I Weigh with Jameela Jamil

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Jameela welcomes the world-leading educator on gender violence, Dr Jackson Katz (Every Man, Tough Guise) back to her I Weigh podcast for a fresh discussion on why violence against women is a men’s issue, and what we all can do to make a difference. Dr Katz talks through the current state of the manosphere, what message the recent US election results highlights to young men, and where the responsibility lies to address the outdated belief system about women. This is an important and timely discussion that offers concrete actions & helpful talking points. To find more from Dr Jackson Katz he's on IG @jacksontkatz and his new book out in early 2025 is Every Man: Why Violence Against Women is a Men's Issue and How You Can Make a Difference Find the information about Every Man here: https://www.penguin.co.uk/authors/301398/dr-jackson-katz

This week, Jameela is joined by author & illustrator Florence Given (Women Living Deliciously) to talk finding joy in your life, being a playful activist, and opening your own doors of self-expression. Florence shares ways to let go of other people’s perceptions of you, and how to intentionally take up (too much) space by showing up courageously and being unapologetically yourself. This is a joyful conversation on the art of being childlike, not childish, and focuses on romancing yourself while finding awe in the everyday. You can find Florence on IG @florencegiven and TT @florencegiven and her new book 'Women Living Deliciously' is out now.

Comedian, podcast queen, and author Erin Gibson joins Jameela this week from a familiar time, before midterms 2022 and their conversation touches on issues still affecting us in 2024: reproductive rights and freedoms, the way the media's fear mongering affects everyone, what the heck conspirituality is, Erin's journey to finding peace from her depression, the importance of local politics, where to start in making a political difference, and more. Check out Erin's book Feminasty, wherever books are sold: www.feminasty.com You can follow Erin on Instagram @gibblertron and catch up with her Substack: ladyclown.substack.com

Jameela welcomes comedian and author Danny Wallace (Yes Man) for a look down the rabbit hole of disinformation and its slippery slope into conspiracy theories. Danny talks through his personal experience researching his latest book (Somebody Told Me), highlighting what stages of life we are most open to conspiracies and the tribalist online communities that perpetuate them. You’ll hear Danny recount his (often hilarious) investigation into the barrage of digital AI, ChatGPT, and online manipulation while he identified bots & fake accounts, but you’ll also learn some useful ways to talk with loved ones to overcome the disinformation obsession. You'll find more about Danny's book 'Somebody Told Me: One Man’s Unexpected Journey Down the Rabbit Hole of Lies, Trolls and Conspiracies' here: https://lnk.to/SomebodyToldMeBook Or find him on IG @verydannywallace

This week, Jameela welcomes Academy Award winner Natalie Portman for a conversation about activism, motherhood, and her trailblazing career. The two discuss mental health and Natalie’s version of messy perfectionism, the important decisions she and her family made around her early acting work, and how she continues to buck the trend of Hollywood stereotypes. She shares with Jameela her social media guidelines as a parent, and the sweet way her son inspired her to get involved in women’s sports entrepreneurship. You can find Natalie on her IG @natalieportman

Jameela welcomes your questions this week for another Ask Me Anything episode of I Weigh. You’ll hear thoughts on handling confrontation with family members, what to prioritize when making life-changing tough decisions, and if we can “divorce the artist from the art.” Jameela shares perspectives on ethical p*rn, what activism she sees at fashion runway events and yes, her recent encounter with Pamela Anderson!

Jameela is joined for some hard truths about menopause by author & journalist Tamsen Fadal (How to Menopause) this week. They talk about the hidden impact menopause has had on women’s lives, including lost wages, disrupted careers, relationship breaks ups, and emotional strain. Tamsen talks through raising awareness about perimenopause (the years before menopause) and the lack of support & knowledge about symptoms from healthcare providers today. This is an eye opening conversation about a chapter of life that will affect half of the world’s population (and everyone born with a uterus!) You can follow Tamsen on IG @tamsenfadal and follow themfactorfilm on IG to find more about the documentary screenings.

Jameela is joined by writer & TV host Dawn O’Porter to answer all your questions about friendships; the ups and downs with our partners, siblings, and best friends. Jameela & Dawn discuss the grief experienced with the loss of a friendship, the special significance and love we have with friends, and the nuances we can’t always debrief with our partners. Dawn also shares a peek into the real life inspiration she taps into when creating the complex female friendships for characters in her books. Find Dawn O’Porter on IG @hotpatooties and catch her new book ‘Honey Bee’ here: https://www.waterstones.com/book/honeybee/dawn-o-porter/9780008697075

This week Jameela is revisiting an insightful conversation with trailblazer, educator, filmmaker, author, and viral TED Talk speaker Dr. Jackson Katz to discuss the language we use when discussing violence against women, bro-culture and how some men are afraid of losing social status with other men by speaking up. They also talk through how vulnerability is compatible with strength and power, how it is never too late to speak out, and what parents can do to raise caring and empathetic children. See Dr. Katz’s powerful Ted talk here – https://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue

Live from London! Jameela welcomes the hilarious Joanne McNally (My Therapist Ghosted Me Podcast) for a live event - recorded from Kings Place during the 2024 London Podcast Festival. Jameela & Joanne talk through how eating disorders were hyper-normalized in their respective childhoods and families, what steps Joanne’s taken in adulthood to improve her mental health, and how to find value beyond your physical appearance. Joanne also shares about growing up feeling different knowing she was adopted, how her eating disorder recovery sparked her career in comedy, and how laughter is one of the best ways to release tension. You’ll hear Q&A from the London crowd and lots more. Find Joanne McNally on IG @joannemcnally

Jameela welcomes musician, actor and new author Jordan Stephens (Rizzle Kicks) for an open examination of modern masculinity, intimacy, and hope after heartbreak. Jordan speaks honestly about his anxiety in relationships, how social media distorts to a hyper-reality, and how putting time into reconnecting with himself and his community has helped him discover how to be a modern man. Jameela & Jordan also ponder some important questions about hypermasculinity and what could be contributing to the rise of men's violence. You'll find Jordan's book "Avoidance, Drugs, Heartbreak & Dogs" here: buythebook.online/avoidance-drugs-heartbreak-dogs And you can follow Jordan on IG @jordanfstephens

