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In this episode, we explore the often-repeated advice for parents of adolescents: “Pay attention.” While this can feel intimidating or overwhelming, we discuss how to approach this idea with a sense of softness that can greatly benefit the parent-child relationship during these transformative years. Discover how a gentle approach to paying attention allows you to notice your adolescent's changes without overwhelming them. Learn the difference between using a magnifying glass or a microscope when observing your child. Curiosity fosters connection, while scrutiny can lead to discomfort. Explore how to engage in conversations with your child without immediate reactions. This awareness can lead to deeper understanding and trust. Reflect on your own journey as a parent. Are you paying attention to your own needs and desires, or are you caught up in comparing yourself to others? Understand how to open your hands, allowing your child to feel safe enough to explore their independence while knowing they can always return to you. Join us for a thoughtful discussion on how to bring softness to the art of paying attention, fostering a healthier, more trusting relationship with your adolescent. Listen and learn!

Power Full: Understanding Enabling In this episode we talk about empowering our children… and how easy it can be to slip into enabling them. No parent wants to enable their child, we just want to support them.  Understanding what enabling is, and what support is can make a huge difference in the lives of parents of adolescents, AKA emerging adults.  No matter the age of your child-preteen, teen or young adult, this episode will offer you new awareness and new skills to practice which will help you build the foundation of support that you want to be, and that your children want you to be!   Nzinga Harrison Un-Addiction Daniel Siegel Brainstorm

Parents, particularly parents of preteens, teens and young adults, can find themselves searching for answers to explain their child’s behavior. This often leads to dwelling on perceived parental mistakes made in the past, or mistakes made by others-doctors, teachers, other parents and anyone else who might have had impact on the child. Human beings make mistakes. In this episode we discuss both the importance of acknowledging mistakes and also how to learn from those mistakes. By understanding what might now, in hindsight, be considered a mistake, parents can strengthen themselves and their relationships with their kids.  It is also important that parents understand the possibility that not everything that happens is a mistake, some actions are just simply human beings being human. When parents acknowledge that truth, they are modeling honesty and responsibility, rather than shame and blame.    Parents who learn to practice this growth mindset can have open honest conversations and build a foundation of trust with their adolescent children.

In this episode, we’re focusing on the dynamics of cooperative parenting and how to effectively partner with the various adults in your child's life. Everyone involved in a child's life—parents, grandparents, teachers—has the child’s best interests at heart. However, differing opinions and approaches can create challenges. We explore how to navigate these differing perspectives while maintaining a united front. Parenting less about micromanaging and more about building effective partnerships. We discuss how to foster positive relationships with other adults in your child's life and how these relationships impact your child’s development. As children transition into adulthood, their role in the family dynamic shifts. We talk about how parents and other guardians can collaborate with these almost-adults in a way that respects their emerging autonomy while still providing support. We want to model negotiation, not triangulation! Adolescents crave independence but also need to know there’s a safety net. We discuss how to balance giving them freedom with providing a supportive network that ensures they have help if needed.   Resources: https://cmcffc.org/

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of human communication with emerging adults. Navigating your child’s hard feelings can be challenging. We often fall into the trap of trying to solve the problem rather than truly understanding what they need. In this episode we discuss understanding how the instinct to offer solutions might actually stem from a desire to make ourselves feel better. This helps parents understand why this approach doesn’t always work and how it can sometimes make things worse. We discuss methods that can gently guide your child in identifying their own pain points and learning to communicate them effectively. Adolescents crave autonomy and can feel overwhelmed by overly controlling or dominating help. We provide tips on how to support your child without taking over. Creating a culture of openness is crucial. You’ll leave with strategies for inviting your child into the conversation, making them feel heard, and helping them find their own solutions in a way that feels right to them. Resources Mentioned: How to Talk so Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this topic! Share your insights or questions with us on social media or through our website. Subscribe and Stay Tuned: Don’t miss out on future episodes! Subscribe to “Plan P is For” for more discussions on parenting, communication, and personal growth.

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Bonus episode A peek behind the scenes in the real life of Sarah and Quinn In this episode we invite you into a conversation we are having about our communication and laundry. It is just an example of how and why communication between humans is hard.  We’ve been married 18 years and have known each other since we were teenagers, and we STILL get caught in the muck!!  So, want to be a fly on the wall?  Listen! As always, we’d love to hear your thoughts, responses and questions.  connect@planp.us   DrJessicaBelo.com #parentingteens #parentingatween #parentingayoungadult #troubledteen #kindandfirmparenting #podcast #newepisode #parenting #boundaries #findingjoyinthejourney

The Power of Positive Speaking In this episode we chat about The Power of Positive Speaking. We discuss using words that focus on what we want to achieve or encourage, rather than what we want to avoid or eliminate. This subtle shift can make a big difference in how the message is received. By practicing positivity, we can foster an environment of trust and encouragement rather than criticism. With adolescents using positive language can promote mutual respect and understanding. It’s about building a relationship based on implied trust rather than suspicion. Positive speaking helps us, the parents, model focusing on the spirit of the law, not the letter of the law which prioritizes the intent behind communication rather than rigidly adhering to a specific set of rules. This approach allows for more flexibility and a deeper connection with others. Integrating positive speaking into daily interactions can be transformative. It fosters a more constructive and supportive environment, which, over time, becomes a natural part of our communication style. Have a practicing positive week! XO Sarah and Quinn   Listen for the weekly practice. Expect this-any new way of speaking or thinking will take time. Practice is a positive use of time. If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to speak to, just send an email to connect@planp.us   Resources Positive Discipline for Teens I Feel Statement   #parentingteens #parentingatween #parentingayoungadult #troubledteen #kindandfirmparenting #podcast #newepisode #parenting #boundaries #findingjoyinthejourney

Episode 47:  Reliability and Regulation in Parenting In this episode of Plan P: Parents Helping Parents Pivot Perspectives  we deep dive into the concepts of reliability and regulation, focusing on how they impact our relationships, especially with adolescents. We'll break down these terms, explore their significance, and discuss how they shape effective parenting and personal growth. Reliability in parenting means being dependable and consistent. During adolescence, this reliability becomes crucial as teenagers are navigating significant changes and seeking stability. Before we can effectively regulate others, especially our children, we need to understand and master self-reliance and self-regulation. This foundational understanding helps us approach parenting with greater empathy and effectiveness. Sending Understanding and Hope your way!    XO Sarah and Quinn Listen for the weekly practice. If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to speak to, just send an email to connect@planp.us Links & Resources: “The truth of these years reminds us of the importance of changing ourselves as our children change.” from Between Parent and Teen by Haim G. Gingott first published in 1969 Get Out of My Life but first could you drive me and Cheryl to the mall?  by Anthony E. Wolf The Beauty of a Darker Soul by Joshua Mantz The Chaos Imperative by Ori Brafman and Judah Pollackm(no relation:) Difficult Conversations by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton and Sheila Heen of the Harvard Negotiation Project #parentingteens #parentingatween #parentingayoungadult #troubledteen #kindandfirmparenting #podcast #newepisode #parenting #boundaries #findingjoyinthejourney

Personalize Your Plan Parenting adolescents can be challenging emotionally as we navigate their development.  Humans, and human parents, can take things personally, especially when it comes to our children's behaviors and reactions. When parenting through the preteen, teen and young adult years a crucial question is HOW do we want to personalize, HOW do we want to attach? Connecting to- not cutting off from- your beloved child who is literally physiologically designed to be pushing off into their new adult existence and away from you requires some new skills. In this episode we talk about finding the nuanced balance between being involved and giving space for growth. Ghandi said “Detachment is not indifference; it is a prerequisite for effective involvement.” Listen as we discuss how to fulfill that prerequisite-how to build up rather than tear down your relationship with your adolescent child. Practice: Personalize your parenting plan by bringing awareness to what your mind is full of. Are you aware when you are taking something personally?  If you are taking it that way, do you want to take it personally or step back to consider other possibilities that exist?   Resources I feel statement Fundamentals of Adlerian Psychology by Rudolph Dreikurs Troubled by Kenneth R. Rosen Life is in the Transitions by Bruce Feiler Have you listened to the Plan P is for Parents Playlist on Spotify? Just added to the playlist “Just the Two of Us” “and you can cry, ain’t no shame in it” Are you ready to work with a coach to find the Plan that feels right for you? Start on your personalized path here.

