Too Old For This Sh*t

After getting out of debt, Tawnya dedicated herself to help others do the same. She shares how to create a budget to help break free from living paycheck to paycheck. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. We cover: // The impact being broke has on your health. // Why getting into debt is so common and normalised. // The first steps you need to take to get out of debt. // Budget fluctuates. // Is it an income issue or a spending issue? // What can you afford, how much should you spend on rent? Plus other % to know based on your income. // Out of the box ideas to get out of debt. // Why people relapse into debt. // Should everyone have a budget? // How to still enjoy yourself when budgeting and saving money. // What is an emergency fund and what should it be used for? // Her thoughts on the F.I.R.E. movement. // How your past with money doesn’t have to equal your future. // Why buying a house is not always the best financial option. // Should you buy a new car or a second hand car? Am taking a little break (more details shared in the intro of the episode) but I’ll be back soon! Find Tawnya www.themoneylifecoach.com & https://instagram.com/tawnyaschultz Subscribe to Too Old For This Sh*t on Apple Podcast or follow on Spotify Submit your questions / thoughts here: www.angie-s.com/contact, I want to hear from you! Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations Follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast

The ethics of AI: AI is neutral but how it’s coded and used will determine if it’s good or bad for us. Here’s the catch: its development is based around profit and private companies are racing each other for it. This race is not democratically run and we have no regulations in place to manage AI’s warpspeed advances and without fail-safes it’s a gloomy prospect. We also cover the link between Green energy, lithium, AI and Tesla. If one day things go south with lithium’s import, will sending that one email be as expensive as heating our home? Not all gloom and doom, we also touch on the advantages of having AI in our lives. Tune in to find out what can be done to avoid the worst and manage our world with AI already deeply embedded in it. Hear all of this from today’s guest Scott Sereboff with 25+ years in surveillance and security technologies. This includes everything from cameras to AI and biometrics. Recorded on the 27th Apr 2023. Find Scott at http://www.us-deepingsource.io His podcast: The Privacy of Me https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-privacy-of-me/id1670242621 Subscribe to Too Old For This Sh*t on Apple Podcast or follow on Spotify Submit your questions / thoughts here: www.angie-s.com/contact, I want to hear from you! Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations Follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast

Today with Mac, a NY Couples Therapist, we talk about this new era of where men are opening up more and how to navigate this new paradigm. Mac specialises in infidelity recovery, black men going to therapy and recovering from narcissism and porn addiction. We go over + Discerning between good and bad advice on the internet. Are they voicing an opinion or educating on relationships? + Why men (tend to) cry by the 5th session in couples therapy with Mac. + What makes a man feel unappreciated, unseen and feels as a 2nd thought in relationships. + The misunderstanding behind ‘Happy wife, happy life’. + The identity crisis and struggles for men today. How do you balance gender roles in this modern society? + Men and women are after the same in the relationship but get them fulfilled differently: Mac shares a solution that fits both. + How much can we open up to a partner? + How does a man feel listened to? + How does a couple end up in therapy? + Representation in the therapy world and how important it is. + Finishing up with a fun fire round of: The 5 worst relationship advice according to Mac. Find Mac on Insta @ talk2mac_therapist/ + his podcast: Ménage À Mind Subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcast Follow this podcast on Spotify Submit your questions / thoughts here: www.angie-s.com/contact, I want to hear from you! Follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

Ever wondered how someone is exonerated after 28 years in prison? Innocence Projects are doing an insane amount of work to make that happen. Today with Louise, Director of The Innocence Project London, we talk about what they do for the wrongfully convicted. Dr Louise Hewitt has many accolades but the one that stands out to me is the pro bono work she’s been doing for over 13 years at the Innocence Project London (IPL). We go over: + Claiming back your innocence and why it’s such a lengthy process? + Are the requirements to get your case reviewed fair or not? + Various types of wrongful convictions: Joint enterprise liability & mistaken eyewitness identification. + How good storytelling from a prosecutor can sway a jury against you. + How does she know if her clients are genuinely innocent and not just playing her? + Is anyone more vulnerable to be wrongfully convicted? + The look of innocence: our misconceptions and ideas. Are there parameters in place to combat bias in the justice system? + Different categories of prison. + Even when exonerated, can you ever remove the stain - Is that injustice ever made right again? + What to do if you’re arrested for a crime you didn’t do. + The lack of legal aid funding and how she keeps going. + The empathy for the individuals in prison as being part of our society. + The ripple effect of the innocence project. + Could a world without IPL ever exist? + The future of IPL. + Being pardoned and wanting your name back. Mentioned in the episode: Maria Konnikova (journalist) & John Huffington (exonerated) This is an episode that is very important to me, what the Innocence Project London does is not easy but very important work that requires tenacity and support. I hope this episode will go some way in giving them support. Find Louise & Innocence Project: www.iplondon.org Twitter & FB: @innocencelondon Insta: @innocenceprojectlondon/ Subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcast Follow this podcast on Spotify Submit your questions / thoughts here: www.angie-s.com/contact, I want to hear from you! Follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations Content note: This episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised.

Are memories reliable? Memories can be implanted or misremembered and be used against you or someone else. Not always knowingly but it happens. Today with Kevin, Director of Communications for the British False Memory Society. We go over what they are, when they occur and we can protect ourselves from others [therapists, police and other officials] to implant memories in us. We go over: // Recovered memories and regression therapy. // What got him in this line of work. // Repressed memories vs the evolutionary advantage of (partly) forgetting pain (like childbirth & heartbreak). // Why do some have no recollection of their childhood or teenage years? // You never remember where you left your keys but remember what I told you May 10th 1997 at 10am….what is that about??? // Which parts of our memories can we trust? // Is photographic memory real? // Eyewitness testimonies leading to so many being wrongly identified and convicted. // Misremembering vs forgetting // Implanting memories. // Doctoring photographs used to implant false memories. // Implanting memories in police cross-interrogation. // The impact of deepfake videos and how to protect ourselves. // Is the legal system equipped for preventing false memories? // Someone’s truth is not always the truth. // Stimulating memory. // The future of memory science. // Finishing on a positive note on how healing affects our memories for the better. Content note: This episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised. Find Kevin at https://bfms.org.uk/ Carol's story: https://bfms.org.uk/tedx-talk-on-carol-felstead-scandal/ Book:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Books-Dr-Kevin-Felstead/s?rh=n%3A266239%2Cp_27%3ADr+Kevin+Felstead Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit Submit your questions / thoughts here: www.angie-s.com/contact. I want to hear from you! Follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast

Shawn, a trained therapist and now a marriage and relationship expert, specialises in couples who are in business together and whose relationships have either fallen asleep or fallen apart. We go over: // What got her into this line of work. // Power struggles: Why we have them and how to transcend them. // Practice makes permanent. // The 7 key Emotional Weapons and their Sub-Weapons. // How we pair up with a partner who has our opposite set of emotional weapons. // Emotional weapons unconsciously used to seek compliance. // How to undo years of relationship damage. // Pattern interruption. // Why do some couples stay together despite the hard times when others break up? // What makes a couple unstable. // Developing emotional safety. // Couples that are in business together. The basic things they need to have in place to not kill the romance. // How couples can be both emotionally and financially profitable when in business together. // Different ways to overcome negative experiences by letting go of the day before coming home. // How thoughts are people’s gateway drugs. Find Shawn @ www.reimaginelove.com Book: Living For Love FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ReimagineLove Have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes? I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Find me at www.angie-s.com Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

While TO4TS is on a break, check out this revisit of a past favourite episode (#086 When Self-Help Goes Horribly Wrong and How To Prevent It). I will return early 2023 with Season 4!!! What led to the death of 3 individuals seeking to better their life and looking for enlightenment at a James Arthur Ray 5-day event? Ray was made famous by the movie The Secret and being featured several times on the Oprah Winfrey show. Together with Kirby Brown’s mother Ginny, a licensed clinical social worker and her sister Jean, we discuss the perfect storm that led to that tragedy, their mission to stop it from ever happening to anyone else and how self-help can be done safely. We cover: + How strong minded people can fall victim to the self-help industry. + Tools and dirty tactics used by the self-help industry. + What may have contributed to James Ray’s situation. + How to not collapse after grief. + The legal system is not yet equipped to advocate for the families of [Self-help gone wrong] victims. + How to find self-help organisations that have pledged to do no harm and signed [The Promise]. + What has changed for them in how they perceive life after Kirby’s passing. *Content note: this episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised* You can find Seek Safely at: https://www.seeksafely.org/ The list of red flags: https://www.seeksafely.org/consumers/ The book https://www.seeksafely.org/this-sweet-life-book/ Social @seeksafely If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations Mentioned in this episode: Guru: The Dark Side of Enlightenment podcast If you have been affected and need to talk to someone below are some helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255 Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741