It’s time to revisit the topic of narcissism, as Jameela re-releases one of the most appreciated episodes from the I Weigh archive. Join clinical psychiatrist and author Dr. Ramani Durvasula who helps Jameela break down the ins and outs of narcissism. They cover what it is, the different forms it takes, how the world encourages narcissism in its leaders, how to recognize narcissism in a relationship, the ways narcissism is nurtured, how to survive in a relationship with a narcissist, and more. Check out Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s books on narcissism, Don’t You Know Who I Am and Should I Stay or Should I Go wherever books are sold. You can follow Dr. Ramani Instagram @doctorramani

This week, Jameela dives into what’s at stake in this year’s US Election with NYU Professor, author and podcaster Melissa Murray (Crooked Media’s Strict Scrutiny) who runs through the grim reality of Project 2025, what the media hasn’t covered from Supreme Court rulings, and how reproductive rights could be further restricted. Despite the harrowing landscape, Melissa outlines how ‘violence against women’ policies can be reestablished, how we can protect LGBTQIA+ rights, and what a Supreme Court reformation looks like. She also reminds us about our voting rights and what we learn about civics, plus plenty more. Listen to Melissa on Strict Scrutiny where you listen to your podcasts and follow her on IG @profmmurray

Jameela welcomes radio & TV host Ashley James for an honest look at her shame-free motherhood experience, the full-blown criticisms she received as a single person and now as a mother, and the contrasting views in society around people who parent. Jameela & Ashley talk through the loneliness of parenting, the pressure of reclaiming the pre-baby body, and how there’s no shame in seeking pelvic healthcare. Ashley also shares how she handles debate with a data-driven feminist approach. You can find Ashley on IG here @ashleylouisejames

Join Jameela as she welcomes psychologist Professor Bruce Hood from the University of Bristol to talk through the positive psychology behind the evidence-informed roadmap to better wellbeing, what types of day to day interventions can work for your brain and how Bruce’s long-term study into happiness has changed his own outlook on life. They talk about the effects of social media and loneliness further impacting our mental health, and the small consistent steps, along with reestablishing our own goals, we can take to improve the quality of our happiness. Find more about Bruce here: www.brucehood.com/

This week, Jameela is re-releasing an important discussion from the I Weigh archive with political commentator & YouTuber Natalie Wynn, also known as ContraPoints, about incel culture. They talk through the origins, why it is so toxic, and the societal issues that encourage incel ideology, along with the body issues which plague its community. Natalie discusses the other internet communities with similar toxicity, the issues with how we teach sexuality as a society, the role parents play in raising children that are impervious to the twisted teachings of incel culture, and more. Check out ContraPoints on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/user/contrapoints You can follow Natalie on Instagram and Twitter @contrapoints

This week Jameela is joined by forensic psychotherapist and author Jennifer Cox to look at what is making us angry, the ways in which we mask our pain and anger, and how to identify our feelings and channel them for good. Jennifer takes us through the repeating patterns in the various stages of women's lives and what techniques we can adopt while expressing our frustrations and rage without repressing it. Follow Jennifer on IG @jennifercoxpsychotherapist Find her book "Women Are Angry: Why Your Rage is Hiding and How to Let It Out" where you buy your books.

Jameela welcomes her good friend & acclaimed UK comedian Grace Campbell for a thoughtful & open discussion about her recent abortion. Grace talks about the responsibilities of casual sex, unplanned pregnancy, the unsettling medical system she experienced, and the surprisingly long aftermath with her mental and physical changes. It’s also a frank conversation about the inequalities around abortion and how intense the grief could be throughout her life-changing decision. Warning: This episode covers reproductive rights and details a personal story about abortion in a caring way, please keep in mind while listening and feel free to skip if you’re feeling sensitive around this topic. Further Reading: The Guardian article "'I felt entirely alone’: comedian Grace Campbell on the aftermath of her abortion" Follow Grace on IG @disgracecampbell  Grace’s Tour ‘Grace Campbell is On Heat’ details: www.disgracecampbell.com/

This week, Jameela is joined by Bob the Drag Queen (RuPaul’s Drag Race, HBO’s We’re Here) for a hilarious and unfiltered listener advice episode. You’ll hear all the things Bob got up to on tour with Madonna, who he considers his mentors, and why he celebrates millennial joy! There is no question too direct for these two and Jameela even gets schooled in (of all things) Dungeons and Dragons. Catch Bob on IG & TikTok @bobthedragqueen and find the "This is Wild World Tour" details here: www.itdevents.com/tours/bob

This week Jameela checks in with Josie Naughton - the CEO of humanitarian aid organization Choose Love - to hear how you can support people who have been displaced by conflict in over 30 countries. Josie shares more about the fast, flexible and transparent aid work of Choose Love since it began nine years ago and what your support will mean right now for refugees and displaced people. Further Listening: I Weigh's episode with Josie Naughton from 2020 Follow Choose Love on IG @chooselove or find more info www.chooselove.org

Join Jameela and award-winning musician, actor and author Paloma Faith (Pennyworth, Dangerous Liaisons) this week to examine the modern motherhood she experienced and wrote about in her new book “MILF: Motherhood, Identity, Love and F*ckery”. They discuss the mental & physical stress of fertility challenges, the loneliness and identity crisis of becoming a parent, and the unfair division of household tasks and mental load of organizing the family. Paloma shares about her sexual awakening and plenty more! Find Paloma on IG @palomafaith and her book MILF: Motherhood, Identity, Love and F*ckery via Penguin UK

Join Jameela for another AMA style episode answering your questions about body neutrality post pregnancy, how to handle friendship breakdowns, and dealing with stress at work. You'll also hear about what project Jameela is currently working on! This episode also lightly touches on domestic abuse and sexual abuse so please take care while listening.

