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- 755 - TRANSFORMED: How the Gospel Changed Linda Seiler's Mind & Heart
In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Linda Seiler, a remarkable advocate for addressing LGBTQ struggles through a Christian worldview. We dive into her personal journey, where she shares her experiences with gender identity confusion and her transformation after coming to faith in Christ.
Dr. Seiler discusses her book, "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ," highlighting her struggles, the power of Christ, and the importance of compassion and truth when addressing such complex and personal struggles. Our conversation emphasizes a clear gospel approach to sexual brokenness, offering hope and understanding for those navigating similar challenges. There is good news in the gospel – Jesus really does transform us!
For more information about Linda and her ministry, visitRestoryMinistries.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Dr. Linda Siler's personal journey with gender identity and sexuality.The impact of her conversion to Christianity on her identity and struggles.Discussion of her book "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ."The concept of being "born again" and its implications for identity in Christ.Misconceptions surrounding LGBTQ identities and the potential for change.The five streams of church responses to LGBTQ issues: condemnation, affirmation, accommodation, mortification, and transformation.The importance of compassion and understanding in addressing sexual brokenness.The role of the gospel in transforming lives and identities.Encouragement for individuals to engage with and support those struggling with their sexuality.Resources for further exploration of LGBTQ issues within a faith context.More Resources:
TRANS-formation: A Former Transgender Responds to LGBTQ* by Dr. Linda SeilerLindaSeiler.com Quick GuidesRelated Podcasts:
Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)Navigating Identity & Sexuality - A Compassionate Approach for ParentsAm I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 13 Nov 2024 - 754 - Sadness and Hope: The Dynamic Duo of Personal Growth
In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the complexities of personal growth, focusing on how childhood experiences shape adult behavior. We discuss insights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshop, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our own choices while understanding the influences of our upbringing.
I admire Stephen’s work on DoctorMarriage.org and how he offers practical tools and tips for men wanting to live a full life of integrity. In our conversation, we explore themes of belonging, identity, and the emotional struggles many face. We highlight the coexistence of sadness and hope, encouraging listeners to embrace self-discovery and seek support for healing and transformation.
To get daily insights from Stephen, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Personal responsibility and its complexitiesImpact of childhood experiences on adult behaviorDistinction between personal choices and external influencesInsights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshopEmotional struggles related to belonging and identityThe pain of rejection and its lasting effectsThe relationship between sadness and hopeCoping mechanisms developed in childhood and their consequencesThe journey of self-discovery and healingImportance of seeking support and community for personal growthMore Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menSad, but Hopeful post on DoctorMarriage.orgGrace-Based Recovery Online GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Why Men Need to Practice SadnessWhole Man Recovery Pt 3: EmotionalNavigating Grief, Fear, and Transformation----------
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Wed, 06 Nov 2024 - 753 - Changed: The Amazing Transformation of a Former Lesbian Pastor
In this episode, we chat with the amazing Elizabeth Woning about her incredible journey of faith and sexuality. Elizabeth, once an openly lesbian woman who attended seminary, shares her experiences reconciling her sexuality with her faith in God.
We delve into her transformative encounters with God, the challenges of navigating faith within the LGBTQ+ community, and the importance of self-acceptance in light of the gospel. Elizabeth's story highlights the power of experiencing God's love and the ongoing journey of understanding one's true identity. Her insights offer hope and guidance for anyone grappling with similar issues. Join us for this earnest and enlightening conversation!
For more information about Elizabeth and her movement, visitChangedMovement.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Exploration of the intersection between faith and sexuality.Personal journey of an openly lesbian woman in a religious context.Experiences in seminary and the LGBTQ+ community.The impact of transformative encounters with God.Reevaluation of beliefs regarding identity and self-acceptance.The role of God's love in shaping personal identity.Challenges faced by individuals with life-dominating issues related to sexuality.Importance of relational understanding of God versus a philosophical approach.Strategies for creating safe environments for discussions about identity.Encouragement for individuals to seek a deeper communion with God.More Resources:
Changed Book: #OnceGayStoriesNavigating LGBTQ video courseChanged StoriesRelated Podcasts:
From Broken Home to Broken Sexuality to Wholeness in ChristAm I Gay? (with Garry Ingraham)What is Sexual Discipleship?----------
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Wed, 30 Oct 2024 - 752 - A Journey of Redemption and Healing
In this episode, I chat with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell about their incredible journey of healing and redemption from sexual brokenness in their marriage. They are the founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and help other couples overcome their past and fight for their future.
In our conversation, Phil opens up about his long-term struggle with pornography and the devastating impact it had on their relationship. Priscilla shares her raw emotions of betrayal and anger, and how she found the strength to forgive. Together, they highlight the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and seeking help. Their story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest times, transformation and healing are possible through faith and open communication.
To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their ministry, visitSavageMarriageMinistries.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Personal struggles with pornography and its impact on marriageThe journey of confession and the importance of transparencyEmotional wounds and their influence on behaviorThe role of accountability and seeking help in recoveryThe process of healing from betrayal and angerThe significance of communication in rebuilding trustThe impact of struggles on family dynamics and relationshipsThe transformative power of vulnerability and honestyThe development of a new ministry to support others facing similar challengesEncouragement for others to pursue healing and restoration in their relationshipsMore Resources:
Savage Marriage* by Phil and Priscilla FretwellSavage Marriage PodcastGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menWives Care Online GroupsRelated Podcasts:
The Journey to Stay (with Steve & Lisa Goldberg)Out of the Dust: One Couple's Story of Radical Redemption4 Skills to Transform Your Marriage*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 23 Oct 2024 - 751 - The Sex Talk You Never Got
In this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality.
We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction between normal arousal and lust. Sam highlights the need for competent counseling and open dialogue to foster a healthier understanding of men's sexual formation. This episode is a heartfelt call to reclaim the beauty and complexity of human sexuality as God designed it.
To learn more about Sam and the book, visitSamJolman.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Importance of open conversations about sexualityPersonal experiences and backstory of the speaker as a therapist and fatherThe role of competent counseling in addressing sexual issuesImpact of shame and purity culture on men's understanding of sexualityDistinction between normal arousal and lustConcept of the "wow response" to beauty and attractionNature of sexuality as a means for emotional and relational connectionInfluence of generational patterns of shame on sexual educationGuidance for parents on discussing sexuality with childrenEncouragement for ongoing dialogue about sexuality rather than a single conversationMore Resources:
The Sex Talk You Never Got* by Sam JolmanGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestRelated Podcasts:
Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused CultureGod's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityWhat is Sexual Discipleship?*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Fri, 18 Oct 2024 - 750 - Identifying and Meeting Needs in a Betrayed Wife
In this episode, I welcome back Lyschel Burket, an expert in helping women heal from betrayal trauma, especially in marriages affected by infidelity. Lyschel shares her personal journey and emphasizes the importance of community, safety, and communication in the healing process.
We discuss the unique emotional challenges women face after betrayal and the critical role of support and understanding from both partners and their community. Lyschel also highlights the spiritual aspect of healing, stressing how Christ provides hope and safety during suffering and grief. It’s a heartfelt conversation aimed at offering solace and guidance to those traveling this difficult path.
To learn more about Lyschel and her resources for wives, visitHopeRedefined.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Healing journey of women experiencing betrayal trauma, particularly in marriages.Importance of community support and connection during the healing process.Emotional challenges faced by women after discovering betrayal.Need for safety and stabilization as foundational aspects of healing.Communication between partners to rebuild trust and understanding.Unique experiences of betrayal and the necessity for empathy from partners.Role of the betraying partner in supporting the healing process.Impact of trauma on the grieving process and emotional responses.Self-care practices and accountability for betrayed partners.Spiritual aspect of healing and finding hope through faith.More Resources:
Hope for Wives Podcast40 Days of Healing for Wives online courseHope Redefined Online CommunityRelated Podcasts:
Sexual Betrayal and Spiritual BattleThe Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma HealingForgiveness and Grief in Betrayal Trauma Healing----------
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Wed, 16 Oct 2024 - 749 - How to Make Sex Pleasurable and Fun Again
In this episode, we invite back Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist and marriage expert, to talk about making sex pleasurable and fun again, especially for couples dealing with betrayal or brokenness.
Dr. Degler shares her insights on the importance of pleasure within God's design for sex and offers practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy after betrayal. We discuss the necessity of communication, mindfulness, and sensory exploration to rebuild trust and enjoyment in sexual relationships. Jennifer’s tips and insightful anecdotes provide a refreshing perspective on rekindling passion and connection in marriage.
To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visitJenniferDegler.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Importance of pleasure in sexual relationships within a Christian context.Challenges couples face in reconnecting after betrayal or brokenness.Practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy and pleasure.Role of communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy.Mindfulness techniques to enhance sensory experiences during intimacy.Non-sexual physical affection as a foundation for intimacy.Engaging the five senses to deepen connection and pleasure.Strategies for managing intrusive thoughts during intimate moments.Incorporating spirituality and prayer into the healing process.Encouragement for couples to persevere in their journey toward intimacy and fulfillment.More Resources:
CWIVESFree resources for building healthy marriagesFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
What Men Need to Know About Female SexualityUnderstanding Your Flipped Out BrainThe Journey to Stay----------
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Wed, 09 Oct 2024 - 748 - New Course: 40 Days of Healing for Wives
In this episode, I’m so excited to chat with Gigi Hopkins, our Wives Care Director, and Andrea Stunz, our Marketing Manager and Wives Care Aftercare Coordinator, about our new online resource, "40 Days of Healing for Wives." This course is crafted to support women dealing with the pain of betrayal in their marriages, especially sexual betrayal.
We dive into the course's development, its structure, and the importance of pacing and journaling. Gigi and Andrea share heartfelt insights on fostering healing, the power of community support, and how faith plays a crucial role in the healing journey for wives.
To learn more and enroll in the course, visitPureLifeAcademy.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Development of the "40 Days of Healing for Wives" courseImportance of healing for wives dealing with betrayal, especially sexual betrayalStructure and key elements of the course, including pacing and journalingRole of community support in the healing processEmotional regulation and handling triggers during healingIncorporation of faith in the healing journeyPersonal growth and transformation through painGoals and aspirations for participants in the courseEncouragement and hope for women navigating betrayalResources and support available for participants beyond the courseMore Resources:
Free Basics Webinar for WivesWives Care GroupsPersonal Consultation for WivesRelated Podcasts:
Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal TraumaThe Need for Boundaries After BetrayalLiminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to Hope----------
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Fri, 04 Oct 2024 - 747 - Mr. Unemotional: Moving from Isolation to Connection
In this episode, we dive into the emotional struggles men face, especially those recovering from addiction. We explore the concept of "Mr. Unemotional," describing men who find it hard to express their feelings due to past experiences or societal pressures.
Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the importance of emotional growth alongside behavioral recovery. We share insights on how men can better understand and articulate their emotions, emphasizing the need for openness and support from partners and friends. The episode highlights the journey toward emotional maturity, encouraging men to embrace change for deeper, more fulfilling relationships.
For daily insights from Stephen, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Emotional health and its significance in addiction recovery for men.The concept of "Mr. Unemotional" and its implications for men's emotional development.The disconnect between behavioral recovery and emotional growth.The impact of childhood emotional training on adult emotional expression.The importance of recognizing and acknowledging one's emotional state.Tools and strategies for improving emotional awareness, such as the "feelings wheel."The role of openness and willingness to learn in emotional growth.Challenges in navigating emotional conversations and the tendency to shut down.The need for comfort and connection in relationships, particularly during emotional expressions.The journey toward emotional maturity and the potential for personal and relational transformation.More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive40 Days of Training for Your SoulEmotional Training for Men Webinar SeriesRelated Podcasts:
Men's Emotional Self-Awareness TestBreaking Down Barriers: The Art of Active ListeningA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth----------
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Wed, 02 Oct 2024 - 746 - Her Freedom Journey (with Dr. Joy Skarka)
In this episode, I have back on the program our delightful friend and colleague Dr. Joy Skarka to talk about her new book, "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy," co-authored with Dr. Juli Slattery. Joy shares her personal journey and the mission of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to helping individuals reclaim God's design for sexuality.
We discuss the unique challenges women face with pornography, the importance of understanding God's unconditional love, and the journey toward sexual integrity – which emphasizes the power of truth, engaging community, and sharing one's story to overcome shame and find lifelong healing.
For more info about Joy, the book, and the ministry, visitAuthenticIntimacy.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Discussion of the book "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy."Exploration of the challenges women face regarding pornography.The role of the Authentic Intimacy ministry in addressing issues of sexuality and intimacy.Personal stories of healing from shame, addiction, and abuse.The importance of understanding God's love and sexual integrity.The concept of sexual integrity and its integration with spiritual identity.The journey of healing as a continuous process rather than a destination.The impact of shame and identity on women's struggles with pornography.Practical tools for combating lies and embracing truth through scripture.Encouragement to share personal stories as a means of healing and breaking free from shame.More Resources:
Her Freedom Journey* by Dr. Joy Skarka and Dr. Juli SlatteryHer Freedom Journey online book studySheRecovery.comRelated Podcasts:
Freedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and AbuseNew Research on Why Women View PornGod's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 25 Sep 2024 - 745 - Real Stories of Recovery & Hope
In this episode, I chat with three amazing leaders from Prodigals International: Steve Dulaney, president of Prodigals, Sam Louie, a licensed mental health counselor, and Fausto Estrada, one of their group leaders. Steve shares how Prodigals International began as a faith-based support group for men struggling with sexual addiction and intimacy disorders, emphasizing the importance of community and accountability. Sam opens up about his journey from addiction to recovery, influenced by his background as an Asian immigrant. He highlights how group therapy and supportive mentors transformed his life. Fausto shares his recovery story and how it has culminated in him now leading a Spanish language support group for Prodigals.
