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Trauma has impacted us deeply—especially here in the U.S., where the 2024 election brought new waves of confusion and fear for us as gay men. How do we heal from these experiences? Where do we find the strength to move forward? In this episode, I’m joined by fellow life coach and podcaster Wil Fisher to explore how healing ourselves creates ripples of healing for others and helps us rebuild our communities, even in the midst of chaos. Here’s what you’ll take away: Practical paths to self-healing and creating spaces of comfort and resilience One powerful phrase that could shift everything for you Tools for acceptance and conscious living, helping you move forward with strength and clarity. Let’s navigate this journey together and find light on the path ahead.

In life, we're all playing the role's of Maser and Slave. Don't cringe. It's true! You're the master of your destiny or a slave to everyone else's expectations. You're the slave to your job, or the master of finding balance between work and life. You're the slave to your fetishes, or the master of them. Today we take a provocative dive into the culture of Master and Slave Fetishes and expose how in our own live's we play these role in every day existence. During this provocative episode with Confidence and Kink Coach Philip Poole, you'll learn: How to leverage the power exchange in aspect of your life to be more fulfilled Discover ways to embrace the truth of being in the kink space without shame Three powerful questions validating any direction you choose to take in life

To be queer is an affirming move. Yet, it takes a lot of coming to terms with our queer selves and knowing how to hold ourselves in our highest self-esteem. Whether it is about being sex positive, owning your non-monogamy, or simply affirming your way of being the LGBTQ+ space as a Christ believer, you get to determine how to be and do you as a queer person. Ann Russo joins us today to talk all aspects of queer affirming therapy, and how to be your queer self as a gay man over 40. Her professional insights as a mental health professional who specializes in sex positivity, queer issues, religious trauma are worth a listen guys. And it doesn't hurt that she was rasied by two gay men! In this provocative episode we: Explore sex positivity and how to own it your way Define what queer affirming therapy is and how to use it for personal growth Dip our toes into the ever controversial monogamy, non-monogamy aspect of being queer

It's November 1st. 5 Days before the most consequential election in U.S. history in my lifetime. To be honest, I'm nervous and concerned, but I am also a believer in that whatever happens our LGBTQ+ community will rise to the occasion. It's time to walk in the footprints of all those beautiful ancestral colors of the rainbow who have marched before us and ensure, that whatever comes in the days ahead that we meet the moment as out, proud, gay men and never let them see us back down.

Ah. The pursuit of love. We all want it, whether it is for a lifetime or point in time. Yet, as gay men we often lose our minds and ourselves in the pursuit of love with another man and then we wonder WTF! We're did i go wrong, why is this happening to me, blah, blah, blah. Here's your wake up call guys. Todd Baratz, author of, "How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind," get raw, real, and lays it on the line how to get the love you want and keep your sanity. In this episode you'll: Learn the one area of relationships were are never taught how to do Uncover why finding love isn't a "rescue mission" Discover how to take the "D-word (desperate)" out of your bag of tricks for finding love

It's a charged world these days. From politics to religion. Even in our own gay world. It seems that from the apps to even in person meetings, we throw shade at each other without exercising empathy and understanding. Yet what happens when you to take a second look? When we slow down and exercise empathy and understanding, rather than staying in your apathetic ways of being in your beliefs and only your beliefs? That's what we're exploring today with the host of Second Sunday podcast, Darren Calhoun. He's an open-minded explorer teaching how we can all be more open and understanding to one another from the pulpit to the ballot box. In this provocative episode: We explore apathy and empathy and how to become more of the latter Learn how to utilize the pause in all situations Uncover the means for seeing each other as gay men for who we truly are

It's National Coming Out Day. A day we celebrate coming out and being our authentic self. Today is also a day that I am calling all gay men, LGBTQ+ individuals, and allies to come out and vote as if your rights depend on it - because they do. I'm passionate about supporting people coming out and passionate about getting out to vote and here's my take on making both happen.

Fact: We're all sexual beings. Fact: That doesn't mean we all approach sex and our sexual fantasies the same way. Fact: Just because you are a gay or bisexual man, doesn't mean how you do sex and own your sexuality has to fit into a societal expectation box. Instead, heed the calling from KK Homme - produced by founder Emma Sayle - and release yourself into an inclusive space and that challenges outdated stereotypes. Get comfortable in an environment where issues related to sex, relationships, equitable pleasure are expected and respected to uplift gay and bisexual men. Welcome to the party of all that can be, whatever you desire it to be for you. You could even win tickets to the flagship event - October 19 - London, UK. This provocative episode: Addresses sexual desires without shame Teaches you how to mix friendship with sexual pleasure with confidence Invites you to explore your truth as a sexual being - however that looks for you

