to get sober than right now?
Daily Challenge
Post something on your social media that shows gratitude.
Mon, 18 Sep 2023 - 52min - 379 - Sept 13 - Dumpster Fires
September - 13 When we get sober and feel successful in putting down our most egregious vices, we start taking a hard look at ourselves and think, “I can stop the ice cream. I can stop the caffeine. I can certainly stop those harmful cigarettes. And all the porn. All that porn! So much porn!” (Well, some of us, anyway.) It’s easy to think that we can approach these things, too. And why not! With our recent success at other things, these less harmful things should be easy enough. But don’t get too ahead of yourself. According to the American Medical Association, “Although approximately 30% to 50% of US smokers make a quit attempt in any given year, success rates are low, with only 7.5% managing to succeed.”* And the success rate, according to the NIH, for alcohol is around 18% for those who seek treatment.** So, with that in mind, let’s have a nice dose of reality before we attempt those “other things.” Let’s put out one dumpster fire out at a time, and let’s walk before we run. Reflections Are you taking on too much? Are you expecting too much from yourself now that you have some sobriety? Daily Challenge Read up on those “other things” that are troubling you. You might find some allies in that fight as well. *https://jamanetwork.com/ **https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/
Tue, 12 Sep 2023 - 44min - 378 - Sept 4 - Bottom's UpMon, 04 Sep 2023 - 51min
- 377 - Aug. 27 - Just Can't Get Enough!
As we approach the topic of "enough" this week, we ask that you consider what it means for you. Don't forget to ask yourself: What do you really need to be content?
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Mon, 28 Aug 2023 - 40min - 376 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 27Sun, 27 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 375 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 26Sat, 26 Aug 2023 - 03min
- 374 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 25Fri, 25 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 373 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 24Thu, 24 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 372 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 23Wed, 23 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 371 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 22Tue, 22 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 370 - Seven Days of Sober Pod - Aug. 21Mon, 21 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 369 - Seven Days of Sober PodMon, 21 Aug 2023 - 04min
- 368 - Not fit for purposeSun, 13 Aug 2023 - 51min
- 367 - Aug 6 - The Philosophy of George CostanzaSun, 06 Aug 2023 - 48min
- 366 - July 30 - Character AssetsSun, 30 Jul 2023 - 39min
- 365 - July 23 - TrudgingMon, 24 Jul 2023 - 39min
- 364 - July 16 - Triple PMon, 17 Jul 2023 - 55min
- 363 - July 9 - Secret PlacesMon, 10 Jul 2023 - 57min
- 362 - July 1 - FreedomSun, 02 Jul 2023 - 47min
- 361 - The K.I.S.S. PrincipleSun, 25 Jun 2023 - 18min
- 360 - June 19 - Glass Case of Emotion
This episode is an oldie but a goodie! We talk about the hazards of our emotional immaturity as it relates to our drinking and drugging. Visit FeelingsWheel.com - Don't forget to buy the book!
Tue, 20 Jun 2023 - 49min - 359 - June 11 - Take a breakSun, 11 Jun 2023 - 01min
- 358 - June 3 - Everything in ModerationSat, 03 Jun 2023 - 46min
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