Together, we explore the power of faith, personal stories, and cultural context in overcoming addiction and fostering recovery. I trust this conversation will inspire you in your own journey of pursuing greater integrity.
To learn more about Prodigals International, please visitProdigalsInternational.org.
Topics Covered in Episode:
Background and mission of Prodigals InternationalPrograms aimed at helping men with sexual addiction and intimacy disordersPersonal stories of recovery from addictionCultural influences on addiction and recovery experiencesThe role of community and accountability in overcoming addictionThe importance of mentorship in the recovery processChallenges faced during the journey of recoveryThe impact of faith in the healing processDevelopment of resources for Spanish-speaking individuals in recoveryThe significance of sharing personal stories to inspire hope in othersMore Resources:
Passport to Shame* by Sam LouieProdigals in Espanol (Spanish language group for men)Online Homecoming GroupRelated Podcasts:
About Recovery and Asian Culture ShameOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Fri, 20 Sep 2024 - 744 - Talking About Taboo (with Mike Novotny)
In this episode, I chat with Mike Novotny, pastor, speaker, and author of "Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't." We dive into sensitive subjects like anxiety, depression, addiction, and especially sexuality within the Christian community.
Mike shares his personal journey of overcoming pornography addiction and stresses the importance of open discussions in the church. We explore God's design for sex, emphasizing that understanding and obeying biblical truths can lead to healing and transformation. Mike encourages listeners to seek grace, find trustworthy confidants, and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.
To learn more about Mike, his book, and other gospel resources, visitTimeofGrace.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Discussion of taboo topics within the Christian communityPersonal experiences with anxiety, depression, and addictionThe importance of open conversations about sexualityOvercoming struggles with pornography and the role of confessionUnderstanding God's design for sex and its significanceThe necessity of obedience to biblical truths for transformationThe impact of societal views on sexual intimacy within marriageThe metaphor of sex as a fire, emphasizing boundaries and self-controlThe role of grace in addressing sexual sin and personal strugglesEncouragement to seek support and build connections within the communityMore Resources:
Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't*Help for MenHelp for FamiliesRelated Podcasts:
Exploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol TanksleyMasturbation, Emotional Health, and Abundant LivingGod's Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 18 Sep 2024 - 743 - Helping Families Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology
In this episode, I welcome Sarah Siegand to the program, co-founder of Parents Who Fight and an expert in helping parents navigate technology's impact on children. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy tech habits, delaying access to devices, and educating parents about online safety. Sarah shares her personal journey, emphasizing the need for intentionality in family tech use.
We discuss the five phases of tech training:
- ModelingDelayingProtectingMonitoringReleasing
Sarah provides practical tips and insights, aiming to empower parents to create a safe and balanced digital environment for their kids. It's a thoughtful conversation filled with valuable advice for modern parenting.
To learn more about Sarah and the resources she offers, visitParentsWhoFight.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Challenges parents face regarding technology's impact on childrenImportance of modeling healthy technology habitsDelaying access to devices and social media for childrenEducating parents about online safety and potential dangersThe role of intentionality in family engagement with technologyFramework for tech training for parents: modeling, delaying, protecting, monitoring, and releasingStrategies for creating a safe digital environment at homeThe significance of open communication and trust between parents and childrenBalancing protection with the need for children to learn responsibilityResources and support available for parents navigating technology issuesMore Resources:
PWF Tech ToolsFree Webinar for Parents: Critical ConversationsCreating a Tech-Healthy Family* by Andrea DavisRelated Podcasts:
Better Screen Time for You and Your FamilyBrain Defense Digital Safety for KidsKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 11 Sep 2024 - 742 - How Group Work Will Transform Your Recovery Journey
In this episode, Joel Warneking shares his profound journey through addiction and recovery. Joel is the director of 423 Communities, a ministry that is radically committed to helping others overcome all forms of unhealthy sexuality, restoring healthy sexuality and intimacy with others through, confessional, recovery communities.
Joel opens up about his own history of pornography addiction and the isolating shame that came with it. He highlights how group work was crucial in his healing process, emphasizing the importance of community, grace, and accountability. We explore the essentials of a supportive group environment, the balance between grace and structure, and the need for action in recovery. Joel’s story and insights remind us that recovery thrives in the context of supportive relationships.
To learn more about Joel and his ministry’s resources, visit 423Communities.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Importance of group work in recovery from addictionPersonal experiences with addiction, particularly pornographyImpact of isolation and shame on individuals in recoveryRole of community and grace in the healing processEssentials of creating a supportive group environmentBalancing grace and accountability in recoveryDynamics of group therapy and mutual supportUnderstanding recovery as a journey beyond mere sobrietyConcept of "paying it forward" in recoveryBroader applicability of recovery principles for personal growth and transformationMore Resources:
Join a 423 Communities groupGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenGrace-Based Transformation*Related Podcasts:
How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission? A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthMen Helping Men Grow and Mature*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 04 Sep 2024 - 741 - Hope Rising Conference (with Brad Warren)
In this episode, our guest Brad Warren shares his incredible journey of overcoming a troubled past, including struggles with pornography and infidelity. Brad opens up about the profound impact these issues had on his marriage and how he and his wife, Kristen, found healing.
We dive into the transformative power of the Hope Rising Conference, a virtual conference for couples dealing with similar challenges. Brad shares how their recovery led them both to pursue careers in counseling, aiming to help others navigate their paths to healing. This episode is a testament to hope, honesty, and the power of God’s grace.
To learn about the Hope Rising Conference, visitAffairRecovery.com/hope-rising.
To learn more about Brad and Kristen’s counseling practice, visitRestfulMindTherapy.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Personal recovery and transformation from a troubled backgroundStruggles with pornography and infidelity in marriageThe impact of a dysfunctional family environment on personal developmentThe journey of honesty and healing in relationshipsThe emotional challenges faced by betrayed spousesThe significance of community and support in the healing processThe role of the Hope Rising Conference in providing resources for couplesUnderstanding sexual addiction and its effects on relationshipsThe importance of inclusivity for all forms of betrayal, including pornography addictionVocational shifts towards counseling and helping others navigate similar challengesMore Resources:
Register for Hope Rising ConferenceHelp for HusbandsHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:
The Journey to StayRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalEarly Recovery Couples Empathy Model----------
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Fri, 30 Aug 2024 - 740 - Exploring the Heart of Sexuality with Dr. Carol Tanksley
In this episode, I chat with Dr. Carol Tanksley, a ministry friend and author of the book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships.
We dive into the complexities of sexuality, intimacy, and how personal and cultural experiences shape these aspects of our lives. Dr. Tanksley shares her personal journey of learning about sexuality and intimacy, emphasizing the importance of addressing heart issues and healing from past wounds. We discuss the difference between intimacy and sexuality, the necessity of community support, and the concept of sexual wholeness. Finally, Dr. Carol offers practical advice on creating an escape plan for temptations and highlights the transformative power of faith and vulnerability.
To learn more about Carol and her resources, visitYourSexpectations.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Exploration of sexuality and intimacy in the context of faith and relationships.Personal experiences and motivations behind writing "Sexpectations."The distinction between intimacy and sexuality, emphasizing their different roles.The importance of addressing emotional wounds and their impact on sexual behavior.The concept of sexual wholeness and its three key aspects: releasing the past, right-sizing sexuality, and cultivating intimacy.The role of community in fostering intimacy and support for individuals.Strategies for creating an escape plan to manage temptations related to sexuality.The significance of submitting one's sexuality to Christ for transformation.The journey from forgiveness to personal transformation and purpose.The potential for healing and redemption from past traumas and experiences.More Resources:
Sexpectations* by Dr. Carol TanksleyDr. Carol's BlogRethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli SlatteryRelated Podcasts:
God, Sex, and Your MarriageWhat are Your Sexpectations? Identity and the Goodness of Sexuality*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 28 Aug 2024 - 739 - Discover the Power of "Co" in Relationships and Recovery
My apologies for the poor audio quality of this episode. I hope it won’t distract too much from the content.
In this episode, Stephen and I talk about the power of "co," meaning "together" or "jointly," in relationships and recovery. We dive into how collaboration and connection are essential for personal growth and healing, especially in marriage and overcoming addiction.
Dr. Cervantes shares insights on co-parenting, co-planning, and co-nurturing, emphasizing that love and community are vital for a fulfilling life. We also discuss the church's role in fostering a sense of belonging and unity. Join us as we explore how embracing "co" can transform our lives and relationships.
For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
The significance of the prefix "co" in relationships and community.The role of collaboration and partnership in personal growth and healing.The impact of addiction on connection and the importance of overcoming isolation.Practical applications of "co" in everyday life, such as co-parenting and co-planning.The challenges individuals face in embracing a "co" mentality, especially after trauma or addiction.The journey of co-expression and the importance of sharing desires and fears.The concept of co-nurturing and its relevance in supporting relationships.The role of the church in fostering community and addressing emotional and cultural needs.The idea of community as "common unity" and the importance of shared goals.Encouragement for listeners to actively seek connection and collaboration in their lives.More Resources:
Resources for MenResources for WivesResources for FamiliesRelated Podcasts:
The Goal is ConnectingThe 7 (or More) Pillars of Emotional GrowthThe Power of Community----------
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Wed, 21 Aug 2024 - 738 - The Need for Safety in Betrayal Trauma Healing
In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey Fitzgerald, who shares her profound journey through betrayal trauma and her path to healing. Stacey opens up about the resurfacing of her trauma in 2021, describing intense physical symptoms like panic attacks and a racing heart. She emphasizes the importance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous system.
Stacey’s healing process involved spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches, including prayer, music, and understanding the mind-body connection. Now, she helps other women navigate similar experiences through her platform, "Becoming Safe."
To learn more about Stacey and her resources, visitBecomingSafe.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Healing and safety in the context of betrayal traumaPersonal experiences of betrayal trauma in relationshipsResurfacing of trauma and its physical symptomsThe role of spiritual, emotional, and physical approaches in healingImportance of feeling safe and regulating the nervous systemImpact of trauma on mental and physical healthThe concept of holistic healing encompassing spirit, soul, and bodyTools and resources for women navigating similar experiencesThe significance of community support in the healing journeyAddressing the interplay between personal healing and external circumstancesMore Resources:
Online Wives Care GroupsFind a Counselor or CoachFree Wives Care WebinarRelated Podcasts:
Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal TraumaEmotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed WivesBetrayal Healing Phases----------
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Wed, 14 Aug 2024 - 737 - How Sharing Our Stories Can Lead to Healing Betrayal Trauma
In this heartfelt episode, I chat with Kate and Will Conwell about their journey through betrayal trauma and healing in their marriage. Kate shares her work with "Journey Beyond Betrayal," a ministry supporting women facing similar struggles. Will opens up about his past issues with sexual brokenness and infidelity, and how these impacted their relationship. We explore the importance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection and the crucial role of faith in recovery. This episode is all about offering hope and encouragement to couples dealing with betrayal trauma. If this is you, you aren’t alone!
To learn more about Kate and her resources for wives, visitJourneyBeyondBetrayal.com.
To learn more about 423 Men’s groups, visit423Communities.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
The Conwells' journey through betrayal trauma in their marriage.Will's struggles with sexual brokenness and infidelity.The significance of sharing personal stories for healing and connection.The role of faith in overcoming challenges in relationships.The impact of early exposure to pornography on men's relationships.The process of confronting and addressing infidelity and its aftermath.The importance of self-awareness and communication in marriage.Messages of hope for individuals facing relationship struggles.Resources and support systems available for healing and recovery.More Resources:
Wives Care Online GroupsGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveHelp to Tell Your StoryRelated Podcasts:
Living More than a Love StoryThe Journey to StayBetrayal Healing PhasesFri, 09 Aug 2024 - 736 - Unlocking Greatness: Why Emotional Connections Matter More than Success
In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of emotional growth and the importance of relationships among men. We start by sharing some personal stories about our dads and male role models, highlighting how men often prioritize being providers over nurturing emotional connections.
A key highlight of this episode features a movie character from ourGateway to Freedom workshop, who realizes his potential after being told, "You could have been great." This statement is loaded with powerful insights for men when they realize their lives are running on the wrong tracks. We want men to experience their full potential as image bearers of God; to know him fully and love others deeply.