For most men, especially many gay men, the size of their penis is directly related to their confidence. Whether it be the length or girth, many gay men allow there manhood to rule their world. No judgment, just speaking the truth. If you are a guy who struggles to love your penis, in a healthy way, Dr. Joel Pash shares how girth enhancement, might be an avenue for you to explore to bring you more confidence in your manhood. In this educational episode, we explore: How to embrace your penis size and love what you have A procedure you can have - safely - to enhance the girth of your penis The benefits of having more girth if that is what you desire

Gay men. They are all about sex, raunchy sex, and lust. Wait, hold that thought. Not always true. Yet, many gay men find connection in sex, raunchy sex, and lust - and that's ok, if that is there way to show up in the world. Everyone has a right to be themselves in the world provided it is not hurting someone else. Even if that means frequenting bathhouses and sex clubs to create those connections and to find your people. Debut author, Jin De Luong, shares his new book Naked Love Berlin - a frank, frisky, and proud, this provocative debut celebrates sexual freedom as it surveys the lives of four gay and bisexual men in Berlin amidst break-ups, deaths in the family, and pregnancy scares. Showcasing the importance of sexual freedom and connection, this provocative episode: Showcases how you create connections without sex, sex, sex - or with it if you choose Teaches you how to embraces the freedom of being a sexual being The love of what you desired to become as a child can turn into your passion if you let it

As gay men, there are monsters in our closets that are frightening and the comical. For most of us the monster of coming out is one that terrifies and terrified us the most. Capturing the essence of that journey, in comic book form, Author Mark Julien joins us to share about his desires to use his creativity to help us discover the nurturing power of love, and the belief in one's self, can act as a catalyst for healing and self-acceptance in his new graphic novel - Becoming Abel. Showcasing the importance of self-acceptance, this episode covers: Ways to activate self-care and self-love Candidly discusses the power of mental health therapy How the love of what you do can be the catalyst for being a beacon of light in the world

Erotic. Pleasure. Being authentically yourself as a sexual being. Some would have us shamed into oblivion for thinking that we deserve to be, being of pleasure. Not today. Joining me is today, erotic and pleasure expert - Ayce Kyptyn. Bringing his full trans masculine gay self to the conversation, Ayce shares his journey to his truth and how it brought him the pleasure of becoming an erotic expert to help individuals enjoy the pleasure of human pleasure. In this episode... Learn why erotic pleasure is so important to our essence as gay men Discover how to lose the shame about sexual pleasure Enjoy Ayce's forthright insights as a gay, transman on sexuality, gender, and erotic pleasure

Sex and religion. For many, especially gay men, and even more so for gay men who are religious leaders, the thought of erotic pleasure is a "No, no!" Really? Why is that and who made it that way? Exploring the concept that we are all erotic and spiritual beings who desire pleasure, turns the tables on this kind of archaic thinking. You can be erotic, sexual, have desires, and seek pleasure while still holding sacred your relationship with your faith and God. Repeat Guest Craig Cullinane, coach and Body Electric facilitator, guides us to find the intersectionality of sex and faith in this provocative conversation. In this episode: Learn how to make sex a sacred experience Uncover techniques for releasing religious shame around sex and sexuality Discover how opening the door to erotic pleasure can positively impact all areas of your life

Throughout history, all we have heard as gay men is that being gay is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Yet, we often ask ourselves, "How can we be wrong?" Debut author Max Austin, shares his insights about his life in the '90s amongst the HIV/AIDS crisis and the shame, vile bullying he experienced as a nurse, which led him to constantly ask the question that is the title of his book, "How can we be wrong? In this episode: Learn the horrible bullying the HIV/AIDs crisis brought on our gay brothers and caretakers Uncover how to have the resilience regardless of the battle as a gay man The most important things to do to keep our dignity as gay men in a world of hate

Daily life is a culmination, in the moment, of all the history that has preceded our lives. For gay men, there is such a rich history of gay men and others in our LGBTQ history that have brought us to these moments. And, as gay men we need to be the flag bearers of continuing to make history for the generations to come. Joining me today is Journalist and author Eric Marcus, founder and host of the award-winning Making Gay History podcast, to discuss our history and our history making that is yet to come as we 40+ gay men continue to fight the good fight for our rights. In this episode... Learn some history lessons of what brought us here as an LGBTQ community Discover how you can best continue to be a light in the world as a gay man Enjoy the Eric's journey in bringing Making Gay History to life

Career, money, success, and rising above our circumstances. There's not to many gay men who have pursued these goals. But what happens when you struggle to get there? Do you give up? Telling us not to give up, Luis Baez, a kick as Sales Coach shares his story of rising out of poverty and his journey to find the career he loves and the lessons he's learned along the way that can help you as a gay man find your path - no fears, no excuses, no apologies. In this episode you'll learn Big mistakes not to make when you decide to go out on your own How to leverage your past to inform your future career goals Discover what to do with that ego when it gets in the way of your dreams