While TO4TS is on a break, check out this revisit of a past favourite episode (#058 Love Isn’t Enough). I will return early 2023 with Season 4!!! Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie are a couple and relationship coaches that have gone through the wringer together from long distance, to open, to semi open to polyamorous to closed again, today we discuss its good, bad and ugly and what it takes to make a relationship work. We cover: - Moving from transactional relationships to being of service to your partner but from a place of synergy, so not to drain yourself. - Being able to receive without nagging. - Their path as a couple from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship. - Seeing your man from useless to someone you respect. - How to stop parenting our romantic partner. - How we see our partner, is not who they are aka being present with your partner and not living in the archives of all their perceived wrongdoings. - They don’t believe compromises/sacrifices make for a healthy and happy relationship. - Being responsible for our own emotions, whatever we feel is internally created. - The blaming and projecting game. - It’s not just about being honest with someone, it’s about being honest with yourself. Find Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie Podcast: awakenedwife.com Communication Quiz: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com/understand Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com References in this episode: https://thework.com/ by Byron Katie where you can download her worksheets

Today’s episode is about money, how to save for your pension and even retire early. Jeremy Schneider breaks it down into bitesize steps to regain control over your finances and redirect your financial trajectory. We cover: // Index Funds. // How to change your financial trajectory. // Investing vs speculating. // The dirty little secret of Hedge Funds. // Passive and Active management of investments. // [32min] How to calculate the magic number to retire. // Emergency funds vs retirement plan. // Strategies for those with longer time frames and shorter time frames to retire comfortably. // [41min] Should you put money in one pot or divide it into several pots, like ISA, Index Funds, etc. // [43min] Strategy to financial independence when you have zero funds. // When more money stops making you happier. // The 10% rule in investment. // [58min] Buying Index Funds vs buying individual stocks. // [1hr03] How to get started with Index Funds. // [1hr09] What are the risks when investing in Index Funds? // [1hr12] Saving for a house vs investing for financial independence. Listen till the end where I recap the takeaways. Announcement: Taking a little time off but I will be back! Find Jeremy: https://www.personalfinanceclub.com & https://www.instagram.com/personalfinanceclub/ If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

Today is a laughter filled threeway on divorce with Pete & Seth on all things love, and the weird things heartbreak makes us do. With podcast Producer Pete, married for 23 years and Divorce Lawyer Seth, engaged to be re-married; we cover: // How they met. // Oddest items fought over in past divorce settlements. // What makes for good relationships? // What is love? // When to stick it through and when to leave? // What they learned from their own podcast on what to avoid in relationships. // Their views on infidelity. // Second life marriages, causing terrestrial divorces. Mentioned in this episode: Esther Perel Find Pete & Seth: www.nelsonlg.com, https://trustory.fm/ Their podcast: How to Split a Toaster If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

Why do you think black holes exist and where do they lead to? I want to hear your thoughts on this :-)!! Today with Astrophysicist and poet Lindsay we take a fun look at what a black hole is, what lies behind it and where it could all lead to. This is part 2 of this two-part series. We cover: // What are black holes and how are they created? // What’s behind a black hole? // What happens to the content in the black hole? // What happens to the spatial coordinates after a black hole has gone through it? // Multiverses. // String theory for beginners. // And my biggest question: How are we still around as a species? Find Lindsay https://www.lindsaydemarchi.com Her podcast: Go Ask Alice. If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

With astrophysicist and poet Lyndsay, we take a deep-dive into the benefits and harms that come from the Mars exploration & her unusual journey into academia. This is part 1 of a two-part series. We cover: // Her unusual journey into academia. // How we are related to dead stars. // The ethical issues on the mission to Mars. // The colonial language & attitude that is continually applied to space exploration. // Elon Musk’s mission and the lack of scientists being part of the big decisions. // Starlink’s satellites posing a huge threat to observational physics. // Who does Starlink’s satellites truly benefit? // The benefits and harms that come from Mars exploration. // A lawless Mars. // Why are we so curious about finding life on other planets? // Is an Armageddon-like event a likely threat? Timestamps: [00:17:01] "The intersection of science and spirituality: Exploring near-death experiences" [00:21:57] "Embracing the Unknown: A Personal Belief on Death" [00:35:43] "Elon Musk and the ethics of space travel" [00:44:16] "Surviving a 7-month trip to Mars" [00:50:32] "The Cost of Colonizing Mars: Private Whim?" [00:55:26] "Contemplating Life: Poets and Physicists' Perspectives" [01:03:51] "Can Life on Other Planets Save Humanity?" Next week in part 2: // What are black holes and how are they created? // What’s behind a black hole? // What happens to the content in the black hole? // What happens to the spatial coordinates after a black hole has gone through it? // Multiverses. // String theory for beginners. // How are we still around as a species? Find Lindsay https://www.lindsaydemarchi.com Her podcast: Go Ask Alice. If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

From working with one of rock's most influential bands KISS to being a Florida Supreme Court Family Law Mediator, Mary a Licensed mental health counsellor, is here to wake us up from the codependent funk. Today we cover: // What is codependency? // How Ted Bundy utilised codependency to trap his victims. // Why healing codependency is a matter of survival. // Why codependency is a form of self-harm. // The narcissist / codependent attraction. // How do you know if you’re the narcissist or the codependent party? // How codependents & narcissists use people to medicate themselves. // How to undo a lifetime of codependent habits and learn to set healthy boundaries. // Steps to take to avoid relapsing into codependency. // The difference between compassion and compulsion when setting boundaries as a codependent & the role of the vagus nerve. // The difference between collaborating and compromising. // How to leave a codependent relationship you can’t save. Find Mary http://www.winterhavencounseling.com If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

Are you a good friend or do you feel let down by your friendships? Maybe it’s a bit of both…? Today, Professor, Speaker and author Dr Marisa Franco, gives us some very good insights based on science and how our brain & attachment style interpret things subjectively when it comes to our friendships. We cover: // The one thing we get wrong about friendship. // When to walk away and when to build on your friendship. // Mutual vs reciprocal friendship. // Managing friendship expectations. // When we love our friends more than they love us. // What are friend crushes? // Placid and Dynamic safety in relationships // How to make friends and keep them as an adult based on psychological research. // What ruins friendships. // The importance of boundaries and resolving conflicts with your friends. // Friendship attachment styles. // Are we getting more fussy with age? // The difference between a friend, good company and an acquaintance. // How our expectations are what hurt us in our friendships. Find Marisa https://drmarisagfranco.com/ If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

*Recorded June 2022 ⁣ - Will Wood is more than a singer - songwriter, after a great deal of criticism and attempts at cancelling him. He has come out wiser and stronger. I loved hearing his insights on mental health and how society and culture defines what mental health & illness are. We go over: + How to keep doing what feels right to you despite people having their own erroneous idea of who you are. + Cultural pressures. + Going viral and being opened to criticism. + The manipulation of social media and the radicalisation it can cause. + Morality and culture. + The amount of subjectivity around mental health. Kanye West being mocked for his mental illness. + How to not let other people’s opinions affect your art. Find Will: www.willwood.net If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations For mental health crisis helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention *Recorded June 2022 ⁣

His curiosity, focus and open-mind rewrote our history books, but don’t be fooled, Eske is an adventurer and his life journey is nothing short of extraordinary. Eske Willerslev is the world-leading evolutionary geneticist and the rockstar of science. Today, we discuss where life comes from, conspiracy theories and if our DNA is alien technology. The biggest misunderstanding about Darwinism explained. Find Ekse: https://eskewillerslev.com/ Eske's new book: ‘It’s a fucking adventure’ is now out! If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

Trial Lawyer turned peacemaker, Doug Noll, has since 2009 been working with prisoners, some serving life sentences, who want to learn how to stop the prison–violence. Doug coaches them on how to become mediators and de-escalate conflicts which have had life-changing repercussions and I got him on to share some of his wisdom and methods with us. We cover: - How he got into this line of work. - The softer you are, the stronger you are. The more vulnerable you are, the more powerful you are. - What made him walk away from $10 million to pursue peacemaking. - How to listen. - How to ignore the words to make an emotionally safe environment. - Real life example on how to put this into practice (I’m your guinea pig with an example from my dayjob). - What a world without violent conflicts means. - Emotional invalidation and how it plays into the unhappiness of couples. - Debunking the worst tips on how to calm someone down. - Affect vs emotions (a difference between animals and humans). - How triggers can be used for self-awareness and how to rewire your brain to clear those triggers. - How to self-regulate your emotions. - What working with prisoners has taught him about life and people. - How listening to others into existence can change your life and theirs. - We round up with Doug sharing the most powerful story from his work with prisoners. Find Doug: https://dougnoll.co/too-old (am not an affiliate) His program is called Prison Of Peace Program. If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

Abby went from being terrible at relationships to being great at them. She’s a psychologist who believes a leopard can change their spots and as a recovering heroin addict, she knows what she’s talking about. We cover: - We’re as happy as our relationship. - To be good at relationships takes skills you're not born with but you can learn those skills. - We’re mostly competing for attention and time - turning relationship into work: “You have to pull your weight.” “You have to take this off my plate.” “You have to do your fair share.” - Being correct or effective: Which would you choose to have a more peaceful relationship? - Competing over Sex, Chores and Money, and what questions to ask your partner to help resolve it & how to reframe you perspective. - Abby’s method of: don’t S.A.C. your relationship, instead ask questions. Mentioned in this episode: The work of Timothy Wilson Find Abby https://abbymedcalf.com/ Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit and follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact P.S: Back on releasing an episode twice/month now.