Jameela is joined by writer, comedian, actor, and director Chelsea Devantez (The Problem with Jon Stewart, Girls5Eva) to talk about the unspoken mundane details of domestic abuse, how to spot difficult power dynamics in relationships (and what to do about it) and how she always finds the humor from dark situations throughout her life. Chelsea also talks about what she learned from the drag community, having Jon Stewart as a boss and the importance of female friendships and community. This episode includes discussion on topics like men's violence against women and complex post-traumatic stress disorder, so please take care while listening. Find Chelsea on IG @chelseadevantez and her memoir ‘I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This (But I'm Going To Anyway)’ is out now

Today, Jameela brings you a little preview of a new podcast hosted by her friend Ted Danson. Ted Danson & Woody Harrelson Are Reunited! Ted and Woody are back together to bring you a brand-new podcast from Team Coco! It’s called "Where Everybody Knows Your Name with Ted Danson and Woody Harrelson (Sometimes)" and it’s out right now! They’re talking to guests like Conan O’Brien, Will Arnett, Jane Fonda, Billy Eichner, Kristen Bell, and so many more. Head over to "Where Everybody Knows Your Name with Ted Danson and Woody Harrelson (Sometimes)" to subscribe and listen now! Find more here link.chtbl.com/teddansonpodcast

Join Jameela LIVE on stage from New York this week as she sits down with former US. Secret Service Special Agent and current TV host and author Evy Poumpouras for a unique fireside chat about women’s safety. As we’ve heard recently on social media, many people would rather be in the forest with a bear vs. a man, and knowing that 4.8 million women in the United States alone fall victim to physical assault and rape each year, learning self-defense techniques and what to do in tricky situations can be so empowering. Jameela, the I Weigh Community and Well+Good came together for this event to inspire women to take back their power, and walk together. You can follow Evy on Instagram @evypoumpouras

This week, Jameela catches up with actor, writer, director and comedian Stephen Merchant (The Office, The Outlaws) to explore why much of his life’s work has been about outsiders in our society, where his physical height has influenced his comedy and what logical approach he takes to keeping a balance for his mental health. You’ll hear some of Stephen’s red carpet blunders, missed opportunities for a New Year’s Eve kiss and some golden life advice on friendship and success. Find Stephen's newest season of The Outlaws on Amazon Prime now and follow Stephen on IG @stephenmerchant

With Mental Health Awareness Month wrapping up, Jameela welcomes author, inspirational speaker and optimist Simon Sinek (Start With Why, TEDTalk) to examine what gives our life purpose by discovering our WHY. They talk about how loneliness and day-to-day conflicts that impact our mental health, the ways we can equip ourselves to have difficult (and often confronting) conversations, and how direct feedback at the right time can be empowering. You can find Simon on IG @simonsinek

Jameela is joined by the world’s leading hormone expert & author Maisie Hill (Period Power) to talk about the science behind our stress hormones, how our stress response system is overwhelmed by modern technology and day-to-day deadlines, and how understanding our hormones will help us build resilience. You’ll hear some open conversations about neurodivergent communication styles and the nuances of autism, plus plenty more.

Mental Health Awareness Month continues with Jameela welcoming licensed marriage & family therapist Vienna Pharaon (The Origins of You) to answer your questions about tough relationships with aging parents, how to deal with friends or family who refuse therapy and how to reframe the way our brains deal with shame and disappointment. You’ll hear Vienna’s thoughts on EMDR and more pattern dissolving techniques to improve your mental health and more. Find Vienna on IG @mindfulmft and her book The Origins of You via viennapharaon.com

To kick off Mental Health Awareness Month, Jameela is joined by comedian Neal Brennan (Netflix’s Crazy Good, Chappelle's Show) to reflect on his personal exploration of shame, fear, anger, and how discovering spirituality changed his work. They talk (and occasionally squabble) about art as expression and ambition, having the relatability factor as a modern performer, and the commodification of sadness and trauma. Find Neal Brennan’s Netflix special Crazy Good online and follow Neal on IG @nealbrennan And if you're in NYC May 20 join Jameela for another Move For Your Mind event - grab tickets here linktr.ee/jameelajamil

This week, Jameela welcomes back comedian Grace Campbell (28 Dates Later Podcast) for another unfiltered advice episode with more hilarity (no chips!). You’ll hear the two discuss how to stop appealing to the male gaze, what would happen if your therapist was a stand-up comedian, and the exact phrase Jameela utters that sends Grace into hysterics. Follow Grace on IG @disgracecampbell Grace’s Tour ‘Grace Campbell is On Heat’ details: www.disgracecampbell.com/

Jameela is joined by playwright and podcaster Liza Powel-O'Brien for a fascinating look into some famous historical figures and their partners featured in Liza’s podcast 'Significant Others.' Liza (famously Conan O’Brien’s significant other) also helps Jameela with some of your questions around commitment, raising children and juggling domesticity. Find 'Significant Others' on your podcast players or here: https://teamcoco.com/podcasts/significant-others

Jameela welcomes comedian and actor Celeste Barber (Netflix’s Wellmania) back to the podcast to talk about her relationship with her mental health, what themes are emerging in her life this year about the old work-life balance, and together they ask “Should we face our fears?”, “Have you named your inner bully?” and the biggest one that will never die, “Can women really have it all?” Find all the details about Celeste's World Tour www.celestebarber.com and follow her on IG @celestebarber

Join Jameela and author, linguist & podcast host Amanda Montell (Sounds Like a Cult) for a conversation about the inner workings of our human brains: our anxieties, information overload and how we cannot manifest our way out of poverty, illness or the apocalypse. You’ll hear why we are obsessed with nostalgia, fandom and parasocial relationships and (thankfully!) why Amanda is hopeful for the future. Follow Amanda on IG @amanda_montell and find her book The Age of Magical Overthinking amandamontell.com/

Jameela welcomes actress Minnie Driver (About a Boy, Good Will Hunting) for a vulnerable and candid conversation about modern parenting, the superpower of growing older, and what #metoo and #timesup did and didn’t change for her and her peers working in Hollywood. You’ll also hear some sage and life changing advice she received from Carrie Fisher and plenty more. Listen to Minnie's podcast Minnie Questions where you find your podcasts and follow her @driverminnie

This week Jameela is joined by Rob Dial (The Mindset Mentor Podcast) to talk about how his own generational trauma informed his career path blending neurology, neurobiology, psychology, early childhood development, and cognitive behavioral therapy to better understand how the brain and body work together. They cover procrastination and motivation and how changing gears on our self talk can be a mindset magnet, and also Rob helps Jameela with some tips on how to reframe her work on a new project. You can follow Rob on IG @robdialjr and find Rob's podcast The Mindset Mentor on Apple Podcasts or on the new SiriusXM App