The pursuit of peace-of-mind, serenity, of "Can this crazy life just let me breathe?" As gay men this is the hamster wheel that we struggle with from the time we realize we are gay, to present day - the pursuit of peace. But what changes when we have the tools to slay the "everything, everywhere, all at once" dragons in our lives? We learn to activate mindfulness, choice, and embracing we can only control what we can control. Joining me once again for a lively, fun, and thoughtful discussion is Dr. Wade Maggert, a very astute and insightful Psychologist. In this episode we... Help you identify how to define peace-of-mind for yourself Guide you through some of our own truths to how we developed peace Give you a five step guide for uncovering peace - don't miss this from Dr. Wade

As gay men, we know that many have paved the way for us to enjoy our lives as they are today. But the fight isn't over, and it's always humbling and inspiring to revisit history and the arts that got us here. Today we are joined by writer Christopher Adams who invites to revisit, the re-release of Fritz Peter's Finistère a trailblazing, 1951 published LGBTQ+ novel that is more than just a commentary on homosexuality and forbidden love. It highlights culture clash, class conflict, divorce, child-rearing, and the gaps in the struggle of homosexuality that can provoke life’s greatest pains. As such, Finistère is a transcendent novel that outlasts its historical moment and will appeal to all lovers of great literature. In this episode: Review how the past gay life informs our present gay life Uncover how the struggles have not really changed that much Compare the resilience of the 1950's with the resilience we need today

As a 40+ gay man, he's now living his most authentic life being the ANKRBOY he'd never dreamed hed be in this way. During the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, his life and career was shattered because of one innocent move out in public. But that didn't stop him from rising to the top of his now delicioous 40+ gay life. Joining us today on the podcast is three-time Emmy® award-winning anchorman and best-selling author - ANKRBOY - turned actor, Mark Pettit, to share his journey of coming into being himself in a world hellbent on telling him he would never work again because of his sexuality. In this episode you'll Hear the moments that most impacted Mark's life to help him live his truth Unlock hatred that existed and still exists towards the LGBTQ+ community Learn how live your truth, anything is possible

From finding himself on the streets at a young age to thriving in the military, this former Boy Scout found his wings, gave back to his country, and literally and figuratively learned the power of finding his own gay wings to thrive beyond the chains of sexual abuse victimhood. You're invitied into an intimate conversation where Ron Hunter, author of Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love, shares himself, his story, and his wisdom for thriving beyond your circumstances. Learn how... His will to trust finally got reawakened The ability to go beyond is within each of us Loving yourself is the key to getting your own wings to fly

Yes sir, I'm a farm boy. Yes sir, I'm ready to serve my country. No sir, I'm not gay or do drag - but your not supposed to ask and I'm not supposed to tell. Taking us on his journey to stand up for who he is, virgin author, Jay Claypool shares his life and story about growing up on a rural farm in Georgia and keeping his life as a gay man and drag performer hidden through the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" years. Learn how... His strong conviction to himself kept him going Authenticity has helped him know who he is as a human Uncover his motto of giving people their human rights

Is gay romance dead? Do you feel like no gay man has a romantic bone left in his body? Well grab your beach chair, your Speedo, and sunscreen and get ready for your next summer read. Steamy, passionate, and full of sizzling romance, author C. Travis Rice (Christopher Rice) shows how ghosts of gay men's past can lead to an happy ending. In this candid, heart centered interview, Christopher shares how and where he gets in inspiration as well as digs deeper into the heart of who we are as gay men and how we need our elders and each other in such a deeper way, now more than ever to support our community. In this episode you'll Learn about Christopher's sparks of inspiration for his books Hear his heart-felt philosophy and how we can better embrace one another in the gay community Understand how our "healthy gay aging generation" is sparking romance as a desire in relationships

Happy Pride. That's what today's guest said over the pounding beat of his DJing life for many years. The thrill, the fun, the drugs, the sex. It all made him feel desired and alive...so to speak, until it didn't. Then he woke to the truth that to be desired and loved, he had to do that to and for himself. Dr. Wade Maggert, brings his Buddhist sensibilities and practical awakened self to this candid conversation about his life, then and now, and shares how during this Pride Season, you can find yourself when you simply look within.

From the moment he was a young man, he knew, and was taught - no one is going to hand you anything and you have to go out and get it yourself. And as a Jamaican-American man that is exactly what he did. He's gone out and fiercely pursued his dreams and lived his life authentically. Author and Fashion Designer, Kadeem Alphanso Fyffe shares is thoughts on how you stay and the game of your life to create your own way into your destiny as a gay man. In this episode you'll discover... How his toughest challenges brought him to is greatest strengths The one phrase that always moves him from failure to success What one thing you must do every day to feel fulfilled

There's a stereotype about gay men that all we want is sex, partying, and drugs. For some that might be true. For others we just enjoy the occasional dip into that space. But what happens when navigating the drinking, drug, partying way of being becomes blurred and we don't realize that we're on the verge of addiction? Joining me today to unpack this question is Michael Pezzullo, licensed Marriage and Family therapist, known as The Weho Therapist. We have a candid and supportive conversation about navigating sex, drugs, and alcohol during this pride season.