What led to the death of 3 individuals seeking to better their life and looking for enlightenment at a James Arthur Ray 5-day event? Ray was made famous by the movie The Secret and being featured several times on the Oprah Winfrey show. Together with Kirby Brown’s mother Ginny, a licensed clinical social worker and her sister Jean, we discuss the perfect storm that led to that tragedy, their mission to stop it from ever happening to anyone else and how self-help can be done safely. We cover: + How strong minded people can fall victim to the self-help industry. + Tools and dirty tactics used by the self-help industry. + What may have contributed to James Ray’s situation. + How to not collapse after grief. + The legal system is not yet equipped to advocate for the families of [Self-help gone wrong] victims. + How to find self-help organisations that have pledged to do no harm and signed [The Promise]. + What has changed for them in how they perceive life after Kirby’s passing. *Content note: this episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised* You can find Seek Safely at: https://www.seeksafely.org/ The list of red flags: https://www.seeksafely.org/consumers/ The book https://www.seeksafely.org/this-sweet-life-book/ Social @seeksafely If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations Mentioned in this episode: Guru: The Dark Side of Enlightenment podcast If you have been affected and need to talk to someone below are some helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255 Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741

From Venezuela to Harvard Law school, Maria left a 6 figure corporate job to work in the arts. She believes there are no starving artists and shares how that myth came about. From starting a business to being an entrepreneur as an employee, we share our thoughts and widely different experiences on following our passions. Enjoy! Find Maria: https://www.mariabrito.com/ If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online If you wan to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations

How do we revive our libido & desires for ourselves and our partner(s)? Dr Tara, professor of relational and sexual communication & award-winning researcher went from sexually anxious to sexually confident. Today, Dr Tara shares how to get your juices flowing again & feel good sexually. We cover: + Myths around sex. + What is sexual confidence and how to get there. + How to give sexual feedback to a defensive partner. + Being aroused and having great sex are two different things. + Guided sexual meditations. + Sexual affirmations. + Intrusive thoughts interrupting arousal. Find Tara at https://www.luvbites.co/ & social: luvbites If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations

From Cirque du Soleil to big corporate America, Jay has helped leaders and team members undo terrible behaviour and resolve toxic environments. In this episode we dive into how-to speak up at work when a boss crosses a line & in return how bosses can better deal with conflicts. From sharing great stories to how-to formulas, Jay gives us plenty to think about! Jay Guilford is the founder Coworks Lead and can be found at: http://www.coworkslead.com Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact

How do you reduce or remove alcohol if you're known as the party girl or just used to have a drink after work as a ritual to cut off your work day? Sarah’s been there, done that and now helps others change their relationship to alcohol, without shame or guilt. She shares her thoughts on: + National Alcohol guidelines. + Not needing to hit rock bottom to make a change. + What on earth do you order at the bar if it’s not alcohol. + How and why you don’t need to justify your choices to anyone. Find Sarah at https://drinklesslivebetter.com & Social @drinklesslivebetter Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact

James Preece a professional dating coach based in London shares his insights on how to lift your online profile to attract better matches not and to that end he reviews mine… We also go over: // How to avoid typical online dating traps. // A quick fiery round of yes/no answers to some more typical dating questions. // Some great conversation starters so your first date doesn’t sound like an interview. Find James at: https://www.jamespreece.com & Insta @jamespreececoach Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online To support the show: www.angie-s.com/donations If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact

BIG THANK YOUsssss + today, I share some more behind the scenes of producing a podcast, namely the 6 automations all podcasters need - there are more but for today, I’ll keep to 6 - you’d be surprised how many seasoned podcasters aren’t implementing these! You can hear it first-hand when I’m a guest on other podcasts to talk on all things production. Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/podcastin6weeks + code Podcast30 at checkout for 30% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. If you don’t have a podcast concept, yet, go here: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/conceptandmics + code Podcast20 at checkout for 20% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. Support the show: https://www.angie-s.com/donations If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact Wishing you a Happy Holiday Season!

Today, I share some behind the scenes of producing a podcast, namely the 4 common mistakes I see many podcasters make with their guests - there are more but today, I’ll keep it to 4 ! And also, an update on what happened at work…. And a big thank you to YOU! Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/podcastin6weeks + code Podcast30 at checkout for 30% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. If you don’t have a podcast concept, yet, go here: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/courses/conceptandmics + code Podcast20 at checkout for 20% off. Discount expires on 3rd of Jan. 2022. Support the show: https://www.angie-s.com/donations If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact

Today with Isabella Beham, Matchmaker and Love Recruiter, we talk about the difference between being bad and being wild. This conversation took me places I didn’t expect and I absolutely loved it. We cover: + Disobedient men and women vs the bad rebellious ones. + The dark side of spirituality. + Confusing people pleasing with sex positivity. + And how there is no toxic masculinity, only an unevolved one. If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact Find Isabella on insta @issyliving/ & http://issyliving.co/ If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit Become a podcaster with me: www.learnpodcasting.online/

Writer, body image activist and coach Marci lived a double life for many years, which led her to being consumed by shame and guilt which almost cost her her life. Her story is about how to unshackle yourself from your mind’s chains, being free and truly exploring who you are. Feel free to share what came up for you from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you here: https://www.angie-s.com/contact Find Marci’s book: https://amzn.to/3DAqPT0 & Social @marciwarhaft If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit

Today with Leslie, a divorce lawyer, relationship coach and author, we discuss how to not let cynicism ruin your chances at Love, and the things you need to know when it comes to prenups, postnups and settlements. We cover: + How come as a divorce lawyer, she is not cynical when it comes to love. + Personal accountability and growth being pivotal in relationships. + Self-fulfillment. + Prenup, Postnup and Divorce settlements; why they’re there and how it works. + How to protect yourself if you don’t want to get married but share a life, home and finances with your partner. + What love is. + The chances people miss that could have saved their marriages. Find Leslie: https://asklesliethelawyer.com/ + her book: The Cult Of The Black Card Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/ If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit

You left that terrible relationship, you’ve done the work in therapy but now what? How do you recognise a healthy partner and how do you not sabotage a good thing? Tune in to hear Shannon, a Licensed Professional Counselor is back for a 4th time to tell her happy ending / new beginning story. This is about how you can put old damaging patterns to bed. We share tips on how to know on a cellular level what an emotionally healthy person is and learn to trust yourself and your gut instincts.Jon’s wedding vows are right at the end of the episode (the last 3 minutes)Find Shannon: https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & insta @shannonhigginslpc Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/ If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here: buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit

Today with Sam, the philosophical coach, we talk about how to meet our partners and ourselves with fresh eyes and not get bogged down with the baggage of our past. How we’re not fixed in who we are and how the same applies to our friends, partner(s) and loved ones. Find Sam: thephilosophicalcoach.com & cpl.thephilosophicalcoach.com Podcast @thishumeanlife.com Social @ thephilosophicalcoach If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit Become a podcaster with me: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/

In 2017, the NY times leaked that the Pentagon’s had an official UFO program since 2008, and it brought the conversation out of the shadows and into the mainstream. Are we the only civilization in the universe? Are we being visited by ‘aliens’ or are there other intelligent beings already among us that we can’t see, called earth aliens? What is real and what is a hoax? UFOs now rebranded as UAPs to stop men in suit giggling, are now part of the mainstream conversation, and one of the pivotal moments for that was when the Pentagon ‘declassified’ those 3 videos. And now that Frederik Dirks Gottlieb started a podcast called ‘Flyvende tallerken’ aka flying saucer on the biggest radio station in Denmark (called: Danmarks Radio aka DR) well the conversation is now truly out in the open! I am so excited to bring him to you and share his podcast with you all! Frederik went into his podcast ‘Flyvende tallerken’ with an open mind and it shows with the big array of guests he’s interviewed from: Luis Elizondo to Mick West without forgetting Avi Loeb and his co-host Anja C. Andersen, an astro-physicist at the Niehls Bohr institute, who’s by his side every week to help us understand the science behind it all. Frederik is a Danish podcaster, journalist, film producer, radio & TV host, creator and host of the VERY popular ‘Flyvende tallerken’, and together we discuss all things UAPs and what it means for us as humans and our reality, if we even really know what that is…. Find Frederik’s podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/flyvende-tallerken/id1541594955 FB @frederikdirksgottlieb Twitter & insta @frederikdirks YouTube playlist in English of his podcast (not made by DR, this is an independent YT channel that took it upon itself to edit down the content to the English parts only - so it does not represent the production of the program but they’re worth listening to: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL6JyMFx1azFHa1-0qFb7mp29El5JHI701 If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit You can also find me: www.angie-s.com

How is compromising bad for your romantic relationship? Sounds like it goes against everything we’ve been taught but Jáchym, a relationship coach, married to the mother of his child and business partner, knows what he’s talking about when it comes to overcoming relationship challenges. You may remember him from episode #058: Love Isn’t Enough’, where he & his wife discussed their journey of how they went from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship. Today with Jáchym we cover: + How compromising does not make for a healthy relationship. + Real life examples on how to apply the 3rd way. + Looking into why you expect certains things from your partner. + How to be of service to your partner and respecting your boundaries at the same time. + Moving away from offering poisoned chalices, followed by emotional blackmail to a place of giving with no expectations. + Is there ever a good reason to instantly walk out from a relationship? + Build a culture in your relationship that allows for dialogue. Resources mentioned in the episode: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse by Dr John Gottman Find Jáchym: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com If you want to support this show, I have a ‘AMA’ donor exclusives here:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/2oldforthisshit You can also find me: www.angie-s.com