Jameela welcomes Africa Brooke (“Beyond The Self” Podcast Series) to discuss the collective sabotage of call out culture, what Africa did as she realized how intolerant her own audience had become, and what we can learn from Carl Jung about online personas and how we behave online. In this important conversation, they also talk about their own identities and how they've reshaped and rediscovered what it means to be authentic. Africa’s book The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance is available via pre order here: https://africabrooke.com/preorder-my-book

Jameela is joined by her good friend UK comedian Grace Campbell for another hilarious Ask Me Anything and the pair dig deep into your questions about dating and relationships. Unfiltered advice on questions like how to tell if you’re dating a narcissist, how to approach people in real life without being too flirty or giving any ick, and what to do when our friends lean on us more like therapists than friends, plus plenty more. Further Listening: Understanding Narcissism with Dr. Ramani Durvasula Expectations of Marriage with Esther Perel Follow Grace on IG @disgracecampbell  Grace’s Tour ‘Grace Campbell is On Heat’ details: www.disgracecampbell.com/

This episode features stories about pregnancy loss and birth trauma so please take care while listening or join us next time. Jameela welcomes producer, TEDx speaker and founder of GirlTalkHQ.com, Asha Dahya for a compassionate and eye-opening conversation about why people have abortions in the later stages of pregnancy. The two discuss the politically charged future of reproductive rights without Roe v Wade, the reality of later abortion as healthcare with a focus on saving lives, and how the landscape of abortion access in the US has been increasingly challenging. This episode will help anyone understand how to better advocate for abortion rights by arming you with important facts to counter misinformation. You can learn more about Asha Dahya's film documentary 'Someone You Know' here: https://www.someoneyouknowdoc.com and follow her on IG @ashadahya

Jameela is joined by comedian and author Sofie Hagen to celebrate their new book “Will I Ever Have Sex Again?” with a candid and hilarious conversation. The pair discuss where the pressure to have sex comes from, the universal themes that unite people when they’re not having sex, and what Sofie learned while researching and writing the book, including how to draw boundaries, being sexual while fat and how to reframe flirting. Sofie’s book and stand up tour info available at www.sofiehagen.com - sign up now for pre-sale for “Will I Ever Have Sex Again?” by Sofie Hagen You can follow Sofie on IG @sofiehagendk Further reading from this episode - "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk

We're revisiting this incredible episode with MakeLoveNotP*rn's Cindy Gallop, as Jameela shares an exciting announcement. Jameela & Cindy discuss loving the single life, how she discovered a gap in the porn market, why “social sex” is the answer to the porn industry’s problems, the importance of sex education at every age, love as a kink, the patriarchal-fueled obstacles she faces building her company, and more. Find more here: www.iweighxmlnp.com and follow Cindy @cindygallop on IG & twitter.

Your burning relationship questions are answered in this episode as Jameela is joined by the UK’s famous anonymous Agony Aunt, dating educator, author & social worker LalalaLetMeExplain.  Jameela and Lala cover a full range of topics including breaking up with your friends, what to expect if you’re new to the dating scene post-divorce, how to be a self-esteem provider to your close ones, having sex while sober and postpartum and much, MUCH more. Lala is an anonymous relationships expert, author of the book ‘Block Delete, Move On’ and host of the podcast ‘It’s Not You, It’s Them… But it Might Be You’ You can find her on IG @lalalaletmeexplain and Tiktok @lalalaletmeexplain

Jameela celebrates the 200th episode of the podcast with the outspoken and unapologetic cultural commentator, UK presenter and Youtube star, Zeze Millz!  Jameela chats with Zeze about where her activism started (and how it defined her voice as a third-generation Black-British woman), the importance of disagreement and debate in modern media and how having hard conversations helps fuel our minds. The two then discuss advocating for injustice in their work and their communities, along with a deep look at what the pressure of success does to young women. Plus, they wonder what Joan of Arc and Mother Teresa's social lives were like.  Check out Zeze Millz on Instagram and X @zezemillz and on Youtube @zezemillz6701

Jameela is joined by author & anthropologist Annie Särnblad - known as the human lie detector - who has built her career starting in anthropology and corporate strategy to being Facial Action Coding System (FACS) certified, meaning she can decode 10,000 muscle combinations in human expression. Annie and Jameela talk about top micro expressions to spot in in the workplace and with family (and even in the dating scene), how we can adjust our own behavior and improve the outcome of a conversation or negotiation, and how to look for subtle ‘leakages’ of emotion for spotting gaslighting and navigating the complex world of human interaction. You can find more about Annie via her IG @annie.sarnblad and her website anniesarnblad.com Diary of a Human Lie Detector: Facial Expressions in Love, Lust, and Lies The Facial Expressions Glossary: Business Version

This week, Jameela is joined by filmmaker Oliver English to hear about the people and stories behind his eye-opening documentary, ‘Feeding Tomorrow’. Together they explore where our food comes from, dig into the transformative power of food in every aspect of our lives and ask why it is important to consider the quality of food when it comes to our physical and mental health. They talk about the history of modern farming and pesticides, some myths about processed foods, and what changes we can take now to make sure our food sources are sustainable. Please note this episode covers food and food systems and not food restrictions or diet culture. Feeding Tomorrow is out now and you can find screenings on their website: www.feedingtomorrowfilms.com Follow Oliver English on IG @oliver_english and Feeding Tomorrow on IG @feedingtomorrow

Jameela tackles your queries in this episode for the first "Ask Jameela Anything" of 2024! Discover the potential farewell to the "girl boss" era, setting healthy boundaries with our bodies and family, and tips for self-care when dealing with hidden conditions like Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS). Plus, uncover Jameela's surprise celebrity buddy. Tune in for insights, some villain-y acting stories and more! Further I Weigh listening: Episode 2 - The Problem of Loneliness with Vivek Murthy Episode 32 - Caitlin Moran

This week, Jameela is joined by Dr Rangan Chatterjee (Feel Better, Live More podcast) and together they explore the power of reclaiming control over mental and physical health and how a 'food as medicine' approach can treat illness along with various other tools to revolutionize how you eat, sleep, move and relax. They discuss ways to add simple practical methods for daily body movement, the science-backed benefits of practicing gratitude, the importance of human connection, setting boundaries to combat negativity bias and much more. Dr Rangan Chatterjee’s The Three Question Journal, for those looking to cultivate freedom, calm and peace within their lives, is available now at https://www.intelligentchange.com/pages/three-question-journal You can follow Rangan on IG @drchatterjee - and listen to 'Feel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan Chatterjee' podcast on the new SiriusXM App