Yes You CAN There are many actionable steps which parents CAN take to mitigate the negative effects of social media. Introducing three healthy C’s: Compassion, Communication, Collaboration which when used consistently can have positive effects. We’re back, and so is the Surgeon General who is considering placing warnings on social media due to addiction concerns. Social media has a pervasive impact on parents and in this episode we discuss what parents can’t and also can do given the addictive nature of social media algorithms and its implications. How do we wean our children?  Sounds like a throwback question?  Welcome to the 2020s, parenting the teen years and the adolescent brain, and tech. Listen and learn tips for genuine connection beyond virtual platforms. Strategies for gradually reducing screen time and social media use.   PRACTICE Engage and encourage self compassion. Don’t forget to share this with other parents and we’ll “connect” again in two weeks, or whenever you schedule your complimentary session.   The 3 C’s of Engagement, in order of use: Compassion Communication Collaboration   References: Stolen Focus by Johann Hari Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt NYT article  Surgeon General Calls for Warning Labels on Social Media Platforms Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker Set boundaries.  Find peace. by Nedra Glover Tawaab

What You Permit You Promote In this episode we discuss the permission slips we give when we allow behaviors.  Parents get accustomed to doing something for their child when the child could actually do it themselves as they age. We parents, all parents we would dare to say, sometimes allow our children to wear us down until we give them what they want. We say to ourselves and others “It’s just not a battle I’m going to fight.”  When we engage in this manner, parents are sending a signal of tolerating behaviors, actions and choices. When we give permission, we are in some ways unconsciously encouraging and promoting. What behaviors do you want to promote, and how are you promoting those? We parents want our children to know that we are reliable. Often, we make want to make sure that they know that they can rely upon us.  We also want them to be self-reliant. As they are growing up and being promoted to legal adults this can be a balancing act. One is reliable when one is consistent. Listen to hear how to promote the relationships that you want, based on your values. Practice: Reflect on your own parenting practices regarding permission and promotion of behaviors. Pay attention to when you say yes/give permission. resources Recovering my Kid Joseph Lee Set boundaries.  Find peace. a guide to reclaiming yourself Nedra Glover Tawaab Chris Curtis on Discipline and Mindset The Price of Privilege Madeline Levine Unaddicted Nzinga Harrison

Care of Self   Self-Care reminders are ev-er-y-where!! We like to take things apart and putting care in front of self is something that we talk about all the time with parents.  We have met many parents who reassure us that they have a lot of self-care practices, and they are still struggling. Putting care first can be harder than we think.  What it first offers is the opportunity to explore who that self is.  Who are YOU?  What do YOU want which is about you and you alone? You’re a parent, we know you are giving care, and we know that you are working. Who is that Self and what kind of care are you giving them? Care of self involves being aware of your WHOLE self-mental, emotional, physical and spiritual and then practicing that care consistently. Self-care is ultimately an investment in the parental person-you. It is NOT selfishSelf-care can also be work! Going to the gym?  Yeah, if only there was a magic pill for strength building. Setting boundaries? That is work and holding them takes even more strength! Doing your own work allows you to stay loving towards others. It allows parents to consider is they are enabling or empowering with their actions and choices. Modeling responsible adult behavior-going to the doctor, the dentist, the gym, your therapist, your coach all show your child what it means to be a well balanced, caring, independent adult.   Practice: What are you willing to Invest in for your self?   And, this could be viewed as self-promotion, but it’s broader. Parenting is hard. Growth is messy. If you are reading this and you are not working with a parent coach once a week or every other week, change that. Find a coach-any parent coach, you deserve that care!   Set Boundaries, Find Peace a guide to reclaiming yourself Nedra Glover Tawwab Life Is In The Transitions  Bruce Feiler Last Day Podcast Sarah is still looking for where she read about eating disorders being one of the ways that teens try to build their autonomy…but, in the meantime, if that statement piqued you, get in touch, she’ll look harder!

Producing and Practicing Can we all agree, parenting anxious adolescents can be anxiety producing!  This week we’re talking about Jonathan Haidt’s latest book, The Anxious Generation. Parents are afraid, schools are stressed, and no surprise, trickle down anxiety, there’s an entire generation awash in anxiety...and the cycle goes around again.  It makes total sense that parents are scared given everything that is going on with kids and, well, everything! Parents want what’s best for their kids. We want to keep them safe. The truth is that humans, and particularly teens, need new experiences in order to learn and grow. Social media and screens are so much a part of all of our lives.  What do we learn from them?  What are the kids learning from them? Parents can participate by doing their part-consciously connecting with other humans, and disconnecting from devices.  There are ways that parents can invite their kids to roam free- while also maintaining boundaries; let them explore, and also build connections within the home.   We humans are pack animals. We are designed to be together. Exploring how and where to create spaces where in-person communities are present is an opportunity awaiting us all!   PRACTICE: Keep an eye out for opportunities to give your kid real life interactions, places where they put their phones down and make eye contact in communities Family meals Game nights Consider speaking with parents or administrators about taking the bold step of making school a phone free environment, the kids will balk, but they’re adaptable! What other ideas do you have?   References Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

What is a belief?  Beliefs are personal, not right or wrong.  To believe that there are things we will never understand can be a challenge. Our beliefs about things outside our control inform our attitudes, they can cause us pain and despair, and also joy and release.  What we humans can do is shift our attitude. Understanding that we do not hold all control requires a letting go. Believing that there is something, anything, that exists outside of us humans-a spirit, a god, an energy, the stars, flowers, whales, the ocean might not make sense, but it makes sense to let go of what we aren’t actually controlling.  Neural plasticity allows us to change our attitudes, which in turn impacts our relationships with ourselves and others. What do you want to believe? We get to make different choices. PRACTICE: Pay Attention/Bring Awareness to the small things that happen or you observe that don’t make sense. A parking spot opens up You see someone you were thinking about Anything unexpected makes you smile or feel happy Coincidences You notice a beautiful weed/flower popping through the cement Keep it going…..   The Awakened Brain by Lisa Miller (that Sarah believes you should read, but understands others are entirely free to believe differently) Acronym: F.A.I.T.H Finding Answers In The Heart Playlist Addition Don’t Stop Believing

Plugging into the Power (of Pausing) Pausing is a great way to invite an adolescent (or, okay, anyone!) into a conversation.  Pausing when you are interacting with a preteen, teen or young adult can be hard, they move fast! How do you plug into the pause depends upon the situation and the individuals. Feeling like a Pushmi-Pullyu, pushing and pulling and going nowhere?   Have you tried pushing back- not pushing back to what your child is saying, but just pushing back from the conversation, pushing back from the table and saying “Thank you. I’m full.”, rather than “I can’t take another minute of this!” Pushing back does not have to be pushing away, it can just be the pause that the moment needs. Pushing back can give space, and the space between is where we connect.  When we’re in our children’s face it’s hard to actually connect, ditto if we’re on their back. Holding on by stepping back may not feel intuitive.  Face to face, with space, is a good place to be, and to pause to let others feel seen and heard. Plugging into the pause is where the change can happen, and things can be brought to light.   PRACTICE: practice using the 5 second rule. When in conversation, pause for 5 seconds.  Just try it. It may feel like an eternity, but try it. Savoring the moment.   Resources SAMHSA recovery statistics NPR: There is life after addiction: Most People Recover CRAFT Flyawayproductions “Tell me where it hurts.” Is not in this clip, but, honestly, this brief video will give you a beautiful, heartfelt, real pause in your day, and you deserve that. “They speak of my drinking but never of my thirst.” The Menzingers C.O.P.E. Consider Other Perspectives Exist  (craving easy to grab reminders? Acronym Aides)

Professionals often call us to consult and ask if a particular family falls under the scope of what we do here as coaches.  Generally, the answer is yes, because what we do is help parents make a plan, and often work with them as that plan is implemented. Each family’s plan is completely unique based on what they want. In this episode we just chat about what we do and how that helps parents build a plan of their own to build a strong healthy bond with their child.  As parents of adolescents, we are faced with many decisions, as are our children. How does a parent make a plan that feels solid and grounded and followable? Not by following ten simple steps!  “The best laid schemes of mice and men often go awry.” Whose life are we planning at this transitional age? It’s tricky, it’s a balance. Sometimes parents have a plan, but don’t know how to implement it, what steps to take next.  Because each plan is unique and building change takes time and patience and readjusting, touching base weekly or even daily at times, like a GPS system helps keep parents on their path. A basic plan helps parents offer assistance to their child- without jumping or falling into the water with them.  Extra bonus: also in this episode we touch a little bit on our own parenting a teen journey, and what that plan looked like. Practice: Think for a few moments about what you want to work on or do-from meditation to what to eat for lunch- and make a plan! Resources www.planp.us