For daily insights from Stephen, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
The significance of emotional growth in men's lives.The role of relationships and male connections in personal development.The impact of societal expectations on men's focus on productivity and financial success.Reflections on personal experiences with fathers and male role models.The portrayal of an emotionally stunted character in a movie and its implications.The wake-up call of recognizing one's potential and the importance of relationships.The concept of greatness and how it relates to emotional and spiritual fulfillment.The importance of accountability and honest feedback among male friends.The transformative power of truth and listening to others' stories.Encouragement for men to prioritize emotional well-being and meaningful connections.More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups49 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts:
Men's Emotional Self-Awareness TestA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthWhat Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 07 Aug 2024 - 735 - Forgiveness and Grief in Betrayal Trauma Healing
In this episode, I welcome back Cat Etherington, the director of recovery at the Naked Truth Project. We explore the profound impact of betrayal trauma on wives and the journey towards healing and forgiveness. Cat explains the stages of healing:
Safety and stabilization, Remembering and mourning, ReconnectionShe emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, not as a pressured obligation but as a personal outcome of healing. We also discuss how friends and family can provide tangible support during this difficult time.
For more information on Cat and her resources, visitnakedtruthproject.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Impact of betrayal on a wife and the process of healing and forgivenessEmotional aspects of navigating betrayal traumaKey stages of healing from betrayal traumaImportance of forgiveness in the healing processReadiness to forgive and precursors in the healing journeyDifferentiating between trauma triggers and griefReconnecting with the world after betrayal traumaSupport from friends and family for those experiencing betrayal traumaMore Resources:
Wives Care GroupsWives Care Basics WebinarCounseling or CoachingRelated Podcasts:
8 Practical Steps of ForgivenessThe Recovery Process for CouplesHelping Wives Recover from the Aftershock of Sexual Betrayal----------
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Wed, 31 Jul 2024 - 734 - Navigating Identity & Sexuality: A Compassionate Approach for Parents
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In this episode, I welcome back Pastor Marty Machowski to discuss the pressing issue of identity, particularly sexual identity. Marty shares his experiences counseling families whose children are grappling with gender and sexual orientation issues. He highlights the rapid acceleration of these challenges and introduces his book, "God Made Boys and Girls," as a resource for parents.
We delve into the impact of public education on children's understanding of identity, the importance of grounding identity in biblical truth, and the need for compassionate, open conversations between parents and children.
Marty also shares insights from his support group, "Affirmed," offering hope and practical guidance for families.
To learn more about Marty and his resources for parents, visitMartyMachowski.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Identity and sexual orientation struggles in childrenImpact of public education on children's understanding of identityDisconnecting physical reality from emotional and subjective feelingsDiversity within gender categories and its impact on identityTrauma and abuse's impact on individuals struggling with gender identityBiblical perspective on identity and being made in the image of GodImportance of open and honest conversations with children about identity and genderTransitioning from being disciplinarians to influencers in children's livesFacilitating support groups for families dealing with identity and sexual orientation strugglesEncouraging parents to build a foundation of relationship and compassion with their childrenMore Resources:
God Made Boys and Girls* by Marty MachowskiCritical Conversations Webinar (Free!)Identity* by John FortRelated Podcasts:
God Made Boys and GirlsExposing the Gender LieIdentity and the Goodness of Sexuality*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 24 Jul 2024 - 733 - Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model
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In this episode, I welcome back Carol Juergensen Sheets, better known as Carol the Coach, a certified sex addiction therapist. We reminisce about her last appearance in March 2020, where we focused on empathy for husbands. Carol shares her journey since 2007, emphasizing the importance of empathy in all relationships.
She introduces her Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM), which involves working with both partners from the start to foster post-traumatic growth. Carol explains the role of empathy in healing from infidelity, highlighting the long-term process and the need for genuine understanding. She also provides resources for couples seeking support and offers a hopeful message for those on their healing journey.
To learn more about Carol and her resources, visitSexHelpWithCarolTheCoach.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Carol's background and expertise in sex addiction therapyThe importance of empathy in relationshipsDevelopment of the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM)Key elements and focus of ERCEMThe role of empathy within ERCEMChallenges and time required for healing from infidelityCommon misconceptions about empathyProgress and resources available for couples seeking supportMessage of hope and encouragement for couples dealing with infidelityMore Resources:
Help Them Heal Couples WorkshopHelp Them Heal bookHelp Them Heal online courseRelated Podcasts:
Helping Husbands Learn and Practice Empathy4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageThe Recovery Process for Couples----------
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Wed, 17 Jul 2024 - 732 - SHE Virtual Summit: Where Women Find Support, Resources, and Hope
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In this episode, I chat with Crystal Renaud Day about the SHE Virtual Recovery Summit, a transformative event for women battling unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction. Crystal shares her personal journey and insights from years of ministry, emphasizing the importance of surrender, accountability, and community in recovery.
We discuss the summit's role in providing a safe, supportive space for women and even teens to find healing and resources. Crystal's passion for helping women shines through, and we invite listeners to join the summit and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.
To learn more about the SHE Summit and register, visitSheRecovery.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
SHE Virtual Recovery SummitSupport and resources for women struggling with unwanted sexual behaviorsPersonal experiences and insights from Crystal Renaud DayImportance and topics covered during the eventResearch on women's view of pornTraining for women in recoveryMinistry to women dealing with unwanted sexual behaviorsStories of transformation and victoryShe Virtual Recovery Summit as a space for learning, growth, and surrenderThe significance of surrender, confession, accountability, responsibility, and sharing in the recovery processMore Resources:
SHE Virtual Recovery Summit (use affiliate code BEBROKEN for a 10% discount!)What Drives Women to Porn? Survey Results90 Days to Wholeness* by Crystal Renaud DayRelated Podcasts:
New Research on Why Women View PornTotal Freedom for Women Struggling with PornGod's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 10 Jul 2024 - 731 - Men's Emotional Self-Awareness Test
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In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional self-awareness, especially for men – and offer a simple test to measure self-awareness. We explore the different levels of self-awareness, from complete unawareness to deep emotional understanding.
Stephen shares his inspiration for creating this self-awareness test, aiming to help men gauge their emotional awareness so they can continue toward greater awareness and maturity. We discuss how family history shapes emotional patterns and the importance of recognizing triggers.
Our conversation emphasizes the significance of aligning with the Holy Spirit and striving for emotional maturity.
For more insight from Stephen, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Emotional self-awareness and self-awareness test for menDifferent levels of emotional self-awarenessConnection between triggers and emotional responsesImpact of family of origin on emotional patterns and behaviorsDevelopment of a self-awareness test for menChallenges men face in understanding and expressing emotionsImportance of recognizing and acknowledging one's feelingsImpact of family of origin on emotional developmentPhysical and emotional connections, retraining the mind and emotionsAlignment with the Holy Spirit and emotional program, journey of growth and maturityMore Resources:
The Men's Emotional Self-Awareness TestGrowth Map* by Stephen CervantesGrace-Based Transformation* by Jonathan DaughertyRelated Podcasts:
How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?100 Recovery Rules (with Mark Denison)A 3-Year Roadmap for Recovery and Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 03 Jul 2024 - 730 - Navigating Grief, Fear, and Transformation
In this episode, Stephen and I dive into the journey of emotional maturity and self-awareness. We explore how childhood experiences shape adult behavior and emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing emotional immaturity. Our conversation highlights the role of grief in self-discovery and the impact of critical parenting on self-criticism.
Stephen and I stress the need for honesty, vulnerability, and self-reflection in achieving emotional growth and maturity. We encourage listeners to embrace uncertainty and seek support, underscoring that emotional maturity is a continuous process of growth and understanding.
For more insights from Dr. Cervantes, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Emotional maturity and self-awarenessImpact of childhood experiences on adult behaviorRecognizing and addressing emotional immaturityRole of grief in the process of emotional healingImpact of critical parenting on self-criticism and judgmental behaviorShaping oneness in relationshipsGrief and fear in recognizing emotional patterns and transformationImportance of admitting uncertainty and vulnerabilityEmbracing the journey of growth and changeSeeking support and guidance for personal and relational growthMore Resources:
49 Days of Growth* by Stephen CervantesGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy* by Stephen CervantesUntangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:
Moving from Being Fear-Driven to Love-DrivenWhy Men Need to Practice SadnessHow Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 26 Jun 2024 - 729 - How Can Therapeutic Disclosure Help Heal Marriages Affected by Sexual Betrayal?
In this episode, I welcome back Dan Drake and introduce Janice Caudill, both experts in therapeutic disclosure for marriages affected by sexual betrayal. We dive into the importance of truth in healing relationships, discussing how disclosure helps rebuild trust.
In our conversation, Dan and Jaunice walk us through the disclosure process, emphasizing the impact of betrayal, readiness for disclosure, tailored approaches, the “choreography” of disclosure, and the post-disclosure phase that highlights potential obstacles when rebuilding trust.
To get access to Dan and Janice’s resources, visitKintsugiRecoveryPartners.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Development of resources for disclosure in marriages affected by sexual betrayalAvailability of resources on Kintsugi Recovery Partners websiteImpact of sexual betrayal on relationshipsDefinition of disclosure and its importance in healingImportance of readiness for disclosureTailored approaches to disclosure based on each couple's unique situationProcess and key elements of disclosureChoreography of the disclosure processSignificance of disclosure in healing and rebuilding trustMore Resources:
Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Betrayal*Full Disclosure: Seeking the Truth After Betrayal*Disclosure Guide TrainingRelated Podcasts:
Understanding Therapeutic Disclosure in Marriage Affected by Sexual BetrayalConfession and Disclosure for CouplesHow to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 19 Jun 2024 - 728 - How Can Recovery Lead to a New Growth Mission?
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In today's episode, I have a heart-to-heart with Stephen Cervantes about the journey of recovery. We dive into how it's more than just getting back on your feet; it's about pausing, finding stability, and reaching out for a helping hand. But that's not the end of the road!
Recovery is this beautiful bridge to an exciting phase of self-discovery and growth. Together, we unpack the deeper mission that lies ahead—embracing the love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and getting to know ourselves better.
So, if you're curious about turning a new leaf and finding purpose post-recovery, this chat is for you. Join us as we explore these transformative steps to a fuller, love-filled life!
For daily insights from Stephen, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Concept of recovery and transition to a new growth missionImportance of stopping and stabilizing in recoverySeeking outside help and community supportRecovery as a bridge to discovery and growthPurpose of new growth mission: learning about love of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, understanding oneselfDifferent interpretations of recoveryRole of relationships and community in the recovery processRecovery as a journey toward growth and learningShift in focus from negative behaviors to love and personal understandingEmphasis on community, outside help, and shift in focus towards love and personal understandingMore Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsGrace-Based Transformation* bookRelated Podcasts:
For Men Who Want to Finish StrongWhat Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your Story*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 12 Jun 2024 - 727 - Navigating the 3 Stages of Recovery from Porn Addiction
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In today’s episode, we have Vern Tompke back with us. Vern is our Canadian pastor and coach who helps other pastors and men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors.
We talked about the three key stages of recovery, which are:
- Breaking the habitAddressing the deep-seated issues of the heart and mindRecalibrating sexuality to enjoy the abundant life Christ offers
Whether you are just starting your recovery journey or years into it, Vern’s wisdom is a beacon of hope. And we mention lots of really good resources that will help you along the way, which we will include in the show notes.
To learn more about Vern and his resources, visit BandofBrothers.care.
Topics Covered in This Episode:
Three stages of recovery from porn addictionBreaking the habitDealing with underlying issuesRedeeming or recalibrating one's sexualityImportance of practical tools, boundaries, and grace-filled accountabilityAddressing underlying lies, pain, wounds, attachment issues, and unmet needsThe ongoing nature of the recovery journeyEmphasizing the need to move beyond objectification and consumption of beautyEncouraging men to engage in real relationships and build healthy social and coping skillsAdvocating for living in the light, engaging in community, and seeking a fuller understanding of recoveryMore Resources:
Willpower Doesn't Work* by Benjamin HardyThe Thing Beneath the Thing* by Steve CarterThe Psychology of Porn* by Andrew BaumanRelated Podcasts:
The Stopwatch Acting Out CycleUnderstanding Freedom, Identity, and Creativity in Addiction RecoveryA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 05 Jun 2024 - 726 - Is Selfishness Addiction Holding You Back from True Freedom and Joy?
The Selfishness Addiction– Yes, you read that right. We're diving deep into how an addiction to selfishness can shape our behaviors and strain our relationships. We’re peeling back the layers of why we sometimes confuse self-preservation with self-centeredness.
Understanding Freedom– We start by exploring the true meaning of freedom. It's not just about breaking free from unwanted behaviors like porn addiction; it's about finding peace, rest, and joy. We're talking about aligning with the soul's fundamental needs, as taught by Jesus himself.
From Selfish to Selfless– We've all been there, right? Putting ourselves first, fast, and completely. But here's the kicker: the more we focus on ourselves, the less satisfied we feel. It's a paradox that we unpack with humor, honesty, and a touch of humility.
A New Perspective– Imagine realizing that your whole life has been a race to put yourself first, only to end up feeling empty. That's the story of a Christian brother who woke up to his selfishness addiction. It's a powerful moment of vulnerability that might just change the way you see your own life.
Growth and Healing– This episode isn't just about identifying the problem; it's about finding the path to healing. We discuss the importance of taking small steps towards giving, towards others, and towards a life filled with genuine connection.