Men, muscle and masculinity. It seems to be that constant tug-of-war in our male psyche. Then add to the mix being gay, and suddenly we're a mess. Whether you're a muscle chaser, worshipper, or it's not your thing, there is that swole that happens in your loins when you feast upon a man, regardless of how you land on the muscle spectrum. Taking a deep dive into muscle, men, and masculinity, virgin, first-time author Michal Andor Brodeur helps us kick off Pride Season with the question - is that a muscle or are you just happy to see me - LOL. Enjoy!

We go to the gym, watch what we eat, many of us use condoms for safer sex experiences, yet one area we don't concern ourselves with - so to speak is our butt health. Sure we know about prostate cancer and the such, but when was the last time you ask your Doctor about the health of your butt. Starting today, we make butt health a priority - and it has nothing to do with having sex with men. It actually has everything to do with a better understanding of how and what butt (anal) cancer is and how it starts, and what you can do to prevent it. Dr. Gary Bucher a leader in clinical care for all things anal and perianal precancerm talks candidly about what you should be doing to prevent cancer in your bum. In this episode we discuss: The high risk groups for anal cancer Practices you should implement to ensure you butt stays healthy The three leading screenings every man and woman should have to catch anal cancer early Bottoms up boys and let's talk about our butts!

Passion, passion, passion. I just want to find my passion. Yup! Don't we all. But for gay men, this desire is a consistent rumbling that often leaves us high and dry with no passion to make us fill fulfilled. Well, today we're going to debunk the pursuit of passion and ask you to instead get curious. Inspired by Elizabeth Gilbert of Eat, Pray, Love fame and her talk on Curiosity, I decided to bring my gay guys version to this podcast for you chew on as you pursue your endless passions and see where it takes you.

We want that gym body, but as gay men, it can be intimidating to get to the gym or just a frickin drag. Yet, if we gave ourselves some love and confidence and got to the heart and soul of that dread, we can move mountains and have a loving relationship with fitness, health, and our bodies. Author and personal trainer Matt Boyles shares how you can build your own Fitter Confident YOUNIVERSE!

Today we are going to church to talk about being Christian, Gay, and a Drag Queen. And who better to discuss this topic then Jeza Belle, author of Jeza's Jesus Juice: A Drag Queens Christian Devotional. She proves you can be Christian, gay, and a Drag Queen. Hallelujah!

He may be an actor, broadway star, and producer, but that doesn't mean he is immune from the every day challenges of love, fame, and loss. In this candid interview, Kevin Spirtas shares insights of being a gay man in limelight and how he learned to unhide himself.

Can we just talk about gay generation gaps? Why is it that the Millenials and Gen Z's have no time for the generations that paved the way for them to be so out and proud? Well rather than pointing fingers and being bitchy, let's enjoy stories and insights from a Late Bloomer, Baby Boomer, Author Steve Milliken who shares his book by the same name today on the podcast.

We all make mistakes. For some of us those mistakes are harder than others to live with, especially when that mistake will follow us for life. From his own sexual abuse at a young age, to his porn addiction, to being arrested and having to now carry the weight of being a registered offender, Allen Scott is healing and growing into the man he is meant to be - a gay man with a past that isn't getting to hold him back. This is a powerful conversation about pornography, sexual abuse and may be disturbing to listen to but I'm inviting my listeners to have an open mind and realize forgiveness is the way.

Feeling a heard is one of the most critical mental health pills we can pop as humans. Yet, a growing number of people in society have no one to listen to them - especially gay men. Helping fill the void of loneliness and not being heard, Adam Lippin, founder of HearMe.app provides a solution for the world and especially gay men to have a listening ear and to be heard.

He's 40+. He's thriving. He's still tackling the monsters under his own bed. But, he's thrilled to be the gay man, artist, and creative he is, because he loves and accepts himself exactly for who he is. Gregory G. Allen, ward-winning author, screenwriter, filmmaker and actor candidly shares what he's learned about being a gay man since his coming out at 19 and moving straight to the big Apple. This is an inspiring candid conversation about all the monsters of our life and how to overcome them.

It's happening and you can't avoid it. You're going to age, and go gray, even as a gay man. Ok some of you may not go gray but we are all headed down the pathway of aging as gay man, but that doesn't have to be a death sentence. Here's my take on how to be Gay and Gray and embrace it with joy!

Feeling a sense of belonging as gay men is one of the things we struggle with the most. Using his book - Creating Belonging: A Practical Guide to Accelerate Belonging in Organizations and Communities - Justin Reinert shares how we as gay men can create a better sense of belonging for ourselves and others.

Breakups suck, and anyone who tells you otherwise is kidding themselves. But, they don't have to be the thing you cling onto forever. Whether the break up is one sided, mutual, you can move on with love and understanding if you follow these 10 steps.