Ever wondered what a Daddy Dom is? Do you think a Dominant man is domineering? Are Dom/Sub couples all about leather, ropes and chains? Do some of the Dom/Sub quirks remind you of the traditional marriage rules? If so, you’ll want to hear Sir InQ’s refreshingly honest take on love and what it takes to be a Man, whether you’re into the vanilla or kinky lifestyle! A Barber & Stylist by trade, Sir InQ has been a lifestyle Dom for over 11 years. We cover: // Dominant vs domineering. // Suggestion vs manipulation. // Caring vs selfish commands. // Being of service to your Sub. // Lifestyle vs kink. // Vanilla vs BDSM lifestyles. // Communication made easy/ // Different types of Subs and how they match certain Doms. // What a Dom needs from a Sub. // What a Sub needs from a Dom. Find Sir InQ: www.Sirinq.com & Insta @sir_inq & FB @sir.inq.the.experience His Podcast: The Experience Podcast & for mentorship contact him on sirinq09*at*gmail.com Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

What happens if you like someone at work? Did the metoo movement make that more complicated or even impossible? • We discuss how to go about it in a respectful way and how to protect yourself if you’re ready to make your move... • Also, have parts of the metoo movement, as necessary and about time for it to happen, made it more difficult for women to advance in the workplace….sounds weird, right? • We discuss the unforeseen adverse effects of the #metoo movement for women in the workplace, based on Bobbi’s research. Bobbi Bidochka is the author of the Sexual Intelligence in Business, co-chair of the academic conference Love and Sex with Robots and owner of Imagine Ideation. Together we cover the post-metoo paradigm: the good, the bad and the ugly based on Bobbi’s research. Find Bobbi: sexualintelligenceinbusiness.com & lovewithrobots.com/registration & Social: @bobbibidochka Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with CJ Grace, former BBC broadcaster and infidelity author of: The Adulterer's Wife, we discuss infidelity and how to overcome it whether we choose to stay or not. We discuss: • Her husband had an affair with a woman half his age • The 6-part plan she created to get through it. • Being happier after the affair. • Celibacy in marriage. • Pelvic pain contributes to sexless marriages. • If you had an affair in the past, how to bring it up when dating. • How to learn to trust again. • Being careful not to demonise the unfaithful partner and mistress/mister. • Not staying in the anger stage and why revenge is not the way to go. • What can happen when you revenge-cheat on your once-cheating partner. Reference mentioned: Esther Perel’s work on infidelity. Find CJ here: https://cjauthor.com & IG, TW, FB @cjgraceauthor Clubhouse @cjgrace Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit / www.angie-s.com

Today with Goddess Carroll, founder of Sunseed Community which practices collective healing with body-energy work, including somatic abolition. We discuss topics from sex to who we are as a human species. As serious as it gets at times, the episode is filled with giggles and laughs. We cover: • Decolonising our minds and our bodies. • Ancestral vs generational trauma as in nature versus nurture. • Our thoughts on the terminologies of diversity, equity and inclusion and the faults we see in having to use those terms at all. • Being careful not to reverse-shame ‘default’ bodies as in skinny and white because no one chooses how they’re born. • Not putting ourselves in a box, regardless of what anybody says. • How we are all connected. • Soulful sex versus performative disconnected sex. • Dismantling relationship anarchy. • We end the conversation with a philosophical chat about life. Reference mentioned in this episode: Sonya Renee Taylor’s book: The Body Is Not an Apology. Find Goddess: www.sunseedcommunity.com & sunseedcommunitypodcast.buzzsprout.com & FB/IG: @Sunseedcommunity Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with Epiphany Jordan, author of the book: Somebody Hold Me, we talk about platonic touch. We cover: • What got her into the world of platonic touch. • How come we miss out on tender touch, when not in a sexual relationship. • The role of touch on our health, in particular our immune & nervous systems. • Differences in how touch is perceived in different cultures and across times. • The hypocritical standpoints on nudity and touch in certain western cultures. • Why platonic touch is so misunderstood and so taboo. • The concept of ‘excarnation’ by Irish Philosopher Richard Kearney. • Cultural myths that discourage nurturing human touch. • Touch hunger: Are we, as women, more afraid of platonic touch? • Sometimes we just don’t want certain people to touch us and how to handle it, especially in the yoga and spiritual industries; where it can be considered ‘closed hearted’ if we don’t want to hug everybody. • Boundaries. • Permission vs consent. • Alternative solutions for single people to replace a hug with. References mentioned in this episode: Richard Kearney & Tea Consent & Betty Martin Find Epiphany: nurturinghumantouch.com/ & Her book: Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person's Guide to Nurturing Human Touch Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with Sex, Love and Relationship Coach, Jerry Souter who’s back for a second time, we cover: • How to, as a cis-woman, date safely both physically and emotionally. • Recognising red flags. • Love bombing versus when a healthy man knows very early on you’re the one. • Being the muse, not the mother. • What are feminine & masculine energies and how that’s not gender specific. • We are still fierce when we’re feminine, and being angry at times is a very acceptable part of that. • How to stand your ground when you’re a very feminine woman. Find Jerry: www.jerrysouter.com IG: @thejerrysouter Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

When being broke pushed her to the idea of doing a yard sale, Haley realised the only items of value (other than her phone and laptop) were gifts from her exes, that’s how the idea of her play and subsequent book ‘The Ex-Boyfriend Yard Sale’ came to be. With the help of a mathematician, she created a formula [for the Cost of Love] that takes into account all the ways we invest or don’t, into our romantic relationships and spit out an accurate price for the material things we’re left with when the romance dies. We go over: • Can you put a price on love? • Is love worth the heartbreaks and disappointments? • The concept of sunk- cost bias (or pot committed in poker) applied to relationships. • Why stay-at-home wives and mothers should not be free labour. • How very traditional men understand the value a woman brings to their lives. • You cannot control what people are going to think about you. Find Haley: haleymcgee.ca Her book: The Ex-Boyfriend Yard Sale Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Savannah Hauk has two lives: One with a job in IT as Chuck and an other as an author, podcaster, advocate & spokesperson for Crossdressers & the Non-Binary community as Savannah, today Savannah takes us into her world of cross dressing and dual gender. In this episode we cover: • Masculine & Feminine Personas. • The journey of how Savannah came to full expression. • Difference between a drag queen, a cross dresser, transitioning and dual gender. • Coming out to your partner as a crossdresser and being open to people’s questions and first reactions and allowing them to process it. • Safety issues as a crossdresser. • What we should know as women if our male partner comes out to us as a crossdresser. • The communities that both the crossdresser and their (non-crossdressing) partner need to build around them. Find Savannah: https://livingwithcrossdressing.com & social: @savannahhauk Her books: Living with Crossdressing: Discovering Your True Identity & Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

In today’s part 2 with Jenn Turnham, we dive into the world of Highly Sensitive Extroverts (HSP-Es) by learning the difference between introverts and extroverts and how that looks different for Highly Sensitive People. We cover: • The difference between an Introvert, Extrovert and Ambivert (how differently our brain works). • How does that fit in with the HSP model aka HSPe - HSPi - HSPa? • The contradictions for HSP-Es that make them think they’re introverts. • How HSP-Es can seem like walking contradictions. • Cohabiting for HSP-E. • Introverts aren’t necessarily shy and extroverts aren’t necessarily loud. • How do we manage our HSP-E traits & pitfalls? For Jenn’s quiz: www.jennturnham.com/quiz-hsp/ To sign up to my podcasting workshops, go to: https://www.learnpodcasting.online Apply the 15% discount code: LISTEN15