So, if you've ever felt caught in the cycle of coping and surviving rather than truly living, this episode is for you. It's time to break free from the chains of selfishness and step into a life of selfless joy.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Selfishness addiction and its impact on behavior and relationshipsUnderstanding the difference between healthy self-care and selfishnessSelfishness driven by fear and focus on one's own desires and needsThe concept of freedom and its relation to the deeper needs of individualsThe importance of aligning with the fundamental needs of the soulThe distinction between healthy self-awareness and selfishnessThe detrimental impact of selfishness on individuals and their relationshipsThe immature and wounded nature of selfishness addictionThe natural order of relationships and the importance of learning to be selfless while still caring for oneselfThe insight and honesty of admitting and addressing selfishness addictionMore Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenDoctorMarriage.orgFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
Self-Care vs. SelfishnessAbout Your Emotional Connecting SkillsIt's All About Me!----------
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Wed, 29 May 2024 - 725 - Neurodiversity Challenges in Marriage Restoration
Shawna Meek, founder of Living Stones Coaching, joins us to share her incredible journey through marriage, divorce, and unexpected reconciliation. Shawna opens up about the challenges she faced in her relationship, from communication breakdowns to confronting her husband's infidelity – and learning how his previously undiagnosed neurodiversity impacted his sexual brokenness and their marriage.
Shawna then shares about setting boundaries, the importance of individual growth, and how she and her husband both worked on themselves to rebuild trust.
Her story is a testament to the complexities of love and the resilience and faith needed to navigate them. As a result of this journey, Shawna turned her personal trials into a passion for coaching and helping others through their own relationship struggles.
To learn more about Shawna and her resources, visit LivingStoneCoaching.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Shauna Meek's personal story and experiencesNavigating neurodiversity challenges in relationships and marriageSeeking help and setting boundariesHealing and recovery processIndividual coping strategies and personal growthBuilding trust and safety in a marriageLessons learned about oneself and each otherTransformation and growth in relationshipsOvercoming communication differencesReconciliation and remarriageMore Resources:
Determined for More* by Shawna MeekNeurodiverse Coaching and MentoringHope RestoredRelated Podcasts:
The Journey to StayConflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 22 May 2024 - 724 - Helping Women Embrace their Bodies and Sexuality
I'm thrilled to have the amazing Danisa Suarez back on the program. Today, we're tackling a subject that's really important to a lot of people: women's understanding of their own bodies and sexuality.
Danisa has put together an incredible e-course called "The Story of Her," (https://ccicourses.org/thestoryofher) and she's here to share why it's so essential for women to recognize and celebrate their unique design and to confidently step into their womanhood. We're not shying away from the difficult topics either—we discuss how to heal from past wounds and pursue a godly approach to sexual fulfillment. Plus, Danisa’s got some solid, actionable tips for anyone looking for support on this path.
This episode is all about empowering women and deepening their relationship with God. Make sure you don't miss out on Danisa’s valuable insights—follow her on Instagram for more inspiring talks!@danisasuarezoficial
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Importance of understanding women's bodies and sexualityInfluences affecting women's self-imageFighting against comparisonChallenges faced by women who have experienced brokenness, abuse, or sexual violationsLack of mentorship and education for women regarding their bodiesImpact of social media, mass media, and culture on women's self-imageWomen's sexuality and its connection to confidence, knowledge, and attitudesChallenges and roadblocks in the journey towards sexual health and wholenessImportance of seeking support and guidance in the journey towards sexual health and wholenessEmpowerment, encouragement, and finding fulfillment in the relationship with GodMore Resources:
SheRecovery.comCCI CounselingThe Body Revelation*Related Podcasts:
Understanding Female Sexuality and StrugglesWhat Men Need to Know About Female SexualityWomen and Sex*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 15 May 2024 - 723 - Why Do We Fall? And How Do We Get Back Up?
Why do we fall? This is a deep question and we can’t ever fully answer the “why” questions. But it’s worth the conversation.
In this episode, Stephen and I dive deep into the emotional and spiritual tangles that we all face. We begin by talking about the roots of our emotional programming and then move on to the emotional-spiritual connection and the complexities of stumbling and falling; it’s not just about sin. Emotional maturity is just as vital.
Finally, we aim to provide some practical wisdom for facing emotional pain and the power of community in our healing and recovery journey. Even though we fall, we can get back up!
For daily thoughts to help on this emotional growth journey, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Interconnectedness of emotional and spiritual aspects of human behaviorDevelopment of emotional program in childhood and its influence on adult behaviorCommon disconnect between strong spiritual knowledge and emotional strugglesBiblical concept of sin and falling short of the glory of GodInfluence of parental values and language on emotional program developmentChallenges of navigating relationships and emotions in childhoodRecognizing and addressing unresolved emotional issues in relation to spiritual struggles and addictionsUnderstanding the connection between spiritual and emotional programs for maturity and healingExploring breakdowns in the emotional program and addressing emotional painSeeking community support for emotional healing and maturityMore Resources:
Find a Support GroupGateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveUntangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:
Helping Men Grow and MatureA 7-Day Challenge for Emotional GrowthA 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 08 May 2024 - 722 - Understanding God's Design for Sex in Today's Confused Culture
In this episode, we're hanging out with the dynamic duo, Linda Stewart and Linda Noble, who share their journey and collaborative work in the world of sexual education and theology of the body.
They tell about their work with the Identity Project, aiming to help parents and families chat about sexuality and relationships in a faith-filled, positive way. The Lindas talk about their own lightbulb moments at the Theology of the Body Institute and how they're now passionate about giving parents the tools to paint a beautiful picture of God's design for their kids.
They're all about tackling the big questions and easing those parent jitters with resources like their books and workbooks. It's all about building trust, having heart-to-hearts, and guiding the little ones through life's big topics.
Learn more about the Lindas and their work atIdentityProject.tvandTheConversationWorkshop.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Collaboration of Linda Stewart and Linda Noble in sexual education and theology of the bodyThe Linda's Involvement in the Identity ProjectApproach to educating parents and families about sexuality and relationshipsInitial reluctance to discuss sexuality and the journey to embracing the theology of the bodyTheology of the body as a comprehensive view of sexuality and Christian sexual ethicImportance of understanding God's design for sex in addressing sexual brokennessThe role of parents in teaching children about God's love and their designAddressing the fears and anxieties of parents in discussing sexuality with childrenProviding support and resources for parents to navigate sexuality and relationships with their childrenMore Resources:
Before the Sex Talk* by The LindasHonest Talk* by John FortOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestRelated Podcasts:
God's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityHelping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 01 May 2024 - 721 - Masturbation, Emotional Health, and Abundant Living
Today’s podcast covers a LOT of territory, including the complexities of masturbation, its connection to our emotional health, and the differences between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset when it comes to living in victory over sexual sin.
Our guest today is Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries. In our conversation, we explore the significant role emotional well-being plays in navigating sexual brokenness. We emphasize the importance of understanding our emotions to discover genuine happiness and connection. We also explore the intriguing concept of scarcity versus abundance in the context of our sexuality. Matt's perspective on how a scarcity mindset can lead to feelings of isolation is eye-opening, and he highlights how adopting an attitude of gratitude can help us perceive our lives more abundantly.
To cap off the conversation, we point listeners to some valuable resources provided by Restored Ministries, including thePure Freedom Communityand thePure Victory Podcast, which offer support to those on this path.
To learn more about Matt and his ministry, visitRestoredMinistries.ca.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Masturbation and its prevalence among menEmotional health and its impact on sexual brokennessScarcity versus abundance mindset in the context of sexual brokennessThe significance of identifying and acknowledging emotionsTransformative experiences of individuals in recognizing and expressing emotionsDetrimental effects of living in a scarcity mindsetEncouragement to shift towards gratitude and thankfulnessResources available through Restored Ministries for support and guidanceImportance of emotional health in the journey towards healing and wholenessMore Resources:
Pure Freedom JourneyGateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive49 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts:
Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True IdentityWhen Shame Gets Real (with Carl Thomas)Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 24 Apr 2024 - 720 - Breaking Down Barriers: The Art of Active Listening
In this episode, we have Andrew Arthur back with us to dive deep into the art of active listening. We chat about the common obstacles we face, like distractions and assumptions, that can disrupt our ability to truly hear others, especially in long-term relationships.
Andrew shares a golden nugget for exceptional listening: asking "What do you need from me right now?" as a way to better support those in emotional need. We even touch on how this skill translates to our spiritual lives, suggesting we quiet our inner chatter to connect with God.
Wrapping up, we leave you with some practical tips to enhance your listening skills.
To learn more about Andrew and his mediation services, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
Importance of active listeningRoadblocks to effective communicationRemoving oneself from the center stageAsking "What do you need from me right now?"Providing support and affirmation in times of crisisAssumptions in long-term relationshipsBarriers to good listeningListening to God and spiritual connectionPractical advice for improving listening skillsMore Resources:
Untangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithWords Have Power40 Days to Oneness by Stephen CervantesRelated Podcasts:
Conflict Management for Marriage Healing from BetrayalDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?The Goal is Connecting*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 17 Apr 2024 - 719 - Hope and Healing: Brian Ellsworth's Testimony
On today’s episode, Brian Ellsworth shares his personal journey of trauma, addiction, and recovery. Brian is the new executive director of Living Without Lust, which is a fellowship of men desiring to live with sexual integrity.
Brian discusses his challenging past, sobriety-seeking turning points, and healing through an intensive program. He shares how he went from a crippling addiction to now helping other men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. The conversation stresses the significance of addressing underlying pain, seeking help, and the continuous process of recovery.
To learn more about Brian and Living Without Lust, visitLivingWithoutLust.com.
More Resources:
Contact Brian at 904-479-5629Boulder RecoveryGateway to FreedomRelated Podcasts:
A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthKeys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Sexual BehaviorsHelping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit----------
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Fri, 12 Apr 2024 - 718 - Understanding Female Sexuality and Struggles
In this episode, we welcome back Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries. She helps us understand trauma, addiction, and women's struggles with sex and relationships, shining a light on the importance of transforming our worldly views on sexuality.
Ashley candidly highlights the different ways women grapple with their sexuality. Ranging from matters of toxic relationships to fears of intimacy, her insights and personal journey resonate deeply.
Ashley also explores the negative impact of violent sexual acts in fantasies and media content. She emphasizes the urgent need to redefine our perspective of sexuality as a beautiful and valuable gift from God.
As a wrap-up, Ashley speaks on the far-reaching positive impacts of breaking free from sexual shame on all aspects of life, notably parenting and personal relationships. This powerful conversation will invite women dealing with love, sex, and relationship issues to boldly embark on their individual healing journeys.
To learn more about Ashley and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org.
More Resources:
Unraveled KitCounseling HelpFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:
God's Grace for Women Struggling with Sexual ShameGoing Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Affects Your Love and Sex AddictionFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse----------
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Wed, 10 Apr 2024 - 717 - Identity and the Goodness of Sexuality
The world, especially in the West, is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness and confusion. And much of this brokenness and confusion is present in the Church. How can we help Christians understand God’s design for sex and live it out in our local churches and communities?
Today we have Daniel Weiss back on the program with us to discuss these issues. Daniel is the president of Sexual Integrity Leaders, a ministry dedicated to equipping, supporting, and collaborating with Christian leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the Church.
Much of our conversation revolves around the Identity Project, a platform containing many teaching videos from multiple leaders in various arenas of expertise regarding biblical sexuality. We talk about why these teachings are important for every Christian, especially topics like the “image of God,” singlehood and sexuality, and how our true identity is rooted in community.
To learn more about Daniel and Sexual Integrity Leaders, visitSexualIntegrityLeaders.com.
To learn more about the Identity Project, visitIdentityProject.tv. Use coupon code:IDPSEXUALINTEGRITY10
More Resources:
Rethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli SlatteryOur Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher WestPure Life Academy Courses for LeadersRelated Podcasts:
What is Sexual Discipleship?Being a Single, Sexual ManEmbracing God's Image in Gender*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 03 Apr 2024 - 716 - 100 Recovery Rules (with Mark Denison)
Addiction recovery is hard work. It is the process of learning to live in a whole new way apart from old, harmful, compulsive patterns. Such transformation doesn’t happen quickly or without help.
Our guest today is Mark Denison. He has been on the program several times before and is the co-founder, with his wife Beth, of There’s Still Hope. He joins us to talk about his newest book,Recovery Rules: 100 Truisms that Will Change Everything. Men often need pithy, wise tips to help them on the long road of recovery.
In our conversation, we highlight several of the truisms, such as:
If you are 90% in, you are 100% out.Addiction isn’t a bad problem, it is a bad solution.If you can stay sober for 20 minutes, you can stay sober.Relapse is not an event, but a process.Don’t commit to a lifetime; commit to a day.Direction trumps destination.If you are looking for some super practical help for your recovery journey, this episode will be very impactful.
To learn more about Mark and his ministry’s resources, visitTheresStillHope.org.
More Resources:
Recovery Rules: 100 Truisms that Will Change Everything*Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study GroupsRelated Podcasts:
A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional GrowthThe Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle3 Levels of Sobriety*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 27 Mar 2024 - 715 - 8 Practical Steps of Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a topic that gets brought up over and over again in the space of healing from betrayal. But before you tune out let me encourage you to stick around for my super practical conversation with Karla Downing on this topic.
Karla is the founder of Change My Relationship and has been on the podcast multiple times to help us think through important relational issues like boundaries and grief. Her many years of experience helping couples in very difficult situations comes out in this interview on forgiveness.