Parenting is a relationship. A relationship which parents do not want to detach from!   Letting a child hit “rock bottom”, “suffer the consequences” or many of the other “tough love” practices (which have been debunked but are very much still out there and are often suggested by friends and family who feel at a loss as to how to help and who often feel the pain themselves). What we suggest in this episode isn’t radical, it just feels logical - to us. First consider, what are you attached to?  Your kids-and obviously you don’t want to detach from them. Digging a little deeper what we often discover, as we discovered for yourselves, is that what we are attached to are behaviors, outcomes, and choices, but not the child! Detaching from the behaviors of others is not necessarily an “Aha! Flip that switch!” moment but taking the time to look at our attachments makes it possible to detach from some things while still staying in relationship. What keeps you connected?  Slammed doors? Resentments?  Are you suffering?  Is your child suffering?  Detaching from our parental dreams of a particular outcome allows us to get curious about their fears, their hopes, their anxieties and their dreams. When you are in communication you can then be clear about what they can expect from you, not what you expect from them.  Detaching with love does not mean detach from love. Quite the contrary.  It actually allows a deeper more genuine love into a relationship. The Practice: Look at what you are attached to. Write those things down. Resources Alanon ITC Katy Milkman Nedra Tawwab Viktor E. Frankl

How to Care, not coddle. In this episode we discuss what is no secret- there is a generation who are struggling, and parents are concerned. It makes total sense that conscious parents and educators who were aware of the significant spike in poor mental health starting to be observed in 2012 and continuing upward wanted to protect their children from pain.   Jonathan Haidt, in his book The Coddling of the American Mind, suggests that what we inadvertently “protected” kids from was having feelings.  Protecting our kids from having hard feelings does not help them, or all of us as a community. In truth this disconnection hinders communication between individuals and further separates all of us. We posit that the non-stop exposure, via social media,  to the state of the globe, which was dosed out more slowly in previous generations, has overwhelmed the nervous system of a generation and made them feel despairing and helpless, and that makes sense!  It’s a lot! And they have no experience to remind them that change does happen, and that change takes time. The good news is this-family and other in-person human relationships can change in less time than global change takes.  Boston University reminds us that “the potential to intervene and reach students at a uniquely important time of life is huge”. This is an opportunity if we slowly remove the obstacles. Practice: Start to unwrap the bubble wrap. Take advantage of family time, make a little space for little conversations and listen to feelings without reacting. It’s never too late to make space for feelings -good and bad. References: Increase in Mental Health started in 2011 Drug Deaths started increasing in 2011 as per TFAH.org Jonathan Haidt The Coddling of America

Social Media We talk with parents A LOT about social media.  How do you navigate this social media world?  How do you navigate your relationship with your children’s relationship with social media?  It’s a lot! Social Media is…..social! We all want to belong and feel significant, at every age, and this is an even more intense yearning during adolescence.  There are so many more places to connect and belong on social media, and understanding what is real can get scary for parents.   How can you be there for your child in real life, reassuring them that they belong, no matter what. Find “your people” provides the affirmation which teens crave. And, it can get slippery when that craving leads to unhealthy communities. Our goal as parents is to help our children find and understand who they are in a world which offers so many options and places to feel part of a community. It’s vital to our relationship with our children that they understand that you appreciate and value their perspective. Their perspective is going to be different because they are a different generation. Social Media, technology-these are not going away. Just Say No…didn’t work in the 90’s and doesn’t work today. How do we get information in?   Valuing others’ points of views.  Adolescents understand risk, so you can ask questions about that. Cost/Benefit analysis is not their string suit, but their brains are developing.  Conversation builds understanding. Building understanding is more effective in relationship building. Let them reason things out with you.  For themselves.  Without jumping in. The Practice: Practice your ABC’s Appreciate the kid/s. Remind them that they Belong. It takes a great Positive Discipline The Emotional Lives of Teens Lisa Damour

In this episode we discuss Kim Scott’s book Radical Candor. Her book will not be found in the family section, because it’s a business book, but stay with us here, radical candor is basically being honest. Doesn’t sound radical, but being honest isn’t always easy. Caring is easy, as parents we care.  What Scott talks about is challenging ourselves to get outside our comfort zone or care, and also challenging the individual we love to be honest. Adolescents aren’t stupid, they are also not notoriously honest. Often, we humans, be it in a business or family setting, tip into caring to the point that we are dishonest. This is not a healthy relationship, and no one is well served. In previous episodes we’ve mentioned the Positive Discipline principle of being Kind and Firm, Caring and Challenging is just pretty much a grown-up version of the same principle. Challenging is not questioning; challenging is a way, perhaps one of the best, to show that you care.   Practice: Identify your fears. This will allow you to lead with honest care AKA Radical Candor. Radical Candor the book Ted Talk: Kim Scott on How to Lead with Radical Candor   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us     Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Resilience support How good are you at moving on after being disappointed or hurt or making a mistake? Resilience is not always easy. It is learned.  When our children were younger, they built resilience when they were learning to ride a bike and they fell.  Some kids got right back on, some kids cried and wanted to be held while they cried. We met them where they were, trusting that they would learn.   The adolescent years are different, and the same.  Allowing our children to explore their feelings can be hard for parents, we don’t want our children to feel painful feelings, but to push them down or aside does not make them go away.  During adolescence our job is as it was then- to give them space, let them wobble, and be there if they want to cry and be held, believing that they can get back up and feel their feelings and move forward with their new learned skill.   Practice: Play Lo/Hi with your kid. Ask what was the low point of your day?  What was the high point?  Give them space to share without interrupting or trying to make them feel “better”.   Reference: Laziness Does Not Exist   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us     Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Everyone knows that practice makes perfect, right?  Yeahhhh. And, no! What if you could get away from the pressure of that illusion that perfection is possible? How does this notion of perfection impact our beloved preteen, teen and young adult children, because everywhere you  look, they are feeling the pressure. How can we as individuals get away from that terrible weighty notion that we are striving for perfection? Join us as we ponder and discuss what practice IS if it is not about aiming for perfection. Just what is this practice thing that we talk about every single week? Here’s a question, what and how are you practicing?  If you’re not clear, join the crowd! We’re starting a Workshop Wednesdays Virtual Support Group. It can help to let others hear you practice-just like when one practices the piano! Listen and hear other parents and learn to practice listening with objectivity and compassion! Parenting adolescents is hard and can be scary. Being seen and heard with other parents can feel scary and we are happy to extend to all of our listeners an invitation to change that by registering. They will be adults in your life longer than they were children. Please join us as you practice parenting in this new parental role of being a parent of an adult, who is now and will forever be, your child. ITC CRAFT Positive Discipline   Don’t forget to sign up to join us for our very first ever FREE Virtual Workshop and Support Group   The Plan P Playlist on Spotify. It is, appropriately, a crazy mix. CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us