We've all felt like we've had "senior moments!" Yet most are actually preventable. Helping guide as aging gay men to embrace our age and our real senior moments id Stan Goldberg - ally to the LGBTQ community who guides us on how to Prevent our Senior Moments as he shares his book by the same name - Preventing Senior Moments: How To Stay Alert Into Your 90's and Beyond.

Here we are. Almost the end of February, and what have you done this year to be happier and more productive as a gay man? Nothing? Or are you stuck in the hamster wheel of, "I'll get to it next week!" Take 20 minutes and listen to my thoughts on 10 Things You Can Do - Right Now - to get over your bullshit and be happier.

How do you do an open relationship? Should you do an open relationship? Why do gay men consider open relationships? These and many other questions are answered today with open relationship expert Dr. Joli Hamilton who uncomplicates the complicated.

From Mormon Missionary to Med Student to Porn Start Empire Owner, Legrand Wolf believes that the more we normalize the world of porn and adult entertainment and all if it's fantasies and fetishes, the more we help the planet be more accepting of the LGBTQ+ individuals. Listen to this captivating conversation and even if you are not a fan of porn, you're sure to gain wisdom from the insights that Legrand shares. It's time to stop shaming sex, sex workers, and the adult entertainment industry.

Instead of shaming sex and erotic pleasure, what if we as gay men embraced it as a conscious way of being present in our lives. Of, celebrating the truth of who we are at our core - sexual, erotic beings, who delight in the power of pleasure with joy. The world would be a different more loving, empathetic, and joyful place to live. Craig Cullinane, facilitator with Body Electric School, shares the organizations 40 years of wisdom for bring conscious pleasure into our lives and the monumental benefits of becoming pleasure activists.

Being out and proud is one of the most freeing and liberating experiences a gay man can experience. But, what if you work in a heteronormative, uber masculine industry like construction? How out can you be? Well today's guest says, "As out as you choose to be!" Tommy Whitehead is a licensed contractor and runs his own construction company - as a gay man, gay dad, and husband - and he's doing just fine in this masculine dominated industry. Listen to how he does it.

As gay men, we get in our own way. Yes, all the time. Yes! And, then we wonder why it is so messy, messy, messy. In his new, social media personalty MJ Harris, guides us as gay men to GET THE F*CK OUT YOUR OWN WAY: A Guide to Letting Go of the Sh*t that’s Holding You Back. Hope you enjoy the value bombs he drops today.

Maintaining our health as gay men is a matrix. From erectile dysfunction, to weight loss, cardio health, and everything in between, it can be a complex journey to optimal health. Yet, what can happen when we engage beyond the normally prescribed medical protocols and guidance to lean into our optimal health? Sean Fitzgerald, a leading Hormone and Wellness Specialist, joins us today to talk about the matrix of alternative medicines for living our best physical health.

It's the new year. And in this new year what would happen if you made integrity, and not just integirty, but you committed to living a life of radical integrity, "What might be different?" Author, soul coach, and body-centered therapist River Faire shares how his life of radical integrity has changed his life for the better and how you can do the same too.

This is not a New Year's Resolution podcast. It is a come to Jesus podcast with you and yourself. But first, Happy New Year. Now that we have that out of the way, what are you willing to do this coming year, for you, to make you better, happier, more successful, more content? It all starts with you and here's some tools to get you started for 2024!

Just because you are gay and over 40 doesn't mean your sex life or your erections are dead. However, understanding your nocturnal erections, can lead to better sexual health and greater pleasure in the bedroom...at any age. CEO and Founder of Firm Tech, Dr. Elliot Justin, joins us today to talk a revolutionary product - cock ring - that is enhancing your health and sexual pleasure for many years to come...no pun intended.

You're a guy over 40 and Mr. Man still is elusive. You've tried online dating, hooking-up, going to the bars, and putting yourself out there and you still are single and about ready to give up on being ready to mingle. Don't give up. Get matched. Leading LGBTQ Matchmkaker Tammy Shaklee gives great advice on how to find the caliber of man you seek that is your equal when you collaborate with a professional Matchmaker. Let the love games begin.

Here it is guys...the holiday season. No better time to lose our minds and think we have to do everything. But what if we didn't. What if we did what we wanted to do, instead of what everyone else expects from us this holiday season? It might just be manageable. Here's my holiday sanity thoughts for you. Happy Holiday Season!

Have you ever found yourself wishing you could make yourself a priority instead of making everyone else the focus of your life. Or maybe you just can't find the way to give yourself unconditional love. Today's guest, Warren Augustin, has found the pathway to both these things so that he could transform his life and let go of sacrificing himself and feeling hopeless. Learn his 4-Step Process find himself and giving himself the love he deserves.

You come in your gay life and being a parent is dream. Or maybe you have kids from a previous heterosexual relationship and then your gay life brings a whole new dimension to the situation. Regardless, parenting is a joy and work but what you might not be prepared for is the maturing that you have to go through when the next becomes empty. My dear friend Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld joins me today for a candid conversation about doing empty nesting from the inside out and outside in.