Today with Jenn Turnham who has a background in applied psychology and is a registered BWRT practitioner and coach for HSP-Es (Highly Sensitive Extrovert Person) we demystify the misconceptions society has on HSPs and why those give us a bad name. Today, in Part 1, we cover: • What’s a Highly Sensitive Person based on the D.O.E.S Aron’s scale. • Discover with me live on the call why HSPs are a minority and why they’re so misunderstood. • Is Being Hangry a HSP thing? • How mirror neurons fit into this. • Difference between Empaths and HSPs, you can be both but not all HSPs are empaths, they’re empathetic. • Having some of the traits versus all of the HSP traits. • The difference between HSP & Sensory Processing Disorder = personality trait vs disorder. • Is HSP a fine line to bipolar? • High Sensitivity is not Hyper sensitivity and we explain why HSPs are not (necessarily) hyper sensitive nor histrionics. • HSPe being walking contradictions - being too much for people. Next week, we’ll dive into the difference between introvert and extrovert and whether ambiverts at all exist and how that fits in with HSP and discover why HSP-E think they’re introverts when in reality they’re not & how to manage our quirks as HSPs. For Jenn’s quiz: www.jennturnham.com/quiz-hsp/ & FB @highlysensitiveextrovertswithjennt To sign up to my podcasting workshops, go to: https://www.learnpodcasting.online Apply the 15% discount code: LISTEN15 Go check out one of my previous student’s podcast: Drink Less; Live Better by Sarah Williamson Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with Amanda Filippelli; book coach, editor, writer and recipient of the Pittsburgh Magazine’s 40Under40 award. We cover: • Her work in changing the myth that artists are doomed to be broke; demystifying the industry and breaking down those limiting beliefs that we, creatives, walk around with. • Changing the perception we have of our stories so we can reframe them for introspection, healing and moving forward. • Why art will challenge our sensitivities and why it’s an opportunity for growth. • What’s a bestseller and how to become one? • Weighing whose advice is worthy of listening to when it comes to our creative work. • All advices aren’t constructive critiques: Mansplaining and how to deal with unqualified & unsolicited advice. • Ideas on how to start making money as an author. Find Amanda: amandafilippelli.com & Social: @editor_amanda Her book: Blue rooms & The Writers Tarot Mentorship program link: https://amandafilippelli.com/work-with-amanda Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Mike Iamele’s sex life unintentionally went viral but this led him to helping others figure out who they are without any of the labels, with a method he created called: Map Your Sensitivities. In today’s episode we cover: • Why knowing our core sensitivities, makes our life so much easier and arguments meaningful. • We go into his love story of how both him and his husband went from thinking they were straight to building a romantic life together. • How his love story went viral whilst he was still figuring it all out. • The one moment that made Mike realise he wanted to be exclusive with his (now) husband. • The power of not trying. • Not letting the world define us. • Mike demo’s his work on me, live on the call. • How to use our map sensitivities in love, sex, business and every other areas of life. Find Mike: mikeiamele.com; mikeiamele.com/map; Insta @mikeiamele Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

After losing her brother in 2013 to suicide whilst he was high on meth & drunk and with a sister who’s still working towards recovery, Melanie Moberg a co-dependency coach, helps the families and friends of those in recovery, her work doesn’t stop there, she also helps those in codependent relationships, that don’t involve substance abuse. Today we cover codependent relationships with and without substance abuse: + What’s a codependent friendship and what does it look like? + What does enabling look like? + What’s the line between being there for someone versus enabling them. + How to stop enabling friends who have addictions. + Signs you’re the codependent friend. + Signs you’re friendship is unhealthy. + How to know when it’s time to walk away from a friendship. + How to take a break from a friendship and return to it later on. + How to break up with a friend. + Making a friendship love list. *Content note: this episode contains topics such as addiction and suicide, discretion is advised* Find Melanie at www.melaniemoberg.com Her Book: Warriors in Recovery & FB Group @peacewithinme Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com For mental health crisis, addiction and dependencies helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/addiction-and-dependency/addiction-and-dependency-resources/ Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ US BASED: National Suicide Prevention Hotline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Substance Abuse & Mental Health Hotline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline For friends/family: https://coda.org/ To find a therapist or psychiatrist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Rest of the world: https://www.therapyroute.com/article/helplines-suicide-hotlines-and-crisis-lines-from-around-the-world

Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie are a couple and relationship coaches that have gone through the wringer together from long distance, to open, to semi open to polyamorous to closed again, today we discuss its good, bad and ugly and what it takes to make a relationship work. We cover: - Moving from transactional relationships to being of service to your partner but from a place of synergy, so not to drain yourself. - Being able to receive without nagging. - Their path as a couple from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship. - Seeing your man from useless to someone you respect. - How to stop parenting our romantic partner. - How we see our partner, is not who they are aka being present with your partner and not living in the archives of all their perceived wrongdoings. - They don’t believe compromises/sacrifices make for a healthy and happy relationship. - Being responsible for our own emotions, whatever we feel is internally created. - The blaming and projecting game. - It’s not just about being honest with someone, it’s about being honest with yourself. Find Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie Podcast: awakenedwife.com Communication Quiz: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com/understand Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com References in this episode: https://thework.com/ by Byron Katie where you can download her worksheets

**Today with stand-up comic and accountant Shamiso Mushambi we talk about the juxtaposition of achieving our goals and its cost on our wellbeing if not kept in check. We cover: • How she got into stand-up comedy. • Taking control of our lives and narratives. • Type casting in movies/ series. How Miranda Bailey in Grey's Anatomy means different things to different viewers. • Imposter syndrome. • How her plans for 2020 panned out. • High functioning survival mode when depressed and suicidal. • Detaching from our feelings and what it does to us. • Self-care is not optional if you want to live, and not just getting by. • Finding our reason to live, both internal and external. • Young people being convinced that all anxiety needs to be medicated. There needs to be a scale. *Content note: this episode contains topics such as depression and suicidal ideation. Mention of pedophilia (no details or what happenned, but it is mentioned), discretion is advised* **Recorded in December 2020 Find Shamiso Mushambi on social @Shamisomushambi @comedypops Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com For mental health crisis helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ IAPT: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/adults/iapt/ Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255 Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741

In today’s episode I talk with Alex Mill on all things sex & love from squirting to not being able to fall asleep next to your boyfriend. Alex is a Mindful Intimacy Catalyst who mixes science, spirituality and sexuality to clean up the mess created by the very dark energies in the film industry. We go over: • Transcendental sexual experiences. • Differences between cumming (jouir in French) and orgasm. • Misconception around the expectations around a tight pussy. • Masturbating. • Removing expectations on our bodies. • Changes in libido, where it went and how to get it back. *Content note: this episode contains graphic sexual depiction, discretion is advised* Find Alex Mill: https://www.masterofstory.net/ Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Public speaking isn’t just for TED Talks, so many of us have pivoted online and have to present what we do and sell to bigger and unknown audiences. Today with Brenden Kumarasamy from MasterTalk we cover: • How to become a good public speaker. • How do you know if you have something interesting to say. • Stop focusing on finding your Why, instead focus on doing something. That’s what will lead to your Why. • Explore the questions no one else cares about. Find Brenden on YT @MasterTalk Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

On the cusp of the pandemic, Jordan - Founder of Listen Lucy, had just invested for her business to scale from speaking engagements into a speaking agency but 2020 decided otherwise and with events coming to a halt, her business collapsed. Today we talk about how we both sank on the 2020 boat and what helped us bounce back. Both with very different surroundings and support systems. *Content note: this episode discusses anxiety and suicide prevention, discretion is advised* We go over: • How to deal with a crisis. • When your livelihood is taken away from you, how to cope so you can move on to your next chapter? • In order to be the best parent for your kids, you sometimes need to prioritise yourself. • To quote Jordan: “That’s the thing with mental illness. As your life changes, so does the illness, and you have to adapt.” If a coping mechanism doesn't work anymore, drop it and replace it with something else, don’t stunt your process. • When you’re feeling depressed or anxious, how do we convey how we’re feeling without freaking people out or making them feel powerless? • When mental health issues are part of who we are, we shouldn’t apologise for that. • We all have mental health. • When pulling away from your partner because you’re ashamed of showing them your mental health, that can be a breach of trust. • Why spreading the message and exposing herself like this, is so important for Jordan. • The 5 warning signs your friend may not be doing well and needs you to check in [WHAP which stands for Withdrawal - Hopelessness - Agitation - Poor self care &/or Personality change]. • The Upper limit problem. Find Jordan: www.ListenLucy.org Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com For mental health crisis helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ USA: National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1-800-273- 8255 Crisis Textline - Text HOME to 741741 Book referenced: The Big Leap *Recorded in November 2020

Today with Asa Baav, Founder of Tailormatched, a matchmaker focused on sexual compatibility. We cover: • What is good sex? • Do we all really want to moan during sex or do we feel obliged to? • How to communicate sexual desires and preferences with our partner. • How to discover our pleasure with our partner. • Communication check-ins. • The array of sexual preferences of her members. • How to land your kinkiest sexual desires on your partner and how to react if you’re not prepared to receive that news. • How does an expat/settler approach dating if unsure where you want to grow old, do you need to be upfront about that from the get go? • If you’re an expat, do you want someone similar or do you want someone with roots? • We end on some success stories from her matchmaking agency. Find Asa: https://tailormatched.com/ Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

*Today with the magnificent Dr Robin Hornstein we talk about how to have a conversation with someone who stands in complete opposition to your beliefs and how to lead with curiosity, not judgement. She comes out with excellent and valuable insights! We cover: • How we’re all justified in our mind to believe what we believe. We didn’t get there for no reason, we have history, proof or trauma that makes us convinced - for better or worse. • Why do people only want others to co-sign on their opinions, and not what will challenge it. • When genuine, good movements, get taken over by people with bad intent. • Cognitive dissonance and symptoms of emotional abuse from 2020. • Identity politics: How to have a conversation with someone who stands in complete opposition to our beliefs and how to lead with curiosity, not judgement. • To enter a debate and how-to counter productively by removing emotions. • The coddled and validated society is causing a lot of damage and hurt in today’s society. • Why it’s not ok for trolling behaviour, masking behind any movement, to be tolerated. • Should we be embarrassed by our partners' political views in public? • How certain communities have been more unfairly hit by 2020 (pandemic, job losses and more). To join podcasting for absolute beginners,go here: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/ Find Robin: www.hptherapy.com Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com *Recorded 16 Dec. 2020