Personal Care Taking care of yourself when parenting preteens, teens and young adults can be challenging.  We talk honestly about how hard it can be to take care of yourself from the very beginning of the parenting journey, and just when you think you might catch a break-and take a bath or read a book, get a mani-pedi or a massage….” just kidding” say the adolescent years. In this episode we talk about not just the importance of self-care, because that can feel like pressure, but we explore all the trillions of ways a parent can take care of themselves, and how modeling that? Modeling taking care of you?  That is vital to being in any healthy relationship, especially as a parent at any age. Taking back taking care of the self allows your children freedom. You can practice self-care, and they do not have to take care of you because they know that you are capable of doing it for yourself! There is no right or wrong way to take care of yourself. Taking the time to pause and consider who that self is? Who are you? What are your likes and dislikes? This is a good place to begin. No pressure, just a personal care pause.   The Practice: Identify and make a list of five things which make you feel good, things which make you feel like you have given yourself a gift, large or small.   Sign up NOW to join us for our FREE Virtual Workshop and Support Group   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us     Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Planning Party Planning The luck of the Irish? Yeahhh, St. Patrick’s Day, as the parent of a teen? Doesn’t always make parents feel so lucky. The kids are growing up and the wearing of the green is oft accompanied by the drinking of the green beer, the green jello shots and well, goodness knows what else they’ve figured out to dye green besides the Chicago River. Everyone loves this holiday? No, not really. In the episode we want to remind you that luck is what you make of things, and, lucky you, this year is full of new opportunities to do things differently! Rather than panicking or plotting or patronizing, we discuss ways in which you can work with your child to plan their party or discuss their partying in a non-confrontational concerned parent fashion. We hear you, that sounds insane, why would a parent help their child plan to party? Well, because you want to be in partnership with them, and listening to them? If they are planning to attend a party? Opening the door to a “party planning conversation” beats having a door slammed in your face.   The Practice: Preparing for a conversation-without over preparing or panicking or preparing for battle! Prepare by preparing your perspective and practicing some open ended in advance.   References:  Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel Seigel The Emotional Lives of Teenagers by Lisa Damour Magic 8 Meditation can be found @planpisfor on IG wherever you see a video of clouds, and on the here of our website.   The PlanP Playlist addition: Get Lucky by Daft Punk “Like the legend of the Phoenix All ends with beginnings.” Sign up NOW to join us for our FREE Virtual Workshop and Support Group   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us     Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Paradoxes   Tap into the wisdom of Socrates, the Tao, Rumi and Erykah among others, as we help parents understand how to accept and apply the paradoxes presented by these wise people to parenting teens!  If we know that we know nothing about anything, then what could we possibly teach our children? Ah, the wisdom of the ages is here to help and we are here to help you understand how to embrace it, and embrace your kids who are squirming away.  Want to understand how knowing this not-knowing can help parents hear their adolescent children?  In this episode you will be guided in how to identify and acknowledge the paradoxes, and then how to not just live with them, but love them. Listen to this episode and learn how to use the paradoxes, the seeming contradictions presented in life going back many thousands of years,  to start building healthy balanced relationships with your children in today’s world.   The Practice: Consider the other possible truths. Our truth may not be the same as our children’s truth in any situation. Consider this and ask them theirs. Then, you know, pause and pause. It may not make sense to you. That is ok.  It’s their truth - for today.   Resources: Lisa Damour: The Emotional Lives of Teenagers Stephen Mitchell: Tao Te Ching: A New English Version Don’t forget to sign up to join us for our very first ever FREE Virtual Workshop and Support Group The Plan P Playlist on Spotify. It is, appropriately, a crazy mix.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!   Connect here : www.planp.us  .

The Power of Pollyanna Perspective There is much power to be found in positivity WHEN used properly!  Pollyana can get a bad rap. We understand why.  The ability to genuinely understand how to use, and not abuse or misuse, positivity is complicated. The reason we talk about it in this episode is because it can change interpersonal relationships for the better, which is what parents of adolescents want. In this episode we’ll teach you some tricks on how to stay honest, and how to stay off the negative train. We want to be clear; positivity is NOT denial. Denial is a dangerous place for us to be as parents, and it does not build honest relationships with our children. Unhappiness exists. In the current world of facades in many forms it is important that parents are clear with themselves when they communicate with their children, understanding what we DO want, not what we do not want is the key to change. This Week’s Practice: Positive communication! How?  Use positive rather than negative language.  Say do, not don’t; can, not can’t, will, not won’t-you get the picture, yes? Sounds simple.  A reminder, simple isn’t easy, and the truth is that we KNOW that we CAN change our thinking.   Resources Brad Reedy: The Journey of the Heroic Parent CRAFT Positive Discipline   Don’t forget to sign up to join us for our very first ever FREE Virtual Workshop and Support Group   The Plan P Playlist on Spotify. It is, appropriately, a crazy mix. CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Understanding how to find balance while transitioning from boss of a child, to staying on as the trusted consultant to a young adult deserves a transition team!  Sarah and Quin have got you!  Parenting adolescents is for many the hardest part of the parenting journey.  Staying positive can feel like a challenge but knowing that you have something positive to practice can make a huge difference. On this week’s episode Quinn and Sarah talk about the huge value of understanding the principles of Positive Disciple Parenting-helping parents shift their view and seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn, and building strength in understanding what it means to master firm and kind parenting. Sound impossible?  It’s not.     This Week’s PRACTICE: Practice ADAPTing (Always Doing Another Positive Try). This acknowledges that mistakes are opportunities to learn and continue to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again.    Check out the Upcoming (Free) Workshop Wednesdays Ongoing Parent Support Group which starts March 13th (😊Lucky 13) at 6pm PST here   Books Mentioned: Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson See the If at First You Don’t Succeed You’re in Good Company poster in our basement. CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Pondering our part is parenting pertinent and also entirely possible.  Accountability is the tune this week on the podcast and is a central tenant of secure parenting. Listen to Sarah and Quinn as they discuss listening and understanding where your part begins and ends. How do you find a place to hear different points of view, which your adolescent children are sure to offer! Learning how to slowly become accountable to ourselves, learning how to model this in our behaviors is how we learn to be account table-through doing.  Being accountable is freeing and in this episode you will learn how to bring awareness to your behaviors.  How do you model accountability? Are you being accountable? Parents want their children to count on them. How do you get there?  Our children learn from what we do, not what we say. Being consistent in our actions can be exhausting but it builds trust.  If our behavior doesn’t change, can we count on ourselves? If we own your mistakes, hold ourselves accountable, then they are much more likely to come to you when they make mistakes.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Parents understand the importance of paying attention to and listening to their children. This is a vital part of any healthy relationship. Listening is hard! In this episode Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison discuss and dial into how to take listening to the next level. Listening to understand is next-level listening.  One step forward is repeating back exactly what their child said to them. This parroting is a giant step forward from reacting in panic, anger, fear or frustration! Conversations get deeper when listening at this level. You hear more, which allows you to see and hear opportunities for new inquiries, not simply validating, but helping your child learn to identify the intricacies of their feelings. There may be a method to the madness of a teen or young adult’s thinking.  Join Quinn and Sarah as they share methods for listening well which can help parents understand their adolescent children’s experiences and join their children on their journey. This Week’s Practice: Reflective Listening Listening to understand allows a conversation to move forward. Try this.  Don’t parrot what someone says as a means of expressing your understanding, try listening for nuance or feelings and share what you believe you heard. “That sounds like it was hard” “You felt ignored” Then pause for confirmation or clarification. Then try it again, using new language and asking for more information, general “Yeah, tell me more?” or, if still not clear “How does that sit with you?” When the conversation has come to an end, let it end and say thank you. Books Mentioned in this Episode: Listening Well: The Art of Empathetic Listening by William R. Miller Emotional Lives of Teens by Lisa Damour, Ph.D. CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve deep into the intricate world of parental perception and its impact on our roles as caregivers. They shine a light on the common tendency to jump to conclusions about our teens' intentions, whether positive or negative, and how this perception can sometimes lead us astray. It becomes evident that our perception can be a confining prison if left unchecked. To break free, the hosts stress the importance of challenging our mindset from a fixed to a growth perspective. They emphasize the value of validating and verifying our perception through third-party perspectives, including those of fellow parents, therapists, and our own children. Join Sarah and Quinn as they navigate the complex terrain of perception versus reality, offering insights and strategies to foster a healthier and more connected parent-child dynamic.   This Week’s Practice: Checking Your Perception For week's practice, Sarah and Quinn invite you to embark on a journey of self-awareness and mindfulness. The central theme revolves around the importance of evaluating our perceptions with a critical eye. Question whether your initial judgments and assumptions about your teens' actions could potentially be different when viewed from a different perspective. It's an exercise in considering the evidence and staying open to alternative viewpoints. Moreover, they stress the significance of being conscious of our reactions to these perceptions, as our responses can significantly impact the parent-child relationship. By cultivating a habit of checking and questioning our perceptions, we can foster a more empathetic and understanding connection with our teens.   Books Mentioned in this Episode:  And Then They Stopped Talking to Me: Making Sense of Middle School by Judith Warner   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