Imagine growing up in poverty and the only thing you really had in common with your Dad was that you were drinking buddies! Now imagine you stepped beyond that chaotic past, the repression of it all, and found a group of people - the queer community - who gave you the power to accept yourself. That's where you released the resentment, discovered gratitude and humility. Tate Barkley, shares his story and his new book Sunday Dinners, Moonshine, and Men.

Gay men hide many secrets. It's what we've been trained to do...hide, hide, hide. Yet, this practice becomes harmful the more we do it. It's time to stop the hiding and have a candid conversation about Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse. In his novel, "Nothing Can Tear Us Apart - Shattered," Wyatt confronts head on this epidemic that is prevalent in the LGBTQ+ community and rarely talked about...until today.

As gay men we never grow up. Really? So what is wrong with that and wanting to live our youth as long as we can. And, what's wrong with growing older and wiser. In this candid conversation with one my listeners, Kenny Bramlett-Martin, we explore the joy of dipping back into our youth and learning to embrace and enjoy ourselves at any age as gay men.

He spent most his life living based on a past that held him hostage. From being an Evangelical migrant to uncovering hist truth as a gay man, Victor Diaz shares is moving story of breaking free from religious bondage, and how be began to embrace self-love, to find peace and joy being his true self after 40+ years on the planet.

It's national coming out day. A time for remembrance, celebration, and allowing each and every person to come out of the closet their own way and on their on time. Let's reflect, support, and celebrate each other today.

You're a guy over 40 and suddenly a younger gay guy calls you "Daddy!" Wait, "What?" Do you take offense, embrace it, or find a path somewhere in between? To answer that question and to navigate the world of being in the Daddy Thirst Trap, fellow gay life coach Kevin Kasir joins to bring his millennial generational perspective to my baby boomer generational perspective as a Daddy bear and see where this takes us.

As gay men we grow up being told not to be seen, to heard, and to be understood. Taking a page, or actually a few pages from those experiences, Author and Coach Ed Wilson beautifully illustrates some of life's most poignant and challenging thoughts as a gay man in his new beautifully illustrated book "A Gay Man!" The story unfolds from birth to our elder years, inviting us to embrace the beauty of who we are - Gay Men - no fears, no excuses, no apologies. This candid conversation explore many of those moments and more.

From an early age he knew he was different, and that never stopped him from being who he is as a gay man. He continues to let his gay light come out of the closet while also staying very true to how he lives his life on his terms as a gay man in everything from his work to his relationship with his man. He never gave up hope. Dr. Roger Leslie shares a candid side of doing life on your terms as a gay guy over 40.

It's time to drop the shame around what shames us and let our KINKS fly, even if that means you want to be who you are in the boardroom. English Leather Master Matthew Bennett shares how you can be who you are in all aspects of life and not let your Kinks and Fetishes hold you back from being a powerful gay man, in and out of the bedroom.

From an HIV diagnosis, to surviving narcissistic relationships, Grant Miller has found the best path through obstacles and boulders of life is simply through and around them. Sharing his insights of living his gay life to the fullest, Grant shares truths that will help you see you are not alone and you can thrive, even in the worst of times. Plus, he talks about his debut, gay science fiction book, Life-Line: Origins.

If you've ever felt betrayed,or traumatized in your journey as a gay man, this episode is for you. Jason (Jay) Galvez, a Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach guides us through powerful insights for releasing the trauma of betrayal and finding ways to be at peace.

Imagine losing yourself and finding yourself. But what you lost came and found you in the most unique way. Kendall and Corey Stulce share a unique story of Kendall finding himself and his family of origin, and how adoption and rediscovering his roots impacted his life as a gay man.

What can we learn from those that have passed on? Whether it be a pet, a family member, or even a spouses former partner, if we tune in to the essence of those who are no longer with us, we might just learn something about living life now. Author Rob Gutro shares his unique gift of hearing the messages from beyond in today's podcast.

It hits. The big 4-0, and then something even worse happens and no one can quite believe how that happened to you, and when it happened to you on your 40th birthday. (You'll have to listen to the podcast and read the book to discover what). From that moment on you realize, you are on your own, that pole dancing and rock climbing aren't for you, and that you don't need the love of another to love yourself. Wiser words were never said than by today's guest, author Jonathan Lee. Explore his new book, 40 Single Gay, and the lessons he's learned that will make you realize...you're not alone.

Finding yourself, reaching deep into the essence of who you are as a gay man, is a lifelong journey. Yet, with the right tools and guidance, your journey can be enhanced, and discoveries of clarity and consciousness can be achieved, sooner rather than later. Rob Grover and Gary Logan, founders of The Journeymen Collective share how they as a couple have found a new path to living life to its fullest while guiding others in their quest using guided magic mushroom and other psilocybin experiences to open the doorways to a whole new way of being in the world.

You reach a point in life where you realize that you gotta be how you want to be, and do what ya gotta do. For over 30 years Bob Bolyard, a.k.a. as Amber LeMay has been providing entertainment, support, and raising money, not just for the LGBTQ+ community but in the world at large, and nothing is going to stop him/her. Join us for a fun conversation about letting yourself be yourself in the world, even as a gay guy over 40.