It’s 2024 and Jameela welcomes Tally Rye - personal trainer, podcaster & author of ‘Train Happy’ - for a New Year conversation about democratizing exercise and making body movement’s focus fun and playful. They talk about how we are overcommitting to change at this time of year, how exclusive & high pressure the gym & exercise classes have become, and how filming yourself (and others!) at the gym sets even higher aesthetic standards. Tally shares her approach on gentle encouragement when it comes to body movement, and the pair commit to helping change the narrative of fitness culture starting at I Weigh's 'Move For Your Mind' Event in London on January 19th, 2024. Find tickets for 'Move For Your Mind' here. You can follow Tally on her IG @tallyrye and her website tallyrye.co.uk

Maintenance Phase hosts Aubrey Gordon and Michael Hobbes join Jameela as we revisit this classic I Weigh episode. They discuss why the BMI is bunk, how we clinically don’t have a non-surgical weight loss method and how that should inform our medical health conversations. Aubrey & Michael point out how as a society we blame fat people instead of helping people live healthier lives, why we shouldn’t lecture people on their diets or physically remove food from their supermarket shopping cart (!), and more. You can listen to Aubrey & Michael on their podcast – Maintenance Phase – where you listen to your podcasts or try the SiriusXM App You can follow Aubrey Gordon on Instagram and Twitter @yrfatfriend You can follow Michael Hobbes on Twitter @rottenindenmark

This week Jameela shares a very special gift with you for the holiday season: it's the world's best late-night host, podcaster and comedian Conan O’Brien, in one of our fan-favorite podcast episodes from the I Weigh archives. Conan joins Jameela to discuss the early days of making Late Night with Conan O’Brien, being 100% Irish, dealing with anxiety and the benefits of cognitive therapy, discovering his depression, getting happier as he gets older, what he wants to do next, and more. Plus, they share the best and worst sex advice they’ve ever received/given! Find Conan's podcast 'Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend' and Conan O'Brien Radio on the new SiriusXM App

Jameela is joined by actor & comedian Rick Glassman (Undateable, As We See It and the Take Your Shoes Off podcast) for a vulnerable & fun conversation about life, comedy and his superpower: honesty. The two discuss his later in life neurodivergent diagnosis, his personal experience with autism and those uncomfortable & awkward moments of life that we should all embrace. You'll hear stories about masking, BDSM consent, societal expectations and social norms upended and plenty more (no pants!) talk. You can find Rick on IG @rickglassman and Youtube: youtube.com/rickglassman The book Rick mentioned: Asperger's From the Inside Out: A Supportive and Practical Guide for Anyone with Asperger's Syndrome by Michael John Carley

Comedian and UK Pop Culture Icon Grace Campbell joins Jameela in this episode for a hilarious and chuckle-filled Q&A. The pair answer a variety of your DM-ed questions around the themes of success and failures in job interviews and your career, comparing yourself to others and what would be our main characteristics if we were drag queens. You’ll hear stories about how to be a lazy girl, practical ways (and Jane Fonda inspiration) to handle the fear of aging along with some cutesy couple baby voice impersonations, and lots more. Grace Campbell's UK tour dates are out now & you can find them and follow her on her IG @disgracecampbell

This week, Jameela is joined by writer, broadcaster and feminist organizer Clementine Ford to discuss the historical roots of marriage as a tool of patriarchal control, the illusions surrounding modern matrimony and the modern marketing machinery that sustains its myth. They discuss the cost & invisible labor in marriage, women’s agency and empowerment in a modern world, the many ways to celebrate ourselves outside of the traditional "Big Day" wedding day and much more. Clementine Ford's book "I Don't: The Case Against Marriage" is out now. And her IG @Clementine_Ford

Jameela is joined by beauty culture critic Jessica DeFino in a candid conversation about where her current research and journalism is taking her, after years of covering a multi-billion dollar beauty industry for major women’s magazines & beauty apps in the US. The two discuss the science of skincare products VS the science of skin, why the wellness industry makes you feel bad about yourself and the inherently disappointing pursuit of ‘anti-aging’. You’ll hear about current beauty trends that are unsettling your skin with longer term (and unknown) effects, some of the natural ways your skin repairs itself plus some practical takeaways (without a 12 step routine). You can find more at Jessica's substack: jessicadefino.substack.com/ And her IG @jessicadefino_

This week, Jameela is joined by director, producer and sexuality educator A'magine Goddard to discuss her award-winning new documentary 'At Your Cervix' that breaks the silence about the continuous violation of bodily autonomy for educational purposes. Jameela and A'magine discuss the history of gynecology and obstetrics, why non-consensual pelvic exams on patients under anesthesia must end along with the many gynecological teaching alternatives, and plenty more. A warning before listening, this episode discusses medical trauma and sexual assault. You can find more info on A’magine Goddard and her work on passing clearer medical consent laws at: Website: amaginenation.com Instagram: @sexualempowerment & @atyourcervixmovie Facebook: AtYourCervix Tiktok: @atyourcervixmovie For listeners of I Weigh there is a special screening of 'At Your Cervix' right now - atyourcervixmovie.com

Join Jameela solo this week as she answers your questions about making space for yourself, the 24/7 news cycle, trusting & working with our bodies, and our mental health. You'll hear stories about how Jameela reorganizes her brain when it comes to imposter syndrome and embracing funny failure moments, the long game of living with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS) and as we farewell spooky season, Jameela answers the question: Do you believe in ghosts? Further I Weigh listening: Invisible Illnesses with Meghan O'Rourke

This week, Jameela is joined by one of her good friends, Simon Rex, known for the Scary Movie series, as the 'Red Rocket' award-winning actor, former MTV VJ, and his music alter ego, Dirt Nasty. They discuss the steep rise and fall of working in the entertainment industry, especially Simon's visibility in the early canon of Internet scandals (plus a recent ethical decision regarding Meghan Markle), along with adult mental health in the context of childhood abandonment, the lack of solid representation in male role models, Simon's recent ADHD diagnosis, and much more. You can find Simon on IG @simonrex415