What if success was failure and failure was success? In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the concept of setting and achieving goals, inspired by a compelling Ted Talk by former NFL player Emmanuel Acho. The discussion challenges conventional wisdom surrounding goals, emphasizing the importance of flexibility and adaptation. While goals can provide direction and motivation, they also have the potential to limit us when we become overly fixated on achieving them. Sarah and Quinn invite listeners to explore a different perspective—one where success and failure intertwine and where the journey towards our aspirations holds greater significance than the destination. Join them as they unravel the fluid nature of goals and the liberating notion that our path to success may not always follow a straight line.    This Week’s Practice: Creating Goals  This week, Sarah and Quinn encourage you to embark on a personal journey of growth and transformation. Challenge yourself to set a goal, no matter the size, that embodies change and progress. Embracing change is a powerful way to break free from the confines of routine and open new doors to self-improvement. Whether it's a small step or a giant leap, this practice is a reminder that every goal, big or small, has the potential to shape your life in profound ways. So, what will your goal be this week, and how will it redefine your path to success? Join the conversation and discover the magic of embracing change.   Reference:  TED TALK: Why You Should Stop Setting Goals (Yes, Really) by Emmanuel Acho    CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Happy New Year! In the first episode of 2024, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive deep into the topic of trust, the cornerstone of strong parent-teen relationships. After a refreshing break over the holidays, they return to explore the dynamics of trust between parents and their teens. Trust is a two-way street, and the hosts discuss how it involves not only trusting our teens to make mistakes and learn but also trusting ourselves as parents. They emphasize that as parents, we set the tone for trust through our presence, engagement, and reliability. Join Sarah and Quinn as they unravel the layers of trust and share insights on building a foundation of trust that fosters open and healthy communication between parents and their teenagers.   This Week’s Practice: Daily Self-Reflection This week, Sarah and Quinn encourage parents to engage in daily self-reflection as a powerful tool for cultivating trustworthiness. The practice involves taking a moment each day to assess our actions and behaviors. Did we uphold our commitments? Were we honest with ourselves and others? Did we handle various situations with integrity? By consistently checking in with ourselves and holding ourselves accountable, we can actively work on building trust not only with our teens but also with ourselves. This practice serves as a valuable step toward becoming the trustworthy parents we aspire to be, setting a positive example for our teens in the process.   Books Mentioned in this Episode:  Listening for Well-Being : Conversations with People Not Like Us by Arun Maira That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships by Deborah Tannen The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van der Kolk, MD   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this special bonus episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison bid farewell to 2023 with a heartfelt reflection on the growth and stretching they've experienced throughout the year, marked by new ventures, challenges, and the launch of this very podcast, Plan P!   Sarah and Quinn also unveil exciting plans for 2024, offering listeners a sneak peek into what's to come:   "Potty Training to Pot Training" eBook Release: A valuable resource for parents navigating the various stages of child development. Free Virtual Parent Support Group: A community for parents to connect, share experiences, and support each other. Guest Interviews: Engaging conversations with family, clients, and other parenting experts, bringing diverse perspectives to the forefront.   Plan P will return on January 17, 2024 for more insightful discussions, practical parenting advice, and shared experiences. We are truly grateful for the incredible support and engagement throughout the year and we wish you and your family Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!   This Week’s Practice: Put Care, Compassion & Love First  As we conclude the year, this week's practice encourages a beautiful act of self-love and care. Amidst the hustle and bustle, take a moment to prioritize yourself. Engage in a thoughtful gesture that brings you joy, whether it's a relaxing hot bath, buying yourself flowers, immersing yourself in a good book, or binging your favorite show.   Recognize and embrace the deserving nature of self-care. This practice serves as a gentle reminder to extend the same care, compassion, and love to yourself that you offer to others. In winding down for the end of the year, gift yourself a moment of kindness, reinforcing the importance of self-nurturing for a healthy and fulfilling start to the new year.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this final episode of the year, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison guide parents through the unique challenges of the holiday season's grand finale: New Year's Eve. While Christmas often leans towards family-focused tranquility, New Year's Eve, particularly with teenage and young adult children, requires a different approach.   Sarah and Quinn emphasize the importance of candid conversations with teens and young adults about the significance of a safe New Year's Eve. As children grow older, their desire for more freedom and participation in celebratory events increases. It becomes crucial for parents to discuss responsible drinking, safety measures, awareness of surroundings, and pre-planned arrangements (such as calling an Uber or staying at a friend's house).   Recognizing that New Year's Eve is one of the most dangerous holidays, the hosts encourage parents not to shy away from this vital conversation of safety. The ultimate goal is to create a safe and open space for children to be honest about their plans. As the year draws to a close, Sarah and Quinn extend warm wishes for Happy Holidays and a joyous New Year. See you in 2024!   This Week’s Practice: What Picture are You Painting?  This week's practice centers around the crucial theme of trust and safety in conversations about New Year's Eve with your teenage and young adult children. As you engage in these discussions, be mindful of your responses. Making an effort to create an environment where your child feels safe enough to open up is key.   Once your child shares their plans, resist the urge to overreact. Trust that your kids are capable of handling themselves appropriately. It's a delicate balance—nurturing trust through open communication and respecting their growing independence. This practice encourages parents to foster an atmosphere where safety and honesty coexist, ensuring a meaningful and secure start to the new year for everyone involved.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this heartfelt episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive into the importance of being truly present, both emotionally and mentally, during the holiday season. Beyond the physical presence, they advocate for intentional mindfulness amidst the hustle and bustle that often engulfs this time of year.   As the rush of holiday preparations can overshadow the true meaning of the season, Sarah and Quinn inspire listeners to ground themselves through mindfulness. The episode explores the significance of bringing consciousness to actions often done unconsciously, fostering a deeper connection with the holiday moments that matter most.   Join them in this reflective journey toward embracing the gift of your presence, recognizing that true joy and fulfillment in the holidays come from being fully engaged and mindful in the present moment.   This Week’s Practice: Presence and Appreciation This week's practice encourages the simple yet profound act of being present in the moment with genuine appreciation. Begin by taking a moment to appreciate your surroundings, whether it's the warmth of your home, the beauty of holiday decorations, or the company of loved ones.   Take a deep breath to anchor yourself in the present, allowing the sensory details to unfold. This practice invites you to step into the current moment with a heightened sense of awareness and gratitude. Embracing the power of appreciation fosters a deeper connection with the joy and beauty that each moment holds during the holiday season.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this insightful follow-up to their discussion on holiday pressures, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the essential concept of having a family plan in place for a festive, stress-free season. As families evolve and traditions shift with the passing years, it's crucial to engage in open discussions about how you'll spend the holidays.   Sarah and Quinn delve into the various considerations: will it be a getaway, a visit to the in-laws, a quiet evening at home, or perhaps allowing the kids to spend time with friends? The hosts emphasize the importance of managing expectations, ensuring that every family member, from spouses to kids, can have a meaningful and enjoyable holiday without unnecessary pressure.   As the dynamics of family traditions transform, this episode encourages the creation of new traditions through open communication and collaborative decision-making. Join Sarah and Quinn for valuable insights on crafting a holiday blueprint that fosters joy, connection, and shared meaning for everyone in the family.   This Week’s Practice: Prioritizing Joy in Your Holiday Plans This week's practice encourages intentional decision-making for the holiday season and beyond. As you navigate choices, ask yourself a crucial question: "Is this truly a priority, or is it just a preference?" Understanding the distinction aids in planning a smoother holiday experience.   By discerning what holds genuine importance to you and your family, you can craft holiday plans around those priority factors. This practice cultivates a mindful and joy-centric approach, ensuring that your festivities align with what truly matters, enhancing the meaningful moments and reducing unnecessary stress.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison kick off the holiday season with a candid conversation about pushing through the pressures that often accompany this time of year. While the holidays bring joy for many, they can also weigh heavily on those experiencing loss, such as Quinn, who has navigated the absence of a parent.   Sarah and Quinn delve into the societal expectations that can burden individuals during the holiday season—feeling the pressure to be relentlessly joyful, managing the expectations of a perfect holiday for everyone, and juggling the demands of cooking and decorating. Drawing an analogy to a car's tire pressure check, the hosts encourage all parents to pause, reflect, and assess their own holiday pressures.   This episode serves as a reminder to prioritize the true meaning of the holidays amidst the chaos. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating the complexities of this season, offering solace and understanding for those experiencing a mix of emotions during what is often perceived as a joyful time.    This Week’s Practice: Cultivate Contentment This week's practice encourages a mindful approach to the holiday season. Reflect on what will genuinely bring you contentment, emphasizing the importance of balance in your aspirations. Consider what you want to contribute to the holiday festivities, whether it's a joyful atmosphere, meaningful connections, or simply a delicious meal.    Acknowledge that the holidays should be a time of joy, not stress. By aligning your expectations with what truly matters to you, you can cultivate a sense of contentment, fostering a holiday season filled with authentic warmth and joy….remember there’s NO PRESSURE here - only reflection!    CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this timely episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into a significant and often debated topic: therapeutic wilderness programs and boarding schools for troubled teens. Drawing from their own personal journey, where they made the challenging decision to send their son to a wilderness program over a decade ago, Sarah and Quinn share their insights and experiences.   This episode serves as an informative guide for parents, emphasizing that therapeutic wilderness programs and boarding schools are just one of many options available. The hosts stress the importance of understanding that there's no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to helping struggling teens. The focus here is on offering an opportunity, not a mandate, for both teens and parents to engage in transformative work separately.   Sarah and Quinn emphasize a crucial point: change requires effort from both sides. They advocate for parents to recognize that their own growth and willingness to change are essential components of nurturing a healthy relationship with their teens. Tune in to gain valuable insights, perspectives, and resources, empowering parents to make informed decisions while fostering understanding and empathy in the journey toward healing and growth.   More About Teen Therapeutic Programs Listen to Episode 2: Overcoming Parental Peer Pressure Books "What Now?" by Dr. Paul Case  "Shouting at the Sky" by Gary Ferguson   This Week’s Practice: Informed Decision-Making This week's practice urges parents to approach the challenging decision of seeking help for their struggling teen with thoughtfulness and care. Begin by considering all available options—therapeutic wilderness programs, boarding schools, and more. Write down these choices and seek counsel from trusted individuals, valuing their perspectives and insights.   Take time to deeply reflect on the reasons guiding your decision-making process. Ensure that your choices are rooted in genuine concern for your teen's well-being, the overall family dynamics, and the long-term health of your relationship. Resist making decisions out of fear or panic, prioritizing what aligns with the best interests of your teen and your family. This practice encourages mindful consideration, enabling you to make informed choices that pave the way for a healthier, supportive future.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison explore the profound shift in parenting dynamics as teens transition into adults. The discussion centers on the crucial difference between being a caregiver and a caretaker. Caretaking, as they emphasize, involves providing care with an expectation of something in return, often tied to control. Caregiving, on the other hand, is the act of providing support, love, and guidance without expecting reciprocity. It's about fostering an environment of trust and empowerment.   The hosts shed light on the empowering concept of giving care—nurturing independence without strings attached. It's about relinquishing control and allowing young adults the freedom to make their own choices and decisions. By giving care, parents foster self-reliance and confidence in their children, preparing them for the challenges and triumphs of adulthood. Join Sarah and Quinn in this insightful episode, guiding parents on the path toward supportive, empowering care that enables their teens to flourish independently.   This Week’s Practice: The Care in Caregiving This week's practice encourages a moment of self-reflection amid caregiving responsibilities. Take the time to care for yourself, recognizing your own needs and well-being. Reflect on your reasons for giving or taking care of others, whether it's your child, an aging parent, or anyone else. What motivates your actions? If you find uncertainty in your motivations, give yourself the permission to hit pause. This practice prompts a deeper understanding of the intentions behind your caregiving, fostering a more conscious and balanced approach to supporting others while prioritizing your own self-care.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison shed light on the delicate balance of parenting: knowing when to step back. While it's natural to want to help our pre-teens, teens, and young adults navigate life, it's equally crucial to resist the urge to be a helicopter parent. The hosts emphasize the importance of allowing children the space to make mistakes and learn from them. By stepping back, parents foster independence, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills. Unless the situation poses a danger, it's okay to let them face consequences, be it a bad grade or finding their own way home. Join Sarah and Quinn as they explore the transformative power of letting go, shaping resilient and self-sufficient young adults in the process. Tune in for invaluable insights on nurturing independence while providing a safety net of guidance.   This Week’s Practice: Allow Room for Growth This week's practice encourages parents to step back and allow their children to experience the natural consequences of their actions. It involves giving kids the space to trip and fall, metaphorically speaking, and make mistakes without immediate parental intervention. Whether it's burning dinner, shrinking a shirt in the laundry, or missing an assignment, resisting the urge to jump in and correct fosters essential life skills. By allowing these mishaps, children learn responsibility, problem-solving, and resilience. Embracing mistakes becomes a powerful tool for growth, helping kids develop independence and learn from real-life experiences. This practice promotes a healthy balance between guidance and allowing children to navigate the challenges of life, contributing to their personal development and self-confidence.   Parenting Resources Mentioned:  “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. S. Dweck   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this enlightening episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the intricate world of emotions, exploring the depth and complexity beyond the typical happy-sad-mad spectrum. They emphasize the importance of parents doing the necessary inner work to identify their own feelings and reasons behind them. Recognizing that if expressing emotions is challenging for parents, it naturally becomes difficult for teenagers too.    One key technique discussed is the use of "I" statements, empowering parents and teens alike to express themselves honestly and respectfully. By delving into the nuances of emotions and equipping listeners with effective communication tools, this episode serves as a practical guide to fostering healthier parent-teen relationships. Tune in as Sarah and Quinn unravel the layers of emotions, offering invaluable advice on navigating the often intricate terrain of feelings.   This Week’s Practice: Embracing "I Feel" Statements This week's practice revolves around honing emotional awareness and effective communication. Begin by identifying your feelings, acknowledging them without judgment. For enhanced communication, visit our website's resources page, where valuable tips on formulating "I" statements await. These statements, starting with "I feel," empower you to express emotions assertively and respectfully, fostering healthy dialogue. Practice using these statements in your daily interactions, both with your teens and others. By mastering this skill, you create a bridge of understanding, promoting open and empathetic communication within your family and beyond.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison tackle the age-old topic of how to talk to your teenager about getting piercings and tattoos.    Let's face it, every generation has its "thing" that shapes their identity, and in 2023, tattoos and piercings are far less taboo than they might have been decades ago. Many parents worry about job prospects and societal judgments, but Sarah and Quinn are here to remind us that these concerns are often generational.   Join us as we explore the evolution of self-expression and dive into the heart of the matter: having an open and understanding conversation with your teen. There's no one-size-fits-all solution, but the way you approach this delicate subject can significantly impact the openness of communication with your teenager. Remember - tattoos can be removed or concealed, and piercings can be taken out!    Tune in for valuable insights, practical tips, and the reassurance that your relationship with your teen can remain strong through it all.    This Week’s Practice: Pause & Reflect Take a moment to reflect on your own teenage years. Think back to something you wanted to do that your parents disapproved of—whether it was a hairstyle, choice of attire, music preference, or experimenting with habits like smoking. The purpose of this exercise is to connect with your own youthful desire for independence and identity. Remember that as teenagers, we all had our rebellious moments, driven by the need to fit in and belong. This reflection helps you empathize with your child's perspective, fostering understanding and open communication. It reminds you that these desires for self-expression are a natural part of growing up, and approaching your teen's choices with empathy and respect can strengthen your relationship and trust with them.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Join us for a heartwarming and insightful episode of Plan P as hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison unveil the deeply personal stories behind their tattoos, each symbolizing profound parenting principles they hold dear. Sarah's tattoo, etched in Spanish, embodies her unwavering commitment to "Relentless Devotion to Hope and Truth." Quinn's ink, a collection of math symbols, encapsulates the powerful sentiment that "Change is Constant." Through candid and touching narratives, Sarah and Quinn invite you into their world, where these enduring values serve as guiding lights in their parenting journey.   Discover the inspiration behind their tattoos, the significance of embracing hope, truth, and the inevitability of change, and how these principles shape their parenting philosophy. Whether you're seeking inspiration, grappling with your own values, or simply curious about the human stories behind the tattoos, this episode offers a glimpse into the hearts of two dedicated parenting coaches. Join us as we explore the beauty of values-driven parenting and the powerful role of hope and truth in shaping the path of parenthood. This Week’s Practice: Anchor Your Values This practice encourages you to delve into your core values, those fundamental principles that hold significant meaning for you. Imagine if you could tattoo one value onto your body—what would it be? This value represents your unwavering commitment and serves as an anchor to keep you grounded, not only as a parent but in life as a whole. The purpose here is to identify the core value that will guide your decisions and actions, providing a strong moral compass for your parenting journey and beyond. By making this commitment, you solidify your dedication to nurturing a family environment aligned with your deeply-held beliefs, fostering a sense of purpose and clarity in your parenting role.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Join us for an engaging and thought-provoking episode of Plan P where hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison dive headfirst into the age-old parenting question: "How much freedom is too much freedom for your teens?" The resounding answer? It depends. In this candid discussion, Sarah and Quinn explore the delicate balance of giving and limiting freedom for adolescents, emphasizing the importance of trust earned over time.   This episode delves into the art of loosening the reins and allowing your teens to explore the world, all while acknowledging that the ideal level of freedom varies from family to family. The duo shares valuable insights into tailoring your approach to what works best for you and your unique family dynamics. Above all, Sarah and Quinn stress the importance of ensuring that your parenting doesn't stem from a place of control but rather from fostering a nurturing environment that encourages growth and independence. Whether you're a seasoned parent navigating the teenage years or just starting this journey, this episode provides a compass for striking the right balance between guidance and freedom in your parenting role. Tune in for wisdom, empathy, and a reminder that there's no one-size-fits-all answer in the art of parenting.   This Week’s Practice: Boundary Awareness This practice revolves around cultivating heightened awareness in your role as a parent. Start by evaluating your communication of clear boundaries to your child, ensuring they balance both freedom and limitations effectively. Reflect on whether you might be setting too few boundaries or not acknowledging boundary adherence sufficiently. Practice open negotiation with your child as necessary, fostering a sense of cooperation and mutual understanding. Understand that establishing and maintaining boundaries is a dynamic, ongoing process, shaped by your unique family values and preferences. This practice underscores the importance of maintaining a delicate balance, promoting a healthy parent-child relationship rooted in trust and respect.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