In the episode, Karla gives a robust definition of forgiveness and then walks us througheight practical stepsthat are essential to the process of forgiveness.
To learn more about Karla and her ministry, visitChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources:
The 8-Step Forgiveness Process (PDF)30 Days of Blessing (PDF)Healing the Wounds of Your PastRelated Podcasts:
Betrayal Healing PhasesThe 7 Steps of ForgivenessThe Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma----------
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Wed, 20 Mar 2024 - 714 - Why Building Confidence is Important to Recovery
Why is confidence important to recovery from addictive patterns? And how is confidence different from arrogance or pride?
To help us address this topic, we have Dr. Eddie Capparucci back on the program with us. Eddie is certified as a licensed professional counselor and certified in treating sexual and pornography addiction. He has been on the program multiple times to share his expertise and wisdom in the field of addiction recovery.
In our conversation, we discuss what confidence is, the causes and effects of a lack of confidence, what healthy confidence is rooted in, and how to grow in confidence. If you are a man who wants to grow and mature in your recovery, take notes and apply what Eddie shares in this episode.
To learn more about Eddie and his resources, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveGoing Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction*Grace-Based Recovery GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and EmotionWhat To Do in the Moment of TemptationWhy Men Struggle to Love*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 13 Mar 2024 - 713 - "Am I Gay?" (with Garry Ingraham)
There are many men and women in the Church who struggle with all forms of sexual brokenness, including same-sex sexual desires. How can Christians love and care for those who want freedom from such besetting sins?
In today’s episode, our guest is Garry Ingraham. Garry is the co-founder of Love and Truth Network, a ministry that equips church leaders in restoring biblical sexuality, community, and identity through personalized leadership training, teaching resources, and experiential growth opportunities for personal transformation and supporting others.
Garry shares his own story of same-sex brokenness and how God drew him out of the dark and into the light. He also shares how God called him into ministry, especially to pastors and helping them with their personal sexual struggles and how to address sexual sin and hope in the local church.
Finally, Garry has a new book entitledAm I Gaywhich highlights his story and how to navigate sexual confusion with the truth of Christ and the community of fellow Christians.
To learn more about Garry, his ministry, and the book, visitLoveandTruthNetwork.com.
More Resources:
Am I Gay book*The Love and Truth Network PodcastFree Confidential CoachingRelated Podcasts:
Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?What To Do When Your Child "Comes Out"How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 06 Mar 2024 - 712 - Living Undefiled (with Nick Stumbo)
Why is pornography such a big deal? This is a common question in the culture, but not necessarily one of alarm, but rather questioning why ministries like ours and many others even exist. Is there any real harm to pornography?
To help us answer these questions we have Nick Stumbo back on the program. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and an author and speaker on sexual issues from a Christian worldview.
In our conversation, Nick shares many of the negative effects of porn: biological, mental, emotional, and relational. We look at the many unhealthy patterns porn promotes, the natural trajectory of tolerance (both individually and culturally), the linkage between human trafficking and porn, and then how to live free from the negative effects of porn.
Finally, Nick shares a new video series resource called Living Undefiled that takes an in-depth look at the topics surrounding pornography and human trafficking.
To learn more about Nick and Pure Desire, visitPureDesire.org.
To get access to the Living Undefiled course, visitLivingUndefiled.com.
More Resources:
Help for MenHelp for Women*NCOSERelated Podcasts:
New Research on Why Women View PornExposing the True Impact of PornKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 28 Feb 2024 - 711 - How Can I Lead Others When I Can't Lead Myself?
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Many men struggle deeply with their godly responsibilities of leadership, especially in the home, because they aren’t even managing themselves very well.
In this episode, Stephen brings a letter from a leader that is meant to be representative of most men who struggle with this internal conflict of leadership calling and poor self-management. This letter addresses issues like:
Dividedness and hypocrisyWearing masks to cover fear and shamePoor or non-existent emotional skillsWeariness and hopelessnessFor any man who can relate to what is shared in this letter, there is hope for transformation. You can become the man and leader God designed you to be.
For helpful resources to enhance your godly manhood and marriage skills, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive49 Days of Growth by Stephen Cervantes*Daily Thoughts from Doctor MarriageRelated Podcasts:
Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and EmotionA 7 Day Challenge for Emotional GrowthAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 21 Feb 2024 - 710 - Wisdom from a Sage in Recovery Ministry
Sometimes we don’t have a “topic” for the podcast, but instead simply have a conversation with someone with loads of experience and wisdom in sexual struggles and recovery. This is what today’s episode is all about.
Our guest is author and speaker, Nate Larkin. He founded the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery.
In our conversation, Nate shares his own story of addiction and recovery. Then we dive into lots of questions that draw on his decades of personal and ministerial wisdom that will prove helpful to any man listening who wants to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors.
To learn more about Nate and his ministry, visitSamsonSociety.com.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensiveSamson and the Pirate Monks*Find a Samson MeetingRelated Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureThe Importance of "Whole Man" Recovery3 Levels of Sobriety*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 14 Feb 2024 - 709 - Living More Than a Love Story
How important is trust to emotional health and building strong, mature relationships? It is vital! Yet, many men we have served in our ministry struggle terribly with trust.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to dig into this important topic of trust through the lens of one man’s story that begins with him not being able to trust his parents with his thoughts and feelings and ends with him finally living a “love plus trust” story.
We will share the distinction between love and trust and how love plus trust takes us even deeper than love alone. We need to learn how to understand trust in its multilayered dimensions if we want to enjoy strong, healthy relationships.
For resources from Stephen to help you grow and mature emotionally, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
40 Days to OnenessGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy*Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Related Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureHealing Steps to Rebuild TrustWhy Men Struggle to Love*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 07 Feb 2024 - 708 - Understanding Human Agency
Albert Bandura was a psychologist who is credited with developing the term “human agency,” which refers to how you act, think, and interact with life.
In this episode, Stephen and I will unpack the four functions of agency and how they might help us develop better self-awareness and deeper faith and relationships.
The 4 functions of agency are:
- Intentions (or intentionality)Outcomes (or expectations)Self-regulationSelf-reflection
Agency asks, “Are you paying attention to your own intentions and are you getting better at self-regulating and self-reflecting?’ We hope this conversation will help you understand yourself and others better – and use your agency for good, godly purposes.
To learn more about Albert Bandura and his research, visitAlbertBandura.com.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Growth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest & Joy by Stephen Cervantes*APEST Spiritual Gifts TestRelated Podcasts:
Why Must I Learn Me?Understanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryAbout Your Emotional Connecting Skills*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 31 Jan 2024 - 707 - Forgiving Forward (with Bruce and Toni Hebel)
Every Christian knows that forgiveness is central to salvation and restoration to God. But what does forgiveness look like between us and those who have hurt us?
Our guests today are Bruce and Toni Hebel, founders of Forgiving Forward, a ministry that helps people experience the freedom of the gospel through the power of forgiveness. They share their own journey of learning the hard way how vital forgiveness is to personal character and health, as well as effective ministry to others.
In our conversation, Bruce and Toni define forgiveness, explain why Christ is the only one who can pay the full debt of sin and wounds, expose the roots of unforgiveness, the common obstacles to forgiveness, and ultimately how to forgive in real-life situations of betrayal and pain through 5 key protocols:
- GRATITUDE for God’s forgiveness of me.REPENT of my sin of unforgiveness. WHO do I forgive and for WHAT?FORGIVE each offense from my HEART.Ask God to BLESS them and look for ways to bless them when possible.
To learn more about Bruce and Toni’s ministry and to get their book, visitForgivingForward.com.
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Forgiving Forward book*FAQ: How to ForgiveFAQ: How to Help Others ForgiveRelated Podcasts:
The 7 Steps of ForgivenessBetrayal Healing PhasesGrace to Forgive*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 24 Jan 2024 - 706 - New Research on Why Women View Porn
Did you know that 58% of women who struggle with porn were exposed to porn before age 12? Or that 93% of women who struggle with porn never attend a support group? And that 48% of women viewing porn were a victim of sexual abuse?
Our guest today is Crystal Renaud Day, a coach, author, and speaker – and the founder and executive director of SheRecovery.com. She has been a leading voice for women in this space of sexual integrity ministry since 2009.
Recently, Crystal and her ministry conducted research to answer the question “What Drives Women to Porn?” There were over 1300 anonymous female participants, ages 18 to 65+ from 58 countries, who had used or been addicted to pornography in the past or present.
This episode discusses the findings of this research and why this is important to women struggling and those who love them.
To see the research and results, visitSheRecovery.com.
More Resources:
LivingOnPurposeKC.comBeggarsDaughter.comSexual Shame in Women and How to Experience Freedom*Related Podcasts:
Total Freedom for Women Struggling with PornGod's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual ShameFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 17 Jan 2024 - 705 - 4 Thoughts that Make Our Own Minds Feel Unsafe
Lots of men over the years have shared the sentiment of the following statement: “I’m good as long as I can stay out of my own head.” As we have unpacked this idea with the men who have shared this, there have been four key thoughts that typically keep guys from feeling safe within their own minds.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to share these four thoughts. They are:
- ShameOld StoriesCore FearUnhealthy Fantasies
When you can understand how these thoughts operate and how to combat them, you can reclaim that territory in your mind for hope, peace, and joy.
For helpful "daily thoughts" on emotional health and growth, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Growth Map by Stephen Cervantes*Identity: What Foundation Are You Building On?*Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive for MenRelated Podcasts:
How to Be at Peace in AlonenessOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity50 Things To Do When Your Core Fear Gets Triggered*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 10 Jan 2024 - 704 - Best of 2023: Back to the Basics of Sexual Integrity
Originally Aired on March 7, 2023
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Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature.
In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.
A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is our Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose.
Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register at Bebroken.org/gtf.
More Resources:
FREE Integrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity for MenThe 4 Pillars of PurityRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors3 Levels of SobrietyInsights and Action Steps for Men----------
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Wed, 03 Jan 2024 - 703 - Best of 2023: Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
Originally Aired on February 28, 2023
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Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.
Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages.
In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more.
To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)Gateway to Freedom for MenWives Care GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalAffair Recovery Through a Trauma LensHelping Husbands and Wives Go All In----------
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Wed, 27 Dec 2023 - 702 - A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
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Just about every man who has ever entered recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors has wanted a “quick fix” to his addiction. But there are no quick fixes. In fact, true recovery is a years-long process that ultimately leads to deeper emotional growth over a lifetime.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I share a 3-year roadmap of recovery and emotional growth that every man who enters recovery needs to understand and embrace if he wants lasting freedom and lifelong joy. The road of recovery may be long, but it is worth walking it.
To get Stephen’s emotional growth resources for men, visitDoctorMarriage.org.
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Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups40 Days of Purity Online CourseRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted BehaviorsGrace to PersevereMen Helping Men Grow and Mature----------
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Wed, 20 Dec 2023 - 701 - Understanding Freedom, Identity, and Creativity in Addiction Recovery
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Recovery from any addiction is difficult and there are many stages and layers to the process. It is easy to become overwhelmed and wonder if there is any hope and what the ultimate goal is in recovery.
My guest today is Zach Ellis. He is the Director of New Programs at The Nathan Project, a ministry whose mission is to engage, equip, and encourage Christian families struggling with pornography, sexual brokenness, and addiction.
Zach shares how he got into this space of ministry and some key elements of recovery that are vital for true transformation: freedom, identity, and creativity. He talks of freedom as both a “breaking” and a “building” and how this two-sided aspect of freedom leads to deeper meaning and purpose. He shares of the importance of identity and the value of listening. And, finally, Zach shares some insights around the need for exploring and expressing creativity as part of recovery.
To learn more about The Nathan Project, visitNathanProject.net.
To learn more about Zach and his photography, visitZachEllisPhotography.com.
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Gateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveGrace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups1-on-1 Personal Ministry ConsultationRelated Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureKeys to Long-Term Freedom From Unwanted BehaviorsThe Importance of Whole Man Recovery----------
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Wed, 13 Dec 2023 - 700 - A Youth Pastor's Conversation on Identity
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Parenting can feel overwhelming in the best of circumstances. But in today’s world which is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness, it can seem impossible, especially when it comes to the issue of identity.
In today’s episode, our guest is Jordan Young. He is a student ministry pastor at Table Community Church in Hillsboro, Oregon near Portland. He has decades of experience in working with students and the various challenges they face in the culture.
Our conversation focuses on identity and the confusion many students are experiencing and how the gospel of Jesus addresses this with grace and truth. Jordan and their students read through our Identity book over 6 weeks and it made a huge impact on helping the students better understand what identity means and how we all live from a sense of identity, whether true or false – and why identity in Christ is the only source of eternal hope and peace.
You can get your copy of the Identity book by John Fort at Amazon* or our ministry resource page at Bebroken.org/store.
More Resources:
7 Tips to Help You Address Sexual Issues with Your KidsHonest Talk book*Online Courses for FamiliesRelated Podcasts:
Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)God Made Boys and GirlsHow Identity Shapes Everything*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 06 Dec 2023 - 699 - The Journey to Stay (with Steve & Lisa Goldberg)
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Infidelity is devastating. For couples who have experienced this deep betrayal of trust, it can be hard to imagine that restoration is possible – and even more difficult to think that they could rebuild their marriage into something better than they ever had before. But this is the story of Steve and Lisa Goldberg’s marriage and ministry.