With everything happening right now in the world, it's a good time to revisit Jameela's conversation with Seyi Akiwowo, Founder and Executive Director of Glitch, an organization committed to ending online abuse by educating people on how they can engage positively, respectfully and justly in all digital spaces. They discuss what it means to be a "digital citizen," being trauma-informed not trauma-led, self-care for black women, the ways both Seyi and Jameela have learned from their own internet mistakes, and Glitch's work in training women how to be safe online, as well as challenging giant social media corporations to take more ownership of what happens on their sites. You can find Seyi and more about Glitch here glitchcharity.co.uk and IG @glitchuk_

Jameela is joined this week by Irish-Nigerian bestselling author Emma Dabiri to find out where & why beauty standards started, how European philosophers created & influenced binary theory and what we can do to disconnect from these beauty standards. They discuss finding the pleasure in ritual and community, loving make-up (or not a la Pamela Anderson!), the importance and privilege of growing older and finding more ways to have value as modern women outside of appearance. Emma’s book "Disobedient Bodies: Reclaim Your Unruly Beauty" is out now, and you can follow her on Twitter @emmadabiri and IG @emmadabiri

This week, podcaster and author Kelechi Okafor joins Jameela to explore the ultramodern themes of her debut collection of short stories called 'Edge of Here.' The pair discuss contemporary Black womanhood through the eyes of the media, the reversal of reproduction rights, bias in AI technologies and how we are already living within aspects of that future portrayed in TV shows like Black Mirror & the Handmaid’s Tale. They discuss what Kelechi's activism looks like, ceremonies of ancient cultures and new ceremonies in love & truth, and how Kelechi’s belief of the transformative nature of love keeps her going. TW: there is some mention of sexual assault and generational abuse of women in this episode. Kelechi’s book ‘Edge of Here’ is out now, find more on her website and find her @kelechnekoff on TikTok and listen to her Say Your Mind Podcast

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This week, Jameela is joined by crime journalist and activist Isla Traquair and they cover her long spanning career reporting on true crime to recently becoming a victim of emotional violence and stalking herself. They discuss the mental health impact of stalking & navigating the justice system, the grim statistics of convictions along with the lengths women need to go to to stay safe and establish their boundaries. They talk about supporting survivors, victims and their families, and Isla shares how she's making UK history by covering multiple decade-old murder cases for her podcast. We also get into the fascination with true crime and why it’s the most popular genre of podcasting. You can find Isla on IG @islatraquair and find her true crime podcast The Storyteller: Naked Villainy

Jameela is joined by campaigner and writer Gina Martin, and in this optimistic conversation about creating change for equal rights around the world, they discuss how anyone can show up and support activism (especially offline in real spaces) and what this activism work can look like. They talk about how Gina’s new book ‘No Offence, But’ gives us context and can help stop stereotypical phrases in our modern language, how we can all support modern masculinity, what transformational accountability is, and ways to connect with each other despite the capitalist society working against us. Gina Martin’s book ‘No Offence, But’ is out now and you can find Gina on IG @ginamartin and TikTok @ginamartinuk

Jameela is joined by author, journalist, and broadcaster Caitlin Moran for this special live episode - recorded from Kings Place for the 2023 London Podcast Festival. Jameela & Caitlin take the stage to talk about modern masculinity and some of the heartbreaking research Caitlin has discovered in writing her latest book ‘What About Men?’. They about the loneliness of men and how we all need to prepare for our mental health now and later in life and how it benefits us all to be a better version of ourselves. They discuss Caitlin’s focus on ‘being a woman’ & girlhood, and while women have feminism for empowerment and growth, men are yet to organize themselves in the same way, and lots more. Caitlin Moran’s newest book ‘What About Men?’ is out now and you can follow her on IG @mscaitlinmoran and Twitter @caitlinmoran

This week, Jameela is joined by comedian, writer, actress and NEW author, London Hughes! We hear the real-life stories, mess & chaos of dreaming big as London recounts her steps (and knockbacks) in the UK comedy & entertainment world, and how she remains resilient despite circumstances beyond her control. Jameela & London discuss everything from Beyoncé to The Pussycat Dolls, how empty we can feel experiencing success, cancel culture antics over the years, and we’ll never look at puppeteers in the same way again. London's new book 'Living My Best Life, Hun' is out now. Follow her on IG @thelondonhughes and Twitter @thelondonhughes

Certified Lymphedema Therapist Lisa Levitt Gainsley joins Jameela this week to talk all things LYMPH! We learn how our gut houses 70% of our body's lymphoid immune cells and what that means, how stress brings on inflammation and also how we can take control of helping our bodies release the waste from our lymph nodes. Lisa & Jameela talk about how we can take care of our bodies early and often, how our organs have different emotions, and what modern toxins are ending up in our bodies and what we can do to prevent absorbing them. Oh, and we learn how to give a good tit massage ;)

Canadian activist, podcaster and writer Clementine Morrigan joins Jameela this week and they dive right into the human impact of cancel culture, why it erodes trust and why it's bad for us to dehumanize ourselves. Clementine & Jameela cover ethical vulnerabilities, celebrities, and ask: are you outsourcing your integrity? This is a raw conversation that invites you to set boundaries and command your own world view but also this is an open discussion that covers topics such as domestic violence, abuse and touches on suicide. Follow Clementine on IG @clementinemorrigan and catch her as a cohost of the F*cking Cancelled podcast

Former Olympian, Ultrarunner, filmmaker and author Alexi Pappas joins Jameela this week to talk about post-Olympic depression and all kinds of athlete mentality including the importance of puberty and commitment to goals, how we can change our vocabulary to help body pain and mental health, and how a humbling experience in a marathon in New York City brought Alexi comfort and peer support. Check out Alexi’s young reader’s edition of 'Bravey' out Aug 22 and follow her on IG @alexipappas

Cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Caroline Leaf joins Jameela this week to discuss how we can use our minds to detox and grow our brains. We discover we have the ability to manage our minds and by isolating ourselves from triggers, we’re masking our own resilience. They discuss the scale of trauma terminology and microaggressions, the mind-body connection and much more. Find more information about Dr. Caroline Leaf on her website www.drleaf.com and follow her on Instagram @drcarolineleaf. Dr. Leaf’s latest book is ‘How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess’.

