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Plan P

Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison

Parenting teens? Take it from two people who have been there, done that and came out on the other side with trusting relationships with their now-adult children. Prior to even considering coaching and podcasting, they got their most valuable certification - the approval of their now adult children. Join parenting coach duo, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison, every week as they share both their personal and professional experiences on building healthy relationships with preteens, teens and young adults as they enter adulthood. If you aren’t happy with your teen’s behavior, need parenting help, or just want to be a better parent, this show is for you. Parenting is one of the most rewarding experiences, but it’s no walk in the park - especially as your not-so-little-one becomes an ever-evolving teenager!

55 - Paying Attention Softly: Building Trust with Your Adolescent
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  • 55 - Paying Attention Softly: Building Trust with Your Adolescent

    In this episode, we explore the often-repeated advice for parents of adolescents: “Pay attention.” While this can feel intimidating or overwhelming, we discuss how to approach this idea with a sense of softness that can greatly benefit the parent-child relationship during these transformative years. Discover how a gentle approach to paying attention allows you to notice your adolescent's changes without overwhelming them. Learn the difference between using a magnifying glass or a microscope when observing your child. Curiosity fosters connection, while scrutiny can lead to discomfort. Explore how to engage in conversations with your child without immediate reactions. This awareness can lead to deeper understanding and trust. Reflect on your own journey as a parent. Are you paying attention to your own needs and desires, or are you caught up in comparing yourself to others? Understand how to open your hands, allowing your child to feel safe enough to explore their independence while knowing they can always return to you. Join us for a thoughtful discussion on how to bring softness to the art of paying attention, fostering a healthier, more trusting relationship with your adolescent. Listen and learn!

    Wed, 06 Nov 2024 - 21min
  • 54 - Power Full: Understanding Enabling

    Power Full: Understanding Enabling In this episode we talk about empowering our children… and how easy it can be to slip into enabling them. No parent wants to enable their child, we just want to support them.  Understanding what enabling is, and what support is can make a huge difference in the lives of parents of adolescents, AKA emerging adults.  No matter the age of your child-preteen, teen or young adult, this episode will offer you new awareness and new skills to practice which will help you build the foundation of support that you want to be, and that your children want you to be!   Nzinga Harrison Un-Addiction Daniel Siegel Brainstorm

    Wed, 23 Oct 2024 - 25min
  • 53 - Growing from Mistakes

    Parents, particularly parents of preteens, teens and young adults, can find themselves searching for answers to explain their child’s behavior. This often leads to dwelling on perceived parental mistakes made in the past, or mistakes made by others-doctors, teachers, other parents and anyone else who might have had impact on the child. Human beings make mistakes. In this episode we discuss both the importance of acknowledging mistakes and also how to learn from those mistakes. By understanding what might now, in hindsight, be considered a mistake, parents can strengthen themselves and their relationships with their kids.  It is also important that parents understand the possibility that not everything that happens is a mistake, some actions are just simply human beings being human. When parents acknowledge that truth, they are modeling honesty and responsibility, rather than shame and blame.    Parents who learn to practice this growth mindset can have open honest conversations and build a foundation of trust with their adolescent children.

    Wed, 09 Oct 2024 - 23min
  • 52 - Parenting Partnerships

    In this episode, we’re focusing on the dynamics of cooperative parenting and how to effectively partner with the various adults in your child's life. Everyone involved in a child's life—parents, grandparents, teachers—has the child’s best interests at heart. However, differing opinions and approaches can create challenges. We explore how to navigate these differing perspectives while maintaining a united front. Parenting less about micromanaging and more about building effective partnerships. We discuss how to foster positive relationships with other adults in your child's life and how these relationships impact your child’s development. As children transition into adulthood, their role in the family dynamic shifts. We talk about how parents and other guardians can collaborate with these almost-adults in a way that respects their emerging autonomy while still providing support. We want to model negotiation, not triangulation! Adolescents crave independence but also need to know there’s a safety net. We discuss how to balance giving them freedom with providing a supportive network that ensures they have help if needed.   Resources: https://cmcffc.org/

    Wed, 25 Sep 2024 - 27min
  • 51 - Three H's - Hear, Help or Hug

    In this episode, we dive into the complexities of human communication with emerging adults. Navigating your child’s hard feelings can be challenging. We often fall into the trap of trying to solve the problem rather than truly understanding what they need. In this episode we discuss understanding how the instinct to offer solutions might actually stem from a desire to make ourselves feel better. This helps parents understand why this approach doesn’t always work and how it can sometimes make things worse. We discuss methods that can gently guide your child in identifying their own pain points and learning to communicate them effectively. Adolescents crave autonomy and can feel overwhelmed by overly controlling or dominating help. We provide tips on how to support your child without taking over. Creating a culture of openness is crucial. You’ll leave with strategies for inviting your child into the conversation, making them feel heard, and helping them find their own solutions in a way that feels right to them. Resources Mentioned: How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this topic! Share your insights or questions with us on social media or through our website. Subscribe and Stay Tuned: Don’t miss out on future episodes! Subscribe to “Plan P is For” for more discussions on parenting, communication, and personal growth.

    Wed, 11 Sep 2024 - 24min
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