Steve and Lisa are the founders of Side by Side, a ministry to help couples navigate the “unexpected crash” of betrayal and how to restore and rebuild their marriage.
In today’s episode, Steve and Lisa share their own story of brokenness and healing and the key elements of restoration in their new book entitled The Journey to Stay. They offer a practical message of hope to couples facing the overwhelming difficulty of unfaithfulness.
To learn more about Steve and Lisa and their ministry, visitStaySidebySide.org.
More Resources:
The Journey to StayThe Journey to Stay Guide (free download)Building True Intimacy* by Drake & RaabsmithRelated Podcasts:
Navigating the Revelation of an Affair (Steve & Lisa)Conflict Management for Marriages Healing from BetrayalHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 29 Nov 2023 - 698 - Going Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Impacts Your Love and Sex Addiction
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Everyone listening to this podcast right now was once a child. Childhood is unavoidable on the journey to adulthood. But none of us got through our childhoods unscathed. And some of the residue of that continues to affect us now as adults.
Today we have back with us Dr. Eddie Capparucci to talk about his inner child therapy model and a new resource he has co-authored for women who struggle with love and sex addiction. Eddie’s model is based on the premise that we all have core emotional triggers that impact our inner child based on past wounds, and in order for us to heal and mature we must address these triggers by understanding our inner child and not simply ignoring our past.
In our conversation, Eddie defines the inner child model and highlights the 10 specific “inner children” for women to understand in order to heal and recover from love and sex addiction.
To learn more about Eddie and the inner child model, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com.
More Resources:
The Inner Child Recovery ProcessSheRecovery.com*90 Days to Wholeness*The Myth of Normal* by Gabor MateRelated Podcasts:
God's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual ShameThe Immanuel Approach in RecoveryTotal Freedom for Women Struggling with Porn*These are affiliate links. Be Broken may earn a commission on qualifying purchases.
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Wed, 22 Nov 2023 - 697 - Better Screen Time for You and Your Family
Screens are everywhere and, while they are not bad or wrong as a tool, the way we engage them and what we allow on them can be negative. So, how can we build better screen time for ourselves and our families?
Our guest today is Andrea Davis, the founder and CEO of Better Screen Time, which provides strategies and resources for families to think through how to engage technology and screens for better health and balance in life and relationships.
Andrea shares her own story as a parent of 5 kids and some of the challenges and victories they have experienced in working out these strategies in their family. She also shares why cell phone contracts rarely work and better strategies for creating a family tech plan to learn personal responsibility with technology.
To learn more about Andrea and the resources she provides, visitBetterScreenTime.com.
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Better Screen Time ResourcesOnline Courses for FamiliesHonest Talk -- The GameRelated Podcasts:
Brain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHelping Parents Teach Healthy Tech to KidsKeeping Kids Safe in a Digital World----------
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Wed, 15 Nov 2023 - 696 - Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and Emotion
Men, I’m really excited to bring you today’s program because Stephen and I are going to provide you with some VERY practical help for understanding how to navigate between logic and emotions – and why engaging emotions is essential for maturity.
Generally, the majority of men we work with in our ministry are very comfortable when communicating logic and solving problems, but very uncomfortable and unfamiliar with communicating emotion. This often results in them becoming stunted or stuck in their relational skills, especially in marriage.
Today, Stephen and I will share with you a story of one man’s journey to get unstuck when it comes to sharing his emotions and the 2-channel system he developed to help with that process. We are hopeful that this conversation will enlighten you and give you the confidence to work on becoming more skilled in emotional sharing and listening.
More Resources:
49 Days of Growth* by Stephen Cervantes40 Days of Training for Your SoulThe 40 Day Relationship Builder* by Stephen CervantesRelated Podcasts:
Why Don't I Connect Better?15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenGuy Thoughts on Emotional Awareness and Maturity----------
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Wed, 08 Nov 2023 - 695 - Self-Care and Rest for Wives Healing from Betrayal Trauma
For over 10 years we have helped wives heal from sexual betrayal trauma. One aspect of this healing process that simply should not be overlooked is the need for self-care and simply rest.
Today’s guest is Christy Jones Jackson. She is the founder and director of The Guest House Project, a non-profit ministry that helps women find hope after betrayal. Christy shares some of her own story and how vital it was that in the middle of her failing marriage due to betrayal a friend took her away for a weekend to pray with her, make her eat, give her gifts, read her Scripture, made her laugh, and reminded her who she was. It was a pivotal moment in her journey to healing and planted the seeds for what would eventually become The Guest House Project.
To learn more about Christy and The Guest House Project, visitTheGuestHouseProject.com.
More Resources:
Winter Respite Retreat Feb 22-25Wives Care Online GroupsBlog: Loving Our Bodies After TraumaRelated Podcasts:
Liminal Space: Helping Wives Transition from Betrayal to HopeHealing, One Brushstroke at a TimeEmbracing Your Worth After Sexual Betrayal----------
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Wed, 01 Nov 2023 - 694 - Brothers Helping Brothers to Finish Well
Proverbs 27:17 says “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” This idea of helping each other get sharper is so common in our work with men, especially in our Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshops. Guys form a bond that is deep and meaningful.
In this episode, Stephen and I talk about what can men hope to be saying 6-12 months after they have begun their honest journey toward greater integrity. These insights are coming directly from other men who have traveled this journey and what they discovered on the way. The hope is that these men can help other men to press on and finish well.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop10 Lessons for Overcoming Addiction (free download)40 Days of Growth*Related Podcasts:
Men Helping Men Grow and MatureInsights from a Brother in RecoveryFor Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------
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Wed, 25 Oct 2023 - 693 - How to Be at Peace in Aloneness
What is the difference between alone and lonely? Is there a healthy aspect to being alone and understanding who you are by yourself?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I dialogue about the topic of aloneness and why we need to be okay with ourselves – by ourselves. We also talk about the difference between aloneness as a healthy thing and isolation as an unhealthy thing.
We explore some questions that help us better understand how to embrace aloneness, such as:
What scares you most about being alone? What does it feel like in your body when you are alone?What could you do that would be healthy when you are alone?It’s okay to be by yourself. We hope this episode helps you navigate this topic with confidence and hope.
More Resources:
Abba's Child by Brennan ManningIdentity by John FortGrace-Based TransformationRelated Podcasts:
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Wed, 18 Oct 2023 - 692 - Addressing Childhood Trauma in Men
Childhood sexual abuse is not something that only happens to girls. Boys are victims, too. Most of these boys grow up to be men who find it terribly difficult to talk about these experiences.
In today’s episode, our guest is Dr. James Reeves, founding pastor of City on a Hill Church in Fort Worth, Texas, and the creator of the Fearless Series for women and men. Dr. Reeves shares how he got involved in helping abuse victims and why the church needs to be a safe place for such victims to heal and belong.
The Fearless Series for Men addresses childhood sexual, physical, and emotional abuse men have experienced and the hope possible for not just surviving trauma but finding true healing and fulfillment through the gospel of Jesus Christ.
To learn more about Dr. Reeves and the Fearless series, visitFearlessResources.org.
More Resources:
Facilitator Training for Fearless SeriesRefuge: How Hospital Church Ministry Can Change Your Church ForeverGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive for menRelated Podcasts:
Our Born Identity (with Randy & Cynthia Lail)Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamBecoming a Healing Church----------
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Wed, 11 Oct 2023 - 691 - Church Ambassador Network (with Daniel Degner)
Today’s episode may be the most unique program we’ve ever done on our podcast. We are diving into the space of politics and government, and how Christians can engage their local and state elected officials in gospel-centered ways.
Our guest is Daniel Degner. He is the director of the Church Ambassador Network for the Wisconsin Family Council. He is going to help us understand the fallacy of “separation of Church and State” and how we can do amazing ministry at the intersection of our Christian faith and government. This conversation is critical as we look forward to elections in 2024, not to promote a specific political party, but instead to educate and inspire you on how to build relationships with elected officials for the sake of the gospel and the good of your community. It makes a difference that your local government officials know who you are and what you believe about God’s design for sex and life.
If you would like more info about Daniel and how to get involved in the Church Ambassador Network, visitWIFamilyCouncil.org.
Or reach out to Daniel directly at ddegner@wifamilycouncil.org or (920) 204-4447 (he welcomes texts!).
More Resources:
The Good Citizen by Josh HershbergerThe Daniel ImpactRelated Podcasts:
The Shepherd King podcastCan the Church be a Safe Place for Healing and Restoration?----------
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Wed, 04 Oct 2023 - 690 - Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships
When many parents look across the cultural landscape they can become fearful, especially seeing the trajectory of sexual brokenness and confusion. But is there hope in this midst of the fear?
Our guest today, Barb Winters, believes there is. She is the founder of Hopeful Mom and author of the bookSexpectations: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Healthy Relationships.
In our conversation, she highlights key principles and practices from her book that will help parents (and any caregivers of young people) know how to talk about sexual topics and struggles with clarity, confidence, and hope.
Our ministry’s director of training, John Fort, even provided an endorsement of this book, saying, “Sexpectationsis a calming voice to parents in the midst of the chaos of trying to talk with older kids about sex… I appreciate how Barb goes beyond just ‘what to say to kids’ but includes work that we need to do as parents throughout this process. Sexpectations is an emotional rock for parents to stand on as they navigate these waters.”
For more information about Barb, her ministry, and the book, visitHopefulMom.net.
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Sexpectations bookFamily Care Learning LabsFamily Care Online CoursesRelated Podcasts:
God's Design for Emotional Growth and SexualityBrain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHow to Talk with Your Kids About Sex----------
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Wed, 27 Sep 2023 - 689 - The Gentle Path Project (with Austin Couture)
One of our core values in ministry is story. It is often the primary bridge that connects people adrift in brokenness and addiction to the community of recovery and transformation.
In this episode, our guest is Austin Couture, the founder of The Gentle Path Project, which is a place where people can share their stories and be encouraged in their journey to a better life. Austin shares his own story of recovery and growth -- and the challenges he faced and insights he has gained in hopes that it will encourage others to start, or continue, their own pursuit of freedom and joy.
To learn more about Austin and his ministry, visitGentlePathProject.com.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-day workshop for menIntegrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity online courseRelated Podcasts:
From Jew to Atheist to Sex Addict to Freedom in ChristUnderstanding 4 Key Roles in Your StoryOvercoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity----------
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Fri, 22 Sep 2023 - 688 - Emotional Safety in Marriage
When a husband betrays his wife’s trust through sexual acting out, this can cause feelings of deep insecurity to arise in a wife – even to the point of feeling unsafe.
In today’s episode, we will discuss the topic of emotional safety in marriage and why this is often befuddling to many husbands (and men in general) and offer a few ideas on how to create safer emotional spaces for the healing and restoration of marriages broken by sexual betrayal. (As a side note, this topic is helpful foranymarriage!)
This conversation was sparked by a conference Stephen went to by Focus on the Family. They built this topic around the book by authors Paul, Burbee, and Arnzen, entitledRestoring Hope: An Integrative Approach to Marital Therapy(link below).
More Resources:
Restoring Hope bookHope Restored Marriage IntensiveDoctorMarriage.orgRelated Podcasts:
The Need for Boundaries After BetrayalHelping Men Understand a Woman's Grief ProcessHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal----------
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Wed, 20 Sep 2023 - 687 - Grace-Based Transformation (Book Review)
I’m so excited about today’s program. I have written a new book that was released this month. It is entitledGrace-Based Transformation: The 3-Stage Journey to Wholeness in Christ.
In this episode, I share what Grace-Based Transformation is and why I wrote this book after 20 years of full-time ministry. It’s really the book I’ve always wanted to write.
We will explore what I call the Transformation Pathway and highlight the three key stages on it: Heal -> Grow -> Share. These form the primary indicators of a Christian’s progress.
So, if you would like greater freedom, deeper joy, and a more effective impact in your life, I invite you to listen in.
To get the book, simply go toAmazon.comor any other online book distributor.
More Resources:
Bebroken.orgGrace-Based RecoveryMade for PurityRelated Podcasts:
How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in ChristHow God Redeems Our Brokenness to Help OthersThe Journey of Transformation----------
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Wed, 13 Sep 2023 - 686 - Emotional Transformation Therapy for Betrayed Wives
Betrayal in marriage is a trauma. Many wives have struggled to find healing because the help they have received simply didn’t address the trauma.
Today’s guest is Laurie Bryson, a licensed professional counselor who specializes in betrayal trauma healing. She is also certified in Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT) which goes beyond simply “talk therapy” in order to help clients experience deep healing from trauma and other emotional wounds.
In our conversation, Laurie shares what ETT is and how it practically benefits her clients and additional ways to help betrayed wives discover breakthroughs that lead to deep and lasting healing.
To learn more about Laurie and her practice, visitBrysonCounseling.com.
More Resources:
Hope Rising ConferenceAffairRecovery.comWives Care Groups (online)Related Podcasts:
The Journey of Healing from Betrayal TraumaBetrayal Healing PhasesAffair Recovery Through a Trauma Lens----------
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Wed, 06 Sep 2023 - 685 - Making Sense of the Sexual Revolution
How did we get to where we are today when it comes to sexual brokenness, confusion, and outright rebellion against God’s design for sex?