Re-releasing this insightful conversation between Jameela & psychotherapist, author, and podcaster-extraordinaire Esther Perel, as her podcast 'Where Should We Begin?' returns for a new season. The two discuss how our expectations of marriage have changed over the past 100 years, why you aren’t feeling sexy after the pandemic, why polyamory still feels taboo (even though it shouldn’t!), why infidelity isn’t necessarily a death knell of a relationship, and more. Follow Esther on Instagram @estherperelofficial and Twitter @estherperel and find her podcast 'Where Should We Begin' on all podcast platforms.

Comedian & co-host of the podcast 'Best Friends', Sasheer Zamata joins Jameela this week and they cover everything from period pain, masturbating, shaving heads and secrets we no longer need to keep private. Sasheer talks about her mental health journey and how it manifested itself physically during the pandemic and they both enjoy - and you will too - hearing Sasheer's favorite stand up crowd work moments. Follow Sasheer on Instagram @thesheertruth and find her podcast 'Best Friends' with Nicole Byer here.

The Trenches founder & UK based psychotherapist Seerut K. Chawla joins Jameela this week to discuss mental health within the social media space, what it does to our brains, and why we gravitate towards pop psych trends and Instatherapy. They dig into how our modern mental health labels and terminology are collapsing, with Seerut introducing us to Concept Creep. This is an open and frank conversation about mental wellness with references to sexual violence. Follow Seerut on Instagram @seerutkchawla

Cognitive scientist and host of the podcast 'A Slight Change of Plans' Maya Shankar joins Jameela this week to discuss what we attach to our identity, how there is a competitive advantage to being great listeners, what could be the antidote to loneliness and we find out the three types of empathy and discover maybe Jameela does have empathy after all. Check out Maya's podcast - A Slight Change of Plans - wherever you listen - and look out for her TED Talk (available from July 25th, 2023): Who are you, and how do you transform in the face of change? Cognitive scientist Maya Shankar shares three questions you can ask to find out who you are when the world feels like it’s shifting under your feet. First: “How does this change change what you’re capable of?” Next, “How might this change change what you value?” And third: “How might this change change how you define yourself?” Shankar shares stories — and the science behind change — of people who stepped out of their comfort zones and rigid mindsets and found themselves changed for the better. Maybe through their experiences, and Shankar’s own story as well, a new, lesser traveled yet more rewarding and expansive path rich with possibility awaits. Follow Maya on Instagram @drmayashankar

This week, Jameela is back on the mic solo to answer your questions! She shares stories on The Good Place audition process, how animals play such a big part in our lives, how to be bold along with how to deal with being a person of great heights, and more.

Actor, podcaster, and most thoughtful man Penn Badgley joins Jameela and the two ponder life, love and fame. They discuss his experience becoming an adult in the limelight, what it feels like to be heavily sexualized, why they both don't enjoy sex scenes, how his fame affects his children, his personal journey with finding peace and happiness, and together they ask the toughest question - what is love? Check out Penn’s podcast - Podcrushed - wherever you listen. Follow Penn on Instagram @pennbadgley, TikTok @iampennbadgley and Instagram @podcrushed

Author and podcaster Elise Loehnen joins Jameela this week to discuss her new book - On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good. Together they cover the history of the seven deadly sins and their patriarchal origins, the importance and beauty of healthy relationships between men and women, why women are set up to tear women down, the dangers of wellness culture, and more. Check out Elise Loehnen's book - On Our Best Behavior - wherever books are sold. Follow Elise on Instagram @eliseloehnen & Twitter @eloehnen

Climate activist Greta Thunberg joins Jameela to discuss what people may not know about the climate crisis, how a small number of people are responsible for a vast amount of the damage, why the responsibility percentages assigned to each country are misleading, how to manage mental health while being a public figure, Greta's autism diagnosis and how it empowers her to do her work, and more.  Follow Greta and her work on Instagram & Twitter @gretathunberg

Activist and beauty influencer Mattxiv (aka Matt Bernstein) joins Jameela this week to discuss how to be hopeful while so much anti-lgbtq+ legislation is being encouraged, how he became a social advocate, why you don't have to be an influencer to have influence, his journey to understanding that his mental health wasn't a checklist to be completed, beauty standards in the gay community, and more.  Follow Matt on Instagram & Twitter @mattxiv

Comedian and friend Beth Stelling joins Jameela this week to answer listener questions about how to feel happy about one's weight heading into their wedding, how to move past exercise anxiety, how to be content while single, how to help friends celebrate their own bodies, and more. You can follow Beth Stelling on Instagram & Twitter @bethstelling

Author and speaker Jamie Windust joins Jameela this week to share about their personal journey of trauma and healing. They discuss Jamie's experience of sexual assault, the resources that were available to them as a non-binary person, learning to accept the healing process, the importance of medication and therapy as well as reconnecting with oneself, how trauma looks different than we sometimes expect, and more. Follow Jamie Windust on Instagram & Twitter @jamie_windust

Writer on Parks & Recreation and The Good Place, and showrunner on Bumper in Berlin -Megan Amram - joins Jameela to break down what is happening with the writers' strike. They discuss why more compensation is necessary, how the industry has changed due to streaming, how this strike will set precedents for other unions, what's going on with the industry and AI, and more.  Follow Megan on Instagram & Twitter @meganamram

Mental health advocate, CEO of Prepare Your Mind, and son of the late great Robin Williams - Zak Williams - joins Jameela this week for an in-depth discussion on how to build out mental hygiene. They discuss his personal mental health journey, why digital overload is real issue for all of us, the power of good nutrition and sleep, how meditation has been game-changing for Zak, why multiple self-care approaches can be necessary, and more. Check out Zak's company - Prepare Your Mind - on Instagram @youcanpym Follow Zak on Instagram @zakpym

TikTok legend, comedian, podcaster and mental health advocate Elyse Myers joins Jameela this week to discuss Elyse's experience with mental health, how her post-partum depression differed from her usual experience of depression, the toll staring at your face all day creating content can have on your mental health, how one teacher helped Elyse feel normal with her ADHD, and more. Check out Elyse's podcast - Funny Cuz It's True with Elyse Myers - wherever you listen. Follow Elyse on Instagram @elyse_myers and TikTok @elysemyers