*Talking can be the most dangerous thing couples do. Today with the magnificent Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari, a relationship therapist, Chairperson of Imago UK, author, speaker, therapist supervisor and parental advisor, we cover: Why compatibility isn’t what we think it is. + The first year is not always a smooth sailing, problem-free honeymoon, Kalanit explains why some of us stumble in the first year whilst others on the seventh. Neither are a good or bad sign but it’s how you handle it that’s key. + How to deal with conflicts with our partners and why they are “gold” in the IMAGO philosophy. + How to grow and become a better partner for them or the next one (they leave, they lose). + How to forgive ourselves and our partner - feelings of guilt and shame, anyone? + Why it’s important to not paint your partner as the bad one during conflicts but to remember the good parts. + How to express an issue without it being a big deal aka without your partner feeling attacked. + How to not lose yourself in a relationship and why it happens. + Knowing the difference between: Needing space in service for yourself or in service for the relationship? + Is breaking up always the end? Reference used for this episode: Getting the love you want by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt Come find Dr Kalanit at kalanitbenari.com Books on Amazon: Small Steps to Great Parenting & The Lost Book Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com *Recorded in Nov 2020

Today is to introduce Season Two coming out next Monday the 15th of Feb 2021 and what happened during that break (the good, the bad and the ugly). I’ll also cover the workshops I’ve created and to finish off this episode there’s a recap of Season One in the form of a long trailer which starts 14 minutes in. *Content note: this episode discusses mental health and estranged fathers, discretion is advised* Here’s the list of the episodes featured in the order of which the clips come in: • The sex education part of the season with episodes: 018, 023, 024, 016, 040, 036 • The cult part of the season with episodes 010, 044 • The Love part of the season with episodes 014, 042, 043, 049 • The couples in lockdown part of the season with episode 035 • The not having kids part of the season with episode 025 • The toxic/gaslight part of the season with episodes 028, 037, 038 • The mental health part of the season with episodes 013, 039, 026, 027, 034, 032, 033, 046, 019 • The where is home part of the season with episodes 030, 047 Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with Dr Kathrine Bejanyan PhD we talk about the awkwardness of finances in dating and relationships. We go over: • Money imbalance in relationships and how it can affect a relationship. • How to deal with money issues in a relationship & have the money talk with your partner when you’re the one earning less and how to manage it as the high earner. • The untold story of divorce settlements that I learned in this episode. • How would you feel if your partner covered you financially whilst you’re studying or working on your business? I express how that would make me so anxious but Kathrine explains how that couple is being a team. • When men bound their worth to their money. • We also cover when money takes a bad turn and when gifting equals buying your love & affection. How To Create & Release Your First Podcast! Find Kathrine: http://kathrinebejanyan.com/ Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Taking you behind the scenes of how the podcast came about and answering your most FAQs around the podcast so listen in to get the lowdown! Learn How To Create & Release Your First Podcast at: https://learnpodcasting.online/ Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today with Author, Blogger and Writing Coach Safiya Robinson we discuss what home is and what does a sense of belonging mean. We have both uprooted several times and so are giving our take into what home has meant and how it changed over the years. Learn How To Create & Release Your First Podcast at: https://www.learnpodcasting.online/ Find Safiya: www.39andcounting.com & insta @safiyarobinson77 Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Why did this happen to me? The ultimate paradox is: To give up your power to other people, and outside circumstances, by trying to control them: • ‘If only my partner would stop doing that, I told him a million times, I’d be happy’. We talk about personal responsibility and accountability mindsets. The power of thoughts and Tiffani’s take on life’s principles that she coined 12 CoreLife Principles. Find Tiffani: tiffanicappello.com & www.transformedwomenacademy.com Transformed Women FB Group: facebook.com/groups/1313825455458708/?ref=share Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today I will give you some health tips on how to reduce stress during these times: 1. Reduce sore tummy & bloatedness, without restricting your diet but by adding something to it. 2. How to deal with sleepless nights. 3. Easy meditations. 4. Some sources to make you laugh. I also give my thoughts on why we have no more time for UFOs. Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com Mentions in this episode: • Kirtan Kriya (Sa Ta Na Ma Meditation) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLjks6Gs0OI • Kapal Bhati https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3TgkXQuoPU&feature=youtu.be • Comics Shazia Mirza and Sarah Millican

Tiffani was in religious cults for 15 years and finally escaped! Together we discuss: • Her journey. • The power of brainwashing • Blind allegiances. • The real issue with not believing we’re enough. Today she is a Woman Empowerment’s Coach and Rapid Transformational Therapist. *Content note: this episode mentions (albeit not in graphic detail) incest and abuse, discretion is advised. Find Tiffani: tiffanicappello.com Her FB Group: facebook.com/groups/1313825455458708/?ref=share Former Fundamentalists FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/154924288039752/?ref=share Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Jerry Souter went from being a Love Addict to a Love & Relationship Coach. Together we go over: • Why the formulas and quick fix text templates the gurus are trying to sell you, don’t work. We also go over the different types of fears we go through in dating and relationships: 1. Not wanting to be seen. 2. Not knowing how to connect/communicate. 3. Fear of commitment. Hope you enjoy, this is another honest conversation! Find Jerry: www.jerrysouter.com & insta @thejerrysouter Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Their love story had an unorthodox beginning but they explored, believed & they’re here today to tell the tale. An unusual but very honest and true love story. Using the Netflix Show Love Is Blind, as a backdrop, we also talk about: // How men court women. // Why he pulls away and what to do when he does. // Why women test and push their partners to the brink. // Why men leave women they love. Hope you enjoy it! This one’s filled with giggles! Find Priska & Bas: https://thelovealchemists.com Insta @the_love_alchemists FB group: The soulmate society Find their article on LIB here: https://medium.com/@thelovealchemists/7-things-we-learned-from-love-is-blind-8bbd96fa50cd Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

How do we really get to know someone and make it stick? Using neurological science, psychology, spirituality and other tools Priska & Bas from The Love Alchemists developed themselves, they coach single women and couples through the mire of dating and relationships. We go through the science of love using the Netflix show Love is Blind as a backdrop, because let’s face it they showed some major archetypes on there! We go over: // Women testing men. // Men being sure & women wanting to run. // Gender roles reversed and polarity. // Being friendzoned. // Should you have to choose between family and your fiance? // Are Cameron and Lauren really that healthy for the long run? Warning if you haven’t watched the show, yet, spoiler alerts throughout. Find Priska & Bas: https://thelovealchemists.com Insta @the_love_alchemists FB group: The soulmate society Find their article on LIB here: https://medium.com/@thelovealchemists/7-things-we-learned-from-love-is-blind-8bbd96fa50cd Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

From working with homeless people as a therapist to stripping at 37 y.o. Maria a Licensed Therapist & Sex/Relationship Coach takes us on a journey that climaxes into sacred sexuality, including teaching her clients about lingam and yoni massages. We go over: // When all you want is a hug from a friendly hook-up. // Limitations of therapy solved with coaching. // Male performance issues. // Empowerment is important but not at the cost of disempowering others. // How do we claim what we need and want? // Our version of Feminism. // Why it’s important to let a man please you and feel needed. // Sis, you’re robbing him by not letting him do anything for you. // How to ask for what you want and vulnerability. // What lingam and yoni massages are. Find Maria: www.mariamerloni.com + her free weekly Zoom calls: https://us04web.zoom.us/j/344998488 Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Life Coach, Speaker and Author Bridget Chambers comes on to talk about how to find & follow our own path. We go over: // How to find THE THING you want to commit to. // You don’t have to go far or do something new to do THE THING. // That something’s-missing-feeling: How do we know what’s missing if we’ve never had it? // Aha moments happen when our routines are disrupted. // Your internal compass: Your Gut. // Why this week sucked being single. // The comparison game. // When to quit or pull through? Is it an upper limit problem or not right for us anymore. // A no, is not a no to your abilities, it’s freedom to redirect. // Having a reason to get out of bed. // What’s the difference between following our path when single and when in a couple? // The importance of writing about your pain so others don’t feel alone in theirs. Find Bridget: www.bridgetchambers.com & insta @bridgchambers Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

This is the 3rd and last part of our mini-series on hidden abuse, narcissism & gaslighting. Part 1 was ep. #028: “Did You just Gaslight Me?” *Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised, particularly between 1hr 8 to 1 hr16* We cover: // How do we recover from abusive relationships and how to trust again? // What are the symptoms that people can experience after they left an abusive relationship? // Is there a difference in those symptoms if you left a narcissist vs a toxic individual? // We go over how charming they are and why making a discernment when close to them is hard. We portray this with an extreme example of Marc Dutrou nr: 1 eveil wanted guy when I was growing up and how he charmed his way into an escape. // Self-forgiveness being a key part of recovery. // We address what to do if you’re living with your abuser whilst in isolation - Domestic violence shelters are still working even under lockdown. // After this ordeal, how do you trust again? // How to deal with the abuser trying to claw back in. // The predator-to-prey symbiosis phenomenon. // Do some maybe have a deep desire to be toyed with or have a fantasy for total annihilation, is it a thing? // We finish up with successful recovery stories and The Tiger King. Mentions in the episode: // https://www.angie-s.com/podcasting-taster-session // Katy Perry - Wide Awake (Official Video) Find Shannon: https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & insta @shannonhigginslpc Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