In this highly anticipated follow-up episode of Plan P, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison extend their insightful conversation on conquering the persistent worry that can often dominate the parenting journey. Building upon their previous discussion, they delve deeper into strategies for putting an end to worry as a knee-jerk reaction and instead fostering a conscious approach to dealing with anxiety about the unknown.   Discover their valuable tips to ACE your worries—Awareness, Communication, and Engagement. These essential components form a powerful framework to transform the way you respond to uncertainty, helping you regain control over your thoughts and emotions. Whether you're a new listener or returning for more wisdom, this episode provides practical guidance for every parent striving to navigate the complex terrain of parenthood with grace and confidence. Tune in and learn how to take charge of your worries, forging a path toward a more peaceful and balanced parenting experience.   This Week’s Practice: Complete Your ACE Worksheet To conquer the tendency to worry incessantly, utilize the ACE worksheet available on the Plan P website. ACE stands for Awareness, Communication, and Engagement. This invaluable resource isn't just for personal use; it can be applied in your interactions with your kids, spouse, friends, co-workers, and beyond. The primary objective is to shift from worrying as a knee-jerk reaction to adopting a conscious, proactive approach when faced with anxiety about the unknown. This practice empowers you to navigate uncertainty with a structured and effective strategy, fostering better communication, self-awareness, and engagement with others. It's a practical tool to enhance your emotional well-being and improve relationships across the board.   GET THE ACE SHEET NOW   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

*Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide. Listener discretion advised. We understand that these type of conversations can be emotionally challenging and may evoke a range of feelings for our listeners. If you are personally struggling with thoughts of self-harm or suicide, please reach out to a mental health professional or a crisis hotline. In the United States, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or 988*    In this enlightening episode of Plan P, hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison delve into the common parental struggle of perseverating (or obsessing) over the fear of the unknown. While every parent worries naturally, it's crucial not to let that fear consume you. Sarah and Quinn provide invaluable insights into breaking the cycle of worry that can lead to unnecessary control, which isn't healthy for either the parent or the child.   Tune in as they guide you through practical steps to overcome this challenge. Learn to take a deep breath and understand that excessive worry doesn't change outcomes. Recognize that, statistically, the odds are on your side, and your child is likely to be just fine. Discover that the issues that keep you up at night are often phases your child will naturally outgrow. Embrace their valuable advice to shift your approach from control to genuine concern, ensuring a healthier and more balanced parent-child relationship. This episode is a must-listen for all parents seeking to navigate the path of parenthood with greater peace, clarity, and empathy.   This Week’s Practice: Release the Worry This practice is all about letting go of parental worry and embracing a more centered perspective. Begin by taking a deep breath and acknowledging that excessive worry won't change the outcome. Remind yourself that, statistically, the odds are on your side, and your child is likely to be just fine. Recognize that many of the concerns that keep you up at night are often phases that your child will naturally outgrow. Shift your approach from control to genuine concern. By doing so, you maintain a supportive and empathetic connection with your child, allowing them the space they need to grow and learn, while still being there as a loving and understanding presence in their lives. It's a practice that fosters both your peace of mind and your child's emotional well-being.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

As your child blossoms into a full-fledged teenager, the art of parenting takes on new dimensions. In this episode, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison, delve into the delicate dance of "detaching with love."   Navigating the path from active parenting to fostering independence requires finesse, and Sarah and Quinn have the insights you need. Drawing from their personal and professional journeys, they explore the transformative power of trust—trust in your teenager's ability to make decisions and carve their unique path. But it's not a journey without its milestones.   Join us as we uncover the subtle balance between holding on and letting go. Discover how to recognize those pivotal moments when a supportive nudge is needed versus when it's time to step back and allow growth. As Sarah and Quinn share their own stories, anecdotes, and proven strategies, you'll gain practical tools to strengthen your parent-child bond while embracing the changing dynamics.   This Week’s Practice: Parenting Assessment This practice revolves around self-assessment and mindful parenting. Take a moment to assess your interactions with your children. Are you coming from a place of love and support or inadvertently veering into a controlling role? Evaluate your actions and consider whether your guidance is still necessary in certain areas or if it's time to foster greater independence. Specifically, reflect on what your pre-teen, teen, or young adult children can and should be doing for themselves, and identify areas where parental boundaries may need adjustment. This practice prompts you to strike the delicate balance between nurturing and granting autonomy, ensuring your parenting approach evolves alongside your child's growth and development. It's a continuous process of self-awareness and adaptation, nurturing a harmonious and respectful parent-child relationship.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