If you are tired of not living your dreams as a gay man, maybe you aren't activating them on a regular basis. Producer, songwriter, Founder of The Gray Rainbow Foundation, and soon to be bar owner, Michael Crawford shares his journey to living his best life as a gay man following his passion, purpose, and dreams.

Nothing says guilt, shame, and anxiety than being a gay man who had to hide who you are for years - regardless of how many years you've hid your truth. And, it doesn't matter what that truth is - lack of confidence, fear of coming out, trusting you can get that promotion, or even wanting to be in a monogamous relationship. Our socialized DNA can play havoc in our gay/bi/trans lives as men. Today Dr. Nick Santo - Psychotherapist - and I share our journeys to overcoming guilt, shame, anxiety, and depression and provide you with tips for doing the same.

If you find yourself often hiding yourself, then now's the time to stop doing that. Writer, screenwriter, film producer Bill Robertson shares his journey as a gay man, and how he learned the value of never stopping being yourself. He also shares about his new book, Uncle Bill's Animal Tales: Life Lessons For Adults.

From an early age he knew he was different, and that never stopped him from being who he is as a gay man. He continues to let his gay light come out of the closet while also staying very true to how he lives his life on his terms as a gay man in everything from his work to his relationship with his man. He never gave up hope. Dr. Roger Leslie shares a candid side of doing life on your terms as a gay guy over 40.

Many gay men, navigate the inevitable question of "How do I show up at work, and as a leader, while still being true to myself as a gay man?" The answer, "Your way, on your terms!" Jim Fielding, author of ALL PRIDE, NO EGO: A Queer Executive’s Journey to Living and Leading Authentically, shares his dynamic career journey that has spanned senior leadership roles at top global brands including Disney, DreamWorks, and Twentieth Century Fox. He recounts his journey from conservative Midwestern roots and a lovingly imperfect family to higher education, travel, advocacy, and ultimately owning his truth -- seeing the world through a distinctly different lens.

Moving right along in PRIDE Month, we take the letter "D" in PRIDE and explore the Dignity, Dedication, and Daring it takes today and every day to stay the course as gay men in a straight man's world. Hold the course gents. We've got this as long as we are willing to stay the course and show up in the world daring all the naysayers to say we don't belong.

We continue the PRIDE Celebration focusing on the Letter "I" in pride by exploring how to illuminate, inspire, and ignite ourselves into the world to live fully as gay men - no fears, no excuses, and no apologies. Happy pride! Make sure you show your pride by illuminating your brilliance, inspiring others to do the same, and igniting powerful change in the world.

Continuing our PRIDE Month Celebration, we take the Letter "R" in pride and unravel the significance of being resilient, remarkable, and reconnecting the the heart and soul of who we are as gay men. Happy Pride gents!

It's pride month and all this month we are waving our flags and celebrating you - gay men and the PRIDE it takes to be a gay man in our society. Today we kick off the month by look at the Letter "P" in PRIDE and the Purpose, Passion, and Path coming out and being gay has set us on to be a beautiful light and force in the world. Happy Pride gentlemen.

So many gay men struggle to find their passion, purpose, and to be happy. But, why? It's actually quite simple. They do nothing. They try a little, don't get the quick fix, and then give up. Harker Jones has never given up, but that's not the only reason he has constantly lived in his passion. Today he reveals the other stuff he has done to stay in his creative passions, even as a gay guy over 40.

Our gay culture has labels for everything - Twink, Side, Daddy, Top, Otter and even Bears - Oh My. Yet, we often allow these labels to hold us back from believing we don't fit in, and even worse that we shouldn't love ourselves - just as we are. This candid conversation with Jon Fischer (Coach Cub) explores the Bear Culture and how we can be more accepting of ourselves and others in our community - regardless of the age or labels.

If the polarization in America, and across the globe has taught us anything, it is empathy and understanding goes along way. Yet, we don't seem to practice this very well in our gay culture. It's time guys to give each other a break and quit being so judgemental. Accept each other as we are and move forward. Here's some lessons of acceptance, empathy, and compassion.

The battle of the bulge. It confronts you everytime you sit down to eat, sneak that snack, look in the mirror - if you even look in the mirror, and all you can think is "What's the point?" The point is YOU. You are worthing of being your best self in a way that aligns with you - if you Dare. Joining me today is Jarrod Bruce Lee, founder and CEO of The Daring Academy (for gay men) - helping gay men 35+ overcome body-shame, and build incredible, fit and strong bodies - no matter their age, genes or experience. Guys, this is truly worth a listen if you are ready to take those small but important steps towards better health as a gay guy over 40.

