Courage To Overcome

Dealing with toxic or narcissistic individuals can be challenging, as they often manipulate and exploit those around them for their own gain. Today, we will today explore strategies on how to make yourself toxic and narcissist proof.

It’s very difficult to explain to people who have never experienced narcissistic abuse or been involved with a narcissist. Sometimes you just have to accept that people will not understand, and that’s ok.

Narcissists are individuals who possess an exaggerated sense of self-importance and an insatiable desire for attention and admiration. They are often described as emotional vampires, draining the energy and emotions of those around them.

In this commentary I want to explore why people refrain from inviting or being around toxic individuals.

In this episode we will examine the reasons and factors that causes friendships to turn toxic.

The trap that the narcissist sets for their victim ultimately ensnares themselves.

Narcissists, like Jekyll and Hyde, have the ability to switch between two distinct personas. They often manipulate others to serve their own selfish desires, putting on a facade of charm and charisma to gain admiration and control. However, beneath this mask lies a darker side, characterized by emotional volatility and a lack of empathy.

Today I’m talking about the never ending cycle of the narcissist, which is basically the behavioural patterns that reoccur again and again in the relationships of the narcissist. It’s a very predictable behaviour, if you look out for it. But it’s very effective for the narcissist.

Narcissists thrive on attention and admiration, often disregarding the feelings and needs of others. Their constant need for validation and superiority leads to a series of chaotic situations, confusion, and conflicts. This commentary will delve into the reasons behind these behaviors and the consequences they have on both the narcissist and those around them.

Relationships are an important part of our everyday life. We are social beings , we were born to communicate, relate to have relationships. Whether it’s at work, at home, at school, wherever we are, we need to interact with other people. Relationships help us to develop and mature as social beings. They can make us into what we are today, they can also break us.

Triangulation is a manipulative tactic the toxic person uses to create conflict and strife between two or more people. It’s an emotionally destructive act designed to intentionally devalue and invalidate the romantic partner. It is also intended to instil insecurity and jealousy. Triangulation is emotionally destructive as it causes division, creates mistrust and low self esteem.

Valentine’s Day, the day of love , it is the day that people in relationships go out of their way to show affection and love to their significant other half. Women can expect flowers, chocolates gifts as their partners express their endearing love and affection.
On the other hand, if you are in a narcissistic relationship prepare to be emotionally abused by your partner.

Today I want to talk about deflection. What is deflection? Deflection is when a toxic person changes the topic of conversation to something entirely different. It’s so they can avoid accountability. It normally occurs when people are challenged for their bad behaviour.

Narcissist are constantly filled with feelings of self loathing, self hatred and shame. Even though they portray this public persona of grandiosity and success, they are deeply insecure people, with extremely low self esteem, and fragile egos. They cover it up to the world with their false image that they project to the world. It’s a false narrative that they perpetuate to the whole world. They live in this fantasy world where they are gods they are not going to allow others to change that about themselves. This is why projection works for them to protect their fragile ego, but at your expense.

What is Gaslighting?
Gas lighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or members of a group, hoping to make targets question their own memory, perception and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilise the target and delegitimise the target’s belief.

If you truly want to find yourself and love yourself, you need to stay connected to God.

The most important person to love is yourself.

An authentic person is a person who knows who they are and live in total alignment with their identity, purpose and destiny. They are not unduly influenced by culture socio-economic norms, peer pressure. They are truly living in what God called them to be

When in a toxic relationship, your self esteem is relentlessly attacked, leaving you feeling worthless and incapable. Here I share tips on how to rebuild your self esteem.

Narcissistic relationships can leave deep emotional scars, affecting our self-worth, trust, and overall well-being. However, as Christians, we have a powerful tool at our disposal: God's Word. In this commentary, we will delve into biblical principles and scriptures that can guide us towards healing, restoration, and renewed minds.

By speaking life-giving words and aligning our thoughts with God’s truth, we can embark on a transformative journey towards healing and restoration.

Today we’ll explore this journey delving into biblical wisdom to provide guidance and hope.