In this episode, our guest is Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse, who is the founder of the Ruth Institute, an interfaith international coalition to defend the family and build a Civilization of Love.
Our conversation was inspired after I read Dr. Morse’s book,The Sexual State: How Elite Ideologies are Destroying Lives and Why the Church Was Right All Along. In this book, she provides a timeline that breaks down the sexual revolution into its component parts so that people can better understand how we have reached our current period and respond to it with grace and truth.
Dr. Morse shares the three big ideas of the sexual revolution:
- The Contraceptive Ideology – Society should do everything possible to separate sex and babies. The Divorce Ideology – Society should do everything possible to separate both sex and babies from marriage. The Gender Ideology – Men and women are completely interchangeable; the “idea” of self is more important than the body.
To learn more about Dr. Morse and her resources, visitRuthInstitute.org.
More Resources:
Family Defenders Flash DriveRuth Institute Resource CentersLove Thy Body by Nancy PearceyRelated Podcasts:
The Dr. J ShowExposing the Gender LieHow to Speak Unpopular Truth in Love----------
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Wed, 30 Aug 2023 - 684 - Helping Pastors Recover from Sexual Brokenness
Pastors are regular men in a position of great responsibility. They are not immune to sexual temptations. How can the church help pastors recover from sexual sin and strongholds?
In this episode, our guest is Robert Posner. Robert and his wife, Judy, are the founders of 2416 Ministries, a ministry based on Proverbs 24:16, which states, “Though a righteous man falls seven times, he will get up, but the wicked will stumble into ruin.” Robert shares his own story as a pastor who fell into sexual sin and his own journey of recovery and growth.
We also talk about some of the unique challenges that pastors face due to their often isolated and elevated position. And what pastors can do to guard themselves against sexual misconduct, heal from sexual brokenness, and enter safe places for help in breaking free from sexual struggles and strongholds.
To learn more about Robert and his ministry, visit2416ministries.org.
More Resources:
1-on-1 MentoringGateway to Freedom workshopThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in Church LeadersRelated Podcasts:
Becoming a Healing ChurchRestoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseA Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual Sin----------
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Wed, 23 Aug 2023 - 683 - Life Lessons from an Older Man
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Sometimes it takes a lifetime to gain the deepest riches of wisdom. And yet, in much of the Western world, the aged are considered useless and expendable.
In today’s episode, Stephen shares words of wisdom from an older friend who continues to be on a journey of learning and growth. He offers simple but deep insights into the struggle within, faith in God, the value of humility, the truth of identity, the true treasures of peace and joy, and a fresh desire to pursue a life of integrity and purpose.
No matter your age, this episode will give you encouragement, insight, and hope in your personal pursuit of a life well lived.
More Resources:
Grace-Based Transformation bookIntegrity Webinar for MenWhy Slow Growth is Better than Quick FixesRelated Podcasts:
The Heart Cry of an Old Saint: I Want to Be Clean!Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeSexual Healing and the Grace of God----------
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Wed, 16 Aug 2023 - 682 - Our Born Identity (with Randy & Cynthia Lail)
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Over the past 20 years, I have heard countless stories of sexual brokenness. Many of these individuals held these stories in secret for years, even decades. They all believed the lie that no one would love them if their secrets came out. But healing and discovering one’s true identity and worth only exist in the light.
In today’s bonus episode, we have Randy and Cynthia Lail here to share a very powerful story of abuse, addiction, satanic strongholds, infidelity, and the matchless power and grace of Jesus Christ.
If you think no one could understand your brokenness or that you would be utterly rejected if the truth came out, please listen to this episode. There is no one whose story is beyond the reach of God’s rescue and transforming power.
Learn more about Randy and Cynthia and get a copy of their book atOurBornIdentity.org.
More Resources:
Find a CounselorHelp for MenHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:
Breaking Free with Russell WillinghamThe Immanuel Approach in RecoverySexual Healing and the Grace of God----------
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Fri, 11 Aug 2023 - 681 - God's Design for Emotional Growth & Sexuality
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For parents today it is difficult and even scary raising children in our hyper-sexualized culture. And there can be many different ways to respond to these challenges and fears.
In today’s episode, John Fort will introduce our 30-week curriculum for families, entitledGod’s Design for Emotional Growth and Sexuality. John is our Director of Training and has developed many of our Family Care resources. This curriculum is designed for families with kids ages 5-18.
If you are a parent desiring to help your child navigate a world awash in sex, this episode will help you gain clarity and confidence.
To learn more about the God’s Design curriculum, visitBebroken.org/store.
More Resources:
God's Design curriculum outline Honest Talk bookCritical Conversations WebinarRelated Podcasts:
Brain Defense Digital Safety for KidsHow to Talk with Your Kids About SexGod Made Boys and Girls----------
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Wed, 09 Aug 2023 - 680 - Men Helping Men Grow and Mature
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We learn and grow best in community. This is why we encourage and enjoy feedback from men as they travel along in their transformation journey.
Today’s episode is a collection of honest thoughts and ideas and insights from men who are wanting to break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and live as the men God created them to be.
If you’re a man on a similar journey, we hope and trust that today’s episode will encourage and challenge you to keep pressing on in pursuit of greater integrity and emotional maturity.
More Resources:
Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Workshop for MenGrowth Map by Stephen CervantesFind a Men's GroupRelated Podcasts:
Why Don't Men Go Deeper?Guy Thoughts on Emotional AwarenessInsights from a Brother in Recovery----------
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Wed, 02 Aug 2023 - 678 - How to Live Deliberately
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Do you live your life with intentionality and purpose or merely as a reaction to your moods or circumstances? How does the answer to this question affect your pursuit of sexual integrity?
My guest today is Michael Warren. He is a land surveyor by trade but has written a book entitled Live Deliberately. In our conversation, we unpack some insights from the book that will help you address wounds and brokenness from your past and live the full, abundant life Jesus offers.
To learn more about Michael and get a copy of his book, visit MWarrenAuthor.com.
More Resources:
Going Deeper by Eddie CapparucciGrace-Based RecoveryFind a CounselorFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:
Connecting Theology to SexualityHow Does Faith Fit into Recovery?How Do You Know if You are Changing?----------
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Wed, 19 Jul 2023 - 677 - God's Grace for Women Struggling with Porn and Sexual Shame
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Women struggle with porn, too. This is not just a man’s problem. We have known this for quite a while but there are still far fewer resources and environments for women to get help than there are for men.
This is why I’m so glad to have Jessica Harris back on the program today. She has been a pioneer for women seeking safe places and help for breaking free from the stronghold of porn and lust. In our conversation, she shares a bit of her own story, where a woman must start their journey toward wholeness, and practical insights for discovering true fulfillment and freedom in the abundant grace of God.
For more information about Jessica and her resources, visitBeggarsDaughter.com.
More Resources:
Quenched by Jessica HarrisResources for Women Who Struggle with PornSheRecovery.comRelated Podcasts:
Total Freedom for Women Struggling with PornHope and Help for Women Struggling with Unwanted Sexual BehaviorsCan Women Struggle with Porn Too?----------
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Wed, 12 Jul 2023 - 676 - Exposing the Gender Lie (with Brandon Showalter)
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My guest today is Brandon Showalter. He is a journalist and podcaster with the Christian Post and has co-authored the excellent ebook, Exposing The Gender Lie, with Dr. Jeff Myers. In his role at the Christian Post, he has written extensively on topics of theological interest in the Church, including developments of the “gender identity” movement and transgender ideology.
In our conversation, we discuss how Brandon got into writing on this topic, some of the history and roots of the current transgender movement, the truth about real gender confusion, the war over language, and how Christians can respond to those struggling with the cultural narrative as well as true gender confusion.
To learn more about Brandon and to get a copy of his book, visit ChristianPost.com/ebook/gender-lie.
More Resources:
DeadNameDocumentary.comSummit.org/protectMinistry to Transgender IndividualsRelated Podcasts:
Embracing God's Image in GenderGeneration Indoctrination: Inside the Transgender BattleCan the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?----------
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Wed, 05 Jul 2023 - 675 - What to Do When Your Child "Comes Out"
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What do you do when your child says they are gay or is exploring a gay identity? How can you respond with grace and truth?
In this episode, we have Danisa Suarez back with us. She is a licensed counselor and sex therapist who has a passion for teaching and coaching others on God’s good design for sex. This includes helping parents navigate the difficulty of a child pursuing a gay identity.
If you, or a parent you know, is facing such a challenge, this episode will give you hope and practical ideas.
To learn more about Danisa and her counseling services, visit CCICounseling.com.
More Resources:
What Does the Bible Really Teach About Homosexuality?Embracing the JourneyThe Center for Faith, Sexuality, and GenderRelated Podcasts:
God Made Boys and GirlsExplaining God's Design for Sex to Your KidsEmbracing God's Image in Gender----------
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Wed, 28 Jun 2023 - 674 - Helping Men Understand a Woman's Grief Process
How can a man who has sexually betrayed his partner understand her grief process and why is this important for the potential restoration of the relationship?
Today’s guest is Karla Downing. Karla has been on the podcast multiple times and provides a wealth of wisdom and practical advice for couples navigating difficult challenges in their relationship. In this episode, she helps men understand the grief process of a woman healing from betrayal trauma by highlighting each stage:
DenialAngerBargainingDepressionAcceptanceHOPEMen, if you want to better love and serve your wife in her healing journey, this podcast will give you practical insights.
To learn more about Karla and her resources for couples, visitChangeMyRelationship.com.
More Resources:
Bebroken.org/menBebroken.org/wivesUntangling Emotions by Grove and SmithRelated Podcasts:
The Recovery Process for Couples4 Skills to Transform Your MarriageRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After Betrayal----------
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Wed, 21 Jun 2023 - 673 - Becoming a Healing Church
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Our guest today is Sam Black. Sam is the director of recovery education at CovenantEyes and the author of the new book,The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography and How to Fix It.
In our conversation, Sam shares who he wrote this book for (pastors and ministry leaders) and why he wrote it (to help them better understand why people get stuck, why they often stay stuck, and how the church holds the answers for freedom, not just for individuals but for families and leaders, too).
To learn more about Sam and get a copy of the book, visitTheHealingChurch.com.
For a FREE copy of the book, go tohttps://www.signupanywhere.com/signup/hrmupv0t(available to the first 50 people; US addresses only).
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The Victory AppSafe by Nick StumboMinistry to Transgender IndividualsRelated Podcasts:
How False Grace is Perpetuating Abuse in the ChurchReframing How the Church Views Sexual PurityCan the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?----------
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Wed, 14 Jun 2023 - 672 - Why Must I Learn Me?
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“A life unexamined is only half-lived.” -paraphrase of Socrates
We talk all the time in our ministry and on this podcast about men needing to get on a growth mission, especially as it pertains to emotional growth.
In today’s episode, Stephen and I get passionate about helping men grasp why it is important to understand yourself and how to learn yourself in a way that leads to greater peace, joy, and love.
If you feel stuck or confused about how you fit into God’s great design and plan, you will be encouraged by this episode. You are greatly loved and have a great purpose.
More Resources:
Growth Map by Stephen CervantesGateway to Freedom 3-day workshopUntangling Emotions by Groves and SmithRelated Podcasts:
15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature----------
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Wed, 07 Jun 2023 - 671 - Conflict Management in Marriages Healing from Betrayal
Conflict is inevitable in marriage. But often couples assume that all conflict is bad or wrong and believe the goal is to eliminate it altogether. But my guest today has a different approach when it comes to conflict in marriage.
His name is Andrew Arthur and he is a mediation specialist with both personal experience and professional expertise in addressing conflict in marriage. In this episode, Andrew helps us to normalize the reality of conflict, gives a simple definition of conflict, how to navigate the needs and interests of both parties in the conflict, and unpacks the 5 specific “conflict styles” and how they intersect in marriage.
If your marriage is struggling with conflict and how to resolve it in constructive ways, this conversation with Andrew will help.
To learn more about Andrew and the mediation services he offers, visitGenesisChristianMediation.com.
More Resources:
Find a CounselorPrepare-Enrich40 Days of OnenessRelated Podcasts:
I'd Rather We Fight than NotHelping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalThe Goal is Connecting----------
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Wed, 31 May 2023 - 670 - Protecting Your Child from Predators
Today’s subject matter is something we rarely like to talk about but is extremely necessary for parents considering the sexualized culture we live in. Our topic is protecting your child from predators.
Our guest is Dr. Beth Robinson, a licensed professional counselor, professor, and certified school counselor with over 25 years of experience in caring for traumatized children and educating parents on how to better protect their children from danger.
In our discussion, Dr. Beth helps parents deal with their fears around this topic, when and how to talk to their kids about sex and safety, how to choose a babysitter, what to do if parents think their child is a victim of sexual abuse, addressing technology, and more.
To learn more about Beth and the resources available to parents who want to better protect their kids, visit KidsCallMeDoc.com.
More Resources:
Protecting Your Child from Predators by Dr. Beth RobinsonThe Safe Touch Coloring BookCritical Conversations Webinar for ParentsRelated Podcasts:
Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital WorldGod Made Boys and GirlsFighting Fears of Talking to Your Kids About Sex----------
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Wed, 24 May 2023 - 669 - Why Don't I Connect Better?