Comedian and author Zach Zimmerman joins Jameela this week to discuss his experience growing up in a conservative evangelical family, finding his own voice and sexuality, learning to still love his family despite drastic value differences, choosing antidepressants, the lie of "the perfect pound" making you more attractive, and more.  Check out Zach Zimmerman's book - Is It Hot In Here (or Am I Suffering for All Eternity for the Sins I Committed on Earth)? - wherever books are sold. Follow Zach on Instagram & Twitter @zzdoublezz

Director, actor, and writer Zoe Lister-Jones returns to I Weigh to discuss her new tv series Slip. She and Jameela talk about the personal experiences behind Zoe's new show, why she wanted to focus on the power of female pleasure, directing your own sex scenes, the ways nudity can be empowering, how to show quiet confidence in positions of leadership, and more. Check out Zoe Lister-Jones' new show Slip on Roku Follow Zoe on Instagram & Twitter @zoelisterjones

Actor and activist Sophia Bush joins Jameela this week to discuss her love of activism from an early age, their shared frustrations at women being pitted against each other, how to engage with people who are getting very different information than you, finding hope for change, and more.  Check out Sophia's podcast - Work in Progress - wherever you listen. Follow Sophia Bush on Instagram & Twitter @Sophiabush

Author Meghan O'Rourke joins Jameela this week to discuss invisible illnesses, or illnesses that do not manifest externally. They cover their own personal journeys with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, how lonely having an auto-immune disorder can make you feel, why these and women's health in general is so under-studied, the relationship between auto-immune disorders and mental health, and why we can be hopeful about the future. Check out Meghan O'Rourke's book - The Invisible Kingdom: Reimagining Chronic Illness - wherever books are sold. Follow Meghan on Instagram & Twitter @meghanor

DJ and influencer Flex Mami joins Jameela this week to discuss Flex's experience finding her voice as a podcaster and now a DJ, her experience with parasocial relationships, the healthy and unhealthy dynamics between anyone with a platform and their audience, fighting to understand minds rather than change them, being the salve instead of being the gasoline, and more.  Follow Flex Mami on Instagram @flex.mami & Twitter @flexmami

Author Ruby Warrington joins Jameela this week to discuss her new book Women Without Kids: The Revolutionary Rise of an Unsung Sisterhood. They cover the story around her own choice not to have children, how that choice is often informed not just by independence but by hardship, the ways women's sexuality has been tied to motherhood, the issue of "regrets", the ways we can extend maternal care to the people in our lives, and more. Check out Ruby's newest book - Women Without Kids - wherever books are sold. Follow Ruby on Instagram @rubywarrington

This week, Jameela takes the mic on her own to answer your questions! She answers your questions on why the Oscars were so triggering, how she balances her mental health with her Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, how to explore your mental health while also fostering resilience, working through a quarter life crisis, and more.

Author & former development exec at Comedy Central, Tara Schuster, joins Jameela this week to discuss surviving a neglectful childhood, the need to re-learn worthiness, the importance of owning and affirming your own experiences, learning to separate internal validation from external validation, gratitude practices, and learning the importance of stardust. Check out Tara's book - Glow In The F*cking Dark - wherever books are sold! Follow Tara on Instagram @taraschuster & Twitter @taraschustar

Author, podcaster, and former professional athlete Lewis Howes joins Jameela to discuss his mental health journey, why healing is such important work we all do, why men struggle with processing their feelings, his personal mental breakdown and how The School of Greatness was born from it, the priorities he has in a relationship, and more. Check out Lewis's newest book - The Greatness Mindset: Unlock the Power of Your Mind and Live Your Best Life Today - out March 7th wherever books are sold. Follow Lewis on Instagram and Twitter @LewisHowes

Activist, model, and writer Yasmin Benoit joins Jameela this week to share her experience and work as an asexual and aromantic person. They discuss misconceptions about the community, the way people respond to her when they find out about her sexuality, the importance of all types of relationships, some of the more ridiculous questions she gets asked, her experience with bullying in school, and more. Follow Yasmin Benoit on Instagram & Twitter @theyasminbenoit

Comedian, writer, and singer Rachel Bloom joins Jameela this week to discuss struggling with intrusive thoughts from an early age, learning about ADHD as an adult, going from a fear of "crazy" to embracing the term with her tv series "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend," processing grief during the pandemic, seeing mental health as bespoke rather than textbook, and more. Follow Rachel Bloom on Instagram @racheldoesstuff

Our favorite love, relationship, and sex therapist Shadeen Francis returns to answer your questions with Jameela. They respond to questions about being newly queer, reconciling how one wants to be treated in life vs. the bedroom, joking about sex to avoid rejection, feeling unsexy after having a baby, love in relationships without sex, dating with herpes, managing vaginismus, and more. Follow Shadeen Francis on Instagram & Twitter @shadeenfrancis

Actress, LGBTQ+ advocate, and legend Laverne Cox joins Jameela this week to discuss her journey to who she is now, how spending time with trans women changed her mind on who she herself could be, the birth of #transisbeautiful, the problem with trans politics today, reaching across the aisle, the real problems facing Americans today, and more.  Follow Laverne Cox on Instagram & Twitter @lavernecox

Biochemist and author Jessie Inchauspe (Aka - the Glucose Goddess) joins Jameela to talk about the many ways glucose affects your body. They define what glucose is and its function in the body, how glucose spikes can affect everything from mood to diabetes to PCOS, "glucose hacks" you can utilize to keep your spikes at a minimum, how we can empower people with their own bodies, and more. Check out Jessie's book Glucose Revolution - wherever books are sold. You can follow Jessie Inchauspe on Instagram & Twitter @glucosegoddess

Author and podcast host Aubrey Gordon joins Jameela this week to discuss her new book "You Just Need To Lose Weight" and 19 Other Myths About Fat People. They discuss the correlation of health and fatness, how fatphobia is born from the idea that you can blame an individual for their weight, the danger of the recent trend of weight-loss injections, the myth of "promoting obesity," and more. Check out Aubrey's new book - "You Just Need to Lose Weight" and 19 Other Myths About Fat People - wherever books are sold! Follow Aubrey Gordon on Twitter & Instagram @yrfatfriend