This is part 2 of our 3 part mini-series on hidden abuse, narcissism & gaslighting, part 1 is ep. #028: Did You just Gaslight Me? *Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised.* We go over: // Hidden abuse, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, treated with unfair ways of shame & hurt either physically, spiritually, financially and litigation abuse. // Why those who have experienced trauma are feeling fine/better than most during this pandemic. // We recap what a narcissist is from a healthy one to the dark triad. // The nr:1 distinction you need to know between a healthy narcissist and a machiavellian one. // The sociopath next door, like in the Netflix series: ‘You’, and ‘Dirty John’. // The dangers of leaving a narcissist. // The differences between a male and female narcissist aka somatic, stepford wive traits and charm, power and control. // What makes a narcissist? // Why ‘friends/colleagues/family’ align with the Narcissistic abuser out of fear, not out of genuine connection. // Why narcissists are prevalent in positions of power. // Why won’t people leave their abusive partner? // Trauma bond aka Stockholm syndrome. // The oxytocin , epinephrine and adrenaline connection that happens each time the abuser gains any trust. // Why a secure person can become codependent in an abusive relationship. // Why it's so hard to prove that type of abuse in court when trying to divorce from a hidden abuser / narcissist. // You’ve built up the courage to leave, now what? // What are the sure signs at the beginning of dating that the person is toxic. Find Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & insta @shannonhigginslpc Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

How do we build an emotional connection when dating and keep our relationship on track in and out of the bedroom for years to come? We go over: // Perhaps you are open to a kiss but your mind goes “Does that mean he wants sex?” // How we can’t just rely on things just working out. // What damages a couple’s connection. // Emotional Focused (not Freedom) Therapy & A.R.E. you there by Dr Sue Johnson. // The difference between Sexual and physical intimacy. // Expecting sex vs intending to be close. // Sexual pressures for men. // Spontaneous and responsive sexual desires. // I give you a dirty talk resource to help you get your juices flowing again ;-) // How to build a connection with someone online now to prepare for when we come out of isolation? // Have big things you want to talk about with your partner but don’t know how? Dr Chelsea shows how to have a relationship business meeting & have a relationship agreement to make sure you’re on the same page and not drifting for years. // How do you express yourself without hurting or damaging someone else? Find Dr Chelsea: https://drchelseapage.com/ & Insta @drchelseapage Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Courtney answers some of your submissions to the question: What is the biggest challenge being cooped with your partner & how are you handling it?” Courtney Boyer went from being a strong Evangelical Christian (aka no sex before marriage) to a Sex Educator helping other women discover and owning their desires whether in a marriage or not. In this episode we discuss living together, how to date better and how to address issues that arise in our relationships. We go over: // Her journey where she had to reassess her whole belief system into helping other women discover and owning their desires. // What’s important in a partner, the mundane or how they feel about Trump? // You’re your kids teacher, you’re worried about the rent/mortgage, all those added responsibilities/worries can be sex killers, so how do we deal with this now? Courtney explains to us how to not let it consume us. // How to approach someone who’s homophobic? Is there anything we can do to open their minds? // How to cope when living with your partner 24/7 in these uncertain times. // What to do if you’re handling the pandemic differently to your partner. // Are rich people happier right now? Does space really matter for the quality of our love life when cohabitating? // How much do we need to talk things through with our partner? Is there such a thing as too much communication? // How to talk it through without killing the libido? // Bathroom etiquette. // How to get over the guilt when arguing with your partner? // You want to leave your partner but you’re in isolation, so now what? Find Courtney: https://www.steppingstonescoaching.net & social @thesteppingstonescoach Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

If you struggle in your relationships and ask for what you want (especially in bed) this episode’s for you! Colette Davenport dishes out her 4 step process to get you started. She has 20+ years experience helping others with their intimate relationships. We go over: // What’s an empath? // Why she was a call girl for 9 years? // How she became an intimacy coach for 25 years and what she helps her clients with. // Soul wound, sex and getting off. // Confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. Find Colette: https://www.colettedavenport.com & social @colettedavenport & YT @Badass Empath Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

How are we eating now? Have you lost your appetite or can’t stop eating? A candid chat about how Sarah and I are dealing with the situation, and the strategy we each took to be able to be there for others who need us. Oh, and she was a cop for 16 years! *Content note: this episode discusses eating disorders, discretion is advised.* We go over: // How is this new normal affecting how you eat? Are you worried you will eat all of your quarantine stach? // Are you exposed to other people’s anxieties whilst managing your own? That can have a compound effect that can feel really overwhelming. // Are you processing this more privately whilst others are purging their anxiety onto you via social media, text and whatsapp groups and you’re not sure how to handle their emotions? // What to do with all this time. // The flip side of having the internet. // My theory on why (a lot of) companies you work for don’t let you take more than 2 weeks off at a time. // Parallel processing. How to be there for others when you’re dealing with it too, especially if you’re working to keep the country running (all hospital employees, police, mailman, and many more). // Worry for your loved ones that you can’t visit. Find Sarah: https://thebingeeatingtherapist.com/ Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Are we empowering or disempowering our friends? How to set boundaries when someone’s support is disempowering you. From psychiatrist to business coach, Marianne combines mindset with practical tools to fast forward your trajectory and shares with us how we can be better friends to those who need our support. We go over: // EFT and THETA therapies. // How to process your emotions if you don’t want to cry in front of someone. // Different ways to be there for someone. // When texting is not your love language, how do you get the right support? // Judgement disguised as caring. // Having the moral high ground as a survival mechanism. // People who don’t want to be controlled and people who are afraid to loose control (ie: how we all react differently to fear). // The importance of having your feelings and then get unstuck. // When day drinking and lounging has its place. // Accept that people heal in stages, it’s part of our survival mechanism not to heal ALL at once. // Empathy vs compassion/ self-compassion vs sympathy // Our actions don’t define our worth . // How to be there for others and how love languages can help us support our friend. // How to set boundaries when someone’s support is disempowering you. // How to be your own best friend. // Her tips on how to thrive during self isolation. Find Marianne: https://www.mariannevandenbroek.com/ Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Today I talk about COVID-19, in a non-fearmongering way. I go over 12 steps for your immune system & mental health including actionable info on: 1. How to support and boost your immune system 2. The details they miss on handwashing 3. Tips when working from home and having a structure that supports you 4. Mental fatigue 5. How to shop for isolation 6. A guideline on how to relieve initial symptoms Followed by some good sources for facts and stats Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Nic Scholtysik, founder of a Home Worth Having, is a designer on a mission to help others create that home that is true to them and/or their families. We go over: // What we want and need and how that influences your home and sense of belonging. // What do we need to feel at home anywhere in the world? // How we can achieve that even on a budget. // Expat, immigrant, local, how do we all really feel? // Our home needs to change with us, as we grow and evolve as people, the reflection of ourselves will change too. So how does this all tie into being expat/immigrant or what Nic has renamed being a local, and having a sense of belonging. Tune in to see how. Find Nic: http://ahomeworthhaving.com & social @ahomeworthhaving Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Trending diets are a huge topic with so many levels to them, so today does not cover everything BUT it will give you some ammo next time someone is trying to push into a way of life that you may not feel is right for you and also empower you a bit more as what to consider when picking certain lifestyles. I back this up with: // Some science and where the “gurus’ fail us. // Give you some practical examples of how this looks like with real life examples. And if you're worried it’ll be boring science, don’t worry, you're getting: // Some ammo for those annoying friends trying to convince you to do the same diet as them. // The words snootch and topless do come up in the episode and yes it’s relevant... Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Have you been told you’re insecure, crazy and jealous,and started to doubt your own reality and sanity? Did they insult you and follow it up with “it’s only a joke, you’re too sensitive!“? Well then you’ll want to listen to this. Shannon Higgins, a Licensed Professional Counselor is herself a survivor to thriver of narcissistic abuse from her ex-husband, this took place well after she specialized in her field of abuse. This can truly happen to anyone. *Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised, if you experience any unease from this, please contact a local mental health helpline or a Trauma Trained Therapist* We go over: // What is a narcissist? There’s a spectrum, including the healthy kind. // What is gaslighting? // I read your submission of real life gaslighting stories both at the beginning & at the end of the episode. // You don’t have to have had a toxic childhood to be a target of gaslighting. // Not all gaslighters are narcissists, they can simply be toxic people but not actual narcissists. // Is gaslighting always intentional, even when parents do it? // How & why people become gaslighters. // How to deal with a gaslighting parent. // Complex PTSD. // Why we think it’s our fault when we’re being gaslighted. // The signs that you’re being gaslighted. // The Human Magnet & Trauma Bonding Syndromes. // Why gaslighters thrive on targeting successful people. // Abuse amnesia and cognitive dissonance. // The importance of not throwing the label out ‘just because’ someone doesn’t cater to our every whim or just isn’t a very good communicator as it invalidates those who really go through such a destructive ordeal of being emotionally abused and vilifies those who simply lack a skill but aren’t malicious. // The difference between pushing back because we are secure versus gaslighting. // Why some find it harder to ask and express what they need which in turns enables a toxic relationship. // What specialist therapies Shannon recommends if you suffered from an abusive relationship (be it intimate or from a parent). // It doesn’t always look like a big deal (but it is!) & why the outside world does not understand your situation and often blame the victim to be the instigator. For current therapies, you can look up a Trauma Trained Therapist that uses one or a combo of these therapies: // Brain Spotting is phenomenal and has long term benefits. // Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. // Somatic Experiencing Therapy. // EMDR. // Brainspotting. Shannon’s recommended resources: // "Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People" & "Whole Again" Jackson MacKenzie. // “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft. // "Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" Shannon Thomas, LCSW. // "The Empath's Survival Guide" Judith Orloff, M.D. // "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" George K. Simon, Ph.D. // "Shadow Daughter: A Memoir of Estrangement" Harriet Brown (about a daughter with a mom who has a personality disorder). // "Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists" Sandra Brown, M.A. // "The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden, Emotional and Psychological Abuse" Debbie Mirza. // "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" Pete Walker, M.A. // choosecourage.org Find Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & on insta at shannonhigginslpc Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Jordan the founder of Listen, Lucy was badly bullied at school and on social media and subsequently battled with mental health. This got her to start Listen, Lucy to help others & share what she’d learned, but the unexpected was feeling part of a community of peers who went through the same, got her and who were now all coming out of isolation. *Content note: this episode discusses anxiety and suicide prevention discretion is advised* We cover: // Comparison on social media. // Tools to manage your mental health when you can’t afford a therapist. // The difference between anxiety and panic disorders How depression, anxiety and panic attacks feel very much like a physical diseases, even if it’s emotional/the mind at the source of it. // What I mean by: Your emotions live in your body and how mental struggle can manifest in the body. Sore tummy or shoulders when stressed anyone? Well, so are panic attacks when you felt like your heart would beat out of your chest. // I talk about my experience with depression. // Empathy vs sympathy and how some people feed on your misery. // Isolation. // How besides the mark I find those glossy campaigns after a celeb suicide are and I give my version of what I feel would be a more relevant campaign. // How we all have mental health // When to bring up your mental health issues when dating. // How to prepare for motherhood when you have mental health issues. // Jordan bumping into her bullies as an adult. // I give a little shout out to Layla Martin, another inspirational woman and amazing testimony to the strength of human nature. // I share what drives me to do the podcast and my health coaching. // At the very end we find out why it’s called {Listen Lucy} and not {Listen Jordan}. She’s already on my favorite list - I hope you love her just as much as I do! Come find Jordan at www.ListenLucy.org Handle for all her socials @listenlucy Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com For mental health crisis helplines: UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk

Plans don’t always turn out, it doesn’t mean you’re less successful. In the spirit of “Where are they now” Melanie, my 3rd ever guest, talks about how her life took a turn since we last spoke and how showing up with the truth is helpful to those around us, in an age of highly curated social media feeds! As a recap, Melanie was adopted, a drug addict, teen-mom and twice divorced with major health issues due to her weight, she bounced back from it all and today she tells us how she learned to welcome the challenges and lessons 2019 brought on. Her book is Lady of Fire is available on Amazon. You can find her at http://www.melaniefrome.com & social @melaniefrome Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

When I asked in two FB groups: ”What are your thoughts on choosing to NOT have kids OR being on the fence?” I got 200 responses in under 30 minutes. I don’t know if I did the topic justice but the aim was to demonstrate alongside my guest Clarissa that everyone has the right to find their joy regardless where it comes from; kids or no kids and that choosing to have kids or not are both natural and both need to be respected. We cover: // The different reasons people choose to not have kids. // The reasons people don’t have kids such as infertility and why asking: “When are you going to have kids?” isn’t always welcomed. // When it’s ok and when it’s not, to ask someone if they want kids or why they don’t want them. // Not having kids does not mean we’re lacking or that something is wrong with us. // How to deal with intrusive or inquisitive questions around your situation of not having kids. // Why it’s even more pressure to have children when you’re married. // I read some of the submissions I received from men and women around this topic. // It’s ok for parents to mourn their life pre-kids, it doesn't make them bad or selfish parents. This conversation could go on for hours, there are so many more things we could have covered but this was a start, I hope this episode is beneficial! Find Clarisa on insta @ccr_sunshine & http://clarissastudio.com/ Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sex educator and counselor, and is on faculty for the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, Sexual Health Certificate Program. We cover: // Why context is king/queen when it comes to sex. // Painful orgams. // Pelvic floor health. // Pussy wisdom and how she always knows best. // How when you feel blue, she feels blue and why vaginal dryness isn’t always about menopause. // Is running bad for women? // Where to start if you’re shy in bed. // How to dirty talk, to guide your partner to your sweet spot. // How to rediscover your pleasure when it changes over time aka pleasure mapping. // Why your sex partner isn’t receptive to your needs. // When porn gets in the way of you desiring your partner. // How to get a man who’s in love with you and wants to care and protect you to still see you as someone with sexual needs aka how to get them to love you but still keep the passion alive. Come find UC at https://youseelogic.com & social @youseelogic Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Cindy Gallop’s Ted Talk: ‘Make Love, Not Porn’ got more than 2 Million views. She is on a mission to make this world a better, more peaceful and sexually liberated world and end rape culture. A force to be reckoned with, we get her take on: // Social sex, Porn Sex. // How to ask for what you want in bed. // Why communication is key. // How Cindy sees that educating society and openly talk about aspiring to Gold standards to what constitutes good sexual values and behaviour will stop Me Too, sexual abuse and violence. This in turn empowers girls everywhere and creates a happier world for everyone, including men. Find Cindy Gallop: https://makelovenotporn.tv & Twitter/FB @CindyGallop @MLNPTV Insta @socialsexrevolution Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

I cover safety in part one and fun dating tips in part two. Safety on the dating apps: // From your location on there to giving out your phone number. // How to filter out time wasters and those just after sex (if that’s not what you want). // Why I don't give out my number and what the alternatives are. // What to do before and during the date to stay safe. Fun part of dating: // How to deal with unwanted sexting when it’s new and you like the guy. // Unwanted goodnight kiss. // Sex. // When they temp check you. // Forgetting you already turned down the guy - true story! Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

First episode of the year, I’m giving men 20 tips that I sourced from a large group of women who I asked directly: “What dating tips would you give to your male friends?” Hope you enjoy it! Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

I’m VERY excited about this one as I get to share with you how I plan my year ahead so you don’t have to worry about the following months’ to do lists and it’s easily tweakable! Between Lynn and I, we give you a varied bag of tricks on how to plan 2020, Lynn the spiritual way, and me on the practical way. We go over: How to close year 2019 and move into 2020 with a refreshed perspective How to find out what you want to focus on next year What to do if you feel your year has been so crappy you don’t even know what you achieved and where to set the bar for next year How to set intentions and write manifestations for 2020 in a way that doesn’t get your into trouble Why your purpose and your job don’t always have to be connected... Once you know what lights you up and your goal, I talk you through in practical terms how to lay out your plan of action We also touch on money, our issues with it and how to get more of it. Come find Lynn at https://www.lynnnicholls.com/ & FB @Lynn Nicholls-Psychic Medium & Insta @lynn_nicholls Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

“Blood isn’t thicker than your sanity” quote by Lynn Nicholls. Going home for the holidays can be a minefield! Lynn is a psychic medium who talks to dead people, and I don’t! So together we give you a varied bag of tricks on how to deal with the holidays - the hopeful and the more cynical ways ;-) We go over: In the intro, I give you tips on what to do if you’re alone for xmas. How to prep yourself for the awkward questions like ‘how’s work?’, ‘are you still single?’, ‘why do you never have any money? How to face the uncomfortable stare down from family Xmas mental survival kit: Are you the “drama queen” in your family, too? Lynn has tips on how to no losing it, AGAIN, this year. Realising we’re all judging each other and what to do about it. How to deal with the loss of a loved one, and spend the first xmas without them. Lynn tells us how we can connect with them if we want to. Why, how you feel when you go home for xmas, is showing you why you keep attracting certain people in your life and feel a certain way in life. How to come back wiser and stronger. How to engage with family members whose life you don’t relate to [@ 40 minutes in]. Come find Lynn: https://www.lynnnicholls.com/ FB @Lynn Nicholls-Psychic Medium & Insta @lynn_nicholls Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Mistress Marley, also known as The Chocolate Domme, is a very confident professional Dominatrix, who followed her calling after being fed up of being subservient to men and feeling unfulfilled. She now mentors over 1000 other Black and Afro Latina dominatrixes to stay safe and make a living being Doms. She went viral not long ago, a sweet force to be reckoned with and one to watch! We go over: What exactly is a dominatrix and the different specialties within that such as FINDOM, Ebony Dom (white men subs to black doms which also centers around reparations), PRODOM and lifestyle Dom. How she got into the industry. How it’s been a therapeutic path for her and is now moving through the world with a newly gained confidence that commands respect. Consent and respect. The different kinks she specialises such as pegging, face sitting, arse worship, wax play, rope play, squirt play, feminisation, CBT, JOI, SPH, flogging, bondage, and many more. How to date with confidence and why she always lets the man pay. We also dive into her mindset when it comes to men. Does she even want to date after a day of being a Dom? The difference between dicriminalising and legalising sex work and her views on those. Come find Mistress Marley at thechocolatedomme.com & Twitter @eyesxonfire & Insta @thechocolatedomme_ & YT @thechocolatedomme Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com