A life of peace and joy and hope is intimately tied to one’s ability to connect well in relationships. And when you have experienced trauma or addiction or shame this skill can seem virtually impossible to imagine.
In today’s episode, Stephen brings a multitude of comments made by men who struggle to connect well in their relationships. We unpack these comments in hopes of helping you gain insight into your own connecting skills and make appropriate tweaks to improve.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days of Training for Your SoulRelated Podcasts:
15 Rules of Emotionally Detached MenWhy Men Struggle to LoveHow to Know Yourself to Grow and Mature----------
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Wed, 17 May 2023 - 668 - The Need for Boundaries After Betrayal
Boundaries are essential after betrayal, but few have any experience of knowing what boundaries to set and how to set them.
In this episode, Tammy Gustafson helps us navigate this delicate but necessary topic. Tammy is a licensed counselor who is passionate about helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, and betrayal.
Boundaries are more than just drawing lines and enforcing consequences when they are crossed. They are about safety, responsibility, self-care, and the building (or rebuilding) of healthy relationships.
To learn more about Tammy and her resources, visitBetrayalHealing.com.
More Resources:
Betrayal Healing CoursesWives Care GroupsFirst 7 Days for WivesRelated Podcasts:
The Why and How of Boundaries in a Recovering MarriageBoundaries for WivesMore Boundaries for Wives----------
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Wed, 10 May 2023 - 667 - The Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle
Addiction can be simply defined as a repeated cycle of unhealthy or harmful behaviors that gets worse over time. In order to break free from addiction, recovery must include understanding this cycle and how to respond differently to its triggers.
Today’s guest is Vern Tompke, a 30-year pastor, podcaster, and founder of Band of Brothers, a community of men helping men find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. Vern has developed what he calls the Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle as a tool for helping men understand their addictive cycle and how to respond more quickly when tempted to go down old paths of self-destructive behaviors.
To learn more about Vern and his resources, visitBandofBrothers.care or Vern's Podcasts.
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Finding Traction CourseGateway to Freedom Workshop for MenFind a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
Beating Porn Through All Ages and Stages of LifeExposing the True Impact of PornBreaking Free with Russell Willingham----------
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Wed, 03 May 2023 - 666 - How Do You Know if You are Changing?
There is an old saying used in Alcoholics Anonymous, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” Also, you may have heard of a simple statement to describe insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over, but expecting a different outcome.”
If you want to be free from destructive and unhealthy patterns in your life, change must happen. But how can you know if change is actually occurring?
In today’s episode, Stephen and I will unpack some core principles and practices that will indicate if true change is happening.
More Resources:
40 Days of Purity for MenUntangling EmotionsFind a GroupRelated Podcasts:
Addicted Thinking vs. Healthy ThinkingHow Do I Know He is Changing? For Men Who Want to Finish Strong----------
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Wed, 26 Apr 2023 - 665 - An Interview with Dr. Marriage
For 20 years our ministry has been helping men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors and pursue a life of integrity and purpose. And most of these men are married – all of whom need lots of growth in the area of emotional health and maturity.
Today, I get to interview Doctor Marriage. You have known him as my cohort and co-host, Stephen Cervantes. But he is a true expert on the topic of marriage and what it takes for husbands, especially, to revolutionize their marriage by focusing on emotional growth.
In this episode, we highlight three of Stephen’s workbook resources to help husbands grow emotionally:
49 Days of Growth: Growing in Emotional SkillsGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy40 Days to Oneness: Start Connecting with Your SpouseTo learn more about these resources and how to buy them, visit DoctorMarriage.org.
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Gateway to Freedom workshop for menWives Care GroupsHusbandMaterial.comRelated Podcasts:
About Your Emotional Connecting SkillsAre You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?What Can Stunt Your Emotional Growth Mission?----------
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Wed, 19 Apr 2023 - 664 - Health and Integrity in Leadership
Many Christian leaders struggle silently with various sexual temptations and sin. And too many never get the help they need to heal and grow in their personal sexual integrity.
Today our guest is Jorge Suarez, co-founder of CCI Counseling, a counseling ministry that provides therapy to couples as they overcome infidelity, sexual addiction, a lack of intimacy, betrayal trauma, and intimacy disorders. Jorge especially has a heart for leaders and helping them live out their God-given purpose.
In our conversation, we talk about the four key areas where leaders (and anyone, really) need health in order to thrive:
- EmotionalSpiritualRelationalSexual
If you are a leader or want to help Christian leaders in your life, this conversation will inspire and encourage you toward greater health and wholeness.
To connect with Jorge for further help, visit CCICounseling.com.
More Resources:
Broken Vessels: Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseGateway to Freedom 3-Day IntensiveThe Christian Response to Moral Failure in the ChurchRelated Podcasts:
Restoring Broken Pastors for Kingdom UseA Hopeful Response to Church Leaders Struggling with Sexual SinPastors on Porn----------
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Wed, 12 Apr 2023 - 663 - The Noble Marriage with Travis and Adelle
In the best of circumstances, marriage is hard work. But when a couple has histories of brokenness and unresolved pain, it’s even more challenging.
Today’s guests are Travis and Adelle Graham, founders of The Noble Marriage, a ministry dedicated to helping struggling marriages discover true intimacy.
Travis and Adelle share their broken pasts (even though raised in Christian homes) and how that affected their marriage; how it led them both to build false images about themselves and their relationship. Eventually, their masks were removed in favor of pursuing an authentic relationship with Christ and each other. This is their story and a message of hope for couples wondering if their struggling relationship can be redeemed.
To learn more about Travis and Adelle and their marriage resources, visitTheNobleMarriage.com.
More Resources:
Online Marriage AcademyGenesis Christian Mediation40 Days of Oneness by Stephen Cervantes (paid link)Related Podcasts:
The Recovery Process for CouplesGod, Sex, and Your MarriageRebuilding Your Marriage After Sexual Betrayal----------
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Tue, 04 Apr 2023 - 662 - From Jew to Atheist to Sex Addict to Freedom in Christ
We all have a story. And stories are one of the things we value greatly in our ministry. Why? Because it is through our stories that we connect and discover and learn.
Today’s guest is Neil Getzlow and he has quite a story to tell. He was raised in a Jewish home but eventually left his family tradition in preference of atheism. Along the way, he developed a porn and sex addiction, which made him miserable. Eventually, God chased him down and invited him to stop running and instead find rest and freedom in Christ.
Neil shares his experience of needing to learn how to be alone as a kid, how he was introduced to porn, the effect of his parent’s divorce, and how he came to believe that love and sex were basically the same things. He also shares the radical way in which God broke him out of his secret addiction and led him to a place of truth, grace, and hope.
To learn more about Neil and get his book, visitNeilGetzlow.com.
More Resources:
Unmasked (book)Unmasked Podcast with NeilBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted BehaviorsThe Importance of Whole Man RecoveryBecoming the Type of Man Who Doesn't Look at Porn----------
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Tue, 28 Mar 2023 - 661 - The Recovery Process for Couples
For couples who want to pursue reconciliation and restoration after sexual betrayal, what does the process of recovery look like?
Today’s guest is Cat Etherington, Director of Recovery at Naked Truth Project. She helps us understand the key principles and practices that allow for the best possible results for couples wanting to heal and grow after betrayal.
There is hope for recovery in your marriage.
To learn more about Cat and her work and resources, visithttp://NakedTruthProject.com.
Retreats by Naked Truth Project:
US Grief retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-retreat-TexasUS Couples retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/couples-retreat-texasAustralia Grief Retreat - https://www.nakedtruth.training/wholehearted-grief-retreat-AustraliaPrevious episode (#872) with Cat: The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma - https://youtu.be/WuUexC7Ucc8
More Resources:
DisclosureHope.comHelp for HusbandsHelp for WivesRelated Podcasts:
Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual BetrayalRebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalThe Goal is Connecting----------
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Tue, 21 Mar 2023 - 660 - For Men Who Want to Finish Strong!
A man recently shared, “I don’t want to live the next 20 years of my life the way I have lived the past 20 years.” This is a man who wants to get on a mission of growth and change.
In today’s episode, Stephen shares the journey of this man who wants to finish better than he started. We unpack many of the fundamental issues and principles that must be examined and worked on if long-term transformation is going to happen.
If you are a man who wants to finish life better than you started it, this episode will give you encouragement and insights to help you experience deep contentment and freedom.
More Resources:
40 Days of Training for Your SoulGateway to Freedom 3-Day WorkshopBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:
8 Comments from Men Struggling to Pursue IntegrityHow Long Does Change Take? Struggling to Come Clean and Find Rest----------
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Tue, 14 Mar 2023 - 659 - Back to the Basics of Sexual Integrity
This is our 900th episode! And it’s such a delight to release this milestone episode on my birthday. I hope it blesses you as much to listen as it did for me to record it.
Today’s episode is getting back to the basics of living a life of sexual integrity. Stephen Cervantes and I have been working with men desiring greater integrity for over 20 years, and we know that a life of integrity is not static. You must be on a daily growth mission to mature.
In our conversation, we share some of our personal growth tips and many other insights we have seen that help men get on a growth mission and discover their God-sized purpose in life.
A great next step in your pursuit of greater integrity is ourGateway to Freedom 3-day intensive workshop. This Friday-Sunday event will help you get down to the roots of your unwanted sexual behaviors and provide practical, powerful direction for living each day with integrity and purpose.
Learn more about Gateway to Freedom and how to register atBebroken.org/gtf.
More Resources:
FREE Integrity Webinar for Men40 Days of Purity for MenThe 4 Pillars of PurityRelated Podcasts:
Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Behaviors3 Levels of SobrietyInsights and Action Steps for Men----------
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Tue, 07 Mar 2023 - 658 - Helping Couples Walk the Path of Restoration After Sexual Betrayal
Sexual betrayal in marriage is more common than most of us would like to admit. But this terrible fracture is not incurable for couples who choose to go on a journey of healing and restoration.
Our guest today is Dr. Michael Sytsma, a licensed professional counselor, ordained minister, professor, and founder of Building Intimate Marriages.
In our conversation, Michael answers questions about the “why” of affairs, the impact of past trauma, the myth of affairs only occurring in “bad” marriages, how to know if restoration is possible, what is required for restoration, and more.
To learn more about Michael and Building Intimate Marriages, visit IntimateMarriage.org.
More Resources:
Secrets of Sex and Marriage (book)Gateway to Freedom for MenWives Care GroupsRelated Podcasts:
Rebuilding a Healthy Marriage After BetrayalAffair Recovery Through a Trauma LensHelping Husbands and Wives Go All In----------
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Tue, 28 Feb 2023 - 657 - Sex Ed Reclaimed with Kristen Miele
Sex education isn’t what it used to be. But the need for good, godly sex education is at an all-time high.
Our guest on today’s program is Kristen Miele. Kristen has been educating youth on the topic of sex for 12 years and is the founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, a training organization that specializes in God-honoring accessible sex ed for children 3 to 18 years old.
In our conversation, Kristen answers questions around the importance of sex education, what needs to be taught in sex ed, how to teach it, and various obstacles that confront parents and kids alike when learning God’s good design for sex.
To learn more about Kristen and their curriculum, visitSexEdReclaimed.com.
More Resources:
Critical Conversations Webinar for Parents7 Tips for Parents (free download)Honest Talk by John FortRelated Podcasts:
Helping Your Kids Apply the Gospel to Sex and SexualityExplaining God's Design for Sex to Your KidsHoly Sexuality with Dr. Juli Slattery----------
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Tue, 21 Feb 2023 - 656 - Men and Mental Health (since Covid)
Everyone has experienced various emotional and mental challenges over the last three years since the Covid-19 pandemic swept the globe. Many men have faced significant mental health struggles as a result.
In today’s bonus episode, our guest is Steve Dulaney. He is a counselor in the Pacific Northwest and the director of Prodigals International, a non-profit Christian ministry focused on helping men, women and families find healing, hope, and redemption from the impact of sexual brokenness.
Our conversation is focusing on all the effects of these mental health challenges men are facing today and what hope there is for better health and relationships.
To learn more about Prodigals and their resources, visitProdigalsInternational.org.
More Resources:
HigherGroundMen.com RestoringHeartsConference.org (for wives)Gateway to FreedomBebroken.org/menRelated Podcasts:
Understanding Your "Flipped-Out" BrainDo Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?Healing Your Brain----------
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Fri, 17 Feb 2023 - 655 - Moving from Being Fear-Driven to Love-Driven
Everyone has a core fear that gets woven into their soul from childhood. It tends to drive everything, from thoughts to behaviors.
But God created us in His image, and He is love. His Word tells us that “perfect (mature) love drives out fear.” (1 John 4:18) So, how can we move from being fear-driven to being love-driven?
In this episode, we unpack this question and provide insights and tips to understand your fears and respond to them in healthy, redemptive ways that benefit you and your relationships.
More Resources:
Untangling Emotions by Groves and SmithGrace-Based Recovery Find a CounselorRelated Podcasts:
Overcoming the Fear that Lives in My Head50 Things to Do When Your Core Fear Gets TriggeredFinding Rest by Speaking Out Your Deepest Fear----------
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