Instead of embracing our deeper selves as gay men, we often allow our "rejectionist mentality" to show up and turn that dimmer switch down on our life. But what would happen if you put on your drag face and became fierce to willfully live out loud as a gay man over 40. Guiding us with a open-hearted conversation about being vulnerable and allowing your shame and rejection die so that you can step into you - whether through 1:1 work or group retreats. Are you ready to dive into to your deepest self? Let's go there.

If you are tired of shoving your sexual curiosity into the closet, then today's podcast is for you. No more need for shame around being a sexualy, erotic, intimate being. Those are all elements of who we are as human beings and those beautiful characteristics show up for all of us in different ways. Guiding us to step out of our boxes of sex, intimacy and the erotic, Certified Sex and Intimacy Coach Court Vox invites all parts of our sexual selves to the table for a delicious buffet of being sexual human beings, regardless of age, race, gender, or sexual orientation.

If you don't bank on yourself, nobody else will. That's just a life truth. We put so much effort getting others to love, trust, like, and support us, but if you ignore the beautiful bank account of you you are destined to fail and be miserable. Let's course correct that starting today. BANK ON YOU!

Sex, queer, and Christian. For some people those three just don't go together. However, if we are made in the image of God, does that mean...??? Unraveling this interesting construct of Christianity, Sexuality, and Sex, is Jon Carl Lewis, founder of Sex and The Queer Christian community. In this candid conversation we discuss this interesting triad and how as humans we simply need to allow ourselves to be our sexy, sexual, God made selves.

For most gay guys, especially once you hit your 40's, you're looking to date and hopefully mate. Yet, it can be so exhausting and discouraging unless you learn to date with dignity and not from a place of drudgery. Here's some tips for getting there and loving yourself along the way.

One of the hardest things to do as a gay guy over 40 is to accept that you are a gay guy over 40. Then add the battle of the bulge, the changing "what you can eat without putting on the pounds," and suddenly life SUCKS! Here' to guide us through some Over 40 Fitness hacks, is fellow podcaster Brad Williams, host of the Over 40 Fitness Hacks Podcast

Imagine that you have waiting all these years to finally be yourself. Over 50+ years to truthful. Finally the day comes and you feel alive and finally on your way. But wait, the universe had another road for you to tow. But does that stop you? Maybe, but as today's guest shares, avid listener John MacDonald, you're never too old to go for being your most authentic self, regardless of what roadblocks get thrown your way.

Making your way through life as a gay man can be challenging. Then finding the right support whether that be for your mental, physical, or spiritual health can be even more challenging. Realizing this was a common issue for so many gay men, Peter DeWitt, founded Gay Wellness - a one-stop hub for finding therapists, coaches, yoga, masseurs, and much, much, more, all geared towards gay men and their unique needs. Today Peter shares his story of helping you get your gay wellness on.

Imagine, activating your life force by being 100% comfortable in your erotic self. Genuinely connecting your heart and your genitals in a way that makes you feel aligned, and alive in a way that is a work of love. Helping us embrace our sexual energy is Craig Cullinane, embodiment coach and former Director of the Body Electric School. Craig invites us on a journey to have a healthy relationship with pleasure without guilt and shame that so many gay men struggle with as they find their erotic soul.

He looks normal, acts normal, and just wants to be loved like any other gay guy. But, he has a disability and as soon as he shares that with a guy he's interested in dating, the pull a Houdini and disappear. Why? Because they feel he's damaged goods. Today we explore the trials and tribulations of dating with one of my listeners Stephen Fratello, who shares the wild and wacky world of dating in the gay community when you have a disability.

There are many things that can get in the way of gay men finding their man. Not knowing where to look, settling for hook-ups, and confidence to name a few. But these two things are the most common reasons that gay men can't find the right love with the right guy. But you're going to have to listen to learn what they are.

It's really easy to get bitchy with each other in our gay male community. Whether it is on the apps, in relationships, or when we are trying to come out. But what would happen if we worked on the big "E" and I'm not talking about erections. Instead, imagine using EMPATHY to better understand each other as gay men. Empathy Activist Rob Volpe, and author of the book Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time, shares insights on how to be more empathetic and still be your unique and powerful gay male self in a hetero male world.

Great sex. Fun Sex. Sex on your terms, your way. Why is that so hard for so many gay guys to achieve? Because of shame, shame, shame about sex and asking for what you want, not only in sex, but in life. We're breaking the shame game today and inviting you to let your sexual freak flag fly, not matter what your sexual desires might be.

Debt. Most Americans, and many, many, many gay men have it. Why? Because we want to live a fabulous life and then we end up fabulously in debt. No fun at all. I know. Been there done that a couple of times. So how do you manage all this and do it with fabulous gay style? Call on the Debt Free Guys - David and John - hosts of the Queer Money Podcast. So let's talk money guys and see what we can do to get you on track and having a powerful relationship with money.

I want more. I want to be better. I need something different in my life. Ok, cool. But do you get so obsessed about that as a gay man that you never get where you are going, or get what you are trying to achieve? Well then this podcast can guide get more, better, different with some simple tricks you can implement today.