The process of leaving a toxic romantic relationship is often accompanied by a rollercoaster of emotions. Understanding the stages of grief can provide individuals with a roadmap to navigate through this difficult journey.

The narcissist has a particular communication style. That style is primarily focused on their needs and desires being fulfilled.

This is the second episode where I talk about how to enforce boundaries with manipulative and controlling people.

Tips to help manage relationships with controlling and manipulative people.

Church Leaders need to be the first ones who speak out against oppression and abuse in marriage.

In this episode I share some tips on how to successfully deal with a smear campaign from a narcissist

In this episode I talk about my own personal experiences and also 5 ways to handle false accusations.

This episode discusses how the narcissist distorts conversations to suit their purposes.

A woman who knows her worth and value, a woman who knows what she wants and doesn’t settle for less. I will be talking about these qualities and more in this episode.

Today I describe my personal experience with my narcissistic ex husband.

Mindset is a series of self perceptions or beliefs people hold about themselves. Mindset can can affect our decisions and keep people trapped in toxic situations.

In this episode I explain the signs and symptoms of a covert narcissist.

A motivational story.

In this episode I explain 7 symptoms of people pleasers and how to overcome this behaviour.

My commentary on a narcissist’s prayer

In this episode I explain why it’s important to love yourself first in a romantic relationships.

Today I talk about whether church leaders allow toxic behaviour to flourish.

In this episode, I talk about narcissists causing conflict and contentions.

Narcissists love to make and enforce rules on other people, but they are always breaking the rules, even the ones they make. In this episode I explain why narcissists break the rules.

This episode is about how to get the narcissist to do what you want.

Those who have been emotionally damaged tend to inflict their hurt and pain on other people. Hurt people interpret every word spoken to them through the prism of their own pain.

Your past does not determine your future. Don't be influenced by other people's mistakes. These are the issues I will talk about in this episode.

Today I talk about narcissistic behaviours you can use to avoid uncomfortable situations.

In this episode I talk about lying and I refer to the Alex Murdaugh trial in America.

In this episode I share 2 more strategies on recognising and avoiding manipulation.

No one likes being manipulated, but the thing is a lot of times, people don’t know they’re being manipulated. Hope you will not be manipulated again after you listen to this episode.

We all need friends, right? But there are some people who do not behave like friends should. I call them frenemies. Listen to this episode to find out their behaviours and how to relate with them.

Have you ever wondered how a person becomes a narcissist? Are they born that way or is it learned behavior. In this episode I will explain the different scenarios of how a person becomes a narcissist.

In this episode, I talk about why it is important to forgive yourself.

Have you been falsely accused by a narcissist? Listen to this episode and learn how to respond.

Can a narcissist truly repent? I will explain how in this episode.

Today I explain the reason for narcissist’s behaviour

In this episode I explain why you are not enough for the narcissist

In this episode I discuss that not everyone will understand your circumstances and you don’t have to explain yourself to everyone.

Have noticed that narcissists break rules? In this episode I will talk about how inconsistent and unreliable narcissists are.

In this episode, I will explain what a narcissist is, the symptoms and behavioral traits and why they are such a problem in relationships.

In this episode, I will be talking about why narcissists cannot love you.

This episode reveals tips on how to effectively communicate with a narcissist.

In this episode, I continue to share my cancer journey as detailed in my journal

In this episode I talk about how narcissists behave like children.

In this episode I will be talking in detail about my cancer treatment plan

This episode focuses on my cancer diagnosis

Basically talking about my experiences in 2021 and my cancer journey

Just talking about challenges that occurred in 2021, and how I overcame them.

This episode explains the different stages of the abusive cycle of the narcissist

This episode is about how to deal with Triangulation which is a manipulative device of a narcissist.

How to overcome projection in a narcissistic relationship

In this episode I talk about how to deal with gaslighting in your relationship

In this episode I talk about how the narcissist uses deflection against their targets and how to overcome it.

In this episode, I will give a definition and behavioural symptoms of a narcissist.

Briefly sharing my experience of my marriage to a narcissist

In this episode I will be talking about how the narcissist uses deflection to manipulate and how to deal with it.