It's September, which means it's National Recovery Month!! In honor of this month, Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison are on a mission to break the stigma and get real about the intersection of mental health and substance abuse.   Let's face it – life's a rollercoaster, and sometimes, we all need a little help to navigate the ups and downs. That's where the intersection of mental health and recovery comes into play. Many people turn to substances as a way to cope with unaddressed mental health issues. It's a tough cycle, and it's high time we talked about it openly.   Join Sarah and Quinn as they take you on a journey of understanding and empowerment. In this episode, you'll learn:   Why the mental health-substance abuse connection matters: Unpacking the reasons why mental health struggles can lead to substance use and abuse. How to start the conversation: Tips and strategies for having those crucial talks with pre-teens, teens, and young adults about substance abuse and mental health. Real stories, real insights: Heartfelt stories and practical advice from the trenches of recovery and mental wellness.   We're here to remind you that it's okay to not be okay sometimes, and it's absolutely okay to seek help. Together, we can break down the barriers and make sure no one feels alone on their journey to recovery.   Let's honor National Recovery Month by spreading awareness, understanding, and most importantly, hope.   This Week’s Practice: Make One Small Change This practice centers on self-awareness and gradual self-improvement. Begin by identifying one aspect of yourself, no matter how small, that you'd like to change or improve. It could be something as minor as reducing your social media time or cutting back on caffeine. The key is to heighten your awareness about this particular habit or behavior. Remember, the goal here is not to make grand, instant changes, but to initiate a process of self-reflection and growth. Recognizing that change takes time, this practice serves as a reminder that every step towards self-improvement, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction. It's a journey of self-discovery and gradual transformation.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Dive into this week's episode of Plan P as hosts Sarah Pollak and Quinn Faison lead the way into a discussion that's all about nurturing trust in your parent-child relationship. In this thought-provoking episode, Sarah and Quinn serve as your expert guides on the journey to foster deep connections and unwavering trust with your child (and yourself!)   Join them as they reveal the vital components that lay the groundwork for a trustworthy relationship: openness, reliability, consistency and understanding. You'll discover how clear communication serves as the cornerstone of trust-building, allowing you to bridge gaps and create an environment where your child feels safe to confide in you.   Drawing from real-world examples and their wealth of experience, the hosts emphasize that trust isn't a one-way street; it's a collaborative journey. As you listen in, you'll gain insights into how nurturing trust with your child empowers them to become confident decision-makers while strengthening the parent-child bond.   Tune in and equip yourself with invaluable tools to nurture trust that lasts a lifetime. Whether you're navigating the world of early parenting or guiding your teenager through challenges, the wisdom shared in this episode will be your compass to fostering relationships built on a foundation of unwavering trust.   This Week’s Practice: Value-Driven Reflection This practice encourages self-reflection and alignment with your core values. Start by selecting a value that is important to you and consider how your actions and choices reflect that value in your daily life. It's like holding up a mirror to your behaviors, ensuring they resonate with your deeply-held beliefs. Prioritizing self-reflection in this way not only helps you stay true to your values but also fosters personal growth and authenticity. It's a practice that nurtures self-awareness and empowers you to live in alignment with what truly matters to you, both for your own well-being and as a model for your children.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Get ready for an eye-opening episode of the Plan P Podcast that dives deep into the art of parenting with boundaries. Join hosts Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison as they uncover the secrets to establishing effective boundaries for both kids and parents alike.   In "Parenting with Parameters," Sarah and Quinn unveil the key to setting boundaries that truly work – clarity, communication and consequences. Learn how to define limits that are not only understood but also embraced by your children. Discover the power of consequences that are consistent, realistic, and can be upheld, ensuring that boundaries are respected.   But here's the twist: boundaries aren't barriers; they're bridges. Sarah and Quinn delve into this empowering concept, emphasizing that boundaries foster healthy relationships and pave the way for growth, understanding, and mutual respect.   Tune in to this episode and equip yourself with the knowledge and tools to navigate the intricate terrain of parenting with parameters. Whether you're dealing with toddler tantrums or teenage defiance, these insights will guide you towards a harmonious balance between structure and flexibility. Prepare to transform your parenting journey and cultivate connections that flourish within well-defined bounds.     This Week’s Practice: Define the Parameters  Creating healthy boundaries starts with yourself. This practice encourages you to establish clear parameters, distinguishing what's within your control and what isn't. Identify an area in your life where you can set a personal boundary, unrelated to others, and define both the consequences and rewards for adhering to it. By mastering self-boundaries, you build a strong foundation for setting effective boundaries with your children and others. This practice teaches self-awareness, self-discipline, and the importance of balancing your needs and responsibilities, ultimately contributing to healthier, more fulfilling relationships and a more balanced life.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Hey parents! Ready to tackle the upcoming school year like a pro? Our newest episode on the Plan P Podcast has your back. We're diving into all things "back to school" and sharing some nifty tips to make the transition a breeze for your kiddos (and you, too!).   Join us as we explore the art of effective communication and setting clear expectations. Discover how open dialogue can foster understanding and pave the way for a successful academic journey.    As parents, it's crucial to recognize that our children's ultimate desire is acceptance. Through poignant anecdotes and practical advice, this episode sheds light on how parents can support their children's emotional well-being, promoting self-assuredness and a positive school experience.   Tune in to the Plan P Podcast and equip yourself with the tools to navigate the upcoming school year with finesse. Whether your child is starting kindergarten or entering high school, these invaluable insights will empower you to create a nurturing environment for growth, learning, and cherished memories. Don't miss this opportunity to pave the way for an exceptional school year ahead!    This Week’s Practice: Back-to-School Pep Talk As the new school year approaches, set the stage for success by engaging in upfront conversations about expectations and boundaries with your child. This practice involves sitting down together to discuss what's expected academically, socially, and behaviorally. Encourage your child to share their own goals and concerns too. By having these open dialogues, you create a clear roadmap for the year ahead and ensure that everyone is on the same page. This practice fosters understanding, accountability, and a sense of shared responsibility, setting a positive tone for the school year and helping your child feel supported in their educational journey.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Join us in this week's captivating episode of Plan P, where Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison delve into the art of managing transitions from a parent's perspective. From the adorable toddler stage to the tumultuous teenage years and beyond, parenting is a series of transformative experiences for both kids and parents.    In this episode, Sarah and Quinn emphasize that parents undergo significant transitions alongside their children. As kids grow, so do parents, navigating their roles, emotions, and responsibilities through each life stage. Discover insightful tips to foster effective communication and create an environment where kids feel seen and heard. The hosts reveal the power of active listening and validation, essential tools to strengthen the parent-child bond throughout all stages of development.   From navigating the challenges of the "terrible twos" to guiding teenagers through newfound independence, this episode offers practical strategies to make transitions smoother and more rewarding for everyone involved.   This Week’s Practice: Ask Engaging Questions, Get Engaging Answers  When it comes to connecting with your teens, asking thoughtful and engaging questions can be a game-changer. Instead of the usual "How was school today?" or yes-or-no queries, challenge yourself to ask open-ended, thought-provoking questions that invite meaningful conversation. As your child shares, make a conscious effort to listen without interrupting or dismissing their thoughts and feelings. Embrace the secret weapon of this practice: "tell me more." It's a simple phrase that encourages them to delve deeper into their experiences. And remember, patience is key; if they don't open up right away, give them the space and time they need to feel comfortable sharing. This practice not only fosters communication but also strengthens the bond between you and your child, ensuring they know their thoughts and feelings are valued and respected.   Please note: The title of this episode in no way, shape or form intended to train children, certainly not on how to do any drugs.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us   Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Welcome back to the Plan P Podcast! In our second episode, "Overcoming Parental Peer Pressure," parenting coaches Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison tackle a topic often overlooked—the pressure parents face to make the right decisions on their journey of raising their children. Just like teenagers, parents can feel the weight of peers' expectations and judgments, making it challenging to trust their instincts. Sarah and Quinn candidly share their own struggles with seeking approval for their parenting choices, revealing how it affected their confidence and decision-making. Join us to explore effective strategies to break free from this cycle, gain self-assurance, and embrace your unique parenting path. Let's overcome parental peer pressure together!   Sarah and Quinn have the full approval and support of their children, Allie and Harrison, to do this work and offer this podcast to parents everywhere.   This Week’s Practice: The Pressure Pause In the chaos of managing work, family, and daily life, it's vital to recognize moments when you're under pressure. Embrace the "Pressure Pause" practice to navigate these moments more mindfully. When you sense stress building, take a moment to acknowledge your emotions and resist the urge to hastily seek solutions. Reflect on your typical response to pressure and consider seeking support from trusted individuals. This practice encourages you to respond with composure and patience, teaching your children the value of managing life's challenges with grace rather than constantly striving for immediate answers. It's a lesson in both self-care and resilience.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!

Welcome to the Plan P Podcast! Join certified parenting coaches Sarah Pollak & Quinn Faison as they delve into the transformative power of PRACTICE in parenting. In this episode, they share their personal story of sending their troubled teenage son to a wilderness therapy program when they felt like they were at the end of their rope. Discover their journey of survival, growth, and the loving relationship they built with their now-adult children. Gain practical insights, actionable practices, and hope as you navigate the challenges of raising ever-evolving teenagers. Tune in and be empowered!    (Sarah and Quinn have the full approval and support of their children, Allie and Harrison, to do this work and offer this podcast to parents everywhere.)   This Week's Practice: Assess Your Decisions  In the midst of our busy lives, it's easy to overlook the significance of our daily choices. This week’s practice encourages us to pause, reflect, and become more mindful of the decisions we make throughout the day. Take a moment to breathe, consider the choices you've made, and think about how they may have influenced both you and those around you. This practice not only promotes personal awareness but also sets a positive example for your children, demonstrating the importance of thoughtful decision-making in daily life. It's a simple yet powerful step towards building greater awareness and making choices that align with your family's values and goals.   CONNECT WITH US Follow Plan P on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok @planpisfor Join our parenting community & stay connected here Have a question that you would like Sarah & Quinn to answer? Email us at connect@planp.us Visit planp.us to learn more and get access to resources to build healthy relationships with your pre-teens, teens and young adult children!